Struggles Of A Teen Mum | The Exchange 01

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  • Опубліковано 14 жов 2024
  • Welcome to the very first episode of The Exchange, where we find 3 different people with similar experiences to dive deep in conversation and give us a peep through the keyhole of life.
    In this episode, we have 3 teen mums telling us what it's like to be a young mother in Singapore.
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КОМЕНТАРІ • 82

  • @toestud3791
    @toestud3791 Рік тому +163

    so happy that the comment section is so positive! before anyone gets the idea to bash these girls for their actions, you need to remember that
    1) it took two to tango
    2) they were the parent who stayed behind. shame on the fathers of their children.

    • @Cheonging101
      @Cheonging101 6 місяців тому

      1) it took two to tango
      - Yes, we should also shame the fathers of their children.
      2) they were the parent who stayed behind. shame on the fathers of their children.
      - Sure, but it takes two to tango.

    • @zxldazxlda
      @zxldazxlda 4 місяці тому

      @@Cheonging101 How to prevent getting pregnant:
      1. Use a f***ing condom
      2. Abstinence !!!!!

  • @leavmealonee_
    @leavmealonee_ Рік тому +320

    personal opinion: xuan is really mature for a 17 year old, may her future shine bright despite her difficult past.

    • @xuan-ug7yn
      @xuan-ug7yn Рік тому +18

      Thankyou 🫶

    • @lvrd3w
      @lvrd3w Рік тому +6

      @@xuan-ug7yn I am so proud of you for being able to manage work,school and having a kid at the same time. I have a lot to learn from you! All the best for your N levels! (If you’re taking it next year, I’m not sure if this video was made recently) I would love to be friends with you.

    • @rosynara2615
      @rosynara2615 Рік тому +3

      I agree with you on this,the questions she probed made the content even btr

    • @xuan-ug7yn
      @xuan-ug7yn Рік тому +1

      Thank you all sm ❤️

    • @iniesta8298
      @iniesta8298 Рік тому +4

      ​@@xuan-ug7ynif you can see this, Mrs Lee wants to tell you that your future in front of you is bright, don't let this episode affect you and jiayou! If u still know who I am :)

  • @InfiniteStudy130
    @InfiniteStudy130 Рік тому +125

    I highly commend you girls for coming up and talking about this as it really requires courage to speak about such sensitive topics.♥♥

  • @LuluGen689
    @LuluGen689 Рік тому +342

    If a guy gets you pregnant and refuses to step up, contact his parents

    • @Smiling_Chessmantogether4ever
      @Smiling_Chessmantogether4ever Рік тому +10

      I agree 💯. Being a teen mum is stressful but also beautiful.

    • @battlestar8879
      @battlestar8879 Рік тому +5

      I agree too. Don't let that guy escape

    • @kuangw01
      @kuangw01 Рік тому +6

      Some guys can be rlly messed up

    • @QQ-eo4vr
      @QQ-eo4vr Рік тому +24

      I feel if the parents of the guys are good parents, their sons will not be going around making others' daughters pregnant, shitty parents have shitty sons. Most people dont really educate and discipline their sons. 🤷🏻‍♂️

    • @Vancitykal
      @Vancitykal Рік тому +9

      tbh no use sometimes.bc the boy parents will protect their son.mummy’s boy kinda ting

  • @UnknownNameUnknownNumber
    @UnknownNameUnknownNumber Рік тому +43

    Dayum I forgot that Ferrera used to be a regular extra in older T1T5 videos. Glad to see her still involved with the company.

  • @RObbLOhh
    @RObbLOhh 10 місяців тому +8

    honestly i love how they did not get an abortion, it takes two hands to clap, they took full responsibility of their actions and the child ended up making their lives better. absolutely heartwarming.

  • @whm5511
    @whm5511 11 місяців тому +18

    It's amazing. Despite all the anguish, they didn't abort. And all felt that their decisions were right. Teen mums should get maximum support. They are already in a tough spot.

  • @lynismelol
    @lynismelol Рік тому +39

    goodjob xuann !! continue to stay strong , ure so matured for a 17yr old ❤️❤️

  • @yxinz
    @yxinz Рік тому +26

    Kids support should be a thing. Guys should be held responsible to pay for kids support.

  • @pollyshy
    @pollyshy 11 місяців тому +6

    I found out I was pregnant when I was at my age of 29, but my mom still ask me, who ask u to not abort? I have serious anxiety illness, taking meds for almost 10 years. Even though I was already married with my husband, but we didn’t plan to have a baby due to my condition. This was a unplanned pregnancy, I have to stop my psychotic meds in order to prevent risk on my baby. It’s hard to control my emotion and anxiety. In the end I decided to keep my baby and I’m glad he is very healthy. Eventhou my condition isn’t the best for me to have a child, but I still r ry to think he is a god gift for me.

  • @yourst3ps1sterrr
    @yourst3ps1sterrr Рік тому +12

    these mums are so strong :) ! keep going ladies !

  • @lecherhao86
    @lecherhao86 11 місяців тому +20

    I am married, with two kids. I have a 6 years old daughter and i certainly dont want her to go down the path of being a teenage mum.
    The video is very honest but the comments here are way too positive already that i have to poke holes into the veil and remind everyone the reality. Dont forget that this video serves an educational purpose too for the youngs who are watching.
    Being a teenage mum is really hard work and involves plenty of sacrifice. Both young people may not be ready for a long term commitment, especially for parenthood. Ladies will always be at the losing end because the men can just donate his sperm and leave the relationship. But the pregnant ladies will have to go through the hardship of carrying the child for 9 months, and then having to raise the child by herself, and then even worse to change her life plan due to unfinished studies and changed lifestyle.
    As a father, i wouldn't be able to bear to see my child go through such change. It saddens me to even imagine that. It would be absolutely unfair for her. Eventually, as parents, we would have to accept our child and grandchild. But it would be a hard pill to swallow initially.
    Thus, really really urge the ladies to think thrice about giving your body to someone else at such a young age. I know its hard to inhibit oneself from tasting the forbidden fruits but the burden will always falls on you and not the men. And dont go for fuck boy. Pls. If the man is decent, he will respect you and not pressure you into having sex at such young age.

    • @ObnoxiousGracie
      @ObnoxiousGracie 11 місяців тому +1

      Finally someone saying my exact feeling. I too have a girl and cannot imagine her being a teenage mum. It would sadden me knowing she will need to struggle so much harder to keep the child. And even if she don't, it will probably scar her for life.. :(
      I do hope young girls and resist giving their body away so young..

  • @20pointer
    @20pointer Рік тому +61

    so brave to come out and do this to be honest :')

  • @averylovesburgers87
    @averylovesburgers87 7 місяців тому +1

    They stepped up and their kids will be grateful for that❤

  • @詩文-s3p
    @詩文-s3p Рік тому +16

    proud of these three mummies❤

  • @musicanywhere9805
    @musicanywhere9805 11 місяців тому +4

    That's why, old is gold. Teenagers often thinks that they know everything without having experience to the reality world.
    Am proud that they are able to pull it off and I understand it's a life at the end of the day but if you get to choose to provide a better environment and goods, education etc etc then why not? At the end of the day, you would think that you are in a happy place but what about the parents who are supposed to retire and having not to worry about children anymore or siblings who are yet to build a family of their own? It's true that parents would still accept it cus its their own blood after all but I'd call that a little selfish to make a decision and keep empty promises then drag the whole family into it, cus that's what a family does. We never leave anyone behind.
    So please think twice before doing it.

  • @b4byprncs
    @b4byprncs Рік тому +6

    my bestf is one strong girl

  • @spongebobpao97
    @spongebobpao97 Рік тому +10

    no shame, only respect!!! The internet supports u!!!!!!!

    • @lecherhao86
      @lecherhao86 11 місяців тому

      There's nothing shameful about being a single mum. But I don't support irresponsible decision making that eventually lead to this outcome. Young people should really consider alot before engaging in sex at such early age even when they use protection. Remember that condom and withdrawl are not 100% safe. Even calculating the ovulation cycle is not 100% safe as well as sperm can live in the women's reproductive system for up to 5 days.
      I know alot of us wanna taste the forbidden fruit. But the consequences can outweigh the pleasure. And pls don't go for fuck boys. If the man is decent, he will respect your body and not pressure you to have sex till both of you are financially and emotionally ready for a child.

  • @Ohiorizzzz69
    @Ohiorizzzz69 Рік тому +19

    Cried at last part 😢

    • @huailinlui3025
      @huailinlui3025 Рік тому

      Same it's just so happy to see them being independent as single mums

  • @Not_FatLam
    @Not_FatLam Рік тому +10

    Respect

  • @zhengqing1313
    @zhengqing1313 Рік тому +7

    jiayou xuann rlly proud of you.

  • @sheb852
    @sheb852 Рік тому +4

    I love women. I wish them all the best

  • @boohoooop
    @boohoooop Рік тому +23

    Wait actually I’m so confused what does she mean by 15-16 go poly 😅

    • @elisa5982
      @elisa5982 Місяць тому +1

      I think 16 years old, after O’s she went poly. So maybe turning 17, but still 16

  • @SARVINIAPSARGUNAMoe
    @SARVINIAPSARGUNAMoe 11 місяців тому +3

    They will be the best mom ❤

  • @M1tthra
    @M1tthra Рік тому +10

    They are soo brave

  • @hsakheelarkywe2083
    @hsakheelarkywe2083 Рік тому +2

    Love all 3 of u. Blessed is urs❤❤

  • @naomitok6944
    @naomitok6944 Рік тому +8

    im so proud of xuan

  • @MelanieTay
    @MelanieTay Рік тому +21

    15/16 is the age of secondary school students not poly actually.

    • @y-tr1dd
      @y-tr1dd Рік тому +1

      she malaysian prolly mls one

    • @MelanieTay
      @MelanieTay Рік тому +1

      @@y-tr1ddno she’s not 😅

    • @y-tr1dd
      @y-tr1dd Рік тому +2

      @@MelanieTay how do you know. her accent just says malaysian chinese

    • @MelanieTay
      @MelanieTay Рік тому +2

      @@y-tr1dd she study in the same poly as I am

    • @y-tr1dd
      @y-tr1dd Рік тому +2

      @@MelanieTay plz work on your grammar plz. anyways poly accept foreign students and you might never know if she was a pr who stayed / grew in mls and you can be 15/16 when you are in poly

  • @XecutionQ
    @XecutionQ 11 місяців тому +11

    I do hope Ferra wont be swayed with the cabin crew culture and the toxic environment. Be yourself and dont let those red flag pilots/cabin crew boys get into your pants.

  • @Viv_djesus
    @Viv_djesus Рік тому +3

    waittt fierra id a teen mom i didn’t know that

  • @zacklee22
    @zacklee22 Рік тому +3

    How are you ☺️ LF and I am Zack from Malaysia and I really like the video 📹 today and pls keep up the good work with the videos 📹

  • @marvinfoo9544
    @marvinfoo9544 5 місяців тому

    its good to have kids at a young age la, most ppl in other countries have kids at young age also, boost the GDP of singapore with more population, if not sg will be like japan with ageing population in the future, now the govt got the funds to feed its people and encourage more kids.

  • @Matcha.boba_lover
    @Matcha.boba_lover Рік тому +11

    Respect ❤❤❤

  • @kektalks
    @kektalks 11 місяців тому +2

    wow... not taking the abortion and taking responsibility. many people will say they will do this, but how many can actually do it like them.

  • @qilimercurial5116
    @qilimercurial5116 Рік тому +4

    All of them are mothers??

  • @5StackNinjaFam
    @5StackNinjaFam Рік тому +7

    is ferra the same one as the n4t1

    • @ruto7368
      @ruto7368 Рік тому +3

      Yeah I also thought that

    • @martelljohnson5200
      @martelljohnson5200 Рік тому +4

      Yes it is! Was wondering where she been at lol now we know

  • @dawntan8055
    @dawntan8055 11 місяців тому +1

    Please elaborate what does taking up responsibility mean ?

  • @hongyeh2686
    @hongyeh2686 Рік тому +3

    No sound

  • @AatiqaKhan109
    @AatiqaKhan109 Рік тому +9

    I can't hear anything

  • @libiskit
    @libiskit Рік тому +6

    can government pls give these courageous single parents a home instead of dinks?

  • @zsiti
    @zsiti Рік тому +3

    ❤❤❤❤🫂

  • @bijunwong276
    @bijunwong276 7 місяців тому +1

    How old you all girls

  • @sw123n7
    @sw123n7 11 місяців тому

    Is good that they know their mistake but move on

  • @charmainesings
    @charmainesings Рік тому +18

    I am really glad that these ladies decided to keep their babies despite it being difficult and knowing the difficulties that lie ahead. They are really strong! However, I’d also like to point out that abortion is murder whether you do it at the embryo stage or when it is 20 years old and no matter how you conceived him/her. Think about it- the baby did not do anything wrong to deserve to die. Moreover, it comes with a lot of emotional and psychological trauma for many women even after the abortion and many women are unable to live in peace and regret their decision for years to come.

  • @mpdmpd8118
    @mpdmpd8118 4 місяці тому

    great women right there...they just unlucky met the worst man

  • @steventay5834
    @steventay5834 2 місяці тому

    Very sad. Teens have sex before marriage. They should not have a boyfriend until at least 27!!

  • @steventay5834
    @steventay5834 Місяць тому

    Alamak. You girls are very bad. Your kids suffer!! So sad