Yes, I'm MARRIED | Answering Qs about My Life in Korea
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- Опубліковано 13 чер 2024
- I feel like maybe I should have picked some more positive and funnier questions for this Q&A but I wanted to finally answer some more serious questions (since last time I asked for personal questions you guys were way too polite hehe) Sorry this wasn't super fun but I hope this helped you guys get to know me a little better, and I'd love to hear your own opinions on the topics touched upon in this vid! Thanks as always and I'm really so, so grateful for all of you even if this is the first vid of mine you've watched. I know I said a few weeks ago that I was feeling restless and unhappy but I'm feeling really great now and have so many things I want to create and share with you^^ ANYWAY! Thank you thank you thank you, I will never be able to say it enough :')
Questions:
1:30 How did I get married?
3:16 When will I have kids?
4:44 Fears about starting UA-cam?
6:30 Why I deleted some old vlogs?
7:22 Imposter syndrome?
8:20 Am I affected by Korean beauty standards?
9:50 Do Korean people stare at you?
11:19 Am I religious?
12:52 Paranormal experience in Korea?
13:39 How to solo travel with anxiety?
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Sorry this wasn't the most lighthearted and fun Q&A haha but im really interested in your thoughts on these Qs too! As always, THANK YOU!!
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I loved what you had to say Cari! Especially on religion and having children of your own. I am in my early 30s and constantly feel the pressure, even when I'm firm on not wanting to have children. While unnecessary comments from friends and strangers can be super annoying, I was very surprised at the fact that I myself was pressuring myself too. It was easy for me to say I didnt want children when I was 25. It's a whole other thing in your 30s though where that decision is almost final (biology etc) you get feelings of fomo etc. Lol. I am only saying all this because I
1.love to hear from women who also choose not to have children and are living full and happy lives and
2. Because I want to give you a heads up of the questioning and doubts that may arise later. That is also normal.
Also random: but if you're ever in Germany and need a tour guide, hit me up sis 😊💜
I finally found the beat youtuber😍😍
Love your videos!! Just found your channel!! Love the q&a's!! Love you!!🎀
cari cakes You must take pictures! Even if it’s just for yourselves, family and friends. I bought my wedding dress from a thrift store (fit me like a glove), it was meant to be, but trust me, after two kids and going on 24yrs of marriage, I’m grateful I have those photos 🙌😁#mommalookedgood
I think you chose really interesting Qs! I love Q&As. Please feel free to do them anytime you'd like!
your wedding sounds amazing tbh: café, corgis, $40 vintage dress, and getting married to your best friend ♥️ goals
exactly :')
cari cakes yeah how the heck did you find a vintage wedding dress on etsy? For $40?! i think I've been living under a rock 😅
To be honest, that’s sounds like my ideal wedding I always say let’s exchange rings, go to a fancy restaurant and call it a day lol glad I’m not the only one now.
yes! hahahhaha
So true!
I wish that was the way I did it, less debt, more fun!
Certainly u are not. Same here....give me anxious to thinking to invite amounts of people(some probably I don't know very well) and get all the attention in a church or another place, in a highly emotional moment. Nahh
Same here!!!!
The societal pressure to 'WANT' kids is so exhausting. My coworker and I were talking about not wanting kids and other lady was like "whaaaat? You have to try it at least once!"
What does she meant TRY it??? Can I give it back if I don't like my free trial?
lmao WHERE DO I RETURN THIS CHILD?!
@@caricakes take it baaaack!
lmao! "Can I give it back if I don't like my free trial?" xD
Is it a "free" trail though? xP
You know, that reminds me of cat owners who don't want to spay their cats, because they think their animal "needs to experience it once". *rolling eyes*
lol. Most hospitals offer a 30-day child return policy, didn't you know?
In America you can anonymously leave a newborn at a fire station, but I think it’s only if the kid is a newborn. I think you also have to leave a birth certificate? But they didn’t really go over that in sex Ed
I think it’s hard for some people to understand that not everyone wants to have their own children. I’m 30 and perfectly content with my solitary lifestyle, and running into high school acquaintances becomes painful when they have children and ask if I’m married or seeing anyone and the “well you’ve still got time to have kids!” comments start coming out. I don’t want children of my own and I think as a society we need to get out of the habit of asking women these questions or assuming that it’s the right fit for everyone.
exaaaactly! plus with global warming who knows if we'll even have an earth for children to live on!
cari cakes exactly! I read an article a few months back that said we are already beyond the point of no return for climate change reversal, we can only slow down the severity of the warming. Our government is trying to ban single-use plastics here in Canada but even that is not enough to stop the destruction of the planet and I’m not leaving any offspring behind to deal with that mess, haha
@@jarjargreens +cari cakes One of the big arguments for me as well. And you could always adopt an existing child if you really really would want one.
On the other hand, at some point our sun is stopping producing energy and than all life will be over anyway, but yeah, in one or two generations the conditions on earth will already be really bad, I don't really want to do that to anyone. Ressource-wise we would need a second planet by 2050 if everyone would live like we do in industrialised countries, that paired with human accelarated climate change is really not a place I want to bring children into.
I think having regular Q&As isn't boring at all, I think it is good and interesting especially with your different transitions in life
^_^~ thank you!
@@caricakes so go d red
"the clothes are incorrect, your body is fine" that is something i really wish i heard a long time ago. thank you
“The clothes are incorrect, your body is fine” thanks for this Cari! I think we all need to hear it and feel better for it👏
yes!!!!
YES GURL! 🙌🏻 THE PANTS ARE TOO SMALL, NOT YOUR BODY!!!!
100000%
what about im too thin even petite clothes dont fit me? 😭 is my body still fine tho? hahahaha
@@rorygan9109 yes
I've said this and I'll say it again, thank you for everything you do ♥️ You are a light in a troubling world
thank YOU!!!!! always!!!
1) Absolutely stan the way you guys perceive marriage and the way you guys made it official - literal goals. Super chill, no big deal, marriage is just a big legal commitment so let's just sign some papers and get on w it. Yes.
2) Honestly, as a guy, I am SICK n tired when women are expected to give birth to a child. No is a no. If they don't want one, they don't want one - period. It is not an obligation, it's a choice. I personally wouldn't want to carry a heavy ass HUMAN BEING for 9 MONTHS just to take care of it further and teach it life skills for 18 YEARS. Y'all...I can't even take care of myself, what makes you think I could take care of a child...
3) 10:28...b-but we really do love your hair .w.
4) 12:20 Amen sister 12:48 YEEEES! Let's enjoy crispy, grilled and maybe burnt food in hell
this is all too kind thank youuuuuu!!!
cari, this might be weird (or wonderful), but you're one of the people i can most relate to on youtube. thank you for always being so honest! i'm just as enamored of your work as i was a few years ago. as we both change, you keep getting taller and bigger and taller and bigger, like a beautiful tree. i'm glad to be a small but significant part of your journey, and i know you'll keep growing more and more. to 100k more subscribers
hahah thank you so much!! (though i wish i was growing taller in real life lol!!) but truly, thank you!
cari cakes eh, as a six foot redhead, being nicknamed ‘viking’ isn’t that great. They get really funny looks when I tell them my five siblings are all taller then me
I love ur rainy day videos, the vibe they give is so relaxing and it makes me so jelly since I live in Arizona ❤️❤️
hehehe just wait until we get some snow!!
"We can talk about that... when I see you in Hell... probably"
This made me burst out laughing omg i love u
bahahhaaha c u there
Yes that was hilarious. I really like her sense of humor and I’m so glad that she does not believe in organized religion.
You deserve it!!! We see all the hard work❤️❤️❤️ and thank you for always being yourself and honest!
thank you!!!
Yay for sit down videos! And thanks for the advices on solo travel, your vlogs helped me so much in the past with doing more things on my own and it's been a blast. You deserve the 100k and it's growing fast 🎉
Congratulations on the button! So happy to be seeing your channel grow! I am someone who absolutely loathes going places alone. People make me kind of anxious when I'm alone haha. But I think that another part of it is that I am just uncomfortable with being alone with myself. I really admire how you can go on solo trips and adventures and enjoy yourself so much! :D
thank you! it does take practice but being content alone with yourself is a really precious gift^^
I found this Q&A very refreshing and insightful :) I got married early 2018 and we don’t plan to have kids either. Most typically are offended to an extent when I tell them it’s not something I want but it doesn’t mean I don’t like kids, I just don’t want any of my own. On that note, fur babies are gonna take over my life 😂
fur babies > everything hahahahha
Congrats on 100k, Carie!! 👏❤️ So well deserved ☺️
On the ‘When are you guys having kids?’ questions, oh boy...I feel you, lol. We’re going to be married 5 years in November and it’s STILL probably our most asked question. A lot of people just assume everyone wants kids 😅 Loved the way you approached that question 👏
you've got beemo!! hehehehh and thank you!!
cari cakes Haha, yesss, and he’s definitely enough for us 😽
My boyfriend and I have been together for 15 years, have bought and renovated a house to live in, yet aren't married. We don't want kids either. Imagine how confused people get when we tell them...
Love the Q&A's! They're a wonderful pause between vlogs where it feels like we get to connect with you more (cuz it feels like a one-on-one convo I guess?) but also it gives you the opportunity to tell us how you're doing, what's currently going on, and let us understand more of where you're coming from just in general at that particular moment in time. So thank you for letting us chat and connect with you in these Q&A's!
thank you so much im glad you enjoyed^^
Ahh watching this Q&A is so calming! I really enjoy hearing your genuine perspective about all the different topics! I feel like I'd love to hear you talk about things in life, struggles that people go through etc. Thank you so much for keeping it real ^^
thank you!!!
i really like your q and a videos!! it’s always really interesting to hear your thoughts, it feels like we’re sitting down and chatting together ☺️🌷
wahhh thank you!
Ah Cari after all this time of following you, I’m still amazed how relatable you are to me… solo travelling, seeing weddings as not a very romantic thing, not necessarily wanting kids etc. … it’s so rare to find people I could connect with when it comes to these things! Congrats again on your 100k and have a nice day :)
im so glad other people feel the same way!! and thank you!!
I love your videos! They’re always so calming! And omg congrats for the button, you’re one of my top favorite youtubers so I’m so happy to see that you finally got the button
GAH!! thank you so much!
Honestly i only love Q and A'S when they come from the right person ! someone who i'm genuinely interested in getting to know
it was sooooo good to know more about you and your perspective on things.
loving you even more
I havent been up to date with your video's for a while so I AM SHOOK! Congrats on getting married girl🎉 I am super happy for you! ❤
I’m studying in Spain _alone_ next summer and it’ll be my first time traveling!! So honestly really needed that advice about starting small for solo travel! (I’m still too scared to go to Walmart alone 😭 I’ll work on it...)
omg definitely get out there and practice! also practice being aware of your surrounding at all times just for safety^^
Oh I’m Spanish. Where are you going in Spain?
Congrats on the 100k! I only started following a few months ago, but I've loved all the content here. I to~~tally agree with what you said about the vibes on this channel. It's like a little UA-cam haven and I'm really stoked to see what else you do!^^
thank you always!
I'm constantly so grateful that I get to watch you and hear your thoughts about life and all that entails. I'm definitely wiser for it!
thank you so much!!
simply love your style!!! even that blue blanket draped on the chair complements everything so well and really looks nice with your hair
thank you so much! my grammy made it :)
CONGRATULATIONS CARI!!! 💕💕
Been watching your videos since before moving to Korea (over a year ago) and its amazing to see how much your channel has grown. ☺️💗
thank you so much!!!!!
Congrats on 100k!! I've been watching your videos since 2016 when I was still living in Seoul (I think you posted one of your vlogs in an expat group) and it's so nice to see how your channel has evolved over time. You're making me miss Korea T_T
wahhhh thank you so so much!!!!
I’m so happy for you on the subs! I like your q&as because any video you make puts me in a good mood and I like hearing what you have to say and getting a slightly more well rounded understanding of your viewpoints I guess, but it’s not usually something I’d seek out although I do really like more specific q&as,, like if all the questions have kind of a theme or general topic! But that doesn’t make a huge difference or anything I just love your content!
thank you!! i'll keep that in mind for future Q&As^^~
Beautiful Q&A vlog! Never too much. Appreciate everything you do.
thank you always!
Cari I love your q&a vids. Makes you so humble and relatable. Also, looking forward to your future videos and travels! Been subscribed for a while, and my plan is to take your traveling advise/vlogs, and enjoy myself traveling around Korea as well. Congrats on the 100K, you deserve it!
I absolutely love this Q&A your answers on children, religion, paranormal were spot on with my beliefs. I love your channel and I just think you are such an incredibly bright space in the UA-cam world. Congrats on the button and marriage!
Congratulations! Your videos are often a great chill take on a hectic place. Keep it up!
hehe thank you so much!
This video just makes appreciate you even more! So glad I found your channel a few weeks back 💖
Congrats!!!! What an awesome plaque. Happy for you 🙌🏽👏🏽
thank you!!
I've never been this early!! Haha Clicked just when you posted at 49 seconds! Congrats on everything, you deserve that button ♥️
gahhhhhh thank youuuuu!
I can relate to the solo travelling part. When I go somewhere with someone, I am more anxious even if it's a close friend I am with because I'm thinking I have to ensure that he/she is enjoying his/her time. At the end of the day, I feel more exhausted than happy... so I prefer to travel alone especially when it's out of the country because I have complete control of my activities. Love this kind of vlogs! Thanks a lot! 🧡
Conrats !! For the wedding and for the you tube achievement. All well deserved !
This vlog was so timely! I'm travelling alone for the first time tomorrow and I was feeling a little nervous. Thanks for the advice! Loved the Q&A.
you can do it!!!
Cari, you and your videos are so inspiring! Thanks for that ❤️ Also love your “hair like fire” 🔥 One of my wishes is to be reborn as a natural redhead lolol. Congrats again on 100k, you deserve it!
I love your videos! Thank you for the tips for traveling and saying it’s ok to start just being comfortable going to a cafe or something small.
I totally understand u on your view on marriage and not wanting to have kids!! I feel the same and I actually don't know anyone else that doesn't want to have kids so it's always nice to hear people talking about it hehe
Anyway I don't usually comment on videos so I'll just take this opportunity to tell u I love your videos very much and they are very calming 💕
yeah its hard especially when people tell you its just a phase but knowing there are other people out there like you is so important!! and thank you!!!
@@caricakes 🤗🤗
“When are you having kids” is such an annoying question. I’ve never even been in a relationship and I get questions like “when are you finding a bf” A woman’s whole life is defined by having kids or even getting married. I don’t want kids either and I feel the same
ughhhh let us just live our lives people!!!!
I want kids, but as an asexual person, I don’t necessarily want the husband that’s supposed to come with biological children. When I joke about ‘just buying children from other countries’ aka adopting, people do tend to get offended at that
Congratulations again for the 100k subscribers, Cari!! I love your QandAs because i like learning about you and Korea :)
I’m so excited for your Scotland trip because as a local to Glasgow it’ll be so cool to watch them! And I really enjoy watching Q&A’s because I can stick them on in the background and get some work or like organising done.
im so excited too ahhhhhhhhhh and heheh thank you ;) glad i could help^^
It's so trippy to be in South Korea finally so when you talk about the typhoon I'm like, "Oh yeah. That was a crazy day." I loved your videos before I moved and I love them even more now that I can share in the experiences first-hand. Thank you for these very relaxed Q&A's!
bahaha glad we got through that crazy weather together!!
cari, I always feel like I can relate to you in so many ways. First, it’s so refreshing to have someone say that they don’t want kids. I’m still not sure about this myself and it feels like I’m the only one in my group of friends actually questioning something that we’ve been conditioned to believe it’s “the right way of living for everyone”. I feel so lonely about this sometimes. So thank you. Also, I can relate to the solo travelling with anxiety so much. Surprisingly I even find myself less anxious when travelling sometimes compared to being home. Last year I went to Japan by myself for the first time, while I wasn’t even able to use the train in my hometown because of anxiety just a couple of weeks prior, and it was the best experience of my life. I think a big portion of why I love travelling solo is the flexibility as well.
I love your work, it’s a pleasure to watch your videos and be a part of your not-so-small fanbase. Congrats for 100k, you deserve it!
i totally agree with that about travel!! and thank you so much!
i love Q&As specially the easy going ones, scratch that - i love all your videos! 🌼
^_^~ thank you!
The Q&A's are great, and would really appreciate another one with Kurt. You always say he's really busy, but I hope he can be in a vid once in a while. Congrats
maybe since this week is a holiday i can get him to sit down and record hahahha
Cari you keep making videos and you be true to you because that’s why people watch this channel! And if they don’t like what they see they don’t have to watch it your videos are incredible you do a great job of showing a side of Korea that not a lot of people get to see. I love that you mix it up between fun travel vlogs daily life and then you do Q&A is as well. You have done a phenomenal job with how you do your vlogging. I watch a lot of different people on UA-cam and I have to say yours is one that I look forward to like every week because even simple things you’re just so relatable and real and I can’t watch some of the blogs when you can tell that people are being fake and phony such as I have to do this for view I have to be extra happy. No if that’s not what your channels about then don’t do it and you don’t do that you keep it very real and relatable and honest. I just want to say keep doing what you’re doing exactly how you’re doing it congratulations on hitting 100+ K subscribers!
Congrats on reaching 100k!!! Totally well deserved
congrats on the button you deserve it so so so much!!
yay!!! it took me a really long time to realize that and get over myself tbh haha sometimes its still hard :)
@@caricakes yeah it's still hard, especially when you notice how many people are with their friends too haha
oh and this Q&A wasn't boring at all!! you have a lovely and calming voice so i love hearing you talk :') so if you want to do them every 2 months again i wouldn't mind
thank you ahhhh!
i'm so happy you talked about solo travel! i took my first solo trip to philly last year (i live in nyc) and next month i'm spending a week in london by myself! it's all about stepping stones! ♥️
yesss omg very jealous of your london trip!
Congrats on 100K! You've put in so much work in your channel and I'm glad to see your sub count grow :)
thank you so much!
Your views and beliefs fit mine a lot. It’s comforting hearing similar perspectives 😊
Great tips about preparing to travel alone. I love going it alone, but eating out can be awkward - definitely, a journal is a wonderful companion.
Aww congrats Cari! I remember when i just subscribed and you were at 1.2k!
Yesss i remember finding you on tumblr when i was moving to korea it was so nice to still be with you and help support you
Nawwww rightly deserved sweetness embodied - your channel and editing style is so simple and I find your videos amazingly Zen to watch.. I really appreciate you sharing a more relaxed and less hyped side of South Korea and you have inspired me to want to visit. I look forward to following your adventures to your future 200k+ xox
thank you so so much!
LOVEEE your music choice and q&a tooo ❤️
thank you!!
Congrats!! Loved the honest Q&A.
thank you!!
OMG CONGRATS! Cannot wait to see the "wedding dress" photo. :)
Love a rainy q & a!
hehe thank you always!!
definitely can relate to what you said about traveling ! Thanks for the video, it was nice ❤️
thank you!
😁 just in time to be a pick me up for my senior year blues!!!!
awwww!
Love to watch your Q and A and vlogs 😁
I absolutely love Q&As 😍💝
Thanks for this Q&A. I am introvert and it's very comforting to know that introverts can still be adventurous during travels. Love your vlogs and until next time, bye~
yes!!! introverts out in the world hehe
PLEASE make a video about the "my body is wrong or the clothes are wrong" topic, I was shopping for pants last week and I felt so bad about myself bc they either wouldn't fit me or they would look bad with my shape, so this vid would really come in handy!
Also thank you for your honesty in this video, I really like hearing more about you :)
so glad ive come across this video because I have similar outlook on life as you too! so glad to know there are people like me
Rainy day Q+A, perfect. Blessed be
hehehe
congrats I’m rooting for u forever❤️❤️
thank you so much ㅠㅠㅠㅠㅠㅠ
CONGRATULATIONS💞
I randomly came across your vlogs a few days ago and love them! Very chill and lovely music, get to have a peek into life in South Korea too :) - Subbed
Congratulations on 100k Subs. Thank you for the Q&A. I liked your ideas about a rest day when traveling and having a companion. Looking forward to watching your future vlogs. Congratulations again on the growth of your channel 👍
thank you always!
I'm a redhead, and people do stare and I get comments. It annoyed me when I was younger, but it doesn't bother me anymore at all. I eventually realized that many times people are looking to converse or connect with others and my hair can give them a segue into finding the courage to break the ice. It's such a waste of energy to get upset or annoyed with people who notice you. There are many people out there who feel alone and wish someone would notice any detail about them.
Everything about you is so relaxing and serene🌈🌼
thank you hahaha
congratulations !! you deserve it 🥺💗
thank youuuu!
@@caricakes you are absolutely welcome!! ☺️💗💗
Congrats cari! You deserve the world 😊💕
gah! thank you!!
Lovery black and white top! Has a French vibe about it :) I really enjoy your videos, they calm me down, give me hope and make me happy about living close to Seoul (well, if 2,5 hours flight can be called that). And I loved your video about ghost stories! Thank you for the tips for solo travelling. I love it except for eating alone 😂 , you have covered it in one of your videos, I need to rewatch it. Also sometimes I can be very indecisive and I need somebody to push me. But this is minor compared to the freedom you have when travelling solo.
i would love to watch your video about the sizing in Korea's clothing!
i've only lived in Seoul for a little while but this is something that keeps troubling me.
thats why i just thrift to be honest hahahha
Wow love this vlog ❤️❤️❤️
Love your positivity and videos!:D greetings from Serbia 🇷🇸
thank you!!!
Hey I knew you would get to 100k! I told you that a long time ago. In fact you will have million very soon!
thank you so much and omg no i dont know about that but a girl can dream hahahah
Congrats Cari! 💛💛
thank you!!
I agreed with so much of what you said! Your comments about people's expectations of what steps you should be doing with your life really hit home for me. I'm the opposite of you, I dont like kids but I do want one of my own! It's hard feeling the pressure that you need to act a certain way and have certain attitudes towards things because you're a woman, or because you're a newlywed. In fact-- I dont tell most people in my life that I even want children because I hate the thought that they think that's expected of me-- instead of them seeing it as a soul-searching, and much discussed decision that me and my husband have made. Knowing that we are giving up things to do this. But, I've found much relief in trying to let those outside opinions roll off my back. You can only control yourself and your reactions.
yes! its your life and only you can live it!!
Congrats Cari and best wishes!!
thank you!!
This was a lot of fun to watch! Co grats again on 100k !
I'm actually moving to korea to go to SNU in less than a week! And your videos have helped me prepare for it!
Hope to run into you there! Hope you do more meet and greets in Korea!
omg just in time for autumn! the weather is perfect now :) and thank you!!! hope to see you around~~
@@caricakes that's great to hear! Haha I've been monitoring the weather for my arrival! I love autumn weather ! I had to call the housing yesterday and that made me realize I have to converse in Korean a lot from now on! It just didn't feel real until then!
totally feelin u on the "gettin annoyed when people bring up kids" thing! u go girl
I really like listening to how you elucidate your thoughts
100K easy mode! 1M incoming for sure! Congrats.
hahahh thank you!
about the religion portion of the video, i'm so glad you said it how you did because you're the first person i have found with that same mindset about not really being religious and whatnot
Watching this again as it came in my recommendations 😀You're almost 200k!!🥳 Maybe another q&a? Love your sit-down videos
P.s will there be a booktube video about Kim Jiyoung born '82? Have it on my reading list for a week but waiting to see your review (if possible) on it. You made Friday be my fav day after Sunday & Wednesday ❤
0:48 you've got to upload that video....... Congratulations again you totally deserve it and some much more!💐
lol maybe one day! its literally just 5 minutes of him reading the note from the YT CEO hahaahhah thank you!!
ohh i feel you with the redhead thing! i was teased so much when i was younger about it and it made me really self-conscious, but now i wouldn't change it for the world
Whoaa...congratulations you two!! 😍