Dating as a Manifestor in Human Design

[@lisawood1056]

Also, rejection truly is protection, and our person won’t judge or be weird if we initiate. Our person won’t ghost. I hate being ghosted and putting myself out there, but apparently we are meant for this.

[@csharris2001]

As a 6/2 mani… I love when females inform me so that i can plan stuff. i never think someone initiating convo or desires is desperate. sooo refreshing. It definitely makes me feel wanted. The hard part is i just seem to trigger people by asking questions in relationships.

[@iamjilliancole]

I love your perspective, thank you for sharing it!!

[@HandlenastyUchiKage]

Rather than worrying about other people’s perception of your approach and they thinking your desperate; initiate anyway and whoever is meant for you won’t look at it that way. They will look at you as courageous. I know it’s easier said than done. However you can do it, and don’t let the world dim your light because they’re judging, if they’re judging you for putting yourself out there, they probably aren’t for you anyway.

[@mokenmarsai]

Came here after realizing guys who like me have been waiting around for me to initiate. Lol. Kept wondering why I was being friendzoned by men who clearly enjoy being around me. Only to hear years later they liked me. My approach is to just be open with my feelings and allow them to act or not act. I do have a challenge though because I imagined this fairytale waiting to be swept off my feet. What helps me is most guys who "reject" me are graceful. I trust I have good judgement and if a guy is unkind to me after being vulnerable, I don't take it personal.
There's nothing wrong with desiring a relationship. We don't shame people when they desire friends, so why do we do that with romantic love?
Thanks for sharing ❣️

[@iamjilliancole]

ah I LOVE that, thank you for sharing your thoughts and experience on this!

[@mokenmarsai]

I believe we can find a feminine way to initiate. Think about that old trope, the woman drops her handkerchief and the guy rushes to let her know she dropped it. They strike up a convo. He asks her out. The thing they don't tell you is that she saw the guy first, and strategically created a scenario for connection. Then accepted the invitation.

[@iamjilliancole]

@@mokenmarsai oooh I LOVE that example makes so much sense too, who really was the initiator in that scenario...LOVE ❤

[@gracelewis6071]

I'm realizing this too...

[@starlux00]

as a 6/2 mani w basically all left facing arrows, i GET the control and need for space + the love for solitude even in public space. it is empowering to mind our own business while also being nice friends or partners, as women we should not forget to exists at our own pace w no shame. ive been practicing it and ive never felt more cool. truly life changing to plan ur life based on U

[@WendyJDenver]

I'm a 4/6 mani too. I've been dating again later in life and this really resonates with me. I crave connection but am not sure I could ever live with someone again. It feels really restrictive. Love learning about HD to make sense of it all.

[@iamjilliancole]

Hi Wendy! I can totally understand the living with someone and restriction bit yet craving connection and navigating what that looks like in a relationship!

[@CarmenVasi]

Hey soul sister. I am also a 4/6 Manifestor Women, we want to find freedom and Love. Yes. We are a rare kind of 9percent it is difficult for the rest to understand us. We are to fast.. we learn through trial and error..hard..hope there is freedom in the end.

[@iamjilliancole]

love that. So nice to read your comment! I'm sorry it took me FIVE months to reply lol!

[@user-dv1ir9nc5o]

very honest share, powerful. consider swapping ‘assertive’ and ‘receptive’ for ‘masculine’ and ‘feminine’ Similarly, you may want to explore connections with pure generators and projectors.

[@harmoniousreturn]

I’m also a 4/6 (generator) and I was picking up a vibe I’ve also been feeling on the roof of my 6 line. In not really feeling like you need a partner. Mine isn’t happening that way, but what is happening is a real drive to be alone in general and it definitely feels like I’d be totally fine alone at this time. Just wanted to share. ❤

[@shimmskoopelian1218]

Omg I'm the same. I like going out by myself and people think it strange. I just like to do my own thing. Going out with other people annoys me cause I just want to do what I want

[@Grungefan2018]

Can not tell you how shocked I was recently to find out that I am a Manifestor/intitator (5/1) Being burnt out from life (childhood trauma etc) my entire life if im honest I chose the isolation path. Several years ago I just gave up. How I was born with this rare designation is beyond me given this extreme dysfunction of my life at 61 yrs old

[@khristianwilliams8746]

I'm commenting late to this video but as a splenic 5/2 male projector...lmao please initiate we need it😭😭 I'm currently talking to this mani girl and I cannot tell whether or not she likes me. I think her wanting me in her space is an answer enough.. she complains how she doesn't like awkwardness and will avoid it at all costs. But I find things to be pretty awkward between us right now. As I learn more about HD I know its not with in my right nature to initiate....but man i really like her... 😭 so I kind of just sit there and flirt with her and give her as much attention as I can untill she feels comfortable enough to do so.(only when she wants the attention though)
This goes into something you said in the video. Something along the lines of "would I be more successful / happy as the opposite sex" and sometimes i feel as tho if i were a woman.. It would be diffrent. I know this is merely due to societal norms being the way they are right now. This current situation with the mani girl is one where I wish we could switch places.
Lol. I don't care how many signs a woman shows me. The times where I have went for it and they didn't give a formal invitation but wanted to have a relationship too have never worked out for me😅
Anyway I just want to give out my experience as a male projector because at least from learning HD in a lot of ways manis and projectors are opposites in a sense. Im not a mani so I will never get it but as a projector we are basically put on this Earth to study/help other people.. Lol as annoying as it may be my mind will always analyze other people

[@BenPrindle]

Being a straight projector male, I appreciate embodied female manifestors 😂

[@Flytr567]

Men are all projectors
"Anatomically"

[@dreawearsshoes]

Initiate! Many Men love it. It surprises them too. Men who cant handle it are too insecure to be with you. 2/4 emo mani here.

[@rykarose4]

Hahaha so funny. I'm a mani female and I remember I've been chasing boys since I was like 6. I freaked out my fair share. I think mani women need really strong solid confident men. I think every relationship is different and we can't generalize one way is the best way... life is way more complex than that. If we can just all be who we are we would naturally fall into place with the right people, right tribe. Everyone is pussy-footing around. JUST BE YOURSELF. PS: You look sooooo similar to my cousin!

[@lisawood1056]

Maybe our husbands are projectors waiting for an invitation.

[@anwi1392]

I love this video because it speaks outta my heart and I can relate so much to what you‘re saying.
And when it comes to that expander- thing: I always found it more exciting to seek for „male energy“ in this situation.. especially when it comes to business matters… i don‘t know why.. but it has always been this way.
Also: OMG!😮 we have so much in common.. I‘m also a Manifestor (emotional), 4/6 Profile with right angle cross of rulership.😊

[@iamjilliancole]

that's so amazing lol! Hello! I'm so happy and grateful you shared your thoughts on this video! I'm sorry it took me NINE months to finally reply lol!

[@enajitepela]

This video just gave me my identity back. Thanks.

[@foxedrey622]

Jillian, try being a single man, who is a Projector, and must wait for the invitation! Yeah, it's an upside down world I live in too.
One clarification to provide here: The Feminine has and holds the Power (Shakti). The Masculine is to direct it (Shiva). That is how polarity works. In the current human social order, it's been inverted due to feminism. Things are out of balance right now. Men must reclaim their masculinity and recognize they control the relationships. Women select who they want to be directed by. Hence, your need to draw from men, to accomplish things.
Another point to note... I've learned that Manifestors and Projectors can hook up or be together, but the relationship that ensues will be challenging. They both don't like to be told what to do. I should know... my late father was a Projector and my surviving mother is a Manifestor. Boy did I see some conflict growing! And even with her, I can only guide her so far, and then she'll just shut down. For me, I'm still work in progress in Human Design.

[@iamjilliancole]

that's so fascinating and I love hearing the insight you have on the feminine/masculine. Really changes the way I've been looking at things. I appreciate you taking the time to share your insight! Thank you! And I can totally understand with the Mani/Projector interplay, I notice that even in friendships I have with Projectors at times. All so interesting and such a great way to learn about another Type and how to complement each other's gifts rather than compete!

[@Katrioniel]

Thanks for sharing this 🔥
All over my thoughts on 😅 I want to be myself in the relationships, and want to be with the strong one who could be able to accept me as I am

[@pascalpauwels2433]

Hello Gili,
Remember manifestors were the Kings&Queens of old ages. Now we have to act more gentle but still confident of our impacts. I sense you're in Deconditioning and reset fase :) Dating is a bit specifiek for manifestors.. Take 100 people and 8 or 9 might interest as other types might blend more easily. But it's still a challenge to find That One that ressonate truly!!
Because you're the One by/in you. Love starts there :)
As a 6/3 Role Model/Martyr Manifestor it was all about trial and error to learn to distilate the essence of being.
Jilli, focus on tour truth and filter society Old belief of man/woman polarities and Go your way.. You're you and he (the Guy) mentionned is he.. Envie other energy of person is not a manifestor Thing.. You bring it on your way.. I would like more that woman take initiative initiative on Dating theme as well.
Thats we're tour theme as initiator, informer is needed in. And single status is solethiles needed for a manifestor to enjoy XXl-time to reset from old conditioning/beliefs.
You're doing well on tour path dear.. Do Not hesitate and step by step make your reality from the heart intention.. 🎉 Greetz Pascal

[@naimavibes6340]

As a Leo and 3/5 emotional manifestor, I am not shy about approaching men. But those have been the absolute worst guys to me. The kindest men to me are always men who approach me first. Perhaps it is bc the men in my culture already call women masculine and it offends them? I wish I had advice, I just assumed romance wasn’t for me and stopped even trying 🤷🏾‍♀️ very interesting conversation!

[@ass4and8am]

Becaaause you are still different by nature chemistry and biology to. Simply being able to give birth. You can be a manifestor in every other way by initiating projects but not with men. You are black cat, they are golden retrievers. If you are too much mind driven and staying too much in masculine vibe it makes you weaker having too much testosterone your body perceive it as adrenaline what in women body gathering too much cortisol

[@ass4and8am]

“IF YOUR MAN ISN’T CHASING YOU DOWN FOR SEX DAILY - HE’S SICK.”-W/ DR. PATRICK FLYNN | The Spillover
listen to this podcast from Alex Clarke. believe me you will hear why women should not pursue man and what does that means for your body having too much stress levels caused by high level of testosterone turned into stress and having high cortisole (burnout,survival mode).
it can drain you and make you sick and lower your fertility. that's why we have periods and give birth . that's why in bad relationship you see a girl that you know from idk high school had so much kindness everybody loved to be around her simply a flower and than you see her accidently 6,7 years later with a guy in a mall saying hi but barely can smile to you how much a guy can pull you down even make you uglier than you ever were single or in relationship . instead of making her look even more flourish and glowing. its literally taking our glow and making us look sad with fake smile, because she is giving him seed instead of him, to her to be multiplied and give back. seed(soul, heart) can't spread roots for family tree in a drained soil infertile (body ) if you have only sun burning (energy) it needs still water(emotions) and oxygen for blood pressure to circle and not stoping it by feeling like someone sitting on your chest which causes body inflammationn withstored fats and bad cholesterol getting weight insecure lower self esteem feeling unworthy.
you can all go and can taking action everywhere else be that way in a world achieve it but not with a man who wont help you make your dreams (ideas) became real. but again idea can be for example actually seed that needs pouring into it to grow. you can be a dreamer and one that is its starting a project but god damn it it needs help to grow. it can but it doesn't have to make it alone. we need each other, we need people and they need us. make yourself also community around you (man friends kids) that wish you well that you can lean on too. its helping you feel accepted and blessed with much more door opened and opportunity to expand and to grow. can you even tell that you are thriving without having anyone to tell about it.
find yourself a good men.. its lonely journey if you have to drive through it alone.
if you have fears go to therapy to learn how to connect in secure way. you will know better and have somewhat strategy to be and to lead you in way you choose people around you and what you want and need as energy in your surrounding. who cares what othes think of you. what you think of you are you happy with you? do you feel lovely and blessed that you have you?
and what you actually think that people will see if you show that part of yourself to others that you hide ? speak, be and live your truth . not one can lead others by example with out courage and bravery to actually tell what you think feel and see no matter what who tells what mot*fukeeer.
to me Jordan Petterson is god of how telling truth can become so stable and making better desicions is a damn good lifestyle to have.
i love you all and wish my self the best in life, but for you even better 😇💓💌💟

[@gigiphuong8416]

I used think about this issue as well. all the dating advices doesn’t seem worked for me. recently I found out myself as a manifestor, kind of helping to explain why, but I also feel hard to practice dating as a manifestor.

[@gracelewis6071]

I relate so much to this. It's really nice to hear from another fellow female Manifestor - it is quite a potent experience.
May I ask, what is an expander? I think I might intuit the concept, but it's not one I've heard before, and it sounds like it might be an official HD thing?

[@iamjilliancole]

Hello! An expanded is a term that is more from the "To Be Magnetic" community, it refers to basically someone who is an "inspiration", or someone who has qualities or something in their life that you aspire to have/be :).

[@xavi_22]

Interesting perspective, thanks for open up and share it. Do you know about the compatibilities among HD types? I heard Manifestors ideal couple would be a Projector or Reflector 🤔 not sure.. Do you or does anyone know more about this or can recommend someone who talks about this?

[@AntonVitullo]

It be pretty difficult because of the anger problems we have .

[@iamjilliancole]

haha! This is very true 😂

[@Valeriya-lz8ko]

i am a 4/6 manifestor too and i resonate so much!!!

[@iamjilliancole]

ah that's amazing I love that!!

[@bonniemastrocola2870]

Thank you for sharing so vulnerability I am a 6/2 Manifestor
And I agree men are better expanders mostly I find other women have a hard time with a empowered female
I recently heard an interesting female Manifestor sharing her journey could be helpful for you

[@tainted5558]

Thank you for this video

[@carolinemuller-karl2111]

Yes
So sad
I share this experience

[@MzSoulll]

I'm a 3/6 35 yo manifestor. And i feel exactly the same. I love love, but i might thrive way more with being single
Re: masculine feminine, im wondering if yin and yang are better descriptors.

[@annemariewettstein7974]

👌

[@romonicasjam8070]

Wow as a fellow manifestor I feel seen 😩

[@netal2001]

😂 lol 1/3 Manifestor … of course Male… the only thing about online dating I like is I get to ℹ initiate with women who apparently are wanting to meet and date. I always hated the set up that men must Pursue… 😂 the only women that I ever got involved with had to actually take the risk and say they want to date explore relationship.. I not interested in being with someone that cannot speak up about what they want. Also given the number of male creeps hitting on women or sexually harassing them .. I never was interested in the uncomfortable feeling that so many women get because they are harassed by men hitting on them. What a crazy society 😂… I think the whole romantic myth set up leads people to waste time and energy being with people and it not working… I am a 1/3 emotional Manifestor … so I am fine with bonds made and bonds broken… I am deconditioning now so being in my strategy and authority means I have a lot more peace in dating and doing relationships…. Crazy planet

[@crazingtonvalley9426]

Interestingly i am a 1/3 emotinal manifestor, too, and i like to by claimed by women, and I prefere to be pursued

[@emrystruong2865]

Should Manifestor be with another Manifestor?

[@iamjilliancole]

I think anything can work if both people in the relationship are willing to be patient and learn about each other while continuing to learn about themselves!