The fact that he went ahead with the paternity test at the insistence of his mother shows that no matter how abusive his mother gets, he will always be on her side not yours. Also, I grew up in a home where the parents stayed together for the sake of the children. You have no idea how toxic that environment was. If he refuses to stand up to his mother, leave. Take a Space Shuttle to get out as fast as possible.
I would've prefered for op to give an ultimatum. I give you the paternity test but you go NC with your toxic mother or divorce. There is no need to make MIL apologize, just expose her as the reason on why the marriage failed and why he is only going to have visitation rights.
These Op’s barely do that. People still have the mindset: I must stay together for the child(ren). Unaware of the fact it’s only more toxic for the child(ren) to stay together.
I heard the movie "A fistful of dollars" but my first time hearing and seeing about A fistful of divorce papers. It is probably one of the greatest/embarrassing divorce "fistfight" ever
Honestly I understand op... All we need is for our man to be our rock who we can rely on and be sure that no matter what this person will be on my side... If he can't meet this one requirement then I'll just run and break things off no matter how much I love him
My son looks like me. So grateful my husband isn't all weird about it, since there are heaps of ways it's obvious he's the boy's dad. This video is wild.
Never ask for the test. You're a parent too, you can just go do it yourself. Asking for the test literally just shows your hand and starts a fight. If she is cheating she's gonna get defensive, and if she isn't she's going to be ready to kill you because you just accused her of cheating over something she has no clue looked suspicious. Asking for the test only gets you anywhere if you already have proof she cheated and are deciding if you want to fight for custody.
@@Garoslolno more like those extreme feminist stereotypes. Literally they hate men in general. They scream divorce with even the smallest things. I’m divorced myself and I would never give someone the advice to do that. It’s not my place only if the situation is really life threatening. I’ve a married friend and she talks to me, I’ve never adviced leave him or get divorced. I know they belong together and will figure it out eventually. Their problems aren’t huge or not fixeable. And I’m still on good terms with my ex husband. He is like a friend I guess.
@@luci_1152 he’s taken the steps to cut her out of their life. You’d be surprised how much someone you’ve know your whole life can influence you. Besides with all the paternity fraud horror stories I don’t think it’s too far fetched for a man to get one. I can see how it’s insulting to the woman if she’s innocent.
@@Jordan_99 not enough though imo since he’s enabled her and proved that when it comes down to it he’ll believe his mom over his wife she should still absolutely get divorced from him
Yeah I'm not a fan of women jumping straight to divorce, if paternity tests are wanted but I get it in this case to a degree, men have insecurities too and someone whispering in your ear all the time doesnt help, not that he's justified, just that I can see his perspective too.
@@behiyepalo2985 already know that, just pointing out that i understand wanting paternity tests, he's a victim in this too, to a degree, years of brainwashing from a loved one can be powerful, you can always apply conditions going forward for the relationship after the test.
@@de3px117 what? Taking the test means MIL or whoever is asking for it has one less thing to use against you. Saying, "NO, I won't!" will just make the accusations worse.
@@andynorck2389 I'm going to have to disagree, the MIL thought OP cheated, and to shut his mom up, her husband went and got the test done even though he knew she didn't cheat. The test was just to shut his mom up. Best thing to do here is for OP and her husband to go either low contact or no contact with his mom if this is the way she acts around OP, as god only knows what she will put in the mind of their baby when they are older
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The fact that he went ahead with the paternity test at the insistence of his mother shows that no matter how abusive his mother gets, he will always be on her side not yours. Also, I grew up in a home where the parents stayed together for the sake of the children. You have no idea how toxic that environment was. If he refuses to stand up to his mother, leave. Take a Space Shuttle to get out as fast as possible.
I would've prefered for op to give an ultimatum. I give you the paternity test but you go NC with your toxic mother or divorce.
There is no need to make MIL apologize, just expose her as the reason on why the marriage failed and why he is only going to have visitation rights.
Plus add on that part of the requirement should be a paternity test of husband to find out if MIL is projecting
@@Catherine.Dorian. ,100%
These Op’s barely do that. People still have the mindset: I must stay together for the child(ren). Unaware of the fact it’s only more toxic for the child(ren) to stay together.
I get why she is willing to work on her marriage, but i hope she is still willing to leave if he doesn't change.
I heard the movie "A fistful of dollars" but my first time hearing and seeing about A fistful of divorce papers. It is probably one of the greatest/embarrassing divorce "fistfight" ever
LMAO YASSSS
Well, that went nowhere.
Honestly I understand op... All we need is for our man to be our rock who we can rely on and be sure that no matter what this person will be on my side... If he can't meet this one requirement then I'll just run and break things off no matter how much I love him
So you want a simp slave
This screams toxic boy mom, and son is codependent on her. That’s how she raised him.
My son looks like me. So grateful my husband isn't all weird about it, since there are heaps of ways it's obvious he's the boy's dad. This video is wild.
Never ask for the test. You're a parent too, you can just go do it yourself.
Asking for the test literally just shows your hand and starts a fight. If she is cheating she's gonna get defensive, and if she isn't she's going to be ready to kill you because you just accused her of cheating over something she has no clue looked suspicious.
Asking for the test only gets you anywhere if you already have proof she cheated and are deciding if you want to fight for custody.
Wrong story dude.
Legally u need sign consent from both parents, even when come to treatments for illness both parents have to be on same page or doesn't happen
This women has 0 respect for herself
DNA tests should be mandatory at birth should be required before a man can sign it.
If mil wants paternity test then mil’s children undergo a paternity test as well.
How did OP apparently get so many awful comments? wtf
Reddit is full or terrible people coming from broken or single parent homes.
She knows she cheated
@@Garoslolsingle parent homes are better than two parent homes
@@JustinAdamson270
Did you understand what was be said. His mother is a religious zealot homophobic and made it up
@@Garoslolno more like those extreme feminist stereotypes. Literally they hate men in general. They scream divorce with even the smallest things. I’m divorced myself and I would never give someone the advice to do that. It’s not my place only if the situation is really life threatening. I’ve a married friend and she talks to me, I’ve never adviced leave him or get divorced. I know they belong together and will figure it out eventually. Their problems aren’t huge or not fixeable. And I’m still on good terms with my ex husband. He is like a friend I guess.
I'm ok with asking for a paternity test
However
It being because of the mother instead of him needing the insurance make op being legitimate
Op seems like a doormat
Always with the Reddit kids telling the woman to leave the man. It’s crazy
@@Jordan_99 she should though? She’s literally letting herself be disrespected by both husband and MIL?
@@luci_1152 he’s taken the steps to cut her out of their life. You’d be surprised how much someone you’ve know your whole life can influence you.
Besides with all the paternity fraud horror stories I don’t think it’s too far fetched for a man to get one. I can see how it’s insulting to the woman if she’s innocent.
@@Jordan_99 not enough though imo since he’s enabled her and proved that when it comes down to it he’ll believe his mom over his wife she should still absolutely get divorced from him
@@luci_1152 I hope you don’t get married ever lol
Where's the rest????
Please stop flashing the words,it can be a trigger for seizures.
I am more bothered by the background quickly running through an old video game.
You mean Minecraft?
The whizzing around in the video is dizzying.
Yeah I'm not a fan of women jumping straight to divorce, if paternity tests are wanted but I get it in this case to a degree, men have insecurities too and someone whispering in your ear all the time doesnt help, not that he's justified, just that I can see his perspective too.
Paternity tests should be mandatory
He wouldn't have those insecurities if he had told his MIL to shut it from the beginning.
She isn't divorcing because of the paternity test, she's divorcing him because he is a spineless mama's boy and lets his mom walk all over her.
@@behiyepalo2985 already know that, just pointing out that i understand wanting paternity tests, he's a victim in this too, to a degree, years of brainwashing from a loved one can be powerful, you can always apply conditions going forward for the relationship after the test.
@@Scyon13 Then maybe he should have recognized and stopped this.
Talk is cheap. 😅
Always just get the test, fussing about it just makes you look guilty no matter how innocent you are.
im sorry for ur s/o
@@de3px117 ???
@@de3px117 what? Taking the test means MIL or whoever is asking for it has one less thing to use against you. Saying, "NO, I won't!" will just make the accusations worse.
@@tothewonder6248 that isn’t the problem here. As you saw, no one actually even expected the test to reveal anything and it didn’t.
@@andynorck2389 I'm going to have to disagree, the MIL thought OP cheated, and to shut his mom up, her husband went and got the test done even though he knew she didn't cheat. The test was just to shut his mom up. Best thing to do here is for OP and her husband to go either low contact or no contact with his mom if this is the way she acts around OP, as god only knows what she will put in the mind of their baby when they are older
Please stop the video. Makes me nauseous