What it's like being Married in College
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- Опубліковано 6 чер 2024
- Today we talk about what it's like being married in college. While some have strong opinions about getting married before graduation, we have found that it has been the best thing for our relationship. Being married young is the absolute best and we are extremely happy with our decision.
In today's video we answer the questions you all submitted regarding our life as a young married couple in college. We cover everything from how we manage school, what our biggest challenges are, and how we strive to be intentional in our marriage.
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We got married when I was 20 and he was 21. We have been married 32 years.
aburns66 that is amazing, the stories of life that you can share with your family would be inspiring, I pray you have many more years together, sending hugs from Australia 😊
That’s amazing. Congrats to y’all.
Awesome!👍
Amazing! Congratulations!!!
Wow! Maybe that is the secret. My grandparents married early as well. Till death did they part.
We got married at 20 and 21 after 4 years of dating. We did not have sex before marriage. We will be married 45 years in November. Still very much in love.
omg 45 years thats awesome!!!
omg that's amazing
I think the reason people r so shocked ur so young is because people don’t wait till marriage and they already live together...
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The way you look at eachother🥺🥺
Aww thanks!!
My parents were married when they were 16 & 18, they are still married at 75 & 77, they have no regrets and are so cute to watch, all their little ways and their dynamic, it's just amazing, 😃💖
What? Is it legal to get married at 16? I mean she would be in highschool
Wow dude that is exactly what I want 🥰
@@savi3165 yes it was. Plus back then no one cared as long as it wasn’t Pedophile like
@@savi3165 it was much different back in those days .
@@savi3165 Legal age has always been changing. It was never 18 from the beginning. It is a man made law which can be changed at anytime. Maybe in the future they might changed it to 20 years old to be legal. Then 18 would be considered a minor one day.
Oh my goodness, Abby is LITERALLY a Disney Princess ✨ Y’all are the cutest couple! So glad I stumbled across you guys on TikTok
Angeleah Macklin Thank you! You are too kind! We really appreciate your support ❤️
Aww, that's really cute. I have to agree, these too are the sweetest! 🧡☺
No she’s not
@@jewelblue8496 So cute but more just the sweetest, I love it!😁💗🖤🤍 SO SO GOOD!!!
@@midget_spinner8449 she's so pretty is what she ment so stop and I agree she could be one u just me a hater
We got married at 21 years old 23 years ago! We were married 8 months after we started dating. We also waited for each other until marriage. 6 kids later, we are still best friends and completely in love. It can and does work! :) By the way, we also fostered and adopted two of our kids like you both want to do.
That's amazing! How did you know he was the one for you after only 8 months?
@@robynsmith6974 I actually just knew on the first date. Just a gut feeling. I had never had such an easy conversation, laughter, chemistry and connection than I had that night. Everything just screamed to me that THAT was my person.
@@leemcalister982 that's amazing!! I hope I get something like that one day❤️ I want to do it properly (like not just get into a relationship so I can say I am in one) and I'm only 17 so I am in no rush!
Thank you for replying😊
quote of the year; "A wedding will be successful if at the end of the day you two are married" I'm keeping this quote for life!
Hi guys ! Love your videos :) I'm 23 and getting married in 2022, and idk, there's something really soothing about those videos. I guess it's seeing how happy and confident your are with your decision ! (we won't live together till we're married either and Abby, your favorite thing about being married is actually the one I'm the most looking forward to !) Anyway, just wanted to say thank you for this ! I didn't even know I needed all this positivity :)
My fiance and I are 18. People think it's insane, and sometimes I don't understand why everything is happening so soon, but I just know I'm supposed to be with him. Thank you for making this video, and making me feel less crazy ♥️
Thanks for sharing!!
Only you and your fiance know when the time is right!! It's YOUR love and nobody else's!!❤🇨🇦❤🇨🇦❤
@@MattandAbby im so proud of u both. Did u both finish college whats your degree s....i really enjoy you blog's video s and your new baby. Thank you for a clean no potty mouth journey with you and your family.
I love how you're both so in tune with each other. Yes you're young yhyh, but you know what's more important and more endearing, is that you both have a huge sense of maturity and are level headed. Also which is important, is that you just bounce off each other, understand each other, work with each other! This is the aspiring relationship everyone should aim for! So refreshing to see what I personally am looking forward to in my future guys 😍👌🏾❤️
Young couple but I like to see how respectful you guys between one to another in this discussion (and in other videos that been posted too..).
Matt waits for Abby to finish expressing her thoughts without interrupting, and vice versa..
I know I’m way late to this video, but I have to commend you both on your marriage! My gosh I’m not married or dating but it’s very refreshing to see such a youthful and amazing marriage you both have right now in our world! When the one person talks, the other actually turns to other and listens. I see so often on UA-cam that many people don’t look at their partner or spouse while they are talking in videos. It’s the little things!
I throughly enjoyed this video! You guys are so true & genuine! Also, don’t worry about what other people say about y’all being married so young - you guys are clearly meant for each other and meant to be married now. When you know you know, so why need to wait! You guys are the best!
Hi Matt & Abby, thank you for sharing yourselves on youtube! :) I discovered you 'by accident' while browsing and was so touched by your love for each other and your humor. Your relationship is so refreshing! I was really needing that, and I now feel inspired. Thank you!!
I just stumbled upon your channel this morning. You two are wise beyond your years. What a precious couple! Thank you for using this platform to model what a healthy relationship can look like and how truly special marriage is. Blessings
Love this!! I met my husband and started dating him when I was 17, we were engaged just before I turned 20 and married at 22. We’ve been married for 4 years now and our marriage is just getting better and better :) when you’ve met “the one” and your best friend, you just know !
I love y’all! I have been dating my boyfriend for 5 years but super content on where we are now, but I love seeing how you view marriage it’s inspirational! :)
You guys are definetly an inspiration to us young ones. I feel very inspired and motivated watching you guys talk about marriage and finance. I took down some good points that you guys made and I will add it to my list of what Id like my future to be like. Thank you guys and God bless your journey together:)
Katelyn You are so sweet! We’re honored to have gotten to share some of the wisdom we’ve learned along our journey. Thank you for the support ❤️
Y'all are hands-down my new favorite youtube couple by FAR. Thanks for being the best!!
Wow! That is quite the compliment. Thank you!!
Been going through your videos all afternoon! Absolutely love you both and the energy you both have! Your love radiates! May God bless you and your future together x
Thank you so much!!
my boyfriend and i plan on getting married right out of college and we are the only ones out of our friends who feel that way! definitely feel some judgment from some people but it is so refreshing to see other people who are more family and relationship oriented rather than career oriented. i feel like people think that’s a bad thing but it so is not. love your channel!!!
I just graduated Highschool, and I and my girlfriend have been looking to the future. We just found your videos, and I just want to say thank you for the wonderful advice, this is exactly the kind of thing we were looking for.
You guys are so cool! We are rooting for you! Thank you for reaching out. Wishing you both the absolute in everything!
Love this so much! My fiancé and I are both getting married young as well (we will be 21 on our wedding day)... it’s so encouraging to see we’re not alone in wanting to get married already 💛
Celeste Vasquez That’s so awesome! We’re so excited for you guys. You’re not alone ❤️
Ohhh so precious and sweet ! I have been married for 15 years to my best friend at the age of 19. I totally can relate ! Be blessed in your marriage !
Marie Gufflet Thank you so much! That’s so cool to hear! We love hearing about other couples that got married young too! Thank you for the sweet comment!
My boyfriend and I have been together for 2.5 years. I’ve always wanted to get married young but have been fearful because of the “norm.” You guys are such an inspiration and make me feel better about the thing I want in life💕 thank you for being so real and honest!
Cierra Kinsey Thank you so much for your comment. We’re so honored and wish you the best! Abby and I are so glad we made the decision we made and hope to continue to support young marriage with our platform ❤️
I don’t think I have ever posted on a UA-cam video before, but this is one worth posting for! My husband and I got married while I was in nursing school (I’m currently in my last semester 🎉). I absolutely love this video. It was when I first discovered Matt and Abby while I was navigating being engaged young. It brings me back that time and how they helped me so much just by sharing their experiences while I was going through wedding planning while in collage. We were engaged for 2 years while we figured out how to make it all happen and have been married for 1.5 years. Thank you Matt and Abby for just being there when there were not a lot of other people in my life or on UA-cam that shared that experience ❤.
I recently found you guys on tictok and decided to check out your UA-cam and can I just say I am very inspired and encouraged by you and your relationship. I’m only a few years older than you but I got married at 22 to my high school sweetheart and I am also a marriage and family therapist and I LOVE hearing stories of mature young couples. It’s not easy sometimes being the only married friend and having to navigate building a community with married couples who are much older but when you have the attitude that you do and the maturity it is so much easier! Thank you for sharing your story!
You are so sweet! We are super encouraged when we hear about other young married couples too! One of our goals in having our channel is to promote young marriage. Hearing from people like you makes us so happy! Thank you for your sweet comment 🤗
If you know it’s right, you know!! You guys are so sweet together!🥰❤️
thanks for the sweet and informative video guys! continuously sending you both all the love and good vibes!
We love you Declan! Thank you for the kind comment! We miss you and hope to see you soon!
You guys are such lights! I'm so happy you guys are taking the time to share your lives with us.:)
Our pleasure! Thank you for the support! Always :)
Thank you, this is so helpful. My parents freaked out when I mentioned marriage after 3 months of dating, but my boyfriends parents are more chill about it. It’s comforting to know that my parents aren’t the only ones who freaked out Bc it seems like in a lot of young marriages the parents are chill with it.
Matt and Abby you both are such beautiful people inside and out I'm sure you both could have made it in the acting field but I'm sure you both can also find happiness in anything yall do together in the future.
I needed this video!! Thanks so much you guys are awesome!❣️👏🏽
You are so welcome! Glad you liked it 🤗
Yay! My question made it! You both are amazing and your relationship is so inspiring to other young Christian couples! Keep on letting God use both of you to touch others!
klarissaofficial You are awesome! Thank you so much for submitting a question and commenting!! We miss you. Thank you for the kind words 🤗
I agree!!! You're amazing!!!
We got married when we were babies. Literally. Actual babies. I could communicate with him in my head and I was in love with him ever since I opened my eyes. We didn’t see each other until college, but I knew it was him right when I saw him. We’ve been married 34 years and we met when we were both 0.
You guys are soooo cute together! I hope my future boyfriend is as sweet as Matt and you are so encouraging and blessed:)💖😊
Thank you so much!! Sending love your way :)
My 1st marriage, if you can call it that, I was 20 and I thought he was 25, as that’s what I was told. It lasted 22 months. When I left I had my 5wk old baby with me but left behind the hearing in my left ear from one of the beatings.
Jump 6yrs when I married the 2nd time was so different from the 1st. Someone actually loved me!! We were married 30yrs and 51weeks when he suddenly passed away in June/21. He took half my heart but I have a lifetime of happy memories to look back on and my 2 sons.🥰🥰💗💗
Obsessed with you guys!! So happy to have come across your channel!
My husband and I got engaged at 18 after dating for 8mths, and got married at 19, we have been together 20 years, married 18 years next April, I love hearing about other people getting married young
*when they mention they're both involved in the arts* 😁😁 yayyyy so happy that you're both lovers of performing and the arts! 🎭😍
Yall are so inspiring!!! Love yalls videos ❤
Jordan Slater You’re so sweet! Thank you 😊
Getting married young isn’t for everyone, but it can be beautiful! Love you guys ❤️
Watching this for the second time while packing my wedding invitations! 💕 I’m currently 19 and my fiancé is turning 20 soon!
We were married before we both graduated college and it was the best decision! The only downside was that some friends & family did not understand our new season and the priorities/responsibilities that come with being someone's spouse still applied to us even though we were young
I just found you guys this week and I've been catching up on your video. When you said we don't really have any plans and don't know how many children we want I had a little giggle! Isn't God funny and full of surprises.
Me and my fiancè are both 20 and we are getting married on July 25th 2020! We have absolutely loved growing up together the past 3 years and I think young kids in love is the most fairytale thing 🥰🥰 I couldn't imagine waiting til later in life! ❤️
Hope you have an amazing life
I really hope 2020 didn’t postpone your marriage plans and that you’re happily together right now ❤
People shame others for not “waiting” until marriage but what some people don’t realize or know is that marriage isn’t for everyone 😊 but you guys are such an inspiration and I love watching your videos❤️
Matt saying “I think we both know the best part of being married”
Yep... no explanation needed 😂
I love this so much! Thank you!
I love this video. My fiancé and are are 21 and 22 getting married in less than two months. We’ve been together for almost 4 years now and it was definitely something we’ve talked about for a very long time. We were best friends for a couple of years before we started dating and I really feel like it set the foundation for our relationship. We’ve had our ups and downs, of course, and it’s a work in progress as we figure out our lives together but it’s such a beautiful and strong thing because we had such a foundation already there when we started dating. We’ve had a lot of people ask “Oh when are you getting married” but we knew we wanted to wait for specific reasons then it came at the perfect time. Like you said, being intentional with time. Now we both really feel like we’re ready to take the next step in our lifelong journey
We’ve also had people talk about us being very young but at the same time we’ve grown and matured so much together in the last 4 years that we felt like it was the perfect time
I just watched this video AFTER seeing the birth video. I hope you guys watch this again soon :) Look how far y’all have come.
Yes !! Please do a how we met/starting dating video! I love your videos 😊😊
Madeline Gertsen we will have to do that one! Thanks so much for watching!!:)
Aw when Abby was telling Matt how excited she was to go to sleep & wake up next to him.. the look on his face.. so stinkin sweet. That’s genuine love. Brought tears to my eyes.
Even tho you guys are only 21 in this video( same age as me ironically) you guys are very mature and prove that you can have your life established young too.
You guys are literally the cutest.❤
Awww thank you so much!
I was married young and it was the best decision ever. Because I married an amazing guy who I loved and he loved me.
You guys are so loving and sweet.💖
2 years later I am still married it shows a lot of dedication now we have a child together and stability with our jobs has taken off on it’s own
I was actually a theatre major too. Not married, but my mom did get sick my junior year of college. I had already begun working professionally and doing summer stocks and moving around. I had to become her full time caregiver. I soon realized that wasn’t the life I wanted anymore.
Elizabeth Combs Thank you for sharing your story! That is so cool that you were able to care for your mom at that time. Sending love your way!
I relate to Matt's mentality so much. Idol.
Omg the last question mostly talking about getting married young makes me want to get married soon
The way Abby looks at Matt😍
Given how our society is and how many sexual partners people could have before marriage I think it is a good idea to get married even while in college. You two have thought about it. I think its not only better for you but also better for the college. I think colleges should welcome marriages more if they are not. God sees you as not two but one. You both work on helping each other as a family and not being so individualistic as people are today. Your living from a fresh perspective and you have no baggage. I hope you two grow together and love together for a lifetime.
U have a beautiful friendship and that’s a true key to a great marriage x true love is being each others best friends .when he leads u follow, when you lead he follows xxxx I married my hubby at age 19 yrs and he was 22yrs- we will celebrate 22yrs this August and 3 beautiful girls. Our youngster daughter is our 14th wedding anniversary gift will be 8yrs. We have officially been together 23&1/2yrs and it still feels like only yesterday that we said ‘yeah we will give it ago😂’ my hubby told me he wanted to marry me in our first date 🥰. Just take each moment as it comes - I see the beautiful chemistry that u have and I know u will be together forever 🥰🥰
Aww thank you so much for sharing! We appreciate your kind words so much! Wishing you and your family the absolute best in everything ❤️
Wdym not made a single cent as of yet! Put ads dude! You'll deserve all the money ❤️❤️❤️
Aww! You seem like such a wonderful couple!
Nice video! Thanks for sharing that with us! 😀
Hanne thank you so much!! We really appreciate you watching!:)
Wow I can tell you guys are going places:)
Lemon Kid That is so sweet of you to say and super encouraging :) Thank you for your comment and your support!!
Best UA-camrs!😍❤️
Oh my goodness! Thank you for the compliment!! :)
My boyfriend and I are looking at getting married when we are 19. We are so excited. Our relationship is strong and we don't see a big reason to wait.
I was 19 when my husband and I got married and I do not regret it at all! 😊😊
I love this so much. You guys help so so much. My boyfriend and I are 19 (he’ll be 20 in a few months). Is there any advice on how to get my family on board? Like I feel my family will disown me. They want me to wait. But why wait when we both already know?? His family has been on board since our first year of dating😂❤️
We got married when I was 20 and my husband was 19. We've been married 26 years. Neither of us went to college. (or for me not finishing college ) So we basically grew up together as far as growing into an adult.
You guys both say “oh yeah” in the same way when you’re like bouncing off of what each other said or agreeing and it’s so cute lol
Honestly, I relate to the part about dating so seriously you scare yourself thinking you’ll have to get married right away, so I totally relate, but like they said it’s something you should probably focus less on, Just focus on how you are in relationship with that person in the moment.
I left my career path of Stage Management early on because I realized that I couldn’t build the marriage I wanted and be the mother I wanted to be down the road. I fell into a new career path, thankfully, within a few months of making that decision and I don’t look back. I now have a wonderful marriage and baby!
Their story is inspiring
God bless you 🙏 You are a beautiful couple and complement each other perfectly.
Just wondering, what are your new majors?
Kimberly Cardinale You are the sweetest! Thank you! I switched to finance and Abby switched to elementary education.
First time seeing Matt swear, I jumped outta my seat bro!
Abby, your earrings are so beautiful!
You don't need to visit just on holidays. You can decide throughout the year to set aside a weekend for each family throughout the year.
I think it’s so cool that you guys got married young I wanna get married when I am 20 also so cool
Thank you! We truly had no intention of marring young until we met and then it kind of just happened. Love can do that to you 🤗
My husband and I got married at 21 too. Been married 16 years next month. Been through a lot together and we only got closer.
So sweet!!❤
Sammy Owens 🤗❤️
I got married to my hubs but we were older. I had a high stress job and we were in the process of buying a house so we didn’t want to spend money on the wedding. My MIL and his sister planned and executed the entire wedding. We visited the venue when we walked down the aisle. We had an amazing wedding that cost us nothing except the $99 dress I bought and the $120 tux he bought. It was the best decision ever and a HUGE blessing. If people would realize, it’s not about the wedding, it’s about the next forever days, marriages would probably last
Congratulations on your marriage
I love Abby’s hair here
I'm curious how you plan on growing as individuals but still keeping the relationship strong?
Great question! I think it's important to maintain a strong relationship with one another, but it's also important to be surrounded by a strong community of friends.
Guyss you are so adorable together i watch every single your video and i watching you every single day and like every photo on instagram
Getting married at 19 and 20. That’s insane, wow. Respect
We were married at 21 and 25 and have been together for four years with our first baby this year!
I was 19 and my husband was 20 and I will never regret it. I get angry at him but i can't imagine spending my life with any other
I also got married at 20 my husband was 28, we have been married for 12 years now. 💞
I think you guys are so sweet and such an amazing couple!!!
awww....abby is so cute!!
Getting married next year and we will both be 22. ❤️❤️❤️
My hubby and I met in college, married our senior year in college, he was 21 and I was 22. We extended our graduation a year so we could add some classes and do evening college. We waited for all sexual acts until marriage and totally glad we waited!! We’ve worked hard to keep our marriage together and enjoyed the process for 23 years so far!
So you're in your mid 40s. You are 70s kids. Either your parents or grandparents were in the war.
My childhood best friend he was we met since i was 10 and it was so cute when he would always worry about me and be overprotective of me and care for me when we where in middle school so I had a crush on him since 7th grade and we got together on 8th or 9th grade and have been tigether since then and we got married on 17and 19 and now we have 6 kids in 2023 and we are 36 and 38 with a 14 years old boy,12 years old girl and 10years old boy and 9 years girl old and a 6 years old boy and a 3 year old girl
Could you guys do a video on purity? Did you avoid sex before marriage.. etc.
We did! Great video idea 💡
Make a video on how you travel in college on a budget! My husband and I are young and in college too and want to travel without breaking the bank 😅
Ohhh love that idea! We will have to consider it. Pro tip: avoid restaurants and buy food at the grocery store instead ❤️ MUCH LOVE - Matt and Abbr