First time hearing Pat Benatar - Hell is for children
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This is to the song Hell is for Children by Pat Benatar, one of the most important social awareness songs in history. The song, released in 1980 shined a light on the issue of child abuse. In this , Burch discusses his own experiences with child abuse at the hands of his father and how important the song was in his life. The social impact of this song was a turning point in how we discussed this taboo subject in the United States.
Favorite Lyrics from the song:
1. Love and pain become one and the same In the eyes of a wounded child
2. And you shouldn't have to pay for your love With your bones and your flesh
3. They blacken your eyes and then apologize
#hellisforchildren #patbenatar #childabuse
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You guy should react to kanye west pinochio story live
Pat was a massive voice in a tiny package!
I would love for you to react to Shinedowns cover of Simple Man. One of the best covers ever done. 20 years old this year. Shinedown is still going strong. They hold the record for the most number 1s hits on the rock charts. 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
Plis do tupac - keep your head up
I'm going to go see if you did "Wuthering Heights" by her. I thought I heard once that she was trained in opera, but went the rock path, with that training. Here is her beautiful rendition of "Wuthering Heights" ua-cam.com/video/Dx8Q9BgwBRE/v-deo.html
One of the greatest female voices of all time and her husband is so underrated as a guitarist..saw her live once.. incredible!
That's a guy, not a woman
@@justinmcclanahan6036 uh i hope that's a joke..
@mcgrath16511 I was replying to Skid Row, but it changed to quick & when I got through I noticed that the Skid Row wasn't there, so I deleted the comment
@@justinmcclanahan6036 gotcha!
You betcha. Along with Ann Wilson and Stevie Nicks.
Pat wrote this after reading some articles in the New York Times covering child abuse. She has performed it at every single concert since it was written. Very powerful song in a time when a lot of people weren't talking about this issue.
Edit: As soon as I wrote this comment I unpaused the video and Burch commented the same thing. Guess I should've watched first lol.
I do that quite alot...speak my mind and then see they beat me to it.
I was 12 when this came out and like you I went through this. Nothing ever was really said and nothing was ever done about it back in the 70s and I heard this and it gave me strength to keep going ahead. It was like an anthem for me
I was also 12 when this came out and was experiencing abuse.
I saw Pat Benatar in concert around the time this song was released. I think Alexis mentioned how powerful Pat's voice is in this song. Pat Benatar was trained in opera, but took the rock 'n' roll path instead. She is a very petite, slender woman, and she puts everything into the vocals, and she would occasionally actually hyperventilate on stage and her band would have to fill in instrumentally while she recovered off-stage. As I have grown older, I have noticed that I now get chills every time I hear this song. Burch, I am sorry that you were a victim of abuse. This song was written for you and every child that has ever had to endure that.
Back then, child abuse “didn’t happen”. It was considered discipline. The child, the spouse, the neighbors would see nothing wrong with it. This song gave a lot of children a voice. Pat Benatar was and still is such a champion for kids and women. And such a powerful and beautiful voice delivering the message.
One of my favorites from Pat. She really belts this one out, and took this song deadly serious.
Her husband (Neil Giraldo) is the lead guitarist and co-writer of their music.
“She belts this one out…”
Interesting choice of words.
@@scottgould6590 I suppose fitting in a backhanded sort of way.
Alright, thats it..go to your room and wait for your father to get home 😂😂
Props to her for this. This was a taboo subject at the time. Hit me hard at the time also, having a Dad who was extremely heavy handed. He has become my best friend. I have forgiven him many times, as that's how he was raised. I used that to mold my parenting style. I swore that I wouldn't be that parent.
She and her husband (the guitar player) play this show at EVERY SINGLE SHOW as her way of bringing awareness to child abuse. Very powerful!
There were some radio stations which refused to play this song (& Pat was a HUGE star in that period of time). Some refused because they understood the meaning ....some refused simply based on the title. (Btw, Pat is FINALLY going into the rock hall of fame this year). The guitarist is her husband Neil Giraldo...they still perform today..they've been married for 43 years.
Most amazing thing about this classic song is when you read the UA-cam video comments on any of this posting of it whether it's studiolive you name it:
It has served as therapy for many that were abused as children and has helped many to find closure through the years
This song really empowered me when I was going through abuse, In 1979-80 Pat and her husband Neil read a NYT article about child abuse in America, it was top 10 on AOR in ‘81, the lyrics were dark but when I listened to it again and understood what it was about, It brought from the other direction from what I went through because I always feel empowered.
Neil "Spyder" Giraldo. Amazing guitarist/songwriter. Pat and Neil have been married for over 40yrs.
I was also ten years old in 1980 and yes it was something that was not talked about but sometimes happened daily it's good to know that times can change for the better when it comes from abuse to children thank you for your videos
Pat Benatar was the original Lzzy Hale. That voice is like a sledge hammer.
Her future husband, Neal Gilraldo of is doing the guitar work. He also did the guitar work on Jessie's Girl by Rick Springfield
A number of religious organizations attempted to get this song banned from the radio. I was in college ate the time of its release and it was a controversial song. People didn't discuss this topic back then.
Burch , That's Neil Gerardo on lead guitar & her husband.
To me you can hear the anger in her voice and even her husband Neil’s guitar solo seems angry,too….
I've seen her in concert several times, and she is just such a powerhouse on stage. This song evokes so much emotion.
I just saw Pat and Neil perform this song a week ago. They are still both amazing. This song had the entire audience on their feet. Outside. In 87 degree temperatures. Pat has said that she will continue to sing this song as long as the terror continues. I was fortunate to never suffer anything like what is painted here. But there were kids that I knew and went to school with who experienced a living hell at home. This song always makes me cry for them.
Pat is my first crush
I have a song request that I hope you guys can do. The name of the song is called Slippin by the late DMX. May his kind soul rest in peace 🙏. The reason I'm requesting this song is because when I was younger I was in the same spot as he was in this song. My father left me at a young age I was smart in school but my mother never cared. She was heavily into drugs. Then I was out on the streets but then God spoke to me and told me I could do better. Now I own my own Japansse domestic mechanic shop with a beautiful daughter and wife and enjoying life too the fullest. It's amazing what music can do to you. Love from Alberta Canada
Pat Benatar loves us and this song is proof of that. So are all her songs, but with this one she sends us something raw, something she feels with us...
My brain went to *Bless The Beasts And
The Children* by The Carpenters...
Be well
S.W.
This song not only gave Validation to those suffering from such actions it Opened the Eyes of millions who never really gave it any thought before. I was Lucky enough to have a wonderful Childhood and when I had the chance to see her Live in 1982 this song (Already one of my favorites) blew me away. She Plays this song at EVERY show she gives and is in her own words the most important message she ever tried to convey !
Do a reaction to ice cube the name of the song is, it was a good day.
I relate to this song in much the same way you did. One of my all time favorites because of that. I would love it if you checked out another band called "the Warning" which is comprised of 3 sisters and feels like 70-80's rock in many ways. There is a song called "Black Holes" that was written by one of the 3 girls after she read a story about someone who had an addiction; the song is written from the point of view of the addict. And she wrote it at the age of 13.
Pat is a classically trained opera singer..her husband to this day is Neil Gerardo the guitar player in the band
This subject is the theme of Susan Vega, “Luka”. Another brave, beautiful song about abuse. It’s powerful.
10,000 maniacs "What's the matter here?" as well. Same time period.
I remember being at a friend's house and having her mom come in and yell at us for listening to a song saying "hell is for children" . I remember getting up enough courage to address an adult and explain the song to her. She understood after. I never will forget that.
I listened to her music for years. Dude, it seems that we grew up in the same Era, we could have been neighbors
I appreciate your history lesson with the songs connection to us , today and then.
Great stuff. Love the younger generation is learning of our great music.
Rock on.
Keep Rocking and Racing, love life.
Thanks for listening
My best friend was abused which over time led to him committing suicide.
Sadly I came say the same thing
You should see the Live
Version ❤it's better than the
Studio version ❤
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My favorite Pat Benatar song. Halestorm does a great cover of this song. There is also a great cover of this from the fictitious band The Relentless from the movie American Satan.
Pat was nominated for the Hall of Fame before but refused to accept until she and her husband Neill were inducted together. As she put it - there is no Pat Benetar without Neil Giraldo. Operatically trained with a wide vocal range she stumbled into Rock n Roll, never really considering as a career. It was Neil that inspired and brought out the best in her. Her catalog is filled with great songs. "We Belong" is about her and Neil, give it a listen
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Burch, I'm so sorry to hear you were abused as a child. I could see you relive the pain while watching this video. I'm glad you had that outlet.
Wonderful choice, and thank you for some insight into your life.
The important aspect of the song is that instead of a angsty sad song, it’s full of anger to a rock beat, which is why it became popular.
I remember when this song came out, and he was so right. First, they went after Pat for this song because people looked at its name...Hell is for children... it's about abuse. So they thought that is what Pat wanted; it reminds me of Alice Cooper's song, Only Women bleed
I have been a huge fan of Pat Benatar since 1979 - she is amazing. I finally got to see her in concert this year (little old New Zealand is so far away for artists to come to) and her vocals are still great. I shed a tear I was so happy to see her in concert. Neil Geraldo is her long time guitarist - and also long time husband. He is amazing as well. They tour under the name Pat Benatar and Neil Geraldo nowadays. Her autobiography is also a very good read..
I hear some Black Sabbath "War Pigs" influence at the end with Neil's guitar work.
Great reaction guys.
Thanks for doing this incredibly powerful and important song. Generally recognized as a great song but under played as it is so hard to listen to without getting emotional.
Even more impressive is the man who was abused has become a great person and father. Forever breaking the cycle
This song kicked open the social closest door that existed at the time, exposing a problem we all knew existed but were taught to ignore. Fortunately, this made people gain the courage to stop ignoring the 800-pound gorillas in the room and address the problem.
I remember a girl in my 6th-grade class (1972) who repeatedly came to school wearing long-sleeved shirts and scarves on hot days to hide the brush marks. A few times, she came in with a black eye or did not come to school for several days. The teachers, the school nurse, and the principals saw it, but no one would do a thing.
The family moved away in '74, I always wondered what became of her.
Bruises could be dismissed because of sports or just “boys you know how they are. Bicycle accident or he’s just a little too rambunctious. When this came out abuse was normal for me. She had to go through S ** Ab*se to get airplay by DJ’s
Her guitarist is her then boyfriend now husband Neil Geraldo..... And he is a monster guitar player...
So many younger people don't understand that it just wasn't something talked about back then. I recently started writing an autobiography (that I'll probably never finish). An excerpt speaking on the same thing:
"This would have happened during a regularly scheduled visit. I’m certain there was likely some convenient story told about how I tripped and fell into a table or something to all those that needed to hear it. It would have been readily accepted by everyone in those times, that’s just how things were.
I don’t think I was ever asked about it and of course this was all I knew. There was no reason for me to say anything different. Don’t ask, don’t tell didn’t start with the American military in regards to sexual preference. The same theme was very much the unwritten rule of society and family life in those times."
I never connected with this song back then as Burch did (maybe due to being a couple years younger) but from what I get out of this reaction video our stories probably have a lot of similarities.
You should check out BRIDGE CITY SINNERS - WITCHES WRATH (bridge city session) i think youd love it given your varied music tastes.. they are dark, folk,punk, using wash boards and banjos such in their instrument lineup...
love your perspective. guess im a yer older than you. so understand the 70's
You conversation just took me back to the first time I heard this in 83 . So many feelings. Made me cry 😢
Brutal, brilliant lyrics. ANd pat Benatar's angry delivery of them, biting off the words. Tori Amos also was brave as hell--braver, really, since she was singing about her own rape--when, in 1992 she recorded and performed "Me and a Gun." A capella. Just her lovely voice, recounting her ugly, ugly ordeal. Check out the 1992 debut of it in Bordeux, France. It's breathtakingly moving.
Aloha from Honolulu Alexis & Burch! I just started watching you guys and I love the chemistry between you two. I would love to see you guys react to 1. Disturbed “The Sound Of Silence” the Conan O’brien Show version 2. Jinger “Pisces” 3. “Tom Sawyer” by Rush
There were 5 of us . Condemned to live in a hell by the courts to live with her and her family . Every form we suffered . Love WHAT IS THAT . ABSOLUTELY N CHILDHOD . T THIS DA THAT HELL HOUSE IS THERE AND THOSE WHO TRMENTED US . TRYED TO SHIELD MY LITTE SISTER😭
Ooooh more Pat Benatar coming may I suggest Invincible another powerful meaning behind a song 😊
I remember all of the furor and vitriol over this song especially from Christians and evangelicals who CLEARLY NEVER listened to it. They just saw the title and assumed Pat was damning children to Hell. Sooo incredibly foolish.
Please react to Vials Of Wrath
Song: Burning Autumn Leaves Under A Harvest Moon
Maybe you should do Brown Sugar by The Rolling Stones. They never shied away from evil topics, however Brown Sugar is misunderstood by many.
Hey you two. Great pick for Alexis to discover. While I love the song, I could never relate to it personally. However, "Breaking Down" by the Headpins is a different story.. .
I feel you, man. Only in my township back then the cops asked my mother and me what we did wrong. I'm glad time has changed this somewhat through our hellish experiences.
You know, this was a moment of pause for me. It made me remember when music could sometimes be about *real* things. And, aye, as a note of understanding, Burch, I was abused too as a kid - beaten what felt like every day just for being a normal boy, in a severity that would have landed my father in trouble with the law now. And that was far more common than it ever should have been back in those days.
Dammit, I never expected to get teary eyed watching this channel. Probably shouldn't have come here right after watching Hacksaw Ridge :rueful chuckle:
I am here cause of the Band Unto Other. Did't know that was a cover Song. Pat Benatar, thank you...and you two that react to this masterpeace
Neil Girado is the guitarist, her husband, AKA Spider!!!! Pat Benatar is one of the best to ever Sing!!!
I've a couple of suggestions for you to get Alexis to watch (as Burch has probably seen them).
!. Eddie Van Halen's Guitar solo from the Live Without A Net video.
2. Jason Bonham and Heart's tribute to Led Zeppelin's Stairway to Heaven at the Kennedy Center.
I run a online rock radio station and we do featured artists every Sunday afternoon with a lot of trivia, artist information and song backstories. It may interest you to know that Pat's mother was an opera singer.
Before going into a career of Rock music Pat had been accepted into Julliard. Pat Benatar was born Patricia Andrzejewski in Brooklyn and raised in suburban Lindenhurst, Long Island. Pat who sang classically, honing the powers of her 4.5-octave voice as a member of Lindenhurst High's musical theater department. Winner of four consecutive Grammy Awards for "Best Rock Vocal Performance, Female" (1980-1983) and nominated four more times in 85, 86, 88 and 89.
She and the guitar player are together for many years now. Married in 1982 If I'm not mistaken.
Pat Benatar's guitarist is Neil Giraldo - who is also her husband. They have been married since 1982.
I was in highschool when she was just a navy wife singing at Peabody's in Va Beach and Knickerbockers Norfolk
"About 1,750 children died from abuse or neglect in 2020, a rate of about 2 per 100,000 children. The rate per 100,000 for child deaths from abuse or neglect has stayed steady since 2005. Fatalities decreased 5% compared with 2019. Almost half of the victims were younger than 1 year old." Sadly it's still not talked about enough.
Neil "Spyder" Geraldi is the lead guitarist and Pat Benatar's husband since 1982. Just saw them in concert last summer.
My favorite Pat Benatar song. Only Ann Wilson is close to Pat's vocal range. In the 3rd grade, my second best friend was abused, and my aunt noticed his painful reaction from her touch. Evan and I talked about everything, but he never told me about his stepdad. I regret not being a better friend before Evan moved to another city. I still tear up at the ".. don't tell.." lyrics. Thanks guys.
You should do Martina McBride - Concrete Angel. It will bring tears to your eyes for sure!! Very powerful!!
i would think this song ROCKS even if I hadnt just escaped from my own abusive parent
I’ve watched several of your videos. Burch it’s good that you are introducing her to the music we grew up listening to. I don’t think the musicians of today measure up to them. They were masters of their craft. Alexia you are a doll and very smart. Glad you are open to listening to the music.
I’m a huge Stryper fan
Honestly, Solders Under Command, Calling On You, Free…
More recent, God, Yahweh, Do Unto Others and Near(I saw the I believe in you video)take it to the cross is an interesting one musically.you guys have great chemistry looking forward to watching more reactions.
Pat Benatar and Neil Geraldo, justifiably vindicated as Rock and Roll Hall Of Famers 2022 after being snubbed for years and years along with a lot more artists still waiting in the sidelines (real rock music). Saw them live at their peak mid 80s as a US NAVY sailor stationed in San Diego, good times.
Back in 1992, I spent the summer at the Point Dume Mobile Home Park in Malibu. And every Thursday Pat Benatar drove her daughter in for piano lessons. What a beautiful woman. It was without a doubt the best summer I ever had, until the rioting. I also jumped into the hot tub with Mick Fleetwood and his daughter. And no, he was not happy at all.
My da.was our only hope the courts took us from him . In the early 60 s kids deamed best with mom .
Were their were no toys for our suffering the dogs ate better than we . I remember my sister's tears that easter when in the driveway my sick mom stripped my 4 year old sister of her rand new dress from my dad's family . Quote YOU DONT DESREVE THIS YOU ANIMAL 😭😭😭
The lyrical contradiction of child abuse, as written and sung by Pat, is utter genius.
"Hell is for Hell" - Yes, as it should be, makes sense, and not at all a contradiction. Total Hell is suppose to remain in Hell.
"Hell is for children" - No, should never be, makes no sense, and is a total contradiction. Total Hell is suppose to remain in Hell!
Two other rock songs related to child abuse that you might be interested in are "In Harms Way" by Metal Church and "Don't Let Daddy Kiss Me Goodnight" by Motorhead.
Wow, when it comes to music from that era, I didn't think there was anything I hadn't heard, but this is a song I am unfamiliar with. And I was a big fan of Pat Benatar as well. Did you know that she is a trained opera singer as well? Amazing vocalist, and a little undervalued in my opinion. Thanks for this one!!
Lot’s of people misunderstood this song, kind of like they misunderstood rock bands like Twisted Sister, Judas Priest, Iron Maiden, Ozzy, and so on. They hear “Hell is For Children” and immediately think Pat literally means that. Like she wants children to go to hell, because she doesn’t like kids. They didn’t even listen to the other lyrics and try to understand what the songs message is. SMH
Hold up- Alexis didn't know who Pat Benatar is???
Her Husband, Neil Geraldo, is the guitar player. They still tour and perform together all these years later!
Husband and wife team. Wife with vocals. and hubby on guitar!
Family Tree by Megadeth on their Youthanasia album does have the subject of abuse.
It would be a great follow-up to this.
Pat has an incredible voice!!
It sucks the the Foo Fighters were inducted into the Rockn Roll hall of fame before Pat; so shameful.
The guitarist is her husband, Neil Giraldo. They've been together since the beginning. A real solid couple still to this day! Remember, she is originally a Juilliard trained opera singer.
Pat & Neil have what they call their Facebook 14. They are the 14 songs, if any are not played when they are in concert, they catch hell on Facebook after the show. They are still touring, but they usually do "Hell Is For Children" acoustic.
Now on to "Luca" by Suzanne Vega which is another audio masterpiece on the subject.
Her not being in the hall of fame is criminal. Especially when you consider that they look at hits, influence and longevity... She has truck loads of all. Way more than people like Joan Jett. 🙄
Child abuse is wrong at all levels ty Pat for this Rock Queen on her live album 💿 was an amazing song also “House of pain” by Faster pussycat & Udo “They want war” also a listen 🎧 as well
Yeah...it wasn't something you didn't talk about in the 50s and 60s or 70s. It wouldn't be good for you if you did. Pat Benatar did a great job with this. Still hard to talk about.
She also recorded Suffer the Little Children, also about child abuse. I have too close an understanding of the subject but I have recovered to the point that I no longer hear the whispers 4:38
Quite a controversial song in that the title was confusing to parents. Also some FM stations refused to play it initially.
I was in my mid 20s when Pat Benatar was huge. No female had ever had mixed an operatic voice (which she was trained in) with hard rock.
Her discography is lush with powerhouse chords.
Try to reaction Dimas Senopati - What's Up (4 Non Blondes)
Alexis wouldn't love is a battlefield another great 1 of our anthems a social networking origin just
It was the 1 song of hers that I could only listen to once in a great while, because of the intensity of the subject matter it's about. Probably one of the most significant songs ever written in any Genre. Even to this day it hits hard at your emotions and I wasn't a abused child so for actual abused children I can't imagine the emotions they feel hearing it. This song wasn't meant to entertain you, it was meant to awaken you it had purpose.
the guitarist, sorry i can't recall his name, was/is actually her husband. they are still together. or at least that's what i've heard. pat benatar was my first concert. 1980? '81? portales, new mexico. $8.50. me and two of me boy scout buddies "stole" the scoutmasters stationwagon after "lights out", we drove about twelve miles, bought tickets at the door and made it back seemingly undetected? it wasn't 'til quite some tome later, that we learned we had been "caught", but nary a word was said. all three of us ended up achieving "eagle scout'. a different time it was back then.
Another song about things no one was talking about at the time that had a huge cultural impact at the time is "Strange Fruit" by Billie Holiday. It's about lynchings in America that were still happening in 1939.
I left a comment earlier about a song related to this called "Hush" by Hellyeah. Just watched your reaction again and noticed that Alexis actually had a commentary on the video where she said hush so many times... don't know if was subconscious or just coincidence, but Burch, as an old metalhead like my 54 year young self, I implore you to give this song a listen.
Thank you so much for your openness…
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Be blessed
I always thought of her as the female version of Ronnie James Dio. Very powerful voice. Listen to the to the song invisible by dio. It's not a top 10 song and wont get you clicks but it was about depression and gender identity and suicide.Nobody sang about that stuff back in the day. The song was ahead of it's time.