Lost my apartment, lost my girlfriend, lost my job, and I had back surgery the day of my birthday. I know how you feel but if there's anything that could make you feel better, it's telling yourself that its all temporary. You are young and there will be a point of your life where you will feel fully accomplished 😊.....ps "self love" is very important!
holy cow. I relate so hard. Life is hard and especially in school when these are "the best days of your life" and you're just sitting there pretending you're okay when really you see the part of you which you don't show others and you judge yourself on the person you see even though you are doing wonderful things by other people's standards.
I've been feeling the same way lately, Ariel. There are all these people who are ripped, skinny, and somehow balance work or grades(grades in my case) and social life. I'm struggling with getting all C's and somehow I seem to weigh more every week. I've fallen into these bouts of being on the verge of crying, but wanting to cry so much, nothing comes out. Anyway, I respect you so much for saying this publicly, even though there are bound to be people who will criticize you. Thanks, this made me feel a lot better, cheers from Nevada!
I'm very sorry you're feeling this way Ariel and I wish I could offer better advice, but I'd just try to think about these struggles as speedbumps on the road of life that are always going to be there, but through these struggles, you will become stronger and wiser, like the forging of metals. Or if those analogies don't work, how about this one: when you feel like you're just being pulled back in every aspect of life, or having a really difficult time, think of yourself as an arrow- an arrow can only fly when pulled back, so you're just preparing to fly! Ooo, I got another one: when sculpting marble, you must start with a rectangular prism, and you do have to start pounding on it and crack off the edges and break off huge chunks of what is already a beautiful piece of rock, but the end result is even more beautiful, even after the hard and messy process of sculpting it. I hope you can put one of those the good use, haha, good luck in college and I hope things get easier for you!
As someone in his last year of engineering school, my life is just as messy. I'm tired and like you, don't feel like I am being as fun to hang around as usual. I also recently had a fraternity brother pass away so that add more stuff and emotional exhaustion. The point I am getting at is that 1. You aren't alone in this feeling. and 2. This will sound like generic advice, but take a deep breathe and close your eyes then focus on one thing you have to get done at a time. If I think about everything all at once I get super overwhelmed and stressed out. Also take time to do something fun that you enjoy. Despite have a ton of work I still go rock climbing 3 times a week because I need to in order to not stress out. Hope that helps.
Hey Ariel, I'm Gabriel from Brazil, and i have felt this way for a long time, because I sing too, and because here in Brazil we (students of a private school) have to be too much focused, and because of it I wasn't sharing music with anyone, and it was really bad for me, now I feel better about myself, bc i can do a lot of things while studying hard. All I have to say for you, is : Keep being Who you are, happy, lovely and a smart person, Who treats everyone like they have to be treated. I really appreciate you, and what you do, just look for a organized life and trust in your future, love your family... I'm LDS and I know that God and His Son love you, don't forget Who you are ... and thats it ... Congrats
ariel! you're doing great!! thanks for sharing your life, it surely makes me happy and a better person. it's not easy to be in school, have friends, take care of yourself, eat, feel confident, call your mom, do your laundry, but make sure to do things you love, and still get your schoolwork done, and sleep, and and and. But if it helps, you're so talented and spirited and hecka SMART and thoughtful.
the way I described this feeling a couple years ago was "I feel like I'm driving down the road watching the rearview mirror seeing the destruction I've cause as I continue on my path of destruction"
A human today will always find flaws about themselves even if they are perfect in the eyes of others. It's all in your head and probably has a connection with school. You seem stressed out. Let me just tell you that you are awesome and that I believe in you! :)
I'm in the same situation right now, but well we just have to stay strong and keep it up. :) I don't think life is going to be any less stressful for me the next time, but I can only keep on working at it :D
Thanks for sharing. It takes a lot of courage to open up, but this is so healthy. We all have some downs moments and I am sure by now you have passed this. I am also sure there is a bright future waiting for you. I would kill to have a friend like you.
Omg every word you said feels so relatable to me. I just want you to know that it's okay to feel whatever you're feeling :) You don't always have to be happy and organised, sometimes you need to question yourself, your actions, your environment, your life... to grow as a person and to learn. Listen to yourself and give yourself a big hug🌸
Ms Ariel, please don't feel strange.. college is hard! Yeah, it's fun at times,... but in essence, college is just a means to an end to get you to the future or career that you want. All the classes and assignments.. nothing is on your terms anymore.. All of a sudden, you HAVE TO do things.. it is a straight-up chore! and it makes you think like, ''man, there are a million other things I'd rather be doing right now!''.. But, rest assured, college isn't forever. It's like a big 4 year tattoo.. once the temporary pain and angst are over, you have something that will last you a lifetime :) Stay strong! ..and stay You! :)
I joined the military later in life after going to college first and being away from home feels a lot like how you describe being at college. It never gets easier for me but I think our 20s are supposed to be this messy, and sometimes it is too much. You mentioned in another video that happiness means you’re at peace but what helps me is to think of happiness as not a destination and its meant to come and go as we experience life. You’re a beautiful person and I love that you’re transparent about things that aren’t perfect. Keep doing you and happiness will certainly come!
You seem like an awesome person to be friends with. Your videos always remind me the importance of smiling and thats very hard to find in days like these. Surround yourself with people who love you for who you actually are :)
I'm really glad you posted this video. I've been feeling somewhat the same, and I love being able to connect with you like this. You're one of my favorite youtubers and I'll be here while you figure things out *hugs*
Thinking of yourself in a negative or self critical way is usually in comparison to someone else whether it's a conscious comparison or an unconscious one. But we're all different and unique. We all have our quirks, our ups and downs. We all have our own flaws but we also have our own little things that make us who we are. Whether it's a hobby or a talent or just your personality. No one is any better or worse than someone else. Learning to accept yourself and love who you are rather than be self critical in wishing you were different or someone else is something I've learned I have to do. And I think that we all have to do that. Don't get too down on yourself. You're an amazing (and adorable) human and no one could ever even think to replace you.
Individuality is important to happiness. Be yourself, don't worry what others say, and just live each day to the fullest. You're beautiful so keep smiling that gorgeous smile and things will get better! :)
I relate to this so much. I never thought I was a person who had their shit together but lately I've been a complete mess with work and school. I feel pathetic because I am only taking one class. I don't have advice that I know that will work. But what I am doing for myself right now that has helped me a bit is taking time for myself. Like just going on a 15 minute walk and focusing on whats around me instead of not worrying what I have to get done at that moment. Even just watching youtube videos to help get my mind off of things has helped. With a few crying sessions a week before bed, but hey, I feel better afterward. I also plan out future things, it helps remind me that everything I am currently going through is temporary. I also have an addiction to tattoos. But that is just my mess.
I totally understand! This is extremely relatable to me at the time as well! I am super involved in so many things in college and then I am taking 4 classes in my major/minor and its all seeming to pile up. I have been sick for 2 weeks! Like how does that happen?!?! I don't seem to have an exact piece of advice, but what I do that seems to help is just take 30 min a day to relax and think of all the things I'm grateful for and think of what I am trying to achieve with my schooling. And with a cray schedule like ours, it may seem crazy to take 30 min out of it. But just really aim for it, and it will help. Just stay positive and set a goal every morning for your school and for yourself and make sure you get it done. I also dance and i haven't had time to come up with choreography and it makes me super sad. But watching this makes me realize that we are college students and our lives will never be this busy again. So we just have to push through it and make the best out of every day! Stay strong and thank you for expressing yourself!
you described exactly how i feel right now! i hope it will pass. i need peace in my mind!😬 respect for you to put your feelings out here, that takes a lot of courage:)
First thing that comes to mind is to not care too much on little things that worry you. Relax, find a hobby and lose your time there. Make sure you study hard while at school and do the best you can in life. Good luck!
Damn, I really saw me in this video. Sometimes life is really tough and we think that we can't handle it. Anyway, I don't have any good tips too, but I don't know maybe a problem is just a problem because we interpret it as one. Life has the color we paint, don't be so damn hard with yourself My bests regards from brazil!
This couldn't have explained my current life any better. I'm going through the exact same thing, and I don't have any advice either.. I'm just trying to stay a float and hope I can figure it out sooner than later.. I hope your week gets better
with 20,000 subs that's a lot of love and acceptance of you just the way you are. Most people have lots of issues and hopefully develop tools to deal with them. xx
just have to say that I'm just discovering your channel and I'm really enjoying it :) also, it's really hard to get rid of those habits of being very hard on yourself. This may make me sound a bit weird but I usually imagine a scenario where I'm talking to a stranger who is kind of helping me break down why I feel the way I do, why I'm so hard on myself, try to get me to realize it's very warped in my eyes. Like in reality I'm just talking to myself but it feels like I'm venting without a filter to someone who completely gets it. I hope this could help in any way, and I hope you feel better
You are so wise, you have much insight on life and once you learn to use that, and once you learn more about yourself, you'll go far places and inspire many. You have my entire support throughout everything. You keep doing what you love, because I look forward to watching you grow and become amazing.
Hey! If that is any help you should know that all your music videos are bringing some sunshine too my boring afternoon at work across the atlantic ocean ;) Hard times are part of life. It comes and goes. Don't worry!
Hang in there! Lots of us feel these type of feelings in some way or another and I'm sure you'll find your way through it eventually, give it some time :) and it's totally okay to feel overwhelmed sometimes, after all you're only human! :)
Your honesty and realness is so inspiring. We all love and support you- and don't feel like it's just you there are so many people, including myself, in the exact same boat. I'm a senior in college and I still wonder what the hell I'm doing here. It'll get better love, hang in there!😊
Dude, you're not a mess, life is a mess, and we're are all just doing the best we can in it's messy mess of a mess. But you got this, and you're epic. :)
We are here for you . Thanks for sharing your feelings with us . Like we know you better . You’ll get through this . Those are real tears . Good to talk about things that are troubling us .
Let me start by saying I think you're amazing. I've found myself in the situation you're in plenty of times before, it comes and goes in waves with me. What I've found to be helpful is to 1. BREATHE. It might sound silly or cliche even, but taking multiple deep breaths after another really actually helps calm your mind. 2. Instead of focusing so much on the aspects you don't like, try and shift your focus to positive things. Especially things you're most thankful for, that's seem to make me recognize the bigger picture. I'm not going to lie, this point in life is going to be difficult. And if it happens to you on multiple occasions, some occurrences will be more difficult than others but you HAVE to stay strong. If you let your thoughts weaken your vibes, you lose. Achieving true self love isn't easy, you're going to have to fight for it. You have awesome family, friends and supporters that are more than willing to stand by you and help you when you need it. Don't give up, Ariel. ❤️
Everyone has "ups" and "downs". And thats the way it should be. Without the "downs" our "ups" wouldn't have any value or meaning. The least we can do is not to worry to much about puffy eyes, and try to look forward to the "ups" that eventually do come :) Hang in there Ariel, one paper at a time. P.S. i love your glasses :D
Those 4 literature classes have to be tough. By the way I can't see your rolls, or your acne, or ur puffy eyes all I see is big heart of yours that you exhaust yourself. Focus on one of those many aspects of yourself that you want to dig deeper in and screw everything else. Don't be so fed up with Inst followers or whatever just be the best you can be and your trying and that's more than what 90% of people are doing so I hope you can figure this out. :)
everybody has a inner mess, and it is hard to handle alone. If you read this, comment your mess, make a video, let's build a group of "mess fixers". I am a very passionate person, and it kills every planning I do.
your videos make me so happy, you transmit a great energy and sometimes it's good to know that people who seem to have a perfect life (like you) also have problems like anyone. Thank you for not pretending to be perfect as others do. You inspire me
Start to think positive about everything, even if everything isn't okay. Take a breath and say to yourself in the mirror, I can do this. Write somewhere what do you want for your life and what is the things do you wanna have. Do things that make you happy. Eat better, be a better person, go get what you want! DON'T blame yourself. Sorry if there's some grammar mistake. English isn't my first language... I hope u be alright! ps: I also like to be a mess when I'm in control of the situation. But it's a really BIG problem control everything, cus you get tired and more, more tired sometime. But, feel bad it's good to, that's the way to learn how handle with those feelings.
You're perfect the way you are. Messy or not, craziest on campus or serious, it doesn't matter, You're yourself and that's what makes someone special. It's always good to chase better results, to be a better person, but perfection does not exist! It is better to look back and acknowledge all the amazing things you've achieved so far. Loving ourself is one of the hardest things to learn, but totally worth it! After all, the person we spend the most time with is ourself, right? Better start enjoying our company asap. Life will be prettier (Some Ice and Gin also helps). and for last, you are beautifull, stunishing, and your puffy eyes are cute haha! I hope I can make you at least a little better with this comment! Cheers from a huge fan from Brazil!
Hey, I recently subscribed to you because your taste in music is great and your singing is amazing, and then I saw this and I needed to comment. I know that you have thousands of people who are jumping to help you and who would want to look out for you, so one more comment may not matter, but I really, really hope you are doing well. I'm in my second semester in college and feel similar sometimes, I feel like my life is falling apart because I have a lot of things to do and don't end up doing them and don't take care of myself and stuff like that. Its really hard to get through moments like that, and I think that one of the best things to do is to take a breath, look at your life and the good things in it and find the reason why you keep moving forward and hold on to that reason. All of us are messy in our lives, no one is perfect no matter how hard we try to be perfect, but someone loves you for who you are not just who you could be or who you are at your best moments. Good luck with school and everything you have and I hope to see you share more videos and songs in the future, because we all love seeing you sing and be happy. -Duncan C
You only live once so you should think about what makes you happy. Because i really believe that everyone should stop being so hard with themselves, no one it's perfect... but every single person is special and unique💙ly (Sorry for my bad English)
your music always fills me with so much calm, if that makes you feel better at all. i love listening to you, and i feel for you. its a struggle. much love to you. feel better
I'm not going to assure you that everything is going to be perfect. life sucks--it's NEVER perfect. but hang in there anyway. soon enough, you'll be at that point where you can take control of your situation. and after what you're going through now, it's going to mean a hell of a lot more than it would otherwise. good luck. you're amazing and I wish you the best
I know exactly how you feel, I'm sorry I don't know what to tell you but except it will pass. in life we go through peaks and valleys, right now your in a valley and climbing your way up. ps. I admire the courage it took to post this, so thank you this actually helped me out :)
I feel you I am struggling with school right now like I just want to take a nice big breath if you know what I mean I mean I am not failing but it is soooo hard on me right now stay strong you can do it I am all ways hear if you need someone to talk to
I know it's probably too late for my reply but I hope someone ( including me) will get some help from my next sentences, so firstly I have the same problem except my "skills" are not something tangible as you have music :D but when you have sometimes mood when you feel like you don't belong anywhere or you don't know what to do with your life just think about the feeling when you are somewhere alone in night and you don't do anything just stare at the ceiling or listen music or watch night sky... then you don't worry about what you have to accomplish or what else you need to do tomorrow and so on, there is just you and the room/sky... but you can be like that during the day too, if you strive to be perfect then by all means you can do that but remember that life is just the game, it's game where you can became everything or nothing and it wouldn't matter, life is here so you can experience whatever you want, not to give you purpose like " you will be blacksmith and nothing else" thats bullshit of modern times, there is someone who wait in lines for other people, it can be waste of time but it's what he wants to do... there are people who create models of planes (recently I saw someone put like 1000 hours to make precise model of plane from the wood) and so on, but there is one thing you can do to make something from your life, give to the people - your time, your money or something that you don't need anymore, be supportive to people and be here for them, in your case Ariel (beautiful name by the way) you can create song or something and that way you give energy to people and you can for example just go somewhere between people and sing and play and thats too giving in some way, but don't regret any moment of your life, that's not what you should do with it, you should embrace it, every emotion and every event in your life is there for the reason and it doesn't matter if you can or cannot change your fate, and another thing is to believe in something, it mostly doesn't matter in what, maybe in God or that you will live next day or something, there are more things about this but if you remember that YOU ARLEADY ARE PERFECT, because you are (nobody is like you so there is no perfect, it's fake to starve to be perfect and seeking recognition or something from others, never do anything just because you want recognition, it's not worth it because you can slip to money wanting side of humanity and as Will Smith said " We spend money that we do not have, on things we do not need, to impress people who do not care" and that's this scenario, you can change for others but that will make you miserable because it's fake) and till you remember that you will be okay :D sorry for so long comment (and message before) , have a blessed day :D
The face that you put to the problems is what really matters, I think that we don't have to take the problems serious, maybe we can see them like a test, a hard one jaja, and at the end of it will teach how much you know of your self and the life, and of course there will be people that is looking for your failure, and in that moment is when you don't have to put attention and get focus to pass that shit, jaja. When we pass the hard part, comes the easiest one. Don't worry, be happy!! jaja
Don't care what people think about you ever. I used to care then became disabled and everyone can see my disability. I realized quickly life is too short to care what others think.
Aw I'm so sorry the education weight it getting to you!! I hope you know you're a goddess and the way you feel is a priority!!! Just do what feels good to you and you'll get where you want to be. If you have so many classes to do it's definitely going to hit your self esteem and make you more self critical!! If you think you art fat then love that!!! Because that's okay!! You're still beautiful it doesn't stop that and it doesn't matter what anybody thinks because if you love you others will see all the things you love easier!!! You're allowed to be a mess you're getting there but I promise this current discomfort is just the weird feeling of you growing
Its so wird im waching this and I feel the same way about my life right now The feeling of being a mess is becomeing a costant thing in my life, and i wish i have something nice to say to you yo make you feel better but l just want to tell you that everything is gonna pass and youre gonna look back some day and say im ok now and am happy about who i became, ps: i love youre music keep doing what you love and in the end life is what we wanted to be.
Hey I'm feeling the same way for slightly different reasons. I think for me it's just getting my shit together :P Hope you feel better about stuff soon! (I like your vids btw ;))
I don't know your financial situation at all, but I recommend taking less classes next semester so you can focus better on everything and have more free time to do the things you love! You gorgeous and we all love you here
I hv the same problem. Whatever you are sharing i feel that for myself but looking at you i feel that you are the most loveable person and i wouldn't want you to change. ♡♡♡
That was not just about your life .... we all are mess, you defined situation of all the guys and girls who are in their early twenties like me lol. This world now offers so much to us we just can't decide where should we go & why should we go. You literally said every single thought of mine. I'm glad i've found your channel ... do share your thoughts more often.
I don't know you like in person and stuff and my life it's not the best either so I don't know if what I'm gonna say will help. Everytime I have some kind of struggle I think about bigger problems like war or just masive things like the universe and stuff, and how work, school, appearence or many other things that we consider important are insignificant compared to all these. At some point it's also usefull having low expectations about life: bad things happen to everyone just like good things. I can see you know you're awesome haha but we have to go through all of this in order to grow up. This life will happen just once, with this people at this time so just do your best, for you. But don't YOLO it haha
Of course you aren't perfect, but no one is. There is literally no true definition of perfect. That's why we all just have to form our own version of perfect and if that means having little flaws and being insecure at times its okay as long as ultimately you love yourself and try to realize the great things about you!
well I don't really comment much but I just think you should just love yourself and I know that's what everyone says but it's true there's no process it's a state of mind no matter what you just say I love myself and repetition will give results.. school is hard relationships are hard life is hard but you can't let it get to you..you are a beautiful person and once you understand and love yourself those thoughts will go away..and eventually others opinions and judgement won't matter anymore...no one is perfect and no one needs to be because all of our individual flaws make us human and that in itself is beautiful...just smile it'll be okay
Heyyy I don't know if youre gonna read this, but I feel very confortable with this video, like it is a little chat. I feel like a mess all the time too, but I think this is the way life is, it's just a mess haha. I really like your voice and I just like you, you are great 💗
But what is a perfect person? Who's perfection are you basing it off. Like you said it's all about self love and being ok with your flaws and then finding someone that compliments them or also loves you for them. Your college load is crazy, but if that's the direction you believe is right for you then strive through, it's only temporary.
Ahm... Maybe doing some livestreams or hangouts with us could help cheering you up.. You know, seeing us as actual people that support and care about you :)
if you're a mess, then what am I?
Lost my apartment, lost my girlfriend, lost my job, and I had back surgery the day of my birthday. I know how you feel but if there's anything that could make you feel better, it's telling yourself that its all temporary. You are young and there will be a point of your life where you will feel fully accomplished 😊.....ps "self love" is very important!
Your a beautiful spirit.. Stay grounded
Dang, this is the most relatable thing I've seen in a while. Especially this semester.
holy cow. I relate so hard. Life is hard and especially in school when these are "the best days of your life" and you're just sitting there pretending you're okay when really you see the part of you which you don't show others and you judge yourself on the person you see even though you are doing wonderful things by other people's standards.
I've been feeling the same way lately, Ariel. There are all these people who are ripped, skinny, and somehow balance work or grades(grades in my case) and social life. I'm struggling with getting all C's and somehow I seem to weigh more every week. I've fallen into these bouts of being on the verge of crying, but wanting to cry so much, nothing comes out. Anyway, I respect you so much for saying this publicly, even though there are bound to be people who will criticize you. Thanks, this made me feel a lot better, cheers from Nevada!
I'm very sorry you're feeling this way Ariel and I wish I could offer better advice, but I'd just try to think about these struggles as speedbumps on the road of life that are always going to be there, but through these struggles, you will become stronger and wiser, like the forging of metals. Or if those analogies don't work, how about this one: when you feel like you're just being pulled back in every aspect of life, or having a really difficult time, think of yourself as an arrow- an arrow can only fly when pulled back, so you're just preparing to fly! Ooo, I got another one: when sculpting marble, you must start with a rectangular prism, and you do have to start pounding on it and crack off the edges and break off huge chunks of what is already a beautiful piece of rock, but the end result is even more beautiful, even after the hard and messy process of sculpting it. I hope you can put one of those the good use, haha, good luck in college and I hope things get easier for you!
As someone in his last year of engineering school, my life is just as messy. I'm tired and like you, don't feel like I am being as fun to hang around as usual. I also recently had a fraternity brother pass away so that add more stuff and emotional exhaustion. The point I am getting at is that 1. You aren't alone in this feeling. and 2. This will sound like generic advice, but take a deep breathe and close your eyes then focus on one thing you have to get done at a time. If I think about everything all at once I get super overwhelmed and stressed out. Also take time to do something fun that you enjoy. Despite have a ton of work I still go rock climbing 3 times a week because I need to in order to not stress out. Hope that helps.
Hey Ariel, I'm Gabriel from Brazil, and i have felt this way for a long time, because I sing too, and because here in Brazil we (students of a private school) have to be too much focused, and because of it I wasn't sharing music with anyone, and it was really bad for me, now I feel better about myself, bc i can do a lot of things while studying hard. All I have to say for you, is : Keep being Who you are, happy, lovely and a smart person, Who treats everyone like they have to be treated. I really appreciate you, and what you do, just look for a organized life and trust in your future, love your family...
I'm LDS and I know that God and His Son love you, don't forget Who you are ... and thats it ... Congrats
Boa sorte no enem
Valeu hahaha , Medical School here in Brazil is really difficult to pass , and continue in the course, but everyone can do it , then lets go... kkk
ariel! you're doing great!! thanks for sharing your life, it surely makes me happy and a better person. it's not easy to be in school, have friends, take care of yourself, eat, feel confident, call your mom, do your laundry, but make sure to do things you love, and still get your schoolwork done, and sleep, and and and. But if it helps, you're so talented and spirited and hecka SMART and thoughtful.
the way I described this feeling a couple years ago was "I feel like I'm driving down the road watching the rearview mirror seeing the destruction I've cause as I continue on my path of destruction"
A human today will always find flaws about themselves even if they are perfect in the eyes of others. It's all in your head and probably has a connection with school. You seem stressed out. Let me just tell you that you are awesome and that I believe in you! :)
I'm in the same situation right now, but well we just have to stay strong and keep it up. :) I don't think life is going to be any less stressful for me the next time, but I can only keep on working at it :D
Thanks for sharing. It takes a lot of courage to open up, but this is so healthy. We all have some downs moments and I am sure by now you have passed this. I am also sure there is a bright future waiting for you. I would kill to have a friend like you.
People say those things are bad, the little imperfections, but I think that's the good stuff. That's what makes you - you.
Well said.
*inserts somewhat of a funny joke to make you laugh*
Omg every word you said feels so relatable to me. I just want you to know that it's okay to feel whatever you're feeling :) You don't always have to be happy and organised, sometimes you need to question yourself, your actions, your environment, your life... to grow as a person and to learn. Listen to yourself and give yourself a big hug🌸
I don't know how but you managed to make me adore you even more.
Ms Ariel, please don't feel strange.. college is hard! Yeah, it's fun at times,... but in essence, college is just a means to an end to get you to the future or career that you want. All the classes and assignments.. nothing is on your terms anymore.. All of a sudden, you HAVE TO do things.. it is a straight-up chore! and it makes you think like, ''man, there are a million other things I'd rather be doing right now!''..
But, rest assured, college isn't forever. It's like a big 4 year tattoo.. once the temporary pain and angst are over, you have something that will last you a lifetime :)
Stay strong! ..and stay You! :)
I joined the military later in life after going to college first and being away from home feels a lot like how you describe being at college. It never gets easier for me but I think our 20s are supposed to be this messy, and sometimes it is too much. You mentioned in another video that happiness means you’re at peace but what helps me is to think of happiness as not a destination and its meant to come and go as we experience life. You’re a beautiful person and I love that you’re transparent about things that aren’t perfect. Keep doing you and happiness will certainly come!
You seem like an awesome person to be friends with. Your videos always remind me the importance of smiling and thats very hard to find in days like these. Surround yourself with people who love you for who you actually are :)
these feelings will pass. everyday is a new chance to make yourself. don't rush it
I'm really glad you posted this video. I've been feeling somewhat the same, and I love being able to connect with you like this. You're one of my favorite youtubers and I'll be here while you figure things out *hugs*
Keep smiling.
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Kudos for discussing your emotions so openly. Hope you have a good night.
Thinking of yourself in a negative or self critical way is usually in comparison to someone else whether it's a conscious comparison or an unconscious one. But we're all different and unique. We all have our quirks, our ups and downs. We all have our own flaws but we also have our own little things that make us who we are. Whether it's a hobby or a talent or just your personality. No one is any better or worse than someone else. Learning to accept yourself and love who you are rather than be self critical in wishing you were different or someone else is something I've learned I have to do. And I think that we all have to do that. Don't get too down on yourself. You're an amazing (and adorable) human and no one could ever even think to replace you.
Been feeling same way pretty much all year so far.
Individuality is important to happiness. Be yourself, don't worry what others say, and just live each day to the fullest. You're beautiful so keep smiling that gorgeous smile and things will get better! :)
I relate to this so much. I never thought I was a person who had their shit together but lately I've been a complete mess with work and school. I feel pathetic because I am only taking one class. I don't have advice that I know that will work. But what I am doing for myself right now that has helped me a bit is taking time for myself. Like just going on a 15 minute walk and focusing on whats around me instead of not worrying what I have to get done at that moment. Even just watching youtube videos to help get my mind off of things has helped. With a few crying sessions a week before bed, but hey, I feel better afterward. I also plan out future things, it helps remind me that everything I am currently going through is temporary. I also have an addiction to tattoos. But that is just my mess.
I totally understand! This is extremely relatable to me at the time as well! I am super involved in so many things in college and then I am taking 4 classes in my major/minor and its all seeming to pile up. I have been sick for 2 weeks! Like how does that happen?!?! I don't seem to have an exact piece of advice, but what I do that seems to help is just take 30 min a day to relax and think of all the things I'm grateful for and think of what I am trying to achieve with my schooling. And with a cray schedule like ours, it may seem crazy to take 30 min out of it. But just really aim for it, and it will help. Just stay positive and set a goal every morning for your school and for yourself and make sure you get it done. I also dance and i haven't had time to come up with choreography and it makes me super sad. But watching this makes me realize that we are college students and our lives will never be this busy again. So we just have to push through it and make the best out of every day! Stay strong and thank you for expressing yourself!
It's okay Ariel things always get better, not easier but better... So keep smiling, your beautiful.
i completely understand, i hope you get through it all
"I feel like my personality sometimes is very inconsistent" SAME SAME OH DEAR I COULDN'T PUT THIS INTO WORDS HUG ME
you described exactly how i feel right now! i hope it will pass. i need peace in my mind!😬 respect for you to put your feelings out here, that takes a lot of courage:)
First thing that comes to mind is to not care too much on little things that worry you. Relax, find a hobby and lose your time there. Make sure you study hard while at school and do the best you can in life. Good luck!
Damn, I really saw me in this video. Sometimes life is really tough and we think that we can't handle it. Anyway, I don't have any good tips too, but I don't know maybe a problem is just a problem because we interpret it as one. Life has the color we paint, don't be so damn hard with yourself
My bests regards from brazil!
Antônio Mendes
This couldn't have explained my current life any better. I'm going through the exact same thing, and I don't have any advice either.. I'm just trying to stay a float and hope I can figure it out sooner than later.. I hope your week gets better
with 20,000 subs that's a lot of love and acceptance of you just the way you are. Most people have lots of issues and hopefully develop tools to deal with them. xx
subscribe to Jessie cave on Twitter (lavender brown from HP) her drawings are very enlightening
just have to say that I'm just discovering your channel and I'm really enjoying it :) also, it's really hard to get rid of those habits of being very hard on yourself. This may make me sound a bit weird but I usually imagine a scenario where I'm talking to a stranger who is kind of helping me break down why I feel the way I do, why I'm so hard on myself, try to get me to realize it's very warped in my eyes. Like in reality I'm just talking to myself but it feels like I'm venting without a filter to someone who completely gets it. I hope this could help in any way, and I hope you feel better
also watching a sad movie just to get a good cry out helps me too
You are so wise, you have much insight on life and once you learn to use that, and once you learn more about yourself, you'll go far places and inspire many. You have my entire support throughout everything. You keep doing what you love, because I look forward to watching you grow and become amazing.
Hey! If that is any help you should know that all your music videos are bringing some sunshine too my boring afternoon at work across the atlantic ocean ;) Hard times are part of life. It comes and goes. Don't worry!
Do more Vlogs Ariel! Please.
Hang in there! Lots of us feel these type of feelings in some way or another and I'm sure you'll find your way through it eventually, give it some time :) and it's totally okay to feel overwhelmed sometimes, after all you're only human! :)
Don't worry, you'll get through this.
Your honesty and realness is so inspiring. We all love and support you- and don't feel like it's just you there are so many people, including myself, in the exact same boat. I'm a senior in college and I still wonder what the hell I'm doing here. It'll get better love, hang in there!😊
Dude, you're not a mess, life is a mess, and we're are all just doing the best we can in it's messy mess of a mess.
But you got this, and you're epic. :)
I feel you bc that's exactly how i feel right now, and i don't know what should i do
We are here for you . Thanks for sharing your feelings with us . Like we know you better . You’ll get through this . Those are real tears . Good to talk about things that are troubling us .
You are good, as always
I identify a lot with this video...
Let me start by saying I think you're amazing. I've found myself in the situation you're in plenty of times before, it comes and goes in waves with me. What I've found to be helpful is to 1. BREATHE. It might sound silly or cliche even, but taking multiple deep breaths after another really actually helps calm your mind. 2. Instead of focusing so much on the aspects you don't like, try and shift your focus to positive things. Especially things you're most thankful for, that's seem to make me recognize the bigger picture. I'm not going to lie, this point in life is going to be difficult. And if it happens to you on multiple occasions, some occurrences will be more difficult than others but you HAVE to stay strong. If you let your thoughts weaken your vibes, you lose. Achieving true self love isn't easy, you're going to have to fight for it. You have awesome family, friends and supporters that are more than willing to stand by you and help you when you need it. Don't give up, Ariel. ❤️
Everyone has "ups" and "downs". And thats the way it should be. Without the "downs" our "ups" wouldn't have any value or meaning. The least we can do is not to worry to much about puffy eyes, and try to look forward to the "ups" that eventually do come :) Hang in there Ariel, one paper at a time.
P.S. i love your glasses :D
Those 4 literature classes have to be tough. By the way I can't see your rolls, or your acne, or ur puffy eyes all I see is big heart of yours that you exhaust yourself. Focus on one of those many aspects of yourself that you want to dig deeper in and screw everything else. Don't be so fed up with Inst followers or whatever just be the best you can be and your trying and that's more than what 90% of people are doing so I hope you can figure this out. :)
everybody has a inner mess, and it is hard to handle alone. If you read this, comment your mess, make a video, let's build a group of "mess fixers". I am a very passionate person, and it kills every planning I do.
You are a sweet person :) You are amazing! Never let anyone tells you different! ❤️
your videos make me so happy, you transmit a great energy and sometimes it's good to know that people who seem to have a perfect life (like you) also have problems like anyone. Thank you for not pretending to be perfect as others do. You inspire me
Julia This is such a high compliment, thank you. I try to be as real as I can so that UA-cam is enjoyable AND honest ♡
Start to think positive about everything, even if everything isn't okay. Take a breath and say to yourself in the mirror, I can do this.
Write somewhere what do you want for your life and what is the things do you wanna have.
Do things that make you happy. Eat better, be a better person, go get what you want!
DON'T blame yourself.
Sorry if there's some grammar mistake. English isn't my first language...
I hope u be alright!
ps: I also like to be a mess when I'm in control of the situation. But it's a really BIG problem control everything, cus you get tired and more, more tired sometime.
But, feel bad it's good to, that's the way to learn how handle with those feelings.
Except for UA-cam and music we are the same and with my life right now I feel for you and I am sorry I wish you didn't but hey it's life.
You're perfect the way you are. Messy or not, craziest on campus or serious, it doesn't matter, You're yourself and that's what makes someone special. It's always good to chase better results, to be a better person, but perfection does not exist! It is better to look back and acknowledge all the amazing things you've achieved so far.
Loving ourself is one of the hardest things to learn, but totally worth it! After all, the person we spend the most time with is ourself, right? Better start enjoying our company asap. Life will be prettier (Some Ice and Gin also helps).
and for last, you are beautifull, stunishing, and your puffy eyes are cute haha!
I hope I can make you at least a little better with this comment! Cheers from a huge fan from Brazil!
Hey, I recently subscribed to you because your taste in music is great and your singing is amazing, and then I saw this and I needed to comment. I know that you have thousands of people who are jumping to help you and who would want to look out for you, so one more comment may not matter, but I really, really hope you are doing well. I'm in my second semester in college and feel similar sometimes, I feel like my life is falling apart because I have a lot of things to do and don't end up doing them and don't take care of myself and stuff like that. Its really hard to get through moments like that, and I think that one of the best things to do is to take a breath, look at your life and the good things in it and find the reason why you keep moving forward and hold on to that reason. All of us are messy in our lives, no one is perfect no matter how hard we try to be perfect, but someone loves you for who you are not just who you could be or who you are at your best moments. Good luck with school and everything you have and I hope to see you share more videos and songs in the future, because we all love seeing you sing and be happy. -Duncan C
Once a very wise person said "remember that you're awesome, no matter what!"
Remember? ;)
You only live once so you should think about what makes you happy. Because i really believe that everyone should stop being so hard with themselves, no one it's perfect... but every single person is special and unique💙ly
(Sorry for my bad English)
your music always fills me with so much calm, if that makes you feel better at all. i love listening to you, and i feel for you. its a struggle. much love to you. feel better
I'm not going to assure you that everything is going to be perfect. life sucks--it's NEVER perfect. but hang in there anyway. soon enough, you'll be at that point where you can take control of your situation. and after what you're going through now, it's going to mean a hell of a lot more than it would otherwise. good luck. you're amazing and I wish you the best
I know exactly how you feel, I'm sorry I don't know what to tell you but except it will pass. in life we go through peaks and valleys, right now your in a valley and climbing your way up.
ps. I admire the courage it took to post this, so thank you this actually helped me out :)
I feel you I am struggling with school right now like I just want to take a nice big breath if you know what I mean I mean I am not failing but it is soooo hard on me right now stay strong you can do it I am all ways hear if you need someone to talk to
Cathartic is the word of the day... Good therapy for you to vlog... You sound like a real human caught UP in iT 🙂
I know it's probably too late for my reply but I hope someone ( including me) will get some help from my next sentences, so firstly I have the same problem except my "skills" are not something tangible as you have music :D but when you have sometimes mood when you feel like you don't belong anywhere or you don't know what to do with your life just think about the feeling when you are somewhere alone in night and you don't do anything just stare at the ceiling or listen music or watch night sky... then you don't worry about what you have to accomplish or what else you need to do tomorrow and so on, there is just you and the room/sky... but you can be like that during the day too, if you strive to be perfect then by all means you can do that but remember that life is just the game, it's game where you can became everything or nothing and it wouldn't matter, life is here so you can experience whatever you want, not to give you purpose like " you will be blacksmith and nothing else" thats bullshit of modern times, there is someone who wait in lines for other people, it can be waste of time but it's what he wants to do... there are people who create models of planes (recently I saw someone put like 1000 hours to make precise model of plane from the wood) and so on, but there is one thing you can do to make something from your life, give to the people - your time, your money or something that you don't need anymore, be supportive to people and be here for them, in your case Ariel (beautiful name by the way) you can create song or something and that way you give energy to people and you can for example just go somewhere between people and sing and play and thats too giving in some way, but don't regret any moment of your life, that's not what you should do with it, you should embrace it, every emotion and every event in your life is there for the reason and it doesn't matter if you can or cannot change your fate, and another thing is to believe in something, it mostly doesn't matter in what, maybe in God or that you will live next day or something, there are more things about this but if you remember that YOU ARLEADY ARE PERFECT, because you are (nobody is like you so there is no perfect, it's fake to starve to be perfect and seeking recognition or something from others, never do anything just because you want recognition, it's not worth it because you can slip to money wanting side of humanity and as Will Smith said " We spend money that we do not have, on things we do not need, to impress people who do not care" and that's this scenario, you can change for others but that will make you miserable because it's fake) and till you remember that you will be okay :D sorry for so long comment (and message before) , have a blessed day :D
your an amazing person ariel 👌
keep your chin up! i know you are strong and smart and very well aware. i totally understand where youre coming from
Feeling good
Someone is like me.
Keep smiling! You're wonderful!:)
The face that you put to the problems is what really matters, I think that we don't have to take the problems serious, maybe we can see them like a test, a hard one jaja, and at the end of it will teach how much you know of your self and the life, and of course there will be people that is looking for your failure, and in that moment is when you don't have to put attention and get focus to pass that shit, jaja.
When we pass the hard part, comes the easiest one. Don't worry, be happy!! jaja
Don't care what people think about you ever. I used to care then became disabled and everyone can see my disability. I realized quickly life is too short to care what others think.
Aw I'm so sorry the education weight it getting to you!! I hope you know you're a goddess and the way you feel is a priority!!! Just do what feels good to you and you'll get where you want to be. If you have so many classes to do it's definitely going to hit your self esteem and make you more self critical!! If you think you art fat then love that!!! Because that's okay!! You're still beautiful it doesn't stop that and it doesn't matter what anybody thinks because if you love you others will see all the things you love easier!!! You're allowed to be a mess you're getting there but I promise this current discomfort is just the weird feeling of you growing
Its so wird im waching this and I feel the same way about my life right now
The feeling of being a mess is becomeing a costant thing in my life, and i wish i have something nice to say to you yo make you feel better but l just want to tell you that everything is gonna pass and youre gonna look back some day and say im ok now and am happy about who i became, ps: i love youre music keep doing what you love and in the end life is what we wanted to be.
Hey I'm feeling the same way for slightly different reasons. I think for me it's just getting my shit together :P
Hope you feel better about stuff soon!
(I like your vids btw ;))
I don't know your financial situation at all, but I recommend taking less classes next semester so you can focus better on everything and have more free time to do the things you love! You gorgeous and we all love you here
I hv the same problem. Whatever you are sharing i feel that for myself but looking at you i feel that you are the most loveable person and i wouldn't want you to change. ♡♡♡
That was not just about your life .... we all are mess, you defined situation of all the guys and girls who are in their early twenties like me lol. This world now offers so much to us we just can't decide where should we go & why should we go. You literally said every single thought of mine.
I'm glad i've found your channel ... do share your thoughts more often.
you're awesome Ariel.
I don't know you like in person and stuff and my life it's not the best either so I don't know if what I'm gonna say will help. Everytime I have some kind of struggle I think about bigger problems like war or just masive things like the universe and stuff, and how work, school, appearence or many other things that we consider important are insignificant compared to all these. At some point it's also usefull having low expectations about life: bad things happen to everyone just like good things. I can see you know you're awesome haha but we have to go through all of this in order to grow up. This life will happen just once, with this people at this time so just do your best, for you. But don't YOLO it haha
I see myself in you
Pssst hey you're beautiful and you totally got this :)
Pssst thank you, Seth ♡
"YOU JUST GOTTA BELIEVEEEEEE!"
Thank you, beautiful Maya :)
huray!!
Of course you aren't perfect, but no one is. There is literally no true definition of perfect. That's why we all just have to form our own version of perfect and if that means having little flaws and being insecure at times its okay as long as ultimately you love yourself and try to realize the great things about you!
You are the kind of person tha I would love to have as a friend. I wish I could talk with you, and laugh about all the silly stuffs in life. lol
It’s a video about you venting, kinda like a heart to heart convo with your self. Except your extending it to the rest of the world
well I don't really comment much but I just think you should just love yourself and I know that's what everyone says but it's true there's no process it's a state of mind no matter what you just say I love myself and repetition will give results.. school is hard relationships are hard life is hard but you can't let it get to you..you are a beautiful person and once you understand and love yourself those thoughts will go away..and eventually others opinions and judgement won't matter anymore...no one is perfect and no one needs to be because all of our individual flaws make us human and that in itself is beautiful...just smile it'll be okay
Heyyy I don't know if youre gonna read this, but I feel very confortable with this video, like it is a little chat. I feel like a mess all the time too, but I think this is the way life is, it's just a mess haha. I really like your voice and I just like you, you are great 💗
Yo, I honestly only clicked on this vid cuase I thought you were Hank Green. But I decided to stay and subscribe!
now my crush on you is bigger
But what is a perfect person? Who's perfection are you basing it off. Like you said it's all about self love and being ok with your flaws and then finding someone that compliments them or also loves you for them. Your college load is crazy, but if that's the direction you believe is right for you then strive through, it's only temporary.
Ahm... Maybe doing some livestreams or hangouts with us could help cheering you up.. You know, seeing us as actual people that support and care about you :)
i was in the same situation 6 months ago
Have been same messy like you! But as long as things get done ,it's fine
i hate how relatable this ah but ariel you're amazing!!
Hey keep moving in the end you see what u want to see.... #urunstoppable
I just really like how you look.
❤❤it's fine to criticize but just remember to love yourself regardless of being "perfect" or not 😊 i love your covers and humour, you just do you ❤❤❤❤
I don't have any advice, but if it means anything, I really really like your channel!
Also, what's your Instagram so I can go like every post!