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That’s me done for … 😫 All I have left is to join an isolated monastery or a vihara, and become a monk 🙏 … Or go and seek the source of the Fountain of Youth, and the Pool of Eternal Life … 😅 Hey Pea, how’s that for a next video? Where is your Indiana Jones hat … and whip … ouch😊
Hi, Pea. Not trying to blow smoke, but this is from the heart. I'm a 53 year old black man in the U.S. and I happen to find you a very attractive woman. I love your videos and just subscribed. If you're married, God bless you and your husband. If you're single, it must be by choice and not for a lack of suitors. Love your channel. Keep up the good work. 😊
My hubby is 25 years older than me, I was 27 when we met and we've been together 10 years. People were upset at first but now they realise I wanted a man with what are considered old school morals and manners. He wanted someone who hadn't slept around and didn't have children, we just work. It's about respect and love.
I am married to a woman from the Philippines. The age gap is 21 and we have been married for 13 years. I am the stepfather of her children, calls me Daddy, educated and works very hard. The best thing I have ever done in my life.
In 86 I married my wife who was 19 & I was 31 Now I’m 68 & she’s 56 . I’m disabled from cancer in 2008 & she’s still here & I only draw social security with her working to keep us going. We definitely still are very much in love
My wife and I had a 20+ year age gap. I really didn't bother me that she was older than I. As her health declined, I was blessed to be her caregiver and dialysis nurse. One time a woman told her in a thick German accent,"Oh, you got a young one!" Up until about two weeks before my wife got her promotion to heaven, we still joked about all of the amazing times we had. There are absolutely no regrets, only happy memories of my best friend. Go to now, I'm seeing a wonderful Filipina. She and I have 31 years between us. I see the love she has for me. Especially when things are not going so great and she puts herself right beside me. Heck, the gal is teaching me Bisaya and Tagalog. I have a unique perspective on age gaps having been on both sides of it. Folks need to not concern themselves with when others have to say about it. Just do it. As far as how much age gap is too much. That's up to the two adults. It's nobody else's business. Pea, Salamat sa tanan nimong gibuhat para mahatagan mig panabot sa kulturang Pilipino.
K Morris, wow. That got a tear out of me . I am currently married to an older woman myself and not in the market but I do love listening to Pea. She is wise beyond her years and has a savage sense of humor (my wife has none LOL). I have a friendship with a much younger woman (33 years) that is almost a soul mate. We share the same humor, she is unbelievably intelligent and loves animals, she actually gets almost every cultural reference from my generation. She speaks several languages as well, all wrapped up in a package of a very attractive young woman. I have never ventured to think about a romantic relationship(I don’t even know if she considers me attractive LOL), but I imagine that here in the U.S. even our friendship is verboten. If I can find this kind of compatibility in this country I imagine it’s possible anywhere although I think we are way outside the norm. Cheers. An acquaintance of mine is 70 and never married, he was in the Philippines a few years ago (not for romance actually) and had 2 suitors. One was 30 something and one was 18. He ran from both. He felt he had nothing in common with the 18 year old and felt the 30 something was too “controlling”. He says he still wants kids…..but wants to marry a woman in the U.S. (obviously young enough to have kids). I think he will die alone (he isn’t rich so good luck with finding anything here).
My wife and I have 30 years difference. We have been married for 16 years and have two daughters 11years old and 3 years old. My wife came from a wealthy family. She came back to the US and added another degree to her business degree, so she worked as a Emergency room RN. She is not a gold digger but we have amassed quite a lot of gold. Pea, I too don’t like blue cheese. Great video Pea!
It's pretty damn sad when you are introducing your Filipina via video chat to family and a bigotted so called Christian loudly says She's a gold digger! You rude and inconsiderate people need to hold your tongue and consider your own situations. You obviously have some issues of your own and your outlook. Christian? 😂
I love how thorough, logical and clear you are in every video you do. No waffle, no repetition, no anger. And all wrapped in gentle humour! Keep up the great work. We need more people like you to share perspectives that confront prejudices and stereotypes in such a calm, clear manner.
I love your intellect, your attitude and your open mindness. Western people are often so judgemental and prejudiced - it's wholesome to listen to someone who's not.
Tina Turner sang,”What’s love got to do with it when love can be broken.” Romantic love is a poor foundation for marriage and has only been a main consideration for the last hundred years. Things like families and mutual support and survival were the glue that held marriage together.
Romantic love is more often lust and is bound to fade over time. Mutual interests, common goals builds a more mature love that can last when times are good or bad.
It makes me happy you made this video. I am 64 and my Flipina wife is 37. We have been married for 11 years and have a wonderful happy relationship. Thank you for explaining the differences in culture. You truly have a gift for breaking down a subject to allow other to understand.
But u never see young Filipina with much older filipino men, ( 30-40 yrs+) yet a common sight with foreigners, so it is about money, a better future and the opportunity to live abroad given theres NO future for most philippinos there. Given 95% of filipina marry filipino and half of all filipinas who marry foreigners fail once abroad, it sure isnt about love for most of them. And filipina can be very controlling and violent even when they cant adapt to living in West. Course by then they know if the divorce their better off anyway.
@@robertmitchell6080you never see young Filipina with much older men here because most older men here are married. Divorce is not a thing in the Philippines, so when a young Filipina is looking for a mature partner, she can't find it here. As a Filipina myself, I'm a college graduate with a stable income and I'm 30 but I prefer to date men age 40+. You can't find a single 40+ year old men here in the PH. There are but rare. Also we date or marry men older than us because we know that they will love us unconditionally and treat us well.
I saw a couple a while ago he was in his 50’s she was a Filipina in her early 20’s. They were walking and shopping and laughing. I only thing I thought was how lucky they are.
I am glad you took the time to explain this topic so well. I found my beautiful filipina when I was 46 and she was 21, by the time I got her to the USA and married she was almost 23 and I was 47, so I was more than twice her age and nearly 25 years older. Many said she was just after my money and would leave me, but 23 years later we are still together and she has gone back to school and has a great job as a teacher and helps with the bills. We love each other very much and are very compatible. I could go on and on about why I did not marry an older woman, but suffice to say, most women that were closer to my age came with x-husbands, kids and a lot of baggage. If I had to start over after a divorce, I wanted a fresh start. This marriage has worked out well for both of us and I would do it all over again.
You hit the nail right on the head again Pea❤️. When I met my Filipina wife I was 62 and she was 27. I moved here and we married. We live in Cebu in the province on a tiny pension less than the average Filipino families all around us. She obviously never married me for my money or my young age. She is madly in love with me and I am madly in love with her, almost 4 years married now. The stereotypes are simply foolish.
18 year age gap between my wife and I. Been happily married 27 years now. Fell into this relationship after I ended a 16 year marriage with an abusive Cluster B. Two sons by my first marriage and one by the younger model. We have travelled extensively, and enjoy each other’s company. I am no longer sensitive about the age gap. Friends and family have accepted it. I guess those who might be against it would more likely be women who have hit the wall and who might be concerned that their husbands might get ideas. Lol.
"who might be concerned that their husbands might get ideas." Oh Wow! I didn't think of this reason along with the obvious ones of older women feeling replaced.
@@r.walker7986 The men are more experienced and the women are carrying less baggage this is a win-win situation but like the lady in the video says everyone has their own opinion
Your such a breath of fresh air, I married a Thai girl she was 13 years younger. My daughter was born in the states, her mom missed her country, and left me and our 6-month-old daughter. It was the best thing that happened to me, my daughter is 26 now, the joy of my life.Yes it was hard raising a child by myself, but simply the best thing to happen me. I stumbled on your sight, enjoy the honesty very much, retiring soon and thinking of visiting the Phil. thanks again. Cheers Pops...
Hey Pea, I am an American 56 years young. I have to add a few thoughts on your subject. First of I do not consider myself a looser who couldn't get a woman back home. I was actually considered a goof catch. Being a good catch and being married once left me having to work 60 to 70 hours a week and my little free time I had was time spent with my kids. As they got older I wanted to take a trip by myself to take a break from the madness. The Phillipines is where I ended up going. My trip was more about sight seeing volcanoes being an intrest of mine. Getting married again was never a thought. Until!! I basically did everything that you suggest not to. Researching the Philippines and planning my trip I thought some companionship would be nice. I was always attracted to younger women but by a small age gap. I was searching the date sights to see if I could find a friend to enjoy my trip. I did not fall for any scams or try to lure women I knew money would only cause more problems. When I Met Christine online, I thought what a beautiful young woman but her age made me cautious. I was stunned at her maturity and we get along because I may ne a little immature.i sent money to secure lodging and to my surprise she wanted to send back the change. Right there I knew she was not looking to dig for gold. I am trying to keep this short so we hit it off and I brought her to the states to see how 90 days on a visa would go. We ended up staying together and getting married. We just celebrated our 5th anniversary and are now planing to retire to Cebu this Spring. Things with us couldn't be any better, as far as a fire burning between us, I almost have to beg for a break as 5 years gone by and it seems we are still on a honeymoon. My point though this is, you never know where love will find you. For all those who lift thier noses in disgust they are the ones with a hidden problem. They need to join the rest of the world and mind thier own buisness.
Congrats mate you deserve everything you get, And I agree 💯 % with you to many people in the world worry about what other people are doing. Seriously they should mind their own business. Cheers mate 👍 take care and enjoy your life ahead.
Pea, outstanding vlog! This hits home with me as my Colombian gf and I have an almost 40 yr age gap. I met her online and we instantly clicked. She is not from a poor background, has a good job and her own money. She has never asked me for money in the 6 months we've been together. We both love music, travel, dancing, and animals. We never run out of conversation and she has told me that my age means nothing to her. She enjoys my company and the way I treat her with respect. She says that is something lacking in the male population in Colombia. (treating women with respect and as equals) We have spent roughly 8 weeks together in person during the last 6 months. So, I would say our only problem is the distance gap, not the age gap. Anyway, my point is if we are happy with each other and we're not hurting anyone why would anyone else care about our gap? Live and let live.
i am 25 and my fiancee is 57 we are in a 3 years long distance relationship and getting marry soon ☺️ I strongly agree with you Ma'am Pea ❤ i have a degree, very social , actively participating in any youth organization here in our country. Was also featured as one of the youngest business owner in our province, been in national events, I do pageantry, hosting i also do great in sports and politics ☺️ in short i am one of those woman standing great in our society. But hey here i am madly in love to the man i loved 3 years ago. Because a woman like me is looking for someone more mature and could teach me more , someone who could love me despite of all the . I wish I could tell you more about us❤ but thank you for telling other people our side 😍 We truly appreciate it ❤
Gosh you give me goosebumps! Kudos to you and to yours!! Keep going!! I'll be visiting the Philippines finally! Our age gap is the same as yours! What a coincidence :o)
Having been in a relationship with a Filipina several years younger was the most amazing thing that ever happened to m. I lost her to covid so I am still reeling from that and hopefully in another year or so I will be ready to find my mate again and it will definitely she is going to be Filipina Thank you for all of this information it is great for western men to know.
Thanks for this timely video, as far as I'M concerned! I recently lowered my age limit to below 45 and started an LDR with a Filipina who is 23 years my junior. The problem with dealing any woman over 50 has been exactly what you stated. The conversations are very limited and she is set in her ways and routine. I actually married a Jamaican-British woman when we were both 50 years old. She was so settled and set in her ways that she never adjusted to being in the United States. Six years into the marriage, she went home for a visit with no game plan on returning. After our 10th anniversary, are divorce was finalized as an annulment, completed online cuz she still had not returned! She was more comfortable at home, she kept repeating to me. Local 50 plus women are just as settled and all women in the older age range have become more comfortable being alone and enjoying all of the material things that they worked hard to acquire. If they do want to combine two households into one, they want the man to have as much as they do, and more. Yes we are perverts to a woman over 50 because she may have experienced menopause and may have a reduced libido, if she wants sex at all! Our cultural differences between the East and the West make the age a good proposition. Never mind the haters (western women) , because they don't want an older man in the first place! Western men haters are just envious because they are stuck in a marriage and misery loves company!
I can't agree! My LDR OFW Filipina is over 50 (as am I) with just under a 3-year age gap between us. But the difference is she has lived outside of her home country for close to 20 years and has worked in four countries. That international perspective is extremely important to me as I also lived more than 20 years outside of my native country. And being close to age greatly helps us have things culturally similar in terms of music and film.
Married an Asian gal 14 years ago. She moved here to the states and loves it. I’m 21 years older but it’s not an issue with us. I do intentionally make a daily effort to stay physically, mentally and emotionally fit. Sometimes I worry if she will be ok after I die but have all our finances, will etc. in order. True Love overcomes age difference.
I would like to share my story Pea. I hope it has some weight on this topic. And actually, this very video was part of my story. I am a 68 year old American male. I broke up with an amazingly beautiful woman last year after about a 20 year relationship. I add her beauty because I think it adds to the story. I had naturally been out of action for the last 20 years but had an occasional younger woman interested in me. I never reciprocated. So I didn't think there would be too much problem finding someone. I was in for the shock of my life. I tried 2 dating sites thinking that would speed up the process. It turns out that the only thing it sped up was the realization that putting the big 68 down of my age was essentially the same as saying I was a contagious leper. I was absolutely shocked at the lack of response from women around 58-68 years of age. Some might visit, which I would thank them politely for doing, but could rarely get them to even text. And the ones that did text? Well let me say that when I saw those, I thought my old college buddies had infiltrated my profile and were playing a joke on me. It was that bad. At one point, i got so frustrated and angry that I changed my age to 58 to see what would happen (I am quite fit and take good care of myself and have always been told that I look younger than my age). I immediately got 2 beautiful women about 58 responding and texting me. Point proven. The problem was that I couldn't ethically follow up because then I would be living a lie. Lets just say they were not happy with me. I have a friend who married a Chinese woman that began online that the jury is still is out on how that relationship is going to end. We talked about Thai women and Filipina women. I wanted a relationship with a woman and someone I could communicate with. That meant Filipina women. I started looking at your videos Pea. This very video really impacted on me. I realized that I had somewhat bought into the western women's view that I too was now a throw away despite having attractive women in the past. I was depressed. That you took such vigorous exception to this was a real eye opener to me. So I decided to take the plunge. I enrolled in a Filipina online dating website. Pea, what then happened may be one of the best things that has ever happened to me. I had not even gotten my profile completed when I was literally being rained upon by Filipina women with there viewing my profile and texting me. I couldn't believe it. Plus these were women that were 20-30-40 -45 years younger than me. Plus many were extremely attractive. Not only were they visiting my profile, but I was getting liked and texted left and right. It is about 1 week later from my enrolling on the dating app. I looked this afternoon, and I had 147 likes from women. I have committed to a woman to see how it goes who just luckily is moving to this area next month. She is 30 years old and is a knockout. BTW, she hasn't asked me for a dime and is refusing to let me buy her a cheap cell phone (hers was stolen). She is independent to a fault. Has been on her own since age 19. I still have those American dating sites which will expire next moth. Still not a word from anyone essentially in the last several months. Pea, honest to God, this is a true story. I still have a hard time believing it. And you were a part of my re-finding enough self worth to give it another try with Filipina women. So to you, I say thanks. I can truly say that you have had a hand in changing my life for the better. Not too shabby lovely lady! Oh, BTW, I love your sense of humor. You really crack me up.
They're probably looking for a green card. It's quite odd that this woman just happens to be moving to the area. Make sure you face time her, to make sure she's not a catfish. Also, you shouldn't have put a false age down. Us women have enough disappointment and lies on dating apps. I just deleted mine, due to catfish and men posting old pics.
Of course she is half your age and half your size. For American men that is the whole point isn’t it? Exploiting differences in third world economies? 🤷🏻♂️
@@edhcb9359 it’s not exploiting anyone. It’s actually quite sad that a man has to travel half way round the world to find a woman worth marrying. Western women have driven men to the east then complain about it.
I was married for 31 years and I am from America. I won't get into the details of why my marriage failed but if this didn't happen I would have never looked for another woman let alone a foreign woman at that. Once I put myself out there I have been hit on by girls 18 and up from different countries. I have been quick to remind these girls I'm 60 years of age. They immediately respond that older men treat them the way they want men to treat them. And their other response is that usually the men from these countries have no respect for their women. It amazes me when the men don't see the woman from their countries as attractive. As always 👀❤️the Pea
@jeffreymore6799 I agree. Filipinas like older men. Me as a filipina, we think that men older than us are into serious relationship. We want to be loved unconditionally.
I am a 55 year old man from Norway and I really don't understand why people have issues with age gaps in relationships at all. Everybody should be able to be in a relationship with whoever they want as long as both are adults, without being judged by others. When I was in my early 20s, I dated women that was 3 years younger than me to women that was 8 years older than me. When I was 25 I got in relationship and lived for 3 years together with a woman that was 18 years older than me. When I was 38, I dated and married a woman that was 20 years younger than me. Now at the age of 55, I have realized that there are very few women around my own age that I find attractive and compatible with me. And those few are in very steady relationship and will never become single unless their partner dies. I clearly see that in reality is it only women at the age up to 35 and maybe a few up to 40 that is "realistic" for me to have a relationship with. The problem here in Norway, is that most have a negative view about a large age gap and it is close to impossible for me to get a relationship with a woman I find attractive and feel compatible with. Because of this I either must accept to be single for the rest of my life, and I prefer that over being in a relationship I don't love being in. Or, I will need to find a woman in a country where they don't think a large age gap is a problem and where many women there even prefer that. I have no idea what is in the future for me. I only know that I will travel a lot in the world a year or two from now and then I might be lucky and find a nice woman that don't care about me being 20 years or more older than her. And if I don't, then it is not the end of the world😊
I am 38 and I have been friends with a 19 year old Filipina for almost 2 years now. I never considered dating her because she is so young. I tried to introduce her to my nephew who is her age, but she wants a older man like myself. We became great friends but now she wants to meet me in person this coming March. I am going my friends wedding in Toledo Cebu in March. I asked this girl to be my date for the wedding and she said yes. I am excited to finally meet her. She has a beautiful heart and is so kind.
When i first came to the philippines, I met woman who is 26 years younger than me. We hit it off and lived together for three years. Throughout the relationship, i rarely found the difference in age to be part of the problem that prevented us from staying together. I was 65, she was 37 when we met. I can imagine meeting someone in their twenties that would be more difficult to connect to. But the age difference means less when both people are more mature.
Not only do Western men see you as cute, but your personality really adds to that cuteness. All of us Western guys have seen physically stunning women with terrible attitudes or character which make them just an ugly b*tch.
41 year gap, over 6 years LDR... partly due to the pandemic and as a result, waiting for my retirement now which will be very soon. I have sent her money a few times for medical care in an emergency (she has an eight-year-old daughter too). She always puts up a pretty good argument when I tell her I will send money to help. It's not a fake argument. She is a very capable and independent woman, just not a lot of opportunity in the province where she lives.
I'm a super fit 61 year old, don't drink smoke, my babe is 35. We have an amazing time together and our love life is insane. There's no way any 60 year old woman could possibly keep up with me or have the enthusiasm and energy she has.
Yes Pea, you do have an agenda, it’s called “ The Philippines “ a story that you have a unique prospective of and I thank you for your desire to share your knowledge of the world you grew up in . Very good job kid !
If two truly love each other, remain faithful to each other, respect each other, who cares about age (underaged excluded of course). How many marriages are within 10 years or typically less, and end up unhappy or divorced. Honest communication, staying committed and putting in the effort to work out the problems that arise in a marriage and applying biblical teachings will go a long way to a successful marriage. Also proper planning such as a will and medical interventions.
Hey Pea, I've been chatting with my Filipina for 5 months now. In one week I arrive in the Philippines, and we meet for the first time. She's 25, I'm 71😁 She is definitely not a gold digger, and I am not a decrepit old pervert. We have a lot in common, and have a wonderful plan for a life together. I never miss one of your videos. If I think about it, you are kind of like my guru, showing me a better way to live, in peace and harmony.
My filipina wife is 30 years younger than me. I was looking for a woman with traditional values and strong family ties. She was looking for a mature man who was family oriented and was financially stable. We have been very happily married for 15 years. I am now retired and she is the bread winner. We will be permently moving to the Philippines in a few years. Neither of us have ever regretted our decision to get married.
I'm an author, former radio co-host, and I edit everything from expat advice reports to annual national environmental analyses (the latter f/ The World Bank). I've very seldom seen/heard a UA-camr who expressed themselves as well or as fluidly as you. I've been on Christian Filipina about three weeks. Thx f/ the content
@@TheFilipinaPea The first thing a writer or public speaker notices about a content creator is their word choice, flow, & clarity of ideas. You provide great, short, non-judgemental examples, you're very specific, and you're quite observant about human nature. It's still entertaining but the oration is on point.
Whenever I hear someone say, “Ewww” about another person’s lifestyle it gives me a yucky feeling - like they have bad boundaries and can’t tell the difference between another person’s life and their own - and it makes me go “Ewww.” Then, I think, “Who am I to judge their tendency to go ‘Ewww’ at other people’s lifestyles?,” and I remind myself to mind my own business. And, I hope they will someday get it together enough to do the same
Your analysis is spot on. I have been coming to the Philippines since 2010, at the age of 65. I was absolutley amazed that young women were showing an interest in me. Some were as young as 18 yrs, although most were between 23 and 30. It is not about age, looks, or money. It is not easy to identify the reasons, but I believe it is largley down to personality. You can be old and still have a sense of humor,and fun. The woman can feel secure in the knowledge that her man is unlikely to be chasing after other women. With the right older man she can develop into who she wants to be. She won't feel bad about her body or her looks, therefore feeling more secure. I have been with my current partner since the begining of Covid. I keep an apartmnt in the Philippines and she lives there. Soon I will be back for a month, and during that time we will go to Vietnam for a week. She doesn't have to worry about money(that doesn't mean she has all she wants, I am not buying her affections), a roof over her head, or where the next meal is coming from. She is not a prisoner and could leave at any time should she choose. At 28yrs old, she is getting on bit now.
With all respect, that's crazy. I'm 53 (never been to phil) and can't believe it. Do You have an idea why this is and what the intentions of these young girls are? What does phil society and her parents think?
I lived in Vietnam for four years and received over a hundred marriage suggestions in that time from women of all ages. I asked some why me, when they hardly knew me and I was often decades older. I received approximately the same answer each time: “You won’t hit me; you won’t go to the whore house; and you’ll provide financial security. And don’t worry, we will fall in love as we go.” I concluded that Vietnamese are simply a practical people. And in the case of the so-called “age gap” marriages that I became familiar with, those women were loving, caring and faithful wives. This matter is as much of a non-issue as homosexuality, race, foreign nationals, and so many other topics that exercise the minds of people that just must not have enough to do. :)
One can have a mature mind and recognize that the bible speaks against homosexuality. One can simply look at the effects that is has to see it is not proper. Aids, monkeypox, hepatitis are all substantially higher in that population. I don't think there should be a law against it if it is consensual but being mature has nothing to do with not accepting homosexuality as a good thing.
Agree or disagree, outside of the West (U.S., Australia, Canada, W. Europe, westernized and/or western influenced countries) people tend to be much more practical out of necessity. Sadly prosperity tends to bred idleness. And idleness wastes time to engage in foolishness. 1 Tim 5:13 - Besides that, they learn to be idlers, going about from house to house, and not only idlers, but also gossips and busybodies, saying what they should not.
P.S. This is to explain my comment. When my wife was dying I took care of her for 2 years and I referred to those years as wonderful. I said that because I didn’t let strangers rob her of her dignity and I got to spend every minute of every day with her. I learned how to do her hair and how to do her makeup as well. She would choose her clothes each day and I would dress her. I helped her in the shower and I bathed her every day. I did everything for her even extremely private things such as using the toilet and using feminine things. I didn’t want complete strangers doing what I promised I would do in our wedding vows. She refused to let me alter our house to be wheelchair accessible. So I would pick her up and carry her to wherever in our home she wanted to be. You want to know what wonderful is? Instead of her wasting away in a facility and me visiting her, I got to hold her in my arms a dozen times a day until the day she passed. That’s why I said those years were wonderful. And my son who was age 11-13 at the time got to witness how a real man honours and loves his wife. In sickness and in health. He didn’t have to go visit his mother in a facility either. They spent time together every day of those two years and it was good for both of them. My wife was an American born Filipina and I loved her more than life itself. And she was right when she said I would have to go to the Philippines to find a wife. I intend to keep my promise just as I kept the promises I made on our wedding day. God bless
I met my "wife" when she 32 and I was 64. "We" have 4 daughters and 2 foster daughters and I wanted a family. All my girls just wanted somebody to love them and take care of them. They had bad experience with the men in there life and as soon as I showed them I cared, they loved me forever. It's been 9 years now and I just had a light stroke. Having a family of my wife and 6 loving daughters has made my recovery so much more bearable. If a man is honorable, the age gap is meaningless. A filippina will look at you heart before she looks at your face.
My wife was 25 when we met. I was 45. Twenty years later we are happier than we have ever been. We have 2 wonderful sons. We have a home in Canada and a home in Philippines. My wife is colledge educated and from a solid middle class family. Her priorities are family, happiness, faith and caring for her husband and children and she is interested in money only to the extent that we can provide for our family. The 20 year age difference is perfect for us and neither would have it any other way. Those who feel that a large age gap is inappropriate just don't understand the wonder and beauty of the Filipino culture and are stuck in a dark and unhappy western cultural mind set.
Wow..I met a young lady in the gym ,, and I live in Vancouver,she is Canadian I’m 54 she is 18… in western culture it’s looked down upon…but we connect deeply ..it boggles my mind… I’m more accepting of your marriage with a Filipino woman..cause I know it is not an issue in that culture….I’m at a crossroad.
Thanks Pea, I'll be 57 in January. I was adopted as a child and have never had children of my own. I would love to find a younger woman and even a single mother as long as I know the father is long gone. I'm waiting on my passport to come in the mail now and am planning on being there in 2023.
"Dr. Pea". I mean that title "Dr." as a compliment. You are an amazing, intelligent woman. You challenge us to look closely at ourselves; our beliefs and our prejudices. 💙
I met my Filipina wife when I was 49 and she was 24. Been together 13 years with three wonderful daughters aged 12,8 and 1. I am still in good health fortunately and our relationship is working well.
Really appreciate your thoughtfulness. You explore topics that I'm sure most people really just shy away from or jump to a reaction conclusion. You make us all face these issues and the consequences. You're a breath of fresh air, online or off.
I'm 51 and my Dominicana 🇩🇴 is 20 years younger than me. So far 3 yrs in and its beautiful. I live in America and the dating scene is horrible. My Dominicana only been in America for 8 yrs. In my yrs I never been treated like a man, or felt appreciated. I thought it would be wrong at first but she told me she prefer older man for maturity, stability.
I am 63 my wife is 50 and we have been together for 13 years. So I say yes if you really love each and always treat her special with simple gifts like a bouquet of fresh flowers. And ask her to be honest with you if something is bothering her.
I can fully understand your message to those idiots who thinks age makes a difference! I've met my wife when she was 22 years old and I was 52 We've been together since, we have 3 boys together and living in Florida USA 🇺🇸 very happily!!! Thank you for the message " Pea"
All relationships are based on expectations. A person gets a job and expects to be paid and the employer expects the person they hired to work. A student goes to school expecting to get an education and the school expects the student to do the work. If expectations are not met, the relationship breaks down. If you haven't discussed your expectations with your potential partner and if your potential partner hasn't discussed theirs with you, there's a good chance the relationship won't work well. Communication is a good idea from the get go. Love your channel Pea.
I'm 77 now, but there was a time that I sought to find a Filipino woman, younger, because of the Filipino girlfriend I had while in the US Navy. I was told to expect to take the whole family to have the young woman. I was not prepared to do that. I left the website service. I don't have friends my age, they are boring. Most of the people I relate to interaction are much younger than me. When I ask people to guess my age, after getting acquainted with me, guess me to be between 50 & 60 years old. I am driven to keep learning new things.
When my friend started dating his Filipino wife I wasn't too big on it. Part of it was the age gap. I know he had talked about getting with an Asian girl. His first marriage to an American had fallen apart after a very traumatic incident occurred in the marriage. After I met her when she came back to the US to stay with him, I really found myself liking her. She was a very sweet person. My friend has had a very fulfilling marriage with her. Now financially speaking my friend makes 6 figures and was able to easily deal with the costs associated with immigration. I will say this, when I have been at his place and seeing them interact I can see the love between them. It is refreshing. Thanks for these videos, Ms Pea. Wish you the best.
I'm not gonna lie, I literally shopped for a wife in the Philippines but that is really no different than trying to date here in the US using some other dating app or service. My reasoning was that growing up having a Filam best friend and how his mother treated me as a teenager. Later on in life I remembered that and thought it would be nice to have a wife so nice like my friends mother and not an American wife without traditional values. My spouse is very educated, more so that I and literally worked just to take care of her family. Her father had passed away at just the age of 48 due to myocardial infarction. I was talking to several filipinas and once I decided on the one I wanted, I pursued her and showed up in Manila. She's from Ternate, Cavite and did not believe in a million years she would ever hook up with a foreigner, but it happen. At the time I was 29 years old and was not having much luck in the US dating, honestly because I feel I am not well off. I had a good job but no degree. So I started to think that maybe a foreign wife would not put so much emphasis on income and material objects. We were married in 2013 and I am only 2.5 years older than her. We've been married almost 10 years and have 3 children. Even her mother lives here now in the US with us and she is a huge help. Daycare is crazy expensive these days, so that saves us all lots of money. I never had much to say about an age gap between two people. In my experience learning about filipino culture, a lot of women are just waiting for the right person that may never come their way and a lot of them are still virgins. They want what anyone else wants, to be loved and have a family. If they can achieve that with someone 20-40 years their senior, then why not?
There is nothing wrong with age gaps in either direction. I had a girlfriend for many years and she was 14 years younger. Now I am married to a woman who is 10 years older. To me, age is just a number, it only matters how you keep up and how "old" you feel.
It's not unusual. I live in Hawaii, 62-yo and became a widower last year. Almost immediately I had beautiful younger women flirting with me from teens to 30's, Caucasian, Japanese, Korean, Filipina, and I don't get around much or socialize. Mother's have come to me talking about their daughters (more than one). So it's not just the Philippines
It all comes down to "who are we to judge" as you mentioned. I learned a long time ago that whatever other people do is none of my business unless I can help. Truthfully I think most people judging these age gaps are envious or jealous and that is sad!
Pea, awesome as usual. I have some filipina friends and they talk about age gaps...and say that women in Phil's are gold diggers. Filipinas say that and think that about each other. To all Filipinas, your definition of gold digger is NOT the same as in USA & Europe! Truthfully it's hard to find any gold diggers in Phil's. Not in our sense of the word. In philippines they may want the security and safety....and nice things but they still take care of the man, the house, cook, clean, and make him feel loved. In the west a GD does not provide sex, cook, clean, or give a crap about the man. She wants him to hire help for everything and only gives sex when she gets expensive gifts. If the woman likes the man has money so what....shit we ourselves like we have money. But if she denies him sexually or doesn't want to work and do her share of cooking and cleaning that's different. I haven't seen that in asia at all. Even the ones that love the designer stuff over there still take pride in their house and make their man happy. Filipinas need to give each other a break. You are warm caring people. Maybe there are different levels of full on Filipinaism...haha (my word) but all levels are better than western style gold diggers
Good evening there in the Philippines from Oregon in America. Keeping bias out of your videos is much appreciated as it is an increasingly rare trait to find. Openmindedness, and willingness to hear and consider opposing views is the best path to wisdom. Here's wishing you all the best now and in the future.
i really like this woman, she's extremely relatable and smart and well thought out. amazingly impressive. i started watching these by chance not really wanting to marry a Filipina, but if they are anything like her, im convinced
I just came across your video and found it interesting. I was 52 and my filipina wife was 22 when we married. In 13 days it will be 15 years that we have been married. We are both very happy together and neither of us would change it for anything in the world. The people that have a problem with an age gap should just remember that it isn't their life but the life of the couple. If the couple is happy then that is all that matters. I will show my wife this video later.
Enjoyable video. I'm married to a Filipina from the province, who is 14 years younger than me. She keeps me in line and is a typical Filipina, loving, caring and cute. Plus a great cook! And most of our friends don't even ask the age question, both Filipino and non-Filipino. So to me, it's up to the individuals involved and nobody else's business. We are both happy.
I've been with my asawa 11 years massive age gap three beautiful kids and happy together, best family life anywhere. Give it up for the dedicated pinay
Another brilliant essay, Pea. I appreciate how much thought it takes to consider all the different facets of this subject & how much effort is needed to present your thoughts so clearly & so entertainingly. I'm reassured by your experiences of other peoples' age-gap relationships in the Philippines being commonly genuine, caring partnerships; this was something I feared might be too much to hope for & I had decided not to try. This is thought provoking, intellectual content which I don't find so often on UA-cam & I appreciate it. Your other vlogs are not always like this but over a couple of years I've warmed to you so much as a personality that I'm happy to see whatever it is you want to show me and I find I appreciate your lively, sociable side too. I just worry that you're working yourself too hard, Pea
Real and true love has no bounds, great job Pea for showing that there is much more to relationships than just looks and appearance, and what people perceive to be the standard/normal/traditional relationships do not always work... and are a stereotype of what people believe in. The divorce rate is high here in the usa for those very reasons.
Hello sweet Pea!! I've never written to you or, even commented on any of these u-tube clips you do. But I have been watching you for quite a long time and I have to say I have never met a young woman such as yourself before in my life, I'm a 62-year-old guy and have been through many seriously changing situations in my life. You on the other hand are years younger than I and seem to have just as much wisdom, defiantly extremely intelligent, well versed in the English language, and have great common sense. You have great poise, charm, and are just a true pleasure to listen to, not to mention gorgeous to look at. All I can say is! of all the different u-tube videos I watch? I am amazed at the info you bring to the table. People here in the USA should be singing your phrases for all the incredible info you give us. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for being such a beautiful human being. I would give my soul to be your partner in life!!! My very best to you!! please keep up the GREAT work you do, and never change inside, you are one amazing woman!!! 🙂 LOVE you!! and all you bring.............. Benny
My wife and I met when she was 42 and I was 29 just turning 30. We had so much in common, PROLLY BECAUSE, when I was born in 1963, I was self-aware almost right away! Weird I know since most children can't remember until they are about 6 yrs old! Saying you can remember at age 4 is practically unheard of!!! But as for my-self I was 8 months old when I remember I was sitting on the floor watching TV with my dad and he shouted to my mom, "Hey Maydean! come look at these guys with long hair getting off of the plane!" It was the Beatles. My point is that I know a lot more, and can relate to the 60's, while my wife at that time was 12 yrs old, just turning 13!!! So anything she talks about from those times I was right there experiencing all of it!!! I can relate to her more than anyone my own age. Well, she's gone now, and I was blessed to have such a wonderful woman in my life. I'm turning 60 in 4/3/2023.
Hi Pea. Thank you for yet another great video. I don't know if anyone else has mentioned it, but in the west there is a basic formula for what is supposed to be an accepted age gap, which is "half your age plus seven". As some people look young for their age and some old for their age, this formula is not set in stone, but it's a good guide if anyone is wondering how their relationship will be viewed. My wife and I are just outside this range at 61 and 34, but I think we're close enough ;) We were only married a few weeks ago and the process for bringing her here to the US is going to take a while, but maybe we will update you on how accepted our relationship is once she's here.
Me and my lady are 8 years apart. We both questioned if this age gap was acceptable in the beginning but the more we talked, the more cemented we became into each others lives.
Thank you much for presenting such a level explanation. I have a Khmer wife who is 15 years younger. I am now just accepting that people will think what they are first, biased to think, and second, ignorant of other perspectives. This is just a cost I am more than willing to pay because we are very much in love. I have a grown 18 y.o. daughter and she has a 5 year old. We look different but it works for us. It does bother me hence why I watch your videos but hearing your comprehensive explanations is healing for me. Keep up the great work! You have far reaching impact. Legend!
The age gap has probably been discussed on every single Filipino UA-cam channel almost weekly. It almost seems like young Filipina women have to defend why they prefer older men. Everyone concludes that this is normal in the Philippines, while the men who take young women home to their country are referred to as old pigs. I actually think people can think for themselves and since we all have the freedom to do what we want, it is strictly irrelevant what people think about the age difference.
aIt is so nice to see someone of your age and beauty that is as wise beyond your years of experiences. Keep up the good work. You are doing a great service. I have met my fiance and I am in process of moving to your beautiful country. I hope we as a family will be able to promote a good lifestyle and Yahuah will allow us to be productive to your country somehow. Hopefully we will see you walking around someday and can say Hi. We are getting married in May.
You are greatly appreciated, Pea, for bringing us essential information and telling us the unvarnished truth about sensitive, contentious, and controversial topics. Thank you for your honesty!
You hit the mail on the head in terms of different cultural programming. The way a Filipina or a Filipino family look at what is a good match and the best option available can be quite different. This makes their choice just as valid as one in the west where options are different. I don’t think you’ll persuade anyone that wealth and resources are not a factor but it is in the west anyway, just a different environment. I think I understood that better thanks to you Pea!!
I loved this video. You are obviously a very intelligent young woman and it's refreshing to see that you aren't pushing an agenda. My Filipina fiance and I will be getting married in May of 2024 right after she gets her nursing degree. I will be 72 and she'll be 4 months shy of her 34th birthday. She doesn't have an issue with our age gap and I'm about 98% over my qualms. She's stunningly beautiful, (She was a model in Paris for years.) extremely intelligent, kind, adventurous and has a wonderful sense of humor. She thinks I'm very handsome, and she always wanted to marry an educator; I am a special education teacher. I love traveling and learning about other cultures which also adds to our mutual attraction. We think we're just right for one another, and that's all that matters to us. Again, thank you for this video. 😉
For the record I am 26 years older than my Filipina wife of 5 years, who was 18 when when we got together, after things went sour with a 31 year old who neglected to tell she had previously married. She also approached me. Love or physical attraction is the worst reason for getting married. It is why the US has a 50% divorce rate. In my experience money does and should always have a prominent role in marriage, especially for a Filipina who cant get a divorce if her husband runs out on her. This is doubly true do with these age gap relations. As my wife and most of the younger women in her family will tell you they can find plenty of loving, thoughtful, considerate broke ass men in the Philippines, but it doesn't benefit them or the children they want to have, or their family in general long term and not a good marriage prospect. I do think one of the things a man with money must do when he gets into these sorts of relationships with great economic disparity, is to ensure she and her family gain the ability to better themselves economically through education and if necessary investment in their future. What did my wife get, besides a flabby, pale skin, green eyed, blond guy with a wicked sense of humor, and a beautiful daughter everyone is already trying to put in pageants even though she just turned 2? She got to finish high school which her mother was having trouble affording after having a worthless drunk husband with massive gambling debts (not uncommon in the hinterlands of Mindanao). I have put her through university and will complete a masters before we both go to the US. Her sister is now able to go to university too, her tita finished her teaching degree at 32yo and for the first time making decent money (by Filipino standards), and her mother got her masters and went from Teacher I to Teacher III and working towards Master Teacher status. She has 12 cousins who for the first time are in the proper school uniforms and not unacceptable clothes that made them too ashamed to go to school. They have my love and support, even when I am back in the US working like right now. When I am at home in the Philippines, what do I get? A crowded, but still comfortable house in the provinces which my wife now owns outright and a condo in Davao in my name. At home in either place, I have an adoring wife and family that fusses over me, that never makes me feel I need to be more than I am, that will never let me grow old and die alone in some hell hole old folks home. I give love and respect and get it in return.
What a great video! Thank you for your thoughtful overview on both sides of this issue. As a westerner I certainly have grown up with certain bias’ and love to see them challenged. This why I love travel. To break the boundaries and delusion I have created in myself and become a more rounded and open person. I love the Philippines for this. It’s a land of opposites to where I come from. It’s so human to be judgemental and critical of what we don’t understand. I hope to break that chain in my small way. Thanks Bea for the insight.
The biggest "worry" on the agegap is "what do you have in common?" Usually, life experience is a no 🤪 but everything else? Asking as you get along 🤔 all good right? I geuss I'm a bit odd in Sweden when it comes to this, both my parents remarried with a large age gap up on mom and down on dad. But it worked for them, a while atleast on dad's part 😂 so I got 2 brothers like 15 years younger then me 🤪
Every relationship has a transactional component to it, the only matter is that there is Mutural respect, dedication, and similar goals. Live and let live. Cheers
As a 74yo single man, I always appreciate your common sense thoughts and ideas about all the topics you report about on your channel. I admire that you don’t shy away from talking about sensitive topics that you so thoroughly talk about. However, I want to comment on your video about the age gap between men and women in the Philippines. Your videos about this topic gives me hope to find true love and happiness in your country. I’ve dated women of different ages in the state I live in but can’t find what I’m looking for. Younger women here want me to be their sugar daddy and older women don’t have the same energy that I do. It’s so discouraging so I stopped dating here over five years ago. Anyway, thank you for giving me new energy to want to keep trying to find love and happiness elsewhere. I’m retiring at the end of this year and I’m planning to come there to see if I can find the right person for me. Thank you for all your quality videos…
Pea, I'm always amazed at the amount of effort and time you put into your vlogs. There is no question that you out work your competition. I can only imagine the time it takes to write that script. I enjoy watching your success and seeing your channel grow. And of course another well done vlog. This one has been done countless times..... but none with the detail of yours.
Preach It Pea! Thank you so much for covering the broad spectrum of possibilities in these situations. I will be amazed if you haven't changed some minds concerning two consenting adults making a decision on what makes them happy during this very short life we all live. You are a very intelligent, well spoken young lady and will go far in anything you choose to tackle.
I am 20 years 11 months older to the day to my wife. I enjoy the fact that you do videos like this but i myself could give a rats backside what others think about my wife being in her 20s and me in my 40s. My first marriage was an utter failure, other than my daughter i got nothing but pain out of it. I also wanted more children. for me that mint finding a healthy younger woman as i did not want to risk my woman health (it would have been if she was my age or even close to it). Also as a disabled vet it was a good idea to be with a younger woman as i would have major issues trying to keep up with toddlers as our son is. I can play with him and teach him stuff but am limited do to my disability. I am happier then i have been since i got hurt in the army, and if anyone has a problem with that,.... its there problem not mine.
I am 53, and was dating a 19 year old. Was fun for a while but we just didn't share enough in common to continue. So we had a good physical relationship then moved on. But I honestly would rather find someone to love from the heart, not just the loins.
Here is a hint from science I discovered. Find a woman that lives life from her heart based on these 4 words. Respect, trust, hope and gratitude. all based on actions. Never words alone. Words only play a supporting role. Hint: wash dishes together. Common goal. Working together to achieve the goal. Anything you do working together toward a common goal. Interpret in your heart her actions. Never words alone.
My Filipina is eight years younger than I am. She loves the fact I am older. She repeatedly says I have characteristics that remind her of her dad. She also says she loves my maturity. She has a sense of innocence I adore. I'm so blessed to have her in my life. She says the same thing about me. Great topic Pea!
My last wife was 22 when we met ..i was 37 ...enjoyed our lives up until she died in a car at 38 years of age ..im 65 now and my Filipina is 25 ...i was very afraid to take on someone that young .. but ..i can see how she will grow and what she needs .. shes a gorgeous traditional girl ...hasnt really gone too far from the province .. ill take very good care of her and try to give her the tools she needs to handle life in the future ..
This current video resonated with me on a personal level. The part about people having the same conversations, doing the same things and nothing changing pretty much sums up my home town -and why I left it behind. As for age gap relationships, If two people truly give a damn about each other and make each other happy then to hell with other people's opinions. If a person finds what they are looking for in someone, -financial stability, reliability and someone who thinks long term regarding their future together, being concerned with the opinions/judgement of others shouldn't even enter into the equation. Some people will always have something negative to say and assume the worst about other people's choices especially regarding relationships. If they are happy in their own relationship it shouldn't matter if someone's older than the other or anything else for that matter but if they can't find someone to make them happy then maybe they should take notes instead of being bitter and judgmental.
My wife is 37 and I'm 69. Never been happier. In the middle of the night she still rolls over and puts her arm around me, I am so blessed and so is she.
I love how thoughtful and articulate you are. Keep up the good work. BTW: the single best relationship I ever had - most loving, most sane, most drama-free, was the one with the largest age difference. In this case, we were both American, and Caucasian, but here's what I see all around me: most women my age (63) are very bitter about men - at least here in the USA.
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Pea you missed the letter "a" in the word "are in the first sentence.
Did you get a higher number of marriage proposals from this video than you normally get?
That’s me done for … 😫
All I have left is to join an isolated monastery or a vihara, and become a monk 🙏 …
Or go and seek the source of the Fountain of Youth, and the Pool of Eternal Life … 😅
Hey Pea, how’s that for a next video? Where is your Indiana Jones hat … and whip … ouch😊
Hi, Pea. Not trying to blow smoke, but this is from the heart. I'm a 53 year old black man in the U.S. and I happen to find you a very attractive woman. I love your videos and just subscribed. If you're married, God bless you and your husband. If you're single, it must be by choice and not for a lack of suitors. Love your channel. Keep up the good work. 😊
Well thanks so much, Wolf! I’m so glad you found my channel and decided to subscribe 👍
I’ll do my best to keep your interest 😊
My hubby is 25 years older than me, I was 27 when we met and we've been together 10 years. People were upset at first but now they realise I wanted a man with what are considered old school morals and manners. He wanted someone who hadn't slept around and didn't have children, we just work. It's about respect and love.
Happy to hear its working out well for both of you Nicola. 👍
If it works, it's good. 👍🏼
Im 37 and i have that same oldschool way of thinking lol they dont have to be that old to have it either
When he is 75 call me
Your husband most probably did a lot of Sleeping Around!
I am married to a woman from the Philippines. The age gap is 21 and we have been married for 13 years. I am the stepfather of her children, calls me Daddy, educated and works very hard. The best thing I have ever done in my life.
Grafton, how did you make the first step in that direction? Or did this just happen?
@@1964robw everything will just flow perfectly..believe me..just make sure she is the right girl and worthy for your love, attention and care
I get that
In 86 I married my wife who was 19 & I was 31 Now I’m 68 & she’s 56 . I’m disabled from cancer in 2008 & she’s still here & I only draw social security with her working to keep us going. We definitely still are very much in love
My wife and I had a 20+ year age gap. I really didn't bother me that she was older than I. As her health declined, I was blessed to be her caregiver and dialysis nurse. One time a woman told her in a thick German accent,"Oh, you got a young one!" Up until about two weeks before my wife got her promotion to heaven, we still joked about all of the amazing times we had. There are absolutely no regrets, only happy memories of my best friend. Go to now, I'm seeing a wonderful Filipina. She and I have 31 years between us. I see the love she has for me. Especially when things are not going so great and she puts herself right beside me. Heck, the gal is teaching me Bisaya and Tagalog. I have a unique perspective on age gaps having been on both sides of it. Folks need to not concern themselves with when others have to say about it. Just do it. As far as how much age gap is too much. That's up to the two adults. It's nobody else's business. Pea, Salamat sa tanan nimong gibuhat para mahatagan mig panabot sa kulturang Pilipino.
Reverse age gaps like between you and your late wife are rare! Maybe Pea should do an interview with you! Success in your new relationship!
K Morris, wow. That got a tear out of me . I am currently married to an older woman myself and not in the market but I do love listening to Pea. She is wise beyond her years and has a savage sense of humor (my wife has none LOL). I have a friendship with a much younger woman (33 years) that is almost a soul mate. We share the same humor, she is unbelievably intelligent and loves animals, she actually gets almost every cultural reference from my generation. She speaks several languages as well, all wrapped up in a package of a very attractive young woman. I have never ventured to think about a romantic relationship(I don’t even know if she considers me attractive LOL), but I imagine that here in the U.S. even our friendship is verboten. If I can find this kind of compatibility in this country I imagine it’s possible anywhere although I think we are way outside the norm. Cheers.
An acquaintance of mine is 70 and never married, he was in the Philippines a few years ago (not for romance actually) and had 2 suitors. One was 30 something and one was 18. He ran from both. He felt he had nothing in common with the 18 year old and felt the 30 something was too “controlling”. He says he still wants kids…..but wants to marry a woman in the U.S. (obviously young enough to have kids). I think he will die alone (he isn’t rich so good luck with finding anything here).
@@homebasebelgium359 sounds like maybe he went for money then had the money and then the new she went for the money.
So there’s 51 years age gap between your 2 wives. That’s impressive!
Great share
My wife and I have 30 years difference. We have been married for 16 years and have two daughters 11years old and 3 years old. My wife came from a wealthy family. She came back to the US and added another degree to her business degree, so she worked as a Emergency room RN. She is not a gold digger but we have amassed quite a lot of gold.
Pea, I too don’t like blue cheese.
Great video Pea!
Wow, you won the marital lottery, Jeff 👍
😂❤️
It's pretty damn sad when you are introducing your Filipina via video chat to family and a bigotted so called Christian loudly says She's a gold digger! You rude and inconsiderate people need to hold your tongue and consider your own situations. You obviously have some issues of your own and your outlook. Christian? 😂
hey kid stop lying and do your homework
@@TheFilipinaPea you are so funny Pea 👍
Notice the one negative comment is from someone named Susan lol 😂
I love how thorough, logical and clear you are in every video you do. No waffle, no repetition, no anger. And all wrapped in gentle humour! Keep up the great work. We need more people like you to share perspectives that confront prejudices and stereotypes in such a calm, clear manner.
I love your intellect, your attitude and your open mindness. Western people are often so judgemental and prejudiced - it's wholesome to listen to someone who's not.
Thanks for that, Roland ❤️👍
Roland you pay too much attention to notice the negative criticism. I don't lol 😂😂🤣🤣. I don't care what anyone thinks about my relationship.
The unfortunate thing is that you're 100% correct
@@joerobb8463 I agree
Tina Turner sang,”What’s love got to do with it when love can be broken.” Romantic love is a poor foundation for marriage and has only been a main consideration for the last hundred years. Things like families and mutual support and survival were the glue that held marriage together.
Now you’re talking like a Filipino, Tim 👍😂😂😂
Romantic love is more often lust and is bound to fade over time. Mutual interests, common goals builds a more mature love that can last when times are good or bad.
@@RUSTY-A-L I agree whole heartedly Rusty. Curious of what is your age?
How does someone make a connection with you Filipina Pea?
To put it simply... Who are we to judge others by what they find attractive...Perhaps it's jealousy, or lack of self...Just asking...lol
It makes me happy you made this video. I am 64 and my Flipina wife is 37. We have been married for 11 years and have a wonderful happy relationship. Thank you for explaining the differences in culture. You truly have a gift for breaking down a subject to allow other to understand.
I agree that she does have a knack for making the differences of the 2 worlds make sense
But u never see young Filipina with much older filipino men, ( 30-40 yrs+) yet a common sight with foreigners, so it is about money, a better future and the opportunity to live abroad given theres NO future for most philippinos there. Given 95% of filipina marry filipino and half of all filipinas who marry foreigners fail once abroad, it sure isnt about love for most of them. And filipina can be very controlling and violent even when they cant adapt to living in West. Course by then they know if the divorce their better off anyway.
@bfrank9079 Filipinas are the most caring, understanding, and loving women in the world. ☺️
@@robertmitchell6080you never see young Filipina with much older men here because most older men here are married. Divorce is not a thing in the Philippines, so when a young Filipina is looking for a mature partner, she can't find it here. As a Filipina myself, I'm a college graduate with a stable income and I'm 30 but I prefer to date men age 40+. You can't find a single 40+ year old men here in the PH. There are but rare. Also we date or marry men older than us because we know that they will love us unconditionally and treat us well.
I saw a couple a while ago he was in his 50’s she was a Filipina in her early 20’s. They were walking and shopping and laughing. I only thing I thought was how lucky they are.
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I am glad you took the time to explain this topic so well. I found my beautiful filipina when I was 46 and she was 21, by the time I got her to the USA and married she was almost 23 and I was 47, so I was more than twice her age and nearly 25 years older. Many said she was just after my money and would leave me, but 23 years later we are still together and she has gone back to school and has a great job as a teacher and helps with the bills. We love each other very much and are very compatible. I could go on and on about why I did not marry an older woman, but suffice to say, most women that were closer to my age came with x-husbands, kids and a lot of baggage. If I had to start over after a divorce, I wanted a fresh start. This marriage has worked out well for both of us and I would do it all over again.
You hit the nail right on the head again Pea❤️. When I met my Filipina wife I was 62 and she was 27. I moved here and we married. We live in Cebu in the province on a tiny pension less than the average Filipino families all around us. She obviously never married me for my money or my young age. She is madly in love with me and I am madly in love with her, almost 4 years married now. The stereotypes are simply foolish.
18 year age gap between my wife and I. Been happily married 27 years now. Fell into this relationship after I ended a 16 year marriage with an abusive Cluster B. Two sons by my first marriage and one by the younger model. We have travelled extensively, and enjoy each other’s company. I am no longer sensitive about the age gap. Friends and family have accepted it. I guess those who might be against it would more likely be women who have hit the wall and who might be concerned that their husbands might get ideas. Lol.
Men are always happy in these cases, that goes without saying, its the women who suffer.
"who might be concerned that their husbands might get ideas." Oh Wow! I didn't think of this reason along with the obvious ones of older women feeling replaced.
last sentence nails it.
@@r.walker7986 the women prosper not suffer you proved his point your a bitter old one
@@r.walker7986 The men are more experienced and the women are carrying less baggage this is a win-win situation but like the lady in the video says everyone has their own opinion
Your such a breath of fresh air, I married a Thai girl she was 13 years younger. My daughter was born in the states, her mom missed her country, and left me and our 6-month-old daughter. It was the best thing that happened to me, my daughter is 26 now, the joy of my life.Yes it was hard raising a child by myself, but simply the best thing to happen me. I stumbled on your sight, enjoy the honesty very much, retiring soon and thinking of visiting the Phil. thanks again. Cheers Pops...
Hey Pea,
I am an American 56 years young. I have to add a few thoughts on your subject. First of I do not consider myself a looser who couldn't get a woman back home. I was actually considered a goof catch. Being a good catch and being married once left me having to work 60 to 70 hours a week and my little free time I had was time spent with my kids. As they got older I wanted to take a trip by myself to take a break from the madness. The Phillipines is where I ended up going. My trip was more about sight seeing volcanoes being an intrest of mine. Getting married again was never a thought. Until!!
I basically did everything that you suggest not to. Researching the Philippines and planning my trip I thought some companionship would be nice. I was always attracted to younger women but by a small age gap. I was searching the date sights to see if I could find a friend to enjoy my trip. I did not fall for any scams or try to lure women I knew money would only cause more problems.
When I Met Christine online, I thought what a beautiful young woman but her age made me cautious. I was stunned at her maturity and we get along because I may ne a little immature.i sent money to secure lodging and to my surprise she wanted to send back the change. Right there I knew she was not looking to dig for gold.
I am trying to keep this short so we hit it off and I brought her to the states to see how 90 days on a visa would go. We ended up staying together and getting married. We just celebrated our 5th anniversary and are now planing to retire to Cebu this Spring. Things with us couldn't be any better, as far as a fire burning between us, I almost have to beg for a break as 5 years gone by and it seems we are still on a honeymoon.
My point though this is, you never know where love will find you. For all those who lift thier noses in disgust they are the ones with a hidden problem. They need to join the rest of the world and mind thier own buisness.
Congrats mate you deserve everything you get,
And I agree 💯 % with you to many people in the world worry about what other people are doing.
Seriously they should mind their own business.
Cheers mate 👍 take care and enjoy your life ahead.
Congrats man. I am happy you and her found what you are looking for. Fuck the haters.
What's a goof catch? Einstein needs to know...
The rest of the world dose NOT mind their own bizz...what world do you live in?...I'd like to live in your world...
I'm single, 49 years old... I'm going to Cebu in April. Wish me luck!
Pea, outstanding vlog! This hits home with me as my Colombian gf and I have an almost 40 yr age gap. I met her online and we instantly clicked. She is not from a poor background, has a good job and her own money. She has never asked me for money in the 6 months we've been together. We both love music, travel, dancing, and animals. We never run out of conversation and she has told me that my age means nothing to her. She enjoys my company and the way I treat her with respect. She says that is something lacking in the male population in Colombia. (treating women with respect and as equals) We have spent roughly 8 weeks together in person during the last 6 months. So, I would say our only problem is the distance gap, not the age gap. Anyway, my point is if we are happy with each other and we're not hurting anyone why would anyone else care about our gap? Live and let live.
Good luck , your going to need it simp
i am 25 and my fiancee is 57 we are in a 3 years long distance relationship and getting marry soon ☺️ I strongly agree with you Ma'am Pea ❤ i have a degree, very social , actively participating in any youth organization here in our country. Was also featured as one of the youngest business owner in our province, been in national events,
I do pageantry, hosting i also do great in sports and politics ☺️ in short i am one of those woman standing great in our society.
But hey here i am madly in love to the man i loved 3 years ago. Because a woman like me is looking for someone more mature and could teach me more , someone who could love me despite of all the .
I wish I could tell you more about us❤
but thank you for telling other people our side 😍 We truly appreciate it ❤
Gosh you give me goosebumps! Kudos to you and to yours!! Keep going!! I'll be visiting the Philippines finally! Our age gap is the same as yours! What a coincidence :o)
Having been in a relationship with a Filipina several years younger was the most amazing thing that ever happened to m. I lost her to covid so I am still reeling from that and hopefully in another year or so I will be ready to find my mate again and it will definitely she is going to be Filipina
Thank you for all of this information it is great for western men to know.
I can’t believe people objected to that age gap marriage video. You know the expression about people and their opinions.
Everyone’s got one, and most of them stink!
(but mine doesn’t) 😂😂😂
@@TheFilipinaPea Ha!!! I like that
You can marry who you want , it's not anyone's business, why should it be they don't decide who you love and who you can marry !
Baho uy
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@@TheFilipinaPea just like a fart...everyone else's stink but not my own, mine smells 'good'.....lol
I wasn't expecting this degree of nuance & objective reasoning in a travel channel. I appreciate it
Thanks Sergio! If you watch my videos, you’ll see I do much more than travel topics 👍
Thanks for this timely video, as far as I'M concerned! I recently lowered my age limit to below 45 and started an LDR with a Filipina who is 23 years my junior. The problem with dealing any woman over 50 has been exactly what you stated. The conversations are very limited and she is set in her ways and routine. I actually married a Jamaican-British woman when we were both 50 years old. She was so settled and set in her ways that she never adjusted to being in the United States. Six years into the marriage, she went home for a visit with no game plan on returning. After our 10th anniversary, are divorce was finalized as an annulment, completed online cuz she still had not returned! She was more comfortable at home, she kept repeating to me. Local 50 plus women are just as settled and all women in the older age range have become more comfortable being alone and enjoying all of the material things that they worked hard to acquire. If they do want to combine two households into one, they want the man to have as much as they do, and more. Yes we are perverts to a woman over 50 because she may have experienced menopause and may have a reduced libido, if she wants sex at all!
Our cultural differences between the East and the West make the age a good proposition. Never mind the haters (western women) , because they don't want an older man in the first place! Western men haters are just envious because they are stuck in a marriage and misery loves company!
We’ll best of luck in finding the perfect mate, Orig 👍❤️😊
Well said sir! 🎉. I said almost exactly the same thing in my comment. Cheers
@@TheFilipinaPea Thank you Pea. The last 30something I shared with you turned out to be a Ladyboy!😆 I need all the look I can get 🤣🤣🤣
@@prepperjonpnw6482 Great minds... and are inspired by the Pea!
I can't agree! My LDR OFW Filipina is over 50 (as am I) with just under a 3-year age gap between us. But the difference is she has lived outside of her home country for close to 20 years and has worked in four countries. That international perspective is extremely important to me as I also lived more than 20 years outside of my native country. And being close to age greatly helps us have things culturally similar in terms of music and film.
Married an Asian gal 14 years ago. She moved here to the states and loves it. I’m 21 years older but it’s not an issue with us. I do intentionally make a daily effort to stay physically, mentally and emotionally fit. Sometimes I worry if she will be ok after I die but have all our finances, will etc. in order. True Love overcomes age difference.
Don’t worry about her because she bagged you. She has the skill to bag some other guy maybe near her age.
Has there ever been issues of other younger men flirting with your younger wife and has she ever been tempted to “trade up” ?
I would like to share my story Pea. I hope it has some weight on this topic. And actually, this very video was part of my story. I am a 68 year old American male. I broke up with an amazingly beautiful woman last year after about a 20 year relationship. I add her beauty because I think it adds to the story. I had naturally been out of action for the last 20 years but had an occasional younger woman interested in me. I never reciprocated. So I didn't think there would be too much problem finding someone. I was in for the shock of my life. I tried 2 dating sites thinking that would speed up the process. It turns out that the only thing it sped up was the realization that putting the big 68 down of my age was essentially the same as saying I was a contagious leper. I was absolutely shocked at the lack of response from women around 58-68 years of age. Some might visit, which I would thank them politely for doing, but could rarely get them to even text. And the ones that did text? Well let me say that when I saw those, I thought my old college buddies had infiltrated my profile and were playing a joke on me. It was that bad. At one point, i got so frustrated and angry that I changed my age to 58 to see what would happen (I am quite fit and take good care of myself and have always been told that I look younger than my age). I immediately got 2 beautiful women about 58 responding and texting me. Point proven. The problem was that I couldn't ethically follow up because then I would be living a lie. Lets just say they were not happy with me. I have a friend who married a Chinese woman that began online that the jury is still is out on how that relationship is going to end. We talked about Thai women and Filipina women. I wanted a relationship with a woman and someone I could communicate with. That meant Filipina women. I started looking at your videos Pea. This very video really impacted on me. I realized that I had somewhat bought into the western women's view that I too was now a throw away despite having attractive women in the past. I was depressed. That you took such vigorous exception to this was a real eye opener to me. So I decided to take the plunge. I enrolled in a Filipina online dating website. Pea, what then happened may be one of the best things that has ever happened to me. I had not even gotten my profile completed when I was literally being rained upon by Filipina women with there viewing my profile and texting me. I couldn't believe it. Plus these were women that were 20-30-40 -45 years younger than me. Plus many were extremely attractive. Not only were they visiting my profile, but I was getting liked and texted left and right. It is about 1 week later from my enrolling on the dating app. I looked this afternoon, and I had 147 likes from women. I have committed to a woman to see how it goes who just luckily is moving to this area next month. She is 30 years old and is a knockout. BTW, she hasn't asked me for a dime and is refusing to let me buy her a cheap cell phone (hers was stolen). She is independent to a fault. Has been on her own since age 19. I still have those American dating sites which will expire next moth. Still not a word from anyone essentially in the last several months. Pea, honest to God, this is a true story. I still have a hard time believing it. And you were a part of my re-finding enough self worth to give it another try with Filipina women. So to you, I say thanks. I can truly say that you have had a hand in changing my life for the better. Not too shabby lovely lady! Oh, BTW, I love your sense of humor. You really crack me up.
They're probably looking for a green card. It's quite odd that this woman just happens to be moving to the area. Make sure you face time her, to make sure she's not a catfish. Also, you shouldn't have put a false age down. Us women have enough disappointment and lies on dating apps. I just deleted mine, due to catfish and men posting old pics.
My Filipina is half my age. Love comes in all packages and sizes. You only live once so live life with the one you love.
Of course she is half your age and half your size. For American men that is the whole point isn’t it? Exploiting differences in third world economies? 🤷🏻♂️
Well said, Jim 👍❤️
@@edhcb9359 exploiting, or merely exploring exotic options?
@@edhcb9359 You're disgusting. No wonder you have an anonymous account.
@@edhcb9359 it’s not exploiting anyone. It’s actually quite sad that a man has to travel half way round the world to find a woman worth marrying. Western women have driven men to the east then complain about it.
I was married for 31 years and I am from America. I won't get into the details of why my marriage failed but if this didn't happen I would have never looked for another woman let alone a foreign woman at that. Once I put myself out there I have been hit on by girls 18 and up from different countries. I have been quick to remind these girls I'm 60 years of age. They immediately respond that older men treat them the way they want men to treat them. And their other response is that usually the men from these countries have no respect for their women. It amazes me when the men don't see the woman from their countries as attractive. As always 👀❤️the Pea
Exactly, Jeffrey, you get it 👍👍👍👍
AGREED 👍 👍 👍. Same story.
One in the thumb nail is Milind Soman😅
Great video Pea. Keep up the good works.
@jeffreymore6799 I agree. Filipinas like older men. Me as a filipina, we think that men older than us are into serious relationship. We want to be loved unconditionally.
I am a 55 year old man from Norway and I really don't understand why people have issues with age gaps in relationships at all.
Everybody should be able to be in a relationship with whoever they want as long as both are adults, without being judged by others.
When I was in my early 20s, I dated women that was 3 years younger than me to women that was 8 years older than me.
When I was 25 I got in relationship and lived for 3 years together with a woman that was 18 years older than me.
When I was 38, I dated and married a woman that was 20 years younger than me.
Now at the age of 55, I have realized that there are very few women around my own age that I find attractive and compatible with me.
And those few are in very steady relationship and will never become single unless their partner dies.
I clearly see that in reality is it only women at the age up to 35 and maybe a few up to 40 that is "realistic" for me to have a relationship with.
The problem here in Norway, is that most have a negative view about a large age gap and it is close to impossible for me to get a relationship with a woman I find attractive and feel compatible with.
Because of this I either must accept to be single for the rest of my life, and I prefer that over being in a relationship I don't love being in.
Or, I will need to find a woman in a country where they don't think a large age gap is a problem and where many women there even prefer that.
I have no idea what is in the future for me.
I only know that I will travel a lot in the world a year or two from now and then I might be lucky and find a nice woman that don't care about me being 20 years or more older than her.
And if I don't, then it is not the end of the world😊
I am 38 and I have been friends with a 19 year old Filipina for almost 2 years now. I never considered dating her because she is so young. I tried to introduce her to my nephew who is her age, but she wants a older man like myself. We became great friends but now she wants to meet me in person this coming March. I am going my friends wedding in Toledo Cebu in March. I asked this girl to be my date for the wedding and she said yes. I am excited to finally meet her. She has a beautiful heart and is so kind.
I bet you’re excited to finally meet, yes 👍😊
Hopefully u can keep up sexually without ur jalapeño wearing or falling to the 🤣 floor.from wear and tare.
You haven't even met her so be aware she's probably communicating with many other guys.
@@craigsmith2755 uhhh yeah just like what happens using dating websites in the USA.....
@@stevedice5963 🤣 don't even have to be on dating sites in the US for this, most of them have a "roster" IRL..
When i first came to the philippines, I met woman who is 26 years younger than me. We hit it off and lived together for three years. Throughout the relationship, i rarely found the difference in age to be part of the problem that prevented us from staying together. I was 65, she was 37 when we met. I can imagine meeting someone in their twenties that would be more difficult to connect to. But the age difference means less when both people are more mature.
Thanks for sharing that, Jeffrey ❤️👍
Not only do Western men see you as cute, but your personality really adds to that cuteness. All of us Western guys have seen physically stunning women with terrible attitudes or character which make them just an ugly b*tch.
41 year gap, over 6 years LDR... partly due to the pandemic and as a result, waiting for my retirement now which will be very soon. I have sent her money a few times for medical care in an emergency (she has an eight-year-old daughter too). She always puts up a pretty good argument when I tell her I will send money to help. It's not a fake argument. She is a very capable and independent woman, just not a lot of opportunity in the province where she lives.
I'm a super fit 61 year old, don't drink smoke, my babe is 35. We have an amazing time together and our love life is insane. There's no way any 60 year old woman could possibly keep up with me or have the enthusiasm and energy she has.
I'm a year older , and have the same problem with women my age. Unless they are something special.
You must get rock hard
Ok. How much money do you have?
Good for you! What matters is that you maintained your good health while others did not.
No sir….. you probably look like her dad next to her. 🤮
Yes Pea, you do have an agenda, it’s called “ The Philippines “ a story that you have a unique prospective of and I thank you for your desire to share your knowledge of the world you grew up in .
Very good job kid !
Hahahahaha
Thanks Lou 👍❤️😂
Perspective not prospective 😊
You sound condescending ; she’s not a “kid”😐. An intelligent, streetwise young lady more like.
That depends on his age, I think he meant kid with kindness. Just like Han Solo when he congratulated Luke on blowing up the Death Star.
If two truly love each other, remain faithful to each other, respect each other, who cares about age (underaged excluded of course). How many marriages are within 10 years or typically less, and end up unhappy or divorced. Honest communication, staying committed and putting in the effort to work out the problems that arise in a marriage and applying biblical teachings will go a long way to a successful marriage. Also proper planning such as a will and medical interventions.
I am 57 and my Filipina wife is 36. The age thing hardly ever comes up and we've been happily married for 6 years.
what were her options?
I dated an older lady of 37 myself, guess its easier to do at 49 years old.
Hey Pea, I've been chatting with my Filipina for 5 months now. In one week I arrive in the Philippines, and we meet for the first time. She's 25, I'm 71😁 She is definitely not a gold digger, and I am not a decrepit old pervert. We have a lot in common, and have a wonderful plan for a life together. I never miss one of your videos. If I think about it, you are kind of like my guru, showing me a better way to live, in peace and harmony.
I bet you’re so excited, Terry!!!
I need to interview you when you two meet 👍👍👍❤️
@@TheFilipinaPea I was hoping you would say that😁
Wishing all success
Well grandpa you better get your will ready lol..she gonna need the life insurance money
You can't say for sure unless she knows you have no gold.
My filipina wife is 30 years younger than me. I was looking for a woman with traditional values and strong family ties. She was looking for a mature man who was family oriented and was financially stable. We have been very happily married for 15 years. I am now retired and she is the bread winner. We will be permently moving to the Philippines in a few years. Neither of us have ever regretted our decision to get married.
I'm an author, former radio co-host, and I edit everything from expat advice reports to annual national environmental analyses (the latter f/ The World Bank). I've very seldom seen/heard a UA-camr who expressed themselves as well or as fluidly as you. I've been on Christian Filipina about three weeks. Thx f/ the content
Oh my goodness, Bijan, that’s one of the nicest things anyone’s ever said to me. Thank you 👍❤️😊
@@TheFilipinaPea The first thing a writer or public speaker notices about a content creator is their word choice, flow, & clarity of ideas. You provide great, short, non-judgemental examples, you're very specific, and you're quite observant about human nature. It's still entertaining but the oration is on point.
Whenever I hear someone say, “Ewww” about another person’s lifestyle it gives me a yucky feeling - like they have bad boundaries and can’t tell the difference between another person’s life and their own - and it makes me go “Ewww.” Then, I think, “Who am I to judge their tendency to go ‘Ewww’ at other people’s lifestyles?,” and I remind myself to mind my own business. And, I hope they will someday get it together enough to do the same
EWWW! Is right !
Your analysis is spot on. I have been coming to the Philippines since 2010, at the age of 65. I was absolutley amazed that young women were showing an interest in me. Some were as young as 18 yrs, although most were between 23 and 30. It is not about age, looks, or money. It is not easy to identify the reasons, but I believe it is largley down to personality. You can be old and still have a sense of humor,and fun. The woman can feel secure in the knowledge that her man is unlikely to be chasing after other women. With the right older man she can develop into who she wants to be. She won't feel bad about her body or her looks, therefore feeling more secure. I have been with my current partner since the begining of Covid. I keep an apartmnt in the Philippines and she lives there. Soon I will be back for a month, and during that time we will go to Vietnam for a week. She doesn't have to worry about money(that doesn't mean she has all she wants, I am not buying her affections), a roof over her head, or where the next meal is coming from. She is not a prisoner and could leave at any time should she choose. At 28yrs old, she is getting on bit now.
With all respect, that's crazy. I'm 53 (never been to phil) and can't believe it. Do You have an idea why this is and what the intentions of these young girls are? What does phil society and her parents think?
I lived in Vietnam for four years and received over a hundred marriage suggestions in that time from women of all ages. I asked some why me, when they hardly knew me and I was often decades older. I received approximately the same answer each time: “You won’t hit me; you won’t go to the whore house; and you’ll provide financial security. And don’t worry, we will fall in love as we go.” I concluded that Vietnamese are simply a practical people. And in the case of the so-called “age gap” marriages that I became familiar with, those women were loving, caring and faithful wives. This matter is as much of a non-issue as homosexuality, race, foreign nationals, and so many other topics that exercise the minds of people that just must not have enough to do. :)
One can have a mature mind and recognize that the bible speaks against homosexuality. One can simply look at the effects that is has to see it is not proper. Aids, monkeypox, hepatitis are all substantially higher in that population. I don't think there should be a law against it if it is consensual but being mature has nothing to do with not accepting homosexuality as a good thing.
I would definitely classify that as "practical"!
Well said Paul
Agree or disagree, outside of the West (U.S., Australia, Canada, W. Europe, westernized and/or western influenced countries) people tend to be much more practical out of necessity. Sadly prosperity tends to bred idleness. And idleness wastes time to engage in foolishness.
1 Tim 5:13 - Besides that, they learn to be idlers, going about from house to house, and not only idlers, but also gossips and busybodies, saying what they should not.
100, people in the west have become lazy and have too much time on their hands to be productive. Its no wonder the elite call them "Eaters".
P.S. This is to explain my comment.
When my wife was dying I took care of her for 2 years and I referred to those years as wonderful. I said that because I didn’t let strangers rob her of her dignity and I got to spend every minute of every day with her. I learned how to do her hair and how to do her makeup as well. She would choose her clothes each day and I would dress her. I helped her in the shower and I bathed her every day. I did everything for her even extremely private things such as using the toilet and using feminine things.
I didn’t want complete strangers doing what I promised I would do in our wedding vows.
She refused to let me alter our house to be wheelchair accessible. So I would pick her up and carry her to wherever in our home she wanted to be.
You want to know what wonderful is? Instead of her wasting away in a facility and me visiting her, I got to hold her in my arms a dozen times a day until the day she passed. That’s why I said those years were wonderful.
And my son who was age 11-13 at the time got to witness how a real man honours and loves his wife. In sickness and in health. He didn’t have to go visit his mother in a facility either. They spent time together every day of those two years and it was good for both of them.
My wife was an American born Filipina and I loved her more than life itself. And she was right when she said I would have to go to the Philippines to find a wife.
I intend to keep my promise just as I kept the promises I made on our wedding day.
God bless
Pea needs a Netflix documentary
I’d accept, too! 😂👍
I met my "wife" when she 32 and I was 64. "We" have 4 daughters and 2 foster daughters and I wanted a family. All my girls just wanted somebody to love them and take care of them. They had bad experience with the men in there life and as soon as I showed them I cared, they loved me forever. It's been 9 years now and I just had a light stroke. Having a family of my wife and 6 loving daughters has made my recovery so much more bearable. If a man is honorable, the age gap is meaningless. A filippina will look at you heart before she looks at your face.
My wife was 25 when we met. I was 45. Twenty years later we are happier than we have ever been. We have 2 wonderful sons. We have a home in Canada and a home in Philippines. My wife is colledge educated and from a solid middle class family. Her priorities are family, happiness, faith and caring for her husband and children and she is interested in money only to the extent that we can provide for our family. The 20 year age difference is perfect for us and neither would have it any other way. Those who feel that a large age gap is inappropriate just don't understand the wonder and beauty of the Filipino culture and are stuck in a dark and unhappy western cultural mind set.
❤️❤️❤️❤️
You’re a perfect example 👍
Wow..I met a young lady in the gym ,, and I live in Vancouver,she is Canadian I’m 54 she is 18… in western culture it’s looked down upon…but we connect deeply ..it boggles my mind… I’m more accepting of your marriage with a Filipino woman..cause I know it is not an issue in that culture….I’m at a crossroad.
@@unkameatgoodbar2315 If that women is into you go for it. If not I think you will regret it.
@@unkameatgoodbar2315 🤯
any age gap more than 5 years need to be banned as cradle snatchers
Thanks Pea, I'll be 57 in January. I was adopted as a child and have never had children of my own. I would love to find a younger woman and even a single mother as long as I know the father is long gone. I'm waiting on my passport to come in the mail now and am planning on being there in 2023.
Be aware of social constructs ... Awesome and intelligent youtube video lovin it. Be with whoever make you happy !!!
"Dr. Pea". I mean that title "Dr." as a compliment. You are an amazing, intelligent woman. You challenge us to look closely at ourselves; our beliefs and our prejudices. 💙
THANKS Charles! That’s exactly what I try to do, to make myself think as well 👍❤️😊
I met my Filipina wife when I was 49 and she was 24. Been together 13 years with three wonderful daughters aged 12,8 and 1. I am still in good health fortunately and our relationship is working well.
Really appreciate your thoughtfulness. You explore topics that I'm sure most people really just shy away from or jump to a reaction conclusion. You make us all face these issues and the consequences. You're a breath of fresh air, online or off.
I'm 51 and my Dominicana 🇩🇴 is 20 years younger than me. So far 3 yrs in and its beautiful. I live in America and the dating scene is horrible. My Dominicana only been in America for 8 yrs. In my yrs I never been treated like a man, or felt appreciated. I thought it would be wrong at first but she told me she prefer older man for maturity, stability.
And I’m sure she means it, Proteus 👍❤️
I am 63 my wife is 50 and we have been together for 13 years. So I say yes if you really love each and always treat her special with simple gifts like a bouquet of fresh flowers. And ask her to be honest with you if something is bothering her.
I can fully understand your message to those idiots who thinks age makes a difference! I've met my wife when she was 22 years old and I was 52 We've been together since, we have 3 boys together and living in Florida USA 🇺🇸 very happily!!! Thank you for the message " Pea"
All relationships are based on expectations. A person gets a job and expects to be paid and the employer expects the person they hired to work. A student goes to school expecting to get an education and the school expects the student to do the work. If expectations are not met, the relationship breaks down. If you haven't discussed your expectations with your potential partner and if your potential partner hasn't discussed theirs with you, there's a good chance the relationship won't work well. Communication is a good idea from the get go. Love your channel Pea.
I'm 60 dating a 37 year old filipina lady. Almost 4 years now.
Love your videos Pea.. god bless
I'm 62 dating a 40 yr old.. high five! 😂
You’re still just a young man 👍😊
Same here.
@@ronmccumber5218 Better than insane.
@@Bob31415 LOL I meant the same. I have been with mine in the same age gap for 4 years,
I'm 77 now, but there was a time that I sought to find a Filipino woman, younger, because of the Filipino girlfriend I had while in the US Navy. I was told to expect to take the whole family to have the young woman. I was not prepared to do that. I left the website service. I don't have friends my age, they are boring. Most of the people I relate to interaction are much younger than me. When I ask people to guess my age, after getting acquainted with me, guess me to be between 50 & 60 years old. I am driven to keep learning new things.
When my friend started dating his Filipino wife I wasn't too big on it. Part of it was the age gap. I know he had talked about getting with an Asian girl. His first marriage to an American had fallen apart after a very traumatic incident occurred in the marriage. After I met her when she came back to the US to stay with him, I really found myself liking her. She was a very sweet person. My friend has had a very fulfilling marriage with her. Now financially speaking my friend makes 6 figures and was able to easily deal with the costs associated with immigration. I will say this, when I have been at his place and seeing them interact I can see the love between them. It is refreshing. Thanks for these videos, Ms Pea. Wish you the best.
I can’t believe how honest you are with no agenda. Keep up the good work!
I'm not gonna lie, I literally shopped for a wife in the Philippines but that is really no different than trying to date here in the US using some other dating app or service. My reasoning was that growing up having a Filam best friend and how his mother treated me as a teenager. Later on in life I remembered that and thought it would be nice to have a wife so nice like my friends mother and not an American wife without traditional values. My spouse is very educated, more so that I and literally worked just to take care of her family. Her father had passed away at just the age of 48 due to myocardial infarction. I was talking to several filipinas and once I decided on the one I wanted, I pursued her and showed up in Manila. She's from Ternate, Cavite and did not believe in a million years she would ever hook up with a foreigner, but it happen. At the time I was 29 years old and was not having much luck in the US dating, honestly because I feel I am not well off. I had a good job but no degree. So I started to think that maybe a foreign wife would not put so much emphasis on income and material objects. We were married in 2013 and I am only 2.5 years older than her. We've been married almost 10 years and have 3 children. Even her mother lives here now in the US with us and she is a huge help. Daycare is crazy expensive these days, so that saves us all lots of money. I never had much to say about an age gap between two people. In my experience learning about filipino culture, a lot of women are just waiting for the right person that may never come their way and a lot of them are still virgins. They want what anyone else wants, to be loved and have a family. If they can achieve that with someone 20-40 years their senior, then why not?
There is nothing wrong with age gaps in either direction. I had a girlfriend for many years and she was 14 years younger. Now I am married to a woman who is 10 years older. To me, age is just a number, it only matters how you keep up and how "old" you feel.
It's not unusual. I live in Hawaii, 62-yo and became a widower last year. Almost immediately I had beautiful younger women flirting with me from teens to 30's, Caucasian, Japanese, Korean, Filipina, and I don't get around much or socialize. Mother's have come to me talking about their daughters (more than one). So it's not just the Philippines
It all comes down to "who are we to judge" as you mentioned. I learned a long time ago that whatever other people do is none of my business unless I can help. Truthfully I think most people judging these age gaps are envious or jealous and that is sad!
Pea, awesome as usual. I have some filipina friends and they talk about age gaps...and say that women in Phil's are gold diggers. Filipinas say that and think that about each other.
To all Filipinas, your definition of gold digger is NOT the same as in USA & Europe!
Truthfully it's hard to find any gold diggers in Phil's. Not in our sense of the word. In philippines they may want the security and safety....and nice things but they still take care of the man, the house, cook, clean, and make him feel loved. In the west a GD does not provide sex, cook, clean, or give a crap about the man. She wants him to hire help for everything and only gives sex when she gets expensive gifts.
If the woman likes the man has money so what....shit we ourselves like we have money. But if she denies him sexually or doesn't want to work and do her share of cooking and cleaning that's different. I haven't seen that in asia at all. Even the ones that love the designer stuff over there still take pride in their house and make their man happy.
Filipinas need to give each other a break. You are warm caring people. Maybe there are different levels of full on Filipinaism...haha (my word) but all levels are better than western style gold diggers
Interesting distinction, LT! Good point 👍
Filipinas need security too, but at least we provide value in return 😊
More bang for the buck 😂😂😂😂
Great video. Interesting topic. It is always good to hear the local and native perspective on a topic that internationally will have many view points.
Brad Pitt is 58 years old. Denzil Washington is 67. Every American woman would leave their young husband for either of them in a heartbeat.
Good evening there in the Philippines from Oregon in America. Keeping bias out of your videos is much appreciated as it is an increasingly rare trait to find. Openmindedness, and willingness to hear and consider opposing views is the best path to wisdom. Here's wishing you all the best now and in the future.
Thanks Robert, I try my best 👍😊
i really like this woman, she's extremely relatable and smart and well thought out. amazingly impressive. i started watching these by chance not really wanting to marry a Filipina, but if they are anything like her, im convinced
I just came across your video and found it interesting. I was 52 and my filipina wife was 22 when we married. In 13 days it will be 15 years that we have been married. We are both very happy together and neither of us would change it for anything in the world. The people that have a problem with an age gap should just remember that it isn't their life but the life of the couple. If the couple is happy then that is all that matters. I will show my wife this video later.
I'm currently 53, and I been talking to a 22 year old province girl who lives on a farm, this could be me writing this in 15 years.
Enjoyable video. I'm married to a Filipina from the province, who is 14 years younger than me. She keeps me in line and is a typical Filipina, loving, caring and cute. Plus a great cook! And most of our friends don't even ask the age question, both Filipino and non-Filipino. So to me, it's up to the individuals involved and nobody else's business. We are both happy.
I've been with my asawa 11 years massive age gap three beautiful kids and happy together, best family life anywhere. Give it up for the dedicated pinay
Another brilliant essay, Pea. I appreciate how much thought it takes to consider all the different facets of this subject & how much effort is needed to present your thoughts so clearly & so entertainingly. I'm reassured by your experiences of other peoples' age-gap relationships in the Philippines being commonly genuine, caring partnerships; this was something I feared might be too much to hope for & I had decided not to try.
This is thought provoking, intellectual content which I don't find so often on UA-cam & I appreciate it.
Your other vlogs are not always like this but over a couple of years I've warmed to you so much as a personality that I'm happy to see whatever it is you want to show me and I find I appreciate your lively, sociable side too.
I just worry that you're working yourself too hard, Pea
Real and true love has no bounds, great job Pea for showing that there is much more to relationships than just looks and appearance, and what people perceive to be the standard/normal/traditional relationships do not always work... and are a stereotype of what people believe in. The divorce rate is high here in the usa for those very reasons.
Hello sweet Pea!! I've never written to you or, even commented on any of these u-tube clips you do. But I have been watching you for quite a long time and I have to say I have never met a young woman such as yourself before in my life, I'm a 62-year-old guy and have been through many seriously changing situations in my life. You on the other hand are years younger than I and seem to have just as much wisdom, defiantly extremely intelligent, well versed in the English language, and have great common sense. You have great poise, charm, and are just a true pleasure to listen to, not to mention gorgeous to look at. All I can say is! of all the different u-tube videos I watch? I am amazed at the info you bring to the table. People here in the USA should be singing your phrases for all the incredible info you give us. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for being such a beautiful human being. I would give my soul to be your partner in life!!! My very best to you!! please keep up the GREAT work you do, and never change inside, you are one amazing woman!!! 🙂 LOVE you!! and all you bring.............. Benny
My wife and I met when she was 42 and I was 29 just turning 30. We had so much in common, PROLLY BECAUSE, when I was born in 1963, I was self-aware almost right away! Weird I know since most children can't remember until they are about 6 yrs old! Saying you can remember at age 4 is practically unheard of!!! But as for my-self I was 8 months old when I remember I was sitting on the floor watching TV with my dad and he shouted to my mom, "Hey Maydean! come look at these guys with long hair getting off of the plane!" It was the Beatles.
My point is that I know a lot more, and can relate to the 60's, while my wife at that time was 12 yrs old, just turning 13!!! So anything she talks about from those times I was right there experiencing all of it!!! I can relate to her more than anyone my own age. Well, she's gone now, and I was blessed to have such a wonderful woman in my life. I'm turning 60 in 4/3/2023.
Hi Pea. Thank you for yet another great video. I don't know if anyone else has mentioned it, but in the west there is a basic formula for what is supposed to be an accepted age gap, which is "half your age plus seven". As some people look young for their age and some old for their age, this formula is not set in stone, but it's a good guide if anyone is wondering how their relationship will be viewed. My wife and I are just outside this range at 61 and 34, but I think we're close enough ;) We were only married a few weeks ago and the process for bringing her here to the US is going to take a while, but maybe we will update you on how accepted our relationship is once she's here.
Me and my lady are 8 years apart. We both questioned if this age gap was acceptable in the beginning but the more we talked, the more cemented we became into each others lives.
Thank you much for presenting such a level explanation. I have a Khmer wife who is 15 years younger. I am now just accepting that people will think what they are first, biased to think, and second, ignorant of other perspectives. This is just a cost I am more than willing to pay because we are very much in love. I have a grown 18 y.o. daughter and she has a 5 year old. We look different but it works for us.
It does bother me hence why I watch your videos but hearing your comprehensive explanations is healing for me. Keep up the great work! You have far reaching impact. Legend!
The age gap has probably been discussed on every single Filipino UA-cam channel almost weekly. It almost seems like young Filipina women have to defend why they prefer older men. Everyone concludes that this is normal in the Philippines, while the men who take young women home to their country are referred to as old pigs. I actually think people can think for themselves and since we all have the freedom to do what we want, it is strictly irrelevant what people think about the age difference.
They are old pigs.
aIt is so nice to see someone of your age and beauty that is as wise beyond your years of experiences. Keep up the good work. You are doing a great service. I have met my fiance and I am in process of moving to your beautiful country. I hope we as a family will be able to promote a good lifestyle and Yahuah will allow us to be productive to your country somehow. Hopefully we will see you walking around someday and can say Hi. We are getting married in May.
❤️❤️❤️👍
You are greatly appreciated, Pea, for bringing us essential information and telling us the unvarnished truth about sensitive, contentious, and controversial topics. Thank you for your honesty!
You hit the mail on the head in terms of different cultural programming. The way a Filipina or a Filipino family look at what is a good match and the best option available can be quite different. This makes their choice just as valid as one in the west where options are different. I don’t think you’ll persuade anyone that wealth and resources are not a factor but it is in the west anyway, just a different environment. I think I understood that better thanks to you Pea!!
I’m flattered that I could possibly add anything to your understanding, Mike 👍❤️
You’re too kind Pea ❤️
I loved this video. You are obviously a very intelligent young woman and it's refreshing to see that you aren't pushing an agenda. My Filipina fiance and I will be getting married in May of 2024 right after she gets her nursing degree. I will be 72 and she'll be 4 months shy of her 34th birthday. She doesn't have an issue with our age gap and I'm about 98% over my qualms. She's stunningly beautiful, (She was a model in Paris for years.) extremely intelligent, kind, adventurous and has a wonderful sense of humor. She thinks I'm very handsome, and she always wanted to marry an educator; I am a special education teacher. I love traveling and learning about other cultures which also adds to our mutual attraction. We think we're just right for one another, and that's all that matters to us. Again, thank you for this video. 😉
For the record I am 26 years older than my Filipina wife of 5 years, who was 18 when when we got together, after things went sour with a 31 year old who neglected to tell she had previously married. She also approached me.
Love or physical attraction is the worst reason for getting married. It is why the US has a 50% divorce rate.
In my experience money does and should always have a prominent role in marriage, especially for a Filipina who cant get a divorce if her husband runs out on her. This is doubly true do with these age gap relations. As my wife and most of the younger women in her family will tell you they can find plenty of loving, thoughtful, considerate broke ass men in the Philippines, but it doesn't benefit them or the children they want to have, or their family in general long term and not a good marriage prospect. I do think one of the things a man with money must do when he gets into these sorts of relationships with great economic disparity, is to ensure she and her family gain the ability to better themselves economically through education and if necessary investment in their future.
What did my wife get, besides a flabby, pale skin, green eyed, blond guy with a wicked sense of humor, and a beautiful daughter everyone is already trying to put in pageants even though she just turned 2? She got to finish high school which her mother was having trouble affording after having a worthless drunk husband with massive gambling debts (not uncommon in the hinterlands of Mindanao). I have put her through university and will complete a masters before we both go to the US. Her sister is now able to go to university too, her tita finished her teaching degree at 32yo and for the first time making decent money (by Filipino standards), and her mother got her masters and went from Teacher I to Teacher III and working towards Master Teacher status. She has 12 cousins who for the first time are in the proper school uniforms and not unacceptable clothes that made them too ashamed to go to school. They have my love and support, even when I am back in the US working like right now. When I am at home in the Philippines, what do I get? A crowded, but still comfortable house in the provinces which my wife now owns outright and a condo in Davao in my name. At home in either place, I have an adoring wife and family that fusses over me, that never makes me feel I need to be more than I am, that will never let me grow old and die alone in some hell hole old folks home. I give love and respect and get it in return.
I was 53, she was 21. That was 13 years ago and we are still going strong! Edit it definitely wasn’t for the money either!
Cool I’m so glad to hear that from you…I’m 54 and there is a very young lady that is highly attracted to me..she came and told me..she is 18.
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That’s just sick.
lol
What a great video! Thank you for your thoughtful overview on both sides of this issue. As a westerner I certainly have grown up with certain bias’ and love to see them challenged. This why I love travel. To break the boundaries and delusion I have created in myself and become a more rounded and open person. I love the Philippines for this. It’s a land of opposites to where I come from. It’s so human to be judgemental and critical of what we don’t understand. I hope to break that chain in my small way. Thanks Bea for the insight.
The biggest "worry" on the agegap is "what do you have in common?" Usually, life experience is a no 🤪 but everything else? Asking as you get along 🤔 all good right?
I geuss I'm a bit odd in Sweden when it comes to this, both my parents remarried with a large age gap up on mom and down on dad. But it worked for them, a while atleast on dad's part 😂 so I got 2 brothers like 15 years younger then me 🤪
Every relationship has a transactional component to it, the only matter is that there is Mutural respect, dedication, and similar goals. Live and let live.
Cheers
Some people think that’s sad, but it’s reality, and if it’s accompanied with love and respect, what could be better? 😢❤️
@@TheFilipinaPea It is better if it is also accompanied with great sex
As a 74yo single man, I always appreciate your common sense thoughts and ideas about all the topics you report about on your channel. I admire that you don’t shy away from talking about sensitive topics that you so thoroughly talk about. However, I want to comment on your video about the age gap between men and women in the Philippines. Your videos about this topic gives me hope to find true love and happiness in your country. I’ve dated women of different ages in the state I live in but can’t find what I’m looking for. Younger women here want me to be their sugar daddy and older women don’t have the same energy that I do. It’s so discouraging so I stopped dating here over five years ago. Anyway, thank you for giving me new energy to want to keep trying to find love and happiness elsewhere. I’m retiring at the end of this year and I’m planning to come there to see if I can find the right person for me. Thank you for all your quality videos…
I married my filipina at 18 and I was 48. 8 years happy and 3 kids! Having so much fun!!!
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Pea, I'm always amazed at the amount of effort and time you put into your vlogs. There is no question that you out work your competition. I can only imagine the time it takes to write that script. I enjoy watching your success and seeing your channel grow. And of course another well done vlog. This one has been done countless times..... but none with the detail of yours.
Preach It Pea! Thank you so much for covering the broad spectrum of possibilities in these situations. I will be amazed if you haven't changed some minds concerning two consenting adults making a decision on what makes them happy during this very short life we all live. You are a very intelligent, well spoken young lady and will go far in anything you choose to tackle.
I am 20 years 11 months older to the day to my wife. I enjoy the fact that you do videos like this but i myself could give a rats backside what others think about my wife being in her 20s and me in my 40s. My first marriage was an utter failure, other than my daughter i got nothing but pain out of it. I also wanted more children. for me that mint finding a healthy younger woman as i did not want to risk my woman health (it would have been if she was my age or even close to it). Also as a disabled vet it was a good idea to be with a younger woman as i would have major issues trying to keep up with toddlers as our son is. I can play with him and teach him stuff but am limited do to my disability. I am happier then i have been since i got hurt in the army, and if anyone has a problem with that,.... its there problem not mine.
I am 53, and was dating a 19 year old. Was fun for a while but we just didn't share enough in common to continue. So we had a good physical relationship then moved on. But I honestly would rather find someone to love from the heart, not just the loins.
high five bro 🤣
Here is a hint from science I discovered. Find a woman that lives life from her heart based on these 4 words. Respect, trust, hope and gratitude. all based on actions. Never words alone. Words only play a supporting role. Hint: wash dishes together. Common goal. Working together to achieve the goal. Anything you do working together toward a common goal. Interpret in your heart her actions. Never words alone.
Hell yea
Well said.
My wife was 29 and I was 49 when we met. 4 sons and 10 years later still happy and it’s heaven on Earth.
My Filipina is eight years younger than I am. She loves the fact I am older. She repeatedly says I have characteristics that remind her of her dad. She also says she loves my maturity.
She has a sense of innocence I adore.
I'm so blessed to have her in my life. She says the same thing about me.
Great topic Pea!
Eight years is nothing - she probably thinks she's too old for you.
You are candid and full of insight...I enjoy your vids.... thanks.
Thanks Chris! I try to be a straight-shooter 👍😊
My last wife was 22 when we met ..i was 37 ...enjoyed our lives up until she died in a car at 38 years of age ..im 65 now and my Filipina is 25 ...i was very afraid to take on someone that young .. but ..i can see how she will grow and what she needs .. shes a gorgeous traditional girl ...hasnt really gone too far from the province .. ill take very good care of her and try to give her the tools she needs to handle life in the future ..
This current video resonated with me on a personal level. The part about people having the same conversations, doing the same things and nothing changing pretty much sums up my home town -and why I left it behind. As for age gap relationships, If two people truly give a damn about each other and make each other happy then to hell with other people's opinions. If a person finds what they are looking for in someone, -financial stability, reliability and someone who thinks long term regarding their future together, being concerned with the opinions/judgement of others shouldn't even enter into the equation. Some people will always have something negative to say and assume the worst about other people's choices especially regarding relationships. If they are happy in their own relationship it shouldn't matter if someone's older than the other or anything else for that matter but if they can't find someone to make them happy then maybe they should take notes instead of being bitter and judgmental.
My wife is 37 and I'm 69. Never been happier. In the middle of the night she still rolls over and puts her arm around me, I am so blessed and so is she.
Again, perfectly articulate, polished and well reasoned. You should be a news anchor. Super professional. Well done, again.
I love how thoughtful and articulate you are. Keep up the good work. BTW: the single best relationship I ever had - most loving, most sane, most drama-free, was the one with the largest age difference. In this case, we were both American, and Caucasian, but here's what I see all around me: most women my age (63) are very bitter about men - at least here in the USA.