Sharing Openly About Infertility, Miscarriage, Adoption & Marriage | Zack and Kristen
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Hoping the best for you, so sad to hear anyone is going through something like this.
Jaclyn you're so sweet I don't agree with some of their views but I really hope they recover and are there for eachother during hard times
JaclynGlenn That was sweet of you Jaclyn ❤️
JaclynGlenn Sure you are. You probably laughed in your corner on hearing this. I've watched so many of your videos and virtually 80% of them are you bashing people with Christian views, and yet trying make it sound like you only bash religion doctrine in general.
JaclynGlenn In fact, I bet the only reason you clicked on this video was in the hopes to find something else you could bash them on for a new video.
Hey, that's really sweet of you! I don't really like most of your content, but this comment was a really pleasant surprise!
I'm gonna be honest, I don't agree with many of your views, but this just broke my heart. I'm sending love and I hope you can have a baby soon :)
I can definitely say I dont agree with their way of seeing life or religion, but I do hope they go through this frustrating journey in the best way they can, I am sitting here, honestly hoping that she gets pregnant and it succeeds.
Thanks for the encouragement. I genuinely appreciate that! -Kristen
I’m not a Christian, but I am deeply sorry for your trauma. I can’t imagine the heartbreak.
I really have liked the change in your videos lately. Hearing the authentic, raw Bethany and Kristin instead of put-together, teaching Bethany and Kristin has been refreshing. I'm so sorry for the heartache you have been experiencing. I can't imagine what you're going through! Praying for you all. ❤️🙏
while I don't agree with the messages that your channel spreads, I'm truly sorry that this happened to you
Kristen, Zack, thank you for being such a raw example of a Godly, Christian marriage, of strength and support between spouses especially in challenging times.
I disagree with you in virtually every topic, but I really feel for you on this. I’m sorry you have to go through that.
❤
I had recurring miscarriages at about the same 6ish week mark and it was my body not making progesterone naturally which you can't tell unless you're pregnant and measure it weekly. When I took it synthetically I carried to full term.
Also, undiagnosed celiac disease is linked to miscarriage too. I was also tested for that.
I know you likely have tested these things but just sharing my experience. Xx
Yes celiac disease can cause miscarriages you can have celiac disease and not have symptoms . Celiac disease can cause so many problems on the body heart disease rashes depression osteoporosis you name it.
I have very different views than you, but that is irrelevant when it comes down to the fact that we are all human and we all suffer and hurt. I am truly sorry for how you are suffering right now. Varying views should NEVER affect how we treat others from respect to kindness and love.
Although I don't agree with a lot of things you've said, I am genuinely sorry this happened to you two.
I usually have issues with them, but this is the most human and real I’ve ever seen her
Amanda o/ was it necessary to state that you usually don’t like them?
Tasha nsofwa yeah, I think so. I wanna show that even if you disagree with people, there’s still humanity there beneath the surface
@@tashansofwa2426 yes is funny how they dont like her but watch her videos😂
Angie k it isn’t about not liking her, I watch the videos to have a more rounded understanding of the issues they address.
Psalm 138:8 (KJV)
8 The Lord will perfect that which concerneth me: thy mercy, O Lord, endureth for ever: forsake not the works of thine own hands.
To this day the doctors cannot explain why my dear friend cannot carry a child. After many years of running down every avenue to try to get pregnant, and no answers as to why nothing was working, they finally were chosen by a birth mom to adopt a sweet baby girl this year on Jan 3. It was the most beautiful union of love I've ever seen. The moment she called me to say they were on their way to meet their child it was like years of built up hopelessness was released and transformed into a joy that penetrated my bones. It was like watching a still, lifeless chrysalis for months on end, wondering if it was dead, and then FINALLY seeing the wings of the butterfly break through its walls, for it had not been dead, it had been transforming the entire time. Everyone's journey is different but having walked side-by-side with my sweet friend during those desert-wandering years, I can say that letting her feel whatever she needed to feel, when she needed to feel it, and holding space for her to be angry, mad, sad, lost, confused, etc was the only thing I could do and it was the only thing she wanted. I hope you have people to surround you that won't try to tell you how to feel or why you should handle this a certain way, but rather will hold space for you to FEEL exactly what you are feeling. I am praying that you'll both remove all expectations from yourselves and allow anger, disappointment, sadness, grief, confusion, hopelessness, anxiety, etc to flow THROUGH you so that those emotions don't get STUCK in you. Transformation is happening even if it has the appearance of death.
(True story: I have a friend who's daughter caught a caterpillar and made it her pet. She put it in a huge jar with everything it needed. It made its cacoon and although it typically takes 2 weeks for a butterfly to emerge, this one took 9 MONTHS. For 9 months she wondered if it were still alive. For 9 months she held her breath waiting for it to emerge. She almost surrendered to the idea of death but then, finally, it made its debut. They released the butterfly as a family, remembering all that had happened during that nine months. They thought it was dead but for 9 months it was transforming.)
Thank you so much for opening up and sharing your journey. You and your husband are in my prayers. Never give up hope. ❤
You can hear these scriptures your whole life and nod along without truly understanding their depth. But it’s when you are really going through a struggle that those words become a lifeline. Though you do have to intentionally believe them and allow them to comfort you. This was beautiful example of how to still thrive in the midst of loss, and it’s such an encouragement to me. I love the unity between you guys. Sending hugs and prayers! ❤️
Lost my second baby 19 weeks, lost my third at 8 weeks. I have never been the same💔
This is why I love being a follower of Jesus Christ. He brings us so much hope in the midst of deep darkness.
I like that Psalm 23 says "Even though I *walk through* (not "get stuck in") the valley of death." We can FEEL stuck, but we can also KNOW that we're still walking forward even if the scenery doesn't change for a long time. Many prayers and blessings for you two on this difficult journey.
Thank you for being so open. You are helping alot of people. Be encouraged, continue standing in faith. God is faithful
My husband and I have been struggling with fertility as well. Thanks for sharing your story, it gives me a lot of comfort.
I noticed comments on your video with Bethany and a couple of comments already here... Why are so many people against adoption!? Ah man. Its really sad. Theres so many children in the world who deserve a family who see them no different as biological.
Rosie some religious people believe adoption means adopting someone else’s sin. Not all people believe that, but I have heard that quite a bit as a reason for not adopting.
@@aleighgrimes3624 I'm sorry i know everyone can believe what they want but that is so unfair on the children... Wow
Some people feel they couldn't love an adopted child like their own. I don't understand how you could long for a child so much yet refuse to raise a child other than one of your own dna but that's just me. Then there are people like me who would be open to adoption but know it will never be a possibility.
@@clothyoriginal in my opinion if you adopt a child they are your own
@@rosie4083 yep exactly!
I dont agree with you on a lot of things, but I really admire how you can talk so openly and publicly about something so hard and painful ❤️. Hope you guys find your way in this storm.
Now hitting one month since my first miscarriage (after a long time of infertility). I’m still devastated. I really appreciate you sharing your insight. Sending prayers your way for doors to open for you both.
We are so sorry for your loss! Miscarriage is always heartbreaking. Praying for you too.
I disagree with a lot of what you and Bethany have said and spoken on, but I am so absolutely sorry. No one deserves this. I can only imagine the grief you have been feeling. I hope you are seeking help, a support group, something! You are not alone. Best wishes ❤️
This was very sobering and is definitely an important conversation about some of the realities of life we haven't necessarily spoken a lot about as Christians in relation to marriage. Thank you both for sharing so openly.
I really needed this encouragement 💗Thank you so much for being brave enough to talk about your life with strangers. Praying for y’all 🙏🏻✝️
you’re still parents even if your children didn’t come to meet your eyes
Must say I am not at all someone who agrees with your life standpoints and your views on religion,but...i wish you all the best in this time..honestly..thank you for sharing this and I hope your prayers will be answered one day..😊
Then why u watch them?
@@blonde.angelk I don't know about them but I just had it recommended by UA-cam.
@@blonde.angelk i watch them because i think its essential to watch and listen to someone on the other side of the spectrum..i am and i belive what i belive now because i collected my information from a lot of diffrent sources..its completely fine to disagree with someones viewpoints and still respect them as a person and perhaps find their opinion interesting from time to time..
@@melanisarin2176 my man here spittin facts
I first want to clarify that I am not a doctor but, I feel compelled to speak up but, I wonder if you guys have looked into seeing if you have a clotting factor going on? I only bring it up because Alex from phil and alex on youtube has a clotting factor and once her doctor was able to diagnose that issue for her she has since gotten pregnant and is coming due soon. I will pray for you guys and I am so sorry about your loss but you are two strong people for sure! x
Rochelle yep this was my thought too. I know someone personally with it
Wow. What a story of faith. Love you guys and I'm praying for y'all. ❤
When you read psalm 23 I began to cry too ❤️💯 you two are so strong. My heart goes out to you for your loss, that is heartbreaking.
WOW. That cover was AMAZING and really touching. You sing really well and should do it more often! Inspiring!
Watching your strength and togetherness as a couple through everything you have been through is absolutely beautiful.
It's ok for men to have emotions tied up in their child. I'm sorry for your loss guys I think you will be wonderful parents.
My friend had a few miscarriages and a year ago she *finally* had a successful pregnancy and birth. We were hanging out one day and she said to me, “When I hold her, I just *know* that she is the baby I was meant to have.”
Everything happens for a reason and when your baby is finally here, whether through birth or adoption, you are going to *know* that it’s right and everything is going to fall into place the way it was meant to be ❤️
My heart hurts for you. Kristen, even through your pain, you speak so eloquently and you answer these personal, intimate questions with patience and grace.
“Serve me right where I have you. That’s my good plan for you right now.” I was eating and when you said this, I got an instant knot in my throat and literally almost choked. I’m tearing up right now because these words are so loving and sweet coming from our Heavenly Father. Praise Him. I appreciate this video so so much. Thank you.
i disagree with your channel, but i am so sorry this happened to you
I like that song at the end, it's one of my new favorites since last year. And this video was beautiful!
Thank you so much for sharing your story Kristen. 💕 I’m praying for you two
Thank you for sharing and being open about where you're at. Will pray for you
Thanks so much for your openness and especially explaining your thoughts on adoption. So much wisdom that I hadn't considered but you're so right. When Abraham and Sarah didn't see the promise of a son when they expected, they took it into their own hands through Hagar, but that wasn't God's plan for them even though it was still a son. I pray that as you seek him you would receive clear guidance from the Holy Spirit and that you'll be completely satisfied in the Lord.
As someone who has recently had two miscarriages close together, I’m sorry you went through this. Hearing your story is honestly really scary. I’m having a really hard time getting over my second one and the thought of being infertile is a huge fear right now.
Look up sitagliptin for rpl
I can tell sharing your story is therapeutic for you. Thanks for speaking truth ❤
Just recently experienced a miscarriage. It hurts deep and I can't imagine what you've gone through. So sorry. True prayers for yall and your future littles.
Cherise Ambri Me too. 💛 So hard.
I’m so sorry to you both. Your experience is a painful one. One day you will meet your 3 babies again and you’ll be reunited for a lifetime ❤️🙏
Breaks my heart but it's clear how much you both love each other and you are strong to cling to each other in grief.
Wow...the Lord will bless y’all for your faithfulness to Him in the midst of this. “When you pass through the waters I will be with you; and through the rivers, they shall not overwhelm you.” (Isaiah 43:2a)
That song really touched me and this really resonates with me at this time x
Gosh I can relate to this! Married 8 1/2 years and totally thought it would happen without trying. (I had my daughter at 20, while not trying and using prevention) I've had multiple surgeries and some fertility treatments but ultimately realized that wasn't how our family was meant to be constructed. Wishing you peace in your soul. It took me years to get there but now I couldn't imagine my life any other way. 🤗❤️
Also, thank you for the more vulnerable and honest videos lately. I think that people relate with you all on such a deeper level when you open up about the struggles in your personal lives!
I cried with you both! Thank you for sharing this with us. Your suffering is bringing so much hope.
I’ve prayed for you both to be blessed with a baby ❤️
Wow, you are so open, bless you guy’s🙏🏻❤️
My prayers are with you guys! Keep following our Lord.
ID LIKE TO MAKE a public announcement in saying that I am in fact an IVF baby and a proud catholic girl. my parents could not have a baby either and decided what was best for them. I couldn’t imagine a person who shies away from this method of having a child. I am perfectly healthy and PROUD TO BE AN IVF baby and I have such an amazing support system I’m practically a celebrity. Proud to answer any questions about me and I promise those of you in a struggle (sorry bad word) you won’t regret this decision to birth someone like me. 🙂
This!!!!
ur amazing!!!!
With IVF there need to be more eggs fertilized with sperm than just the one that eventually became You. These unused eggs often get discarded of- so that is why many people don't like the idea of IVF.
ela kahrer but you’re period literally gets rid of eggs every month so it’s basically the same
@@cjxh8939 Your period gets rid of unfertilized eggs. Many Christians believe life begins at conception. (When they egg and sperm meet and the cells begin to divide) DNA is created and the cells start rapidly dividing into an embryo. They have to fertilize multiple eggs and create multiple embryos to do one round of IVF, and then majority of them are discarded. Or if the parents want to keep them all, they still discard ones that don't meet their standards of development. And many Christians believe all life disserves a chance and a womb.
I often see people equate sperm or eggs to being the same thing as a fertilized eggs. They are just parts that make a baby, not the baby itself. An un fertilized egg, while important, is just an egg. A fertilized egg has its own DNA and has every potential to become a person with their hair color, eye color, food preferences all already mapped out.
Kristen, please look into the Creighton Model and NaProTechnology! It could be the answer to your prayers. Blessings.
I actually am seeing a doctor who is certified in that. Excited to see what they have to say. -Kristen
Wow, that makes so happy!!! I'll be praying for you ♥️
Happy to hear that, they're honestly the best.
I know how hard it can be to stay strong and keep trusting, but Gods got you! This video helped me so much honestly the song at the end was so beautiful! You guys should do covers!
My wife and I had a similar story, married in 2011, 3 miscarriages and 1 failed IVF cycle. You should get checked for balanced translocation if you haven't already, that's what was causing our difficulties in getting and staying pregnant. We kept at it though and gave birth to our first child this past month. Hang in there
Thank you for sharing your story. This must have been very difficult to do. I can tell there is so much love between you two and I am sure you would make really loving parents. Praying for you
I am going through an unfulfilled longing, and just like I'm sure I will get there I'm also sure you will. Thank you so so much for this video it was a push that I needed.
you truly are inspiring, its true all things work out for our good. God Bless you
Wow, you two are so so strong! The Lord will help so many people through your struggles😣praying for you guys❤️🙏🏻
I love that you're open to adoption. I don't like it though when people just assume it's an option for everyone, "just adopt" is thrown around too often. Love your explanation on it.
Totally agree. So many people criticize women with fertility issues for not “just adopting”. Not everyone wants a child who isn’t related by blood and carried in the womb, it’s our biological tendency! For a reason.
Please read “taking charge of your fertility” by Toni Weschler, if you haven’t already!
I have this same problem. I miscarriage two times in six weeks. And I have genetics tested. And I have thrombophilia
. This causes blood clots. Now I'm 12 weeks pregnant (and I was never scered more in my life). I just have to take anticoagulant tablets
. (Sorry for my english. I'm from Poland :))
@Lunara l'm 29 weeks in and everything looks great! Thank you for your support!
I don’t agree with your lifestyle choices, but I’m so sorry you are going through this. ❤️
Lifestyle choices?
I absolutely loved this video I love it when you bring Zack or Dav In its a different perspective and I’m always curious about what they think and how they feel and I just love it I love you all and will pray for you I see bright things happening for you in 2020
I have never heard you sing! But it sound so beautiful!❤
it's so inspiring how you are taking this horrible situation and useing it to help and support others who might be going through similar things ❤
praying for you. thank you for sharing
Aw... great testimony and love how you two stay steadfast in your faith even after three miscarriages. Plus, seeing you two worship together gives me hope. Love you brother and sister ❤
Thank you so much for your honesty and openness in sharing. It really helped me. Praying for you guys!
Wow, this video is so beautiful!! Thank you guys for being such a gem on UA-cam! Love you so much
Thank you for making videos like this. So many people are going through really hard things like this and it is helpful to know you are not alone.
So awesome that you guys are continuing to be open about this. I hope you are able to get the child you want
Those babies are waiting for you in heaven. They aren’t lost children they are God’s children and you will meet them. Praying for you guys❤️
Prayer for you and pleading the blood of Jesus over you and your womb and that you carry your next baby to full term Amen
Amazing video!
Thank you so much for sharing
You’re a true encouragement and blessing.
I’ll be praying for ya’ll.
I have so much respect for the strength of both of you throughout these stream of trials with all of your miscarriages. I'm inspired by your clear faith in His providence, and I hope to strive to continually place my life in His hands just like you two. Sending support and love❤️
Wow this was so powerful💗 I will continue to pray for your family during this time❤️
I'm so sorry for the losses you have gone through. I see so much love and hope shining through the two of you. Thank you for being so open about this. I really think this video will encourage a lot of people who are going through the season.
I will be praying for the two of you
It’s so unbelievably brave of you two to share the difficult journey you’ve been on, and I know it is so helpful for women in similar positions. Sending so so so much love to you both 💜💜
Also, loved the worship at the end! You both did a beautiful job with that song!
What a hard but beautiful story. I'm sure u have already done this but get a second and third opinion. I had a hard time getting pregnant and finally a dr found one very small thing and I got pregnant the next month. I'm going through a different but hard season and that song is so touching. Thank you
Thank you guys for sharing your story, I send you a big hug ❤️ as a christian I sometimes don’t agree with some girl defined views but I appreciate this so much and have a huge respect for both of you for staying so faithfull in such a difficult time 🙏🏼✨
Just wondering as a fellow Christian what you disagree with. Everything they say is biblically founded.
This was incredible to watch. The vulnerability and faith is so so inspiring. Thank you.
Zack, great job! Kristen, you are a precious person! He is with you both!:)
One of the best videos on your channel. You are not just following the Lord for his blessings (like the counterfeit prosperity gospel), but following Him for who He is - his love demonstrated to us sinners through his death and resurrection. ❤️
This video blessed me in so many ways. Thank you so much for sharing. May God's richest blessings be upon you!
This song at the end is my fav song! I put it on when i am going through something hard in my life, Love u guys
Thank you for your transparency
I'm so sorry for your loss, and many prayers are on their way from me and others, but the music was beautiful. I highly recommend doing more of that, it's sooooo sweet.
The song is really touching. Thank you for sharing your story. You have so much strength in the Lord and praise him trough your life. This is great.
Praying for you! My sister is kind of going threw the same thing but she has had 7 miscarriages! I can’t wait to share the pdf with her!
Taylor Welleford THROUGH*
such a sweet couple. what a beautiful ending. so much love filled up this video. you guys deserve so much. xoxoxo
Dear sister and brother this speaks volumes of God's sovereign love
You guys are so godly! Thanks for sharing!!!❤ sending a prayer up for you guys 🙏