6 Tricks to Stay CALM During a CONFRONTATION! (Don't Embarrass Yourself)
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Your ability to stay calm and think clearly during an argument, disagreement, or confrontation is critical to kicking life’s ass. In this video men’s style, grooming, fitness and lifestyle expert, Aaron Marino of IAmAlphaM, AaronMarino, Pete & Pedro , and Ollie says people will push your buttons, but you need to calmly control the situation. It all comes down to you handling and managing your emotions.
How to Remain Chill When Situations Get Heated
1. Don’t raise your voice - take a few deep breaths instead
2. Fight fair - no matter how much you want to bring up the juicy morsel of destruction
3. Defend yourself like a gentleman - don’t let yourself get pushed around by embracing your inner badass
4. Think before you speak - have tact
5. Never ask someone why they are freaking out
6. Look for a win-win - it’s not an all or nothing situation (listen + think + speak)
** Bonus tip - know when to walk away
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I've learnt this before and this might help:
"When you're wrong, admit it
When you're right, be quiet"
By being quiet do you mean by rubbing it in people’s face?
Johnny Calliber Not really effective tho, is it? Sometimes you just have to get something off your heart
Unless you’re playing a video game 😂
Yes
That's what I'm doing...a few people understand that that's it real alpha behaviour and real Mans attitude! That's quite unfortunat but when somebody understands that it's the biggest pleasure of all!
Especially when it's a girl! Cheers my friend tho for getting the things how u should take💪❤
Bro. Those are some shitty tips
*Calmness emanates power, walk slowly talk slowly act slowly.*
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I live in Japan and believe it or not this is a REAL THING here. One time some guy stole my housemate's (she's Japanese) underwear. I had to literally sit him down privately and talk to him about it. In the end he apologized and he mostly just kept his head down and was really embarrassed.
1. Don’t give what they want (a reaction)
2. Utilize the power of walking away
3. Remember everything they said to you (names, threats, admissions of feelings)
4. Decide next course of action in relationship (whether distance, address miscommunication, or ghost forever) on your own after the fact.
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When you realize that confrontations are inevitable, you can expect them and learn to stay calm.
Mindprovement it’s honestly a great to skill to have glad I’m learning this young thanks to alpha
Funny you say inevitable. Hehe I am INEVITABLE
Confrontation isn't inevitable, Thanos is...
*Less you argue with people - the more power you attain*
Never showcase your emotions, it gives you a lot of influence and stability, people like to follow those kind of leaders.
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Instead of seeing it as the other person having a problem with you, see it as the other person is trying to gain power over you. This gives you the opportunity to step back, remain calm, and react appropriately.
would make me super aggressive.
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I'm 16 and ive watched about 85% of your videos for the past 2 years, you have helped me so much.
It’s amazing you’re working towards being a great man, I’m proud you’re working on yourself so young
When im arguing, I always think in myself: "They are trying to bury me, but im the seed." And that really does help me to finish argument in good way. Thanks for this, Alpha!
1)Don't raise your voice(focus on your breath.
2)fight fair.
3)defence like a gentleman.
4) Stay calm and social tact.
5) Don't ask people why they are freaking out.
6)Look for a win win.listen,think speak.
7)Know when to walk away
I stay calm by realizing that we are all connected and that we all have emotions. I stay calm by realizing that the fight or flight is response is just a mechanism hardwired into our bodies in order to protect ourselves. The end goal is really to make sure you don’t get pummeled.
I needed this video! Now I know what to do when I get confronted. Thanks Alpha m. !!!
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Thank you for your advice it really changed me
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123 people were so blind with rage they hit the wrong button.
No lie, I know you get lots of this but you help change my life in a very positive way. My insecurities takes control but Alpha you always put that perspective to give me the confidence to keep moving forward. Love what you do brother, thank you for taking the time to help ppl like me to continue moving forward and value the life we have in front of us.
I am also having some anger management issues , I'll try these tips and thank you for sharing these tips 😊
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This is pure Italian Gentleman code here. We already get mad at just about everything that we face through are day. Alpha M is here to help
Trick # 1 Don’t raise your voice
Trick # 2 remember to fight fair
Trick # 3 defend yourself like a gentleman
Trick # 4 think before you speak
Trick # 5 never ask someone why they’re freaking out
Trick # 6 look for a win win
Trick # 7 know when to walk away
One thing I learned when I transitioned from being a late teenager to being mid-twenties is that you don't always have to win. Before I realised this, if someone said something that I felt was wrong, I would debate the point to the point of nausea. I was often right (not always though), but people don't like to have that rubbed into their faces any more than Brenda's underwear! Even if it's with logic and reason, which I thought at the time trumped everything. Avoid giving the impression that you're obviously smarter than the other person...even if it's the case.
Knowing when *not* to have to debate / argue is I find now to be important. Does it matter if Barry is deluded about something and won't see reason if it actually doesn't affect things too much? Why go through the aggro of trying to convince him that he's wrong? It just means he won't listen to you about something else that *is* important. That doesn't mean that you have to admit that you're wrong either - just walk away from it, shrug your shoulders. A lovely old fashioned phrase: "bless their cotton socks" is something you can use mentally to yourself to assist you in this walking away.
Save the arguing for when you really *need* to make a point, when you really *need* to "win". People who debate / argue all the time are considered to be "difficult" people that people eye-roll at and then largely ignore in a lalalalalalala kind of way. "Oh that's just Barry, he's always mouthing off about something or another, don't pay him any attention..."
If you're a largely non-argumentative guy and you suddenly on a particular point you feel is really important start debating with passion and precision, people will sit up and take notice of you. "Oh wow, Aaron is never worked up about anything, but he's *really* going for this!"
Pick your battles, gentlemen!
Aaron- Thank you for the dynamic insights and not only focusing on the external, but the internal too. It shows you’re putting your heart into what you do and its greatly appreciated. Anyone can talk about the external but it takes someone becoming wiser to tie in emotional intelligence.
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Thanks for this video, Aaron. As someone with Social Anxiety, I always find it hard to stay calm in confrontational situations. This has helped me a lot.
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Awesome content!! Always maintain a presence of mind!! ALWAYS!!
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Great advice I needed this today but I have #8. Remove the jerks from your life whoever it is because they don't deserve you and they bring you down and make life more difficult then it already is. Surround yourself with positive people who love you and want to be like you because they truly appreciate who you are.
It's kind of a coincidence that I needed to hear this. Thank you Aaron, sending love and Positive vibes your way .💯
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1. Dont raise your voice? Well okay, id say "dont escalate too quickly" and at the very least, dont yell and scream like he says, but raising your voice is completely acceptable and yes you can be calm/cool/in controll AND speak with assertive volume to squash the confrontation and let the other person know you will not be talked down to.
2.fight fair..so this is clearly specific to relationship confrontations, not general confrontation, because in every day confrontation its totally okay to drop some bombs because thats the nature of the game. Just keep in mind that the nuclear option can some times lead to mutually assured destruction, so be prepared to also be confronted with am equally bad bomb gettin dropped back
3.defend like a gentleman, this i agree with whole heartedly. But forget this whole "badass" persona that aaron tries to sell you, just be aware that not every action needs and equal reaction. If someone wants to fight, you CAN walk away. If they dont let you, hopefully you know how to defend yourself but otherwise being the bigger man will always pay off in the end, no matter how hard ot may be you will thank yourself later in life.
4.think before you speak. SO TRUE, a well spoken confrontation is always an appropriate method to squashing a problem. Its best to pull someone to the side, but if they wont then maybe alittle public humiliation is necessary so they dont pull that shit anymore. Now dont think that defensive behavior is an automatic guilty sentence. If i, out of nowhere, was accused of being a rapist or pedophile you can bet your ass i would completely lose it because holy shit how tf is someone even saying such a damning accusation and how dare they even think i wouod be capable of something like that. Now if i accuse you of eating the last slice of pizza and you flip out like im calling them a murderer, yeah..they probably did it. Each situation will dictate what is the appropriately expected response
5.never ask why someone is freaking out? Why not? If its an irrational response and they are freaking out, i would totally ask "what the hell are you feaking out about? I was only asking ____" then they might realize " oh i was totally overreacting" and boom, defused. Idk why he says that 'nothing pisses people off more than asking why they are freaking out', thats total bullshit, the only real phrase that will piss anyone off more than they already are is "calm down"...no one in the history of 'calm down' has ever calmed down by being told to calm down. I personally can attest that if im already really upset, i will be pushed to the edge if you say "dude calm down". But if you say "dude why are you freaking out" or equally "dude whays wrong" ill tell you whats wrong, maybe ill yell it, but ill atleasst say it and hell maybe the person asking whats wrong will give me an out of the box opinion that can make me feel less shitty!
6. Look for a win win. Yeah i agree, its ideal but it wont work out that way alot of times so even if you do "win" the argument, just verbally acknowledge their side in an understanding manner and you will both come out of it feeling okay.
7. Know when to walk away, already mentioned that earlier, but honestly i would probably walk as far away from aaron irl because he doesnt speak, he yells. Idk if its for his videos but his speaking voice is at a constant yell. Ive known someone like that before, pretty sure he had a hearing problem or something, idk how his wife put up with it, but i honestly couldnt stand talking to him due to his inability to speak normally and instead basically yell the entire conceraation so i *thumb snap" walked tf away
Seriously though, how is aaron even talking about not raising his voice when thats literally ALL he does..
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I always watch your videos, you are a great example for how men should be, great job and keep doing it
This is very helpful. I used to get into some heated arguments with my ex but best thing you can do is control your self and walk away. You can always talk later. Thanks alpha for the great tips like always !
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thank you master live happy and defend like a gentleman
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The BEST thing for staying calm for me was learning Brazilian JiuJitsu !! I started 2 years ago now and you would not believe how calm and confident it brings out in people and is not only because you know how to defend yourself but the mental side of the art teaches so much. Alpha if you have never tried it out i would hugely suggest going to try out a class and it will change your life :)
Amazing Alpha bro. Keep doing the good work. Your videos are immensely helpful.
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As a woman, I appreciate this voice! My man freaks out whenever we need to work on a house project. I have always done on my own, love the help of my man friend but he freaks out and ends up breaking the thing we were minimally trying to fix. I am like dude, CHILL! I can do it on my own, I wanted your muscle, but now i gotta replace the shit ya broke. Fuckin aye. Dudes need to not always assume the position with all 'women'. some girls have experience and can teach. DUDES HATE IT! I get it. Get the funk over that when your bitch girl is right please. Thanks Gentlemen. I was a farmer, devoured mechanics, politics, hair, nails, food and so many other ventures. When i say something. I at least deserve a hear to. Not a broken broken something. that is now unresolvable.
This is the most helpful advice you've ever given for me personally. Thank you so much!
Always keep your emotions in control 💯
So weird, I was literally thinking about this. This would be amazing to master. Keep calm 🙌
Took me decades. But faced with violence and having been violent as a young person, I got to the point I could not bring myself to go back to that. What's more, I couldn't even express emotion; just steady and constant requests to deescalate the situation.
definitely a very important video. from my experience anger management issues is definitely one of the most common problems in men and something that we gotta learn how to control. i've seen anger management issues get in the way of careers, relationships, and family. cmon fellow guys, we can be better
love your videos dude been watching for years
This is exactly what ive been looking for glad you uploaded it
*Focus on resolving the issue at hand without giving up your selfworth.*
Don't have to be a wimp to find common ground.
1. Don’t raise voice
2. Remember to fight fair
3. Defend yourself like a gentleman
4. Think before you speak
5. Never ask why they are freaking out
6. Find a win win
Great video on confrontations. The only thing I whole heartedly disagree with is the "You are a Badass" book reference. I read it about 2 years ago and it seems to spew generic advice and mentions Instagram worthy motivational quotes. Great if you have zero self-esteem and starting from rock bottom. Other than that, awesome tips on keeping your cool when in heated debate.
I have a problem with confrontations and it’s caused me a lot of problems with my career, just in general, I just don’t know what to say or how to defend myself properly, or how to take things as a joke. It’s really hard for me because I’m actually a really nice person deep down, and it troubles me I have acted incorrectly when I think back to what I should have said in the particular situation.
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Man I wish this had came out a couple days earlier. My cousin/roommate and I had a big argument over him doing drugs in our apartment. But I’m glad to say, I did most of these things! Keep up the awesome work Alpha!
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This scenario doesn’t work in several places. Schools, workplace, frequent establishments and the rotten guy in your group. Someone at my workplace blamed me for stuff he assumed I did every single time something went wrong. The first couple weeks it was ok he’s just mad but then 4 months onward and he’s still doing it? At this point I stood my ground called him out for a physical confrontation to teach him a lesson. There are people out there that will take advantage of this “Cool level headedness" you give them an opportunity to test you further. Now if this is someone on the streets whom you don’t even know? It’s easy to walk away and choose a different route. My advice to people who experience a frequent clown. Show them where you’re coming from and where you stand. It may or may not strike fear but it will show them where to stop.
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Very, very true Aaron. Internal strength and confidence in yourself are key. A logical disagreement is ok, but emotion can come into play and that can get ugly.
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FINALLY! A useful video on this subject. It is surprising how few useful videos there are on a subject that well-mannered people have to face so often. Other videos on UA-cam (by women) are just about feeling victimy, with no real solutions.
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Definitely agree with focusing on your breath. If you focus on what your going to say, your adrenal glands are gonna go crazy as you try to sift through 100 different responses in a second. Focus on the breathing and let the words come to you. Don't look for the words
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I can’t help but smirk sometimes when people start getting all upset. I love debating. It’s just verbal martial arts. Learn when to duck and dive, as well as eating a punch to land one. Different situations call for different tactics.
If u carry yourself a certain way and you workout very few people will have the courage to confront you
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I absolutely HATE the feeling of blanking out in confrontation, I would look back and be like shit, I said that?
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I used to be such a hot head and the main reason I changed the way I conducted myself in certain situations was becoming a father, I want to raise not just a man but a gentleman plus it really made a difference in my job. Once again another great video 👍 peace and love 🇮🇪
I needed this video. My new supervisor at my job thinks he knows more than me despite the fact I've been there five years and he just started. He gives me assignments and purposely puts obstacles in my way.
First time he did it I got angry and demanded we discuss it with our admin director. I didn't keep my cool but I sure as shit taught him he can't fuck with me without getting the fangs!