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Twitter I just Tumblr on a delay with a shorter word limit. I honestly think you didn't really get this sort of stuff until you had that Golden Age of fandom in the early 10s... and that's only of the three things that really kinda blended to make this mess.
Sarah: *talks about the history on both sides and says harassing is still bad regardless* Pro-ships/antis: Wait a minute, she didnt agree with our stance *proceeds to harass and insult her*
Me who read this as "how dare you say we piss on the floor" (I wager the additional nuance in using a rhyming and fitting word like "floor" instead of the same words rearranged makes the joke funnier, but that's my two cents)
@@shifra1967 if you stretch the definition maybe. I consider UA-cam as video hosting site with delusions. You may be able to post photos and status updates, but that’s not the primary purpose.
This is true, but I do think it's important to place this conflict within the broader context of recent reactionary attempts to purge the internet of sexual content and sex workers. While I agree with Sarah that making "anti" or "pro" part of your identity is weird, that the "pro" side is just as capable of harassment as the "antis" and that both sides have a bad habit of overstating harm, I nevertheless still think that one of these positions ("antis") is fundamentally ideologically grounded in anti-sex reaction and it's important not to lose sight of that. As an isolated phenomenon fans yelling at each other over ships is completely trivial, but I think it is part of a larger sex-negative backlash that has very real consequences for artists, sex workers and queer people more generally.
@@johnbltz that's more on the shoulders of big companies though, isn't it? I don't recall Tumblr, discord, and others being pushed into a corner because of Twitter arguments, but rather the rules put forth by Apple. I don't think internet spats is entirely to blame here, but rather the core beliefs of those in charge. I also think the 'anti-sex' part of this pro/anti war is terribly overstated and focused on when really it's just a fraction of the conversation. And as a big disclaimer, I believe sex workers have a right to a safe work environment and be able to make money. The banning of sexual works on so many platforms is utterly bizarre and stupid.
@@johnbltz I'd say it does go both ways tho. I would be labeled an "anti" if I cared at all to debate fandoms (which I don't). I'd say the issue is not entirely "anti-sex". It can be the opposite, to un "unhealthy" degree. Especially for queer people, or LGBTQI+ at large (for other groups, I don't really know, Im not involved in them). Sexuality, trough ships can be "trivialised", or made an object, and that's not great either. I'm kinda tired of having my sexuality be a sort of trendy new handbag for girl teens who giggle about their GBF and decide who he should be with (in general, the crush she has herself). I used to roleplay on post-by-post forums. I stoped doing so when I reached the point where I would barely have created my character and have it shipped without any prior discussion because "he's cute" or "nice or "a bad boy that goes well with...". And I was like... I write for my fun and the fun of my writing partner, not your sexual gratification? While prior to that, it wasn't as usual. And I didn't shy away from more mature roleplays. But as the character evolved, not for a quick thrill. Like, sex shouldn't be shunned, or always serious, but a tiny bit of reverence for the importance of the topic would be a healthy addition.
Fact: the demographic most likely to perpetuate abuse is previous victims of abuse. (Please note that by "perpetuate" I am including both abusers AND enablers.) I'm not blaming anyone for being abused, but I am saying that a critical component of recovering from abuse is the rejection of normalization, in order to prevent the perpetuation of that abuse. Unfortunately many who are abused have difficulty fully recovering in this way.
@@scrotiemcb5858 I'd argue that it depends on the person. Someone who is a victim of abuse either will go out of their way to avoid bringing that same pain to others, or will inflict it upon others so they can take back power they feel they lost. It really depends on the empathy of the individual. And unfortunately, abuse can also destroy someone's empathy.
Ppl generally go for proshipper. Id say its fair in a way to take an opposite position to people who are against something but sure it sounds dumb. But so does just the word “anti”, sounds like you’re just against things, like in general.
"Sarah Z poisoned our water supply, burned our crops, and delivered a plague upon our houses!" "She did?" "No, but are we just gonna wait around until she does!?" This is what twitter people sound like
After watching this, I think the term “proshippers” needs to be reclaimed by professional ship-in-a-bottle builders, and “antis” needs to be reclaimed by ant-farm enthusiasts. Give these fine hobbyists their words back!
Antishippers should be taken up by people who went to too many boat museums as a kid and now associate the ocean with hunger followed by cheap seafood which got them stuck in a hotel room with food poisoning for the next day.
One of the Supernatural actors (King of Hell? Sorry, not in that fandom) talked about why he hates the word “fan”, because it comes from fanatic, which implies loving a thing makes you a loon.
see, the labels "proshippers" and "antis" are so reductive that i don't consider myself either, but what annoys me is both sides refuse to admit they've got weirdos who take it too far in their own respective circles.
@@overgrownkudzu proshippers (as in labeled themselves such in their descrip) and people who openly reblogged p*rn of minor / child characters kept following me on twitter so I put anti in my bio to show 1. Don't follow me and 2. I dont tolerate that behavior here And it worked. Only maybe had one person since then follow me who did that I like to think I'm not some weirdo just because I don't wanna see and don't want others to ship minors with adults, and relatives, and ESPECIALLY dont wanna see p*rn of it
Every time I watch a Sarah Z video I feel like I am an 80 year old woman whose granddaughter is explaining what she's learning in school which is wild because I am like four years younger than her
i always come back to the concept of "IRREDEEMABLE MEDIA: [show made for babies], [show made for babies], [show made for babies], [show made for babies]" when i need to smile. thank you
It blows my mind every time I go back to it. You would think that label would describe like, Birth of a Nation or even something like Cannibal Holocaust. Fandom culture was already deranged but Twitter being the dominant social media platform has amplified the problem tenfold.
@@dyrr836 I was honestly surprised Friday the 13th or American Horror Story weren't listed. Heck, sticking with the anime theme, Aesthetic of a Rogue Hero is way more morally bankrupt than Danganronpa, (10/10, would recommend both). I wasn't surprised to see Hetalia, I've heard the way they portray Germany is incredibly problematic.
“How did we get here?” "In the beginning the Universe was created. This has made a lot of people very angry and has been widely regarded as a bad move." -The Restaurant at the End of the Universe
@@phoenixfritzinger9185 Nope, it's from the Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy, but it does sound like something that would be from Good Omens. They're both probably irredeemable somehow.
"an author's personal experiences are none of our business". holy crap yes. creators don't need to trot out their traumas to "prove" that they have the right to write various types of content.
I feel like this happens a lot in the YA-adjacent side of "book twitter" and adjacent book social media, like Becky Albertelli feeling like she was pressured into coming out because of all the comments (some decent criticism, like pointing out some ignorant comments about wlw in Simon VS, but some just vitriolic) about people assuming she was straight and getting mad at her for writing LGBTQ books. Or, on a similar note, Leigh Bardugo having to "justify" there being SA (maybe CSA? I have yet to read it so this is second-hand) in Ninth House by talking about her own experiences since a lot of people saw the content warnings and jumped right to "this must be for shock value!!!" and were being pretty awful to her about it. I really really don't like this trend of "you need to show all possible credentials to write about X, Y, and Z content!" and as a writer myself, it makes me very uncomfortable. The idea that I "owe" a potential reader knowledge of some of my worst experiences to "justify" writing a character who struggles with depression or panic attacks is not an idea that I like, same with having to out myself to "be allowed" to write LGBTQ characters when doing so could put me at risk. Anyways TL;DR I agree with you and also I hope that this way of thinking is on the way out.
@@evies.1018 oh man, it's one thing to write dark and heavy matters with careless abandon but one should be allowed to write about the same matters with, you know, proper research and care taken. Demanding that one must have the first-hand experience to write the subject matter is just going to limit a lot of literature out there tbh (and also, well, no way am I, an actually autistic individual, going to write stories that only involves how I perceive the world. It gets boring after a while, after all.).
@@crowdemon_archives I agree! Why would I want to write every book with a character who has the same identities as me every time? It’d just get repetitive after awhile. Plus I like to write to explore other perspectives, I don’t want to only write about things I’ve gone through, especially since it can be really draining. Sure, some of my favorite characters in my writing are similar to me, but some of them are nothing like me and that’s why I like writing them: they let me be someone else for a while.
there was a short period of time where people were weirdly obsessed with trying to prove that a game dev i followed was a cis woman who was just fetishizing gay people by putting them in their game despite the fact that they had talked multiple times about being gay and nonbinary and was generally a very private person anyway. as far as i can tell, the people accusing them were doing it solely to have a “morally correct” reason to not like their game. it was.... weird.
@@nothankyou4752 I hate the trend of people feeling like they have to moralize their likes and dislikes. Some people really just don't get that you can dislike a thing without it being secretly the worst, most problematic thing ever.
"I am a tax paying adult woman, not a member of a fucking fandom war sports team." Is the single most powerful quote I have heard in my entire life THANK YOU.
the whole pro and anti thing has always confused me tbh; my general take on it is: write/draw/etc what you want, but TAG & LABEL IT PROPERLY. that way, folks who don't wanna see it don't have to (unless they're the type of....odd folks who delve into tags for things they dislike instead of avoiding/blocking/etc...) and folks who do wanna see it can find it easier.
this is so true !!! i enjoy reading a fic that explores dark topics from time to time, but sometimes i'll read a fic and then go to the author's profile and find out from their other works that it was fetish content the whole time. it's not my job to pass moral judgment on that, but it's really not my thing and i imagine for other people it could even be triggering if they were looking for more therapeutic content instead. i wish fic authors would more consistently make authorial intent clear when writing these topics - something that they don't have to disclose personal experiences in order to do!!
not saying this about antis (or pros or any group) specifically but just in general, ime zoomers have no idea how to tag. they can tag for traction, but a lot of them cannot tag content warnings appropriately if at all. i’m also saying this as a zoomer myself
unless they’re arseh0les, that’s literally smth the proship community is big on 😭 I mod a dead dove server, and we always make sure EVERYTHING is tagged. I’m proship, but I’m really more of a fluffy gal myself. I just think censorship is stupid
My favorite internet moment is when I read a DNI list that included “Paw Patrol”. I printed it and “DNI IF YOU INTERACT WITH THE PAW PATROL FANDOM” is on my dorm room door.
"Fat or thin, short or tall, A pig is a pig no matter how small" Feel free to take that one out of context because hot damn do my drunken grandma's quotes about cops really pop when you're taking about paw patrol. 👍🏼
My guess is that Paw Patrol is a problem because it's making cops look cute and cuddly to kids rather than being the vicious killers they actually are, and my response is "k."
@@browncoat697 it’s a kids show. Chase isn’t even the fan favorite, everyone knows Everest is the best one, that’s why she literally got promoted to main character
@@browncoat697 Yeah lol, that's more or less the argument I've heard, and it's a legit criticism. But god, if this take isn't hilarious. It creates such a funny picture of the chain of logic in these people's heads- Policing systems are fundamentally broken because they create an antagonistic relationship between the community and those in power -> these systems are nevertheless glorified in the media, in large part because police target minorities -> media that misleads people about the nature of the police helps perpetuate the system -> kids' media sanitizes policing too -> Paw Patrol makes police look cute and friendly -> therefore, if a tired caretaker absentmindedly allows a child to watch an episode of Dog Rescue Cartoon, they are at best indifferent to police brutality and at worst supportive of it, and should not be spoken to.
I despise some people’s use of “problematic” because they mean either a piece of media has a single bigoted character or that a piece of media is encouraging and praising an ideology based in eugenics.
Even then, the label seems to suggest you're in favor of people shipping in general, which is a much less controversial thing to say than "in favor of people shipping even if it's controversial/problematic" which adds to the point that it's a really dumb and misleading term
Thank you😭 they had all the potential in the world. I still like them but makes me sad to think of what could have been. This applies for the Sequels in general too. Ah well time to go back to the niche corner of Old Republic fans.
I agree. I'm more of a Zutara (Zuko and Katara) shipper when it comes to enemies to lovers. It's more of a enemies -> friends -> lovers thing for them though.
This!! God it’s so irritating when people have to make everything into some moral rationale. I don’t give a shit if reylo is “problematic” or whatever, what I give a shit about is that the plot and characterization was sacrificed to make the ship canon. Seriously. They were so much more interesting as Just Enemies, No Romance. Kylo Ren just shows up at the end of the 3rd sequel all heroic redemption style just to get owned and thrown down a pit immediately, only to come back up and immediately fucking die for hetero reasons. God it’s so fucking lame. We didn’t even get a cool lightsaber battle at the end 😭
It's a very puritanical view of media and life and general if you think about it. Reminds me of those isolated Christian cults where outsiders are all doomed to eternal damnation
In Malaysia, there is a former pop star called Aishah who has now become, scarily enough, an Islamist politician. It’s ridiculously sick that not only did she successfully betray much of her own fanbase, she’s currently a part of an Islamist Malaysian political party which targets not just much of the lower classes, but also a majority of Muslim Malaysians living in peninsular Malaysia’s northern and eastern coasts. Separate the artist from her work!
It doesn’t help that some of the screenshots shown also contain some SERIOUS red flags such as “DNI if you’re bisexual because pansexuals are ‘more inclusive’.” and other chronically online takes like that
@@SiRenfield I appeared in a "blacklist" in the Lion King fandom for the crime of "queer erasure" simply because I made a character commonly seen as a butch lesbian having cubs She was literally still a butch lesbian in my headcanon but I guess lesbians having their own children is a slur or something now
The whole "if this middle schooler murdered someone, would it be ok to dunk on them then?" reminds me of that episode in Community where the AC Repair School finds out who murdered the Vice Dean and are like "Take this man to the infinite labyrinth of eternal ice" and Troy just says "No, take him to the police. He murdered someone."
It reminded me of that one Tumblr ask where someone said "What if a white child was dying of cancer and their last wish was to say the N word. Would that still be bad?"
@@vanillaseahorse4228 i was about to say I'd like to take a peek inside the mind of a person who likes to come up with hypotheticals like that. but no, i really don't.
@@lucyx3008 As a former "that person," it's not all that bad. Teenagers/young adults spend a lot of their mental energy on finding the edges of what is acceptable and keep a log of taboo subjects in their head, and possibly a ranking of least to most taboo (this is why "I just wanted to get a reaction" or "I did it for the lulz" or whatever Gen Z calls it is a justification, it is a way of teasing out how taboo something is). You then randomly combine two taboo things until you get something that is logically consistent. In the cancer versus racism example, you pit two of the worst things against each other and as a way of teasing out whether more people hate the N-word, or more people feel sympathy for child cancer patients. At some point, you learn about the trolley problem and switch the hypothetical to something like "the trolley is going to kill hitler, but you can pull the lever to make it kill stalin, what do you do?" I grew out of it by like mid-20s, most people seem to grow out of it, or the examples become more subtle because instead of trying to find the extrema you start searching for the boundaries of your in-group, or you've settled on your own boundaries and no longer care too much what anyone else's are.
@@pluto1906 it does, but that ships individuals with themselves, which will cause recursive shipping, eventually creating a vortex to another dimension...
the section of people on twitter twisting sarah's words & getting mad at her reminds me of that one tweet: “95% of twitter is people making up a person and then getting mad at them"
You can do this for a lot of things on the Internet. For example, "95% of the commentary community is making up a person and getting mad at them", or, "95% of SJW Owned videos is making up a person and getting mad at them"
@@pinkylove-xb7pe There was a reference in it to a video on the topic by a person named James Sommerton, and that person has now been very publicly exposed for (aside from some unpleasant but not illegal traits) plagiarizing like _all_ of the content in his videos and barely even trying to hide it.
@@lalas181 Oh, so *this* is where I'd seen Somerton before! When the HBomb video went up, I knew I'd seen the guy before, but I don't remember watching any of his actual videos. It must have been here.
I think a thing that a lot of people don't realize (especially younger people) is that it's ok to enjoy things with problematic aspects. You can be critical of a piece of media and not agree with certain parts of it and still deeply enjoy it. Liking things with problems doesn't make you a bad person.
There is also no such thing as unproblematic media. If someone can use the Dominio's Pizza mascot as a justification to shoot people...well anyone can use anything to do bad things...and people should learn this.
@@becuzMDsaidineededpersonality i think that, with pure fiction, it's nigh impossible for me to justify labeling any work as "problematic" in this sense because the problem is the consumer in virtually every case rather than the work itself. To claim otherwise is to deny humans of their agency and personal responsibility.
every human has flaws and so every piece of media will have flaws. all of us have grown up in a world which gives us some sort of inherent bias about something, and in some situations it's really difficult to toe the line between tropes. like for example the "perfect, pure, gay character who can do no wrong" trope is partly a result of people trying to avoid the "queer villain" trope, and any queer or even queer-coded character could be argued to fall into either trope if they're complex. you're never gonna find a perfect piece of media anyway, so why not just enjoy stuff? as long as ur aware of the problematic aspects there's no reason you can't consume it (within reason ofc)
@@toothfairy10133 Very true. I went to a training at my work recently talking about this because no one can know everything about every people group on the earth and being willing to listen is the most important but it's not something we should tear others apart for because no one learns or gets better that way.
I used to think that "proshipper" meant "professional shipper" and I just imagined guys like... tweeting about how they shipped something and then getting money for it?
Expect one side of these debate is trying to ruin irl life of the other, a lot of times they doxx and tell the families of the target what they're into, and ruined their job and life.
Don’t even TALK to me if you consume this irredeemable media: - Barney the Dinosaur - the Jetsons - Dragon Tales - Teen Titans Go - the Land Before Time - Mein Kampf
The only one of the shows that counts as irredeemable is TTG, as it sells itself as a reboot of the Teen Titans while failing to do anything to make it remotely applicable as that. As a standalone comedy, it's ok I guess, it clearly want made for older people who were fans of the originals, but the fact that it teased a season 6 of Teen Titans, that never was going to happen, to promote it's movie is irredeemable. Oh, and the rash of other shows copying it's formula of taking everything that their original show did well, and taking it out back to shoot it before flanderizing it's characters into literal mockeries... It can't be forgiven for that either.
@@the_last_ballad Ok, so I online watched TTG and never the original. I never understood where y'all were coming form. Now I can understand the hate. But I can say, on it's own, I think the show is pretty fun and I still watch it when it airs on Cartoon Network. Because I'm not a DC fan/don't know a lot about DC, TTG is also an easy way for me to learn about DC without actually diving into something I'm not really interested in. :) So yeah, I understand the hate, but having online watched TTG, I think the shows stands pretty well on it's own. Although, if I would have watched the original, I probably would hate TTG equally as much as you do. (I also have other "second shows" I hate because they made mockeries out of the characters I liked).
As hbomberguy said a couple of years ago: "when someone stops defending their position to defend their right to have a position, something wrong happened"
Lmao, there's even another Bone Stealing Witch esque controversy happening on Tiktok. But in all seriousness, I don't think any social media site these days isn't at least kinda similar to 2012-2013 tumblr, except for, ironically, Tumblr itself.
This video is even more entertaining if you make a point of reminding yourself every 5 minutes that this whole sea of terminology, rhetoric, tribalism and hatred is, at its core, about fictional characters snogging.
You know how people say it's important to learn the difference between infatuation and love? This is what happens when you start seeing your thirst as some sort of calling.
I think that these discussions of character snogging have really fascinating philosophical merit, and should be seen in the eyes of the debaters as another way of working together to seek the truth, explore possibilities, and have fun, rather than as a ruthless war of irredeemable monsters against humanity's saviors or whatnot. No one actually knows anything, we need to remember that no one is actually evil, they just understand the world differently and do "evil" things as a result.
well, this is indirectly claiming she's lying about being part of a marginalised group which if you know anything about twitter you will understand is a really, really bad thing to be accused of
Yikes I really hope you're joking... She never said anything about trauma and suffering, she *was* acused, people claimed she was something with mean-spirited intentions, because twitter thinks being straight is a bad thing, claiming someone has done something that you think is wrong is the definition of acusing.
@@pancakes8670 This is even funnier to me in reply to a "well-written character" given that somehow Kylo Ren is still overall the best written character in Disney's utterly blundered _Star Wars_ movies just because it's such a *low* bar. It also helped by Adam Driver being a good actor and basically no one else really getting character development over three entire movies.
@@MusicoftheDamned Disagree, you can clearly see the development of Rei starting off as a normal Mary Sue, then at the end of the trilogy becomes the biggest Mary Sue ever That's development
i’m a non tax paying male child and even i sometimes find myself deep into fandom or online discourse and think to myself “I am a tax paying adult women” in order to help me realize how none of it really matters
That statement about She-Ra and why that would be problematic just kinda hurt my soul. I grew up in group homes myself and no, no those are not my siblings. Growing up together doesn't mean you're friggin related.
I was watching this and thinking If those people have never seen childhood friends get together. It's a pretty common media trope and one that makes me tired but you can indeed know someone since you were toddler and then 15 years later Fall in Love with them. This is probably how a lot of our grandparents dated at a time when you stayed in your community, didnt have social Media and had a quite tight knit social circle. Dating your Kindergarten friend = incest is Just.... My brain hurts
I literally am disgusted by people who say that She-Ra is problematic because it had friends-enemies-lovers and because they were childhood best friends.
if one of the characters were a male, this would never be seen as "problematic", it would be seen as an expression of the "childhood best friend" trope. per the person who seems to be responding to me without responding to me, i say that what you have just said is one of the most insanely idiotic things I have ever heard. At no point in your rambling, incoherent response were you even close to anything that could be considered a rational thought. Everyone in this room is now dumber for having listened to it. I award you no points, and may God have mercy on your soul.
Being groomed is a different thing from being related. The grooming of children is what people actually have a problem with. Being related without grooming is entirely exclusive from sex, so that's a non-problem self-evident from the lack of that sexual relationship. The problem with growing together is when it isn't shown to include that growth and leads directly to a sexual outcome of growth anyway. That IS what happens to groomed children taught that this is normal. By shows like She-ra I might add. This is the DIFFERENCE between fiction and reality, if somebody remains confused about it. Those who think it's the same as "the childhood friends" trope are just exposing themselves as people who CAN'T TELL if a childhood friend is starting to finish their sexual development, but would call it a non-factor and get into it anyway. For those people we need an egg timer and to tell them no snu-snu until the bell rings.
Okay, I'm 40 minutes in and beginning to realize that Twitter is the worst hellsite on earth. That people get THIS wound up over things that aren't even being said...now I remember why I scaled back my social media presence.
Tumblr only calls itself a hellsite because nobody wants to touch it. Twitter is the actual hellsite because everyone has something to contribute, which actually makes it hell.
I don’t remember the last time anything actually good ever happened on Twitter. It just seems like 90% unfiltered, oft reactionary donkey poop that for some reason gets treated very very seriously, both on and off the platform.
People at my school: "Hey, you gotta be active on social media like Twitter to get recruited!" Me, looking at twitter: "If that's what it takes I think want to be unemployed."
i wish. like sarah mentioned a lot of the people are adults. there are more than too many adults invested in this. im sure theres not many 30-40+ but even then i know theyre out there
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Ironically, this video has once been uncomfortable to consume for me. Now that the grim fandom memories have faded, I happily watched it. Thank you Sarah for making it
Ive had the exact same experience. this came out around the time i started using tumblr, got told horrendous stuff by “proshippers” and so this video has me very very scared, but now im able to consume it easier.
@@no1legobatmanfan really? 👀 I'm happy we both made it through... drama will (sadly) not cease to exist but maybe we can heal :) (back in 2021, i was in one extremely niche community, covid was in its full force and to me they were most of my contact with the world. it had its own frictions, but one day a group of very puritanical "antis" came along and shit hit the fan... turning one friend against another while catching everyone else in the crossfire *sigh*)
oh man I am not involved in fandom culture but this explanation makes a lot of bizarre things I've seen go on around my own work make a hell of a lot more sense
holy shit just seeing your name brought back so many memories. you were one of my favourite animators when i was a warriors obsessed kid :’) taking a look at your work now it’s only gotten even better, keep it up!!
"Fandom is not as important as you think it is." Thank you. I needed to hear this because both antis and proshippers piss me off for different reasons... though a lot of it comes down to both sides having a whole discussion that is MOSTLY about mlm narratives that exclude mlm voices. Hearing you say that actually helped me ground myself and stop being angry. Also "these people aren't against harassment; they're against people harassing them." THANK YOU.
Also thank you SO much for calling out proshippers' refusal to accept any criticism as valid. The number of proshippers that accuse people of misogyny, queerphobia, gaslighting, and more because they got criticized is ridiculous and the lack of self-awareness is astounding.
As a wlw/nblw one of the things both pro shippers and anti shippers have in common is the HEAVY infatuation with mlm ships, especially nsfw. A lot of pro-shippers are straight women who want to see two hot men fuck regardless of their relationship and a lot of anti-shippers are straight women who want to see two hot men fuck but want them to be not abusive and probably think that this will prevent them from being called out for that
@@Eosinophyllis a lot of antis are just proshippers repressing and overcompensating. As a transmasc mlm who is a survivor of csa, these two groups are the worst, both of them. One gets off to what keeps us up shaking at night and the other treat us like trophy pets in some kind of clout contest
Nah he is chill. He probably would find it funny ore than anything and make it a joke in a new show. Now i want a referenc or a side story about mad fandoms starting from an innocent statement XD Actually coul be a good statement about religions and movement and shisms.And a shipping sindeplow could be hillarous and meaningful there. He is prone to absurdist humor and that, would be a good fit. I hope he takes inspiration more than anything.
@@marocat4749 Yeah, he's mostly like a how you do fellow kids kind of boomer. If anything he's the one embarrassing himself like this time when he bought the tacky merch with the triangles. Or when Hannibal was on air people hated he would interact with these really toxic fandom members. Like he would have the time to read all the call outs or whatever.
im a bisexual jewish man. i occasionally rep that pink triangle because... i am a bisexual jewish man. that symbol holds profound weight for me as a reminder of who i am and where i came from. something about a proshipper rainbow meat pin with symbolism like that on it just... confuses me. so deeply in fact that i cant even really feel offended. i just cant wrap my brain around why somebody would decide that's a cool and appropriate symbol to put on their internet fandom discourse participant badge
i think these people are so chronically online that they simply overestimate their own importance by several orders of magnitude, when in reality, nobody cares and it doesn't matter.
my favorite thing ever is when someone casually mentions a 'cancelled' creator, and when someone comments "wait, what did they do?" the replies are filled with the most heinous list of lies and twitter broken telephone rubbish.
@@overgrownkudzu Oh yes. Because “I don’t personally understand but you’re still valid and I’d like to actually understand rather than just parroting what i’m ‘supposed’ to say” aaaactually means “pronouns in bio lol”
I'm launching a movie criticism podcast soon and was umming and ahing about signing up for Twitter for the first time to promote it. Yeah, I'm thinking not.
It was actually heartbreaking to see Sarah on the brink of tears when she talked about the people tweeting that they knew where she lived. Sarah, if you read this, I hope you're alright, and also deleting Twitter was absolutely the right choice because I did the quickest of peaks into your mini trending tag and felt my brain melting.
Seconded. I know we're all strangers here but I'm genuinely wishing for the best, none of this was ever deserved 💙 It's beyond me how anyone could delude themselves into thinking a UA-camr as level-headed as SARAH Z is a cruel monster. If the 30-year-olds in the shipping wars would just direct this energy toward elected officials, we'd live in a utopia.
everytime sarah explains a fandom concept/history, i like to cosplay someone who has no idea what she's talking about and didn't spend their formative years perpetually online. its very therapeutic, highly recommend
I think I'm pretty online in general but, wrt this segment of discourse I must be in the wrong places because some stuff in this video (let alone more niche incidents detailed on channels like Princess's or Izzzyzz's) is WAY beyond the spaces I tend to hang out in, even the most progressive/left-y/fandom-y ones. I've stumbled into some loose elements of debating trauma and grim topics in the past with specific fandoms, but had never heard the terms pro-/anti-shipper used in these ways
@@gregorysteffensen3279 same-I was literally a /b/tard before I knew the implications of the term and association, and I’ve been everywhere from Gaia online to Snapchat since then… but this whole world is brand new to me. I missed out on a single social media platform (Twitter) and now I feel like a legit boomer.
I feel the same way about cats dying in fiction, going out of my way to avoid it when possible, and also not blaming the creators of media I consume when it happens in the story. Not every story written is going to be for me! That's the point of having MANY STORIES to consume!
I cannot imagine ever thinking "people disagreeing with me about fantasizing about same sex fictional characters being in love is exactly and literally the same as gay men being locked in concentration camps, starved then murdered"
@@GabrielCosta-xt1dv … that’s not the point of my comment. i am pointing out how people tend to fetishize gay relationships. also fetishizing fictional or real people sounds weird lol
anyone with "mental health advocate" or whatever in their bio following someone just to spam at them is perfect evidence of why it's all garbage speak from so many of these people
While I completely agree with everything you say here, I think another thing to note is the homogenisation of the internet and how it's forced adults and minors into the same space. There was A time where saying "you went to the adult internet so you ran a risk when you went there" held a level of water. That was how I was always taught growing up. Like there was the child internet with sites like club penguin and then the adult internet with stuff like Facebook or twitter. Children still used those sites but the culture around it was that it was fundamentally a risky thing to do. Like watching a r rated movie. Kids still did it but you go in with that mindset that "hey this might not be suitable for me" and even more importantly there was A place to retreat to if it got too much. I'm not saying that was ideal but now with the internet becoming a handful of monopolies, everyone is in the same space. Adults curating adult content with the expectation of being among peers then get their content recommended to children who aren't ready or comfortable to see that kind of content. Its like having a restaurant that used to serve fruit juice and wine so people could choose now just pouring both into the same vat and giving the combination it out to everyone. Kids are getting drunk when they expect to be getting fruit juice and adults are frustrated that their wine is having to be watered down. Or a video store just putting all their disks into a big pile and handing them out randomly. Kids are getting a splatter fest and adults are getting teletubbies. Truthfully this is why I actually really heavily support ao3 because of its robust tagging. It clearly labels what you're getting so you can avoid anything you aren't interested in. I've still absolutely seen some buck wild shit on there I haven't liked but I can be most of the time be reasonably certain if I'm getting a dead dove or not. The last thing I want is a site where problematic stuff isn't labeled for fear of being removed
Yes to all of this. Kids and adults being made to share the same space because kids’ spaces are dying is an important thing to keep in mind imo. Kids really don’t have a safe place to go at this point. I feel like the debate is washed as just “puriteen” or “kids being annoying” when really they have nowhere else left. Some of the kids’ opinions and actions still suck, and they shouldn’t be excused for it. But idk it’s very sad. I wish there was still a kids table they could sit down at.
also like, i usually see kids virtual worlds brought up in this conversation like club penguin, etc., and the idea that they're dead/dying. imo they're not really dead, roblox just monopolized the kids virtual world scene. and roblox fucking sucks at keeping kids safe, i've literally walked into roblox games/places/experiences/whatever seeing ERP in public. and it's incredibly horrifying when you see two of those blocky avatars in a corner going at it and noticing that one types with little grammar and 3rd grader vocabulary and that the other clearly has written a professional email before. all this and roblox has just introduced 17+ content including dating
I'd never really thought about this but it's so goddamn true. It's this terrible situation where the internet is such a massive part of our lives that basically any kid is gonna want to use it, but there's nowhere their parents can point them that's *for* them anymore. I honestly think this being the case has a chance to bring forth a resurgence in parents making their kids spend more time outside as people who were thrust into the internet thunderdome as wee lads start becoming parents
what really gets me is when people will say "queer people and relationships deserve to be in ALL genres and ALL kinds of stories" and then go on to say "no, killing stalking is bad because it has abusive gay characters"
@@becuzMDsaidineededpersonality cis women in the name of "protecting trans people" saying that they can tell "a real woman wouldn't write like this". such a fucked-up situation
@@Notfallkaramell Same. Because I never feel sexual attraction I don't get certain things in the community but luckily there is google and reddit to explain. Minus the writing part because everyone hates my writing. (LOL). But in all seriousness I do think there is something to be said when straight media that portrays unhealthy relationships is okay but when it's LGBT it's suddenly problematic...almost as though the mere notion of a relationship being unhealthy and being queer isn't something audiences can handle. It's sad because now in order to tell a story like that the character always have to be soft and sweet. But why? Also, I would love to see what you've written! Or hear about what you are going to make!
The whole pro anti thing is so terminally online it's insane. If a fictional ship causes you THIS much anguish, and I mean this with complete sincerity, go outside. Honestly, as I got older I realized just what a waste of emotional energy it is to fight tooth and nail to defend my opinions on media as if I was defending my life and I feel 100x better for it.
I'm glad that you realised that over time. You're completely correct. If anyone lets a fictional ship cause them this much stress, they really do just need to step away from the internet for a bit and go outside.
On the anti camp, it's not that I'm actually anti any ship, but as an ace it's frustrating af to be told it's whatever-phobic to read two people as just friends. Like before the Good Omens couple was canonized, it reminded me of myself and a QPP, and I thought it was super sweet and wholesome that two guys wrote their friendship into a book. If I ever said anything online about it though, it was "nuh uh, they're married and they kiss all the time in public and here's my xxx fic and if they remind you of you and someone else it's because you want to marry them. If you don't agree it's because you're homophobic and don't want gays in the media". Like, even AFTER the author came out and said people could read whatever they wanted into it, people chose to hear "just so long as it's super duper gay" and it's like, can't anyone ever just read people as friends who don't turn into werewolves and juck on main street?
but that's less about any one ship or another, tbh, and is just an extension of my old wound of "if you're squicked out by smut you're a homophobe", but it's always been the loudest in shipping corners
@@MrSlendyMannn it's also just not helpful. fandoms and shipping etc. at their core are supposed to be fun. if it turns into actual anger and stress and harm, and it seems like it does for a lot of these people, on both sides, that's not worth it.
I'm about halfway through this video now, and I realize this comment was overly glib and maybe kind of insensitive! Sorry for that! This is a great video about nuance and the internet and I hope a lot of people take it to heart!
@@shinyskunk Let's not pretend "twitter is a bad website" is accurate or valid in any way - if twitter closed down, all the people would just bring the toxic vitriol to whatever new site popped up, as well as continuing on tumblr, facebook, youtube, instagram, discord, etc. the issue is the *people* on twitter, and saying "haha twitter bad" just feels off the mark by a long shot.
I didn't really think the accusation were too bad: gaslighter, abuse silencer, baby eater, but STRAIGHT WOMEN?! Nu-uh you gotta draw a fucking line somewhere.
My favorite part of this video is every time Sarah refers to a character by their name, their content (“Rey Star Wars”). It’s like when you have a guy’s name in your phone saved as “Josh Hinge”
Also reminds me a bit of how Americans say town names; Denver, Texas or something like that. I like it, it makes it sound like all these francises are different countries the characters live in.
Tfw the internet is reinventing last names (like how "smith" came from... being blacksmiths. Some family of guys one day was known as Joe who made my knife, Joe the blacksmith, and then Joe smith.
"Your interests are meant not to be things that make you happy, but rather deep expressions of your moral virtue." Exactly. Very much reminds me of when people feel the need to constantly call things they dislike problematic or to find a moral reason it is bad. Not everything you dislike needs to be "objectively" or "morally" incorrect, you can just dislike things because that's how you feel.
Yup, and conversely, you don't need to morally justify everything you enjoy. In fact, being willing to criticise things you like is probably a healthy way of consuming media.
And even then, different people will like or dislike the same thing for wildly different reasons. In this world view, if you get a list of someone's likes (without any context), you can predict with 100% accuracy what kind of person they are and what moral outlook they hold.
I remember I once said a TV show was trash bc I simply didn't like any of the characters or plot (I only said it was trash in my Og comment) and someone thought I meant it was inherently morally bad and asked me how I could possibly think that about a show that's widely regarded as good, wholesome and diverse... I was like no it's not that deep the main characters just annoyed me 😂😂
I miss the prevalence of the term "squick " in fandom. "This ship squicks me, I hate seeing it and avoid it where I can. " and there you're done. It can go from ew to a bone deep shudder without passing moral judgement about what can and can't exist.
This seems like a weird evolution of the "us vs them" mentality humans have. "We stand for something and they don't so they must be the exact opposite to us" is the kind of shorthand I've seen a lot in fandoms in particular and social media in general.
That, and I think people are lazy. We love categorizing stuff, otherwise languages, the periodic table, food groups, etc. wouldn't exist, but we also simultaneously don't want to think too hard on the nuances and things that make everything complicated. So like, definitely an us vs them scenario, but I think a big part of it is also wanting to be a part of a label, but also don't want to think about how very different we all are from each other regardless.
Trump and Biden supporters exemplify this. The average republican genuinely thinks their ideas are best for the nation. And vice versa. I disagree with them wholeheartedly, but there’s some level of respect there.
Nah, tribalism is an inherent human trait, but people make the mistake that tribalism is "us vs them". This one on the other hand is a learned trait, more of a cope thing (fascists for example have it). A healthy human being doesn't have this trait.
@@slsthewriter1299 i think it comes down to how interaction works in online spaces, particularly the Thunderdome (as Sarah puts it) spaces like Twitter. the medium engenders quick response and surface level reading if you engage in these conversations at all. like who has the emotional capacity to seriously analyze the thoughts of 100+ people simultaneously and respond in a thoughtful, engaged way? you can argue that it's an irresponsible way to engage with the discourse (and I think it is), but if you want to be part of the conversation and be heard, then you have to engage with the system the way it's structured--please don't take that as an endorsement of the system, though. personally kinda wish we could delete Twitter lol.
@@dopaminetrigger Oh yeah, 100%. I thought about Twitter's structure as a whole and how it impacts the people within it versus the structure of Tumblr. There is definitely something to be said about the design and intent of a platform impacting the was discourse happens. Still, I do wonder if we allow ourselves to let this happen by not being self-aware enough to not have such discourse.
I cannot make this shit up, I just saw a proshipper on Twitter call you ableist and classist for calling yourself a "Tax paying adult woman". They're just proving your point over and over and over again 😭
Pausing to read these screenshots adds a lot to this video. So many of them just feature activist language being thrown as ammo for the most minor offense. In response to 3 word tweets. Absurd, but fascinating deep dive as usual sarah ❤️
Yeah, it seemed like they had good intentions but they couldn't fully grasp the differences between one situation from another It's like saying you like a same sex ship and someone accusing you of only liking it because you fetishize gay people.
Reminds me of how conservatives appropriate leftist language in order to appear more progressive than they actually are & muddy the waters of political discussion. I wonder if all these twitter dorks even realize what they're doing
@@spectre9340 it’s not good intentions. They’re in denial that they enjoy harassing people and mask it with morality. Cruelty is only enjoyable if you can convince yourself you’re doing it for the betterment of mankind.
Having watched this I have come to one simple conclusion: Plato was right about expelling the poets. Plato: People shouldn’t be exposed art until they’ve developed a capacity for critical thinking. Myself: That is absurd and unreasonable. Antis: *Screaming about how watching Steven Universe is genocide apologia* Proships: *Screaming about how if you criticize any art ever you’re a fascists* Myself: Never mind you were right, some people just shouldn’t be exposed to art until they’ve developed critical thinking skills
I think this is applicable to the whole “fiction doesn’t/does affect reality” stuff. Because so long as you are able to have critical thinking skills and be critical about the media you consume fiction doesn’t affect your reality. But it can be difficult borderlining on impossible to expect a huge mass of people to have the same critical thinking skills (which is often acquired by a mixture of experience and upbringing) so then fiction does affect reality. It’s so, in Sara’s word, wild that both sides refuse to acknowledge any sort of nuance and insists that you are either A or B which is…not how things ever worked.
@Raiden Kunikuzushi Plato’s Republic is where this idea comes from: Mind you The Republic is rather like the Bible where if you read it and take it at the surface level interpretation Plato appears reactionary. It’s important to recognize that when Plato criticizes Democracy through the character of Socrates he is criticizing democracy as it existed in Ancient Athens which was far from the platonic ideal of democracy as it were. Athenian Democracy was rife with corruption and lacked a written legal code and dominated by wealthy interests. In Plato’s Seventh Letter Plato actually defends the Democracy established in the Revolution against the 30 Tyrants. Stating that while there were some excesses the new Democracy was restrained in it’s pursuit of vengeance and was more good than bad. A remarkably charitable description of the government that put Socrates to death. And in the Republic itself Socrates state that democracy is deeply flawed Democracy is the only of his four types of Government (Timarchy, Oligarchy, Demicracy, and Tyranny) that allows for the pursuit of philosophy. Edit: Additionally Plato was speaking more broadly than just simple fiction. Poets weren’t just simple authors and playwrights; poets were authors, propagandists, historians, and theologians all rolled into one. Poets directly influenced how people thought of the gods, history, and morality in ways modern Authors could only dream of. Alcibiades got Athens to go to war against Syracuse by appealing to the poetic images of Greek Heroes. Imagine if in 2003 George Bush went before Congress and said we should invade Iraq because we’ll be just like Harry Potter and Congress responded by unanimously voting to declare war on Iraq: that was what Athens was like in the time period the Republic is set.
@@Eiterlude Better yet, utilising critical thought when consuming art allows you to consciously understand what the art is trying to say to you. In this way, you can choose whether to reject or embrace the art for what it truly is, without having it completely rule over you in a manner that you don’t recognise or comprehend. It also allows you to avoid tying up too much of your personal identity or emotions to a particular piece of media, meaning you can also avoid being a ‘worst bird-app user’.
This is why most decent English/Lit teachers will automatically give you a higher grade if you just write about something vastly different from your classmates. You have to do a book report on Of Mice and Men? I promise your teacher doesn't want to read you saying the same bs about Lenny that literally everyone else in your class is saying. Write about Candy, and how he's a statement on how older folks have 'no place' in impoverished society and how he feels unwanted in spite of everything he has done (and continues to do) and how supportive he is of their community as a whole. Most folks don't think critically in a healthy way though and make life harder for themselves and those around them as a result.
@@dogearflopper7011 agreed. I never thought we’d get to the point where we analyze the mechanics of fandom itself, or that it would become such a fully fleshed out thing ahaha
This video could also be expanded to "how social media is literally destroying everyone's sanity." So much of the problems discussed in this video extend so far beyond just fandoms - particularly the issue of how people aren't built to process social media and so everything that happens online becomes so completely distorted, whether its about fandoms, or more "real world" applicable events.
@@TaRa0350 You could go further back. In 1825 there was a big debate over whether Mozart's requiem was really written by him. People wrote articles and reader's letters back and forth, it was like some toxic facebook thread, just a little slower.
I stopped using social media for the most part several years ago and decided to just have my own little self sustaining fan base for whatever it was I was interested in, and I would usually talk about it with one or two other people. No discourse outside of my own thoughts, I've been much happier since. It gets kind of depressing not having a lot of people to gush too but I don't have to hear about how 'problematic' my favorite character or ship is for some dumb reason.
Exactly! like the shipping insanity and this moral purity in engaging in content has spread into beyond shipping and into social media as a whole! we aren't built to handle the constant stream of content that social media provides, and it just leads to worse mental health and perspectives that just make the space less friendly to folks
Reminds me of when people use legality to denote either a morality or a naturalness, I have my views and there are those who have been molested who would support, as well as those who wouldn't. The implication that these people are 'on the right side' or are just used as fodder is toxic in discussion as it boils complexities of the human experience to a card with the words "they are on my side" and it's just dumb to see on either side.
I'm thirty and I stopped being in fandoms ages ago, before there was any talk of proshippers and antis. I tried to dip my toes in it again and I bumped into people saying "anyone who likes Hannibal and ships Hannigram is a pedophile" which made me very confused since neither Hannibal nor Will is a child and since there are no children at all in the show. I noped out of it immediately for my sanity and never touched fandoms again.
Eh. The best thing to do is to read the fic of whatever media you like, maybe write a bit yourself from time to time and don't otherwise engage or take it seriously. There is plenty of messed up stuff going on in the world already.
I dunno what it has to do with pedophilia, my biggest issue is that it's an abusive relationship, but I feel more pity than contempt for people that adore ships of abusive relationships, so I find the harassment of those shippers pretty deplorable. Life has given them enough L's as it is.
@@dvillines26 yeah, I’m not in favour of the ship bc I actually have memory issues due to neurodivergency, and seeing ppl call it “romantic” and basically ignore that it’s a tragedy that destroys Will is annoying. I wasn’t anti the ship until ppl started harassing me for my opinions.
Sarah, you attract these people because you’re SO good at being nuanced. It drives these people INSANE; they’re frustrated that they can’t pin you down, so they take the LEAST charitable interpretation of your words. They need to be able to have some control over you cause they can see you can’t be pinned down easily
Pro-ship and anti-ship are just such.. chronically online terms. Just do what you want and block what you don’t want to see. Edit because I wasn’t expecting this comment to blow up and I realized I worded it poorly. There is more nuance to this, I am aware, I watched the same video you did. Things that are _actually illegal_ or cause serious real world harm shouldn’t be platformed, I’m not arguing with this. In turn, I’m not a big fan of censorship, even in little things like fanfiction archives, because it’s a slippery slope to some worse stuff, and fanfic archives are gonna be pretty interesting to some future historians. I’m just saying that - as the video states - separating “anti” and “pro” into binary terms doesn’t really help. Either you’re in support of literally illegal things, or you don’t want anything problematic in media. That’s… stupid. I’ve seen both sides of the argument a lot - comes with the territory when existing in MCYT fandoms - and I tend to say that the romanticization of abuse, the positive portrayal of bigotry, literal illegal things, etc, that’s fucked, that shouldn’t be platformed. However, for example, shipping that Hannibal ship - or the like - isn’t like a crime, mate, it isn’t going to hurt anyone, it’s just these guys’ fucked up relationship. What is the romanticization of abuse, though? God, I don’t know. That’s why I’m not the one writing the internet laws, that’s why I’m the one who didn’t _word this comment right_ and got a comment about it and am now fixing it to make it clearer (hi Crunchy Leaf /nm). Is Hannigram the romanticization of abuse? Maybe, they seem to have a fucked up relationship. Maybe it’s nuanced. Maybe whether something is “problematic” should be judged on a case by case basis, you know, barring stuff that’s _actually illegal._ In conclusion, I don’t know what I’m talking about, not really, I’m just a random person who’s talking about discourse they have really tried to stay out of because being cancelled/called out sounds _really stressful,_ but, I’ll rephrase my original comment, to make my points more clear - points I was trying and failing to make when I first wrote this comment all these months ago: Pro-ship and anti-ship are such chronically online terms. Just do what you want, barring literally illegal stuff, and judge things on a case by case basis, rather than defining your whole personality around and internet discourse. Also block what you don’t want to see, and report stuff that is against the TOS or the social media you’re using and/or the literal law, because being platformed is not a right. Have a nice life, and sorry for the confusion. Also, idk, thanks for all the likes and comments? Some of them were critical, but you weren’t antagonistic about it which my little brain very much appreciates.
People are saying I support real life abuse and I have an Ugly look on life because I ship something from a cartoon (that’s canon and they got a happy ending)
@@balknbarbie Depends. I see pro shippers call people anti vaxxers if they criticize anything. They're not as pro free speech as you think. Many of them railed against Sarah for this video.
As someone who was threatened to be doxxed for AOT shipping (a fandom I am not in anyway invested in) this is literally how they act. They will harass you and have people target you and when you try and defend yourself they will say you're the bad person for being mean to them.
@@stewartfrances5589 i mean sounds like it lol. some of these people talk about “omg you guys are being awful to me” and then attack other people in awful ways
If I was Lindsay Ellis and someone accused me of supporting child murder after that three word tweet I would respond with "Well I do, but that's unrelated to my hatred of fandoms." Which is why I don't have a twitter.
Yea, I am that asshole too. If someone says I support a terrible thing my response is usually "Yea, sure.", because no matter how much you defend yourself all that will happen is someone will take something you said out of context and make you seem worse.
I just realized that having no twitter gives you no context of what this means... But basically, after receiving hate from homophobes for kissing one of his dancers as part of his performance at the Grammys? VMAs? IDK... After receiving hate for kissing the dancer, he replied "next time I'll have sex on stage" And this is his usual response style.
@@Vitrapyeahhh I know what they meant and they’re right in this context, it’s just that phrase has become a transphobic and homophobic dog whistle sadly. Of course in this context it’s fine and makes sense and I don’t think that they meant it this way, but it’s just used as a dog whistle in other contexts to imply children can’t be gay or trans and that gay and trans adults are just predat0rs trying to “”indoctrinate”” and gr00m kids into being queer, usually implied to be for nefarious purposes. Its the very old propaganda that paints queer people to inherently be predatory that’s been around forever, centuries really. It’s a shame that the phrase has become a dog whistle, because in most other cases it’s a reasonable statement that makes a lot of sense.
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Just gonna leave a comment at the top here before the replies get flooded by brainrot. Good video Sarah. :)
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The merch is cringe…
Just kidding just kidding, I’ve just preordered a “Young, Dumb, and full of Libel” mug. Video is fantastic as usual!
yes i loved this video thank you for spilling tea on internet drama i knew nothing about
Will you be captioning the video about the Homestuck legal threat?
Sarah: the reading comprehension on this site is piss-poor
bird app users: how dare you say we piss on the poor
Twitter I just Tumblr on a delay with a shorter word limit. I honestly think you didn't really get this sort of stuff until you had that Golden Age of fandom in the early 10s... and that's only of the three things that really kinda blended to make this mess.
thank you for this joke Pink Nintendo DS Lite
Sarah: *talks about the history on both sides and says harassing is still bad regardless*
Pro-ships/antis: Wait a minute, she didnt agree with our stance *proceeds to harass and insult her*
Yeah, that's some kinky shit......
Me who read this as "how dare you say we piss on the floor"
(I wager the additional nuance in using a rhyming and fitting word like "floor" instead of the same words rearranged makes the joke funnier, but that's my two cents)
"Everyone should delete Twitter" is honestly a valid take. My life is happier without it.
indeed
I left all social media about two years ago and I’m better off for it.
@@brycealthoff8092 Um UA-cam is social media
@@shifra1967 if you stretch the definition maybe. I consider UA-cam as video hosting site with delusions. You may be able to post photos and status updates, but that’s not the primary purpose.
Same
"Fandom isn't as important as you think it is."
Honestly, that sums up the entire thing.
this didnt need to be an hour long video, this sentence alone sums it up
Yep .
This is true, but I do think it's important to place this conflict within the broader context of recent reactionary attempts to purge the internet of sexual content and sex workers. While I agree with Sarah that making "anti" or "pro" part of your identity is weird, that the "pro" side is just as capable of harassment as the "antis" and that both sides have a bad habit of overstating harm, I nevertheless still think that one of these positions ("antis") is fundamentally ideologically grounded in anti-sex reaction and it's important not to lose sight of that. As an isolated phenomenon fans yelling at each other over ships is completely trivial, but I think it is part of a larger sex-negative backlash that has very real consequences for artists, sex workers and queer people more generally.
@@johnbltz that's more on the shoulders of big companies though, isn't it? I don't recall Tumblr, discord, and others being pushed into a corner because of Twitter arguments, but rather the rules put forth by Apple. I don't think internet spats is entirely to blame here, but rather the core beliefs of those in charge. I also think the 'anti-sex' part of this pro/anti war is terribly overstated and focused on when really it's just a fraction of the conversation.
And as a big disclaimer, I believe sex workers have a right to a safe work environment and be able to make money. The banning of sexual works on so many platforms is utterly bizarre and stupid.
@@johnbltz I'd say it does go both ways tho. I would be labeled an "anti" if I cared at all to debate fandoms (which I don't). I'd say the issue is not entirely "anti-sex". It can be the opposite, to un "unhealthy" degree. Especially for queer people, or LGBTQI+ at large (for other groups, I don't really know, Im not involved in them). Sexuality, trough ships can be "trivialised", or made an object, and that's not great either. I'm kinda tired of having my sexuality be a sort of trendy new handbag for girl teens who giggle about their GBF and decide who he should be with (in general, the crush she has herself).
I used to roleplay on post-by-post forums. I stoped doing so when I reached the point where I would barely have created my character and have it shipped without any prior discussion because "he's cute" or "nice or "a bad boy that goes well with...". And I was like... I write for my fun and the fun of my writing partner, not your sexual gratification? While prior to that, it wasn't as usual. And I didn't shy away from more mature roleplays. But as the character evolved, not for a quick thrill. Like, sex shouldn't be shunned, or always serious, but a tiny bit of reverence for the importance of the topic would be a healthy addition.
I wish instead of calling things "problematic" people would just say what actually happened.
I have never agreed more to a comment in my life
Most problematic things are not actually harmful in any way so if they did that they’d have to admit they’re just full of shit
That word has lost all meaning because of Twitter
Deflection, my friend, deflection.
If they just say something’s problematic, then they don’t need to bother with actually demonstrating their understanding about anything.
The irony of people commenting “you have never been the victim of a harrasment campaign” as a part of a harrasment campaign is palpable
"Allow me to demonstrate!"
I notice that people who are the loudest about cancel culture not existing are often the first to get mad at the latest punching bag on Twitter.
Fact: the demographic most likely to perpetuate abuse is previous victims of abuse. (Please note that by "perpetuate" I am including both abusers AND enablers.)
I'm not blaming anyone for being abused, but I am saying that a critical component of recovering from abuse is the rejection of normalization, in order to prevent the perpetuation of that abuse. Unfortunately many who are abused have difficulty fully recovering in this way.
@@scrotiemcb5858 I'd argue that it depends on the person. Someone who is a victim of abuse either will go out of their way to avoid bringing that same pain to others, or will inflict it upon others so they can take back power they feel they lost. It really depends on the empathy of the individual. And unfortunately, abuse can also destroy someone's empathy.
I love your profile pic Dilly! It looks like a robot Loudred, mixed with some Undertale things, very cool!
the term "anti-anti" is the single funniest label for any ideology ever. "I oppose people who are against. things"
lon! ni li nasa mute
woah hey bestie
new ideology: anti-anti-anti
i oppose opposing people who are against things
anti ad infinitum
Ppl generally go for proshipper. Id say its fair in a way to take an opposite position to people who are against something but sure it sounds dumb. But so does just the word “anti”, sounds like you’re just against things, like in general.
"Sarah Z poisoned our water supply, burned our crops, and delivered a plague upon our houses!" "She did?"
"No, but are we just gonna wait around until she does!?"
This is what twitter people sound like
“Let’s push something over!”
sarah z sold me subpar copper
she sounds powerful, she should run to be elected an MP
It sounds like the actuality is nearly this, but they just lie and say "yes" instead.
this is mccarthyism
Twitter really be the kind of place where you can say "I like pancakes" and someone else will take that as "I hate waffles"
But… but I like that thing! I LIKE THAT THING! YOU KNOW WHAT, THERE ARE SOME PEOPLE WHO LIKE THAT THING-
@Master Kohga, Top Banana of the Yiga Clan I think the more accurate prozd video that could be quoted here is the one where he loses his keys
The entire internet is like that.
And someone will eventually warp that into "I hate gay people!"
Like where did you even get that from?!
say "i like pancakes" and people decide you like kicking puppies too
i strongly considered tweeting in defense of you at the time, but i talked myself out of it by imagining explaining the controversy to my grandma
You need more likes.
Omg it's the one (1) icon 😍
this feels like a crossover episode
Kinda speaks to how weird and out of left field some of this is haha. Who in my real life would understand any of this
It really puts into perspective when you try to explain this to not an online person.
After watching this, I think the term “proshippers” needs to be reclaimed by professional ship-in-a-bottle builders, and “antis” needs to be reclaimed by ant-farm enthusiasts. Give these fine hobbyists their words back!
Or postal workers
The poor ants
Antishippers should be taken up by people who went to too many boat museums as a kid and now associate the ocean with hunger followed by cheap seafood which got them stuck in a hotel room with food poisoning for the next day.
She said we've talked ship's of different types. But not once has she talked about frigates.
@@merrittanimation7721 this seems oddly specific. Did this happen to you?
Before this: I'm a fan of things!
After this: I enjoy things a normal amount, actually.
An average fan, vs the fanatics.
One of the Supernatural actors (King of Hell? Sorry, not in that fandom) talked about why he hates the word “fan”, because it comes from fanatic, which implies loving a thing makes you a loon.
The solution is to be a fan of something where all the rest of the fans died so long ago that the news on the fandom you get is through archeology
@@drewmarteny1495 Make The Lone Ranger, Doc Savage, and John Carter great again!
I scrolled down just to say this lmaooo guess I'm just a casual enjoyer of things nowadays
see, the labels "proshippers" and "antis" are so reductive that i don't consider myself either, but what annoys me is both sides refuse to admit they've got weirdos who take it too far in their own respective circles.
From the video, it kind of seems like the weirdos who take it too far are the main ones, not the exceptions.
@@PikaPenny17 yeah, people who aren't like that aren't going to attach some stupid label to themselves.
@@overgrownkudzu People who aren't weirdos can still attach labels to themself though.
@@overgrownkudzu proshippers (as in labeled themselves such in their descrip) and people who openly reblogged p*rn of minor / child characters kept following me on twitter so I put anti in my bio to show
1. Don't follow me and
2. I dont tolerate that behavior here
And it worked. Only maybe had one person since then follow me who did that
I like to think I'm not some weirdo just because I don't wanna see and don't want others to ship minors with adults, and relatives, and ESPECIALLY dont wanna see p*rn of it
It's the vocal minority... but boy are they loud.
Never actually using Twitter seems to be the most self-care thing I've ever done for myself lol
this is what i'm thinking throughout the whole video
I deleted mine a few months ago and my mental state has DRAMATICALLY improved
Same
every day i’m just more and more glad i never made an account
Feeling thankful I'm too stupid to figure out how it works
Every time I watch a Sarah Z video I feel like I am an 80 year old woman whose granddaughter is explaining what she's learning in school which is wild because I am like four years younger than her
Me, last night: “I wonder why Sarah Z deactivated her Twitter?” Me, 17 minutes ago: “Oh. Ohhhhhh.”
A wise decision.
Right? Just had the exact same "a-ha" moment.
Oh shit I hadn’t noticed that lmao
@@eduardofeijolle8049 Agreed.
Omg
i always come back to the concept of "IRREDEEMABLE MEDIA: [show made for babies], [show made for babies], [show made for babies], [show made for babies]" when i need to smile. thank you
It blows my mind every time I go back to it. You would think that label would describe like, Birth of a Nation or even something like Cannibal Holocaust. Fandom culture was already deranged but Twitter being the dominant social media platform has amplified the problem tenfold.
@@dyrr836 I was honestly surprised Friday the 13th or American Horror Story weren't listed. Heck, sticking with the anime theme, Aesthetic of a Rogue Hero is way more morally bankrupt than Danganronpa, (10/10, would recommend both). I wasn't surprised to see Hetalia, I've heard the way they portray Germany is incredibly problematic.
“How did we get here?”
"In the beginning the Universe was created. This has made a lot of people very angry and has been widely regarded as a bad move."
-The Restaurant at the End of the Universe
Still think it’s a bad move tbh
Hitchhiker's guide is so iconic
Wait so that wasn’t from Good Omens?
@Moira O'Deorain
I don't think so, but I've often seen it attributed to Terry Pratchett so maybe that's where the confusion comes from
@@phoenixfritzinger9185 Nope, it's from the Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy, but it does sound like something that would be from Good Omens. They're both probably irredeemable somehow.
"an author's personal experiences are none of our business". holy crap yes. creators don't need to trot out their traumas to "prove" that they have the right to write various types of content.
I feel like this happens a lot in the YA-adjacent side of "book twitter" and adjacent book social media, like Becky Albertelli feeling like she was pressured into coming out because of all the comments (some decent criticism, like pointing out some ignorant comments about wlw in Simon VS, but some just vitriolic) about people assuming she was straight and getting mad at her for writing LGBTQ books. Or, on a similar note, Leigh Bardugo having to "justify" there being SA (maybe CSA? I have yet to read it so this is second-hand) in Ninth House by talking about her own experiences since a lot of people saw the content warnings and jumped right to "this must be for shock value!!!" and were being pretty awful to her about it.
I really really don't like this trend of "you need to show all possible credentials to write about X, Y, and Z content!" and as a writer myself, it makes me very uncomfortable. The idea that I "owe" a potential reader knowledge of some of my worst experiences to "justify" writing a character who struggles with depression or panic attacks is not an idea that I like, same with having to out myself to "be allowed" to write LGBTQ characters when doing so could put me at risk.
Anyways TL;DR I agree with you and also I hope that this way of thinking is on the way out.
@@evies.1018 oh man, it's one thing to write dark and heavy matters with careless abandon but one should be allowed to write about the same matters with, you know, proper research and care taken. Demanding that one must have the first-hand experience to write the subject matter is just going to limit a lot of literature out there tbh (and also, well, no way am I, an actually autistic individual, going to write stories that only involves how I perceive the world. It gets boring after a while, after all.).
@@crowdemon_archives I agree! Why would I want to write every book with a character who has the same identities as me every time? It’d just get repetitive after awhile. Plus I like to write to explore other perspectives, I don’t want to only write about things I’ve gone through, especially since it can be really draining. Sure, some of my favorite characters in my writing are similar to me, but some of them are nothing like me and that’s why I like writing them: they let me be someone else for a while.
there was a short period of time where people were weirdly obsessed with trying to prove that a game dev i followed was a cis woman who was just fetishizing gay people by putting them in their game despite the fact that they had talked multiple times about being gay and nonbinary and was generally a very private person anyway. as far as i can tell, the people accusing them were doing it solely to have a “morally correct” reason to not like their game.
it was.... weird.
@@nothankyou4752 I hate the trend of people feeling like they have to moralize their likes and dislikes. Some people really just don't get that you can dislike a thing without it being secretly the worst, most problematic thing ever.
"I am a tax paying adult woman, not a member of a fucking fandom war sports team." Is the single most powerful quote I have heard in my entire life THANK YOU.
It will be used to cancel her though.
@@hazzardalsohazzard2624 for real tho... people on twitter were actually attacking that statement as... elitist and classist or something? 🥴
I need it on a mug to go with the future "young dumb and full of libel" purchase
@@bbshrimp If anything, this video has shown us that we shouldn't give a fuck about what Twitter has to say.
@@PassTheMarmalade1957 YUP exactly 100000% yes. At least the screaming idiots side of it anyhoo.
the whole pro and anti thing has always confused me tbh; my general take on it is: write/draw/etc what you want, but TAG & LABEL IT PROPERLY. that way, folks who don't wanna see it don't have to (unless they're the type of....odd folks who delve into tags for things they dislike instead of avoiding/blocking/etc...) and folks who do wanna see it can find it easier.
this is so true !!! i enjoy reading a fic that explores dark topics from time to time, but sometimes i'll read a fic and then go to the author's profile and find out from their other works that it was fetish content the whole time. it's not my job to pass moral judgment on that, but it's really not my thing and i imagine for other people it could even be triggering if they were looking for more therapeutic content instead. i wish fic authors would more consistently make authorial intent clear when writing these topics - something that they don't have to disclose personal experiences in order to do!!
not saying this about antis (or pros or any group) specifically but just in general, ime zoomers have no idea how to tag. they can tag for traction, but a lot of them cannot tag content warnings appropriately if at all. i’m also saying this as a zoomer myself
THANK U
unless they’re arseh0les, that’s literally smth the proship community is big on 😭 I mod a dead dove server, and we always make sure EVERYTHING is tagged. I’m proship, but I’m really more of a fluffy gal myself. I just think censorship is stupid
amen brother🙏
"the reading comprehension on this site is piss poor."
"you piss on the poor?"
My favorite internet moment is when I read a DNI list that included “Paw Patrol”. I printed it and “DNI IF YOU INTERACT WITH THE PAW PATROL FANDOM” is on my dorm room door.
That's amazing omg
"Fat or thin,
short or tall,
A pig is a pig no matter how small"
Feel free to take that one out of context because hot damn do my drunken grandma's quotes about cops really pop when you're taking about paw patrol. 👍🏼
My guess is that Paw Patrol is a problem because it's making cops look cute and cuddly to kids rather than being the vicious killers they actually are, and my response is "k."
@@browncoat697 it’s a kids show. Chase isn’t even the fan favorite, everyone knows Everest is the best one, that’s why she literally got promoted to main character
@@browncoat697 Yeah lol, that's more or less the argument I've heard, and it's a legit criticism. But god, if this take isn't hilarious.
It creates such a funny picture of the chain of logic in these people's heads-
Policing systems are fundamentally broken because they create an antagonistic relationship between the community and those in power -> these systems are nevertheless glorified in the media, in large part because police target minorities -> media that misleads people about the nature of the police helps perpetuate the system -> kids' media sanitizes policing too -> Paw Patrol makes police look cute and friendly -> therefore, if a tired caretaker absentmindedly allows a child to watch an episode of Dog Rescue Cartoon, they are at best indifferent to police brutality and at worst supportive of it, and should not be spoken to.
I despise some people’s use of “problematic” because they mean either a piece of media has a single bigoted character or that a piece of media is encouraging and praising an ideology based in eugenics.
Yeah, it's not meaningless as a term but it is so broad that without clarification it doesn't tell you anything meaningful
"Problematic" is a word with all the precision of dropping one gross of balloons filled with paint off the top of the Empire State Building.
The word "problematic" and "toxic" have lost their meaning a long time ago. Right now it it just begs to be laughed at and not taken seriously.
It’s somehow taken on the meaning of “nothing, but people get mad out of it” AND “it’s literally evil, but I don’t want to be impolite”
It's some Schrödinger's Cat shit. It means both of these things simultaneously in quantum superposition.
I just want to point out that without ‘antis’ as their opposite, the label “pro-shippers” makes them sound like professional shippers
Stolen valor from our honorable postal and logistics workers all across the globe
seems apt
"The shipping wars" sounds like some kind of international trade dispute
Even then, the label seems to suggest you're in favor of people shipping in general, which is a much less controversial thing to say than "in favor of people shipping even if it's controversial/problematic" which adds to the point that it's a really dumb and misleading term
@belombus noobshippers when proshippers walk in
I'd say this is a weird hill to die on, but I'd probably be accused of mocking REAL KIDS WHO DIE ON HILLS.
You monster ! Do you know how many children die on hills every year!
Jack and Jill
ARE YOU ASSUMING THAT THOSE HILLS ARE ALL CHILD KILLERS??? #NotAllHills
Go outside.
@@kronemerj Go outside.
I love naming everyone with the franchise they’re from as their last name
“Sans Undertale”
“Rey Star-Wars”
“Zagreus Hadesgame”
A bit more of a niche example but I see variations of “Rita Penumbrapodcast” or “Rita [Redacted]”
Best way to do it
Jesus Bible and the slightly rocky relationship he has with his well-meaning but creepy estranged older brother Lucifer Bible
Harry Harry Potter
Minecraft Steve
Wait…
Never has the title to a video essay filled me with such terror and excitement at the same time.
I feel this way about a lot of Sarah’s video
Honestly
yeeeessss my first reaction was "oh gawd"
I get the feeling.
Oh hey same hat. Same terrified and excited hat.
My problem with Reylo is that it's the most boring enemies to lovers I have ever seen on screen
preach lmao
Thank you😭 they had all the potential in the world. I still like them but makes me sad to think of what could have been. This applies for the Sequels in general too.
Ah well time to go back to the niche corner of Old Republic fans.
Talk about the most boringly subjective comment to ever been typed on youtube.
I agree. I'm more of a Zutara (Zuko and Katara) shipper when it comes to enemies to lovers. It's more of a enemies -> friends -> lovers thing for them though.
This!! God it’s so irritating when people have to make everything into some moral rationale. I don’t give a shit if reylo is “problematic” or whatever, what I give a shit about is that the plot and characterization was sacrificed to make the ship canon.
Seriously. They were so much more interesting as Just Enemies, No Romance. Kylo Ren just shows up at the end of the 3rd sequel all heroic redemption style just to get owned and thrown down a pit immediately, only to come back up and immediately fucking die for hetero reasons. God it’s so fucking lame. We didn’t even get a cool lightsaber battle at the end 😭
Those "irredeemable media" lists are unbelievable. What a terrifying echo chamber to live in, truly.
It's a very puritanical view of media and life and general if you think about it. Reminds me of those isolated Christian cults where outsiders are all doomed to eternal damnation
In Malaysia, there is a former pop star called Aishah who has now become, scarily enough, an Islamist politician. It’s ridiculously sick that not only did she successfully betray much of her own fanbase, she’s currently a part of an Islamist Malaysian political party which targets not just much of the lower classes, but also a majority of Muslim Malaysians living in peninsular Malaysia’s northern and eastern coasts.
Separate the artist from her work!
It doesn’t help that some of the screenshots shown also contain some SERIOUS red flags such as “DNI if you’re bisexual because pansexuals are ‘more inclusive’.” and other chronically online takes like that
@@SiRenfield I appeared in a "blacklist" in the Lion King fandom for the crime of "queer erasure" simply because I made a character commonly seen as a butch lesbian having cubs
She was literally still a butch lesbian in my headcanon but I guess lesbians having their own children is a slur or something now
The whole "if this middle schooler murdered someone, would it be ok to dunk on them then?" reminds me of that episode in Community where the AC Repair School finds out who murdered the Vice Dean and are like "Take this man to the infinite labyrinth of eternal ice" and Troy just says "No, take him to the police. He murdered someone."
Streets ahead analogy my friend
It reminded me of that one Tumblr ask where someone said "What if a white child was dying of cancer and their last wish was to say the N word. Would that still be bad?"
@@vanillaseahorse4228 i was about to say I'd like to take a peek inside the mind of a person who likes to come up with hypotheticals like that. but no, i really don't.
@@lucyx3008 As a former "that person," it's not all that bad. Teenagers/young adults spend a lot of their mental energy on finding the edges of what is acceptable and keep a log of taboo subjects in their head, and possibly a ranking of least to most taboo (this is why "I just wanted to get a reaction" or "I did it for the lulz" or whatever Gen Z calls it is a justification, it is a way of teasing out how taboo something is). You then randomly combine two taboo things until you get something that is logically consistent. In the cancer versus racism example, you pit two of the worst things against each other and as a way of teasing out whether more people hate the N-word, or more people feel sympathy for child cancer patients.
At some point, you learn about the trolley problem and switch the hypothetical to something like "the trolley is going to kill hitler, but you can pull the lever to make it kill stalin, what do you do?"
I grew out of it by like mid-20s, most people seem to grow out of it, or the examples become more subtle because instead of trying to find the extrema you start searching for the boundaries of your in-group, or you've settled on your own boundaries and no longer care too much what anyone else's are.
This didn’t make me pro or anti shipping, this just pushed me closer to anti internet
I think it made me somehow even more anti humans.
Yeah, I'll go touch some grass after this
Honestly. Just shut it all down, cancel the whole thing, we're done.
It didn’t do anything for me. It just confirmed what I already know. Pro and anti are just humans who all do shitty stuff sometimes. So yeah.
I just need how-to videos/guides.
"So are you proship or antiship?"
I'm pro going outside!
Not even going outside just get offline. Just go read a book, finish a puzzle, play a board game! The internet it’s everything
THIS DESERVES MORE LIKES
So you mean you're anti-people staying inside?! How dare you!! REEEEEEEE
LMFAOOO I was gonna make a similar joke like "Brother, I have a retirement fund!"
I just don’t really care
that “fannibals are freaks who don’t take shit” screenshot has big “potterheads grab your wands” energy
I was thinking "They targeted gamers. Gamers"
i was about to try to make a hannibal version of potterheads grab your wands but “fannibals grab your meat” doesnt quite work
@@pluto1906 it does, but that ships individuals with themselves, which will cause recursive shipping, eventually creating a vortex to another dimension...
@@SymbioteMullet somehow, the Oncler has returned
for the love of god please tell me where can i find your profile picture, i need that tired cat in my life
the section of people on twitter twisting sarah's words & getting mad at her reminds me of that one tweet: “95% of twitter is people making up a person and then getting mad at them"
Pretty bold of you to take that problematic stance, since you punt cats into space. How dare you
@@anjetto1 I, a cat, wish to go back to space, therefore space punting is a-ok.
You can do this for a lot of things on the Internet. For example, "95% of the commentary community is making up a person and getting mad at them", or, "95% of SJW Owned videos is making up a person and getting mad at them"
I think these people took the “Lindsay Ellis is a menace to my child” pins too seriously
So I guess now we know why the Killing Stalking bit was taken out.
I was WONDERING about that.
LOL
Why was it taken out?
@@pinkylove-xb7pe There was a reference in it to a video on the topic by a person named James Sommerton, and that person has now been very publicly exposed for (aside from some unpleasant but not illegal traits) plagiarizing like _all_ of the content in his videos and barely even trying to hide it.
@@lalas181 Oh, so *this* is where I'd seen Somerton before! When the HBomb video went up, I knew I'd seen the guy before, but I don't remember watching any of his actual videos. It must have been here.
I think a thing that a lot of people don't realize (especially younger people) is that it's ok to enjoy things with problematic aspects. You can be critical of a piece of media and not agree with certain parts of it and still deeply enjoy it. Liking things with problems doesn't make you a bad person.
There is also no such thing as unproblematic media. If someone can use the Dominio's Pizza mascot as a justification to shoot people...well anyone can use anything to do bad things...and people should learn this.
@@becuzMDsaidineededpersonality i think that, with pure fiction, it's nigh impossible for me to justify labeling any work as "problematic" in this sense because the problem is the consumer in virtually every case rather than the work itself. To claim otherwise is to deny humans of their agency and personal responsibility.
every human has flaws and so every piece of media will have flaws. all of us have grown up in a world which gives us some sort of inherent bias about something, and in some situations it's really difficult to toe the line between tropes. like for example the "perfect, pure, gay character who can do no wrong" trope is partly a result of people trying to avoid the "queer villain" trope, and any queer or even queer-coded character could be argued to fall into either trope if they're complex. you're never gonna find a perfect piece of media anyway, so why not just enjoy stuff? as long as ur aware of the problematic aspects there's no reason you can't consume it (within reason ofc)
@@toothfairy10133 Very true. I went to a training at my work recently talking about this because no one can know everything about every people group on the earth and being willing to listen is the most important but it's not something we should tear others apart for because no one learns or gets better that way.
@@tigerfestivals5137 Exactly. Very good points.
I used to think that "proshipper" meant "professional shipper" and I just imagined guys like... tweeting about how they shipped something and then getting money for it?
That would be the good timeline, but we’re not living in that unfortunately
working for the fandom industrial complex
I legit thought it's just liking a ship and anti means not liking a ship and it varies depending on what you like. Yours is way funnier tho.
Now that sounds like something I'd be good at
OP sold her soul to corporate shipping, disgusting! /s
As a person who isn't engaged in fan culture, watching this is like watching the political debates of aliens.
same. I was blown away by every new twist and turn, like completely baffled
That’s such a great way to describe it! Hahaha
Expect one side of these debate is trying to ruin irl life of the other, a lot of times they doxx and tell the families of the target what they're into, and ruined their job and life.
Me with ‘beauty’ youtuber drama:
That’s really all you need to know. That’s exactly what fandom discourse is!
Don’t even TALK to me if you consume this irredeemable media:
- Barney the Dinosaur
- the Jetsons
- Dragon Tales
- Teen Titans Go
- the Land Before Time
- Mein Kampf
oh god not barney
Thanks, I could never remember what The Land Before Time was called until seeing this comment
The only one of the shows that counts as irredeemable is TTG, as it sells itself as a reboot of the Teen Titans while failing to do anything to make it remotely applicable as that.
As a standalone comedy, it's ok I guess, it clearly want made for older people who were fans of the originals, but the fact that it teased a season 6 of Teen Titans, that never was going to happen, to promote it's movie is irredeemable.
Oh, and the rash of other shows copying it's formula of taking everything that their original show did well, and taking it out back to shoot it before flanderizing it's characters into literal mockeries... It can't be forgiven for that either.
@@the_last_ballad Ok, so I online watched TTG and never the original. I never understood where y'all were coming form. Now I can understand the hate.
But I can say, on it's own, I think the show is pretty fun and I still watch it when it airs on Cartoon Network. Because I'm not a DC fan/don't know a lot about DC, TTG is also an easy way for me to learn about DC without actually diving into something I'm not really interested in. :)
So yeah, I understand the hate, but having online watched TTG, I think the shows stands pretty well on it's own. Although, if I would have watched the original, I probably would hate TTG equally as much as you do. (I also have other "second shows" I hate because they made mockeries out of the characters I liked).
what did the jetsons do wrong?!?!???
As hbomberguy said a couple of years ago: "when someone stops defending their position to defend their right to have a position, something wrong happened"
Based
Seeing all these tweets as examples of pros vs antis makes me realise we may have left tumblr but tumblr never left us
Poetry.
so true...
the people who left tumblr after the nsfw ban seemed to have migrated to twitter, so that’s probably an explanation
Lmao, there's even another Bone Stealing Witch esque controversy happening on Tiktok. But in all seriousness, I don't think any social media site these days isn't at least kinda similar to 2012-2013 tumblr, except for, ironically, Tumblr itself.
Let's blame Tumblr anyway for taking so long to add tag blacklisting.
girlll you're bringing a war to your comment section and I'm here for it
Fried Chicken 🤩
I see you everywhere lol
yo its fetta cheese
I love watching the same thing as people I watch lmao
That would require the hivemind that is that anti shit to leave twitter for a moment and engage without a character limit.
This video is even more entertaining if you make a point of reminding yourself every 5 minutes that this whole sea of terminology, rhetoric, tribalism and hatred is, at its core, about fictional characters snogging.
You know how people say it's important to learn the difference between infatuation and love? This is what happens when you start seeing your thirst as some sort of calling.
@@PassTheMarmalade1957mhmm. I learned THAT from a French Baguette Intelligence video.
I think that these discussions of character snogging have really fascinating philosophical merit, and should be seen in the eyes of the debaters as another way of working together to seek the truth, explore possibilities, and have fun, rather than as a ruthless war of irredeemable monsters against humanity's saviors or whatnot. No one actually knows anything, we need to remember that no one is actually evil, they just understand the world differently and do "evil" things as a result.
"Accused of being a straight woman" I'm sorry you had to go through this trauma and suffering
The heteros are terrible, though. It's a mean thing to say.
well, this is indirectly claiming she's lying about being part of a marginalised group which if you know anything about twitter you will understand is a really, really bad thing to be accused of
Yikes I really hope you're joking...
She never said anything about trauma and suffering, she *was* acused, people claimed she was something with mean-spirited intentions, because twitter thinks being straight is a bad thing, claiming someone has done something that you think is wrong is the definition of acusing.
@@3173_Delta while the video may be about a different situation, you have supplied a very similar outcome
@@overgrownkudzu twitter is the new 2012 tumblr
"kylo and zuko aren't that similar"
"YOU ARE HARASSING YOUNG GIRLS, VERY DISAPPOINTING"
One is well consistent written
@@marocat4749 and the other is Kylo Ren
Thank you Kanye, very disappointing
@@pancakes8670 This is even funnier to me in reply to a "well-written character" given that somehow Kylo Ren is still overall the best written character in Disney's utterly blundered _Star Wars_ movies just because it's such a *low* bar. It also helped by Adam Driver being a good actor and basically no one else really getting character development over three entire movies.
@@MusicoftheDamned Disagree, you can clearly see the development of Rei starting off as a normal Mary Sue, then at the end of the trilogy becomes the biggest Mary Sue ever
That's development
Bullying people by accusing them of being bullies is so trendy these days.
i’m a non tax paying male child and even i sometimes find myself deep into fandom or online discourse and think to myself “I am a tax paying adult women” in order to help me realize how none of it really matters
That is the best way to remind yourself things don't matter and I love that for you (I probably sound sarcastic I'm so sorry)
It's just a good mantra
That statement about She-Ra and why that would be problematic just kinda hurt my soul. I grew up in group homes myself and no, no those are not my siblings. Growing up together doesn't mean you're friggin related.
I was watching this and thinking If those people have never seen childhood friends get together. It's a pretty common media trope and one that makes me tired but you can indeed know someone since you were toddler and then 15 years later Fall in Love with them. This is probably how a lot of our grandparents dated at a time when you stayed in your community, didnt have social Media and had a quite tight knit social circle. Dating your Kindergarten friend = incest is Just.... My brain hurts
I literally am disgusted by people who say that She-Ra is problematic because it had friends-enemies-lovers and because they were childhood best friends.
if one of the characters were a male, this would never be seen as "problematic", it would be seen as an expression of the "childhood best friend" trope.
per the person who seems to be responding to me without responding to me, i say that what you have just said is one of the most insanely idiotic things I have ever heard. At no point in your rambling, incoherent response were you even close to anything that could be considered a rational thought. Everyone in this room is now dumber for having listened to it. I award you no points, and may God have mercy on your soul.
Being groomed is a different thing from being related. The grooming of children is what people actually have a problem with. Being related without grooming is entirely exclusive from sex, so that's a non-problem self-evident from the lack of that sexual relationship.
The problem with growing together is when it isn't shown to include that growth and leads directly to a sexual outcome of growth anyway. That IS what happens to groomed children taught that this is normal. By shows like She-ra I might add. This is the DIFFERENCE between fiction and reality, if somebody remains confused about it. Those who think it's the same as "the childhood friends" trope are just exposing themselves as people who CAN'T TELL if a childhood friend is starting to finish their sexual development, but would call it a non-factor and get into it anyway. For those people we need an egg timer and to tell them no snu-snu until the bell rings.
@@sboinkthelegday3892 i'm really confused by what you're trying to say here. is this still related to she-ra??
For a second I thought “Dead Dove, Do not eat” was another version of “Girlboss, Gatekeep, Gaslight” for fandoms and I was very confused
Girl keep, gate light, gas boss
dead boss, dovekeep, don’t eat light
I have read fanfiction for over 10 years now and I found out what "dead dove, do not eat" meant like a week ago lol
let's make it so
@@kkaassist I’m honestly sick of all the dovekeeping happening in fan groups recently. We need to do better as a community.
Okay, I'm 40 minutes in and beginning to realize that Twitter is the worst hellsite on earth. That people get THIS wound up over things that aren't even being said...now I remember why I scaled back my social media presence.
Tumblr only calls itself a hellsite because nobody wants to touch it. Twitter is the actual hellsite because everyone has something to contribute, which actually makes it hell.
Yes Twitter is a hellsite and we need to remind everyone every chance we get
I don’t remember the last time anything actually good ever happened on Twitter. It just seems like 90% unfiltered, oft reactionary donkey poop that for some reason gets treated very very seriously, both on and off the platform.
Now imagine how bad twitter would be if it were anonymous and ban evasion was super easy....
Oh wait, I know a site like that
People at my school: "Hey, you gotta be active on social media like Twitter to get recruited!"
Me, looking at twitter: "If that's what it takes I think want to be unemployed."
the pro/anti debate perpetuates black and white thinking so much
"are you a pro shipper or an anti?"
"i'm in my twenties"
Scary thought: OG Star Treak fandom shippers are getting to an age where they are dying of 'natural causes'
[college kids in the 60's = 80 now!!!]
@@Aima952
Damn. The originators.
batlh Heghjaj
yo you spitting straight bars
i wish. like sarah mentioned a lot of the people are adults. there are more than too many adults invested in this. im sure theres not many 30-40+ but even then i know theyre out there
lmao
wtf Sarah? I’ve just heard from some internet users that you literally support kicking puppies??? sorry but I’m gonna have to unsubscribe 🙄
Izzy I can’t believe you’re a needle cookie truther
@@SarahZ I'm sorry but there were LITERALLY glass in their cupcakes
Excuse me, the puppys pushed her off a bridge or something, she was on the right when you look at the facts
Those puppies know what they did.
excuse me puppies brutally killed Sarah Zs mother when she was just a child. she is traumatized
Sarah, is that a hornet's nest? Wait, Sarah, what are you doing with that baseball bat? Sarah- Sarah, stop it! SARAH NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!
“This video is sponsored by Curiosity Stream, the best place to learn all about the science of hornets and why whacking their homes with a baseball bat may be painful.”
Ironically, this video has once been uncomfortable to consume for me. Now that the grim fandom memories have faded, I happily watched it. Thank you Sarah for making it
Ive had the exact same experience. this came out around the time i started using tumblr, got told horrendous stuff by “proshippers” and so this video has me very very scared, but now im able to consume it easier.
@@no1legobatmanfan really? 👀 I'm happy we both made it through... drama will (sadly) not cease to exist but maybe we can heal :)
(back in 2021, i was in one extremely niche community, covid was in its full force and to me they were most of my contact with the world. it had its own frictions, but one day a group of very puritanical "antis" came along and shit hit the fan... turning one friend against another while catching everyone else in the crossfire *sigh*)
Honestly same. Staying away from shitheads has really given me more clarity
oh man I am not involved in fandom culture but this explanation makes a lot of bizarre things I've seen go on around my own work make a hell of a lot more sense
omg i wasnt expecting to see tribbs here!
holy shit just seeing your name brought back so many memories. you were one of my favourite animators when i was a warriors obsessed kid :’) taking a look at your work now it’s only gotten even better, keep it up!!
@@anni8 Then you should definitvely check out their animated webserie, My Pride! It's amazing and criminally underrated ;D
mu'meyvam DaladlaH'a'
@@anni8 Aww thank you!!
"Fandom is not as important as you think it is." Thank you. I needed to hear this because both antis and proshippers piss me off for different reasons... though a lot of it comes down to both sides having a whole discussion that is MOSTLY about mlm narratives that exclude mlm voices. Hearing you say that actually helped me ground myself and stop being angry.
Also "these people aren't against harassment; they're against people harassing them." THANK YOU.
Also thank you SO much for calling out proshippers' refusal to accept any criticism as valid. The number of proshippers that accuse people of misogyny, queerphobia, gaslighting, and more because they got criticized is ridiculous and the lack of self-awareness is astounding.
As a wlw/nblw one of the things both pro shippers and anti shippers have in common is the HEAVY infatuation with mlm ships, especially nsfw.
A lot of pro-shippers are straight women who want to see two hot men fuck regardless of their relationship and a lot of anti-shippers are straight women who want to see two hot men fuck but want them to be not abusive and probably think that this will prevent them from being called out for that
@@Eosinophyllis a lot of antis are just proshippers repressing and overcompensating. As a transmasc mlm who is a survivor of csa, these two groups are the worst, both of them. One gets off to what keeps us up shaking at night and the other treat us like trophy pets in some kind of clout contest
Can’t wait for the sequel- “Brian Fuller Emailed Me, And Then It Got Worse”
it wouldnt even surprise me at this point lol
Nah he is chill. He probably would find it funny ore than anything and make it a joke in a new show. Now i want a referenc or a side story about mad fandoms starting from an innocent statement XD Actually coul be a good statement about religions and movement and shisms.And a shipping sindeplow could be hillarous and meaningful there.
He is prone to absurdist humor and that, would be a good fit. I hope he takes inspiration more than anything.
@@marocat4749 I hope so lol
Alternative title could always be: “Brian Fuller Referenced Me, And Then It Got Weird”
@@bookbook9495 XD That would be great
@@marocat4749 Yeah, he's mostly like a how you do fellow kids kind of boomer. If anything he's the one embarrassing himself like this time when he bought the tacky merch with the triangles.
Or when Hannibal was on air people hated he would interact with these really toxic fandom members. Like he would have the time to read all the call outs or whatever.
im a bisexual jewish man. i occasionally rep that pink triangle because... i am a bisexual jewish man. that symbol holds profound weight for me as a reminder of who i am and where i came from. something about a proshipper rainbow meat pin with symbolism like that on it just... confuses me. so deeply in fact that i cant even really feel offended. i just cant wrap my brain around why somebody would decide that's a cool and appropriate symbol to put on their internet fandom discourse participant badge
Uh oh, you're going to piss off the Hannibal fans now.
…no lmao
Gatekeeping much? Jk. Yeah that really sucks.
i think these people are so chronically online that they simply overestimate their own importance by several orders of magnitude, when in reality, nobody cares and it doesn't matter.
Wait, you're guy that Herbert Moon hates!! I can get your autograph:)😳
my favorite thing ever is when someone casually mentions a 'cancelled' creator, and when someone comments "wait, what did they do?" the replies are filled with the most heinous list of lies and twitter broken telephone rubbish.
My favorite is when the person is still just there making money because extremely online nerds don't really affect anyone's lives.
The list is always like. Racism, lesbophobia, child exploitation, jaywalking, being friends with *insert other problematic person*
“Contrapoints is literally a TERF”
that one’s my favorite
because… how?
@@sycoraxrock she also HATES nonbinary people, after making a whole video on the validity of nb people
@@overgrownkudzu Oh yes. Because “I don’t personally understand but you’re still valid and I’d like to actually understand rather than just parroting what i’m ‘supposed’ to say” aaaactually means “pronouns in bio lol”
When it comes to Twitter, the only winning move is not to play.
+1
I'm launching a movie criticism podcast soon and was umming and ahing about signing up for Twitter for the first time to promote it. Yeah, I'm thinking not.
Legit so true
That's why I don't play...I WIN
that's why I NEVER relpy to anything said to me on twitter, even if it's positive I do not want to engage in any twitter conversation
It was actually heartbreaking to see Sarah on the brink of tears when she talked about the people tweeting that they knew where she lived. Sarah, if you read this, I hope you're alright, and also deleting Twitter was absolutely the right choice because I did the quickest of peaks into your mini trending tag and felt my brain melting.
Seconded. I know we're all strangers here but I'm genuinely wishing for the best, none of this was ever deserved 💙
It's beyond me how anyone could delude themselves into thinking a UA-camr as level-headed as SARAH Z is a cruel monster. If the 30-year-olds in the shipping wars would just direct this energy toward elected officials, we'd live in a utopia.
I know where she lives (it's rent free in their heads.)
@@McBlazington True
i hope shes ok tho
My first thought was "holy hell the people who harassed Lindsey Ellis and went 'Sarah Z next' weren't kidding".
Tumblr users when the webcomic "Killing Stalking" contains killing and stalking 🤯🤯🤯
They are so sensitive 😂
everytime sarah explains a fandom concept/history, i like to cosplay someone who has no idea what she's talking about and didn't spend their formative years perpetually online. its very therapeutic, highly recommend
I think I'm pretty online in general but, wrt this segment of discourse I must be in the wrong places because some stuff in this video (let alone more niche incidents detailed on channels like Princess's or Izzzyzz's) is WAY beyond the spaces I tend to hang out in, even the most progressive/left-y/fandom-y ones. I've stumbled into some loose elements of debating trauma and grim topics in the past with specific fandoms, but had never heard the terms pro-/anti-shipper used in these ways
I wasn’t directly involved but was definitely there so I feel you.
@@gregorysteffensen3279 same-I was literally a /b/tard before I knew the implications of the term and association, and I’ve been everywhere from Gaia online to Snapchat since then… but this whole world is brand new to me. I missed out on a single social media platform (Twitter) and now I feel like a legit boomer.
I am personally deeply upset when dogs die in fiction. I don't feel any particular need to blame fiction when it surprises me with that.
I’m convinced Micheal Morpurgo hates dogs
JoJo, omg JoJo. I wished they'd stop it ... But I still watch it, transfixed
I feel the same way about cats dying in fiction, going out of my way to avoid it when possible, and also not blaming the creators of media I consume when it happens in the story.
Not every story written is going to be for me! That's the point of having MANY STORIES to consume!
@@freelanceangel8962 same, I haven't watch John Wick because of this, but I get the creators choice and don't blame who enjoy the revenge flick
@@freelanceangel8962 Don't watch The Order then. Just. ... Don't.
I cannot imagine ever thinking "people disagreeing with me about fantasizing about same sex fictional characters being in love is exactly and literally the same as gay men being locked in concentration camps, starved then murdered"
The irony is that 70% of people in fandom spaces who argue about queer men arent queer men
Right? It's truly a mind-numbing concept.
@@shellsilvers b-but i like my cutesie uwu gay boys who i definitely dont fetishize or infantilize at all! /s
@@lgbtqiarights
Fetishizing characters is fine tho
@@GabrielCosta-xt1dv … that’s not the point of my comment. i am pointing out how people tend to fetishize gay relationships. also fetishizing fictional or real people sounds weird lol
this is why i like that the dead dove do not eat tag exists lol
Ah, the wonderful and traumatizing things one can find under that tag. Truly a thing of beauty.
@@lilacpen8678 ahhhh nothing but the best
@@lilacpen8678 my favorite
“She’s not taking harassment campaigns seriously enough” is a wild reason for a harassment campaign. Also the hair in this episode is DOPE
anyone with "mental health advocate" or whatever in their bio following someone just to spam at them is perfect evidence of why it's all garbage speak from so many of these people
Sarah’s hair game is always on point.
@@chrisdray5325 Twitter and Tumblr are full of insane people trying to pretend they're the sane ones and that it's the rest of the world that's mad.
Reading the title made a chill go down my spine, jesus christ, you are brave
ik i don’t know how she tackled this and homestuck in the same year she has a death wish i swear
Literally same, ugh
She already got hate for it so may as well make the video too, right? :D
The most problematic ship is the Ever Given x Suez Canal
How can you even beat this comment
I was rooting for those two crazy kids. Oh well.
Does this count as enemies to lovers?
If the Suez Canal couldn't handle the Ever Given's needs, that was the Suez Canal's problem.
@@markkoehr5003 The Suez Canal is a problematic fav
While I completely agree with everything you say here, I think another thing to note is the homogenisation of the internet and how it's forced adults and minors into the same space. There was A time where saying "you went to the adult internet so you ran a risk when you went there" held a level of water. That was how I was always taught growing up. Like there was the child internet with sites like club penguin and then the adult internet with stuff like Facebook or twitter. Children still used those sites but the culture around it was that it was fundamentally a risky thing to do. Like watching a r rated movie. Kids still did it but you go in with that mindset that "hey this might not be suitable for me" and even more importantly there was A place to retreat to if it got too much. I'm not saying that was ideal but now with the internet becoming a handful of monopolies, everyone is in the same space. Adults curating adult content with the expectation of being among peers then get their content recommended to children who aren't ready or comfortable to see that kind of content. Its like having a restaurant that used to serve fruit juice and wine so people could choose now just pouring both into the same vat and giving the combination it out to everyone. Kids are getting drunk when they expect to be getting fruit juice and adults are frustrated that their wine is having to be watered down. Or a video store just putting all their disks into a big pile and handing them out randomly. Kids are getting a splatter fest and adults are getting teletubbies.
Truthfully this is why I actually really heavily support ao3 because of its robust tagging. It clearly labels what you're getting so you can avoid anything you aren't interested in. I've still absolutely seen some buck wild shit on there I haven't liked but I can be most of the time be reasonably certain if I'm getting a dead dove or not. The last thing I want is a site where problematic stuff isn't labeled for fear of being removed
Yes to all of this. Kids and adults being made to share the same space because kids’ spaces are dying is an important thing to keep in mind imo. Kids really don’t have a safe place to go at this point. I feel like the debate is washed as just “puriteen” or “kids being annoying” when really they have nowhere else left. Some of the kids’ opinions and actions still suck, and they shouldn’t be excused for it. But idk it’s very sad. I wish there was still a kids table they could sit down at.
also like, i usually see kids virtual worlds brought up in this conversation like club penguin, etc., and the idea that they're dead/dying. imo they're not really dead, roblox just monopolized the kids virtual world scene. and roblox fucking sucks at keeping kids safe, i've literally walked into roblox games/places/experiences/whatever seeing ERP in public. and it's incredibly horrifying when you see two of those blocky avatars in a corner going at it and noticing that one types with little grammar and 3rd grader vocabulary and that the other clearly has written a professional email before. all this and roblox has just introduced 17+ content including dating
I'd never really thought about this but it's so goddamn true. It's this terrible situation where the internet is such a massive part of our lives that basically any kid is gonna want to use it, but there's nowhere their parents can point them that's *for* them anymore. I honestly think this being the case has a chance to bring forth a resurgence in parents making their kids spend more time outside as people who were thrust into the internet thunderdome as wee lads start becoming parents
Yep and yep. I agree with all of this. I feel this is one of the main reasons behind many of the frustrations we see in this video.
yeah i really wish there were spaces only for adults besides corn websites
this is the most terrifying notification i have ever got
agreed
I didn't see the whole title and now I agree 💀 holy shit what am I getting myself into. (I know exactly what I'm getting myself into. Unfortunately.)
The intro was also the most terrifying thing I've ever seen
I'm worried for Sarah's well being from posting onwards...
Damn right it is.
I can’t believe they accused our girl of being a straight woman
This happened with the TJLC video too 😭
Imagine using "straight women" as an insult unironically
@@m00nrac00n I hate being pluralized
It really says a lot too considering how easy it is to fact check that it’s not true.
As a bi woman I felt that pain so hard. Truly the worst insult for us.
what really gets me is when people will say "queer people and relationships deserve to be in ALL genres and ALL kinds of stories" and then go on to say "no, killing stalking is bad because it has abusive gay characters"
Or God forbid a trans woman write a satire story about the helicopter meme.
@@becuzMDsaidineededpersonality cis women in the name of "protecting trans people" saying that they can tell "a real woman wouldn't write like this". such a fucked-up situation
A reason why I don't see myself in that Community, even though I'm aro/ace. To much bullshit to deal with.
Plus they would hate my writing.
@@Notfallkaramell Same. Because I never feel sexual attraction I don't get certain things in the community but luckily there is google and reddit to explain. Minus the writing part because everyone hates my writing. (LOL).
But in all seriousness I do think there is something to be said when straight media that portrays unhealthy relationships is okay but when it's LGBT it's suddenly problematic...almost as though the mere notion of a relationship being unhealthy and being queer isn't something audiences can handle. It's sad because now in order to tell a story like that the character always have to be soft and sweet. But why?
Also, I would love to see what you've written! Or hear about what you are going to make!
@@Notfallkaramell FELLOW AROACE OMG HELLO PLEASE I WANT TO SEE WHAT YOU WRITE
The whole pro anti thing is so terminally online it's insane. If a fictional ship causes you THIS much anguish, and I mean this with complete sincerity, go outside. Honestly, as I got older I realized just what a waste of emotional energy it is to fight tooth and nail to defend my opinions on media as if I was defending my life and I feel 100x better for it.
I'm glad that you realised that over time. You're completely correct. If anyone lets a fictional ship cause them this much stress, they really do just need to step away from the internet for a bit and go outside.
On the anti camp, it's not that I'm actually anti any ship, but as an ace it's frustrating af to be told it's whatever-phobic to read two people as just friends. Like before the Good Omens couple was canonized, it reminded me of myself and a QPP, and I thought it was super sweet and wholesome that two guys wrote their friendship into a book. If I ever said anything online about it though, it was "nuh uh, they're married and they kiss all the time in public and here's my xxx fic and if they remind you of you and someone else it's because you want to marry them. If you don't agree it's because you're homophobic and don't want gays in the media".
Like, even AFTER the author came out and said people could read whatever they wanted into it, people chose to hear "just so long as it's super duper gay" and it's like, can't anyone ever just read people as friends who don't turn into werewolves and juck on main street?
but that's less about any one ship or another, tbh, and is just an extension of my old wound of "if you're squicked out by smut you're a homophobe", but it's always been the loudest in shipping corners
@@MrSlendyMannn it's also just not helpful. fandoms and shipping etc. at their core are supposed to be fun. if it turns into actual anger and stress and harm, and it seems like it does for a lot of these people, on both sides, that's not worth it.
@@PrincessNinja007that's the reasoning you have yeah but that doesn't make you not need to go outside? you're still getting upset about online ships.
Sarah really woke up and was like, "I think I will poke this wasp's nest with a stick today!"
I'm about halfway through this video now, and I realize this comment was overly glib and maybe kind of insensitive! Sorry for that! This is a great video about nuance and the internet and I hope a lot of people take it to heart!
I guess this is why she shut down her Twitter
*baseball bat
@@ronanodonovan3673 yeah i had no idea all that happened to her, that's what made me cringe at my original comment. god twitter is a bad website.
@@shinyskunk Let's not pretend "twitter is a bad website" is accurate or valid in any way - if twitter closed down, all the people would just bring the toxic vitriol to whatever new site popped up, as well as continuing on tumblr, facebook, youtube, instagram, discord, etc.
the issue is the *people* on twitter, and saying "haha twitter bad" just feels off the mark by a long shot.
I didn't really think the accusation were too bad: gaslighter, abuse silencer, baby eater, but STRAIGHT WOMEN?! Nu-uh you gotta draw a fucking line somewhere.
Ugh! Can you imagine, being called Straight?! Why I would never! *sips infant tea*
enemies to lovers ship, but its pros and antis teaming up against this video and falling in love in the process.
Ohhh shit!!
*write a fic*
So you're a pro-shipper then?? /jk
A pro antis.
oh my god that'd be amazing
My favorite part of this video is every time Sarah refers to a character by their name, their content (“Rey Star Wars”). It’s like when you have a guy’s name in your phone saved as “Josh Hinge”
Or when rhys from borderlands didn’t have a last name so he’s just Rhys (borderlands) even tho he has a last name now
Sans Undertale in the Tumblr sexyman poll
sans undertale
Also reminds me a bit of how Americans say town names;
Denver, Texas or something like that.
I like it, it makes it sound like all these francises are different countries the characters live in.
Tfw the internet is reinventing last names (like how "smith" came from... being blacksmiths. Some family of guys one day was known as Joe who made my knife, Joe the blacksmith, and then Joe smith.
"Your interests are meant not to be things that make you happy, but rather deep expressions of your moral virtue." Exactly. Very much reminds me of when people feel the need to constantly call things they dislike problematic or to find a moral reason it is bad. Not everything you dislike needs to be "objectively" or "morally" incorrect, you can just dislike things because that's how you feel.
Aaand you kinda just said that
Yup, and conversely, you don't need to morally justify everything you enjoy. In fact, being willing to criticise things you like is probably a healthy way of consuming media.
And even then, different people will like or dislike the same thing for wildly different reasons. In this world view, if you get a list of someone's likes (without any context), you can predict with 100% accuracy what kind of person they are and what moral outlook they hold.
Thats sounds like a forbidden knowledge in this time tbh
I remember I once said a TV show was trash bc I simply didn't like any of the characters or plot (I only said it was trash in my Og comment) and someone thought I meant it was inherently morally bad and asked me how I could possibly think that about a show that's widely regarded as good, wholesome and diverse... I was like no it's not that deep the main characters just annoyed me 😂😂
I miss the prevalence of the term "squick " in fandom. "This ship squicks me, I hate seeing it and avoid it where I can. " and there you're done. It can go from ew to a bone deep shudder without passing moral judgement about what can and can't exist.
Ah, I still use that term to this day 😅
Pedophilia and glorifying abusive relationships aren't a "squick" but ok
Soooo that's what's it called!
@@randomthoughts0829 Cry harder
Go outside
😂
This seems like a weird evolution of the "us vs them" mentality humans have. "We stand for something and they don't so they must be the exact opposite to us" is the kind of shorthand I've seen a lot in fandoms in particular and social media in general.
That, and I think people are lazy. We love categorizing stuff, otherwise languages, the periodic table, food groups, etc. wouldn't exist, but we also simultaneously don't want to think too hard on the nuances and things that make everything complicated.
So like, definitely an us vs them scenario, but I think a big part of it is also wanting to be a part of a label, but also don't want to think about how very different we all are from each other regardless.
Trump and Biden supporters exemplify this.
The average republican genuinely thinks their ideas are best for the nation. And vice versa. I disagree with them wholeheartedly, but there’s some level of respect there.
Nah, tribalism is an inherent human trait, but people make the mistake that tribalism is "us vs them". This one on the other hand is a learned trait, more of a cope thing (fascists for example have it).
A healthy human being doesn't have this trait.
@@slsthewriter1299 i think it comes down to how interaction works in online spaces, particularly the Thunderdome (as Sarah puts it) spaces like Twitter. the medium engenders quick response and surface level reading if you engage in these conversations at all. like who has the emotional capacity to seriously analyze the thoughts of 100+ people simultaneously and respond in a thoughtful, engaged way? you can argue that it's an irresponsible way to engage with the discourse (and I think it is), but if you want to be part of the conversation and be heard, then you have to engage with the system the way it's structured--please don't take that as an endorsement of the system, though. personally kinda wish we could delete Twitter lol.
@@dopaminetrigger Oh yeah, 100%. I thought about Twitter's structure as a whole and how it impacts the people within it versus the structure of Tumblr. There is definitely something to be said about the design and intent of a platform impacting the was discourse happens. Still, I do wonder if we allow ourselves to let this happen by not being self-aware enough to not have such discourse.
I cannot make this shit up, I just saw a proshipper on Twitter call you ableist and classist for calling yourself a "Tax paying adult woman". They're just proving your point over and over and over again 😭
I SAW IT TOO these people are wild fr
Learned buzz words and ran with them fr fr
NO WAYYYY LMAO
me, an actual disabled person who's a dependent and can't pay taxes: aww, that's a good line, i wish i could use it :(
Uh....every person who buys anything at all pays taxes....sales taxes. That includes kids buying toys with birthday money from grandma. So strange!!!!
to summarize the whole situation: that picture of Miyazaki smoking a cigarette and looking generally miserable
Anime was a mistake
@@Leafeon56 This but unironically
"all of humanity's dreams are cursed somehow"
Pausing to read these screenshots adds a lot to this video. So many of them just feature activist language being thrown as ammo for the most minor offense. In response to 3 word tweets. Absurd, but fascinating deep dive as usual sarah ❤️
Cry bullies.
Cry bullies everywhere.
Yeah, it seemed like they had good intentions but they couldn't fully grasp the differences between one situation from another
It's like saying you like a same sex ship and someone accusing you of only liking it because you fetishize gay people.
Reminds me of how conservatives appropriate leftist language in order to appear more progressive than they actually are & muddy the waters of political discussion. I wonder if all these twitter dorks even realize what they're doing
@@spectre9340 it’s not good intentions. They’re in denial that they enjoy harassing people and mask it with morality. Cruelty is only enjoyable if you can convince yourself you’re doing it for the betterment of mankind.
@@Minam0 It's just a form of sanctimony lol
Having watched this I have come to one simple conclusion: Plato was right about expelling the poets.
Plato: People shouldn’t be exposed art until they’ve developed a capacity for critical thinking.
Myself: That is absurd and unreasonable.
Antis: *Screaming about how watching Steven Universe is genocide apologia*
Proships: *Screaming about how if you criticize any art ever you’re a fascists*
Myself: Never mind you were right, some people just shouldn’t be exposed to art until they’ve developed critical thinking skills
I think this is applicable to the whole “fiction doesn’t/does affect reality” stuff. Because so long as you are able to have critical thinking skills and be critical about the media you consume fiction doesn’t affect your reality. But it can be difficult borderlining on impossible to expect a huge mass of people to have the same critical thinking skills (which is often acquired by a mixture of experience and upbringing) so then fiction does affect reality.
It’s so, in Sara’s word, wild that both sides refuse to acknowledge any sort of nuance and insists that you are either A or B which is…not how things ever worked.
@Raiden Kunikuzushi Plato’s Republic is where this idea comes from:
Mind you The Republic is rather like the Bible where if you read it and take it at the surface level interpretation Plato appears reactionary.
It’s important to recognize that when Plato criticizes Democracy through the character of Socrates he is criticizing democracy as it existed in Ancient Athens which was far from the platonic ideal of democracy as it were. Athenian Democracy was rife with corruption and lacked a written legal code and dominated by wealthy interests.
In Plato’s Seventh Letter Plato actually defends the Democracy established in the Revolution against the 30 Tyrants. Stating that while there were some excesses the new Democracy was restrained in it’s pursuit of vengeance and was more good than bad. A remarkably charitable description of the government that put Socrates to death.
And in the Republic itself Socrates state that democracy is deeply flawed Democracy is the only of his four types of Government (Timarchy, Oligarchy, Demicracy, and Tyranny) that allows for the pursuit of philosophy.
Edit: Additionally Plato was speaking more broadly than just simple fiction. Poets weren’t just simple authors and playwrights; poets were authors, propagandists, historians, and theologians all rolled into one. Poets directly influenced how people thought of the gods, history, and morality in ways modern Authors could only dream of. Alcibiades got Athens to go to war against Syracuse by appealing to the poetic images of Greek Heroes. Imagine if in 2003 George Bush went before Congress and said we should invade Iraq because we’ll be just like Harry Potter and Congress responded by unanimously voting to declare war on Iraq: that was what Athens was like in the time period the Republic is set.
@@blixer8384 Propagandists, Shippers. What's the difference??
@@Eiterlude Better yet, utilising critical thought when consuming art allows you to consciously understand what the art is trying to say to you. In this way, you can choose whether to reject or embrace the art for what it truly is, without having it completely rule over you in a manner that you don’t recognise or comprehend.
It also allows you to avoid tying up too much of your personal identity or emotions to a particular piece of media, meaning you can also avoid being a ‘worst bird-app user’.
This is why most decent English/Lit teachers will automatically give you a higher grade if you just write about something vastly different from your classmates. You have to do a book report on Of Mice and Men? I promise your teacher doesn't want to read you saying the same bs about Lenny that literally everyone else in your class is saying. Write about Candy, and how he's a statement on how older folks have 'no place' in impoverished society and how he feels unwanted in spite of everything he has done (and continues to do) and how supportive he is of their community as a whole.
Most folks don't think critically in a healthy way though and make life harder for themselves and those around them as a result.
There’s lore within fandoms, and then there’s the lore of FANDOM itself.
Metafanfiction is a level of academic analysis we are finally delving into, and it gives me the fear.
@@dogearflopper7011 agreed. I never thought we’d get to the point where we analyze the mechanics of fandom itself, or that it would become such a fully fleshed out thing ahaha
I wouldn’t say I’m anti-shipper but I do prefer picking up packages in person
Lmao 😭
im very antiship. did you SEE the big ass boat that got stuck in that canal and held up a major section of world trade? ://
@@eugeniabukhman8533 I am a proshipper in that case
This video could also be expanded to "how social media is literally destroying everyone's sanity." So much of the problems discussed in this video extend so far beyond just fandoms - particularly the issue of how people aren't built to process social media and so everything that happens online becomes so completely distorted, whether its about fandoms, or more "real world" applicable events.
@@TaRa0350 You could go further back. In 1825 there was a big debate over whether Mozart's requiem was really written by him.
People wrote articles and reader's letters back and forth, it was like some toxic facebook thread, just a little slower.
Very true but I think you could probably make a 50-part series out of that statement alone and personally, I like the fandom-focused content.
This isn't a social media thing. It's literally a fandom thing. Fandom has had these issues for -ever-.
I stopped using social media for the most part several years ago and decided to just have my own little self sustaining fan base for whatever it was I was interested in, and I would usually talk about it with one or two other people. No discourse outside of my own thoughts, I've been much happier since. It gets kind of depressing not having a lot of people to gush too but I don't have to hear about how 'problematic' my favorite character or ship is for some dumb reason.
Exactly! like the shipping insanity and this moral purity in engaging in content has spread into beyond shipping and into social media as a whole!
we aren't built to handle the constant stream of content that social media provides, and it just leads to worse mental health and perspectives that just make the space less friendly to folks
I just hate that survivors of csa and csem like myself get used as a gotcha for both sides
Reminds me of when people use legality to denote either a morality or a naturalness, I have my views and there are those who have been molested who would support, as well as those who wouldn't. The implication that these people are 'on the right side' or are just used as fodder is toxic in discussion as it boils complexities of the human experience to a card with the words "they are on my side" and it's just dumb to see on either side.
yeah, and is very sorry this shit happens.
I'm thirty and I stopped being in fandoms ages ago, before there was any talk of proshippers and antis. I tried to dip my toes in it again and I bumped into people saying "anyone who likes Hannibal and ships Hannigram is a pedophile" which made me very confused since neither Hannibal nor Will is a child and since there are no children at all in the show. I noped out of it immediately for my sanity and never touched fandoms again.
I think it's because the creator supports proship/and made some distasteful comments
Eh. The best thing to do is to read the fic of whatever media you like, maybe write a bit yourself from time to time and don't otherwise engage or take it seriously. There is plenty of messed up stuff going on in the world already.
That's sad. So many good experiences can come from fandoms.
I dunno what it has to do with pedophilia, my biggest issue is that it's an abusive relationship, but I feel more pity than contempt for people that adore ships of abusive relationships, so I find the harassment of those shippers pretty deplorable. Life has given them enough L's as it is.
@@dvillines26 yeah, I’m not in favour of the ship bc I actually have memory issues due to neurodivergency, and seeing ppl call it “romantic” and basically ignore that it’s a tragedy that destroys Will is annoying. I wasn’t anti the ship until ppl started harassing me for my opinions.
"pro-shipper or anti-shipper?"
"grass toucher"
Pet the grass.
Lay in the grass.
Normally you don't want to call yourself a toucher
Once every two to three weeks, I leave the house to touch grass.😌
@@comicattt hope it becomes canon for you.
Sarah, you attract these people because you’re SO good at being nuanced. It drives these people INSANE; they’re frustrated that they can’t pin you down, so they take the LEAST charitable interpretation of your words. They need to be able to have some control over you cause they can see you can’t be pinned down easily
Sarah is Female Jreg, confirmed.
Ahh, being gray in the black and white world indeed
@@shoujokadyan5502 she's wearing gray whoooooaaaaa
@@BiggestCorvid giggled irl
Pro-ship and anti-ship are just such.. chronically online terms. Just do what you want and block what you don’t want to see.
Edit because I wasn’t expecting this comment to blow up and I realized I worded it poorly. There is more nuance to this, I am aware, I watched the same video you did. Things that are _actually illegal_ or cause serious real world harm shouldn’t be platformed, I’m not arguing with this. In turn, I’m not a big fan of censorship, even in little things like fanfiction archives, because it’s a slippery slope to some worse stuff, and fanfic archives are gonna be pretty interesting to some future historians.
I’m just saying that - as the video states - separating “anti” and “pro” into binary terms doesn’t really help. Either you’re in support of literally illegal things, or you don’t want anything problematic in media. That’s… stupid. I’ve seen both sides of the argument a lot - comes with the territory when existing in MCYT fandoms - and I tend to say that the romanticization of abuse, the positive portrayal of bigotry, literal illegal things, etc, that’s fucked, that shouldn’t be platformed. However, for example, shipping that Hannibal ship - or the like - isn’t like a crime, mate, it isn’t going to hurt anyone, it’s just these guys’ fucked up relationship.
What is the romanticization of abuse, though? God, I don’t know. That’s why I’m not the one writing the internet laws, that’s why I’m the one who didn’t _word this comment right_ and got a comment about it and am now fixing it to make it clearer (hi Crunchy Leaf /nm). Is Hannigram the romanticization of abuse? Maybe, they seem to have a fucked up relationship. Maybe it’s nuanced. Maybe whether something is “problematic” should be judged on a case by case basis, you know, barring stuff that’s _actually illegal._
In conclusion, I don’t know what I’m talking about, not really, I’m just a random person who’s talking about discourse they have really tried to stay out of because being cancelled/called out sounds _really stressful,_ but, I’ll rephrase my original comment, to make my points more clear - points I was trying and failing to make when I first wrote this comment all these months ago:
Pro-ship and anti-ship are such chronically online terms. Just do what you want, barring literally illegal stuff, and judge things on a case by case basis, rather than defining your whole personality around and internet discourse. Also block what you don’t want to see, and report stuff that is against the TOS or the social media you’re using and/or the literal law, because being platformed is not a right.
Have a nice life, and sorry for the confusion. Also, idk, thanks for all the likes and comments? Some of them were critical, but you weren’t antagonistic about it which my little brain very much appreciates.
I've seen a few pro shippers say if you don't like certain ships/criticize them you're on the level of an anti vaxxer and white supremacist.
People are saying I support real life abuse and I have an Ugly look on life because I ship something from a cartoon (that’s canon and they got a happy ending)
You just described proshippers with that statement though lol
@@viking-astronaut nah antis r way more into it than pros
@@balknbarbie Depends. I see pro shippers call people anti vaxxers if they criticize anything. They're not as pro free speech as you think. Many of them railed against Sarah for this video.
"YOU'VE NEVER BEEN THE VICTIM OF A HARASSMENT CAMPAIGN" -harassment campaign
As someone who was threatened to be doxxed for AOT shipping (a fandom I am not in anyway invested in) this is literally how they act. They will harass you and have people target you and when you try and defend yourself they will say you're the bad person for being mean to them.
The lack of self-awareness is STAGGERING
"It seems you've never been harassed before. I will change that!"
Also peep my cameo at 29:07
This is the inevitable consequence of having an audience that treats epic-internet takedowns like articles of the Geneva Convention
LOL
LOL
By that you mean everyone ignores them and commits war crimes constantly? 😂
@@stewartfrances5589 i mean sounds like it lol. some of these people talk about “omg you guys are being awful to me” and then attack other people in awful ways
If I was Lindsay Ellis and someone accused me of supporting child murder after that three word tweet I would respond with "Well I do, but that's unrelated to my hatred of fandoms." Which is why I don't have a twitter.
It do be like that tho
Yea, I am that asshole too. If someone says I support a terrible thing my response is usually "Yea, sure.", because no matter how much you defend yourself all that will happen is someone will take something you said out of context and make you seem worse.
Ah yes, the Lil Nas X Technique™...
I just realized that having no twitter gives you no context of what this means... But basically, after receiving hate from homophobes for kissing one of his dancers as part of his performance at the Grammys? VMAs? IDK... After receiving hate for kissing the dancer, he replied "next time I'll have sex on stage"
And this is his usual response style.
I HAVE Twitter, and I would do that.
I always say: "Do what you want, just leave the children out of it."
Agreed
@Mondlichts Humans are animals tho? No more humans then?
Good point, thanks Kars
This can also be taken in multiple different ways, unfortunately.
@@Vitrapyeahhh I know what they meant and they’re right in this context, it’s just that phrase has become a transphobic and homophobic dog whistle sadly. Of course in this context it’s fine and makes sense and I don’t think that they meant it this way, but it’s just used as a dog whistle in other contexts to imply children can’t be gay or trans and that gay and trans adults are just predat0rs trying to “”indoctrinate”” and gr00m kids into being queer, usually implied to be for nefarious purposes. Its the very old propaganda that paints queer people to inherently be predatory that’s been around forever, centuries really.
It’s a shame that the phrase has become a dog whistle, because in most other cases it’s a reasonable statement that makes a lot of sense.