Im 20w with #6 and my eldest is 20. I can tell you, I know nothing lol Every baby is just a figure it out as you go. Every new age and stage is different, every sibling dynamic is different as you add to your family. Nothing is constant except inconsistency 😂 you got this mama! ❤
Shayla, it’s been fun to track a wee bit behind you as you had your first, then my first, your second, then my second and now our THIRD babies. Thanks for sharing your real insights. One of my favorite things in the world is to watch my babies play together ❤ precious, precious
@@nessnness teehee that’s awesome! We’re finding a rhythm and venturing out more. I’m figuring out how to take little baby to my older son’s classes and storytime and stuff. I worked out for the first time this week!
My first(and only atm) just turned 1 about 2 months ago. We want(ed) our kids to be 2 years apart, but I've been concerned cause whewf lol But this video was encouraging. Thank you ❤ My first is def all over the place and emotional 😂
Love these journal / introspective style videos! You're such a good mom!! I'm 99% sure I heard it from you, but this reminds me of the concept that "your kids teach you the type of parent they need." My sister-in-law just had her second and is struggling a bit with how different she (a "fussy" baby) is compared to her first (very "easy" child). I heard this about my older sister (the "easy" one) and me (the "fussy" one) throughout growing up. Turns out half of it was gastrointestinal issues 🤣 and a different type of need (an emotional-observant way of relating to the world). My mom also had more personality traits like my older sister, so I'm sure that colored the way she felt about the "easiness" to handle one of us vs. the other. But I've also heard the first-borns are often easier? Idk!
I keep all of my 3 year old’s shoes in the car because it’s a struggle to get him to wear them before we leave, but once we arrive to our destination he puts them on, no struggles LOL. We have a 3 year old boy and a nine month old boy!! It’s so fun, and the oldest is my sour patch kids 😅!! I absolutely love watching what you put up in your videos each week, and know we’re all going through it together and doing the best we can 😊.
I'm in the same spot with my 3.5 year old. I am due next week and am so excited for the playing together stage....it's all I can do to get through that first year!!
My kids also hate getting ready to leave the house, I just leave shoes and jackets in the car now. That way I have less to carry while they resist. Lol.
I LOVE your videos. I've been watching you since 2022 or earlier! I had my first last year, and would like to have another. Your videos have helped me lean into all of the parenting things that feel instinctual but aren't popular now. Thank you!!!
I've been a parent for almost 10 years and I have felt bad for different things at different times. I finally found a friend group and I have seen many of their kids do similar things to my kids that I look at and think "how did I fail so bad"; now I see kids are kids and sometimes they are great and do wonderful things ( just like you taught) and sometimes they are in a bad mood or don't feel go or just don't understand life and they do something you think is totally mean or bad and it's just because they are kids. So far, from my experiance, every age and stage is hard and challenging and wonderful and rewarding., you are doing great!
My first is 3 yo and second is 8 months. Thanks for posting this because the sleeping for my baby is kinda crazy and I CANNOT WAIT TIL A YEAR when it's more consistent! And when they're naps can be at the same time 😂 its so hard!!!
This makes me feel seen. I thought there was something wrong with me and my second’s connection or that I favored my first born, but then one day I realized I just wasn’t as fond of the baby stage as I am toddler stage. My second born is now 1.5 and the first born is 3.5. All the bonds are getting so much better!
You literally vocalized my life perfectly in this video. Resistance on everything! I gotta figure out how to do reverse-psychology or something, cause it’s hard. My almost 4 year old can be a perfect angel if he wants. But he rarely wants to be. And the 2 year old is his shadow and echo so she’s learning his rebelliousness. But I’m loving that they are learning to clean up their own messes. Like doing their dishes and cleaning up their spills. Putting clothes away and toys sometimes. Finally it’s a bit less work for me.
I read your caption and I doubt if Im interested, but always give it a try. And you always make me smile or feel seen through all kinds of fun and interesting bits you share. Thanks Shayla for being curious and sharing your finds.
4 was my favorite toddler age!!! My kids are 11 and 8 and I love this age too!! I love that people can have different parenting ideas and can still be "friends" I am not a crunchy mom or all natural mom but I am always loving your vlogs!!!
I love watching your content. My daughter is like a mix of both your girls. Loves to be out and with other people and also so cuddly and saying no to everything lol
I only have a two year old and the getting in the car seat is a big struggle for us too 😂 He climes out of it and sits in the seat next to him thinking he can ride like mommy and daddy.
I do the “oh the monster truck has to potty, do you wanna take him?” And I haven’t had a shoe thing but maybe whatever they like “ hey you see paw patrol had their shoes on?” Haha 😂 they are all different! I only have one but still haha
So interesting how different their personalities can be! I just have one right now and whenever we think of a second, I basically imagine a copy of him 😂
My second just turned one! I am happy they should be playing together more when she is 1.5. My second is really trying to walk right now and I think that will help her be able to keep up with her sister and play together. I like the idea of putting the flip book in the kids bedroom because right now I lay with my second in bed to help her nap and I don't want to fall asleep too (for very long lol) because my oldest is in the other room watching tv. So I can read the flipbook :).
5:58 “Just let me WALK out of the house” Good thing for subtitles because I heard, “Just get me the F*ck out of this house”. Which is equally valid somedays. 😂
Ughhhh i literally hate youtube sometimes. I followed you for so long like when you were first pregnant with your first. I havent had a video of yours pop in literally years
This is my goal. Have the third close tot hat 2yr old mark! I’m about to check out your website. I need to get back to journaling. Life of 2 under 3 :)
Let the stress begin lol 🤣. I have 7 and 8 year old boys and I couldn't wait for them to play together 🤦 it's more fighting and arguing then playing. Literally every little thing is a fight even at Disneyland and even when you literally buy 2 of everything. I also have a 16 year old girl so I know the teen years are not going to be any easier with my boys and my daughter will still argue and fight with them too but then we have the random days where they all get along. My sister in law has 3 girls close together like you so I just hope you have a lot of energy lol 🤣.
Ppl always told us bc our first was easy or second would be wild. She was “easy” in a different way until toddlerhood. Every kid is different and this one just needs more nurturing and naps and she’s chill. Don’t stress, you’ll figure it out!!
I TOTALLY do socks and shoes in the car! It's soooo much easier! We have 15, 13, almost 3 and almost 1. It gets more mentally difficult. But also so cool, it's worth it. Just know you will someday lament when your biggest issue was who shut the fridge! 😂
Spirit Animal Shayla, hitting home again! Happy birthday to your little one. My baby girl turned 2 last Thursday! Dang, it feels like we were just pregnant yesterday! Also I got a hold of the placenta encapsulation ladies! Thank you!
My kids are opposite. First was observant, quiet, content just sitting as a baby. Now she whines and cries quite a bit. My second babbles, wants to be face to face with people constantly, and moves like crazy.
Oh my, the piece about resistance! So glad I’m not alone 😅 like you want to put your pants on by yourself? Great! Put 👏🏻 the 👏🏻 pants 👏🏻 on 👏🏻 your 👏🏻 legs *pleeease*
My first was really hard at 2 then got super easy at 3. My 2nd is a little terror at 1 lol whining and crying a lot bc he can't talk and it makes him mad lol
Lol. My kid has had opinions since he was 18 months. He couldn't talk but boy does he make those opinions knows My second is kinda chill so far. She's 6 months. She will cry if she's very tired or hot. But otherwise she's cool. Her older brother angry screamed at his grandma when he was 5 months old because he didnt want to sleep
My little guy is 2.5, I want to give him a sibling but I still cannnnnnot fathom how I could possibly do it. I already feel like I’m stretched so thin. HOW do y’all do it??
So many factors! What is your help like? What is your bandwidth? What is the temperament of your child. The gap can be big. There are so many variables give yourself grace!
I have one girl, she’s two going on three in November, she is the most emotional dramatic person in the world 🤣 everything is “no” and a screaming fit for at least 30 mins now matter how hard I try to distract her, play with her, teach her to take deep breaths, she is so stubborn and does not care🤣 if she wants to do something, she wants it NOW! and she does not care about anything else🥲🤣 help🤣🤣🤣🤣
Im 20w with #6 and my eldest is 20. I can tell you, I know nothing lol Every baby is just a figure it out as you go. Every new age and stage is different, every sibling dynamic is different as you add to your family. Nothing is constant except inconsistency 😂 you got this mama! ❤
Shayla, it’s been fun to track a wee bit behind you as you had your first, then my first, your second, then my second and now our THIRD babies. Thanks for sharing your real insights. One of my favorite things in the world is to watch my babies play together ❤ precious, precious
Me too! Following with my own closely behind each addition and love the good vibes through the journey.
Shayla, your videos are gold. Your solo thought streams are so relateable and always encouraging.
“Keep on going, ma. We’re doing great!” I love the encouragement! Almost 3 year old and an almost 3 month old over here.
Same! Exactly the same!
@@nessnness teehee that’s awesome! We’re finding a rhythm and venturing out more. I’m figuring out how to take little baby to my older son’s classes and storytime and stuff. I worked out for the first time this week!
My first(and only atm) just turned 1 about 2 months ago. We want(ed) our kids to be 2 years apart, but I've been concerned cause whewf lol But this video was encouraging. Thank you ❤ My first is def all over the place and emotional 😂
Love these journal / introspective style videos! You're such a good mom!!
I'm 99% sure I heard it from you, but this reminds me of the concept that "your kids teach you the type of parent they need."
My sister-in-law just had her second and is struggling a bit with how different she (a "fussy" baby) is compared to her first (very "easy" child). I heard this about my older sister (the "easy" one) and me (the "fussy" one) throughout growing up. Turns out half of it was gastrointestinal issues 🤣 and a different type of need (an emotional-observant way of relating to the world). My mom also had more personality traits like my older sister, so I'm sure that colored the way she felt about the "easiness" to handle one of us vs. the other. But I've also heard the first-borns are often easier? Idk!
I am always told that the second easier :D which is definitely true for us just because the second is a better sleeper
I keep all of my 3 year old’s shoes in the car because it’s a struggle to get him to wear them before we leave, but once we arrive to our destination he puts them on, no struggles LOL. We have a 3 year old boy and a nine month old boy!! It’s so fun, and the oldest is my sour patch kids 😅!!
I absolutely love watching what you put up in your videos each week, and know we’re all going through it together and doing the best we can 😊.
Yup. Temperament is literally everything. It’s make or break.
And having a second kid made me so much less judgmental.
Right?! Same!!!
I'm in the same spot with my 3.5 year old. I am due next week and am so excited for the playing together stage....it's all I can do to get through that first year!!
My kids also hate getting ready to leave the house, I just leave shoes and jackets in the car now. That way I have less to carry while they resist. Lol.
That is such a good idea! Will be doing this as of now 😂
Love the lesson that kids are so different, regardless of how well we do at parenting!
I LOVE your videos. I've been watching you since 2022 or earlier! I had my first last year, and would like to have another. Your videos have helped me lean into all of the parenting things that feel instinctual but aren't popular now. Thank you!!!
I've been a parent for almost 10 years and I have felt bad for different things at different times. I finally found a friend group and I have seen many of their kids do similar things to my kids that I look at and think "how did I fail so bad"; now I see kids are kids and sometimes they are great and do wonderful things ( just like you taught) and sometimes they are in a bad mood or don't feel go or just don't understand life and they do something you think is totally mean or bad and it's just because they are kids. So far, from my experiance, every age and stage is hard and challenging and wonderful and rewarding., you are doing great!
You are awesome! I love watching your videos and always feel I can relate. Thanks for making me smile 😊 ❤
My first is 3 yo and second is 8 months. Thanks for posting this because the sleeping for my baby is kinda crazy and I CANNOT WAIT TIL A YEAR when it's more consistent! And when they're naps can be at the same time 😂 its so hard!!!
Yes!! Getting them on the same nap schedule is LIFE CHANGING! ❤
This makes me feel seen. I thought there was something wrong with me and my second’s connection or that I favored my first born, but then one day I realized I just wasn’t as fond of the baby stage as I am toddler stage. My second born is now 1.5 and the first born is 3.5. All the bonds are getting so much better!
Just dropping a comment for the algorithm boost. Love your videos ! Have a 16 m/o myself, number 2 coming early next year!
You’re the real mvp
You literally vocalized my life perfectly in this video. Resistance on everything! I gotta figure out how to do reverse-psychology or something, cause it’s hard. My almost 4 year old can be a perfect angel if he wants. But he rarely wants to be. And the 2 year old is his shadow and echo so she’s learning his rebelliousness.
But I’m loving that they are learning to clean up their own messes. Like doing their dishes and cleaning up their spills. Putting clothes away and toys sometimes. Finally it’s a bit less work for me.
I read your caption and I doubt if Im interested, but always give it a try. And you always make me smile or feel seen through all kinds of fun and interesting bits you share. Thanks Shayla for being curious and sharing your finds.
4 was my favorite toddler age!!! My kids are 11 and 8 and I love this age too!! I love that people can have different parenting ideas and can still be "friends" I am not a crunchy mom or all natural mom but I am always loving your vlogs!!!
No she did not!!’ She was just born last week! Seriously! How has that much time passed already. Wild ❤❤❤
I can’t believe she’s already two! 😮
I knooooooooow
I love watching your content. My daughter is like a mix of both your girls. Loves to be out and with other people and also so cuddly and saying no to everything lol
I only have a two year old and the getting in the car seat is a big struggle for us too 😂 He climes out of it and sits in the seat next to him thinking he can ride like mommy and daddy.
I do the “oh the monster truck has to potty, do you wanna take him?”
And I haven’t had a shoe thing but maybe whatever they like “ hey you see paw patrol had their shoes on?” Haha 😂 they are all different! I only have one but still haha
As a mama about to start potty training a monster truck loving little guy, I love this 😂 thank you
I love these talks with you Shayla 💚
Hahahaha I’m at 3 and 1 right now - two girls. And it’s so so similar. Thank you for this into the future life 😅
Also - shoes and jacket out on WHEN you get there. GENIUS
Just had my first a week ago. Thank you for this!
I appreciate your videos, thanks for sharing! 💕
So interesting how different their personalities can be! I just have one right now and whenever we think of a second, I basically imagine a copy of him 😂
So did I!!!!!
My son will be 4 in August and my daughter will be 2 in November. Perfect timing for this video for me ❤
My second just turned one! I am happy they should be playing together more when she is 1.5. My second is really trying to walk right now and I think that will help her be able to keep up with her sister and play together.
I like the idea of putting the flip book in the kids bedroom because right now I lay with my second in bed to help her nap and I don't want to fall asleep too (for very long lol) because my oldest is in the other room watching tv. So I can read the flipbook :).
5:58 “Just let me WALK out of the house” Good thing for subtitles because I heard, “Just get me the F*ck out of this house”. Which is equally valid somedays. 😂
😂😂😂😂😂 same same
Ughhhh i literally hate youtube sometimes.
I followed you for so long like when you were first pregnant with your first. I havent had a video of yours pop in literally years
This is my goal. Have the third close tot hat 2yr old mark! I’m about to check out your website. I need to get back to journaling. Life of 2 under 3 :)
I needed to hear this. ❤️
Let the stress begin lol 🤣. I have 7 and 8 year old boys and I couldn't wait for them to play together 🤦 it's more fighting and arguing then playing. Literally every little thing is a fight even at Disneyland and even when you literally buy 2 of everything. I also have a 16 year old girl so I know the teen years are not going to be any easier with my boys and my daughter will still argue and fight with them too but then we have the random days where they all get along. My sister in law has 3 girls close together like you so I just hope you have a lot of energy lol 🤣.
My first is a breeze (so far…) as a toddler. I’m pregnant with my second and think all the time about how scary different they might be 😂
Ppl always told us bc our first was easy or second would be wild. She was “easy” in a different way until toddlerhood. Every kid is different and this one just needs more nurturing and naps and she’s chill. Don’t stress, you’ll figure it out!!
I TOTALLY do socks and shoes in the car! It's soooo much easier! We have 15, 13, almost 3 and almost 1. It gets more mentally difficult. But also so cool, it's worth it. Just know you will someday lament when your biggest issue was who shut the fridge! 😂
Spirit Animal Shayla, hitting home again! Happy birthday to your little one. My baby girl turned 2 last Thursday! Dang, it feels like we were just pregnant yesterday!
Also I got a hold of the placenta encapsulation ladies! Thank you!
👏👏👏👏
I loved your content for years and want your flip book so badly!! Is there any way I can get it in Australia?
I can ship it, it will probably cost more than the book or there’s a pdf version!
Heyshayla.com/shop
My kids are opposite. First was observant, quiet, content just sitting as a baby. Now she whines and cries quite a bit. My second babbles, wants to be face to face with people constantly, and moves like crazy.
Oh my, the piece about resistance! So glad I’m not alone 😅 like you want to put your pants on by yourself? Great! Put 👏🏻 the 👏🏻 pants 👏🏻 on 👏🏻 your 👏🏻 legs *pleeease*
My first was really hard at 2 then got super easy at 3. My 2nd is a little terror at 1 lol whining and crying a lot bc he can't talk and it makes him mad lol
Lol. My kid has had opinions since he was 18 months. He couldn't talk but boy does he make those opinions knows
My second is kinda chill so far. She's 6 months. She will cry if she's very tired or hot. But otherwise she's cool. Her older brother angry screamed at his grandma when he was 5 months old because he didnt want to sleep
My little guy is 2.5, I want to give him a sibling but I still cannnnnnot fathom how I could possibly do it. I already feel like I’m stretched so thin. HOW do y’all do it??
So many factors! What is your help like? What is your bandwidth? What is the temperament of your child. The gap can be big. There are so many variables give yourself grace!
I have one girl, she’s two going on three in November, she is the most emotional dramatic person in the world 🤣 everything is “no” and a screaming fit for at least 30 mins now matter how hard I try to distract her, play with her, teach her to take deep breaths, she is so stubborn and does not care🤣 if she wants to do something, she wants it NOW! and she does not care about anything else🥲🤣 help🤣🤣🤣🤣
Same here help! lol
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