I'm writing this separate because it's something I want you to do Watch the movie "Substance" starting Demi Moore. Trust, it's a game changer, the movie truly focuses on how women are viewed in this world, period dot end. Mature Women have to know we are not in competition with younger women. Younger Women are not better than Mature Women. This movie pushes you to see this so clear, the reason why I want you to watch this movie is because as you stated you will be 30 in 3 years. Where do you fit as a what would be considered an "older" Woman. I want you to make this a discussion among your followers, trust when you watch this movie you will think about the crap mature Women and Young Women hear from the Manosphere about how Women NEED TO BE. Girl, yes it's White Women in the movie but the way ks went in on Black Women, especially older Black Women telling them they have nothing to offer Men even their age. Girl, you will have great content from this movie alone to have plenty to talk about
I've never found hood dudes and their lifestyle to be attractive. It was the opposite, I was repulsed. Coming from a person who didn't grow up in the suburbs.
Same here I grew up in the suburbs and I never wanted to date a hood dude I prefer someone who grew up in the suburbs like me I've never been into hood culture.
I saw those types of men growing up and knew I didn’t want that. I’ve had two hood dudes who wanted to be with me, one even wanted to marry me, but I’m not about that life baby!
I’m 19 and I have never had a boyfriend before. Everyone around me especially my mom tries to make me feel bad for it but I am GRATEFUL for being single😮💨. All of the relationships I’ve seen around me are toxic and unstable so I’m good being alone.
Girl I’m 23 and I’ve never had a bf either. I’ve been clowned for it my whole life. 🤣 I’m still unbothered cause I refuse to go to bed crying every night like everyone I know who settled for a man, just because they didn’t wanna be single.😂 Don’t let anyone push you! Do life your way. You’re doing great! The right person will come at the right time🫶🏾✨
Those same people are pressuring you to have a bf so you can settle for something less (rather than God's best). That way their lives can make sense - because of their toxic relationships.
I'm proud of you ladies for having a "good head on your shoulders" as we say where I'm from. It's refreshing to hear you young ladies making wise decisions. Wishing you prosperity
i literally had to explain to a guy who came from a two parent household, and was a every week church goer that i was abstaining till marriage because i didn’t want to have illegitimate children & wanted to beat the pattern/statistics of what women on my mother’s side repeated. he basically tried to say that i “cared too much about what people thought” “children could never be illegitimate” and “who was i ‘competing’ with?”… although i owed him no explanation, i told him MYSELF. my mother sacrificed way too much for me to make the same mistake she did. and safe to say, he was clipped immediately after.
Crazy that you had to explain self/sexual discipline to a man in church, but people gonna people Ig But good for you that you stood your ground & left him in the dust!!! Keep on the path you're on sis❤❤
Heavy on not making the same mistake my mother did, both my mum and grandma had their first child underage and unmarried, when the same thing happened to me she took me to the clinic. I’m not becoming another statistic, I already am one as it is.
people don’t care about kids at least not americans …. tbh cause the shit is wild we say to kids put them through i just don’t fw it… it’s like americans value nothing but money and causal $ex🤷♀️🤷♀️ but hey women empowerment right ?
As a girl who grew up in the hood, I never aspired a man from there. I'll take the gamer and anime guy. I had way too many examples of where the rest go to emulate it. Great video chioma very informative ❤❤
As a Christian, Haitian girl with a very traditional and sheltered up bringing I am so grateful to have been terrified of the bad boy aesthetic. I never and still don’t understand the appeal. 😮💨😮💨😮💨😮💨
lol same, I grew up “legliz, lekol, lakay” I was curious about the “bad boys” but never self destructive enough to experience them myself. I always watched from afar I don’t want them problems 🥴
Same. Lol. I never understood the appeal, when I think of "hood" or "bad boys" or I think of being abandoned while pregnant and dating a broke man with bad grammar who doesn't care about you .. although men with money can be dusty too. 🤷🏽♀️💀
Same here. I remember those types of guys liking me back in high school, and I was so unimpressed. I found them annoying more than anything really. They just have no filter or impulse control and that’s just super unattractive to me. I have always preferred a much more clean cut guy who doesn’t do dumb stuff just for the sake of doing dumb stuff.
Chioma I’m going to miss you in these UA-cam streets when you decide to venture out into other things. You one of the only real ones in my age range😢 like you call it like it is lol it’s refreshing.
Chioma , you are amazing ! we the same age && you inspire me. i hope you find an amazing career. you ARE worth it 🙌🏽 i pray for your modeling career success !! don’t give up you are my favorite commentator
This was almost me. I’m a freshman in college now. I had a boyfriend during my senior year, we were dating for a year and some change before breaking up two weeks into college. One of my male coworkers was one of the only people who I had confided in. We would talk for days on end. We both caught feelings for each other, but I wasn’t going to date him. I realized that I was probably rebounding and I wasn’t willing to lower my standards. I liked him as a person, but he was not my cup of tea . He wasn’t serious about his education, had zero work ethic, no goals, and would be high as a kite and sleep 24/7. He was also friends with very questionable people who were gang affiliated. I wasn’t about to waste my time, he was a cool person… but no( in my Chioma voice).
Nothing wrong with wanting to date a regular guy, but.....she didn't think to go for like a bank teller, plumber, fast food worker, or any other respectable guy? She just decided a jailbird gangbanger was Mr. Right?🤦🏿♀️
@@butterflies6280if you knew this been going on forever why cant yall correlate this to the understanding of why blk men have dated/married out the way they have
I watched another commentator who made a good point about suburban girls being obsessed/fascinated by the idea of a bad boy or a hood dude. Bordering on fetishism. People want what they can't have or experiences they don't really understand like people of power wanting to be dominated and vice versa.
I grew in the country side in italy. And Even then, in high school some girls were attracted to “hood” dudes from the city. This is an international phenomenon.
I have a white cousin who’s like this. She’s from the suburbs from a small town (Katy Texas). She has a track record of putting herself and seeking out people like that, and I have no idea why! Her last bf who she just broke up with lived with him parents and had a baby from a previous relationship. He ended up getting physically abusive with her and kicked her out, she’s only 18.
So if that’s gonna be your point you need to finish it. Hood dudes also have an obsession w suburban girls and bagging the “good” girl almost in a way to flex her to the ppl around him. They fetishize the girls just as much let’s all be honest🤍
As an introverted Nigerian girl from suburban NY, I always wanted the “Italian mafia bad boys” from wattpad, not these hood guys. As an adult, I can only do educated African men in tech or finance. So glad I never had a hood guy phase 😭😭😭
Skai probably regrets having a baby with this man because he’s been to jail and I heard he threatened Skai mom and hit her that’s why she defended him when he was talking trash about her on Facebook
I’m sorry that some of your videos randomly get demonetized and flagged, etc. Nonetheless, they are good videos. Especially when you speak against dangerous norms/ things people try to rationalize. Keep doing what’s best for you Chioma. I encourage others to put their money where their mouth is, since UA-cam doesn’t 🤷🏾♀️
@@QueenChiomakeep posting these hard truth videos. And I love the backstory of yourself it was a seamless blend of letting us know you while staying on topic. Definitely keep telling the truth. Let UA-cam cope
unrelated but after watching your last video, i just wanted to say that you truly do have an wise older sister image and it is more than appreciated. A lot of your view points aren't what's popular and it can be so hard as a young black woman to feel validated in holding high morals and being vocal about them. I know I'm not the only one but I'm very grateful for your presence online and I hope you continue to be here so as long as you feel passionate. I see you as positive representation and your content makes me feel seen, so I'm very grateful for that.
Omg wow thank you 🥹 I’ll gladly obtain the role as the internet Big Sister 🩷 what’s interesting is because my commentary series was started under the guise of, “be the person you needed when you were 12, 16, and 21 years old“. I feel like that’s how you inspire people in life. So I thank you for noting that. ✨
You know i remember when Skai's finsta posts got leaked and in a post she said that she "wanted a white mixed baby" & thats when I knew her intentions with dating werent good to begin with . That and dating low level soundcloud rappers... I was like yeah.. this girl is a bit immature
Your thumbnails are great, very distinct imo. Thank you for your transparency, we love your work chioma and really support your endeavours. You’re one of the few commentators that actually is growing and hearing the critiques. It’s very admirable. I know at the end of the day, I know I always keep coming back 🤭🤍🫶🏾
Whewwww.... hunny! Our HS experience was the same but I finished HS in Washington State. I joined the military young and came to Texas. That was my first time having black men actually pursue me! Well, it didn't take long before I got pregnant and ... Im here to tell young girls its a lifetime of being connected to this man when you have a kid! And that man is going to influence your child!! Thank God I was able to raise my son alone, overseas and away from the bs and mindset!!
I love hearing your stories because as a sheltered Nigerian senior , it makes me feel so seen. Definitely don’t want to be the friendly green giant in college😭
It’s unfortunate that these women have to bring kids into their dysfunction before learning their lessons. Hopefully she matures soon.. And ladies use this as a cautionary tale 🙏🏾💗
Agreed it’s really sad I hope Skai be careful because she’s having a baby with this man and the kid is gonna want to see their father they have to coparent I heard Skai was threatened by his family and he tried to hit her mom so there’s a restraining order they aren’t together anymore I guess
I've never understood the "hood" or "bad" boy appeal. Quite literally never have. Dating a guy who probably has low morals , doesn't care about you like that, no stable job/career isn't cute and it never has been. When I think of bad boys I think of her situation, kids by a man who doesn't care for you or treat you right. I hope she does better futurewise and I still pray good things for her. Sad women have to have kids by these men before learning.
We gotta stop calling these girls sheltered, because a decent amount of them aren’t. They just see that hood 🥷lifestyle be glamorized so much and that’s what they want and choose to entertain.
Chioma!!!! 757 Native born and raised here….and I flat out REFUSED to date any guy from my hometown area code, everything you described about your ex boo, is why I refused to even entertain moving back to the 757 after I graduated college, glad God allowed you to not settle for that less than mediocrity mess 😮💨
Chioma I totally feel you on taking classes, mastering your business craft all together in YOUR PACE! I’m so happy I’m not the only one thinking like this 😂and I’m just 21❤🥰🥹🙏🏼I have my own botanical body oil business and just started a year ago. I did my first pop up this year and connected with so many business owners and new customers🥰
I was this, but the other way, I was a hood white girl from a broken home with no food or furniture in the crib, raising my siblings, dating a suburban black guy. Couldn't relate to most of the white boys at school, so that's not what I dated. But this suburban black boy that had every throwback, had a car, had money for double lunch etc...he was struggling with his blackness as a result, so he started playing into RACIST black stereotypes...smoking weed, he never did that before, cutting up etc. Then he started selling drugs and joined a gang. Had both his parents but tryna be outside. Like who even are you?? I knew him since i was 4, he did this stuff in high school. What a slap in my face! I was tryna go to college and get off that street named after a letter that raised me. He had EVERY opportunity and decided to turn himself to a minstrel show. I broke up with him and found somebody just like me, hood with ASPIRATIONS. Me and my college educated IT hubby going on 19 years now.
Congratulations girly.👏👏👏👏👏👏 I'm glad you knew better, I was also in a ghetto place filled with alot of white guys who were here,few black guys. But they smoked,took drugs,had tons of vulgar tattoos....no thanks. I dated this one Arabic boy from the suburbs and we clicked well,we aren't together, but we still have respect for each other. I learned that liking hood guys is a waste of time anyway.
I dont know if this is a pattern but all these baby daddies names start with a D. Like darius, Darrell, deondre? There has to be something going on with that💀
As someone who doesn't have the tiktok app on my phone nor do I use instagram, I'm ashamed to say I stay on youtube shorts hahaha. So definitely try getting into shorts, I think it would make a big difference to the channel.
I’m glad you touched on this topic a little more cus its really young girls out here with so much potential and a bright future, willing to crash out over a YN. For some of them, they only know what they see but others just are infatuated with the lifestyle that leads absolutely nowhere. Like the way I don’t like a man to have too many RIPs in his bio 😂😂 like please
I'm just going to say what we all were thinking-How did she happen to find the lightest Hood dude ever in life!!!!??? Don't act like ya'll weren't thinking it. 😂😂😂😂
You shouldnt be so hard on yourself, youve grown and maybe youve grown out of youtube and thats ok. I love your style and commentaries, to me theyre on point. I think youre a great young woman and you deserve to do whatever you want. ❤
Nah cause she really couldve been around Lululemon type of black girls and the people she chooses to hang around with is Nate Clips, Yerky Yerky & Nba youngboy... Really... 😐
Girl, I been subbed to you for years and you were literally one of the first commentary channels that I watched. I know there are others but that doesn’t take away the fact that you have been doing this since the beginning of this niche! Much respect💕
As a fellow suburban first generation Nigerian American girl, your story had me cracking up. I am legit crying laughing and I loved your throwback high school/ college photos. I never had a hood boy phase but if I have a kid someday, I will DEFINITELY let them date in high school so they're not as sheltered as we were!
I like your pov and feel that it is needed on UA-cam especially regarding young women..your voice is soothing and pleasing to the ear..I can see you as a newscaster journalist..media is definitely your strength ❤
girl i love your chancel. i don’t understand why people make a big fuss about things they don’t agree on. me personally everyone has the opinion regardless if you don’t disagree.
Dear Queen Chioma, I am 10 years older than you and your story is VERY relatable. I am also a cancer and can feel the feels....but I went to college in the 757 and those 'nakers' down there are HOOD & got nothing going on my situation is very close to Sky's but Im grateful not have gotten pregnant or stuck with someone with that low of a caliber. I blame Sky and somehow I blame Sky mother every time I see a video of her pregnant, its no way you got your daughter into Hollywood and not educating her on men, and even then her mother must have met him. I understand Sky is an adult but sometimes family needs to intervene and her mother did not.
Hi chioma 💛 I hope this message finds you well ☺️ as a long term subscriber, who has watched ALL your videos, I and so many other fellow subscribers are so incredibly proud of you! whatever path you chose to do we’re all rooting for you 💛 you deserve nothing but blessings all year round! Loves from New Zealand 💛❤️
Thank you so much for your message ! And wow, New Zealand 😭 okay girl, now I’m stunned because I didn’t know I had reach out there. But I really appreciate your support ❤️
Omg! I’m literally born/raised in Toledo, never heard of our local agencies 😭! But I’m just now starting to get back in to social media work…. After graduating in ‘19 besides this video topic lol that’s the most inspiring thing to hear right now!!! So many mud babies starting to make a name for themselves its so motivating 🥺
Yup i was a sheltered Nigerian girl too. Had to lie and sneak just do high school things. My parents really did me a disservice keeping me in the house so much. 😂
Chioma you make so many valid points!!Being raised in the suburbs and not being allowed to date in high school. It does have a negative effect. When your parents are immigrants…they don’t want to hear about any males. These suburban schools do not cater to women of color I would agree. I want my daughter to date in high school so when she gets to college it’s NOT OPEN SEASON 🏫🚩😩❕ There are alot of things our parents did not have the blueprint for!!! Your video resonates deeply 🙏🏾❣️
My question as a man is why do young girls think this is normal? Its the same song and dance where you go from dude to dude who is a bum and then end up with a dude 'who actually treats me right' You know self respecting men dont want these girls right?
I feel bad for skai but at the same time every guy she's been with has been problematic so its not like the risks weren't apparent. Nba youngboy, Uzi, Solange's son, other soundcloud rappers... Like girl .. at a certain point we gotta have discernment when it comes to picking the type of people we date.
chioma, you're so beautiful and always been a baddie. i'm going to miss your transparent, eloquent commentary when you finally pivot. i wish you success and all the best in your endeavours. ❤️❤️❤️
Skai and I are around the same age so when I found out she was dating that type of guy I didn't care, I was thinking she will date him and move on eventually. But now she's pregnant by him is not the best idea, but I hope she learns from this.
Skai is just sooo unbelievable. Like why tf you talking to a dude while he's in prison. Her mother sheltered her too much. Same thing with Halle and these "good girls" want to desperately rebel from the control of their parents so bad. It's ok to want to gain more agency over your life when becoming an adult, but why get the polar opposite of who you really are
Her mom did not shelter that girl at all. 1, she's not a nice girl as she's a bully and homewrecker and 2, her mother made her become a yacht girl at age 14. Her mother created a monster.
Oh yes! I am 19 and I would definitly like to get married and have kids somewhere in my late 20s. But when I see all the mess in my friends life because of their partners... And also me coming from a two parent household that isn't what I want from my kids... It is lowkey discouraging to see it. I believe I have to go outside of my area to see a potential partner lol. But for now I am good without him 😊
Chioma, I love your content. You are not mean. You are opinionated and well spoken. You keep it real. You are consistent. Your commentary and analysis are always well thought out and investigated. I hope the negative comments don't affect you.
Anyone who feels like they don't know you is a very newcomer or simply hasn't been paying attention. I am one of the believers that you are definitely an OG!! viewers of your channel are familiar with others like lovelyti, destin troyce, itzkeisha, Yanie, Armon and Storm in which all of you carry very unique, fun, spiritual, informal and straight up hilarious conversation that spark introspective conversation that truly sticks with people for a lifetime. I will never let go some of the best advice you and other worthy content creators have shared. You guys don't have to come on here and share your thoughts and opinions for anything be it advice or just entertainment and lord knows if we depended on the haters in the comments to do it there would be nothing but tumbleweed and dust so if nobody else said it I appreciate all that you do for US! I wish you nothing but the best and encourage your new ventures ! ❤
This!!! Omg I too had a sheltered life. Also from Cincy! My mom was super strict and not being able to date was to a detriment because went i got to college i got done dirty because we aren’t properly told what it brings. Thankfully I didn’t get trapped but definitely traumatized. On the path to healing
I thank God I never had a child with my first lust love! Have children in a godly marriage with the spouse God has ordained for you! Women need to protect their wombs.
To the person who said you’re mean, yeah they gotta be new. I’ve only been watching your content since 2020 or 2021 and baby you were FIESTY lmfaoooo you def calmed down a lot and have matured in the way you speak about topics! The maturity and growth has shown over the years and if it’s time for you to do something new/different just know the true supporters are there regardless! ❤
Suburban girl here! I dated a gang member from cpt. He abused me and used me in every way. I saw d3ath for the first time, drugs, homelessness, police brutality..you name it Now I’m back in the suburbs lol with a whole new appreciation for it
1. I don’t consider her a celebrity… maybe former child start but even still celebrity does not equate to perfection/having sense 2. Money does not equate to good decision making/having a flawed character. I feel like so much emphasis is placed on these people being “celebrities” or “having money” like that means something.
Your thumbnail is definitely not the problem. I’m from South Africa & I know a video is a chioma chats video based on the thumbnail. Love the work you put it & it makes sense to want better for yourself ❤
super early in the vid but i just wanted to say girl i loveeee your thumbnails they’re always eye catching pleasing to the eye and just cute tf they hatin forget them. also the shorts idea is a good one bc hot topics are good to snip and go super viral in a shorts format. xoxo love ur channel and comments we need your voice in this community
I can't believe we're the same age...when you said 17 in 2014 I remember being in my local community college...😓😓 If you want to hear about green talk to me, but now being closer 30, I agree with you I am certainly looking at my options and seeing how I can establish myself.
The more things change the more they stay the same all these years later aint ish changed.i love your pov esp w immigrant parents the suburbs and all that...its like my life 1995/1997
I feel like I know you. I have only been watching you since this year in April. And I feel like I know an appropriate amount about you! I love your channel and keep your head up your doing great❤
Skai is a New Yorker everybody knows they a little rough around the edges. Plus she is a child of divorced parents. Y’all don’t know her background y’all know a character on Disney.
Hey chioma, I originally wrote a paragraph speaking on the first half of this video, but I deleted it to just say that I think this video was very enjoyable to watch as someone who’s been watching you for a while.
At 19 after my first two failed relationships, I learned and kept it pushing. After all the mess this girl has been in it’s like she just kept chasing bums
Watch my latest vlog here:💗
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I'm writing this separate because it's something I want you to do
Watch the movie "Substance" starting Demi Moore. Trust, it's a game changer, the movie truly focuses on how women are viewed in this world, period dot end. Mature Women have to know we are not in competition with younger women. Younger Women are not better than Mature Women. This movie pushes you to see this so clear, the reason why I want you to watch this movie is because as you stated you will be 30 in 3 years. Where do you fit as a what would be considered an "older" Woman. I want you to make this a discussion among your followers, trust when you watch this movie you will think about the crap mature Women and Young Women hear from the Manosphere about how Women NEED TO BE. Girl, yes it's White Women in the movie but the way ks went in on Black Women, especially older Black Women telling them they have nothing to offer Men even their age. Girl, you will have great content from this movie alone to have plenty to talk about
@@sayjay26 I’ll check it out and touch back in with you 😊
Chioma were you talking about KHW👀
@@TTIIY-w3pwho? Lol
I’m from the 757 😂🤣
I've never found hood dudes and their lifestyle to be attractive. It was the opposite, I was repulsed. Coming from a person who didn't grow up in the suburbs.
Same here I grew up in the suburbs and I never wanted to date a hood dude I prefer someone who grew up in the suburbs like me I've never been into hood culture.
literally i’m a college educated 24 year old with a father that has four felonies, he taught me to want something better and do better for my kids
I saw those types of men growing up and knew I didn’t want that. I’ve had two hood dudes who wanted to be with me, one even wanted to marry me, but I’m not about that life baby!
Ngl, I like how hood dudes look but I don't fw how they actually are
@@tasmeenbaker9912 i like how they look too lol it every thing else it terrible honey😭
She literally has no reason to be with him….. like how low could a self esteem be????
AT ALL
It's looking like she doesn't have any self respect
That part.
shes always been into these type of guys though, why is everyone surprised.
I just don’t understand giving a another baby to someone who can’t stay outta jail. Like just signing that kid up for worlds of trauma
I’m 19 and I have never had a boyfriend before. Everyone around me especially my mom tries to make me feel bad for it but I am GRATEFUL for being single😮💨. All of the relationships I’ve seen around me are toxic and unstable so I’m good being alone.
Girl I’m 23 and I’ve never had a bf either. I’ve been clowned for it my whole life. 🤣
I’m still unbothered cause I refuse to go to bed crying every night like everyone I know who settled for a man, just because they didn’t wanna be single.😂
Don’t let anyone push you! Do life your way. You’re doing great! The right person will come at the right time🫶🏾✨
Those same people are pressuring you to have a bf so you can settle for something less (rather than God's best). That way their lives can make sense - because of their toxic relationships.
Tell your family that The Lord has plans for your life and that He will send your husband at the perfect time. God bless you!
John 3:16🎉
I'm proud of you ladies for having a "good head on your shoulders" as we say where I'm from. It's refreshing to hear you young ladies making wise decisions. Wishing you prosperity
I’m 27 and never had one either 🤷🏾♀️ just pathetic situationships and sexual assaults throughout my 20s
i literally had to explain to a guy who came from a two parent household, and was a every week church goer that i was abstaining till marriage because i didn’t want to have illegitimate children & wanted to beat the pattern/statistics of what women on my mother’s side repeated.
he basically tried to say that i “cared too much about what people thought” “children could never be illegitimate” and “who was i ‘competing’ with?”… although i owed him no explanation, i told him MYSELF. my mother sacrificed way too much for me to make the same mistake she did. and safe to say, he was clipped immediately after.
Crazy that you had to explain self/sexual discipline to a man in church, but people gonna people Ig
But good for you that you stood your ground & left him in the dust!!! Keep on the path you're on sis❤❤
It’s very odd that you had to explain that, he should already know without you explaining.
Heavy on not making the same mistake my mother did, both my mum and grandma had their first child underage and unmarried, when the same thing happened to me she took me to the clinic. I’m not becoming another statistic, I already am one as it is.
I doubt he was a real Christian
people don’t care about kids at least not americans …. tbh cause the shit is wild we say to kids put them through i just don’t fw it… it’s like americans value nothing but money and causal $ex🤷♀️🤷♀️ but hey women empowerment right ?
As a girl who grew up in the hood, I never aspired a man from there. I'll take the gamer and anime guy. I had way too many examples of where the rest go to emulate it. Great video chioma very informative ❤❤
Yes ma’am I grew up in the hood. I am not interested in any hood dudes I am goodt
SAMEE HERE!! and i’m the same age as Sky i just don’t get it!
@@riquittamoore4874💯💯
I grew up hood adjacent, I can’t say I was in the nitty gritty but I wasn’t in the suburbs either. I got a guy who was the same thankfully 🎉
I’m a nerd and gamer best relationship I had was with a hood girl
I swear idk how ladies are into the bad boys. I’d be too scared of the violence and lack of emotional intelligence…… yikes
Lack of self worth, self esteem and lack of boundaries, these men seek out women with those qualities.
It comes with SOME percs but honestly you just have fun with them
@@britneyloera376 what kind of percs
As a Christian, Haitian girl with a very traditional and sheltered up bringing I am so grateful to have been terrified of the bad boy aesthetic. I never and still don’t understand the appeal. 😮💨😮💨😮💨😮💨
lol same, I grew up “legliz, lekol, lakay” I was curious about the “bad boys” but never self destructive enough to experience them myself. I always watched from afar I don’t want them problems 🥴
@@ashleyspdf me too
@@ashleyspdfYup 🎯😂😭
Same. Lol. I never understood the appeal, when I think of "hood" or "bad boys" or I think of being abandoned while pregnant and dating a broke man with bad grammar who doesn't care about you .. although men with money can be dusty too. 🤷🏽♀️💀
Same here. I remember those types of guys liking me back in high school, and I was so unimpressed. I found them annoying more than anything really. They just have no filter or impulse control and that’s just super unattractive to me. I have always preferred a much more clean cut guy who doesn’t do dumb stuff just for the sake of doing dumb stuff.
You are not mean. You are honest and forth coming. I like it.
She’s trying to act like rhianna and be fashionable while pregnant but literally people only know her from disney
She probably regrets getting pregnant by this man
But I think she’s fashionable tho
I didn't even know who she was before she started making headlines for domestic battery...
Chioma I’m going to miss you in these UA-cam streets when you decide to venture out into other things. You one of the only real ones in my age range😢 like you call it like it is lol it’s refreshing.
Chioma , you are amazing ! we the same age && you inspire me. i hope you find an amazing career. you ARE worth it 🙌🏽
i pray for your modeling career success !!
don’t give up you are my favorite commentator
Facts! I love her videos and only watch UA-cam for these videos
This was almost me. I’m a freshman in college now. I had a boyfriend during my senior year, we were dating for a year and some change before breaking up two weeks into college. One of my male coworkers was one of the only people who I had confided in. We would talk for days on end. We both caught feelings for each other, but I wasn’t going to date him. I realized that I was probably rebounding and I wasn’t willing to lower my standards. I liked him as a person, but he was not my cup of tea . He wasn’t serious about his education, had zero work ethic, no goals, and would be high as a kite and sleep 24/7. He was also friends with very questionable people who were gang affiliated. I wasn’t about to waste my time, he was a cool person… but no( in my Chioma voice).
Because no 😂
Because no!!!! Good choice love! I wish I was smart enough to be that firm and decisive at your age. Trust me, you won’t regret it!
Good for you.
Nothing wrong with wanting to date a regular guy, but.....she didn't think to go for like a bank teller, plumber, fast food worker, or any other respectable guy?
She just decided a jailbird gangbanger was Mr. Right?🤦🏿♀️
You havent heard? Those types are..."boriiiiing. "🤣🤣🤣
@Ptah1130 some really believe Hood guys are fun made me also think that could be her reason too. Not far fetched..
😂😂😂😂
@Ptah1130 you know what, you got me there😅
They may be "boring", but financial stability is the most exciting thing, especially when you have kids
Honestly I would have rather a seen her with a nba player or rapper like jack Harlow
It’s the ATL Nunu effect 😂
😂😂spot on
This comment deserves more likes 😂💯
It's been going on since forever
@@butterflies6280if you knew this been going on forever why cant yall correlate this to the understanding of why blk men have dated/married out the way they have
Ouuuu
I watched another commentator who made a good point about suburban girls being obsessed/fascinated by the idea of a bad boy or a hood dude. Bordering on fetishism. People want what they can't have or experiences they don't really understand like people of power wanting to be dominated and vice versa.
I grew in the country side in italy. And Even then, in high school some girls were attracted to “hood” dudes from the city. This is an international phenomenon.
@@khadyadjisall5708where in Italy is the hood
I have a white cousin who’s like this. She’s from the suburbs from a small town (Katy Texas). She has a track record of putting herself and seeking out people like that, and I have no idea why! Her last bf who she just broke up with lived with him parents and had a baby from a previous relationship. He ended up getting physically abusive with her and kicked her out, she’s only 18.
So if that’s gonna be your point you need to finish it. Hood dudes also have an obsession w suburban girls and bagging the “good” girl almost in a way to flex her to the ppl around him. They fetishize the girls just as much let’s all be honest🤍
They think they’re “the one” or the one who can “change him”
As an introverted Nigerian girl from suburban NY, I always wanted the “Italian mafia bad boys” from wattpad, not these hood guys. As an adult, I can only do educated African men in tech or finance. So glad I never had a hood guy phase 😭😭😭
People will show you who they really are by the people they choose to surround themselves with.
Agreed
Skai probably regrets having a baby with this man because he’s been to jail and I heard he threatened Skai mom and hit her that’s why she defended him when he was talking trash about her on Facebook
I’m sorry that some of your videos randomly get demonetized and flagged, etc. Nonetheless, they are good videos. Especially when you speak against dangerous norms/ things people try to rationalize. Keep doing what’s best for you Chioma.
I encourage others to put their money where their mouth is, since UA-cam doesn’t 🤷🏾♀️
Thank you so much love ❤ yes, the frustration with UA-cam is so real but I appreciate your support always 🫶🏾
@@QueenChiomakeep posting these hard truth videos. And I love the backstory of yourself it was a seamless blend of letting us know you while staying on topic. Definitely keep telling the truth. Let UA-cam cope
unrelated but after watching your last video, i just wanted to say that you truly do have an wise older sister image and it is more than appreciated. A lot of your view points aren't what's popular and it can be so hard as a young black woman to feel validated in holding high morals and being vocal about them. I know I'm not the only one but I'm very grateful for your presence online and I hope you continue to be here so as long as you feel passionate. I see you as positive representation and your content makes me feel seen, so I'm very grateful for that.
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Omg wow thank you 🥹 I’ll gladly obtain the role as the internet Big Sister 🩷 what’s interesting is because my commentary series was started under the guise of, “be the person you needed when you were 12, 16, and 21 years old“. I feel like that’s how you inspire people in life. So I thank you for noting that. ✨
He looks like he smells 😭😭😭😭😭or is jt just me..
No he looks nasty and dirty 😂🤢
He looks like he don’t wash his ass and toes, or brush his teeth regularly.
He looks disgusting and Skai chose to have sex with him and get her pregnant I’m surprised she didn’t get any sexual diseases like AIDS HIV
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@ well she had sex with him and got pregnant I’m surprised she didn’t get sexual diseases 😟
You know i remember when Skai's finsta posts got leaked and in a post she said that she "wanted a white mixed baby" & thats when I knew her intentions with dating werent good to begin with . That and dating low level soundcloud rappers... I was like yeah.. this girl is a bit immature
No fr dont forget she dated beyonces nephew too
But her baby daddy ain’t even fully white…. I believe he’s mixed himself. She hates herself and has low self worth.
If that was the case why didn’t she just get a white guy?
@@James-iq8hhyep it’s just sad honestly
Oh she got self hate issues talking like that
Ayyy lovely ti shouted you out in her latest livestream
Skai been a problem. It just caught up with her.
Which livestream?
@@se2664the one she did tonight about diddy sending private investigators to UA-camrs
Really? I must have missed it. I absolutely love Miss ti ! And chioma of course ❤
@@se2664 Her recent livestream
Your thumbnails are great, very distinct imo. Thank you for your transparency, we love your work chioma and really support your endeavours. You’re one of the few commentators that actually is growing and hearing the critiques. It’s very admirable. I know at the end of the day, I know I always keep coming back 🤭🤍🫶🏾
Whewwww.... hunny! Our HS experience was the same but I finished HS in Washington State. I joined the military young and came to Texas. That was my first time having black men actually pursue me! Well, it didn't take long before I got pregnant and ... Im here to tell young girls its a lifetime of being connected to this man when you have a kid! And that man is going to influence your child!!
Thank God I was able to raise my son alone, overseas and away from the bs and mindset!!
Not the mom making you buy her cigarettes and taking her to the EBT store! So glad you bounced sis
I love hearing your stories because as a sheltered Nigerian senior , it makes me feel so seen. Definitely don’t want to be the friendly green giant in college😭
It’s unfortunate that these women have to bring kids into their dysfunction before learning their lessons. Hopefully she matures soon.. And ladies use this as a cautionary tale 🙏🏾💗
Agreed it’s really sad I hope Skai be careful because she’s having a baby with this man and the kid is gonna want to see their father they have to coparent I heard Skai was threatened by his family and he tried to hit her mom so there’s a restraining order they aren’t together anymore I guess
I've never understood the "hood" or "bad" boy appeal. Quite literally never have. Dating a guy who probably has low morals , doesn't care about you like that, no stable job/career isn't cute and it never has been.
When I think of bad boys I think of her situation, kids by a man who doesn't care for you or treat you right.
I hope she does better futurewise and I still pray good things for her. Sad women have to have kids by these men before learning.
We gotta stop calling these girls sheltered, because a decent amount of them aren’t. They just see that hood 🥷lifestyle be glamorized so much and that’s what they want and choose to entertain.
Some people just really want chaos over peace ✌ you can't tell them nothing so avoid them cause they'll try to drag you into their mess
Girl we have the same background… I’m still trying to figure myself out as a sheltered girl
Same here lol still trying to figure it out. My bf always tells me that he can tell I grew up kind of green. I’m trying though lol
I agree it’s sad especially if you’ve been sheltered your whole life
I love the throwback pics!!! The camo jacket and styles brought me back to the mid 2010s!
Chioma!!!! 757 Native born and raised here….and I flat out REFUSED to date any guy from my hometown area code, everything you described about your ex boo, is why I refused to even entertain moving back to the 757 after I graduated college, glad God allowed you to not settle for that less than mediocrity mess 😮💨
Chioma I totally feel you on taking classes, mastering your business craft all together in YOUR PACE! I’m so happy I’m not the only one thinking like this 😂and I’m just 21❤🥰🥹🙏🏼I have my own botanical body oil business and just started a year ago. I did my first pop up this year and connected with so many business owners and new customers🥰
do you have a website? i'd love to check out your business!!!
How did you market
@@roselynholloway7863 on social media and signing up for pop up events. Sometimes even networking with others helps.
@@roselynholloway7863I market online and with pop up shops.
I was this, but the other way, I was a hood white girl from a broken home with no food or furniture in the crib, raising my siblings, dating a suburban black guy. Couldn't relate to most of the white boys at school, so that's not what I dated. But this suburban black boy that had every throwback, had a car, had money for double lunch etc...he was struggling with his blackness as a result, so he started playing into RACIST black stereotypes...smoking weed, he never did that before, cutting up etc. Then he started selling drugs and joined a gang. Had both his parents but tryna be outside. Like who even are you?? I knew him since i was 4, he did this stuff in high school. What a slap in my face! I was tryna go to college and get off that street named after a letter that raised me. He had EVERY opportunity and decided to turn himself to a minstrel show. I broke up with him and found somebody just like me, hood with ASPIRATIONS. Me and my college educated IT hubby going on 19 years now.
Congratulations girly.👏👏👏👏👏👏 I'm glad you knew better, I was also in a ghetto place filled with alot of white guys who were here,few black guys. But they smoked,took drugs,had tons of vulgar tattoos....no thanks. I dated this one Arabic boy from the suburbs and we clicked well,we aren't together, but we still have respect for each other. I learned that liking hood guys is a waste of time anyway.
@naimaderilus3524 girl, stressful! I'm not tryna worry if you gonna make it back in one piece! I just wanna live a regular life ❤️
This same girl was fighting Bhad Bhabie over NBA Youngboy. We should NOT be surprised.
I dont know if this is a pattern but all these baby daddies names start with a D. Like darius, Darrell, deondre? There has to be something going on with that💀
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It does align with a certain steroids but TRUST thee are deadbeat bum baby daddies with all kinds of names
*stereotypes
As someone who doesn't have the tiktok app on my phone nor do I use instagram, I'm ashamed to say I stay on youtube shorts hahaha. So definitely try getting into shorts, I think it would make a big difference to the channel.
I’m glad you touched on this topic a little more cus its really young girls out here with so much potential and a bright future, willing to crash out over a YN. For some of them, they only know what they see but others just are infatuated with the lifestyle that leads absolutely nowhere. Like the way I don’t like a man to have too many RIPs in his bio 😂😂 like please
How many RIPs is too many 😭
For real and don't forget the tons of emojis when they text.😭
I'm just going to say what we all were thinking-How did she happen to find the lightest Hood dude ever in life!!!!??? Don't act like ya'll weren't thinking it. 😂😂😂😂
This 👆
She loves hood dudes, she was fighting NBA Youngboy' gf for him.
He’s mixed lol, that’s why. Apparently she wanted white mixed babies!
@rattgod He looks crazy though. All my cousins are mixed and they still have some brown in there. He looks sickly.
Chioma thank you for all of your videos. Always made with integrity and facts. It was nice to hear Lovely Ti mention you in her live stream today. 😊
I been watching you for years, and i see your growth and maturity in your work, keep going keep going ....dont listen the nay sayers
I appreciate that love 💗
You should vlog your move & the grind of building your model agency & other businesses
Will do 🫶🏾
You shouldnt be so hard on yourself, youve grown and maybe youve grown out of youtube and thats ok. I love your style and commentaries, to me theyre on point. I think youre a great young woman and you deserve to do whatever you want. ❤
Nah cause she really couldve been around Lululemon type of black girls and the people she chooses to hang around with is Nate Clips, Yerky Yerky & Nba youngboy... Really... 😐
She could be bi
Im a bit off topic but I cannot stop gushing over the bob and long curly hair 🤩🥰 they compliment you so well
I am a girl from the suburbs who had the same experience. Once things started to get too hood, I knew I was too through.
Girl, I been subbed to you for years and you were literally one of the first commentary channels that I watched. I know there are others but that doesn’t take away the fact that you have been doing this since the beginning of this niche! Much respect💕
As a fellow suburban first generation Nigerian American girl, your story had me cracking up. I am legit crying laughing and I loved your throwback high school/ college photos. I never had a hood boy phase but if I have a kid someday, I will DEFINITELY let them date in high school so they're not as sheltered as we were!
I like your pov and feel that it is needed on UA-cam especially regarding young women..your voice is soothing and pleasing to the ear..I can see you as a newscaster journalist..media is definitely your strength ❤
Wishing you the best on your future endeavors Chioma ❤️
Girl you are an OG! I have been watching your content for yearsssss. It’s nothing wrong with a career change. Do you boo ❤️
7:10 😂😂 They do look like they searching for their next hit
That had me on the floor 😂😂
LOLL AND IT DO LOOK LIKE THEYRE WALKING ROUND FOR THEIR FIX😭😂 ouu ur so funni.
What happened to going for the business man and the Entrepreneur
Those guy have standards, aka "controlling."
Yeah Those men… they want a girl that is… dumb.
I was almost a victim to the hood jail birds. Glad I found the light
One thing I know, two things for sure.
Your hair game has always been A1❤❤
girl i love your chancel. i don’t understand why people make a big fuss about things they don’t agree on. me personally everyone has the opinion regardless if you don’t disagree.
Dear Queen Chioma, I am 10 years older than you and your story is VERY relatable. I am also a cancer and can feel the feels....but I went to college in the 757 and those 'nakers' down there are HOOD & got nothing going on my situation is very close to Sky's but Im grateful not have gotten pregnant or stuck with someone with that low of a caliber. I blame Sky and somehow I blame Sky mother every time I see a video of her pregnant, its no way you got your daughter into Hollywood and not educating her on men, and even then her mother must have met him. I understand Sky is an adult but sometimes family needs to intervene and her mother did not.
Hi chioma 💛 I hope this message finds you well ☺️ as a long term subscriber, who has watched ALL your videos, I and so many other fellow subscribers are so incredibly proud of you! whatever path you chose to do we’re all rooting for you 💛 you deserve nothing but blessings all year round!
Loves from New Zealand 💛❤️
Thank you so much for your message ! And wow, New Zealand 😭 okay girl, now I’m stunned because I didn’t know I had reach out there. But I really appreciate your support ❤️
I'm here early. Team Queen Chioma ✊🏾
Omg! I’m literally born/raised in Toledo, never heard of our local agencies 😭! But I’m just now starting to get back in to social media work…. After graduating in ‘19 besides this video topic lol that’s the most inspiring thing to hear right now!!! So many mud babies starting to make a name for themselves its so motivating 🥺
Yup i was a sheltered Nigerian girl too. Had to lie and sneak just do high school things. My parents really did me a disservice keeping me in the house so much. 😂
Chioma you make so many valid points!!Being raised in the suburbs and not being allowed to date in high school. It does have a negative effect. When your parents are immigrants…they don’t want to hear about any males. These suburban schools do not cater to women of color I would agree. I want my daughter to date in high school so when she gets to college it’s NOT OPEN SEASON 🏫🚩😩❕ There are alot of things our parents did not have the blueprint for!!! Your video resonates deeply 🙏🏾❣️
My question as a man is why do young girls think this is normal? Its the same song and dance where you go from dude to dude who is a bum and then end up with a dude 'who actually treats me right'
You know self respecting men dont want these girls right?
Hi! Can you do a video about the new trophy wife? Bc youtube keeps recommending it, and I learn about these young ppl from you. ❤
I just left the gym and was listening to her video. Gonna finish up when I get home. I am shooketh 😞
Grrrl when you said 757 😂😅 lol
I love your videos but this one with the story time was fire 🔥
I feel bad for skai but at the same time every guy she's been with has been problematic so its not like the risks weren't apparent. Nba youngboy, Uzi, Solange's son, other soundcloud rappers... Like girl .. at a certain point we gotta have discernment when it comes to picking the type of people we date.
chioma, you're so beautiful and always been a baddie. i'm going to miss your transparent, eloquent commentary when you finally pivot. i wish you success and all the best in your endeavours. ❤️❤️❤️
Skai and I are around the same age so when I found out she was dating that type of guy I didn't care, I was thinking she will date him and move on eventually. But now she's pregnant by him is not the best idea, but I hope she learns from this.
Yes Chioma can’t wait for more girl chats xx we love you
Skai is just sooo unbelievable. Like why tf you talking to a dude while he's in prison. Her mother sheltered her too much. Same thing with Halle and these "good girls" want to desperately rebel from the control of their parents so bad. It's ok to want to gain more agency over your life when becoming an adult, but why get the polar opposite of who you really are
Her mom did not shelter that girl at all. 1, she's not a nice girl as she's a bully and homewrecker and 2, her mother made her become a yacht girl at age 14. Her mother created a monster.
Or they need a man desperately to feel loved and validated
as someone who crew up in an urban hood like area, I have never aspired to date someone that lives a certain lifestyle.
Is it just me or I never really cared about having a boyfriend it kinda just happened 🤷🏾♀️
Oh yes! I am 19 and I would definitly like to get married and have kids somewhere in my late 20s. But when I see all the mess in my friends life because of their partners... And also me coming from a two parent household that isn't what I want from my kids... It is lowkey discouraging to see it. I believe I have to go outside of my area to see a potential partner lol. But for now I am good without him 😊
Do you need a man to feel loved and validated?
Chioma, I love your content. You are not mean. You are opinionated and well spoken. You keep it real. You are consistent. Your commentary and analysis are always well thought out and investigated. I hope the negative comments don't affect you.
Anyone who feels like they don't know you is a very newcomer or simply hasn't been paying attention. I am one of the believers that you are definitely an OG!! viewers of your channel are familiar with others like lovelyti, destin troyce, itzkeisha, Yanie, Armon and Storm in which all of you carry very unique, fun, spiritual, informal and straight up hilarious conversation that spark introspective conversation that truly sticks with people for a lifetime. I will never let go some of the best advice you and other worthy content creators have shared. You guys don't have to come on here and share your thoughts and opinions for anything be it advice or just entertainment and lord knows if we depended on the haters in the comments to do it there would be nothing but tumbleweed and dust so if nobody else said it I appreciate all that you do for US! I wish you nothing but the best and encourage your new ventures ! ❤
This!!! Omg I too had a sheltered life. Also from Cincy! My mom was super strict and not being able to date was to a detriment because went i got to college i got done dirty because we aren’t properly told what it brings. Thankfully I didn’t get trapped but definitely traumatized. On the path to healing
I thank God I never had a child with my first lust love! Have children in a godly marriage with the spouse God has ordained for you! Women need to protect their wombs.
To the person who said you’re mean, yeah they gotta be new. I’ve only been watching your content since 2020 or 2021 and baby you were FIESTY lmfaoooo you def calmed down a lot and have matured in the way you speak about topics! The maturity and growth has shown over the years and if it’s time for you to do something new/different just know the true supporters are there regardless! ❤
Suburban girl here! I dated a gang member from cpt. He abused me and used me in every way. I saw d3ath for the first time, drugs, homelessness, police brutality..you name it
Now I’m back in the suburbs lol with a whole new appreciation for it
1. I don’t consider her a celebrity… maybe former child start but even still celebrity does not equate to perfection/having sense 2. Money does not equate to good decision making/having a flawed character. I feel like so much emphasis is placed on these people being “celebrities” or “having money” like that means something.
I had to give you a big up Chioma! That phalange Rosetta Stone comment had me in stiches! Very clever!
Your thumbnail is definitely not the problem. I’m from South Africa & I know a video is a chioma chats video based on the thumbnail. Love the work you put it & it makes sense to want better for yourself ❤
super early in the vid but i just wanted to say girl i loveeee your thumbnails they’re always eye catching pleasing to the eye and just cute tf they hatin forget them. also the shorts idea is a good one bc hot topics are good to snip and go super viral in a shorts format. xoxo love ur channel and comments we need your voice in this community
Omg the trip to Virginia story! The abc store 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Lovely ti even shouted you out :)
Girl your college vlogs was everything!!!! Made me excited to go to college you’re such a inspiration keep going ❤
I can't believe we're the same age...when you said 17 in 2014 I remember being in my local community college...😓😓 If you want to hear about green talk to me, but now being closer 30, I agree with you I am certainly looking at my options and seeing how I can establish myself.
Y'all knew her type when she was all over youngboy..... Skai isn't a good girl. Its just her aesthetic.
The more things change the more they stay the same all these years later aint ish changed.i love your pov esp w immigrant parents the suburbs and all that...its like my life 1995/1997
Regarding your throwback story all you had to say was Virginia and I immediately knew he was a damn deviant 😂😂😂😂
I feel like I know you. I have only been watching you since this year in April. And I feel like I know an appropriate amount about you! I love your channel and keep your head up your doing great❤
Skai is a New Yorker everybody knows they a little rough around the edges. Plus she is a child of divorced parents. Y’all don’t know her background y’all know a character on Disney.
Hey chioma, I originally wrote a paragraph speaking on the first half of this video, but I deleted it to just say that I think this video was very enjoyable to watch as someone who’s been watching you for a while.
At 19 after my first two failed relationships, I learned and kept it pushing. After all the mess this girl has been in it’s like she just kept chasing bums
It's like SHE FOROGT WHO SHE IS...like he was never worth it! BUT hold onnn, what's the outro song, I need to listen to it!
I've been subscribed for about a year now, so I like you adding your little personal stories to relate to the talking point.
I’m screaming at the 757 😂😂😂
Right 😂😂