"Who's Paying The Rent If We Move In Together?" : NdaniRealTalk S3E1 - 50/50 Rule
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- Опубліковано 23 сер 2024
- On this episode of Real Talk, host Yinka Oladiran is joined by Timini Egbuson, Sharon Ooja, Mimi Onalaja and Koye 10 and they discuss the 50/50 rule.
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Im just here to stare at Sharon Ooja's fine self...
@Sandra Danso are you me??😂
Exactly 😂😂😂
Am telling you
Me too
Sandra Danso she is very attractive indeed!
50/50 is impractical and unfair to women. You will be contributing 50/50 in finances and when it comes to manual labor in the home you’re like 99/1 where 99% falls on the woman. Women who agree to such madness are shooting themselves in the foot. As for me, I refuse to do it. Balance is key and 50/50 is not balance. Unless we go 50/50 on chores too .
Waffle
It's not even. About the chores. It's about us bringing all of us to the table. So it's 100/100.
Yes you are correct in that sense....whats more important is agreement between both partners....efforts can't always be equal
say it louder for d ones in d back abeg
Absolutely spot on
Mimi has a lotta maturity and sense...Timini and Sharon are still in the having fun phase ...Western generation has taken their brain away 😂😂😂
Very true.
Mimi is very mature,but, all of them were making solid points
Love Mimi's opinions !! Why's koye quiet? ?? I feel like he has a TOTALLY different mindset & doesn't wanna stress it 😂
& I actually side with him.
Too quiet
Dude is a spoil sport
lol interesting Topic, i just loved Mimi more because we think alike. Very practical and realistic. Timini is a typical Nigerian man.
She thinks wise and mature and I love her.
Timini is just irrational...he doesn't want to provide yet he wants to be the head...
What a 'head'🙄😏
Scratch that...he's a typical Yoruba man.
@@GrowwithFifi he is not yoruba, he is from bayelsa
Sussan Lawrence exactly!!!
I love mimi already. her responses are very practical ( in her own words). I need a girl like her in my life so that we can both build an empire together.
😂😂😂 those ones do like simp like you
Ahh Timini fell my hand in the end ohhh. Mimi is so realistic and practical, I love her! I was expecting Koye to be more talkative lol. Sharon babyyy girl for life!
Mimi issa voice of reason.
Timini made both good and annyoying points. He also made the conversation interesting.
Did Koye speak at all?
I like Mimi - she's practical, mature and very reasonable.
Mimi is the real MVP of this show, learnt a lot from her
Timini thinks it's the mans place to have the final say concerning certain decisions but yet he believes in the 50/50 rule. To me that's contradictory.
exactly, he wants to be the head decision maker yet he doesn't want to be the sole provider
Can provider and leader be mutually exclusive. Honest question...
"I'm a man,I'm a man" until its time to pay for groceries 😂
+Discover-U no, they are not, with big positions come big responsibilities
Tinuke thatonegirl I agree, Tinuke. I'm putting my madam on an allowance, going forward
At the end of the day, there's no one way to have a relationship. It all comes down to what the couple is comfortable with. There can't be that whole, only the man should.... or only the woman should..... thing anymore. There is no right way, just different ways that are right for you.
I enjoyed it. Very silly topic but Timini made the conversation fun
Mimi's responses are top notch. Timini made the conversation fun
"What's good for gogo is good for gaga". Words I live by
i literally died looooool
Olanrewaju Folarin you are bad 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
😂
i came here for the comment that will point it out
😭😛😝😜😁😛😝😜 Mr. Folarin..u made my day ohh...I'll use that phrase everyday..Respek from Iceland Reykjavik Kenyan 🇰🇪🇮🇸
i honestly loved this conversation. as for me 50/50 rule on finances for a couple is a NO. women have more expenses than men do and they are expected to do even more in a union like cooking, taking care of the house and birthing the children, Generally Women endures a lot to be honest and are always left emotionally, financially and physically drained by men. i find that a women is in her best when the bills are being taken care of by the man of the house ... men who expect to have a traditional women (the one who cooks, clean and take care of the home) should also work hard and be traditional man (PROVIDE FOR YOUR WOMAN AND CHILDREN).... Men and Women ARE NOT the same nor equal , feminism might have fooled many in thinking we are we really are not.Women, please sit firmly in your femininity and watch how things fall into place....
peace and love
Reality is that you cannot take care of a family in one salary because of inflation. You need 2 incomes. My parents both paid the bills and they been together over 40 yrs.
@@PCSPITTER4NY That is why i mentioned the traditional perspective of it, Different strokes for different folks. all i am saying is, if men are looking for 50/50 they should also be willing to share in the household stuff and do as much as women do..
@@dare2be520 in 2020 most men have lived alone and are used to doing house cleaning. Stop buying into negative propaganda about men. We clean
@@PCSPITTER4NY lol okay, no problem then
The guy that quoted the Bible is hilarious. Where does that exist in the Bible.
In btwn, Timini and Sharon are giving us the coded Banky W and Adesuwa vibes💕💕💋
How were they doing that ?
People have been saying so but I didn't see it..
I wonder where he got that scripture from
I love Mimi’s facial expression at the end lollllll when Timini spoke about the ‘man being a man’ in relation to decision making.
Princess Ashinze lol exactly
I love Mimi she is so practical and rational especially that talk of moving into her house situation. My opinion if he moves in for practical reasons he will pay the rent
Elizabeth Odey what’s good for gogo is good for gaga also .
chris maloney
hehehehehe if I hear!!!!
That's my opinion ooo. He has to pay except maybe at that time, He is going through some hard times. Except, I repeat except..... He is paying bro... Thank you
Oh oh wait a minute are Goo and gaga twins neeeyy?? 😁
I love mimi, she’s so intelligent, full of wisdom❤️❤️
Only Mimi made sense all the way. Koye, wetin happen?
Me rolling my eyes at Timini's opinion.
Pls how can I marry Timini? I'm shook at how on point his mentality is.
Edit: nvm he has said he's a man too much lol
Aby Knapp right. Girl I felt d same way. After a while I was like "uhh nop"
Wow, what's the tea?
NdaniTV he believes in sharing finances, I was down for that. But then he also believes in making the final decision as a man 🙄 pls as we sharing, we must share everything. Including decisions. I just thought he seemed really chill and progressive but in the end he seemed to be a typical African man 🤷
Aby N eiii go see his mama
lol that back pedaling!!
Sharon: first of all I'm not dating you if you are living in your father's house
Timini: bla bla bla ...btw I'm not living in my father's house.
Issokayyy ☕️
Lol. Giving us Banky and Adesuwa vibe in codes 😁
I don't think there is anything between them
Guy is shooting his shot😂
Will it be 50/50 cooking and domestic cores too as well as looking after our babies and toddlers ?
In marriage each person has to give 100% all of the time. All opinions should be heard in a relationship and a decision has to be made. Both people have to compromise a little and find a middle ground, as long as ‘core principles’ are not compromised.
What is the name of the lady in green . She had some good and mature points
Mimi Onalaja
Correct me if I am wrong, but almost everybody in the Focus Group seems to be in the entertainment industry. Their responses seem not to be far from each other. They should have spread the profession so as to get different views. Anyways, good show!
Eric Anidiobi yeah.... i dont mind being there 😊😊 do you if you dont lets berra shoot our shot maybe they might see this and call us
Life of Irene hehehehehe. Oya let’s go na. I have a lot of things to offload.
Eric Anidiobi i agree... Bring a banker, Teacher, Doctor and farmer.. The dynamic go change.
I am telling you!
You have a very good point
lol...love how Sharon Ooja slid in that "no" after Timini's monologue @16:11!
😄 Our first REAL TALK epic quote for this Season, “What’s good for Gogo is always good for Gaga.” Gbammest! 👊🏽#WhatsGoodForGogoIsGoodForGaga #AreGogo&GagaTwins?
Eniola Abumere lol... that got me too. New word on fleek😄
Like! It just stuck like a tattoo! Don't blame him, that is how the baba understands it lool
😂😂😂😂 I legit burst out laughing
weakened me. Lmao
I laughed out loud tbh
Loved how logical Mimi was aswell
Why did Koye 10 come to occupy space here?
And the presenter should have drawn him into the conversation by directing questions at him.
Cornelia O' Dwyer is still my favourite Real Talk presenter but I like the show and will still keep watching.
Victor Olugbemiro i agree the presenter should have included him in some way.
He is certainly not the type that chips into conversation without be asked
Yes... as if they left him out
lmaoo to occupy space
God bless you, I still miss Cornelia.
Timini : Mimi is the kind of girl that will take care of me when I'm broke I need a girl like mimi
Sharon: EVERY GIRL WILL DO THAT EVERY GIRL WILL DO THAT 😂🏃🏾♀️
And he is like abegiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii
😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣
As in..... I also saw dat..... Sharon lyks Timi joor
ugh i love this...my girl k'ola holding it down! missed you. lol shalewa and Timini are funny. mimi is is smart.
Wawuu..
Timini is just being funny..He made the show lively...sharon, I just love that lady..Mimi,very matured and always practical
Real talk is back 😍😍😍, please help us do something about Gidi up too 😋🙏🏼👏
I guess we may all be used to Koyes comedy skit.... But just by watching this we can easily understand that he is on the quiet side. Or wont just talk like the others... So the host should have able to make it work and engage him more 😊
Mimi was very realistic and I love that and for timini he sounded like those old Africa men that do claim they are the man in everything. Sharon was very interactive as well but koye was just quiet that is too bad.concerning the rule of 50/50 I don't think it possible but what am gonna say is each partner should make sure they take up responsibility and make each other feel comfortable at the end of all.thanks more vibes
I agree with Sharon. No man that is still leaving in this parents house allowed in my life. PERIOD!
There are alot of 30 + women living with their mom. I'm just saying. My current gf is 37 and lives with her mom. If men thought like women then I wouldn't have met such a wonderful lady
I pretty much love Mimi. She's speaking my heart
Oh yeah, I just love the sync in their conversation, especially Sharon and Mimi, they're the ideal matured, realistic, forward looking women, and wife material too...Thumbs up to the host, nice show
That haircut on Timini is the only thing he brought around that I love and love 😍. The entire 50/50 thing with no reference to house chores and childbearing and rearing is 🚮 but then again... To every man his own 🤗
I love this. I can't say yes or no for the 50/50 rule, especially since I'm not old or mature enough to be in such a relationship right now, so my opinion will surely change. When you talked about the scenario of being promoted and moving to another place, I totally stood with what Sharon said "what are my options there",very intelligent. Timini said he feels it's just like every other decision but you have to let someone have the final say. I don't entirely agree with that. Moving your entire life to another country is very different from deciding where to go on weekends,or what to buy etc,this is her picking up her entire life(and the kids if there are any) and moving it for you, so I think you both should reach a decision TOGETHER. Whatever works best for you both, although she most probably will compromise. Anyways I really love this and they all spoke intelligently. Also, my respect for Mimi has quadrupled! Can't wait for more👏🏽👍🏽
Koye doesn’t like noise, see as he is listening.
he just came to eat. hahah
@@media21production17 😂😂😂😂
Timi we pray that too much sense will not kill you! really liked his perspective and his angle to answering the questions
I could have sworn Sharon and Timini were dating. I could have sworn!
Timini is a real African man... very transparent
The guy with the glasses was awfully quiet... wonder why the host didn't try to sway the conversation his way... she made it so awkward to watch seeing everyone speaking and one person just ghosting away. #tough.
Princess Yin oh my goodness u very critical. Some people are more listeners than talkers .
Awfully quiet 😩🤣🤣
The 50/50 rule will be great if the man can carry the pregnancy for 4 and half months...I will give him the last term to delivery😂😂😂
Bless Beulah 😂😂😂😂😂
Thanks my sister 50/50 my foot
this is the comment I was looking for!! lmaooo
Wow...it's like you took this out of my head...don't mind them
Do you carry pregnancy all the days of your life? Dont be lazy, go get a good job so you wont be complaining about things that should come naturally.
The man can make final decisions IF he has genuinely taken the opinions of his woman into account! Not imposing his on her
Timini thinks it's the mans place to have the final say concerning certain decisions but yet he believes in the 50/50 rule. To me that's contradictory.
Gbam!
👌
Shout out for Mimi straight up love way of talking and expression
I'm just here to witness Sharon and Timini chemistry ❤
Mimi is so mature, practical and realistic.
Timini going off and. On with points.
Sharon is just going with the flow
What's up with koye??
They all grown but, the one with the mature mentality and wisdom is Mimi. Sharon and Timini are going with the flow, what feels good right now ( might be fun first, until reality hits )
“Do what is practical”
I like that 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
"What's good for 'Goo Goo' is also good for 'Ga Ga'".
I am actually that Timini could actually say his mind on the man having the final decision without feeling like people would come back at him.
The same timini said "this is not the 70s" when it came to the man footing all the bills. Yet he is making comments like "I'm the man, the decision is final" you keep contradicting yourself. In this 2018? Lol u sir are a jokester. Being a man does not automatically equate to having sense
Mary Christina k
thank you!!! he was just talking crap
Mary Christina e
Exactly dear!
Mary Christina Exactly
I love my girl Sharon for dayssssssss 💕💕
Sharon is so amazing❤❤ everything she said is spot on
Mimi is vocalizing my thought process. totally agree
I came here to watch Sharon and I'm not disappointed. But, Mimi issa voice of reason
I completely share the same opinion with timini
timini's voice uussshhh !!, great conversation and i agree with sharon; love is sharing and u shld be able to compensate each other cus 50-50 doesnt always work in case one doesnt have at one point !!!
I love this show and thumbs up to Timini
I know men who feel relaxed when they get support in finances, it all has to do with communication and agreement but i don't think i'll want to open up on my finances when marriage sets in.
Team Sharon
Lol a 50/50 home is never a peaceful home. They have the highest divorce rates. Women prefer a provider. That will never change 😴
Lies divorce rates are high all over the board.
Not women ... YOU prefer a provider
@@wajutomeevovo4138 No, women.
Totally enjoyed this episode, love love the new host and the guests as well ...till next time
as for me, "what's good for googo is also good for gaga"
love this show!! The host looks mad familiar
Sharon is so serious😂😂😂
Loved thisss! Great engaging convo. Sharonnnnn! You are looking sooo sweet sis! What closureee?!
I believe in the 50/50 rule to the extent that it promotes equality in relationships. In terms of finances however, I feel the income of both parties should be considered.
Shitta-Bey Oluwanifesimi what you said! 👌
I agree with timini. The man is the leader and while you may not always agree, the man makes the final decision
God ordained it that way but a good leader genuinely consider the opinion of his team (wife and children) and weigh the impact it will have while making the final decision.
Dear Ndani tv we need you to start a show for Sharoon, mimi, abimbola, bisola and timini .......they will be interesting host for people to watch.Thanks in advance
Addressing Real Life issues. I Love it
Bring these guys back for more episode i really loved this so much xxx
I love the conversation. My husband and I are married professionald I feel 50/50 individual to different couples.
why the hell is timini contradicting himself ? you want to be the man make all the decision but when its time to pay the rent you opt for a 50-50...being a man and in charges means being able to give your lady security...
I'm wondering the same thing like what's all that 😂
This is why I won't agree to 50/50 relationships. At the end of the day, men still will behave like men. Despite you paying half of the bills, he still wants you to submit to his authority and he still expects you to do wife duties. There is no such thing as 50/50. Gender roles will always kick in.
To be practical like mimi stated, one person will give a little more... In the end. It's fluid. It's not written in stone..
Wonder why koye didn't get involved as much into the conversation. Love the show though.......good topic
I love the lady in green. Very matured and real.
When I see Sharon aka Shalewa and her boyfriend does that mean skinny girl in transit is coming any time soon
yh...season 5 is currently in progress
Belle Mode yayyyy great news
Belle Mode Yeah we know that but when will it debut? By this time they woukd have aired.. Man if they debut in September that will mess up my line up shows for my country 🇺🇸 shows & my web series.. I'll have to try to watch at work...
They wrapped up shooting already so I'm hopeful anytime soon they'll debut
@@bellemode4530 we just need season 6 for shalewa and Mohamed
Just remembered there's a fourth person present halfway through the video. Miss host why did you leave him behind? Pull him into the convo! He reminds me of myself coz I find it hard to join in when there are strong and opinionated personalities in the room. 😢😢
Timini ooo! You're a superstar
can timini just keep quiet lmao and koye is probably just like wo e ma ko ba mi
LMAO
Mimi is so smart and mature!
love timini’s hair and i can’t watch koye w/o thinking of his character so i laugh whenever I see him
That man in the yellow shirt is definitely a miser.
Koye just went for the food and drinks 😂
Enjoyed every bit of it
Anyways, 50/50 is a no no for me.
Awesome one people.... Awesome
I totally enjoyed watching this
Is like it’s the man that believe they should pay and the ladies want to split the bill... Thank God for the advanced thinking of nowadays
Interesting discussion. Monthly allowance.......hmmmmm
when the presenter said the bible said he who finds a wife. did you guys talk on marriage or relationship.
I don't expect my man to pay the house bill all by himself, we'll pay it together. For me 50/50 means we are paying the bills together but you also have to cook n clean. If you want 50/50. We are gg all the way. You cannot expect me to pay everything half with you and you're not lifting a finger, not even to wash your own clothing. I think that it should be sth ya'll negotiate, whatever fits the couple but for me this is how it would be.
Sharon + timini= 😍
Love! The ladies look so beautiful 😍😍
Sarah ChoCho they look bleached
עבדיה ישראל what do you mean by that though?! Africans come in different shades, shapes and sizes. They are gorgeous and intelligent women, so please respect or learn to appreciate that as the beauty of God's work on earth. 💜 and ☀️ dear
Chidinma Ifeadi so we're going to act like skin bleaching is not popular? These women have on pounds of make up, fake hair and who knows what else. But you you're saying it's " God's work". These women should be ashamed of themselves walking around like that. It's so shameful to see African women trying their hardest to look like Europeans.
With a two storey foundation and paint enough to cover one bedroom?
@@charles4163 lol
Absolutely love Sharon, I’m a big fan but sister girl, if you were paying rent for “your” house and someone moved in with you in that same “your” house, the rent has not increased, it’s still the same so you can not say that the person moving in with you should pay the rent for “your” house😂😂 last last na for the person to carry his load and go. Ah ahh wetin concern agbero concern overload?
NANYa ILEKA haha 😂 no come kill me with laugh 😂 let come n be going oh jare
chris maloney but check am na😂😂
NANYa ILEKA
It’s about balance and respect which is why timini said he will never do that. A man should not have to move into a woman s abode unless under fire circumstances and short term only. We make so many mistakes in relationships and wonder why it doesn’t work.
NANYa ILEKA
* dire
If you are a man like Timini who agrees to the 50-50 rule and still have the African mentality of him being The Man, the head of the family that has the final say, there will always be problems in the marriage because he has two conflicting mariatal personality. If you want to have the final say you take full responsibility like the men in the 80s do.
Timini is such a full! 😂😂😂
Adenike O. Adebayo darling its spelt fool. Although they sound the same full means u cannot eat anymore
kwame opoku my dear, I'm very sure she knows the difference
Emmanuella Otabor if u say so love i have also noticed alot of african in the comments also say am when it should be i’m
kwame opoku Hehehehehe.. I'm sure she knows cos she's a UA-cam content creator, so she's pretty learned
Adenike O. Adebayo fool