MY DYSFUNCTIONAL FAM(ily)💔 MHZKIM & MYSHAKIA HAVE IT OUT!(don’t spoil your kids)

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  • Опубліковано 23 сер 2024
  • #mhzkim #dysfunctionalfamily #fyp

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  • @velmaminor557
    @velmaminor557 Рік тому +47

    Ms.Kim you right!!Young folks don’t like to listen.

  • @latashastevenson29
    @latashastevenson29 2 роки тому +74

    Valid points on both sides. However, I totally agree with your sister. When your daughter is out, due to safety reasons a cell phone is warranted.

    • @sherrod2282
      @sherrod2282 Рік тому +1

      You took the words out my mouth

    • @micahwallace38
      @micahwallace38 10 місяців тому

      She needs a phone is to much stuff happening

  • @Veronica.Johnson40
    @Veronica.Johnson40 Рік тому +29

    I have a 19 year old daughter in college and she pays her own bill, I wouldn't turn her phone off nor take her phone because of safety reasons. If she didn't answer the phone when you called, I think you could have seen why she didn't answer and just tell her when she's free just send a text or call saying your ok. And if Ms. Kim been spoiling her since she was a baby than she will probably continue to spoil her, which is a good thing I love to see my parents interact with their grandkids. I wish I still had my grandparents cause it's nothing like running to them.

  • @bryantjackson1136
    @bryantjackson1136 2 роки тому +50

    Two strong headed people. It's very okay to agree to disagree. Both have great points, with a different viewpoint on the situation, and that's okay!

  • @meli_mel2921
    @meli_mel2921 2 роки тому +104

    Parenting is not easy, I’m sure Mhz Kim has made plenty mistakes as a parent, we all do, but I’m with Kia on this one. As a grandma she should encourage her granddaughter to respect her momma.

    • @miznik79
      @miznik79 2 роки тому +8

      That's right! Also she just got on her son for pulling up and not coming in to speak to her and he's grown.

    • @user-zs7uo5bi7s
      @user-zs7uo5bi7s Рік тому

      MZKIM is on point sorry sis! She's old school and so am I !

    • @StanMo18
      @StanMo18 5 місяців тому

      Nobody’s perfect

  • @yvonnejackson3248
    @yvonnejackson3248 Рік тому +9

    I agree with Ms Kim saying discipline starts when the children are young.

  • @thegiftofgabbpodcast5262
    @thegiftofgabbpodcast5262 Рік тому +30

    Calling your mother girl is out of line 😳🤦🏾‍♀️

  • @brendafraser2512
    @brendafraser2512 2 роки тому +14

    Don't start nothing you can't finish I agree with Ms Kim

  • @shanneca76
    @shanneca76 2 роки тому +58

    If she paid her own bill you wrong sis..

  • @greatwomenoffaithoutreach3506
    @greatwomenoffaithoutreach3506 Рік тому +20

    I'm with BIG MOMMA PERIOD.

  • @zetalady04
    @zetalady04 2 роки тому +20

    I think both of you are right. It's ok too correct something. She will be 18 soon, it's a reality check when you become a adult.
    Ms Kim is right too she should have been taught responsibility earlier and with such a drastic change for your daughter you will get some pull back from her because she's not use to it.. parenthood is hard and we learn as we go.

  • @blackford5439
    @blackford5439 2 роки тому +24

    Either way, at the end of the day we sometimes, give them kids too damn much and they become ungrateful🙄!

  • @zenobiavictoria9047
    @zenobiavictoria9047 Рік тому +7

    When mom's be making them faces 😅😅 gotta love her

  • @reachfothesky
    @reachfothesky Рік тому +5

    Grandma, is Absolutely Right and for you the young mother take all the help you can GET, Grandma won't be here for Ever and yall will miss her Wisdom.

  • @Equandra123
    @Equandra123 2 роки тому +13

    I agree that you should parent the way you want to. I agree that children need discipline. Being 16 years old is a critical age. A lot of behaviors that children pick up come from the people she is around, parents included. However, I don't believe in starting a habit, and then taking it away when angry about something the child has done because that's not right. She should have boundaries and every adult needs to be on the same page. If you are going to parent in the particular way you parent, then do that, but at the same time don't flip flop. It can't be okay one day, and then not okay another day. Stay consistent across the board. Teenagers are good at playing both sides too, so be careful.

  • @QLee1v1
    @QLee1v1 Рік тому +13

    I swear i lived this exact situation . Sholl shared with my mom. And while grandmother has her rights I definitely felt like my parental rights were challenged on many occasions so I get both sides.

  • @sambrown9419
    @sambrown9419 2 роки тому +18

    I like this episode! Real and Raw

  • @natalielmr
    @natalielmr Рік тому +10

    Family drama and dysfunction is very real- I can totally relate!
    However, from what I gathered just by listening, it seems as if everyone wants to talk over each other and be heard, but no one wants to take the time and listen to one another.
    Everyone wants to be right in their positions, but no one wants to take responsibility for the outcome of the family dysfunction. I did hear someone in the video taking partial ownership, which, I think is a good start.
    However, I think that the healing process (if that’s the objective here), begins with intentionally listening to each other and allowing one another to express themselves without any interruptions (whether if you agree or disagree with the other’s view point).
    I think all the hollering and screaming at each other only creates more tension and confusion, and in the end you’re left feeling even more angry with each other and without a resolution.
    That’s just my take. 🙂

    • @arturoacosta6583
      @arturoacosta6583 Рік тому

      You made a great observation,however somethings are easier said than done.In general all familys have their drama and issues,it's a fact of life.......

  • @fammoentertainment8478
    @fammoentertainment8478 2 роки тому +9

    Mrs Kim gave you that look😂😂😂

  • @TheRealDennisFamilyTV
    @TheRealDennisFamilyTV Рік тому +11

    I agree with MHz Kim. You have to nip the disrespect & bullshit as soon as it start. Hell before it start. Y’all new parents are trying to be your kids best friend. Ts crazy 😂

  • @tallfree3816
    @tallfree3816 Рік тому +4

    Good points on both sides; a child should always answer the phone when their parent is calling, that is if the child is still living with said parent, otherwise it's no big deal.
    Ms. Kim is right; when it comes to teaching children certain things, it should be done at a young age. Children will eventually learn things as they grow, but these certain things learned at a young age will stick with them, and it's something they won't forget.

  • @MontManii
    @MontManii Рік тому +3

    Miss kim is RIGHT … can’t just wait until they get up in age and now all of a sudden u don’t want her to have certain stuff or for them to not spoil her nomore … telling someone yes for 17 years then & then when they finna hit 18 now u don’t want them to do stuff for her now, it’s not that easy so yes miss kim is right .

  • @sambrown9419
    @sambrown9419 2 роки тому +19

    I wouldn’t care who paid the bill! If you disrespect me it’s going off

    • @miznik79
      @miznik79 2 роки тому

      Right... I punish as I see fit.

  • @3pinkfeet
    @3pinkfeet 2 роки тому +38

    I totally agree with you. However, your sisters point about children your daughters age needing a cell phone when they leave the house is so important. The world is so dangerous. My friend would take her sons phone as soon as he stepped in the house when he was on punishment. The first child is always the test. Parenting is always changing and evolving. You’re doing a great job💕

    • @estergreen2452
      @estergreen2452 Рік тому +2

      If she’s on punishment she shouldn’t be leaving home without her parents anyway unless she’s at work or school

    • @ezelgrier5971
      @ezelgrier5971 Рік тому +1

      @@estergreen2452 your right beautiful 😍

  • @jacobmsp2311
    @jacobmsp2311 2 роки тому +5

    I respect and I believe this grandma words I respect my mom and my grandma 👵 💯💯

  • @aberdeenred47
    @aberdeenred47 Рік тому +5

    First the grandmother needs a real vacation from all of them

  • @leeho9897
    @leeho9897 Рік тому +4

    Mz Kim right about the phone bill

  • @Kellydntfwy
    @Kellydntfwy 2 роки тому +112

    You take disrespect to serious, i’m on ms kim side. You don’t cut off your daughter phone because she didn’t answer it. out all the things you can do you do that? and her not answering the phone isn’t disrespectful. it’s litterly her just not wanna to talk to you. And you see why right here

    • @jeriece8024
      @jeriece8024 2 роки тому +29

      U sound like a teenager. I may be wrong. But if her mom calls her, she needs to answer the phone. These kids have their phone in their hands 24/7, so I know she sees her mom calling her. Ain't no I don't wanna talk to u when it comes to a parent

    • @trynecehamilton9129
      @trynecehamilton9129 2 роки тому +13

      @@jeriece8024 regardless if that’s her parent if she don’t wanna talk to someone she don’t have to lol? Don’t matter what title the person has😭😭she still has the right to be by herself and choose peace as she clearly don’t get it from her mama

    • @miliaelainejones2421
      @miliaelainejones2421 Рік тому +10

      @@trynecehamilton9129 You see the world from an odd angle if she is taking care of her regardless of who pay the phone she need to pay her own phone

    • @Beautiful_Mess
      @Beautiful_Mess Рік тому +15

      Nope. My teenager is 16. She better answer that iPhone every single time. When kids don’t answer, we automatically think they’re dead in a ditch somewhere. That’s just what parents do - we worry. We have to know you’re okay, period, all the time.

    • @Beautiful_Mess
      @Beautiful_Mess Рік тому +4

      @@trynecehamilton9129 It’s not about “peace”. You are completely missing the point.

  • @ReReBaby143
    @ReReBaby143 Рік тому +5

    They disrespect tf out this lady in her own house. They would have been out my sh1t

  • @shanneca76
    @shanneca76 2 роки тому +20

    If kids are disrespectful you definitely have to cut them off and make them feel that pressure… make her pay all her own bills…

  • @mariahlatrice1066
    @mariahlatrice1066 2 роки тому +10

    Granny don’t play about her grandkids

  • @saeedathompkins4572
    @saeedathompkins4572 2 роки тому +3

    Her favorite line is girl ctfu I'm hollering 🤣

  • @kimjordan1516
    @kimjordan1516 Рік тому +5

    You can’t wait until the child gets 16 years!

  • @carolynda537
    @carolynda537 9 місяців тому +2

    That girl is going back and forth with her Mother, and she wonders why her child is disrespectful towards her. Wow. The apple doesn't fall far from the tree.

  • @annettejanai7383
    @annettejanai7383 2 роки тому +7

    As parents we always see things differently from Grandparents and Aunties/ Uncle's. We are the disciplinarian and "supposed " to let them get away with pure murder!🤣🤣

  • @miznik79
    @miznik79 2 роки тому +12

    Well it's never ok to correct a parent in front of others. NOBODY should go against what the parents says and if you're not working with the parents you're working against them. Just because you're accustomed to doing something doesn't mean it's right. I would've left and knew everyone's position and I would visit, but it wouldn't be no keeping of my other kids. I only like my children to stay with ppl who rear and raise like I do because it's all going to fall on the parents. You do what's best for your household. You have more children coming up.

  • @Im_So_Atlanta
    @Im_So_Atlanta Рік тому +7

    I was doing my grandmother duties 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

  • @jeriece8024
    @jeriece8024 2 роки тому +23

    I'm with you on this one Myshakia. It's never too late for you to correct YOUR CHILD. My mom tries to do the same thing with my 14yr old & it gets under my skin. That is your child, you parent how you want to & she should encourage her to listen to you not go against you. My mom tries to get my dad to agree wirh her when she does this, & he politely says that's her child, not yours
    & another thing i don't care if she did pay her own bill, if she's still a minor under your roof & direcpecting you, I would have cut it off too

    • @miznik79
      @miznik79 2 роки тому +1

      Right and she's blaming Myshakia. That's why everyone should go along with the parents.

    • @elishajackman7613
      @elishajackman7613 Рік тому

      @mydysfunctionalfamily I agree with this comment

  • @omiedadoll
    @omiedadoll 2 роки тому +9

    I agree wit ms.Kim on this one

  • @jb44234
    @jb44234 2 роки тому +5

    FAVORITE family y'all just real

  • @elainamarialawrence2776
    @elainamarialawrence2776 9 місяців тому

    No, one is listening to each other. You have to start when they are young but learning is FOREVER !!!! ❤ This family.

  • @malissalee4594
    @malissalee4594 Рік тому +2

    Lawd!!! They're gonna give Mz Kim a heart attack 😮 She be screaming from deep DOOOOWWWNNN in her gut 😂😂😂😂

  • @chineseallison6306
    @chineseallison6306 Рік тому +2

    As young parents/ people we change but once we change don't get mad because others don't follow our lead. Continue to be the growing parent/ person and doing what needs to be done. She's 18 she's grown now... let it go if they want to pay her bill so be it. Your job is to give words of love and wisdom. When they fall we need to truly be there with ready hearts of love. Don't beat them up. Remember our kids didn't do this to themselves, WE DID and now blame them. This is when you raise your child according to what YOU need or needed not what they will need to make in this cruel world. NO RIGHT OR WRONG its call LIFE break the pattern of destruction. What we thought or did right at the time is now wrong... and what we think or do is wrong sometimes turn out to be Right.

  • @debrahorne2462
    @debrahorne2462 Рік тому +9

    "Bend the sappling while it's young"..is so very true!! Kym and I are from the same generation!!!.. I am the same with my Grandchildren!! Please listen to Kym guys!! We have been there and done that. With age comes wisdom and it's our job to spread that wisdom to the younger generation!! It's all LOVE. We don't want you all to make the same mistakes we may have made!!❤❤❤❤❤

  • @italkmoneynunu
    @italkmoneynunu Рік тому +5

    Don’t ever cut her phone off .. what if she needs it for emergency ?

  • @Beautiful_Mess
    @Beautiful_Mess Рік тому +7

    I’m on MhzKim side about the bill. She pays her bill, don’t turn the phone off. However, I understand you being upset she didn’t answer. It appears as if your daughter is a good kid, she’s not out doing god knows what. I would stress to her how we as moms worry, when we can’t get ahold of them. This worlds gone crazy, she needs her phone.

  • @fazedogs4125
    @fazedogs4125 Рік тому +2

    I agree with both sides they all have valid points the problem is nobody is listening to each other everyone is talking over each other and speaking from a parent point of view I have a 16-year-old it’s never too late to correct problems if safety is a concern give the phone when she needs it and take it back our children have to listen to someone because this world is not easy and they will not sugarcoat anything for them or baby them everybody have valid points especially with all the crazy stuff that’s going around but you have to learn to listen to each other and not talk over each other because that’s where the anger starts now I have eight children adopted 6 and I was going through the same problem you can see what you have done wrong but it’s never too late because in the end everything that I went through I learned now that it was a reason I went through it at that time I didn’t understand but now I get it I had to get strict on my oldest which will be 17 in January just for him to come in tell me now I understand it takes a village to raise a child but you can’t go against each other because she’s gonna feel as if she can go to the other one if one makes a mistake or if one is wrong I love this family ❤❤❤❤

  • @ladyindaroom
    @ladyindaroom Рік тому +2

    Ms. Kim is right, can’t stop something with a child at 16, it should have been nipped in the bud at 5-6 years old.

  • @KingGuyton
    @KingGuyton 10 місяців тому +1

    8:53 the side eye 😂😂😂😂

  • @jacquelinegarvin4520
    @jacquelinegarvin4520 Рік тому +4

    Why does she keep letting them in her house? I'm sorry I couldn't do it. Why do they enjoy upsetting their mom so much?

  • @MightyOne-uh5xn
    @MightyOne-uh5xn Рік тому +2

    Grandmotherly Duties🤣

  • @sweetiecamp4303
    @sweetiecamp4303 Рік тому +1

    I can't pay attention to the discussion because I'm so distracted by the one eating as Mz Kim shaking hair all over the place 🤣🤣🤣 it must be some good food js

  • @theylovecarrie
    @theylovecarrie 2 роки тому +6

    I think you should keep her phone on and take it when she comes home from school and other places she’s supposed to be like at work.

  • @irvenaapplewhite5547
    @irvenaapplewhite5547 2 роки тому +7

    Both of y'all have valet point bc I'm a mother / nana see from both ways

  • @KeepPurpose
    @KeepPurpose 2 роки тому +8

    Parents don’t like to take accountability either , SHES still yours at 18.. at the end of the day your daughter will never want relations with you! I’m 22 and i don’t know my routes to my city either 😂 mother’s are just something else when it comes to daughters. What’s wrong with her thinking she’s the favorite? 😂 how that make a 17 year old fcked up? Wow.

  • @teresaevans100
    @teresaevans100 2 роки тому +3

    Lol that’s crazy how that girl right there look like Juan

  • @tiffanymae4290
    @tiffanymae4290 5 місяців тому

    I agree with MHz Kim on this one . If she is paying her own bill you don’t shut it off esp with the world like it is. Women especially need a way of getting help if needed.

  • @thelmapatrick7071
    @thelmapatrick7071 Рік тому +2

    I agree with grandma stop them with. They young you can’t stop them when they old . I don’t like disrespectful people ❤

  • @MyDysfunctionalFamilyTasha
    @MyDysfunctionalFamilyTasha 2 роки тому +5

    I think all yall right but all yall need to sit and talk to her together and get her to understand what yall gone deal wit and what not but when a child is spoiled and at her age she already has her mind the way she wants it but it up to yall to show her what it is and what it aint🤷🏾‍♀️ but she do need her phone lena

  • @ninosimone
    @ninosimone 2 роки тому +10

    I’m surprise her hair didn’t fall off her head 😳

  • @pamelamarsh8143
    @pamelamarsh8143 Рік тому +5

    I Was Not Allow to go Back and Forth with my Parents Especially my Mother.I really don’t feel like getting in details how I really feel about this Situation because I’m a Parent as well. I do know Folks need to learn to talk without Yelling so much. Talk and Listen

  • @ursulagrinage3246
    @ursulagrinage3246 2 роки тому +3

    MHZKIM needs to understand this is is not back in the dayz, this is a whole new era generation when it comes too disciplining a child, why back then was easier, now you have to be more careful how you discipline a child, because these the system wants to get involved,

  • @bernadettehowell5757
    @bernadettehowell5757 Рік тому +1

    It's never too late to apologize to your mother especially if your mother paying stuff for you that's how you get your stuff back

  • @LOVE-N-vibes
    @LOVE-N-vibes Рік тому +3

    Ms Kim is right. This should have started when she was younger,but Ms Kim is wrong with you can’t change now. It’s just going to be harder for you as her parents. In my opinion.

  • @yvonnejackson3248
    @yvonnejackson3248 Рік тому +1

    About cutting off your daughter's phone bc she don't answer it...I can't say you are right or wrong about that. I have 2 daughters and sometimes they can make me feel some kinda way by the way they treat me. However, if you daughter is 18 and paying her own bill...I think you were wrong to cut her phone off. You want her to be responsible . And she's being responsible...cutting off your daughter's phone was disrespectful to her as a responsible young woman. You must put yourself in her place to fully understand....love y'all💖I believe it will all work out💖💖🙏🙏

  • @estergreen2452
    @estergreen2452 Рік тому +4

    You are the parent and if she been disrespectful you have every right to discipline her. All the yelling back and forth isn’t necessary tho

  • @troyanderson57
    @troyanderson57 2 роки тому +6

    Why would it be to late to correct the issue? You’re the parent you make the rules no matter who agree THATS NOT THEIR CHILD!

  • @edrickrouse118
    @edrickrouse118 2 роки тому +4

    I agree with mzkim! You should of nipped in the bud at first don’t wait until she’s about to be a young adult an discipline or make her respect you . But I understand what you saying , being a young mother our parents try over step they boundarie when it comes to raising our kids .

  • @minniegaines1049
    @minniegaines1049 Рік тому +3

    This world is not safe I would never cut my daughters phone off that’s crazy 👎

  • @renitabragg9108
    @renitabragg9108 Рік тому

    My son upsets me too when he doesn't answer my phone call.I wouldn't cut the phone off though because you never know if he needs it for emergency. It's more for his safety but I understand

  • @tamikiashelton1446
    @tamikiashelton1446 Рік тому

    Yes every parent raise there kids different it's about respect

  • @jaiMillions2
    @jaiMillions2 7 місяців тому

    😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 look at juan in the back

  • @keeppushin2697
    @keeppushin2697 Рік тому +1

    It might not be to late but it will
    Be dam hard at 17 it’s goin be hard to change wat y’all accepted this whole time

  • @LavarLorado
    @LavarLorado 8 місяців тому

    IS THAT JUAN IN THE BACK???

  • @sabrinawilcher6902
    @sabrinawilcher6902 Рік тому +1

    Your child do your parenting ❤️❤️❤️❤️🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

  • @alo6994
    @alo6994 11 місяців тому

    Grandparents are always gonna take up for their grandkids when we couldn’t get away with nothing. They Don’t have to be the parent. It is what it is

  • @donnaharmon3036
    @donnaharmon3036 2 роки тому +5

    You both have good points 👉

  • @donnaharmon3036
    @donnaharmon3036 2 роки тому +2

    Love your family

  • @jasonn5214
    @jasonn5214 Рік тому

    Mom's don't play that ...lmao

  • @guitarplayerdre
    @guitarplayerdre 2 роки тому +3

    Is that Juan mom behind Kim?

  • @tonyascott2439
    @tonyascott2439 2 роки тому +1

    New Subscriber From Vegas I saw your live on TikTok .

  • @melyme1409
    @melyme1409 Рік тому

    When she look at you @ 1:58😂

  • @rosalynsylvester791
    @rosalynsylvester791 Рік тому

    I'm right with Miss Kim on that what you got to start from the beginning

  • @meccabender6000
    @meccabender6000 Рік тому +1

    Its never too late

  • @angienixon715
    @angienixon715 3 місяці тому

    I don't think phone shouldn't be cut off because so much going on in the world today children need keep touch with your parents

  • @kenzianaaa
    @kenzianaaa 2 роки тому +5

    ms kim is righttt ngl

  • @lilalove3637
    @lilalove3637 Рік тому

    Love your family ❤

  • @marv8985
    @marv8985 Рік тому +2

    Why get mad because she thinks she the favorite.. Man you can’t tell me nothing about me running around my family saying I’m the favorite

  • @rayonnaburch2375
    @rayonnaburch2375 Рік тому

    You did right cut it off if she grown enough to feel like she don’t wanna answer the one who pay the cost to be her boss then be grown enough to pay your own bill

    • @Ttbeballin24
      @Ttbeballin24 4 місяці тому

      Nah if she paid her bills she should not cut it off 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️ you mothers with your daughters be on something different

  • @orlandeuce6567
    @orlandeuce6567 2 роки тому +3

    DAMN

  • @dllewis6453
    @dllewis6453 Рік тому +2

    You may take the advice with a grain of salt. And I know that some black folks don't take that into consideration. However in the end, you are Mom and that's it. It doesn't matter what anyone says. You are ultimately responsible for that child.

  • @lovinjahqueen
    @lovinjahqueen Рік тому +1

    Wow! This is a lesson ❤

  • @sambrown9419
    @sambrown9419 2 роки тому +2

    I agree with you Shakia

  • @sashawitwicky
    @sashawitwicky Рік тому +1

    just not sure what hollering is going to do….this conversation was handled beautifully by you. you seemed to stay under control.

  • @denisemitchell5308
    @denisemitchell5308 Рік тому +1

    In Bible it says bend the sap while there young and when they get older they will not depart.

  • @gregorycobb650
    @gregorycobb650 Рік тому

    It’s never To late…. PIVOT is what all have to do. Number one rule. Your child your RULES!! This grandma is out of pocket . I’m a parent and I don’t care how the bill is paid I’ll shut that mess downPERIOD!!

  • @traceyhuggins5478
    @traceyhuggins5478 2 роки тому +2

    Both are right! You both have to be on the same page for discipline!

  • @melvinasmiley5689
    @melvinasmiley5689 11 місяців тому

    I luv Ms. Kim,❤ ❤️ ❤

  • @anitameeks8840
    @anitameeks8840 7 місяців тому +1

    I'm on Ms Kim side y'all young parents need to take responsibility for y'all children they are disrespectful. and grow and arguing with your mom you wrong respect your mom because Ms Kim is right

  • @renettagriffin8240
    @renettagriffin8240 2 роки тому

    i love yall❤❤❤especially Ms Kim