I’m so sorry you to go through that resection. What sort of family does that? I think that perhaps you had a lucky escape from a very toxic family. Life can be very cruel indeed. Rejection and abandonment hurt us deeply and I hope that you find healing an peace come into your life. Being independent and only reliant on yourself is how I roll too due to abandonment issues as a child, I don’t rely on anyone so I never have disappointments or unfulfilled expectations. I love my independence and the thought that I can do all the things I need without having to ask anyone for help, I’m proud of you and myself for being strong enough to battle on :)
The lady in a lime greenish dress is a very lovely person and she is authentic.The sister who spend time with her husband was committing such a disloyal thing .
I finally had to walk away from my mother, I was 48, she was 70 years old, I mourned the loss of her, the loss of not having a mother who was capable of having maternal instincts towards me. She hurt me beyond repair, she was a Malignant/Grandiose Narcissist and wouldn’t admit any fault, ever. It’s hard to be the only one trying to make a relationship work. My mom later died of cancer 2 years later, she wouldn’t allow me to come say goodbye, she threatened other family members I guess not to call me or allow me to come around. I felt cheated for awhile, realizing that she would never have the chance to say sorry for how she treated us, or truly change her selfish ways, her death was a finality and I’ll never get the chance to forgive her face to face. She didn’t want forgiving since she didn’t think she ever did anything wrong. She died in 2021, I’m doing much better now than I was, thank goodness my faith carried me thru the difficult times as a child, and now. I didn’t get any deathbed “sorry I hurt you”, it would have meant everything to me if she could have given me that much but it wasn’t meant to be. I’m learning to forgive, it’s what my faith wants me to do and what I desperately need to do.
The Funeral crasher made the most sense of them all. His comments were so darn true. Attending a funeral of a former friend after not seeing them in 20+ years; vultures in the family that only want material items; selfish family members - funeral? Majority of Funeral's are hypocritical. Waste of money! I'm with the Crasher!
I totally understand the first woman that chose not to go to her mother’s deathbed. Sometimes sorry is just too late. My mom is 75 and she is not in my life anymore. It causes me pain on a daily basis and I so badly want to have a relationship with her. I honestly don’t know what I’ll do if I ever get the call to come to her deathbed. I’d be afraid of what she would leave me with.
I really like the way this program presents topics and deals with discussions. If you compare it to most American programming, they handle topics professionally and try their very best to suspend judgment or bias. This allows those interviewed to be as comfortable as possible and not respond reactively or defensively. Whereas with American programming, and with some of the biggest names in talk shows (I won’t name them but I’m sure you can figure them out) you can sense bias or judgement from the host by their demeanor or line of questioning or by how they cut off or interrupt the person speaking or allow the audience to boo or laugh or ridicule the speakers in other ways. Cameras will zoom in on people looking horrified or laughing, etc. Some even have physical altercations that often seem encouraged. All for ratings. Whereas this program handles sensitive topics with dignity and decorum.
I concur with your assesment of our American talk shows. I love watching this show and other similarly produced and I am in awe of how professionally and interesting they are.
I was thinking the same thing. This series is an example of how asking the right questions, intelligent, intuitive hosting, giving equal time to all, enough time to answer qurstions without butting in or talking over the guests and actively listening by all involved. It makes for programmes one can actually learn something from. It seems to me to come from a place of professional.journalism and respect - two things i find in increasingly short supply in the media.
Agree 100% It's more healing to be gentle and disarming instead of a hyped-up sensation like American programing. Interesting subject matter and wonderful delivery. This program is excellent.
I love what Bill is doing! My loved ones would want to fight about my opinion due to them loving drama. I want what I have to say not an augment. Rock on Bill!!
I think this guy is great! I've had so many fake friends and horrible family members that I really don't want them at my funeral! I've met complete strangers that have treated me better than those close to me. I would definitely pay for bills services. Amazing service!
Why would YOU care? You're already dead. So why don't you think about the people who loved you? They're standing there grieving and all of a sudden their grieving process is turned into a circus of American housewives. I think it's so diminishing.
I think the first lady made the right choice. Sometimes family is toxic and you have to take steps to protect yourself. That family being sick or nearing the end of their lives does not mean you have to endanger your mental well being to help theirs.
I absolutely love the funeral crasher. Amazing business! There is no rule that says a funeral is only about playing nice. It's best to leave the world with a clean slate. It's not his fault that people can't handle the truth. 🤷🏾♀️
This funeral crasher is horrid. I had to defend off a scum-bag who pretended to know my mother and wanted to take control of my Mother's assets. It took a year to prove to the courts that this guy was a fraud. I had to pay attorney fees and fight in court, finally proving that his scum-bag was not related to our family. When scum-bag's attorney truly realized that scum-bag was a fraud he resigned.
I feel Bill is quite mature in his outlook. And that he says it’s the dying persons last right and it’s their funeral. Whatever is shared by a dead person may hurt but then that might be a type of karma cycle and is there anything wrong with that? We as people avoid a lot and we do not always like the truth. So why not respect the words of a dead person,
So many families keep secrets generation after generation and cycles of dysfunction perpetuate. His service is amazing! I wish him the best in his business 💯
The 'Coffin Confessor' is on the right track, advocating for the dying/deceased person. I would support this concept even more if a sliding scale fee was used. Many comments during the interviews suggest that only the 'living' left behind be considered. I disagree. Unless there are dependents, the dying person's wishes should be honoured.
The first woman: ‘My mother was extremely Christian and always in control…’ Your mother was probably extremely narcissistic and used religion to control. See it for what it is! By the way that green looks fantastic on her! Gr. from Holland!
I just LOVE hearing the Aussies speak and share. I love listening only to the Sky News for American news...real news . The rest of my news comes from authentic Truther Channels. I send much love to my Aussie friends!!! You wonderful people!!!
I like what this man is saying, a person who is dying should have the right to what ever they want to say or want, family is not what people think it is you could be the best person in the world & all your life you've been treated like crap because of jalousi & other issues of their own SO BRAVO FOR THIS MAN DEATH WHISHES BELONG TO THE DYING.
There can never be too much truth. Truth always sets us free. I think for families that have lived lies [sometimes for generations,] as family members we should thank God that pieces finally fall together.
I refuse to listen to post death "stories" as from experience...the dead cannot refute what is being said. For me it is a taboo and my family knows how I feel. You do not tell me what a dead loved one said if you were not going to tell me before they died. It usually starts like this "Well, I don't know if I should tell you this"...You say..no you shouldn't ! Or this " You know when Grandpa was alive he used to tell me you............." NO...just stop right there !" Because you can never trust that what you will hear is true. Or that someone wants to get to you or one up you for some dumb reason. This is from observation of other families and my own experience with someone trying to lie to me for their own benefit when I knew they were making things up ! Unless I see something in a handwriting I know is true...just be quiet.
Ok so I feel like most of the people disagreeing with the private investigator acting on behalf of the deceased didn’t listen to what he said. I have known people that have fought over their parents money, jewelry etc long before they died and it was disgusting. Their parents felt helpless to do anything about it because they were old , so they just pretended it wasn’t happening. Once a good friend of my husbands took his father to court because he got remarried after his wife died and he couldn’t handle his dad spending his inheritance on his new wife. These things are despicable and people that do those sorts of things deserve to be put in their place.
My father in law never bought the land his house was built on. My sister in law Pat did, other siblings were not told. He told me but I didn't tell anyone. Pat lived in another country. He legally gifted her the house. While he was sick and dieing Pat sister moved her daughter and son in law into the house,He died and Pat came home when she sent them copy of her title to the property everyone was in shocked.
For the woman whose mother was only 16, There was a reason she wanted you to have a stable life with her husband as your father... because the Bio person was not responsible or did her Harm as a young innocent girl. why would you blame your mother for her unwed disgrace, must have Hurt her deeply and she was still strong enough to keep you and raise you, as many young girls were forced to adopt out the child. Appreaciate your moms strength for giving you a great life. I also beleive I had a different father, but my mother spared me the trama she might have suffered.
It would be a fun TV series but in real life? How does this funeral crasher guy know that these clients are not total pricks who want to do their last number on their family? Maybe their family did not like them and did not visit them because they had simply not been good people and had not treated others well. Plus, it is not ‘about the person in the coffin’ as much as about those 2000-10 000 $ he charges.
This man is helpin the dying ones to b heard. They probably hav never truly been heard in life by family or friends. This is an opportunity to hav u voice heard n put sme issues to bed, or b exposed, 4 family to grow, n friends not chase others wife's.
Regarding what the coffin confessor does, I would suggest he get the information then tell the client I will give you some time (if possible, say a few days) to think about your decision before you finally sign off on this. People dealing with the end of life go through many stages. I bet their thoughts and feelings may fluctuate from day to day. But everyone’s life and ways of dealing with things is different. This may not be everyone’s cup of tea but may be perfectly fitting for another. For such people it may not even come as a shock for those at the funeral.
Great questions! It is mind opening as well as heart wrenching 💔 😢 what some people have gone through and how they dealt with it. The funeral crasher has his place since he was there as the living 'mouthpiece' for the deceased. It was their final wish, he carried it out. I'm very sure his services are in demand. Thank you for approaching difficult topics that are very important.
We can believe the funeral crashers words as if the were the deceased actual words or not. Thinking about it deeply for a few minutes. A death bed or before video would seem more believable than a stranger who charges $2,000-$10,000 a person. That's an outrageous sum of money to speak at a funeral, even for traveling expenses and hotel accommodations. It would be more acceptable to me if his charges earned him a little more than his expenses, but he's fleecing both the dying and the heirs out of their 'rightful' inheritance. The deceased had the option if he or she had time and the mind to do it, of going to an attorney and making a Last Will and Testament. Many people do not think to do this or reject it, or they procrastinate. ALL have their own reasons why they don't do it. IT IS QUITE PERSONAL TO EACH AND EVERYONE WHO CHOOSES NOT TO HAVE A WILL. I DON'T PASS JUDGEMENT ON THEM EITHER WAY, YOU SHOULD HAVE OR YOU SHOULDN'T HAVE MADE A WLL. IT'S THEIR LIFE AND IT'S THEIR DEATH, ALONE WITH GOD, AND THAT'S BETWEEN THEM AND GOD WHAT THEY CHOOSE TO DO OR NOT DO.🙏🏻AMEN=' SO BE IT'.
A very truthful phenomenon. Destructive and killing lives live the near deceased is literally cursing / bondage you with their last breath DON'T GO THERE
It's better to have the "death bed confession" as compaired to leaving in silence. There is a place for all of their services. Stop berating those who choose to deal out justice that they weren't able to while alive. It's much better if people can talk things out with whomever the issue is, but that isn't always an option.
Good for him for speaking the truth on behalf of the deceased. It's not meant to make u feel 'comfortable' warm and fuzzy if u have wronged the dead. Ok...it's a real healing and release for the deceased to have someone neutral speak for them. alot of family do fight over money and assets anyway. they just don't like the deceased having a voice and exposing their vile selfish nature. and yes don't bother coming to the funeral if u havn't been involved in their life till the end. do it in the living years or bugger off.
The funeral crasher is carrying out a great service where the person wouldn't have been able to, maybe they were a family of Narcissists and money grabbers who would make it all about them, the repercussions for the dying one could be monumental. So before you shoot the person down, think about the person who is deceased and unable to cope with other people's emotions surrounding the person's relationship with those who the focus on once they have passed. Personally I have left letters in my will to be read out aloud at my funeral, should certain people turn up. I would engage this man to save my children from having to read out my letters.
When we’re here, & we suffer, I personally want peace with all!! It takes so much extra energy to have ones in our family have bitterness, and all, I don’t want a part of it. If they don’t have time to visit, hang out, help, while we’re here, & they are full aware of illnesses, then choose to be sad with our life after, when we pass away, cross over, that’s selfish on their part. I’m going to be late for my celebration of life!! I absolutely want someone to speak up, crash my celebration of life, & hopefully it’ll help the ones around rethink & learn ( the ones that were always so busy, to busy to stop by) I pray and hope it’ll help those ones learn to make time for all, regardless.
What a great show. There should be more of them, in different regions. As I watched & listened, I imagined how many others would benefit from "full disclosure" of the missing pieces in their lives.
If someone's best friend is messing with the failing person's wife, it deserves to be called out! If Mom god dumped at hospice, never to be visited again, mkre power to you! It removes a tiny bit of the helplessness that death imposes. And compared to death, which the client is about to experience, then, yeah, indulge them their last (legal) wish.
jesus, I despise people like the doctor at 25:02 ...throwing words like narcissist around and acting all mighty. Lady if I hire someone to tell another to get the hell out of my funeral that's what I want, I don't care what others think. Do you think someone would pay thousands of dollars and not mean it?
The man crashing funerals is a vulture making money. He only Knows the story from the dead (often times abuser’s perspective)! He may think everyone there sitting at the event deserves the venom… but clearly he has his own demons . My paternal grandmother victimized the entire family (and others) throughout her life & with the help of funeral home & vultures like him attempted to do so after her death. WE as adult victims of her, still had a gathering…outside their control & said our peace & began to heal the family torn to shreds by her. Never assume the client doesn’t have mental illness to the end!
Some people play victim even on their deathbed...after destroying so many people during their lives they would make use of the "funeral crasher" to carry on with their distruction and torture...full narcissistic!!
I would hire him, he is not doing anything wrong, its their life, their decisions, their final words ... So, let's face it, obviously, the client cannot voice what they would like to voice.. probably family dynamics at play.. again... I would hire him, he is not doing anything wrong, its their life, their decisions, their final words
Sounds like an Agatha Christie story ! I have many things I would like to say...oh wait...I have already taken care of them while I am alive. I shun who I want. I embrace who I want. I say what I want. I go to my death clean and clear. Do we have to pay for inane services that just "feel good" but we are not around to feel the consequences ? I would hire someone to protect my interests at a funeral to kick out the weeping and wailing idiots who try and take over...the drama queen types. But...I am not the dead person. I am the live one mourning the death of say MY CHILD while others are being complete idiots. That's what I needed. An advocate because I was left alone.
I'm 67 next month my mom is 84 father has passed....I've always had an unhealthy relationship with my mom...It took moving out of state at 47 to get a clearer look of whom my mother really is....Even went to a therapist helped to get a true picture of our relationship...I've have to put the breaks on and walls up all the time....But I've learned what issues belong to her and how to interact in a healthy way and stop her from draining me in a negative way...Learning to love myself, except my mistakes, forgive myself, and continue to grow.. The hardest part is accepting that the relationship is what it is and will not ever be what the little girl in side me craves....
I finally had to walk away from my mother, I was 48, she was 70 years old, I mourned the loss of her, the loss of not having a mother who was capable of having maternal instincts towards me. She hurt me beyond repair, she was a Malignant/Grandiose Narcissist and wouldn’t admit any fault, ever. It’s hard to be the only one trying to make a relationship work. My mom later died of cancer 2 years later, she wouldn’t allow me to come say goodbye, she threatened other family members I guess not to call me or allow me to come around. I felt cheated for awhile, realizing that she would never have the chance to say sorry for how she treated us, or truly change her selfish ways, her death was a finality and I’ll never get the chance to forgive her face to face. She didn’t want forgiving since she didn’t think she ever did anything wrong. She died in 2021, I’m doing much better now than I was, thank goodness my faith carried me thru the difficult times as a child, and now. I didn’t get any deathbed “sorry I hurt you”, it would have meant everything to me if she could have given me that much but it wasn’t meant to be. I’m learning to forgive, it’s what my faith wants me to do and what I desperately need to do.
I had a hard time with it also, but glad I did it. As a grownup one realizes how difficult life is, parents do the best and sometimes the worst, but they way I look at it, I'm here and that gift is the greatest any parent can give. “You will achieve more in this world through acts of mercy than you will through acts of retribution." Nelson Mandela - on forgiveness. You have a chance now, once they gone, there is no going back. The fact you bring it up is because you want it. You will be a lot happier. Take it from me, a stranger.
Life is a life limiting condition and my son’s father always said, before he died, “When you live, live in clover because when you’re dead-you’re dead all over. Truth
Those that had a member on their death bed should have gone to see them for possible making peace having no regrets. What YOU sow YOU will reap. It is a selfish act to NOT make peace.🌹😪
I TOTALLY WOULD HIRE HIM TOO SEND MY NEW FEW A MESSAGE!I LOVE HIM DEARLY . THAT'S HIS PARENTS CHOO ME NOT TOO HAVE A RELATIONSHIP WITH HIM . I LIKE THESE SERVICE. WHAT'S THE DIFFERENT HIM TELLING FAMILY OR THE FAMILY LAWYER.
What I don't understand is why he wants his daughter to look after his children, & not their biological mothers. Is his daughter wealthy, & in a healthy, stable, loving relationship? He does seem to have been a man with wobbly finances to say the least. The daughter comes across very together, intelligent, & deeply caring. Hoping she & the biological mothers have all come to a healthy, working decision, that's best for the children.
I really appreciate that man's job. I'd be good with it. It isn't always a terrible thing if they consider it so get therapy. I think it is terrible when a person has desires but the family or funeral home do what they wish and it happens often. I know a family, the husband died a year after the wife. At the reading of the will some months later so all on the invite could attend. The attorney had them sign a document that there would be no discussions even during breaks. The attorney read a letter and had a log book documenting who owed whom money and other issues their entire lives, it took hours. The balances were paid. In their death, they revealed the secrets that had hurt them and hopefully let their family go on without the secrets and pain. If a veteran there are things to do before they pass such as a bank membership option that once they've passed cannot be done.
I've done a ANCESTRY DNA test and I still do not know who my biological father is. Supposedly have hundreds of 4th thru 5th cousins. The cousins I know to be my family are not shown in my DNA test on paternal side.
I have a family that has been subversive, left my mother who scarficed everything for them. She is left unloved. Her expressing her hurt, would be awsome! She is not a narcissist, like the stupid generilized psychologists say. It would serve as a wake up call, not to treat people like that
I heard of one story on SBS Insight, about 7 years ago, where the daughter found out that she was her mother's father's child. Incest, yet again. I wonder if this lady would have been able to handle that truth. She appears to feel that her mother was deliberately holding back what could have been a good getting to know the real father situation. I feel the mother was adamant for a powerful reason, &/or most definitely into denial, or pretending. Surely you can go for genetic testing, & profiling now, if your mother doesn't want to tell you? There are geneologists too, that I know many have used to trace family members. The whole thing just feels very strange. Maybe because it is. I have questions, as Emily D. Baker would say.
A bit difficult to do quality control on the death bed crasher! Oh, gee I think that I will just sleep in today and feel pretty comfortable that my customer will not ask for a refund. I suspect this is just a made-up job.
Yes, in this country (the US), this often degenerates into what I call "Necro-tainment', meaning at the expense of the dying person, and his loved ones. Ugh.
I don’t mind selfishness of deceased person. People need to amend mess when everyone is alive, if it doesn’t then whatever they said however people should take.
Seems a real sheety thing to do at a funeral. But then I've always HATED funerals, I'm going straight to the crematorium after the death certificate is signed...and save my family a pile of money..if I got anything to say I'd say it while I'm alive...I don't want no one making money off my death..like the funeral homes, and the funeral crasher is...no way. It's sick that he charges 10 thousand for what he does..what a racket!!
If someone has that kind of money to pay for that kind of service then they are not fragile victims without options or a voice. They are the part of the dark elements and their motive for this paid drama is suspect and a toxic control issue. Bill gets paid for basically an hour of work for doing nothing; of course he is going to do and say everything to retain his position, he is basically a mercenary with paid allegiance. I know a lot of dying people who will do their darndest to try and drag you down into the grave with them. Like a person committing a crime of a mass shooting; they want everyone to be as miserable as they are. I don't buy into it. If you are able to afford hospice then you are doing better than 96% of the world. As for the man that said "you haven't visited me in 30 years", I think that also means he had not visited them. People with money try to control with money and in the end that just does not work.
Death bed chasers, death seems to be the only escape from human birds of prey. God Bless that lady who took care of her father's children. Would that her father had treasured her his scandalous life m
The 'fundamental evangelical Christian' mother showed no grace, no love and no compassion. These would be the signs of a Christian, sadly she seemed the opposite 😟
I also was rejected by my family. Life was rough. I grew to be strong! I can take care of myself. I made it!
I’m so sorry you to go through that resection. What sort of family does that? I think that perhaps you had a lucky escape from a very toxic family. Life can be very cruel indeed. Rejection and abandonment hurt us deeply and I hope that you find healing an peace come into your life. Being independent and only reliant on yourself is how I roll too due to abandonment issues as a child, I don’t rely on anyone so I never have disappointments or unfulfilled expectations. I love my independence and the thought that I can do all the things I need without having to ask anyone for help, I’m proud of you and myself for being strong enough to battle on :)
Bill is doing his job. He has an unusual job, but he is delivering a message to those his clients leave behind.
The lady in a lime greenish dress is a very lovely person and she is authentic.The sister who spend time with her husband was committing such a disloyal thing .
I finally had to walk away from my mother, I was 48, she was 70 years old, I mourned the loss of her, the loss of not having a mother who was capable of having maternal instincts towards me. She hurt me beyond repair, she was a Malignant/Grandiose Narcissist and wouldn’t admit any fault, ever. It’s hard to be the only one trying to make a relationship work. My mom later died of cancer 2 years later, she wouldn’t allow me to come say goodbye, she threatened other family members I guess not to call me or allow me to come around.
I felt cheated for awhile, realizing that she would never have the chance to say sorry for how she treated us, or truly change her selfish ways, her death was a finality and I’ll never get the chance to forgive her face to face. She didn’t want forgiving since she didn’t think she ever did anything wrong. She died in 2021, I’m doing much better now than I was, thank goodness my faith carried me thru the difficult times as a child, and now.
I didn’t get any deathbed “sorry I hurt you”, it would have meant everything to me if she could have given me that much but it wasn’t meant to be. I’m learning to forgive, it’s what my faith wants me to do and what I desperately need to do.
The Funeral crasher made the most sense of them all. His comments were so darn true.
Attending a funeral of a former friend after not seeing them in 20+ years; vultures in the family that only want material items; selfish family members - funeral? Majority of Funeral's are hypocritical. Waste of money! I'm with the Crasher!
I love the gate crasher, the deceased gets the last say, good on THEM.
I totally understand the first woman that chose not to go to her mother’s deathbed. Sometimes sorry is just too late. My mom is 75 and she is not in my life anymore. It causes me pain on a daily basis and I so badly want to have a relationship with her. I honestly don’t know what I’ll do if I ever get the call to come to her deathbed. I’d be afraid of what she would leave me with.
This make me realize….. make me wants to live a meaningful and peaceful life. I don’t want to have any regret in life. I did the best I could.
Exactly Belle.
Watching this made me very grateful of my parents and the kind, loving, secure childhood they provided me.
I really like the way this program presents topics and deals with discussions. If you compare it to most American programming, they handle topics professionally and try their very best to suspend judgment or bias. This allows those interviewed to be as comfortable as possible and not respond reactively or defensively. Whereas with American programming, and with some of the biggest names in talk shows (I won’t name them but I’m sure you can figure them out) you can sense bias or judgement from the host by their demeanor or line of questioning or by how they cut off or interrupt the person speaking or allow the audience to boo or laugh or ridicule the speakers in other ways. Cameras will zoom in on people looking horrified or laughing, etc. Some even have physical altercations that often seem encouraged. All for ratings. Whereas this program handles sensitive topics with dignity and decorum.
I concur with your assesment of our American talk shows. I love watching this show and other similarly produced and I am in awe of how professionally and interesting they are.
That's because you watch American programming for entertainment, and then use the rest of the world for depth.
I was thinking the same thing. This series is an example of how asking the right questions, intelligent, intuitive hosting, giving equal time to all, enough time to answer qurstions without butting in or talking over the guests and actively listening by all involved. It makes for programmes one can actually learn something from. It seems to me to come from a place of professional.journalism and respect - two things i find in increasingly short supply in the media.
Agreed, this is how these kinds of programmes should be handled.
There's great empathy and sympathy for the person telling their story. Well done.
Agree 100% It's more healing to be gentle and disarming instead of a hyped-up sensation like American programing. Interesting subject matter and wonderful delivery. This program is excellent.
I love what Bill is doing! My loved ones would want to fight about my opinion due to them loving drama. I want what I have to say not an augment. Rock on Bill!!
I think this guy is great! I've had so many fake friends and horrible family members that I really don't want them at my funeral! I've met complete strangers that have treated me better than those close to me. I would definitely pay for bills services. Amazing service!
Why would YOU care? You're already dead. So why don't you think about the people who loved you? They're standing there grieving and all of a sudden their grieving process is turned into a circus of American housewives. I think it's so diminishing.
I have told my kids I dont want a funeral, just scatter my ashes on my fav beach. Stuff them, hardly any contact in 20 yrs.
I don't have any deathbed confessions but I wouldn't mind hearing someone else's.
I think the first lady made the right choice. Sometimes family is toxic and you have to take steps to protect yourself. That family being sick or nearing the end of their lives does not mean you have to endanger your mental well being to help theirs.
I absolutely love the funeral crasher. Amazing business! There is no rule that says a funeral is only about playing nice. It's best to leave the world with a clean slate. It's not his fault that people can't handle the truth. 🤷🏾♀️
He's such an awful person. And the people who ask for that? Wouldn't it much more meaningful to do those things while they were alive?
This funeral crasher is horrid. I had to defend off a scum-bag who pretended to know my mother and wanted to take control of my Mother's assets. It took a year to prove to the courts that this guy was a fraud. I had to pay attorney fees and fight in court, finally proving that his scum-bag was not related to our family. When scum-bag's attorney truly realized that scum-bag was a fraud he resigned.
I like the idea of Bill reading my words at my funeral. However, I cannot afford the fee but best of luck Bill you are fulfilling many peoples wishes,
Insight is one of my absolute favorite programs. Thank you from a Swede living in the USA 🥰
Just cuz they are your parents doesn’t mean they are not hypocrite bastards. parents can be the worst perpetrators of abuse
I feel Bill is quite mature in his outlook. And that he says it’s the dying persons last right and it’s their funeral.
Whatever is shared by a dead person may hurt but then that might be a type of karma cycle and is there anything wrong with that?
We as people avoid a lot and we do not always like the truth.
So why not respect the words of a dead person,
So many families keep secrets generation after generation and cycles of dysfunction perpetuate. His service is amazing! I wish him the best in his business 💯
This man doesn't care it's all about the money.
The 'Coffin Confessor' is on the right track, advocating for the dying/deceased person. I would support this concept even more if a sliding scale fee was used. Many comments during the interviews suggest that only the 'living' left behind be considered. I disagree. Unless there are dependents, the dying person's wishes should be honoured.
I think Bill is so cool. He is right about Vultures. Sadly I have seen the vultures at work .Good for him
I'm the only one left in my immediate family and as karma has it , my sister ,the vulture kicked before me ROLMAO 😁😁😁
Death he’d confessions are the most selfish thing anyone can do. They gave 0 repercussions while those left behind have to deal.
@Babs Malone, I completely agree with you.
The first woman: ‘My mother was extremely Christian and always in control…’ Your mother was probably extremely narcissistic and used religion to control. See it for what it is! By the way that green looks fantastic on her! Gr. from Holland!
Religion is often a justification for evil
I agree about her mother being narcissistic , and Vickie is also very beautiful. I hope she found someone that truly loves her.
Some parents don't deserve anything, considering the hurt and misery she put us through.
Youre a very good interviewer youve done a great job interviewing all these diverse peeople.
I like Bill. I think he's doing a great job. We should not molly mother with judgment.
I just LOVE hearing the Aussies speak and share. I love listening only to the Sky News for American news...real news . The rest of my news comes from authentic Truther Channels. I send much love to my Aussie friends!!! You wonderful people!!!
You might enjoy Margaret Max-the Pendulum Queen. 🙂
This format was very well done. Clean and professional.
I like what this man is saying, a person who is dying should have the right to what ever they want to say or want, family is not what people think it is you could be the best person in the world & all your life you've been treated like crap because of jalousi & other issues of their own SO BRAVO FOR THIS MAN DEATH WHISHES BELONG TO THE DYING.
There can never be too much truth. Truth always sets us free. I think for families that have lived lies [sometimes for generations,] as family members we should thank God that pieces finally fall together.
I think its up to the deceased and their decision to use Bills services. Sometimes family and friends deserve it!
I refuse to listen to post death "stories" as from experience...the dead cannot refute what is being said. For me it is a taboo and my family knows how I feel. You do not tell me what a dead loved one said if you were not going to tell me before they died. It usually starts like this "Well, I don't know if I should tell you this"...You say..no you shouldn't ! Or this " You know when Grandpa was alive he used to tell me you............." NO...just stop right there !" Because you can never trust that what you will hear is true. Or that someone wants to get to you or one up you for some dumb reason. This is from observation of other families and my own experience with someone trying to lie to me for their own benefit when I knew they were making things up ! Unless I see something in a handwriting I know is true...just be quiet.
I like the service this man offers, I think it will become a normal service in the very near future.
Not your life, not your decision, not your final words, I love the service this man offers. 🕰Too much hypocrisy. 🤔
no...?
Ok so I feel like most of the people disagreeing with the private investigator acting on behalf of the deceased didn’t listen to what he said. I have known people that have fought over their parents money, jewelry etc long before they died and it was disgusting. Their parents felt helpless to do anything about it because they were old , so they just pretended it wasn’t happening. Once a good friend of my husbands took his father to court because he got remarried after his wife died and he couldn’t handle his dad spending his inheritance on his new wife. These things are despicable and people that do those sorts of things deserve to be put in their place.
Forgiveness heals yourself not the other person when you forgive someone else you are actually freeing yourself
My father in law never bought the land his house was built on. My sister in law Pat did, other siblings were not told. He told me but I didn't tell anyone. Pat lived in another country. He legally gifted her the house. While he was sick and dieing Pat sister moved her daughter and son in law into the house,He died and Pat came home when she sent them copy of her title to the property everyone was in shocked.
The man that sacrifices his life so you can thrive in this life is your real father
I would use Bill’s service anytime any day.
Same!
For the woman whose mother was only 16, There was a reason she wanted you to have a stable life with her husband as your father... because the Bio person was not responsible or did her Harm as a young innocent girl. why would you blame your mother for her unwed disgrace, must have Hurt her deeply and she was still strong enough to keep you and raise you, as many young girls were forced to adopt out the child. Appreaciate your moms strength for giving you a great life.
I also beleive I had a different father, but my mother spared me the trama she might have suffered.
Fabulous idea!! I could work for him!! Would love to offer this service in the US!!
I feel in US you would need a bodyguard😅
OMG....Greatest Service Ever....
I'm thinking it's something I could offer too.
I think it's a wonderful service for the deceased, for them to get the last word.
I would do this!! I completely understand this all concept!! Actually, I would hire him, absolutely!
It would be a fun TV series but in real life? How does this funeral crasher guy know that these clients are not total pricks who want to do their last number on their family? Maybe their family did not like them and did not visit them because they had simply not been good people and had not treated others well. Plus, it is not ‘about the person in the coffin’ as much as about those 2000-10 000 $ he charges.
This man is helpin the dying ones to b heard. They probably hav never truly been heard in life by family or friends. This is an opportunity to hav u voice heard n put sme issues to bed, or b exposed, 4 family to grow, n friends not chase others wife's.
Someone had an engraving on their headstone that said, I told you I was sick! I was reminded of this from the lady who’s patient said the same thing.
Regarding what the coffin confessor does, I would suggest he get the information then tell the client I will give you some time (if possible, say a few days) to think about your decision before you finally sign off on this. People dealing with the end of life go through many stages. I bet their thoughts and feelings may fluctuate from day to day. But everyone’s life and ways of dealing with things is different. This may not be everyone’s cup of tea but may be perfectly fitting for another. For such people it may not even come as a shock for those at the funeral.
Great questions! It is mind opening as well as heart wrenching 💔 😢 what some people have gone through and how they dealt with it. The funeral crasher has his place since he was there as the living 'mouthpiece' for the deceased. It was their final wish, he carried it out. I'm very sure his services are in demand. Thank you for approaching difficult topics that are very important.
We can believe the funeral crashers words as if the were the deceased actual words or not. Thinking about it deeply for a few minutes. A death bed or before video would seem more believable than a stranger who charges $2,000-$10,000 a person. That's an outrageous sum of money to speak at a funeral, even for traveling expenses and hotel accommodations. It would be more acceptable to me if his charges earned him a little more than his expenses, but he's fleecing both the dying and the heirs out of their 'rightful' inheritance. The deceased had the option if he or she had time and the mind to do it, of going to an attorney and making a Last Will and Testament. Many people do not think to do this or reject it, or they procrastinate. ALL have their own reasons why they don't do it. IT IS QUITE PERSONAL TO EACH AND EVERYONE WHO CHOOSES NOT TO HAVE A WILL. I DON'T PASS JUDGEMENT ON THEM EITHER WAY, YOU SHOULD HAVE OR YOU SHOULDN'T HAVE MADE A WLL. IT'S THEIR LIFE AND IT'S THEIR DEATH, ALONE WITH GOD, AND THAT'S BETWEEN THEM AND GOD WHAT THEY CHOOSE TO DO OR NOT DO.🙏🏻AMEN=' SO BE IT'.
A very truthful phenomenon. Destructive and killing lives live the near deceased is literally cursing / bondage you with their last breath
DON'T GO THERE
I'm going to die alone & I'm alright with it. My conscience are clear.
Character, not circumstances, determines the quality of our life.
It's better to have the "death bed confession" as compaired to leaving in silence. There is a place for all of their services. Stop berating those who choose to deal out justice that they weren't able to while alive. It's much better if people can talk things out with whomever the issue is, but that isn't always an option.
I'd use Bill's service.
Good for him for speaking the truth on behalf of the deceased. It's not meant to make u feel 'comfortable' warm and fuzzy if u have wronged the dead. Ok...it's a real healing and release for the deceased to have someone neutral speak for them. alot of family do fight over money and assets anyway. they just don't like the deceased having a voice and exposing their vile selfish nature. and yes don't bother coming to the funeral if u havn't been involved in their life till the end. do it in the living years or bugger off.
The funeral crasher is carrying out a great service where the person wouldn't have been able to, maybe they were a family of Narcissists and money grabbers who would make it all about them, the repercussions for the dying one could be monumental.
So before you shoot the person down, think about the person who is deceased and unable to cope with other people's emotions surrounding the person's relationship with those who the focus on once they have passed.
Personally I have left letters in my will to be read out aloud at my funeral, should certain people turn up.
I would engage this man to save my children from having to read out my letters.
Have the courage before you die to tell people off !
I believe in his service there. Are people that die and have never been able to express themselves let them
When we’re here, & we suffer, I personally want peace with all!! It takes so much extra energy to have ones in our family have bitterness, and all, I don’t want a part of it. If they don’t have time to visit, hang out, help, while we’re here, & they are full aware of illnesses, then choose to be sad with our life after, when we pass away, cross over, that’s selfish on their part. I’m going to be late for my celebration of life!! I absolutely want someone to speak up, crash my celebration of life, & hopefully it’ll help the ones around rethink & learn ( the ones that were always so busy, to busy to stop by) I pray and hope it’ll help those ones learn to make time for all, regardless.
Bill is my man of the show
Very interesting discussion, never seen anything like that 🙏❤️
The "ash drop" request is awesome but many places do not allow it. I wonder if she got permission.
What a great show. There should be more of them, in different regions. As I watched & listened, I imagined how many others would benefit from "full disclosure" of the missing pieces in their lives.
This is parallel or similar to a Last Will, the only difference is the last will is by a lawyer while the other is a common person
If someone's best friend is messing with the failing person's wife, it deserves to be called out! If Mom god dumped at hospice, never to be visited again, mkre power to you! It removes a tiny bit of the helplessness that death imposes. And compared to death, which the client is about to experience, then, yeah, indulge them their last (legal) wish.
jesus, I despise people like the doctor at 25:02 ...throwing words like narcissist around and acting all mighty. Lady if I hire someone to tell another to get the hell out of my funeral that's what I want, I don't care what others think. Do you think someone would pay thousands of dollars and not mean it?
The man crashing funerals is a vulture making money. He only Knows the story from the dead (often times abuser’s perspective)! He may think everyone there sitting at the event deserves the venom… but clearly he has his own demons . My paternal grandmother victimized the entire family (and others) throughout her life & with the help of funeral home & vultures like him attempted to do so after her death. WE as adult victims of her, still had a gathering…outside their control & said our peace & began to heal the family torn to shreds by her. Never assume the client doesn’t have mental illness to the end!
Wills and last testaments are basically death bed confessions.
Nothing wrong with them. They make life more interesting jare.
Kind of like a final report card !
Some people play victim even on their deathbed...after destroying so many people during their lives they would make use of the "funeral crasher" to carry on with their distruction and torture...full narcissistic!!
I would hire him, he is not doing anything wrong, its their life, their decisions, their final words ... So, let's face it, obviously, the client cannot voice what they would like to voice.. probably family dynamics at play.. again... I would hire him, he is not doing anything wrong, its their life, their decisions, their final words
Sounds like an Agatha Christie story ! I have many things I would like to say...oh wait...I have already taken care of them while I am alive. I shun who I want. I embrace who I want. I say what I want. I go to my death clean and clear. Do we have to pay for inane services that just "feel good" but we are not around to feel the consequences ? I would hire someone to protect my interests at a funeral to kick out the weeping and wailing idiots who try and take over...the drama queen types. But...I am not the dead person. I am the live one mourning the death of say MY CHILD while others are being complete idiots. That's what I needed. An advocate because I was left alone.
I’m not sure what I think of the coffin confessor although that’s an idea that never ever occurred to me
I wish I could forgive my parents. Maybe I wouldn’t be so sad. But I just can’t even imagine it. I worry though when they die.
I feel exactly the same... Some wounds and traumas are cannot heal...
I'm 67 next month my mom is 84 father has passed....I've always had an unhealthy relationship with my mom...It took moving out of state at 47 to get a clearer look of whom my mother really is....Even went to a therapist helped to get a true picture of our relationship...I've have to put the breaks on and walls up all the time....But I've learned what issues belong to her and how to interact in a healthy way and stop her from draining me in a negative way...Learning to love myself, except my mistakes, forgive myself, and continue to grow.. The hardest part is accepting that the relationship is what it is and will not ever be what the little girl in side me craves....
I finally had to walk away from my mother, I was 48, she was 70 years old, I mourned the loss of her, the loss of not having a mother who was capable of having maternal instincts towards me. She hurt me beyond repair, she was a Malignant/Grandiose Narcissist and wouldn’t admit any fault, ever. It’s hard to be the only one trying to make a relationship work. My mom later died of cancer 2 years later, she wouldn’t allow me to come say goodbye, she threatened other family members I guess not to call me or allow me to come around.
I felt cheated for awhile, realizing that she would never have the chance to say sorry for how she treated us, or truly change her selfish ways, her death was a finality and I’ll never get the chance to forgive her face to face. She didn’t want forgiving since she didn’t think she ever did anything wrong. She died in 2021, I’m doing much better now than I was, thank goodness my faith carried me thru the difficult times as a child, and now.
I didn’t get any deathbed “sorry I hurt you”, it would have meant everything to me if she could have given me that much but it wasn’t meant to be. I’m learning to forgive, it’s what my faith wants me to do and what I desperately need to do.
I had a hard time with it also, but glad I did it. As a grownup one realizes how difficult life is, parents do the best and sometimes the worst, but they way I look at it, I'm here and that gift is the greatest any parent can give.
“You will achieve more in this world through acts of mercy than you will through acts of retribution." Nelson Mandela - on forgiveness.
You have a chance now, once they gone, there is no going back. The fact you bring it up is because you want it. You will be a lot happier. Take it from me, a stranger.
Christina, when you identify how your unforgiveness serves you, you'll know why you hold on to it.
Life is a life limiting condition and my son’s father always said, before he died, “When you live, live in clover because when you’re dead-you’re dead all over. Truth
I will be hiring Bill. 👍
Those that had a member on their death bed should have gone to see them for possible making peace having no regrets. What YOU sow YOU will reap. It is a selfish act to NOT make peace.🌹😪
I so agree family are full of vultures when someone is dying.
I TOTALLY WOULD HIRE HIM TOO SEND MY NEW FEW A MESSAGE!I LOVE HIM DEARLY .
THAT'S HIS PARENTS CHOO ME NOT TOO HAVE A RELATIONSHIP WITH HIM .
I LIKE THESE SERVICE.
WHAT'S THE DIFFERENT HIM TELLING FAMILY OR THE FAMILY LAWYER.
The spreading ashes is cool, around the world
Went back to the story later. Thank you.
They don’t want get exposed in front of everyone of their families
Megan, is a portrait in first class character. What a gracious woman.
Vickie, in the green dress, is a lovely women. I hope she was able to move on.
So did the daughter agree to look after the three younger children??!! Half a story 😕
What I don't understand is why he wants his daughter to look after his children, & not their biological mothers. Is his daughter wealthy, & in a healthy, stable, loving relationship? He does seem to have been a man with wobbly finances to say the least. The daughter comes across very together, intelligent, & deeply caring. Hoping she & the biological mothers have all come to a healthy, working decision, that's best for the children.
She said yes
I really appreciate that man's job. I'd be good with it. It isn't always a terrible thing if they consider it so get therapy. I think it is terrible when a person has desires but the family or funeral home do what they wish and it happens often. I know a family, the husband died a year after the wife. At the reading of the will some months later so all on the invite could attend. The attorney had them sign a document that there would be no discussions even during breaks. The attorney read a letter and had a log book documenting who owed whom money and other issues their entire lives, it took hours. The balances were paid. In their death, they revealed the secrets that had hurt them and hopefully let their family go on without the secrets and pain. If a veteran there are things to do before they pass such as a bank membership option that once they've passed cannot be done.
I hope the lady who wanted to know who her father was does an ancestry DNA test then she will know
I've done a ANCESTRY DNA test and I still do not know who my biological father is. Supposedly have hundreds of 4th thru 5th cousins. The cousins I know to be my family are not shown in my DNA test on paternal side.
She said she did thru ancestry dna, unfortunately he had already passed
Wow. All these perfect people that can’t forgive a dying person. A dying person who is asking for forgiveness. Selfish.
I have a family that has been subversive, left my mother who scarficed everything for them. She is left unloved. Her expressing her hurt, would be awsome! She is not a narcissist, like the stupid generilized psychologists say. It would serve as a wake up call, not to treat people like that
I heard of one story on SBS Insight, about 7 years ago, where the daughter found out that she was her mother's father's child. Incest, yet again. I wonder if this lady would have been able to handle that truth. She appears to feel that her mother was deliberately holding back what could have been a good getting to know the real father situation. I feel the mother was adamant for a powerful reason, &/or most definitely into denial, or pretending. Surely you can go for genetic testing, & profiling now, if your mother doesn't want to tell you? There are geneologists too, that I know many have used to trace family members. The whole thing just feels very strange. Maybe because it is. I have questions, as Emily D. Baker would say.
This is interesting. WoW!!
Crushing people on behalf of the deceased - not a bad idea!!
Bill has a service which people want and need. Audience seems extremely narrow minded. Lmao
Where's God and the person's pastor/spiritual advisor in all this? Not one word. Amazing.
Bill is cool 😎
I love it!! Keep doing what you are doing, Bill!!!
I love this show!
Hoping Netflix does a movie about deathbed confessions.
A bit difficult to do quality control on the death bed crasher! Oh, gee I think that I will just sleep in today and feel pretty comfortable that my customer will not ask for a refund. I suspect this is just a made-up job.
Why do we need other people's nonsense affect us? All we need to do is to say no, I live my life. Leave me alone.
Yes, in this country (the US), this often degenerates into what I call "Necro-tainment', meaning at the expense of the dying person, and his loved ones. Ugh.
*The "Ashed Tour" is **_extremely_** cool! I hope someone does that to me!*
Very good program honest
I don’t mind selfishness of deceased person.
People need to amend mess when everyone is alive, if it doesn’t then whatever they said however people should take.
Seems a real sheety thing to do at a funeral. But then I've always HATED funerals, I'm going straight to the crematorium after the death certificate is signed...and save my family a pile of money..if I got anything to say I'd say it while I'm alive...I don't want no one making money off my death..like the funeral homes, and the funeral crasher is...no way.
It's sick that he charges 10 thousand for what he does..what a racket!!
Ok 🙏got it,glad you found your dad 😍
If someone has that kind of money to pay for that kind of service then they are not fragile victims without options or a voice. They are the part of the dark elements and their motive for this paid drama is suspect and a toxic control issue. Bill gets paid for basically an hour of work for doing nothing; of course he is going to do and say everything to retain his position, he is basically a mercenary with paid allegiance. I know a lot of dying people who will do their darndest to try and drag you down into the grave with them. Like a person committing a crime of a mass shooting; they want everyone to be as miserable as they are. I don't buy into it. If you are able to afford hospice then you are doing better than 96% of the world. As for the man that said "you haven't visited me in 30 years", I think that also means he had not visited them. People with money try to control with money and in the end that just does not work.
Most places do not allow anyone to spread human remains on their grounds.
I agree, it's their funeral. Let them have their funeral.
Death bed chasers, death seems to be the only escape from human birds of prey. God Bless that lady who took care of her father's children. Would that her father had treasured her his scandalous life m
The 'fundamental evangelical Christian' mother showed no grace, no love and no compassion. These would be the signs of a Christian, sadly she seemed the opposite 😟