Love is for Losers!

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We live in a culture in which losing is the enemy, but Christ calls us to do most things backwards from what the world and our flesh are telling us. Based on the blog post, "Marriage is for Losers", by Dr. Kelly Flanagan. drkellyflanagan...
Design & Animation - Jason Watson
Voice Over - Frazer Blaxland
Mix - Gareth Wood
Producer - Dan Stevers
We live in a culture in which losing is the enemy.
We go to workplaces where everyone is battling for the boss’s favor and the next promotion.
Or we stay at home where the battle for the Legos is just as fierce.
Nightly, we watch the talking heads trying to win the battle of ideas, although sometimes they seem quite willing to settle for winning the battle of decibels.
We fight to have the best stuff. We fight through traffic. And when we finally look at each other at the end of the day, we fight, because we’ve been trained to do nothing else.
In the worst of cases, we grew up fighting for our very survival, both physically and emotionally.
But even in the best of situations, we found ourselves trying to win the competition for our parents’ attention and approval, for our peers’ acceptance, and for the validating stamp of a world with one message: win.
But Christ calls us to do most things backwards from what the world and our flesh are telling us.
That’s why if marriage is going to work, it needs to become a mutual and reciprocal contest to see which spouse is going to lose the most.
In marriage, losing is letting go of the need to fix everything for your partner, listening to their darkest parts with a heart ache rather than a solution.
It’s being even more present in the painful moments than in the good times. It’s finding ways to be humble and open, even when everything in you says that you’re right and they’re wrong.
It’s knowing that your spouse will never fully understand you, will never truly love you unconditionally-because they are a broken creature, too-and loving them to the end anyway.
If you’re going to make marriage a competition, compete over which spouse will lose the most.
Imagine a marriage like this:
When the baby cries, both spouses race out the bedroom door, bumping into each other in the hallway, just so the other one can rest.
When one spouse is having a bad day he or she still finds ways to make life easier for their partner.
Each spouse deliberately places the other’s calendar and career ahead of their own.
No marriage is perfect, but in this kind of marriage a decision has been made, and two people have decided to love each other to the limit, and to sacrifice the most important thing of all-themselves.
In these marriages, losing becomes a way of life, a competition to see who can listen to, care for, serve, forgive, and accept the other the most.
The marriage becomes a competition to see who can give of themselves in ways that most increase the dignity and strength of the other. These marriages form people who can be small, humble, merciful, loving, and peaceful.
Maybe what we need, really, is to become a bunch of losers in a world that is being a torn apart by the competition to win. If we did that, maybe we’d be able to sleep a little easier at night, look our loved ones in the eyes, and forgive and forget.
Love is for losers--for those willing to put themselves second.
Love like Jesus. Choose to lose.

[@Government-is-slavery]

Love is DELUSION.

[@leomejia2723]

Amen, and thank you for this video. God bless you

[@shannonsmay8897]

Thank You Dan. So much truth!

[@danaeledesma5341]

what a beautiful message!! God is using you in so many ways!! I hope you continue to create such wonderful content!!!

[@mariambahgat398]

Woow!! You are waaaay creative and inspiring. God bless you

[@karthik19831026]

I some how missed this beautiful video... super loved it.. thank you Dan for being sensitive to the Holy Spirit. This is just amazing.
Yes am buying it :)
love your work... I love these recent videos: love is for losers.. and no other King..

[@doompod]

Incredible brother!

[@khanbestopped]

This needs a gazillion views

[@ScottWallace5]

So very true! Great video and nicely done!

[@jentacularkid559]

Great stuff man!

[@mateusmrp94]

Meu Deus, que lindo texto, lindo vídeo! Parabéns meu irmão, Deus te abençoe!

[@gabrieladorelys405]

In Spanish please. Blessings. :)

[@JulissaCastro]

Will you be doing this video in spanish? Because the subtitles youtube has are not very accurate to the audio.
Thanks :D

[@DavoHdz17]

Excelente video!, saludos desde México

[@asbeldavidurdanetabaez5161]

in spanish please!!!

[@DaniSuarezG]

Genial, en español por favor :)

[@icosmini]

A recipe for being taken advantage of.

[@danstevers]

Thus the emphasis on it being "mutual and reciprocal". It only works if it's a two-way street.

[@tayanelesty2158]

Hi, i am french and i would like to help you to translate some of your videos in french how can i do it ?
Good Job by the way.
Blessings. :)

[@fernandoalbuquerque1806]

Amigos, alguém pode me ensinar como baixar o vídeo com as legendas? Já tentei em alguns sites e não vem as legendas. Grato.

[@eloizecarrenho6283]

Português please 🙏🏻

[@danstevers]

Portuguese subtitles have been added!

[@francorgrouptv]

and spanish? :(

[@scarletarias9685]

In spanish pleaseee :(

[@ricardosantana133]

Please could you put subtitles in English here in commens? thank you! God bless you.

[@orianasoler9]

Can you put subtitles in spanish please? God bless you :)

[@onelsyail]

Qué bonito, lastima que entiendo nada jeje.

[@brixtonnejumawid32]

First comment! Thank you Dan! Great video as always!

[@docen67]

Love is for losers,Love like Jesus💗

[@deycidulimafranco]

Please, spanish.