1. For me the brother and SIL aren’t entitled to money. If the wedding was that serious they could’ve taken out a loan or rented a dress. They just seem irresponsible 😂
I couldn't imagine asking someone for something so expensive/precious from someone I barely speak to or make an effort with. That was a big point for me, we hardly talk, we don't have a relationship, but you think I should allow you to wear my wedding dress of all things? I would tell her no in as many languages as I can think of.
The sister was right for drawing boundaries. Sometimes you have to take a firm stance at the risk of hurting somebody's feelings because if you don't, you're going to keep getting bulldozed and stuck in a cycle of conceding to their feelings at the cost of your own feelings and beliefs.
I don't know why we always have to justify our 'no's. She has every right to say no because, when all is said and done, that dress is hers, no strings attached! A wedding gown carries immense sentimental value for every woman, so count me in on the 'no-no' validation team!" Love from Kenya 🇰🇪🇰🇪🇰🇪🇰🇪🇰🇪🇰🇪!!!!
with the wedding dress they mentioned how she wouldn’t have responded like that if she “loved her sister in law” (if the sister loved bride to be) but the flip side is, if the sister in law (bride to be) loved her sister in law (sister to the brother), she would’ve accepted the no.
I really don't care how big that rift is, if she wants to get a married before a certain time do a courthouse wedding. She seems jealous of the older sister, the brother is entitled and the older sister would do good not having to deal with them.
Dress situation: No means no. There doesn’t need to be a reason why someone does not want to give up a dress they loved and saved for. Material things are allowed to be significant and people are allowed to be selfish with their belongings. Family or not. Secret keeping: I honestly feel like it comes down to this, marriage or not. If you know the person who trusted you with the information would not say it to or in-front of your partner, the information stays with you. Because honestly, they’re your friend; not your partners friend. If you know you’re that person who needs to share everything with their partner, let your friends know. Don’t allow them to believe they can trust you to keep things simply between the two of you; when your SO is reading chats or listening to conversations next to you.
The sister-in-law is NOT entitled to her dress. And her actions def show that. But knowing me I would’ve let her 🤷🏾♀️ I like the idea of family heirlooms.
I’m glad the sister drew that boundary. If you wanted to get married “so badly” you should have prepared for it or settled with a simple white dress. That’s crazy the mom and brother are defending her. The sister is allowed to say “no!” That’s the problem with families. Mfs don’t know what “no” means🤣🤣
i support the sister, she has a right to say no since its hers. her SIL getting the audacity to go and report her is insulting, she telling her she's not helping her is a rude to say
If she has a timeline, she should have put her self in a financial situation to match that timeline as well. Him not being able to tell her no is a problem because now she’s going to come into the family and become the family’s problem i.e they may need help with living (because they live with the mom) and childcare etc… - the entitlement of the in law (to be) is nuts
This bride needs to go on shein and get herself a white dress and give herself the hairdo of her dreams instead... Is she nuts??? She's already borrowing the brother hahaha
10:24 If it was “just a dress” what was the SIL crying for lol I feel like if the SIL asked for something wayyy less symbolic and sentimental the sister would’ve given it
Points were made, I just don't agree or believe that they should be getting married if they're not financially straight. You want to start a family or continue a fruitful life together with something as trivial as wedding debt? Take your time and plan, get the license in the meantime. Wonder how he can be a real provider if he can't lead monetarily? and babe is tapped, I'm not giving you my dress or money? where were you when I was spending lmaooo. Get right sis
I've never understood those deadlines people create for themselves, life can already be so stressful/complex without stones that you place in your own path. But at the end of the day it's their decision and they can do what they want. I just don't appreciate it when they then try and make it everyone else's problem. The FSIL and the brother are already living with the mother rentfree which in my head means that they are saving money to start their own life as a married couple (at least that's what I think they should be doing, assuming that at least FSIL has a job). But from what we're hearing that doesn't seem to be the case since FSIL can't afford a dress (or at least her dream dress) and they're relying on other's to make their hasty decision happen. If my brother and his fiancée came to me with the entitlement that OP was presented with, I would rip them a new one. Babes, it's called an issYOU, not an issME. If you can't make the bloody wedding happen yourselves and refuse to listen to people's advice, then you're on your own (Not to say that you NEED to listen to other people to live your life but I think people get to have an opinion when you hound them for money in a way that the brother and FSIL are doing).
If she really wanted to get married to this guy than go to the court house, if I was in the sister’s position even if I liked my SIL I would say no, I’ve said yes to things and regretted it later and if a year has gone by and I still have the dress than it means something to me, and who gets to keep the dress after the wedding? Does the dress go back to me or does the SIL keeps it
I had a friend who have a horrible attitude until I open the floor for them to off load and the moment I went through something and did want to hear they’re off load about the same things I was a fake friend hadn’t spoke to her since
if they want to get married, have your own plan and save money for it or just sign the papers and celebrate later. Wedding dress is quite precious and I don't think the sis in-law needs to give it to her. Work hard for the things you want because if she gave the dress she will always expect things to be handed to her when life don't happen like that - Boundaries are important
If you concede the dress, which is major, you will concede forever. Now they know they just need to gang up on you because you don't want to argue. This fiscally unwise, immature sign here...this will not be the last time they come pressuring you to help bail them out on something. Also, what if I want the dress for future vow renewal? Or treasured memory? Or for something else? No shape is the same, it will be altered to the new bride. Even if she says she will return it, someone with this audacity? She will not. Now if you don't care about the dress, then you probably wouldn't even have it anymore for her to take. But if you don't care and still have it, and you don't dislike her, by all means, give it.
Maybe she was pregnant and needed to get married by any means necessary before the baby comes..if that's the case have a small ceremony and at city hall...being reasonably on her and her potential husband wedding. This way there's no burden on the family to help out financially
If you take my no & try to flip it to victimze yourself to getting your way.. I'm not helping you & any thought I had of empathy is gone. So she's not wrong to me. She better rent a dress.
Whether it’s a dress or not thinking I’ll give you my weddings dress is pure dumbassity. Especially if the way you are going about your wedding is simply immature,No. I agree it’s not even my wedding or marriage so they shouldn’t be asking me for a solutions tbh it’s kinda pathetic imo
If it’s just the dress, why can’t she wear any other dress? Where is her mothers or sister‘s wedding dress? Why does she feel so entitled to someone else’s money? You’re not even married yet regardless of your future plans
No because imagine she messed up the dress?? Spills, tears and dress mishaps are going to happen. It’s her dress and she paid for it. Her brother and his fiance sound entitled. A dress is something your parents pay for.
I have advice for the girl leave that man, his family has already started interfering in your marriage, nd the reason is because money makes families control ur man, if u want to stay give people their money back nd get a simple wedding at the court people will respect your marriage after
1. For me the brother and SIL aren’t entitled to money. If the wedding was that serious they could’ve taken out a loan or rented a dress. They just seem irresponsible 😂
1000%! They just wanted to get everything for free
Correct! If she is DETERMINED to get married soon then have the wedding you can afford. Including the dress 🤷🏾♀️
Definitely agree with Tammy. I feel like there’s certain boundaries that need to be placed even with family.
I couldn't imagine asking someone for something so expensive/precious from someone I barely speak to or make an effort with. That was a big point for me, we hardly talk, we don't have a relationship, but you think I should allow you to wear my wedding dress of all things? I would tell her no in as many languages as I can think of.
The sister was right for drawing boundaries. Sometimes you have to take a firm stance at the risk of hurting somebody's feelings because if you don't, you're going to keep getting bulldozed and stuck in a cycle of conceding to their feelings at the cost of your own feelings and beliefs.
I don't know why we always have to justify our 'no's. She has every right to say no because, when all is said and done, that dress is hers, no strings attached! A wedding gown carries immense sentimental value for every woman, so count me in on the 'no-no' validation team!" Love from Kenya 🇰🇪🇰🇪🇰🇪🇰🇪🇰🇪🇰🇪!!!!
with the wedding dress they mentioned how she wouldn’t have responded like that if she “loved her sister in law” (if the sister loved bride to be) but the flip side is, if the sister in law (bride to be) loved her sister in law (sister to the brother), she would’ve accepted the no.
What Tammy said, PERIOD❗️
I really don't care how big that rift is, if she wants to get a married before a certain time do a courthouse wedding. She seems jealous of the older sister, the brother is entitled and the older sister would do good not having to deal with them.
Dress situation: No means no. There doesn’t need to be a reason why someone does not want to give up a dress they loved and saved for. Material things are allowed to be significant and people are allowed to be selfish with their belongings. Family or not.
Secret keeping: I honestly feel like it comes down to this, marriage or not. If you know the person who trusted you with the information would not say it to or in-front of your partner, the information stays with you. Because honestly, they’re your friend; not your partners friend. If you know you’re that person who needs to share everything with their partner, let your friends know. Don’t allow them to believe they can trust you to keep things simply between the two of you; when your SO is reading chats or listening to conversations next to you.
That Episode was Intense😂😂
The sister-in-law is NOT entitled to her dress. And her actions def show that. But knowing me I would’ve let her 🤷🏾♀️ I like the idea of family heirlooms.
I’m glad the sister drew that boundary. If you wanted to get married “so badly” you should have prepared for it or settled with a simple white dress. That’s crazy the mom and brother are defending her. The sister is allowed to say “no!” That’s the problem with families. Mfs don’t know what “no” means🤣🤣
i support the sister, she has a right to say no since its hers. her SIL getting the audacity to go and report her is insulting, she telling her she's not helping her is a rude to say
If she has a timeline, she should have put her self in a financial situation to match that timeline as well. Him not being able to tell her no is a problem because now she’s going to come into the family and become the family’s problem i.e they may need help with living (because they live with the mom) and childcare etc… - the entitlement of the in law (to be) is nuts
This bride needs to go on shein and get herself a white dress and give herself the hairdo of her dreams instead... Is she nuts??? She's already borrowing the brother hahaha
10:24 If it was “just a dress” what was the SIL crying for lol I feel like if the SIL asked for something wayyy less symbolic and sentimental the sister would’ve given it
Points were made, I just don't agree or believe that they should be getting married if they're not financially straight. You want to start a family or continue a fruitful life together with something as trivial as wedding debt? Take your time and plan, get the license in the meantime. Wonder how he can be a real provider if he can't lead monetarily? and babe is tapped, I'm not giving you my dress or money? where were you when I was spending lmaooo. Get right sis
I couldn’t give up my dress & to see the SIL using the dress as a napkin at the wedding would run my pressure up I would be policing the dress
😂 Tami ( I believe that’s her name, new here!) “I’m confused, what are we talking about” that’s what I was thinking
She’s pregnant
Tammy has a SHINY SPINE ❤
I've never understood those deadlines people create for themselves, life can already be so stressful/complex without stones that you place in your own path. But at the end of the day it's their decision and they can do what they want. I just don't appreciate it when they then try and make it everyone else's problem.
The FSIL and the brother are already living with the mother rentfree which in my head means that they are saving money to start their own life as a married couple (at least that's what I think they should be doing, assuming that at least FSIL has a job). But from what we're hearing that doesn't seem to be the case since FSIL can't afford a dress (or at least her dream dress) and they're relying on other's to make their hasty decision happen.
If my brother and his fiancée came to me with the entitlement that OP was presented with, I would rip them a new one. Babes, it's called an issYOU, not an issME. If you can't make the bloody wedding happen yourselves and refuse to listen to people's advice, then you're on your own (Not to say that you NEED to listen to other people to live your life but I think people get to have an opinion when you hound them for money in a way that the brother and FSIL are doing).
If she really wanted to get married to this guy than go to the court house, if I was in the sister’s position even if I liked my SIL I would say no, I’ve said yes to things and regretted it later and if a year has gone by and I still have the dress than it means something to me, and who gets to keep the dress after the wedding? Does the dress go back to me or does the SIL keeps it
This episode though 🤣🤣 I loved every bit of it.
I had a friend who have a horrible attitude until I open the floor for them to off load and the moment I went through something and did want to hear they’re off load about the same things I was a fake friend hadn’t spoke to her since
if they want to get married, have your own plan and save money for it or just sign the papers and celebrate later. Wedding dress is quite precious and I don't think the sis in-law needs to give it to her. Work hard for the things you want because if she gave the dress she will always expect things to be handed to her when life don't happen like that - Boundaries are important
Great episode ladies.
If you concede the dress, which is major, you will concede forever. Now they know they just need to gang up on you because you don't want to argue.
This fiscally unwise, immature sign here...this will not be the last time they come pressuring you to help bail them out on something.
Also, what if I want the dress for future vow renewal? Or treasured memory? Or for something else? No shape is the same, it will be altered to the new bride. Even if she says she will return it, someone with this audacity? She will not.
Now if you don't care about the dress, then you probably wouldn't even have it anymore for her to take. But if you don't care and still have it, and you don't dislike her, by all means, give it.
also from what I know some parents give their wedding dress to their children
IF THEY SO WANNA GET MARRIED AND ITS THAT SERIOUS GO TO THE COURT HOUSE 🙄🙄
In relation to the scenarios, my husband and I share most things! If it’s a womanly thing though, I will not share with him.
Sister in the middle you are making excuses for the irresponsible broke people how would you assume she’s going to sell it 😂
I loved itttt🎉🎉🎉🎉
Maybe she was pregnant and needed to get married by any means necessary before the baby comes..if that's the case have a small ceremony and at city hall...being reasonably on her and her potential husband wedding. This way there's no burden on the family to help out financially
Where is her mother’s wedding dress? if she wants to get married so bad
I enjoyed this episode 😂😂😂😂😂
If you take my no & try to flip it to victimze yourself to getting your way.. I'm not helping you & any thought I had of empathy is gone. So she's not wrong to me. She better rent a dress.
All Beatrice knows is her man fam
LMAOOOOOOO ok.
You damn right
If its just a dress, she should wear just any other dress.
Whether it’s a dress or not thinking I’ll give you my weddings dress is pure dumbassity. Especially if the way you are going about your wedding is simply immature,No. I agree it’s not even my wedding or marriage so they shouldn’t be asking me for a solutions tbh it’s kinda pathetic imo
😂😂😂😂
If it’s just the dress, why can’t she wear any other dress? Where is her mothers or sister‘s wedding dress? Why does she feel so entitled to someone else’s money? You’re not even married yet regardless of your future plans
No because imagine she messed up the dress?? Spills, tears and dress mishaps are going to happen. It’s her dress and she paid for it. Her brother and his fiance sound entitled. A dress is something your parents pay for.
And they’ve been engaged for a year and have no dress money, yeah that’s stupid and irresponsible the whole family should not be enabling their bull.
I have advice for the girl leave that man, his family has already started interfering in your marriage, nd the reason is because money makes families control ur man, if u want to stay give people their money back nd get a simple wedding at the court people will respect your marriage after