I remained in a broken marriage for 7 years, trying harder and harder, to save my marriage against everything, with someone that wouldnt care hurting me by adultery, emotional abuse, pornography and anything. I heard friends saying if you are faithful to God, he will change him, and that never happened, thinking that as I chose him everything was my fault, and as I promised God to love this man, I had to remain there forcefully. We separated and I found your videos and after hearing you God has given me so much peace and relieve. TY for everything you do!.
19:15 Oh, I've tried this conversation attempt where I say "I want you to touch my body but I really need you to touch my heart. So please talk to me nicely." He throws his hands up in air and doesn't even want sex because it's too much work and he will teach me a lesson by stonewalling.
I told my husband his road rage scares me!! His response was “ But did you get hurt”. He tried to convince me that I have a fear of riding in cars , mocked me like a child and said “We will just take separate cars from now on , how about that”. I said calmly “Ok”. The next time we had somewhere to go I took my car he took his and when we arrived at our destination HE WAS FURIOUS! I can’t win for losing 😣
I’m gonna send this one to a friend. She seems to be waffling - for a few years - in this situation and any time he’ll be really good and sweet just before having an outburst or tantrum, and she’ll think, “I just need to be a better wife to keep that sweetness from him… keep the house cleaner, get the kids under control… (you can imagine how young children, real toddlers, treat a set of parents who lack respect for one another, right, so yeah like that might be a pipe dream, right? Getting the kids to mind a woman the man treats openly and often with disrespect uh-huh, that’s gonna work in real life. Right).
I hope she is smart enough to take Leslie seriously. The harder I worked to make him happy the worse he got. Finally I did work on myself. Watched many of Lesliesvideos, found a support group, prayed. And I came to realize I wasn’t crazy and scripture doesn’t back up what the church tells abused women.
I so wish I would have had this resource many many years ago! Every Christian I knew said just have more faith and work harder at communication. I was divorced after 37 years with a man with narcissistic selfish characteristics. I have never once regretted my decision to leave. It set a terrible example for my sons who were both in their early twenties. Both have come to me and said that they didnt understand at first but now they do and glad i did.
There is a link in the show notes. This is the link: www.leslievernick.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/10/Scripture-that-Supports-Separation-from-a-Destructive-Spouse.pdf
Around Minute 42:50 I appreciate Leslie saying it is good to pursue your own well being as well as the well being of others referencing the scripture, “See that no one renders evil for evil to anyone, but always pursue what is good both for yourselves and for all.” 1 Thessalonians 5:15 This is the KJV which reads slightly different than the ESV which is enough of a difference to write“yourselves” out of the Word. 😮
Leslie have you done a topic when the abused wife has absolutely grown indifferent to their spouse. That they know without a doubt the your spouse HATES you! I believe my 71 yr old husband of 38 yrs is totally a Wolf In Sheep’s Clothing! He is absolutely evil and I definitely know this in my heart. And I did not come to this realization easily. He has all the narcissistic traits unfortunately. I am his 3 rd wife and of course he married me with not Godly intentions as to loving me the way God intended a man to love his wife. He is a very scary person and our relationship is absolutely not a marriage whatsoever. We have separate bedrooms now thank goodness. He twist scripture at me. I have never told our pastor since I don’t believe our unmarried pastor would get it and my husband is a deacon in our church and so well liked in our small congregation. I know I do not love him anymore but I never say it to him. But if he even “changed” I would never ever trust him. I don’t hate him of course.
I remained in a broken marriage for 7 years, trying harder and harder, to save my marriage against everything, with someone that wouldnt care hurting me by adultery, emotional abuse, pornography and anything. I heard friends saying if you are faithful to God, he will change him, and that never happened, thinking that as I chose him everything was my fault, and as I promised God to love this man, I had to remain there forcefully. We separated and I found your videos and after hearing you God has given me so much peace and relieve. TY for everything you do!.
Finding Godly counsel in our churches can be difficult. Thank you for these sessions.
19:15 Oh, I've tried this conversation attempt where I say "I want you to touch my body but I really need you to touch my heart. So please talk to me nicely." He throws his hands up in air and doesn't even want sex because it's too much work and he will teach me a lesson by stonewalling.
Ugh
I felt that.
I told my husband his road rage scares me!! His response was “ But did you get hurt”. He tried to convince me that I have a fear of riding in cars , mocked me like a child and said “We will just take separate cars from now on , how about that”. I said calmly “Ok”. The next time we had somewhere to go I took my car he took his and when we arrived at our destination HE WAS FURIOUS! I can’t win for losing 😣
Such a good episode
Quoted the Eph. one to a pastor, turns out he was corrupt. No wonder he sided with my ex. The church is woefully unprepared to deal with this stuff.
I’m gonna send this one to a friend. She seems to be waffling - for a few years - in this situation and any time he’ll be really good and sweet just before having an outburst or tantrum, and she’ll think, “I just need to be a better wife to keep that sweetness from him… keep the house cleaner, get the kids under control… (you can imagine how young children, real toddlers, treat a set of parents who lack respect for one another, right, so yeah like that might be a pipe dream, right? Getting the kids to mind a woman the man treats openly and often with disrespect uh-huh, that’s gonna work in real life. Right).
I hope she is smart enough to take Leslie seriously. The harder I worked to make him happy the worse he got. Finally I did work on myself. Watched many of Lesliesvideos, found a support group, prayed. And I came to realize I wasn’t crazy and scripture doesn’t back up what the church tells abused women.
I so wish I would have had this resource many many years ago! Every Christian I knew said just have more faith and work harder at communication. I was divorced after 37 years with a man with narcissistic selfish characteristics. I have never once regretted my decision to leave. It set a terrible example for my sons who were both in their early twenties. Both have come to me and said that they didnt understand at first but now they do and glad i did.
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Where is the download mentioned at the end?
There is a link in the show notes. This is the link: www.leslievernick.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/10/Scripture-that-Supports-Separation-from-a-Destructive-Spouse.pdf
@@leslievernick thank you so very much
Around Minute 42:50 I appreciate Leslie saying it is good to pursue your own well being as well as the well being of others referencing the scripture, “See that no one renders evil for evil to anyone, but always pursue what is good both for yourselves and for all.” 1 Thessalonians 5:15
This is the KJV which reads slightly different than the ESV which is enough of a difference to write“yourselves” out of the Word. 😮
Leslie have you done a topic when the abused wife has absolutely grown indifferent to their spouse. That they know without a doubt the your spouse HATES you! I believe my 71 yr old husband of 38 yrs is totally a Wolf In Sheep’s Clothing! He is absolutely evil and I definitely know this in my heart. And I did not come to this realization easily. He has all the narcissistic traits unfortunately. I am his 3 rd wife and of course he married me with not Godly intentions as to loving me the way God intended a man to love his wife. He is a very scary person and our relationship is absolutely not a marriage whatsoever. We have separate bedrooms now thank goodness. He twist scripture at me. I have never told our pastor since I don’t believe our unmarried pastor would get it and my husband is a deacon in our church and so well liked in our small congregation. I know I do not love him anymore but I never say it to him. But if he even “changed” I would never ever trust him. I don’t hate him of course.