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  • @shums77
    @shums77 4 роки тому +88

    Dresse sense makes a huge difference! When I am wearing pink or any delicate colours I have noticed my male clients treat me with a lot of respect and literally turn into gentlemen. Not only the men that I work with but even in public life, you will have someone opening the door for you in the grocery store, the driver will give you way, it's amazing that just a feminine dress sense can transform your interactions!

  • @berthachelemu3990
    @berthachelemu3990 4 роки тому +50

    I was a tom boy for years, through out my childhood and teenage years and I finally decided to become more feminine in my twenties. It wasn't easy but I have made such great progress especially learning from women like you, thankyou so much for this video ladies!

    • @DixieandBob
      @DixieandBob  4 роки тому +2

      Wonderful!

    • @nicholemaccalley9462
      @nicholemaccalley9462 Рік тому

      That makes me so sad that you feel like you can’t be yourself. ☹️ Who gets to decide what’s feminine and what’s masculine?

    • @ab-gail
      @ab-gail Рік тому

      @@nicholemaccalley9462
      She is being herself-a woman. 💖

  • @mariannegum6631
    @mariannegum6631 4 роки тому +45

    I never knew there was a FW UA-cam until a few days ago, and I have been continually listening while I go about my day. I have repeatedly read the 1990’s version since 2000 but listening to you has finally made it seem real and doable ! Your new book just came in today’s mail and I am excited to get going. By the way I am 71 and always “ fluid” and willing to grow and change.

    • @DixieandBob
      @DixieandBob  4 роки тому +6

      So happy you found us! I welcome your feedback! I just turned 70 myself so I love having a mixed crowd of lovely gals here.

    • @lindahenderson1625
      @lindahenderson1625 4 роки тому +5

      Marianne Gum I am 68 and continuing to work at becoming a better person and wife...I have been married for 48 years but we all can improve ourselves for ourselves as well as for others.
      We can only change ourselves not others, but we can subtly effect them.
      I support you following FW; It shows that you have an open mind and are striving to be your best. I applaud you!

    • @patiencesanta161
      @patiencesanta161 Рік тому

      @@DixieandBob from Nairobi Kenya...i am persisting on my feninity journey and its coming up natural ..thanks

  • @shalirataylor5752
    @shalirataylor5752 4 роки тому +48

    Thank you. I have been using some of these softer ways towards my boyfriend and we have had a much better relationship! This stuff really works and I feel more like a “girl” now than ever before... even my brother and father are acting different! 🥰

    • @DixieandBob
      @DixieandBob  4 роки тому +3

      Wonderful!

    • @Borahbliss
      @Borahbliss 2 місяці тому

      This is so cool. You are tapping into your woman power😂❤😂

  • @choccybirb
    @choccybirb 4 роки тому +16

    I'm 20, newlywed, living out a (what the world would call radical) scriptural life and I am so thankful to have discovered this, literally tonight about 20 minutes ago. We saw it in a video from the 70's. It brought tears of joy to my husband's eyes to see other women aside from me speaking this way. I'm reading the book asap! So excited!

    • @DixieandBob
      @DixieandBob  4 роки тому +3

      Thank you!

    • @mrs.t7254
      @mrs.t7254 3 роки тому +3

      May God bless you and your family. @Maddi G

  • @igvargas7075
    @igvargas7075 4 роки тому +41

    You’re the friends I wish I had. Thank you.

    • @DixieandBob
      @DixieandBob  4 роки тому +4

      IG Vargas - awww! Thank you! You’ve got a friend in ME! ❤️

  • @Ms.Chan.T
    @Ms.Chan.T 4 роки тому +12

    As a woman and a kid, I love being active, playing sports (soccer & football), and working out. When I play I try to make my uniform look feminine and speak and act feminine. My cleats are bright colored, nails done lol.
    I had to be more gentle and gracious towards others. I wasn't taught that growing up.

  • @discoverybricks3694
    @discoverybricks3694 4 роки тому +13

    I am like Dixie. I have had brown hair my whole life and now it is getting mousy gray and I am slowly going blonde myself. When you age you cannot dye your hair dark or you will look dated and helmeted. Dixie, your colorist is fabulous! Your hair looks very good. Good advice again thanks.

  • @frankiemudzimba
    @frankiemudzimba 2 роки тому +1

    I read the very first book some years ago and came across my notes from it and decided to find the audio version of it here but I found you ladies instead❤. I have loved bingeing on your videos.
    I was a tomboy growing up and would wrestle with my younger brother almost every day. I’ve been restraining myself this past week and last night he said,”what’s wrong with you?You’re quieter”,I was like,”Thank you for noticing, I’m building my character” and he laughed. I’m nowhere near where I want to be but I’m working on it. These videos are amazing, thank you.

  • @melissajenkins9960
    @melissajenkins9960 2 роки тому +2

    I started changing by turning my jeans into skirts. It was crazy how that created a sort of landslide over time for me. I ended up growing my hair out, I stopped wearing tshirts, and now I have replaced my altered jeans skirt with flowy peasant skirts that I made. I’m also wearing shawls, which I always wanted to do! It really makes a difference over time when you start small.

    • @melissajenkins9960
      @melissajenkins9960 2 роки тому

      I need to add that I did these things because when I looked more like a guy… short hair, tshirts, jeans, etc I acted more aggressive. It actually made me miserable.
      Something that helped the transition feel natural was going for things I already enjoyed or wished for that I was neglecting. Like the jeans skirt. I also started looking at pretty hairstyles for long hair.. simple ones I knew I would enjoy. I started doing little things to care for myself, like painting my nails or doing a nighttime routine for my skin. It helped me love my feminine nature more, and it naturally brought out a more feminine disposition.
      I still have to watch out for how I talk, sit, and laugh though. I was raised masculine so it’s a constant practice being aware of how I act. I feel better when I’m cherishing what I was born to be.

  • @ingridmcfarlane8348
    @ingridmcfarlane8348 4 місяці тому

    ...just as I was beginning to feel worn out by these new efforts, and about to quit and just be who I've always been, you say at 17:14, that my discomfort is just evidence of change. Thank you.

  • @vivianvennicia
    @vivianvennicia 4 роки тому +5

    The intro is 100% truth. I have experienced this multiple times over several years. Men are so unused to femininity that they can't handle it and many of them will melt and then do very outrageous things. Idk what to do about that. Do you have any ideas, Dixie?

    • @DixieandBob
      @DixieandBob  4 роки тому

      Vivian Vennicia - what kind of outrageous things Vivian? 🙂

    • @vivianvennicia
      @vivianvennicia 4 роки тому +3

      @@DixieandBob Things I have seen men do out of insecurity, not feeling like they deserve love, not feeling enough trust about my sincerity or doubts/fears about what could go wrong is pretty sad actually. Usually, the guy gets super insecure and breaks off the relationship, or they try to make me jealous or start arguments that destroy the relationship. A few guys have used cheating to preempt my leaving or cheating on them.
      They do exactly whatever they are afraid I would do to them basically. If they are anxious about being cheated on they will cheat. If they are anxious about being used or manipulated they will try to use and manipulate me first.

  • @melanierosalie
    @melanierosalie 3 роки тому +4

    Bingewatching the channel so obsessed with your message. Thank you for all you do!!

  • @AmatiinBC
    @AmatiinBC Рік тому +1

    I am also working on dressing more feminine. I want to feel pretty.

  • @tikipie7959
    @tikipie7959 4 роки тому +11

    Ladies you look beautiful today. Great show.

    • @DixieandBob
      @DixieandBob  4 роки тому

      Tiki Pié - so sweet. Thank you!

  • @churchill19708
    @churchill19708 2 роки тому +2

    So lovely. This is so needed today!

  • @cristinac.m.523
    @cristinac.m.523 4 роки тому +2

    Another great video! It ended too quickly! Would love longer videos xxx

  • @231natasha
    @231natasha 2 роки тому +1

    Great and practical advice I can use. THANK YOU BOTH

  • @shums77
    @shums77 4 роки тому +5

    This was very informative! Thank you!

  • @misss9092
    @misss9092 3 роки тому +6

    Out of curiosity, what is pizza clothing? Never heard of it before.
    I love all the advice given here, the first and last bit was taught to me by my Middle Eastern mother, the most gracious woman that I know. I’m only 28, but I’ve been bullied and picked on throughout my life for being kind and empathetic; people mistake those qualities for weakness and unfortunately, women and girls have always been the perpetrators and it’s led me to resent women and distance myself from them. In recent years, I have been surrounded by amazing women and am working to feel better about my qualities and accepting that there is nothing wrong the qualities that I have.

    • @DixieandBob
      @DixieandBob  3 роки тому +1

      I did a video on Pizza Clothes...
      ua-cam.com/video/7sOwUuRqD1o/v-deo.html
      So nice to hear there are women out there that are supportive of femininity!

    • @TheShamuraja
      @TheShamuraja 3 роки тому +1

      Hello, I believe it should be balanced. Because it might go too much on the passive side.
      Maybe find ways to be playful, a little daring, doing sports or exercise or taking up responsibility in some function. Maybe study something and get around people. We all need to develop people skills and see where our boundaries are.
      Plus it is a bit dangerous if you don't have women to converse with. You might not have enough counsel when you need it.
      So if you didn't have a father to guide you as well, then that portion might need to be developed.
      Maybe disciple or structure or similar things might need to be added.
      Sometimes we need to be stretched a little.

  • @bettycarmella1127
    @bettycarmella1127 2 роки тому +4

    Thank you so much💜 would it be possible for you ladies to do a video on how to stay feminine when dealing with jealous/angry women (mainly at work)? Thanks!!

    • @DixieandBob
      @DixieandBob  2 роки тому +3

      We must be mind readers because we already wrote the script for this! Haven’t filmed yet!

    • @bettycarmella1127
      @bettycarmella1127 2 роки тому

      Amazing! I'm so excited❤ I can't tell you how much I appreciate yall! I've learned so much about myself and have developed true compassion for men. Your work is simply invaluable... God bless you🙏🏽

  • @WoodlandPoetry
    @WoodlandPoetry 4 роки тому +13

    Dixie, I'm about your age and wear my hair waist length. How do I respond to women who say long hair "looks weird"? Since it really looks good on my face shape, I don't really want to cut it. (I get compliments, not trouble, from men.) I just don't know what to say to critical women.

    • @DixieandBob
      @DixieandBob  4 роки тому +19

      Jill Teresa - hi! I just turned 70 and have been wearing my hair how I want all my life. ❤️ My advice is to respond with either, “my husband loves my hair long and he’s the one I care about most so I’m not planning on changing it any time soon” or “I feel beautiful with it long” and leave it there. 😉

    • @WoodlandPoetry
      @WoodlandPoetry 4 роки тому +6

      @@DixieandBob Thank you! My husband does love it, so I'll do that. Appreciate your advice so much.💕👍😄

  • @rachelsmith5643
    @rachelsmith5643 4 роки тому +11

    Oh my gosh I never thought men tease me because they feel vulnerable due to my femininity. I've always been teased by men and wasn't sure entirely why. I'd always wonder, is it because he likes me? Doesn't like me? Being younger than these men? What is it? It never dawned on me it could have anything to due with femininity.

  • @infinity4evr
    @infinity4evr 3 роки тому +6

    I take care of my mom with AD and before she would do things that made me angry and I would lose patience with her, but now I just laugh and kiss her.

  • @wisewomanhealing
    @wisewomanhealing 4 роки тому +4

    I am trying to stop cussing. I don't understand how to apply doing something else instead of cussing to replace cussing. Could I get an assist?

    • @DixieandBob
      @DixieandBob  4 роки тому +5

      Sure! I like to say things like, " OH BANANAS!" when I'm upset or my grandson likes to say "Holy SPAGHETTI and MEATBALLS!"....I know it sounds incredibly cheesy but if you swap the words out with something else it will train you. You have to find something you're comfortable with. I love the holiday movie "Elf" where the lead character says, "Son of a NUTCRACKER!" instead of swearing...it's all about what works for you.

    • @wisewomanhealing
      @wisewomanhealing 4 роки тому +1

      @@DixieandBob Thank you, Dixie!

  • @christshandmaiden
    @christshandmaiden 4 роки тому +8

    I love you two so much! The wisdom you share!! And Dixie, you're just a classic beauty!

    • @DixieandBob
      @DixieandBob  4 роки тому +3

      Charnell Price - thank you Charnell, so kind!

  • @Kiroii_28
    @Kiroii_28 4 роки тому +4

    One for Mother Teresa💜

  • @swoopmeup4its2l8t
    @swoopmeup4its2l8t 3 роки тому +2

    May God continue to richly bless you and your family today and everyday... Thank you for this video (and sharing your beautiful mom) 🙏🏿💖

  • @claudiahudkins439
    @claudiahudkins439 4 роки тому +2

    Thank you❤

  • @peggy-sue-reads-a-book
    @peggy-sue-reads-a-book 4 роки тому +2

    Hi, Dixie, (or anyone.) I would like to learn more about how to be authoritative in a feminine manner. I often struggle professionally because I’m physically tiny, my voice and mannerisms are youthful, and I am very shy. When I try to take on a bigger persona it’s silly and unappealing. In a business suit I still look like Tinker Bell. How do I utilize my authentic demeanor and physicality in a way that commands more respect?

    • @DixieandBob
      @DixieandBob  4 роки тому +4

      Hi! It's interesting to hear you say that you think your size affects the respect you receive because there are MANY, many petite people in history that have been incredibly influential; I am describing both men and women.
      Marie Kondo for example is only 4'7! She not only is very respected, she is a brilliant business woman. I definitely do not know her personally but what I see on her tv series is a very feminine woman who is polite and has very high self esteem. This is the key, self esteem.
      My book goes into detail about this subject. I highly recommend reading it to learn more about womens self esteem.

    • @peggy-sue-reads-a-book
      @peggy-sue-reads-a-book 4 роки тому +1

      @@DixieandBob Thanks, Dixie! What a thoughtful reply. I was bullied about being underweight for a long time (a group of girls threw food at me in the middle of the cafeteria once) and have therefore always assumed body type was part of the issue.

    • @DixieandBob
      @DixieandBob  4 роки тому +4

      @@peggy-sue-reads-a-book - did you watch my video on speech? What about self esteem? I did videos on both of these subjects.....they go into more detail.
      I’m sorry you’ve been through such a hard time. Some girls are just jealous of feminine girls. 🤷🏼‍♀️

    • @peggy-sue-reads-a-book
      @peggy-sue-reads-a-book 4 роки тому

      @@DixieandBob thanks Dixie. You are lovely

  • @JeanmarieRod
    @JeanmarieRod 3 роки тому

    Definitely looking up to by the book

  • @jessicaangelicachuan2670
    @jessicaangelicachuan2670 9 місяців тому

    This book, S-A-V-E-D me, from a lot of turmoil.
    Fascinating Womanhood, can we please see a list of the tope 25 movies that exemplify the values of fascinating womanhood charm?
    -Fascinating womanhood reader from Walnut Creek, California

    • @DixieandBob
      @DixieandBob  9 місяців тому

      We did a video about this called, "Femininity in Films"

  • @mrsr9838
    @mrsr9838 4 роки тому +2

    Love all your videos!! 💖I get sooo excited to watch them all 🥰🥰🙏🏼🙏🏼

  • @priyankabordoloi811
    @priyankabordoloi811 4 роки тому

    What is the name of her book ?

  • @anonymous-cx7ng
    @anonymous-cx7ng 2 роки тому +2

    I’m naturally very sensitive and quiet so I would say my personality is naturally feminine but I have masculine features and a masculine face and I hate it 😭😭

    • @DixieandBob
      @DixieandBob  2 роки тому +2

      You can soften your appearance in SO many ways! 🤍 Softer hair styles, softer makeup, soft fabrics that you wear, how you carry yourself, your facial expressions, your tone of voice…so many ways! We actually did a video on feminine style, feminine tone and an overall appearance topic.

    • @carolyearsley
      @carolyearsley 2 роки тому

      Love yourself for who you are, a unique creation, unlike anyone else.

    • @TheDreamer433
      @TheDreamer433 2 роки тому

      @@carolyearsley Hi, may I ask you something. All the guys I am meeting are compelling me to work they don't want me to depend on them financially. I don't like working I want to be a home maker. What do I do? All the guys that I met from my community are like this.

  • @aditi3586
    @aditi3586 4 роки тому +3

    hello ma'am, I'm 23 years old and my under graduation is going to get over. I pursued computers because that is what my parents wanted. now my parents, who are very serious regarding education, want me to pursue post graduation, that too from a different country. that would be 2 more years there and I will only be able to settle by 26. I want to get married sooner, and not study things I have lost interest in. my parents are too strict, can you please help me with this? I feel miserable. I also have a boyfriend who's already in the range of marrying (28), he's a gentleman, I'm so grateful to have him but I will definitely lose him if I shift, please help me I'm really helpless these days

    • @TheShamuraja
      @TheShamuraja 3 роки тому

      What if he proposes?
      You guys can talk together with your parents to ensure that their worries might lessen.

    • @TheDreamer433
      @TheDreamer433 2 роки тому

      @@TheShamuraja Hi, may I ask you something. All the guys I am meeting are compelling me to work they don't want me to depend on them financially. I don't like working I want to be a home maker. What do I do? All the guys that I met from my community are like this.

    • @TheShamuraja
      @TheShamuraja 2 роки тому +2

      @@TheDreamer433
      Usually - go older.
      Not being a female buddy right from the start of meeting someone.
      Since that would mean for the future - they'd have a roommate which happens to be female, giving them sex on top of other things.
      Taking off rose colored glasses. Grooming yourself should be an obvious one.
      Dating - as not giving too much time of the day and not getting too comfortable, if you see that the man doesn't represent certain qualities and acts upon them. Not listening to the talking - but going by what they do.
      Excuse yourself early and don't gather bad experiences.
      Usually those older cultures, where the marriages are successful have a different way of choosing a spouse. You can learn from them.
      They go about it very differtly than being buddy buddy with a man. It is known, that if a man wants a woman plus children in his life - he has to act a certain way.
      Greets

    • @TheShamuraja
      @TheShamuraja 2 роки тому +2

      @@TheDreamer433
      Also, have something going for yourself. Maybe part time.
      A lot of men are feminist these days. And were brought up in the modern world.
      Logically you can ask them later on how they imagine - who would raise the children?
      Would they want their spouse coming home from work stressed and not having the time to be loving or fixing up a dinner?
      No time or physical strength to have sex, since when a woman is too stressed, she will not get in the mood.
      Male sexuality works just opposite from that. They relax that way. But don't understand, that you have to take away stress from a woman and make her feel secure, so that she gives it freely.
      Look for a man that can afford a stay at home wife and understands what all gain from it.
      Also, a few things you might learn from the channel of Shera seven. To unlearn the feminist ways and get the mind right on a few certain things. Plus how to choose the right potential spouse.

    • @TheDreamer433
      @TheDreamer433 2 роки тому

      @@TheShamuraja Thank you so much for replying dear. The guys I had met were earning really well. Their salary alone would be more than enough for 7-8 people to live peacefully. I have asked them the questions you talked about. I told them that I tend to carry work stress home & it would affect our personal life I would rather love to take care of you & our children cook delicious meals & take care of household chores for this they had responded by telling that "I prefer a working partner who can share expenses & that they do not want their partner to depend on them financially".And they had even told me that I can stay in any country I want to if my job required me to. These guys are very supportive in terms of working but they were very unsupportive when I told them that I don't wish to work.

  • @Ms.Chan.T
    @Ms.Chan.T 4 роки тому

    I'm new to the channel 😁

  • @megancyloneight9822
    @megancyloneight9822 4 роки тому +1

    @Dixie - would you do a book review of Suzanne Venker's Alpha Female?

    • @DixieandBob
      @DixieandBob  4 роки тому +2

      Megan Cyloneight - I have not read that yet but will as it to my list of books to check out. 🙂

  • @lepp6598
    @lepp6598 4 роки тому +5

    I feel pretty in my sweats, ball cap, and no makeup.

  • @lepp6598
    @lepp6598 4 роки тому +4

    If someone pisses me off, I’m going to let them know, not simper at them or go hide my anger.

  • @ChiakiNanami736
    @ChiakiNanami736 3 роки тому

    I wound up quashing girlness because my mom was constantly critical of my failures therein, and on the other side I was getting bullied by the girls at school so I was also declaring my eternal separation from them. Part of me also stupidly thought that, since I wanted to marry someone who was just like me except a boy, (I was a little girl with undiagnosed Asperger’s,) then being just like the boys obviously made more sense, because Kid Brain. Thankfully I stopped that part when both sexes started cussing...

  • @improvisedchaos8904
    @improvisedchaos8904 Рік тому

    God made man and "Wooooaaaahhhhhman"; dropping jaws till dust they return. The matured crone wearing her feminine crown and baking those grandkids cookies! everyone knows she is beautiful.

  • @Sam__N_K
    @Sam__N_K 4 роки тому

    I love boxing, playing video games and watching action movies like war movies. Are those not feminine?

    • @DixieandBob
      @DixieandBob  4 роки тому +10

      Tasks have very little to do with femininity and masculinity. It’s HOW you approach your task that matters. 😉

  • @nicholemaccalley9462
    @nicholemaccalley9462 Рік тому

    Who gets to decide what’s masculine and what’s feminine?

  • @lepp6598
    @lepp6598 4 роки тому +2

    Mother Teresa encouraged people who couldn’t feed themselves to have babies they couldn’t feed.

    • @betsyross1621
      @betsyross1621 Рік тому

      Mother Teresa was really trafficking children. Sorry but true

  • @cosmopaula3107
    @cosmopaula3107 4 роки тому +3

    Do you have a video or do you want to make a video about female sexuality? I would like to hear your vision about this? I don’t want to be inappropriate.... but i would like to hear your opinion about this. 🙏🏻

    • @DixieandBob
      @DixieandBob  4 роки тому +2

      Annelies Vandenbroucke - hi! Could you be a little more specific in reference to “female sexuality”? are you referring to being sexy, sex drive, sexual preferences...etc?

    • @cosmopaula3107
      @cosmopaula3107 4 роки тому +4

      Fascinating Womanhood - Dixie Andelin Forsyth More about male sex drive vs female sex drive and sexual preferences.