Black society is crumbling and BW are destroying it..whore, jezebel, and narcissistic traits rule these women...also they have bought into this western society / government hook, line, and sinker.😮
My buddy saw a poll where a BW can have a man with money, but hardly around and will cheat OR have a good man making about $60Kyr, takes care of you and never cheats. It went 50/50 the women chose money and a cheating man.
The way they worship money is ungodly and it isnt our way as a race. What alot of bw are doing seeing them folks currency as some type of God is demonic
Why you think they want to be with the athletes and rappers? Cause of the money. Even chris brown said he wouldn't get married because of what he worked hard for he will not give up half of it to a women that didn't build with him doubt I honestly don't blame him
Much appreciated comment. I believe the damage too severe to fix. One day black women in America will get their wish. We'll be gone. Thanks for being one of the few Diamonds out there!
That plus "Whats my money is my money and what's his money is my money". Thats another mistake. If we as men didn't say let's get married its not her money. If she's not putting a ring on him and not doing it just for the wedding then no. Like Shaq said when he came to the NBA "I got 10 fingers and no rings ". If she's not wanting to be a frfr wife and only doing to be cute in a wedding gown them the stats are going to get even more worse
@@edwardflounoy7207 It's because a thief doesn't want to be stollen. She came in the relationship for his money, now she thinks he also came in for her money, yet the man genuinely loves her for her and not because of what money she has. So she keeps her money for only herself, not for the wellbeing of the marriage together with the man's income. She from the beginning came into the relationship with a flawed motivation not genuine love for the man and his best wellbeing.
My nephew in Atlanta is 5’9” and he was too short for BW until they find out he’s a lawyer. He and his (Honduras) wife just had their first child and she's at home chilling in their 800K gated home. His first time ever dating outside his race at age 33.
Please don't be offended, but I wonder how many of them he chose not to marry, but have s*x with. Often men know who they're gonna marry, but they don't until they're ready. Until then, they get their groove on with women who don't know that's their ultimate plan. Black women should learn one thing about "men moving differently"': Don't give away your gift to a guy who's just gonna grift!
💯. She’s speaking facts but we know the majority of modern ABW will NOT let go of the ego and avoid logic as much as possible. Got my passport, and African women are better.
My son just married a Italian woman and they have one son together she's a good mother and wife maybe black women can learn from foreign women on how to keep a good man but their ego smh
@@Frugal637 Bottom of what exactly? BM make more money than BWon average. BM are more desired for marriage than BW according to marriage rates. BM are not at the bottom of online desirability amongst other men dating wise. WM make $5,000 more than us per year on average. But, WM have better help mates than us within their ingroup… without having to date out. We’re achieving all this while being burdened with the worst performing ingroup helpmates a man can have. Give us better helpmates and we smash through those barriers.
Oh Keisha will work for Brad, Diego, shing bing, but Daquan hell no… unless he’s a scammer a hood booger or a typical pookie then yeah otherwise she will be submissive for the other nations and I say fk em. God will destroy these wicked Eves 🤷🏽♂️
Stop saying "some" when we know that it's a lot of them. When you're trying to talk to a black female in public or online she will immediately try to shame/embarrasse you. This is their thing.
Bruh this is so true one day I was in the mall parking lot and am at full of black women tried to hit me and they drove off thinking that shiz was funny I grew up in a majority white country town there’s not a day I feel like my life is in danger but when I’m in the city my interaction with black women and some men are often difficult
As a blackman i find this a bit disingenuous, i think the thug culture has an impact too. Disrespectful, and no accountability. It can be male or female. None of it will change untill we stop celebrating hood culture/gehtto mentality. We come up last in a lot of statistics.
Lets just be real. A lot of them aren’t nice people. They’re not nice to anyone. Not even to each other. Nobody wants to marry that. “Thank You!” for sharing ❤️🖤💚
I’m not married because I married twice. 1-Black & wealthy & 1-White & poor-(both) were mean angry & selfish & controlling. Now, I’ve been single for 22- yrs. I’m married to peace & prosperity now(.)
It’s time to slow down. No sex before marriage. Getting to know people for the purpose of marriage. Prioritize shared values, shared interests, and shared goals. Folks are too into the good time and not the lifetime.
I know a BM who paid child support on two babies that weren't his. Yet, that didn't turn him away from WW. Btw, it was a WW that duped him into thinking the babies were his, and they weren't.
Sooo you're blaming alllll BW because of ONE?? Because you were too stupid to get a DNA test? ....im sure there were signs of her character eg. Multiple babies already...
That is the ultimate betrayal. My bf ex tried to do that to him. She continued summing him to courts in different states in hopes he wouldn’t show so they can make him father by default. These women are shameless! Brother you don’t deserve no crap like that
Another big reason is the Government has become their provider, the simple fact they can get by on the dole and they don't want a man to be a head of the house. Attitudes would change if all the free stuff stopped.
Some of that is true however, in reality a black man with a 4 year degree and no criminal record has less job opportunities than a white with no degree and a criminal record,,,so that fact has to be considered in how all of this dysfunction in the African American community
@@jaysouthmusic8230 plz don’t be fooled a lot of those women use American men. Black men have the highest divorce rate of any same race couple. Plus black men have an even higher divorce rate when they marry a different race. Just take your time and do not under any circumstances marry because of race and foreign status. Like I tell my sons just take your time. The right woman will come
Whites literally have the highest divorce rate besides lesbian couples lmao BM literally dint Marty just have extended gfs but the highest divorce rate is lesbians like why come on here and lie what road to nowhere agenda do you have lmaoo 😂
Most are defiant & extremely promiscuous. Also very superficial. & most only want to get married after they get old & have been in the streets for years.
I would say the main reason is the lack of respect for the black man. We get that enough from the world, and the older we get, we won't tolerate it in our home. A woman has to be your peace.
That's "pay tree archy." They don't want that. They want chaos. They want to be able to do whatever they want to do, without regard for anyone nor accountability for themselves. Order is oppression to them.
Refusal to build is the truth. All the BW at college are ignoring me and the other guys studying Cyber Security because we aren't hood enough! The one's who aren't with athletes are with Pookies!
Dont be surprised when you receive insults from these women as you have success in your career. I say this because I have worked as an IT project nanager and made 6 figures. I have let women know I have standards. Usually once I communicate what my standards are I am laughed at, told that no woman will ever want me, called gay, or other insults. When I ask them dont you have a standard for men when it comes to how much money he makes, the double standard knows no limit. Not all BW are like this but quite a few are. All I can say is I am glad I got my passport.
They'll regret their decision one day. You're in a great field. I'm in IT myself and it's very lucrative. Don't lose your focus and stay the course brother.
@dred9175 those BW are doing you a favor to stay on your purpose and know your value in IT Cyber security supersede a secure future and laundry list of options different race of women domestic or internationally GOD speed 👍
The problem w/ alot of black women is the same problem w/ alot of young black men, especially those that come from low income backgrounds is the fact that alot our people wear a non-caring attitude like its a badge of honor and they disregard the fact that when you act like you dont care about nothing but yourself you usually end up w/ nothing but yourself...our community is in disarray bc it is literally a race to the bottom
Gotta make a million a year, own ten houses, ten businesses, become superman, have 10 inches, let them cheat in peace, buy gifts everyday, be a drug dealer, and a scammer to date these women😭😭😭
Would these women be able to go overseas and pick up a man for a long term relationship? The answer is no. That says everything and why its not men that are the problem.
I was shocked when I first found that out so my chances of marrying a black women of my standards is very slim to none and that's my reality and I'm young too which is more scary
As a Black man married to a Black woman for 31 years I can tell you that the Black woman is still the best woman for marriage when she doesn’t allow herself to get caught up in the World Standards of what a relationship should be. Black men still want a Sweet, kind, feminine woman the loves God and really want to marry a Black man.
Facts and the very sad part well known as embarrassing part too is that they claim to be Big Boss chicks and queens when most of them are still single and millions of the millions of men are shying away and staying away as well
Attitude is top of mind. If you present to be unapproachable then you won't be approached. Wearing trauma and negativity as a badge of honor is not a recipe for success.
Unfortunately there are alot of broken homes in the black community. Women leading households where the mom, grandmother or aunt is bitter at one man that did them wrong and it’s projected on their children. Also there’s no accountability for bad behavior because no one gets corrected or punished for their actions. It doesn’t help that the image of black women is projected poorly by negative stereotypes and modern celebrities both male and female.
Modern women and black modern women think a man should be honored just to be in their presence. With such a mindset they have no reason to work and prioritize "being a good wife" not just being married.
when i was a teenager ( a young man) my mother literally told me the exact thing, "I should just be glad a woman let you in her presence." She said i need to worry about all I can do for a woman and not what a woman can do for me. Thats when she told me about being grateful for having a woman at all. i was like wow!!! dont get it twisted, i am fine....face and body
I, overall, agree with the list. This is all wrapped into not prioritizing marriage and only seeing it as an escape from bad decisions. You watch KendraG, it's mostly a bunch of women thinking of marriage as an escape from poor life and financial choices.
This is so true and that list hit the nail on the head, we’re the only race that acts this way. I have never seen other cultures/races state: I’m a boss bit.., I don’t need a man, and be so aggressive and have no feminine qualities. My grandmother femininity demanded respect without saying a word. To become successful and to create generational wealth, we must learn to work with each other, black men are not the enemy. I hate to say, but this is why passport bro’s are so successful, other cultures are raising wives, we are raising single mothers and broken families. Black men would love a black woman, but you have to change your ways. Ok, please don’t bring the shame, insult, guilt, and the need to be right, just listen to the video and soak it in.
Issue i deal with is being able to provide and care for their children but never criticize or discipline them. I will never deal with a single mother again.
The list is very accurate about the western black women and I'd like to add, loud and vulgar in public. Men of any race or nationality are looking for "wives". So until older black women start teaching the young black women about who and what a "wife" is the marital graph will keep showing decline instead of an upswing. Black men you can help fix this if you will work on yourselves, set goals, focus and achieve them. Also raise your standards and expectations, don't waiver and eventually the black women will have to wake up and make themselves into ladies, not queens.
A lot of people feel this way unfortunately including women and they don’t want kids, I’m married with children but my biggest issue having them is I’m constantly worried about their future and my husband works a lot and I’m worried about him too.
Not all black women have bad attitudes. It's a shame u think we are all the same, and deny good people work because u assume we all have a nasty attitude
@AnonymousX-r7x black women have horrible attitudes at work, relationships, with parents, friends, siblings and anytime say something isn't going as planned they sass off to random strangers. Horrible at customer service too. You can tell when you are dealing with a black woman on the phone because of the aggressiveness nature of how they speak to other people they assume are black too. Black men are not hard to deal with. As long as a black man is jealous of you or something to do with a woman he likes or is with you are pretty much cool with them. I can honestly say I've interacted with every style of black men from the corny boogee type to the full blown gangster killer type. As long as you talk to them with respect they generally will have a calm demeanor. A black woman can be unprovoked and it will come out in any circumstances. They are extremely childish and lack logic and can't see the word outside of their own personal self. Very combative too.
Id like 2 add #11: unrealistic expectations n men i.e must b over 6ft and make 6 figures #12: wanting 2 spend their 20s wanting 2 party #13: chasing after guys who only 1 em 4 1 nite or 4 1 thing yet friendzoning da men who actually have their best interests at heart #14: watching 2 much reality tv and think what they c is real life so they fall n luv w/da lifestyle they c on them shows #15: 2 busy on social media flirting w/other WOMEN and ignoring da men and even waiting 4 a man 2 approach em n their dm just so they can "expose them." #16: 2 busy listening 2 their single friends #17: dont wanna give up recieving likes on ig etc from complete strangers just 2 build a relationship/marriage
These additions are right on point. Another one would be waiting till they're in their 40s with a million and one children and lots of emotional baggage to settle down.
Yes, yes, yes. I agree with just about everything you said & what's on the "list". I'm a black man that grew up in a 2 parent household, in the "Hood", with very limited resources. One aspect of how my parents influenced me and brothers & sisters was to expose us to different socio-economic areas within our city. We quickly learned that we weren't destined to live our entire lives in "the Hood" (we saw many prominent black people living in upscale areas, that were Doctors, lawyers, Engineers etc). Also, they let us know that the only thing that stood between us and fulfilling our dreams was excelling in academics, so that's what we did. When I speak with black people today that are growing up, or raising children under similar circumstances, I don't feel the "drive" or "thirst" to succeed. It's not easy, but it can be done, but the person has to want it.
Firstly, your parents put their children behind the 8-ball when knowing that they shouldn't have been procreating when they didn't have the money nor the resources to provide. But instead your parents rely on outside strangers resources to provide their children. And also, you're talking about this drive that you're seeing lack of within these children is because of single parent households that they're coming out of and these single parents themselves don't have any drive do to them depending on the government handouts. Just because there's 2 parents doesn't mean they're actual parents who are educated to be parents. Most people today shouldn't be having children. For what? We're not living in the early part of the 1900's building America.
@@spankbuda3769 "Only A Kicked Dog Squeals". Lol...I must've hit a nerve. Can you actually read?, or did you have someone read my comments for you? Either way, you interpretation skills are clearly operating on remedial level (...Are you keeping up so far? I'll provide you with a definition of remedial at a later time). My parents "exposing" their children to something other than environments, simply refers to them showing us that the world doesn't begin and end within the confines of our neighborhood. At this point, I would generally imply you were simply ignorant, but I've concluded that you are far beyond that threshold. You're just stupid ("Stupid" - Having or showing a great lack of common sense". example - "You were stupid enough to actually think you could win this argument"). So, if you need any further assistance comprehending basic English, start with something you can handle, like "The Cat And The Hat" or "George The Monkey Found An Apple". I think you could probably comprehend those (..if you had a little help from any 2nd grade Teach. School is out for the summer, so they should be available). Now, get back in your lane, your very slow lane, before you embarrass yourself any further. I've got better things to do then teach someone in their forties or fifties how to read and interpret basic grammar. You're Dismissed.
You have been gratefully blessed you and your siblings. However , most african american households today in america don't have both mommy and daddy. It is unfortunate that women today believe that they can actually be both mother and father. No greater lie has ever been told.
Agree. Finish high school. Get a degree. Get a job. Get a husband. Get a house… then get a baby!! Too many young black women get this all wrong. They are too sexually active! Get pregnant by some selfish, immature, pleasure seeking sperm doner. Then want a good husband!!😳 really!!!
They're going to witness their maker wrath/vengeance upon them. For them to worship the devil ways and to use it towards their innocent children is a punishable offense.
@@Loveispeacej Yes! They're worshiping the 7 deadly sins, over sexualized behavior, and this obsession with fake hair weaves/wigs. Isaiah 3 explains their behaviors and punishment which is happening.
Thats why as a young black man myself I dont see myself marrying a black women in the near future especially after the last 2 black women i dated ended in toxicity and the last black women i talk to stood me up, im mentally tired at this point. Unless God performs some kind of miracle, i dont see myself marrying a black woman anymore based on how i was treated poorly with no remorse
@@keithsmith8543Pull up that Rolanda episode. Pull up the Ricki Lake. Pull up the Oprah. Pull up the Vivica's, and Traci Ellis Ross', and Viola's, and Bassets. Pull up the TLC. Pull up the morning shows on the radio. Pull up the Comic View. Pull up the BET awards speeches. Open em up like the IRS at the door!
Furthermore, my parents were never married. I learned tremendous amount about manhood from my biological dad and my stepdad. Both of these men stayed closed to me. My biological took me to work with him at an early age. I understood that this is the way to earn a living for yourself and family. I only knew this way. Still today I have great work ethics and earn six figures, have for some time. My stepdad taught me how to treat woman. I would observe the working relationship between Mom and him. She had the vision, and he would build from her vision. They were a great team. He passed. And wow I am tearing up now remembering how awesome their relationship was. How an important role that played in my life. It would be fortunate if I can share what I learned from my upbringing with a Black woman. I have tried. But it seems as if they were not prepared. The thing that they all have in common: They're ALL College Graduates. I am attracted intelligent Black women. Fyi, my stepdad married my mom. Her first and only marriage. Very happy for my mom after years of not receiving it from my other Dad.
@@colinscrypto3307 I dont know what you mean by unnecessary. Parental Alienation happens. I am unsure it is ever necessary. But i am sure since this is the internet, someone would defend it. I am just asking for an explanation about the unecessary part. You know your thoughts when you used the word. I was curious to see those words altogether and wondered what you meant by it. That is all.
@@dredey1971It's never necessary. They're the worst mothers and they get to keep the kids. Even if they lose custody, they are hardly ever denied visitation.
@@KtotheG , I have one male family member that got custody of his kids. What did his ex-wife due? Set fire to his house while he and the children were inside.
You are absolutely gorgeous and I’m not being stereotypical Simp. From your skin to your attitude to your hair to the way, you stare at the camera you got it going on. Whatever man who has captured your heart already that must be one of the standard great black men or whatever. Have a blessed day, queen.
Epigenetics and generational trauma is real. Willie Lynch's program is still in full effect. Until WE (black men and women) learn to confront the problem, forgive, and love each other WE are doomed.
Exactly. Black women were taught to disrespect the black man because those in power feared him. If you destroy the man, you destroy the family; if you destroy the family, you destroy the community. Soon, you destroy an entire generation. But now that we all know this, what are we doing about it?
IT'S CHOICE NOT EXPOSURE OR CULTURE... No, DeeDee if the importance of marriage not being taught is why black women are not married how is it black women focused on higher education, home ownership, and financial independence. I dont recall the black households black women came from pushing these social achievements either. With church attendance being very common and popular anong black women how was the sanctity and purpose of marriage was missed in sermons and bible school? And when these same black women grew up and were exposed to the wider world with radio, television and even the internet how can you claim marriage was a foreign concept to black women? No, black women are the most unmarried not because they weren't aculturized or exposed. Black women beginning in the 1970s WENT THEIR OWN WAYS an abandoned traditional family values out of ego and selfishness. Black society has normalized the antisocial anti family and anti male attitudes and practices of black women.
I know both married and unmarried Black women. My friend is Jasmine is 42 and working on her doctorate degree and she said she is single because she is not going to lower her standard. Jasmine told me that she was told by men that she is too smart.
To your friend Jasmine I ask, "why are women from other ethnicities, including African nations , who have obtained their doctorates, are married? They are able to wed, complete their degree program, and work to support their family. Too many black American women use their educational attainment as an excuse for failing to lock down a husband.
I used to see many women of other races encouraging questionable behavior and calling black women queens but they themselves never carryon in such a manner. I always wondered why some black women never caught on to that.
I am the product of an African-American mother and a Puerto Rican father 🇵🇷. I stopped dealing with black women back in early 2018. My life has been great not dealing with them. I'd rather deal with my other half, Latinas! They are good women and they love a good Brother. My own mother is a MAJOR reason why I'd never ever take another black woman seriously. I truly understand why my father left my mother!
It's a shame that u feel this way since ur half black but if that's how u feel i can't tell u otherwise. Do consider we are not a monolith and we have great black women out there ❤
She's not lying thought all my times I been at the gym I never seen one black women in the gym, let alone black women my age in the gym and that's embarrassing. I would date a woman that doesn't like to work out and live a healthy lifestyle, let alone a black woman sorry not sorry #healthiswealth
Hi Dee Dee, I am watching you from England. As a 58 year old man, I can tell you the key to attracting a man from a woman’s point of view. Home comforts are very important to men. Traditional values like putting a meal on the table every night when he comes home from work. Be kind and loving with your choice of words. Men have a fragile ego that needs to be stimulated in order for him to feel good about you. If you start putting him down or keep criticising him, that’s a big turn off for most men. These women have to take a step back and get into the feminine role. Most women don’t recognise what that looks like that’s why they can’t do it. Thanks Alan 😊
I can answer this question. I married 3 Black women. The first Black women invested more in being seen to her friends than our marriage. She spent lots of my money showing off to her "so-called" church friends. How many designers' clothes she has. In addition, she cheated on me with her church "best friend". Divorced! The 2nd Black women allowed her entire family to violate our house new house, or should I say my new house_ I purchased solo because her dad messed up her credit paying for his extracurricular activities anytime, they felt like it. Eating all the food I payeed for, running up the AC bill and trashing my home. A total disrespect to me her husband. I kicked everybody out and divorced immediately. The 3rd and last Black women, who is trying to be with me now just had a lack of respect for me. I, believe it or not, taught her how to keep house, cook, clean, manage her daughters. She never had to pay a bill. I made plenty of money to take care of everyone. I attended both girls HS games. All of them even the games Mom did not go to. I never question her. I thought I was being a good husband. I still suspect cheating. However, she stated she did not know how to be a wife. What??? I have not given up on women. I just took myself out of Black women dating pool. I date outside my race. Its too bad, because my preference has been and will always be Black women. However, you make it to hard to be with you.
Black women, black males wanted to marry you. But they want more than a wedding, they want a marriage. If you want to be married, find a man who cares about you, and learn to cooperate with him. You will get married. Then work for the relationship and raise successful kids.
My thing is, when black men got criticized for sagging pants, vernacular etc... half of us cleaned up our act. Bw don't take constructive criticism well at all. The more we say you don't look desirable in a bonnet, the more bonnets they wear.
Ok…I just clicked on your clip and I can tell you if more black woman oresented themselves like you, without tattoos covering 40% of their body, without Freddy cougar claw fingernails, with out over the top paint brush eye lashes, without pounds of Gaudy jewelry all over the head, nose, lips six hole pierced ears, unnatural looking hair/weave that does not match there own hair and loud clown pink, blue, green colored hair, super tight over revealing spandex clothes to the point of looking like they are naked. I look at you and you should be the standard for young black lady’s, you are classy, cute, modest and clean looking and you carry yourself with respect and dignity unlike many others..
White guy here...I got called a racist once for not having a preference to date black women and the reasons why were all listed in the thumbnail lol Why would anybody subject themselves to that?
Black man here - so many of these are facts. But you CAN NOT criticize BW about anything… weight for example no reason why 55%+ are overweight.. makes it very tough.
Never in life have I tried to hold a black woman accountable or given a black women constructive criticism without her rejecting it, her trying to flip it back on me or just straight gas lighting.
Black encompasses so many things at once, it can be cultures, traditions and experiences. I think as someone who is African, Zimbabwean. The concept of marriage and its practices are of 'white or western culture.' It is easier to conform to the ideal white wedding when you are in more proximity to white culture or standards. As a black woman myself, marriage in my culture is just two people coming together, there is a bride price for appreciation of the woman's value or beauty or whatever to her parents and this indicates the groom's financial stability and ability to support his bride. No rings, no honey just a celebration, with drinks and lots of food followed by planning on where to live that depends or whether the couple is traditional or modern. With colonialism and the introduction of Christianity the role of our traditions as black people and people of African descent was disrupted leaving us trying to conform to the western or European cultural norms and standards that continue to put us at a disadvantage as we cannot meet standards that we were never supposed to conform to. We have our own unique practices, customs, religions and expression that needs to be reabsorbed in order to have a better understanding of who we were and where to go from. Yes, there's a mess but that's what happens when generations of people are disrupted and forced out of their own lands and used and mistreated.
Black women seem happy to remain in "friends with benefits" relationships and are willing to let men have the goodies without any kind of true commitment.
Good for you my Sista, it took Big Ta Ta's to speak up! Thank you for being open & honest! You likely peed in some folks parade, but it needed to be said!
I think it's juat time to admit that the rank and file BW doesn't want marriage. They want kids but not marriage. 🤷🏾♂️ I think BM need to spend more time on the women that actually want marriage and that will include looking outside the community. Let these women have what they want.
Zero lies. No matter how many times they are told, they still dont change. We now have Sexy Red....
Black society is crumbling and BW are destroying it..whore, jezebel, and narcissistic traits rule these women...also they have bought into this western society / government hook, line, and sinker.😮
Who isn't even sexy!
True, they don't change. Just gets worse.
@@mtuflani1295 💯
Facts. I’m BEYOND GOOD ON THEM.
They choose money, fame and so called power over a husband. If the choice is between a man and their “Bag” they so silly they choosing the bag!
My buddy saw a poll where a BW can have a man with money, but hardly around and will cheat OR have a good man making about $60Kyr, takes care of you and never cheats. It went 50/50 the women chose money and a cheating man.
The way they worship money is ungodly and it isnt our way as a race. What alot of bw are doing seeing them folks currency as some type of God is demonic
Why you think they want to be with the athletes and rappers? Cause of the money. Even chris brown said he wouldn't get married because of what he worked hard for he will not give up half of it to a women that didn't build with him doubt I honestly don't blame him
Much appreciated comment. I believe the damage too severe to fix. One day black women in America will get their wish. We'll be gone. Thanks for being one of the few Diamonds out there!
@jaysouthmusic8230 😎GREED
Foreign women didn't convince black men to be passport bros; black women convinced black men.
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Fit, feminine and friendly, that’s the basics, let’s start there.
That plus "Whats my money is my money and what's his money is my money". Thats another mistake. If we as men didn't say let's get married its not her money. If she's not putting a ring on him and not doing it just for the wedding then no. Like Shaq said when he came to the NBA "I got 10 fingers and no rings ". If she's not wanting to be a frfr wife and only doing to be cute in a wedding gown them the stats are going to get even more worse
Correct 💯 💯 💯
KS words still ring true today.
The best stratagem ever devised: "Divide and conquer"
@@edwardflounoy7207 It's because a thief doesn't want to be stollen. She came in the relationship for his money, now she thinks he also came in for her money, yet the man genuinely loves her for her and not because of what money she has. So she keeps her money for only herself, not for the wellbeing of the marriage together with the man's income. She from the beginning came into the relationship with a flawed motivation not genuine love for the man and his best wellbeing.
My nephew in Atlanta is 5’9” and he was too short for BW until they find out he’s a lawyer. He and his (Honduras) wife just had their first child and she's at home chilling in their 800K gated home. His first time ever dating outside his race at age 33.
Please don't be offended, but I wonder how many of them he chose not to marry, but have s*x with. Often men know who they're gonna marry, but they don't until they're ready. Until then, they get their groove on with women who don't know that's their ultimate plan.
Black women should learn one thing about "men moving differently"':
Don't give away your gift to a guy who's just gonna grift!
The BW who rejected him will be the first to complain that successful BM only chose WW.
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It’s crazy because I’m 5’9 and sometimes I have problems sometimes I don’t
That's what they get
They not gonna listen, they not even going to watch the video… as a matter of fact they will report this video…”You BW shaming” 😂
LOL… I Love this comment
💯. She’s speaking facts but we know the majority of modern ABW will NOT let go of the ego and avoid logic as much as possible.
Got my passport, and African women are better.
Facts!
My son just married a Italian woman and they have one son together she's a good mother and wife maybe black women can learn from foreign women on how to keep a good man but their ego smh
No I didn’t it’s just I was raised by my daddy so this don’t offend me cause I haven’t done it
They understand the perspective of a man, they just don't care.
It’s your attitude and ego period.
Bingo 💥 💥 💥
No one cares 😂. It's been a wrap..
Don't forget they killed half the community
Nope it's what DeeDee said.
Promiscuity and ratchetness too don't forget that
They aren’t very nice.
Yal are on the bottom of the totem pole so who cares. Except my guy he isn’t.
@@Frugal637 Bottom of what exactly? BM make more money than BWon average. BM are more desired for marriage than BW according to marriage rates. BM are not at the bottom of online desirability amongst other men dating wise. WM make $5,000 more than us per year on average. But, WM have better help mates than us within their ingroup… without having to date out. We’re achieving all this while being burdened with the worst performing ingroup helpmates a man can have. Give us better helpmates and we smash through those barriers.
It could be you.
You don't sound nice either
@@MenBeingHappyI thought black women out earned black men can you show me proof where black men out earns black women?
Some "Black Women" are very difficult just don't want to work together with a man period.
Oh Keisha will work for Brad, Diego, shing bing, but Daquan hell no… unless he’s a scammer a hood booger or a typical pookie then yeah otherwise she will be submissive for the other nations and I say fk em. God will destroy these wicked Eves 🤷🏽♂️
Stop saying "some" when we know that it's a lot of them. When you're trying to talk to a black female in public or online she will immediately try to shame/embarrasse you. This is their thing.
A BLACK man. They'll more than work with anyone else
Bruh this is so true one day I was in the mall parking lot and am at full of black women tried to hit me and they drove off thinking that shiz was funny
I grew up in a majority white country town there’s not a day I feel like my life is in danger but when I’m in the city my interaction with black women and some men are often difficult
@spankbuda3769 I respect your comment....but it's not all that's why i say some...got-it
As a blackman i find this a bit disingenuous, i think the thug culture has an impact too. Disrespectful, and no accountability. It can be male or female. None of it will change untill we stop celebrating hood culture/gehtto mentality. We come up last in a lot of statistics.
Amen.
Thank you sir.
True that
Delusional. Most black men don't act like thugs but many of the BW embrace being ghetto.
Lets just be real. A lot of them aren’t nice people. They’re not nice to anyone. Not even to each other. Nobody wants to marry that.
“Thank You!” for sharing
❤️🖤💚
@@GodBlessTheChild1 Hallelujah!
THAT COMBATIVE ATTITUDE AND MOUTH
BINGO!
Absolutely 💯
🏆
GET EM!
That alone is a turn off for me especially being the peaceful dude I am
Bw know exactly why those reasons are there.
Thank you! They also know that they're the main problem.
Then they have the nerve to wonder why Black Men choose to marry women outside of their race. JS
That's what I was thinking.
I’m not married because I married twice. 1-Black & wealthy & 1-White & poor-(both) were mean angry & selfish & controlling. Now, I’ve been single for 22- yrs. I’m married to peace & prosperity now(.)
It’s time to slow down. No sex before marriage. Getting to know people for the purpose of marriage.
Prioritize shared values, shared interests, and shared goals.
Folks are too into the good time and not the lifetime.
Facts
Amen
You are right. Parents need to teach their children these things...but most don't.
The answer is very clear and has been discussed by many people
You're NOT LISTENING
Agree 100%. They can hear you, but their not listening.
The "pyramid" is spectacular for many reasons. the top of it speaks for itself---on many physical and spiritual levels.
Thank you
Ask women who are successful in marriage instead of asking other women who are not married.
I paid 3 years child support for a child that wasn’t mine. I will never be the same again
I know a BM who paid child support on two babies that weren't his. Yet, that didn't turn him away from WW. Btw, it was a WW that duped him into thinking the babies were his, and they weren't.
Sooo you're blaming alllll BW because of ONE?? Because you were too stupid to get a DNA test? ....im sure there were signs of her character eg. Multiple babies already...
I paid child support for 4 years myself, so I feel you on that.
@@garrettsanders2696 that pain goes deep my brother
That is the ultimate betrayal. My bf ex tried to do that to him. She continued summing him to courts in different states in hopes he wouldn’t show so they can make him father by default. These women are shameless! Brother you don’t deserve no crap like that
It’s because of heavy body weights, no discipline, over talking or cutting off men, disrespectful behavior and disrespectful ways they talk to men.
Another big reason is the Government has become their provider, the simple fact they can get by on the dole and they don't want a man to be a head of the house. Attitudes would change if all the free stuff stopped.
yes, and divorce laws change.
Bingo 👍
The government provides more than the average bm will nowadays. Sad facts
Some of that is true however, in reality a black man with a 4 year degree and no criminal record has less job opportunities than a white with no degree and a criminal record,,,so that fact has to be considered in how all of this dysfunction in the African American community
U got young blk men 18,19 realizing they must leave country to find love. I find it easier to talk to white, Ethiopian, African, Philippino woman
“Filipino 👈🏽🥺
It's the truth and I'm in the aame boat of thinking I might find love overseas let alone outside my race
Exactly 💯
@@jaysouthmusic8230 plz don’t be fooled a lot of those women use American men. Black men have the highest divorce rate of any same race couple. Plus black men have an even higher divorce rate when they marry a different race. Just take your time and do not under any circumstances marry because of race and foreign status. Like I tell my sons just take your time. The right woman will come
Whites literally have the highest divorce rate besides lesbian couples lmao BM literally dint Marty just have extended gfs but the highest divorce rate is lesbians like why come on here and lie what road to nowhere agenda do you have lmaoo 😂
Divorce Laws Favor Women.. Men' are saying No
Most are defiant & extremely promiscuous. Also very superficial. & most only want to get married after they get old & have been in the streets for years.
They want to offer top notch men their mental damage and used virginia.
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I'm going through a divorce now because of half of that list.
Dang, you didn't see those traits before the marriage.?
@@StudentOfLife365that's what I'm saying I see traits before I even consider dating them and I dodged so many bullets
I would say the main reason is the lack of respect for the black man. We get that enough from the world, and the older we get, we won't tolerate it in our home. A woman has to be your peace.
Hella facts
Facts
If men aren’t responsible for women’s happiness why do women need to be responsible for men’s peace?
@@Mrs.704 Cuz that's yall job.
Exactly!
Charm school for women, leadership school, manhood school for men. This should be a standard in life.
I have been saying that for years. I would start one if I won the lottery.
They won’t show up because they know everything.
Wouldn’t be needed if women chose to have babies by men that want to be dads and allow them to be dads.
That's "pay tree archy." They don't want that. They want chaos. They want to be able to do whatever they want to do, without regard for anyone nor accountability for themselves. Order is oppression to them.
@POFs_Tuxedomask or they "think " they know everything
That list is 1M% accurate
Not 1 milli % accurate 😅😅
@bradleycampbell245
For damn sure!
Refusal to build is the truth. All the BW at college are ignoring me and the other guys studying Cyber Security because we aren't hood enough! The one's who aren't with athletes are with Pookies!
They'll approach you at the class reunion, and they'll get upset when you don't show the same interest that you showed during college.
@@JamFanHot Shit I'll have married an African woman or an Afro-Latina by then.
Dont be surprised when you receive insults from these women as you have success in your career. I say this because I have worked as an IT project nanager and made 6 figures. I have let women know I have standards. Usually once I communicate what my standards are I am laughed at, told that no woman will ever want me, called gay, or other insults. When I ask them dont you have a standard for men when it comes to how much money he makes, the double standard knows no limit. Not all BW are like this but quite a few are. All I can say is I am glad I got my passport.
They'll regret their decision one day. You're in a great field. I'm in IT myself and it's very lucrative. Don't lose your focus and stay the course brother.
@dred9175 those BW are doing you a favor to stay on your purpose and know your value in IT Cyber security supersede a secure future and laundry list of options different race of women domestic or internationally GOD speed 👍
The problem w/ alot of black women is the same problem w/ alot of young black men, especially those that come from low income backgrounds is the fact that alot our people wear a non-caring attitude like its a badge of honor and they disregard the fact that when you act like you dont care about nothing but yourself you usually end up w/ nothing but yourself...our community is in disarray bc it is literally a race to the bottom
Exactly
So true, the young black boys behave like their mothers. 😢
Gotta make a million a year, own ten houses, ten businesses, become superman, have 10 inches, let them cheat in peace, buy gifts everyday, be a drug dealer, and a scammer to date these women😭😭😭
In other words almost be a superhuman dude that she CREATED in her mind but it's obviously unrealistic. That's how most of them think too
@@jaysouthmusic8230exactly 😂😂😂but they bring nothing to the table
and they only bring along other men's children.
Go to the root of the problem the Enemies designed this a long time ago it’s was designed for us as a people . And it worked !
BINGO!!!!😂😂😂
Willie lynch letters explains this very well.
Many BW don't require it or run away from it.
Mindsets are fucked up. And have a huge self sabotage problem especially when dating someone better then there used too.
Facts
Amen preach 🙏
💯💯💯💯💯
The unacceptable women are currently listening to this and say, "but what about the men"?. This post is about you ladies. Accountability/Kryptonite.
Thank you.👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿
Would these women be able to go overseas and pick up a man for a long term relationship? The answer is no. That says everything and why its not men that are the problem.
Least married and most divorced demographic. That's the crazy thing
I was shocked when I first found that out so my chances of marrying a black women of my standards is very slim to none and that's my reality and I'm young too which is more scary
As a Black man married to a Black woman for 31 years I can tell you that the Black woman is still the best woman for marriage when she doesn’t allow herself to get caught up in the World Standards of what a relationship should be. Black men still want a Sweet, kind, feminine woman the loves God and really want to marry a Black man.
Nope, Asian.
You been married for 31 years! You got the best. This new generation it not wife material. They carrying too much baggage and baby daddy drama!!
Facts and the very sad part well known as embarrassing part too is that they claim to be Big Boss chicks and queens when most of them are still single and millions of the millions of men are shying away and staying away as well
Shying away? More like running away.
@@darnelltucker9163😂
@@darnelltucker9163 Exactly I agree haha 😂
Them “boss chicks” be wanting men to pay their bills too😒😭
Most of em dont even b boss chicks. They spending their $$$ on material things and driving themselves n2 debt
Attitude is top of mind. If you present to be unapproachable then you won't be approached. Wearing trauma and negativity as a badge of honor is not a recipe for success.
Unfortunately there are alot of broken homes in the black community. Women leading households where the mom, grandmother or aunt is bitter at one man that did them wrong and it’s projected on their children. Also there’s no accountability for bad behavior because no one gets corrected or punished for their actions. It doesn’t help that the image of black women is projected poorly by negative stereotypes and modern celebrities both male and female.
I’m tired of men blaming woman and women blaming men. It’s really simple if everyone hold their self accountable we would be in a far better place
I sincerely agree!
#11 Lack accountability
Some will argue that this should have definitely been on the list ✊🏾
Bingo 👍 accountability is their kryptonite
That's all women let's be real lol
All roads lead to Narcissism
Modern women and black modern women think a man should be honored just to be in their presence. With such a mindset they have no reason to work and prioritize "being a good wife" not just being married.
when i was a teenager ( a young man) my mother literally told me the exact thing, "I should just be glad a woman let you in her presence." She said i need to worry about all I can do for a woman and not what a woman can do for me. Thats when she told me about being grateful for having a woman at all. i was like wow!!! dont get it twisted, i am fine....face and body
I, overall, agree with the list. This is all wrapped into not prioritizing marriage and only seeing it as an escape from bad decisions. You watch KendraG, it's mostly a bunch of women thinking of marriage as an escape from poor life and financial choices.
You forgot one: Don’t have nothing to offer.
Their body but everyone already had it so there’s not much value in it 😂
@@ReceptiveKing93 You get older and focused on goals, pum pum becomes a wasted opportunity.
I see no lies here.
This is so true and that list hit the nail on the head, we’re the only race that acts this way.
I have never seen other cultures/races state: I’m a boss bit.., I don’t need a man, and be so aggressive and have no feminine qualities.
My grandmother femininity demanded respect without saying a word.
To become successful and to create generational wealth, we must learn to work with each other, black men are not the enemy.
I hate to say, but this is why passport bro’s are so successful, other cultures are raising wives, we are raising single mothers and broken families.
Black men would love a black woman, but you have to change your ways.
Ok, please don’t bring the shame, insult, guilt, and the need to be right, just listen to the video and soak it in.
Its mostly the mouth and attitude
Say that again!
Issue i deal with is being able to provide and care for their children but never criticize or discipline them. I will never deal with a single mother again.
Marriage is a bad deal for men in this day and age.
The list is very accurate about the western black women and I'd like to add, loud and vulgar in public. Men of any race or nationality are looking for "wives". So until older black women start teaching the young black women about who and what a "wife" is the marital graph will keep showing decline instead of an upswing. Black men you can help fix this if you will work on yourselves, set goals, focus and achieve them. Also raise your standards and expectations, don't waiver and eventually the black women will have to wake up and make themselves into ladies, not queens.
Very bad...i did it...very bad
@@haroldwhyte1633yea I doubt it.
A lot of people feel this way unfortunately including women and they don’t want kids, I’m married with children but my biggest issue having them is I’m constantly worried about their future and my husband works a lot and I’m worried about him too.
But whoring is better?
We grew up in the same type of house holds but men never was told they don’t need a women…
Them attitudes are extremely bad. I wouldn't hire them either. Bad attitudes with customers.
Oh they act right with they white bosd
Not all black women have bad attitudes. It's a shame u think we are all the same, and deny good people work because u assume we all have a nasty attitude
@AnonymousX-r7x give me you honest percentage estimation? Id say in current days as of today 80% of them all have this nasty bad attitude thing.
@AnonymousX-r7x black women have horrible attitudes at work, relationships, with parents, friends, siblings and anytime say something isn't going as planned they sass off to random strangers. Horrible at customer service too. You can tell when you are dealing with a black woman on the phone because of the aggressiveness nature of how they speak to other people they assume are black too. Black men are not hard to deal with. As long as a black man is jealous of you or something to do with a woman he likes or is with you are pretty much cool with them. I can honestly say I've interacted with every style of black men from the corny boogee type to the full blown gangster killer type. As long as you talk to them with respect they generally will have a calm demeanor. A black woman can be unprovoked and it will come out in any circumstances. They are extremely childish and lack logic and can't see the word outside of their own personal self. Very combative too.
Id like 2 add
#11: unrealistic expectations n men i.e must b over 6ft and make 6 figures
#12: wanting 2 spend their 20s wanting 2 party
#13: chasing after guys who only 1 em 4 1 nite or 4 1 thing yet friendzoning da men who actually have their best interests at heart
#14: watching 2 much reality tv and think what they c is real life so they fall n luv w/da lifestyle they c on them shows
#15: 2 busy on social media flirting w/other WOMEN and ignoring da men and even waiting 4 a man 2 approach em n their dm just so they can "expose them."
#16: 2 busy listening 2 their single friends
#17: dont wanna give up recieving likes on ig etc from complete strangers just 2 build a relationship/marriage
You have some good items that could/should be on the list ✊🏾
These additions are right on point. Another one would be waiting till they're in their 40s with a million and one children and lots of emotional baggage to settle down.
@@davidhinkson8856 No thank you 😂
Its 2024, we've told them multiple times. Why do they keep asking the same questions over and over
We are already at the bottom so how can we be racing to the bottom😂😂😂😂😂
Yes, yes, yes. I agree with just about everything you said & what's on the "list". I'm a black man that grew up in a 2 parent household, in the "Hood", with very limited resources. One aspect of how my parents influenced me and brothers & sisters was to expose us to different socio-economic areas within our city. We quickly learned that we weren't destined to live our entire lives in "the Hood" (we saw many prominent black people living in upscale areas, that were Doctors, lawyers, Engineers etc). Also, they let us know that the only thing that stood between us and fulfilling our dreams was excelling in academics, so that's what we did. When I speak with black people today that are growing up, or raising children under similar circumstances, I don't feel the "drive" or "thirst" to succeed. It's not easy, but it can be done, but the person has to want it.
Firstly, your parents put their children behind the 8-ball when knowing that they shouldn't have been procreating when they didn't have the money nor the resources to provide. But instead your parents rely on outside strangers resources to provide their children. And also, you're talking about this drive that you're seeing lack of within these children is because of single parent households that they're coming out of and these single parents themselves don't have any drive do to them depending on the government handouts. Just because there's 2 parents doesn't mean they're actual parents who are educated to be parents. Most people today shouldn't be having children. For what? We're not living in the early part of the 1900's building America.
@@spankbuda3769 "Only A Kicked Dog Squeals". Lol...I must've hit a nerve. Can you actually read?, or did you have someone read my comments for you? Either way, you interpretation skills are clearly operating on remedial level (...Are you keeping up so far? I'll provide you with a definition of remedial at a later time). My parents "exposing" their children to something other than environments, simply refers to them showing us that the world doesn't begin and end within the confines of our neighborhood. At this point, I would generally imply you were simply ignorant, but I've concluded that you are far beyond that threshold. You're just stupid ("Stupid" - Having or showing a great lack of common sense". example - "You were stupid enough to actually think you could win this argument"). So, if you need any further assistance comprehending basic English, start with something you can handle, like "The Cat And The Hat" or "George The Monkey Found An Apple". I think you could probably comprehend those (..if you had a little help from any 2nd grade Teach. School is out for the summer, so they should be available). Now, get back in your lane, your very slow lane, before you embarrass yourself any further. I've got better things to do then teach someone in their forties or fifties how to read and interpret basic grammar. You're Dismissed.
You have been gratefully blessed you and your siblings. However , most african american households today in america don't have both mommy and daddy. It is unfortunate that women today believe that they can actually be both mother and father. No greater lie has ever been told.
Agree. Finish high school. Get a degree. Get a job. Get a husband. Get a house… then get a baby!!
Too many young black women get this all wrong. They are too sexually active! Get pregnant by some selfish, immature, pleasure seeking sperm doner. Then want a good husband!!😳 really!!!
Its About To Get Real Worst For Black Women And Its Only The Universe Shooting Out Karma On How They Did Men
Worse it what way! Genuinely asking!
They're going to witness their maker wrath/vengeance upon them. For them to worship the devil ways and to use it towards their innocent children is a punishable offense.
@@spankbuda3769 you think so
@@spankbuda3769they wont get punished or held accountable in this country. It's set up that way. The only thing we can do is abandon them.
@@Loveispeacej Yes! They're worshiping the 7 deadly sins, over sexualized behavior, and this obsession with fake hair weaves/wigs. Isaiah 3 explains their behaviors and punishment which is happening.
Thats why as a young black man myself I dont see myself marrying a black women in the near future especially after the last 2 black women i dated ended in toxicity and the last black women i talk to stood me up, im mentally tired at this point. Unless God performs some kind of miracle, i dont see myself marrying a black woman anymore based on how i was treated poorly with no remorse
It’s not like we haven’t been telling them for the past two decades
Brother, it's been going on for about five decades.
@@keithsmith8543Pull up that Rolanda episode. Pull up the Ricki Lake. Pull up the Oprah. Pull up the Vivica's, and Traci Ellis Ross', and Viola's, and Bassets. Pull up the TLC. Pull up the morning shows on the radio. Pull up the Comic View. Pull up the BET awards speeches. Open em up like the IRS at the door!
@@johnserosanguineous1886 I remember those days vividly. They were all about one thing: MISANDRY.
@@keithsmith8543 this is true
Furthermore, my parents were never married. I learned tremendous amount about manhood from my biological dad and my stepdad. Both of these men stayed closed to me. My biological took me to work with him at an early age. I understood that this is the way to earn a living for yourself and family. I only knew this way. Still today I have great work ethics and earn six figures, have for some time. My stepdad taught me how to treat woman. I would observe the working relationship between Mom and him. She had the vision, and he would build from her vision. They were a great team. He passed. And wow I am tearing up now remembering how awesome their relationship was. How an important role that played in my life. It would be fortunate if I can share what I learned from my upbringing with a Black woman. I have tried. But it seems as if they were not prepared. The thing that they all have in common: They're ALL College Graduates. I am attracted intelligent Black women. Fyi, my stepdad married my mom. Her first and only marriage. Very happy for my mom after years of not receiving it from my other Dad.
Nat, I enjoyed your comment. Thank you for posting.
U forgot obesity
That was said twice
Modern women in general want a PERFECT man when they are not perfect themselves!🤷🏽♂️
Preach 🙏
Before I watch the video. What's not listed. Highest rate of unnecessary parental alienation.
What does "unnecessary parental alienation" mean? Honestly, i dont understand the unnecessary part.
@@dredey1971, I guess you are correct. There's never a reason to parentally alienate a parent.
@@colinscrypto3307 I dont know what you mean by unnecessary. Parental Alienation happens. I am unsure it is ever necessary. But i am sure since this is the internet, someone would defend it.
I am just asking for an explanation about the unecessary part. You know your thoughts when you used the word. I was curious to see those words altogether and wondered what you meant by it. That is all.
@@dredey1971It's never necessary. They're the worst mothers and they get to keep the kids. Even if they lose custody, they are hardly ever denied visitation.
@@KtotheG , I have one male family member that got custody of his kids. What did his ex-wife due? Set fire to his house while he and the children were inside.
You are absolutely gorgeous and I’m not being stereotypical Simp. From your skin to your attitude to your hair to the way, you stare at the camera you got it going on. Whatever man who has captured your heart already that must be one of the standard great black men or whatever. Have a blessed day, queen.
even if they were not taught to be a wife or about marriage, why about the attitude????
unwillingness to change, can't take accountability.
Epigenetics and generational trauma is real. Willie Lynch's program is still in full effect. Until WE (black men and women) learn to confront the problem, forgive, and love each other WE are doomed.
Exactly. Black women were taught to disrespect the black man because those in power feared him. If you destroy the man, you destroy the family; if you destroy the family, you destroy the community. Soon, you destroy an entire generation. But now that we all know this, what are we doing about it?
Lack of self awareness; especially when lacking skills for a functional marriage.
IT'S CHOICE NOT EXPOSURE OR CULTURE...
No, DeeDee if the importance of marriage not being taught is why black women are not married how is it black women focused on higher education, home ownership, and financial independence. I dont recall the black households black women came from pushing these social achievements either.
With church attendance being very common and popular anong black women how was the sanctity and purpose of marriage was missed in sermons and bible school? And when these same black women grew up and were exposed to the wider world with radio, television and even the internet how can you claim marriage was a foreign concept to black women?
No, black women are the most unmarried not because they weren't aculturized or exposed. Black women beginning in the 1970s WENT THEIR OWN WAYS an abandoned traditional family values out of ego and selfishness. Black society has normalized the antisocial anti family and anti male attitudes and practices of black women.
I'm none of these things listed yet I'm still single lol.
Too many single black mammas. No one wants that.
Say that louder for the people in the back. Too many black single mothers and they better not come my way either
I know both married and unmarried Black women. My friend is Jasmine is 42 and working on her doctorate degree and she said she is single because she is not going to lower her standard. Jasmine told me that she was told by men that she is too smart.
A doctorate degree doesn't make a wife.
To your friend Jasmine I ask, "why are women from other ethnicities, including African nations , who have obtained their doctorates, are married? They are able to wed, complete their degree program, and work to support their family. Too many black American women use their educational attainment as an excuse for failing to lock down a husband.
I used to see many women of other races encouraging questionable behavior and calling black women queens but they themselves never carryon in such a manner. I always wondered why some black women never caught on to that.
I am the product of an African-American mother and a Puerto Rican father 🇵🇷. I stopped dealing with black women back in early 2018. My life has been great not dealing with them. I'd rather deal with my other half, Latinas! They are good women and they love a good Brother. My own mother is a MAJOR reason why I'd never ever take another black woman seriously. I truly understand why my father left my mother!
Take them all down with your mother. I get it
It's a shame that u feel this way since ur half black but if that's how u feel i can't tell u otherwise. Do consider we are not a monolith and we have great black women out there ❤
“Oh chile, we some of the biggest people out here.” 😂🤣😂😂🤣
She's not lying thought all my times I been at the gym I never seen one black women in the gym, let alone black women my age in the gym and that's embarrassing. I would date a woman that doesn't like to work out and live a healthy lifestyle, let alone a black woman sorry not sorry #healthiswealth
Hi Dee Dee, I am watching you from England. As a 58 year old man, I can tell you the key to attracting a man from a woman’s point of view. Home comforts are very important to men. Traditional values like putting a meal on the table every night when he comes home from work. Be kind and loving with your choice of words. Men have a fragile ego that needs to be stimulated in order for him to feel good about you. If you start putting him down or keep criticising him, that’s a big turn off for most men. These women have to take a step back and get into the feminine role. Most women don’t recognise what that looks like that’s why they can’t do it. Thanks Alan 😊
She's a high value woman and she deserves a prince
Nobody feels like arguing after dealing with the world. Where does a man find peace
Exactly and most men find peace in the gym or sitting in their car
I have been married to my Black man going on 30 years. My parents were married 63 years before my dad died in March of 2024.
I can answer this question. I married 3 Black women. The first Black women invested more in being seen to her friends than our marriage. She spent lots of my money showing off to her "so-called" church friends. How many designers' clothes she has. In addition, she cheated on me with her church "best friend". Divorced! The 2nd Black women allowed her entire family to violate our house new house, or should I say my new house_ I purchased solo because her dad messed up her credit paying for his extracurricular activities anytime, they felt like it. Eating all the food I payeed for, running up the AC bill and trashing my home. A total disrespect to me her husband. I kicked everybody out and divorced immediately. The 3rd and last Black women, who is trying to be with me now just had a lack of respect for me. I, believe it or not, taught her how to keep house, cook, clean, manage her daughters. She never had to pay a bill. I made plenty of money to take care of everyone. I attended both girls HS games. All of them even the games Mom did not go to. I never question her. I thought I was being a good husband. I still suspect cheating. However, she stated she did not know how to be a wife. What??? I have not given up on women. I just took myself out of Black women dating pool. I date outside my race. Its too bad, because my preference has been and will always be Black women. However, you make it to hard to be with you.
Sad but true.
Black women, black males wanted to marry you. But they want more than a wedding, they want a marriage. If you want to be married, find a man who cares about you, and learn to cooperate with him. You will get married. Then work for the relationship and raise successful kids.
There standards are low. Stop giving a man everything you have to offer who isnt your husband. Who isnt investing in you
My thing is, when black men got criticized for sagging pants, vernacular etc... half of us cleaned up our act. Bw don't take constructive criticism well at all. The more we say you don't look desirable in a bonnet, the more bonnets they wear.
Exactly and I never sagged in my life and I still got disrespected by black women because they thought I was some pushover
Natural rebellious spirit. We can thank Eve for that.
Our black women lead in all the negativite categories 😢
ARGUMENTATIVE, COMBATIVE, REBELLIOUS, DISRESPECTFUL, HARD-HEADED, AND U CAN'T TELL THEM CHIT‼️
Ok…I just clicked on your clip and I can tell you if more black woman oresented themselves like you, without tattoos covering 40% of their body, without Freddy cougar claw fingernails, with out over the top paint brush eye lashes, without pounds of Gaudy jewelry all over the head, nose, lips six hole pierced ears, unnatural looking hair/weave that does not match there own hair and loud clown pink, blue, green colored hair, super tight over revealing spandex clothes to the point of looking like they are naked. I look at you and you should be the standard for young black lady’s, you are classy, cute, modest and clean looking and you carry yourself with respect and dignity unlike many others..
Lack of accountability
Let's just keep it 💯at this point they don't even care! So why should we?
White guy here...I got called a racist once for not having a preference to date black women and the reasons why were all listed in the thumbnail lol Why would anybody subject themselves to that?
Might have the highest divorce rate as well.
They actually do I did research black marriages have the highest divorce rate out of all races which didn't surprise me at all
Black man here - so many of these are facts. But you CAN NOT criticize BW about anything… weight for example no reason why 55%+ are overweight.. makes it very tough.
Come with their hand out, like we are the government or some other free program they are used to.
Right ✊🏾
"6. Disregards Global Ethic Image"
This is absolutely correct.
Never in life have I tried to hold a black woman accountable or given a black women constructive criticism without her rejecting it, her trying to flip it back on me or just straight gas lighting.
Black encompasses so many things at once, it can be cultures, traditions and experiences. I think as someone who is African, Zimbabwean. The concept of marriage and its practices are of 'white or western culture.' It is easier to conform to the ideal white wedding when you are in more proximity to white culture or standards. As a black woman myself, marriage in my culture is just two people coming together, there is a bride price for appreciation of the woman's value or beauty or whatever to her parents and this indicates the groom's financial stability and ability to support his bride. No rings, no honey just a celebration, with drinks and lots of food followed by planning on where to live that depends or whether the couple is traditional or modern. With colonialism and the introduction of Christianity the role of our traditions as black people and people of African descent was disrupted leaving us trying to conform to the western or European cultural norms and standards that continue to put us at a disadvantage as we cannot meet standards that we were never supposed to conform to. We have our own unique practices, customs, religions and expression that needs to be reabsorbed in order to have a better understanding of who we were and where to go from. Yes, there's a mess but that's what happens when generations of people are disrupted and forced out of their own lands and used and mistreated.
I'll add one. 11 inability to self correct.
Black women seem happy to remain in "friends with benefits" relationships and are willing to let men have the goodies without any kind of true commitment.
We are unwanted
Most Marriage minded men that grew up in single mother households actually seen the BS and tried to be better. The women try to be like their mothers
Good for you my Sista, it took Big Ta Ta's to speak up! Thank you for being open & honest! You likely peed in some folks parade, but it needed to be said!
I think it's juat time to admit that the rank and file BW doesn't want marriage. They want kids but not marriage. 🤷🏾♂️
I think BM need to spend more time on the women that actually want marriage and that will include looking outside the community. Let these women have what they want.
Oh they want marriage, they just don't wanna be wives!!! That's the difference and they think it's the same thing.
I agree
List is pretty accurate! The one you missed is most women believe they are always right about whatever comes out of their mouth. That’s a problem.