I'm thirteen and I think that this is happening to me. The parent I lived with always tells me how bad my other parent is and is always extra judgemental of my other parent.
@Erins2203 this happened to me when I was your age. I would just choose not to listen to Mum. Later on Mum took me to live in another state and I saw Dad less often, I was 15. When I was 18 I ran away from Mum’s. At 18 I couldn’t be taken back. I was never close to Dad and couldn’t trust Mum again so I make my own way. You’re not alone and you will find your own pathway
I love all your information. My son is 14 and has never seen his non custodial parent. We feel like the man has woke from the grave. What about my sons rights. We've been on our own for 14 years
I just read a response from my wife from our divorce,that will be in hearing. I was so pissed when I seen all of her damands but after seeing this video I actually think it will hurt her. just about everything you listed is in her demands to the response of my petition. its like the more loving you are the more you will get thanks for this video.
Here is how women force the father out - it works every time. 1) She tells the kids her new man is the father. 2) She tells the kids that you should be called by you first name now. 3) She says the kids do not want to go on visitation anymore. 4) She never tells you anything about school, sports, education of the kids. 5) she says the kids are sick.... Next week too. The court system could care less about the father. All they care about is the child support checks coming in to the state. Wish men understood how this divorce with kids works - at least it would not be a surprise.
Unfortunately my ex has done all these things to me . My relationship with my son , I'm afraid is irreparable at this point and I feel helpless to do anything. He's 14 and I cannot force him to go with me. I'm at at loss as to what I should do.
Melissa Leonard I feel your pain. It’s excruciating. There are no words for parents like us. The sadness runs deep. You are not alone, and now I know that I am not alone.
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I am fighting and dealing with all of this i was a stay at home mother to our 5 children from being born up until 3yrs ago sadly I am BEING Alenated from my children and i am not finding ANY HELP at all the Divorce Judge didnt see any of this nor non of the other stuff example cps calls no phone calls either PLEASE PLEASE i need your help... Please
HELP! It's 5 years out from our contested divorce, and I'm dealing with a NARCISSIST! NO attorneys can help, 1 daughter refuses visits, my EX refuses mediation, our judge retired and we're so HIGH CONFLICT that the cops said don't talk to him and take him to court! I also found out my EX stole and redeemed my $10,000 bond; also in my mom's name. I've been on The Treasury's ass over a year now. I'm tired of all of it. My mom was hospitalized early this month and that opened my eyes. She's my ONLY living relative left (my kids are too young). On to her making a will and getting life insurance for me. My ONLY savings are gone and my reputation's ruined. Ugh! 😡
These guidelines don't apply to victims of domestic abuse. Abusers are using parental alienation to get access to child and the other parent to continue the abuse.
I never put chains on my door. He said by phone let my husband adopt him, and rode off into the sunset. Now he doesn't want to pay child support so he's demanding to terminate child support and quit child support. What are you suppository do when you've moved on. I didn't give it a second thought trying to find him.
Im going through this my self except its my ex bf who doing it to me. We been in court time after time. I got pitcher and text messages to prove it but the judge think their nothing wrong with parental alienation.
We have been split for 6 years...he had physical custody for the last 3 years. He ignores me completely. Does not honor joint legal custody at all. Never ever gives me extra time asked for. He will have me take the kids for extra time if he is working and cannot get care...etc. ALWAYS at his personal convienience....never when I ask. This is terrible and I am working on filing for extra time in the court order. I was wondering if you could point me in the right direction to learn how to prepare a motion to show cause. I cannot find any how to's about it. I am below poverty level and cannot afford a retainer so I am In Pro Per. I dont need legal counsel....I just need access to information on how to format and requirements to do so along with the type of information it should contain so as not to give advantage to defendant. I LOVE your videos and wish there were more people doing this. Thanks Momma in Michigan
You and I are in the same boat. I have searched day in and out for information on how to write a proper motion. I can't find any video or web site. I just want the format! I can't get any answers. I'm going to try with what I have learned, i pray God helps me!
Hello, you have great info. Question, my X is telling my 4 year old son that I am not his dad and that her new boyfriend is his new dad. I have a video of my son telling me this. Is this enough to prove parental alienation? Thanks for your time!
Hello I have a trial for contempt of court against custodial mom for refusing access to parenting time. this is for being in contempt for not following court ordered make up time. I have the most of the paperwork for proof and do not believe I will have any problems proving contempt. The custodial parent has been arrested for theft multiple times since she this began. I wish to bring this up because I feel it demonstrates her lack of respect for any courts. is there a process I should look into? this is a trial for contempt I didn't know if I could petition for interim custody and it be brought up then. THANK YOU for the GReat videos I am watching and taking notes from each. thanks for keeping on truckin
I have a contempt action in play now. My s/o will come to the exchange place weekly but will not leave the exchange area after the child gets out of her car and comes to mine. She records the entire event every time. My child will come to my car , refuse to get in, and walk back over to my ex's car. Sometimes 15 or 20 min aftrer showing up at my car. My ex says the court order doesnt say leave the area. The order says that I pick up after school from the school. My ex would normally not be there if it weren't for COVID-19 and home-school. Her bringing my child to the exchange place (school) , then sitting there recording the events tells me that she is staging and /or condoning my child not getting into my car at exchanges. My ex, after letting my child re-enter her car will then leave the exchange area and that's it. No exchange made. Every week for two months this has been happening and I have 2 more months to go until the hearing. This is alienation , interference with parenting time/ custody etc. but will the judge do anything?
I have a modification hearing April 8th and my Ex husband hasn't spoken to me nor email or text. over a year now I have been getting my life back together after he ran me down in my yard in front of my kids. the county I live refused him any custody,, surgeries TBI, my doctors all say I'm competent. I just bought my car and rented a house all with the disability he caused. I'm trying to keep anger showing in court because I have one more surgery on my foot. He has a new wife is the only one who talks to me. I've never really met her at all. She does a great job but it's my job to be the mom. She tells me I have no say in my children's lives.
That is when you have to make sure you got evidence and you have to take the father to court because that is who the case is up against I have the same similar problem the step mom took my daughter to the doctor filled out medical forms she didn't even know what she was filling out she has no health history on my kid the guardian ad litem told her she stepped over the boundaries told her not to do it again after the court case was closed she then contacted my daughter's school and the school told her you have no right to call here they immediately called me you have to record everything that goes on get proof of everything take the father to court explain to the judge what is going on tell them you want to put this in the paperwork that the stepmother is to stay out of your business technically not in those words but the step mom's tends to supersede superseded means she's trying to act like the parent take the other parent to court rather be a stepmom or a stepdad and don't wait do it now
Going through all of this and more, and had documentation of each of these, but the judge refused to acknowledge any of them and allowed a move out of state. I am lost at what to do next.
Welcome to the reality of dealing with an ex who knows the system and judges who either don't care or have not a clue of what it is like to deal with an ex who does all of the behaviors listed. Really sad for the kids. Just watched The Joker, the movie really scared me. Mental illness is rampant and scary.
going through this recently. last month was when it hit the fan. but I have a question or two. negative body language? what about crying because you're being emotionally terrorized by the loss of your child or children and you have an outburst around the child and can't help it. children know if something is wrong. what about going through the court process itself and the harm children to through if they have to testify or are asked questions by someone. they will have to answer. I have been with my children since the day they were born and last month two of them have been taken and I can't seen them. the story is long and bad.
Yesterday I met the psychologist who will prepare the Family Report. I hadn’t seen my daughter in five years. I was told that my baby is Aligned with the other parent. I was also told that due to the trauma of meeting me for the first time in five years, I will only talk on the phone to my baby once a month, not each week, and am not permitted to see her. There are rewards for the alienating parent. Congratulations to my exwife on her victory
@@serenesrn3827 of course you are right, you’re always right. Based on bugger all information you have determined that I do not love my little girl. You’re a wonderful troll, now fcuk off and leave me alone, Twit
What about if father asked for visitation and mother agreed. After the first few visits,father calls to cancel his next visits .meanwhile mother is getting Cps called on for child neglect and abuse repeatedly. Can we counter sue the father for false allegations
I've been trying to get court order visits .it's been over a year and the judge still won't give me an answer. Can you help .I need help from outside of this county.ive watched many of these parenting videos, but nobody really wants to do anything.
I’m going through the same thing. My babies father and grandmother have temporary parenting. Order. I’m not allowed to see my baby at all anymore the grandmother lies about me she said that I’m not safe with my baby
Thank You all who take the Tragic and turn it into to triumph that your not going to dread every day your alive, my prison no longer exisisted when the clear picture of what is finally the truth and the dis honestly about the abuse in my entire life had been happening and behavior of parental alienation is where i stumbled upon COVERT NARRSASSTIC ABUSE. I have made endless attempts to see , talk and Love my little girl!! We were kept apartment for 4.5 yrs and when we reunited, it waa LIFE AS WE ALWAYS HAVE KNOWN NO CONDITIONS AND LOTS OF LOVE!!! Everything besides the 1 would like to ask Richard the most important question??? WHAT WOULD YOU DESCRIBE YOUR PART IN THIS conflict and the violation of all stipulations. No reguards to the courts and disrespecting the judge's orders. While i maintain and actually go out of ny way to accommodate Richard in a moment's notice when he's wanting to change the schedule. i provided more timewith Sarah than he did and was even put 2nd to Richards mother and this is only a small part of the entire worse nightmare you could ever imagine he has custody of our daughter. My mother passed away 4 yrs agi May 1st 20014 my F see ther s death was 1/5 later. This is when it all started happening, my own truth i had been always running from in fear of myself being thought of as a bad girl and that i was to blame. I need support and a lwgal team that knows these difficult cases!
My daughter was 6 yrs old when her dad ran off with her. She is 14 and now is at her grandmas house while they are bringing this to court for full custody..and my daughter has been completely alienated from me..and is about to choose to be with the predators family now and not me. Its absolutely horrible..and i can't do anything as its all damage done..id love to have a happy ending here. I want her home..but she is a stranger. I doubt ill win..but im gonna present this ordeal in court..and see what happens.
MagicMysteryMatrix Precisely. But may I add, as Dr Craig Childress points out, the child(ren) need to be temporarily separated from the brainwashing parent in order to reverse, or purge, the false allegations of the alienated parent.
I think it is tragic anytime a child has to pay a price for any reason related to divorce, child support issue etc. And that studies show children need both parents. However if one of the parent 's decides to behave in a manner which results in child abuse, ( such as parental alienation) and just refuses to course correct, then there's no other options.
parental alination dosnt happen until a father spends 1/4 million on lawyer fees. until that happens theres no alination,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, lawyers know that and live off on that, this lawyer is covering for this shakedown
Please help- what can I do to get emergency custody of my 3 children. Being physically verbally and emotionally abused by their father- Posible sexual molestation and my 10 year old just confessed to me she want to kill her self x. The system makes me sick. Law enforce CPS and court system is Wack Feeling hopeless 🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺
do you think that parental alienation. can be employed in California. because my ex for the past 8 year's. he has controlled my son and he doesn't love me or want to be part in his life. i didn't enforce it because i was prudent parent. never wanted my son to feel uncomfortable with and i didn't want drama. but its been 8 years of control from my ex. and my son it's a preteen. 13 to be exact. and his dad claims that my son. don't want to have communication or see me. because he doesn't want to. every year its the same thing. i don't have money to hire a layer. but i will love someone to advance me. so i can enforce the court order from 2010 wish was the last court i know. the dad is a ex marine. and he has the monetary way to destroy me in court. im just a low income part time worker. wish i haven't denied to be enforced to pay child support. but the dad doesn't want my money. he just doesn't want me in our son life. i have a 17 year old son. that he has been affected by this to. thank you if you can help.
that's really not fair on not wanting to be in the same room as the other parent. mine is very abusive. he dog whistles causing problems. in hopes I will act out in front of people. I cannot be in the same room as him
I went through this shit. I was NOT in my kids life for 13 years. I didn't have a number to keep in contact with them. For a few months I was paying $1,100 a month in child SUPPORT. I almost had a Nervous break down. The whole 13 years I wasn't in the kids life I still had to pay child support $500 a month. Now the kids are of age and wants nothing to do with me. The oldest actually called me the same thing the father use to say to me: Surrogate Mom, Dead beat mom and piece of shit. I'm forced out of the kids life and I pay my Child Support but I'm a dead beat mom. It's sad to say I am just as much a stranger to them as they are to me. There's no way of making any peace. The oldest HURT Me so Bad I called her a Bitch and told her I Regretted not getting an ABORTION with her. I know he is happy. I am permanently out of their lives. As mean as this sound I pray that all my kids goes through this. Then only then will they Understand. I HATE My oldest Child. She is a lot like her Father. The Bitch is in College to be a Lawyer(Cival Lawyer) I hope they teach this in Law School. I can NEVER have a Relationship with those very kids I gave birth to. This has DESTROYED me.
Patricia Petit wow... your story is heart breaking... i guess i know what i have to look forward to.. i lost my rights to my by default in a divorce i knew nothing about. i didn't show up to court because i wasn't served and didn't know. my ex wife one every thing due to no contest. i haven't seen my daughter for over 5 years. she's 9 now. the state recently took my daughter from her mother and contacted me for a hearing. her mother lied and said i mollested her. i'm scared to think of what kind of lies and coaching my little girl goes through. i've almost saved enough for the best lawyer in my state. i just hope i'm not too late. my daughter is 9 now. i'm not where you are yet i hope... but i can relate and i can understand your pain and why you would have hate. i hope it all changes for you.
Patricia Petit wow... your story is heart breaking... i guess i know what i have to look forward to.. i lost my rights to my by default in a divorce i knew nothing about. i didn't show up to court because i wasn't served and didn't know. my ex wife one every thing due to no contest. i haven't seen my daughter for over 5 years. she's 9 now. the state recently took my daughter from her mother and contacted me for a hearing. her mother lied and said i mollested her. i'm scared to think of what kind of lies and coaching my little girl goes through. i've almost saved enough for the best lawyer in my state. i just hope i'm not too late. my daughter is 9 now. i'm not where you are yet i hope... but i can relate and i can understand your pain and why you would have hate. i hope it all changes for you.
+American Nomad Good Luck to you and No you are NOT Too Late. God BLESS you. You can't believe that there are sick people out there doing this thing but it's true. It's too late for me. I will NEVER have any Relationship with my children again but HONESTLY I'm okay with it. I'm all cried out. Good Luck to you. Be the best parent you can be
Patricia, i can relate to your frustration and pain, i am living this very nightmare. I pay my glorified ransom demand every month, and i don't even know what the child looks like. The mother to the child i pay the ransom demand to made it known to me that i would be alienated from the baby once born. She was a real bitch to me from day 1 of telling she was pregnant. I was called fucking dumb to offer marriage on the night she told me she was pregnant, i was called fucking dumb to think she liked me, this woman went on a rampage of harassing me. I have joint custody but she said i don't know what joint custody is, in her view it means she blocks all communication. Law guardian Ella Van Loon said to me "Deanne is willing to let you see Nick for 2 hours on Christmas" who is this manipulative woman to offer any father such a bullshit offer as this? This was said so no holiday time would be written into the piece of garbage court order. This is a losing battle, if i pursue the child, i risk getting set up for something and i have to deal with being harassed to know end. The mother told me 7 years ago that i could never see the child and she changed her phone number, but CSE hold me at gun point to pay this ransom demand. $72,000 and counting. Nick is 16 now and has made it clear to me that he does not want to ever see me; his mother had him leave me several messages when he was 9 to never pick him up. This is a deadly trap ro get snared into. The child support system makes money off of pimping the federal government, that's where the problem is.
Patricia, Kids or no kids, you should never be abused by anyone like this. I took the abuse thinking it would leave a small window open to be in Nick's life, how wrong I was, it just fuels the abuse to a new level. When law guardian Ella Van Loon offered me 2 hours of visiting time on Christmas, i raised my voice to her and manipulating lawyer Silvia Josh and said "Are you kidding me, 2 hours on Christmas?, i haven't had a Christmas visit since the child's birth 5 years ago" she replied "look at all the anger you are displaying in front of us to women" this law guardian was desperately reaching for something negative about my character, but she didn't have anything, so she just pulled bullshit offers out of thin air, and sold this as law; she stated, "I talked to the little boy and he said he wants his mom around when he visits his dad" so the stage was set to start me on 6 chaperoned visits with Nick at near by restaurants with the mother watching me. I did not realize what game this law guardian was playing. This was all played to jeep me as the noncustodial parent and to sever the bulk of my real parental rights so title IV-D child support could be involved and to give the mother total control. I did request joint custody, Thomas Polito said "ok, the language will be joint custody" i don't think the reference had a choice, no evidence of any wrong doing was brought against me, there simply wasn't any. It is a rigged system Patricia. I hope life is better for you now. I count down the days when i have these demons in family court and child support out of my life.
I have done some of these things but yes there's a big butt you abused my daughter when she was 4 so yes I felt the need to protect her all these years he never goes to any school functions never involves himself in anything that she's done until he met a girl when she was 12 then all the sudden he had a daughter you still never goes any school functions or parent-teacher conferences or anything for that matter she would want to stay home and a weekend he would not allow her to nothing but problems between her the dad and the Stepmom all my my kid would say is I can't wait till I'm 18 cuz what is he going to do force me to go over there well here it is she just turned 17 almost two months ago now all the sudden she wants to go live with her dad why because she doesn't have any chores he just bought her a $700 camera so she can do UA-cam videos when she should be studying for school a few months ago he told her that she should go live with him when she gets out of high school and go to college out there and this all started just a couple months ago where she started getting very distant from me like she would come in the kitchen and make something to eat immediately leave she would barely talk to me and whenever he's around she acts completely different I can't figure out what the heck I've done other than try to protect her and now she wants to go live with her abuser to the one that's never been there for her and she is completely wanting to abandon me and I asked her what is your dad and your step mom saying to you because you're completely doing a 360 in the matter of 4 months and she keeps telling me they don't tell me anything they don't talk to me about anything about you and blah blah blah I think it's a total lie the child doesn't just turn on a parent automatically just like that. I think he is completely manipulating her also and trying to buy her love on top of it no matter what I do he tops It Off
My son doesn't want to talk to me no more and I would say 75% of the questions that you said in this video are acid and this video is true he is keeping him for me he is turning him against me he does not let me talk to him he does not even let me take cupcakes to see his school dropping not even just to his go drop them off only because I have to be supervised cuz I only have supervised visits which is understandable but I just want to drop them off not being there with them he doesn't want my son be in my life and it's kind of crazy because I never got a trial when I lost custody of my son they didn't let me go to trial I did have a lawyer he had a lawyer the lawyers talked in the back room for over almost 2 hours came back out the court Chambers chambers of the court I guess and she gave her ruling I had expert witness he was the detective it's the lie detective investigation of the child neglect or child case that he had filed against me saying that my son was in danger but he was a witness on my behalf saying that I did what I was supposed to do to keep my son safe from the person who harmed them in my home and he was never able to be even heard in the court the judge didn't allow that so it's been over 2 years now and my son doesn't want to talk to me he grew apart for me and he goes to the same school as my kids my other three kids that I have he sees them and everything but he does not want nothing to do with me I try to hold him in contempt for writing or because he would sometimes miss the supervised visits lot and he doesn't let me talk to my son he moved and he didn't let me know my son needs braces and he's not doing his part so I try to hold him in contempt for violating the court order for not taking them to our surprise visits that's court hearing is next week I don't know percent only 12 at that going to be 12 February 2nd so when I go to court next week I don't even know what to do I had a birthday that just passed on December 17th I called my son to see how he was and I didn't mind if I was on speaker he didn't put me on speaker he didn't even as he gets back and said he's busy with family and then I told him okay thank you I'm having give me a call he goes no that's not going to happen you could schedule a visit at the visit place if you want to talk to your son but when I do schedule visit the visit place I pay for the visit and my son tells the lady he doesn't want to see me so I think they're putting things in his head because that he will never do I don't think he's a very nice polite kid and I don't understand why he's refusing to see me he doesn't talk to me so I don't talk to him around the school grounds because I of course it has to be supervised which the principal is aware and if I do need an even message I leave it with the principal and she's aware of everything I wasn't allowed to buy his school pictures the father of didn't want him to attend today because of me paying for the pictures ahead of time and it's just a big ol mess do you have any advice for me what should I do when I go to court next week is just a follow-up on the to be held in contempt which he had a warrant out for his arrest for missing that first court date but he still violating the order of several times and he thinks it's funny he never raised my son he only got him every other weekend and I don't know maybe you don't understand this cuz I'm talking to the phone but can you message me and let me know what can I do
Because the judges are old as dinosaurs and they still believe a child is best with the mother. Judges believe we are still in leave it to beaver days.
The only way to detect parent alienation is this CPS recorded every conversation with every child because children use both parents words I know my words and I know my ex-husband's words this is the only way to detect parent alienation but we have to make CPS actually record the children's words they can't put you in jail without recording your words audio or video video would be better because then you can see the body language at the same time as a works the reason I say this is because my children all of them 1812 + 10 no one in ice boxes this is my mother word sometimes she couldn't see refrigerator and I have the same problem but all of my children no what a ice boxes when I tell them to go to the icebox they go to the refrigerator it's in the wards that they're using is the only way we're going to be able to detect child alienation we're not looking for a bruise we're looking for words whose words are they actually using
Careful with dcf. they're not what you think. I work in this field. Sure, as a woman, they'll make you feel comfy and will go to your exes place and file all kinds of negative stuff about him to make you feel good. See... This is a tactic they use. But you really gotta do some soul searching because if he really loves his kids you both could lose them forever. Because he'll fight, your lawyers will tell you to fight and then they'll say neither of you are fit parents because all you do is fight. Kids are worth 250k a pop through title 4e. After your kids are confiscated, then they'll really be getting abused in foster. I hope your love for your kids trumps your hate for your ex.
every question she does not speak to me email she doesn't replyshe falsified a r/o which is a way she keeps me awaythe judge as allowed me the ro is also mute all the question are showing alienationtheres been a evaluationyes yes yesshe's accused me of molestation was unfoundedRaymond hoskins
Raymond- I am so sorry you are having such a difficult time with her. The best thing you can do in this situation is continue to educate yourself, follow the rules and document EVERYTHING! Best of luck in your case.
The best part is that the alienator accuses the alienated of all the behaviors they do.
@Count Dracula After I started educating myself, the behaviors became predictable. It is terrible that I don't see my kids.
My God... I am literally experiencing just about EVERY single one of those behaviors!!!
I have lived through every claim for 14 years. It is no joke.
I'm thirteen and I think that this is happening to me. The parent I lived with always tells me how bad my other parent is and is always extra judgemental of my other parent.
@Erins2203 this happened to me when I was your age. I would just choose not to listen to Mum. Later on Mum took me to live in another state and I saw Dad less often, I was 15. When I was 18 I ran away from Mum’s. At 18 I couldn’t be taken back. I was never close to Dad and couldn’t trust Mum again so I make my own way. You’re not alone and you will find your own pathway
So sad... My son is being put through this now. I hope you are able to recover a relationship with the alienated parent.
I'm so sorry you have to go thru that I'm a mother and my daughter is being used to lie and shes scared of her father.
You are 15 now, and don't remember your post. I hope things are better for you.
I love all your information.
My son is 14 and has never seen his non custodial parent.
We feel like the man has woke from the grave.
What about my sons rights.
We've been on our own for 14 years
I just read a response from my wife from our divorce,that will be in hearing. I was so pissed when I seen all of her damands but after seeing this video I actually think it will hurt her. just about everything you listed is in her demands to the response of my petition. its like the more loving you are the more you will get thanks for this video.
How did it go
Here is how women force the father out - it works every time.
1) She tells the kids her new man is the father.
2) She tells the kids that you should be called by you first name now.
3) She says the kids do not want to go on visitation anymore.
4) She never tells you anything about school, sports, education of the kids.
5) she says the kids are sick.... Next week too.
The court system could care less about the father. All they care about is the child support checks coming in to the state. Wish men understood how this divorce with kids works - at least it would not be a surprise.
Unfortunately my ex has done all these things to me . My relationship with my son , I'm afraid is irreparable at this point and I feel helpless to do anything. He's 14 and I cannot force him to go with me. I'm at at loss as to what I should do.
Melissa Leonard I feel your pain. It’s excruciating. There are no words for parents like us.
The sadness runs deep. You are not alone, and now I know that I am not alone.
Hope Change I live it everyday. You are not alone.
I can help you get your lover back to you with the power of my voodoo spell and the love for you will be stronger than as it was before... just contact me now!!!
I am fighting and dealing with all of this i was a stay at home mother to our 5 children from being born up until 3yrs ago sadly I am BEING Alenated from my children and i am not finding ANY HELP at all the Divorce Judge didnt see any of this nor non of the other stuff example cps calls no phone calls either PLEASE PLEASE i need your help... Please
HELP! It's 5 years out from our contested divorce, and I'm dealing with a NARCISSIST! NO attorneys can help, 1 daughter refuses visits, my EX refuses mediation, our judge retired and we're so HIGH CONFLICT that the cops said don't talk to him and take him to court!
I also found out my EX stole and redeemed my $10,000 bond; also in my mom's name. I've been on The Treasury's ass over a year now. I'm tired of all of it. My mom was hospitalized early this month and that opened my eyes. She's my ONLY living relative left (my kids are too young). On to her making a will and getting life insurance for me. My ONLY savings are gone and my reputation's ruined. Ugh! 😡
These guidelines don't apply to victims of domestic abuse. Abusers are using parental alienation to get access to child and the other parent to continue the abuse.
This statement is so pointless
I’m being alienated in my case as well and there are symptoms like you are describing as well as having the same dynamics asDr Childress has detailed
I never put chains on my door. He said by phone let my husband adopt him, and rode off into the sunset.
Now he doesn't want to pay child support so he's demanding to terminate child support and quit child support.
What are you suppository do when you've moved on. I didn't give it a second thought trying to find him.
Number one sign is over sharing facts about the divorce with a child
Im going through this my self except its my ex bf who doing it to me. We been in court time after time. I got pitcher and text messages to prove it but the judge think their nothing wrong with parental alienation.
We have been split for 6 years...he had physical custody for the last 3 years. He ignores me completely. Does not honor joint legal custody at all. Never ever gives me extra time asked for. He will have me take the kids for extra time if he is working and cannot get care...etc. ALWAYS at his personal convienience....never when I ask.
This is terrible and I am working on filing for extra time in the court order.
I was wondering if you could point me in the right direction to learn how to prepare a motion to show cause. I cannot find any how to's about it. I am below poverty level and cannot afford a retainer so I am In Pro Per. I dont need legal counsel....I just need access to information on how to format and requirements to do so along with the type of information it should contain so as not to give advantage to defendant.
I LOVE your videos and wish there were more people doing this.
Thanks
Momma in Michigan
You and I are in the same boat. I have searched day in and out for information on how to write a proper motion. I can't find any video or web site. I just want the format! I can't get any answers. I'm going to try with what I have learned, i pray God helps me!
loving alienated parent should have custody CPS division of family breakup of family no respect for family your bill of rights
Hello, you have great info. Question, my X is telling my 4 year old son that I am not his dad and that her new boyfriend is his new dad. I have a video of my son telling me this. Is this enough to prove parental alienation? Thanks for your time!
Hello I have a trial for contempt of court against custodial mom for refusing access to parenting time. this is for being in contempt for not following court ordered make up time. I have the most of the paperwork for proof and do not believe I will have any problems proving contempt.
The custodial parent has been arrested for theft multiple times since she this began.
I wish to bring this up because I feel it demonstrates her lack of respect for any courts. is there a process I should look into? this is a trial for contempt I didn't know if I could petition for interim custody and it be brought up then.
THANK YOU for the GReat videos I am watching and taking notes from each.
thanks for keeping on truckin
I have a contempt action in play now. My s/o will come to the exchange place weekly but will not leave the exchange area after the child gets out of her car and comes to mine. She records the entire event every time. My child will come to my car , refuse to get in, and walk back over to my ex's car. Sometimes 15 or 20 min aftrer showing up at my car. My ex says the court order doesnt say leave the area. The order says that I pick up after school from the school. My ex would normally not be there if it weren't for COVID-19 and home-school. Her bringing my child to the exchange place (school) , then sitting there recording the events tells me that she is staging and /or condoning my child not getting into my car at exchanges. My ex, after letting my child re-enter her car will then leave the exchange area and that's it. No exchange made. Every week for two months this has been happening and I have 2 more months to go until the hearing. This is alienation , interference with parenting time/ custody etc. but will the judge do anything?
Hello Sir - this is happening to me. May I ask what the outcome of your contempt case was?
I have a modification hearing April 8th and my Ex husband hasn't spoken to me nor email or text. over a year now I have been getting my life back together after he ran me down in my yard in front of my kids. the county I live refused him any custody,, surgeries TBI, my doctors all say I'm competent. I just bought my car and rented a house all with the disability he caused. I'm trying to keep anger showing in court because I have one more surgery on my foot. He has a new wife is the only one who talks to me. I've never really met her at all. She does a great job but it's my job to be the mom. She tells me I have no say in my children's lives.
what can you do if the step-mom of your child is doing this? to you and your child and she has no rights to your child? what do you do then?
I would like to know the answer to this too!
@@anniej5796 me too
That is when you have to make sure you got evidence and you have to take the father to court because that is who the case is up against I have the same similar problem the step mom took my daughter to the doctor filled out medical forms she didn't even know what she was filling out she has no health history on my kid the guardian ad litem told her she stepped over the boundaries told her not to do it again after the court case was closed she then contacted my daughter's school and the school told her you have no right to call here they immediately called me you have to record everything that goes on get proof of everything take the father to court explain to the judge what is going on tell them you want to put this in the paperwork that the stepmother is to stay out of your business technically not in those words but the step mom's tends to supersede superseded means she's trying to act like the parent take the other parent to court rather be a stepmom or a stepdad and don't wait do it now
Going through all of this and more, and had documentation of each of these, but the judge refused to acknowledge any of them and allowed a move out of state. I am lost at what to do next.
Welcome to the reality of dealing with an ex who knows the system and judges who either don't care or have not a clue of what it is like to deal with an ex who does all of the behaviors listed. Really sad for the kids. Just watched The
Joker, the movie really scared me. Mental illness is rampant and scary.
going through this recently. last month was when it hit the fan. but I have a question or two. negative body language? what about crying because you're being emotionally terrorized by the loss of your child or children and you have an outburst around the child and can't help it. children know if something is wrong. what about going through the court process itself and the harm children to through if they have to testify or are asked questions by someone. they will have to answer. I have been with my children since the day they were born and last month two of them have been taken and I can't seen them. the story is long and bad.
Yesterday I met the psychologist who will prepare the Family Report. I hadn’t seen my daughter in five years. I was told that my baby is Aligned with the other parent. I was also told that due to the trauma of meeting me for the first time in five years, I will only talk on the phone to my baby once a month, not each week, and am not permitted to see her. There are rewards for the alienating parent.
Congratulations to my exwife on her victory
Why didn't you do your visitation for 5 years ?
@@serenesrn3827 I was not permitted by the mother.
@@n5017858no loving parent waits 5 years if they are stopped from seeing their child.
@@serenesrn3827 of course you are right, you’re always right. Based on bugger all information you have determined that I do not love my little girl. You’re a wonderful troll, now fcuk off and leave me alone, Twit
What about if father asked for visitation and mother agreed. After the first few visits,father calls to cancel his next visits .meanwhile mother is getting Cps called on for child neglect and abuse repeatedly. Can we counter sue the father for false allegations
I've been trying to get court order visits .it's been over a year and the judge still won't give me an answer.
Can you help .I need help from outside of this county.ive watched many of these parenting videos, but nobody really wants to do anything.
I’m going through the same thing. My babies father and grandmother have temporary parenting. Order. I’m not allowed to see my baby at all anymore the grandmother lies about me she said that I’m not safe with my baby
@@candygirl4013 I was told God doesn't give us more than we can handle,so don't quit or give up.
Thank You all who take the Tragic and turn it into to triumph that your not going to dread every day your alive, my prison no longer exisisted when the clear picture of what is finally the truth and the dis honestly about the abuse in my entire life had been happening and behavior of parental alienation is where i stumbled upon COVERT NARRSASSTIC ABUSE. I have made endless attempts to see , talk and Love my little girl!! We were kept apartment for 4.5 yrs and when we reunited, it waa LIFE AS WE ALWAYS HAVE KNOWN NO CONDITIONS AND LOTS OF LOVE!!! Everything besides the 1 would like to ask Richard the most important question???
WHAT WOULD YOU DESCRIBE YOUR PART IN THIS conflict and the violation of all stipulations. No reguards to the courts and disrespecting the judge's orders. While i maintain and actually go out of ny way to accommodate Richard in a moment's notice when he's wanting to change the schedule. i provided more timewith Sarah than he did and was even put 2nd to Richards mother and this is only a small part of the entire worse nightmare you could ever imagine he has custody of our daughter. My mother passed away 4 yrs agi May 1st 20014 my F see ther s death was 1/5 later. This is when it all started happening, my own truth i had been always running from in fear of myself being thought of as a bad girl and that i was to blame. I need support and a lwgal team that knows these difficult cases!
My daughter was 6 yrs old when her dad ran off with her. She is 14 and now is at her grandmas house while they are bringing this to court for full custody..and my daughter has been completely alienated from me..and is about to choose to be with the predators family now and not me. Its absolutely horrible..and i can't do anything as its all damage done..id love to have a happy ending here. I want her home..but she is a stranger. I doubt ill win..but im gonna present this ordeal in court..and see what happens.
Good luck
Still living with my soon to be ex husband and daughter. He has succeeded in alienating me from my daughter.
Thank you!
alienated loving parent should have custody
MagicMysteryMatrix Precisely. But may I add, as Dr Craig Childress points out, the child(ren) need to be temporarily separated from the brainwashing parent in order to reverse, or purge, the false allegations of the alienated parent.
I think it is tragic anytime a child has to pay a price for any reason related to divorce, child support issue etc. And that studies show children need both parents. However if one of the parent 's decides to behave in a manner which results in child abuse, ( such as parental alienation) and just refuses to course correct, then there's no other options.
parental alination dosnt happen until a father spends 1/4 million on lawyer fees. until that happens theres no alination,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, lawyers know that and live off on that, this lawyer is covering for this shakedown
Please help- what can I do to get emergency custody of my 3 children. Being physically verbally and emotionally abused by their father-
Posible sexual molestation and my 10 year old just confessed to me she want to kill her self x.
The system makes me sick.
Law enforce
CPS and court system is Wack
Feeling hopeless 🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺
Have you ever heard of a situation where non blood related Guardian(s) alienate the children from both the mother and the father's families?
Unfortunately I went through this myself. God bless you.
do you think that parental alienation. can be employed in California. because my ex for the past 8 year's. he has controlled my son and he doesn't love me or want to be part in his life. i didn't enforce it because i was prudent parent. never wanted my son to feel uncomfortable with and i didn't want drama. but its been 8 years of control from my ex. and my son it's a preteen. 13 to be exact. and his dad claims that my son. don't want to have communication or see me. because he doesn't want to. every year its the same thing. i don't have money to hire a layer. but i will love someone to advance me. so i can enforce the court order from 2010 wish was the last court i know. the dad is a ex marine. and he has the monetary way to destroy me in court. im just a low income part time worker. wish i haven't denied to be enforced to pay child support. but the dad doesn't want my money. he just doesn't want me in our son life. i have a 17 year old son. that he has been affected by this to. thank you if you can help.
that's really not fair on not wanting to be in the same room as the other parent. mine is very abusive. he dog whistles causing problems. in hopes I will act out in front of people. I cannot be in the same room as him
All of the above and so much more! PA strategies suck.
THANK YOU O THANK YOU
I went through this shit. I was NOT in my kids life for 13 years. I didn't have a number to keep in contact with them. For a few months I was paying $1,100 a month in child SUPPORT. I almost had a Nervous break down. The whole 13 years I wasn't in the kids life I still had to pay child support $500 a month. Now the kids are of age and wants nothing to do with me. The oldest actually called me the same thing the father use to say to me: Surrogate Mom, Dead beat mom and piece of shit. I'm forced out of the kids life and I pay my Child Support but I'm a dead beat mom. It's sad to say I am just as much a stranger to them as they are to me. There's no way of making any peace. The oldest HURT Me so Bad I called her a Bitch and told her I Regretted not getting an ABORTION with her. I know he is happy. I am permanently out of their lives. As mean as this sound I pray that all my kids goes through this. Then only then will they Understand. I HATE My oldest Child. She is a lot like her Father. The Bitch is in College to be a Lawyer(Cival Lawyer) I hope they teach this in Law School. I can NEVER have a Relationship with those very kids I gave birth to. This has DESTROYED me.
Patricia Petit wow... your story is heart breaking... i guess i know what i have to look forward to.. i lost my rights to my by default in a divorce i knew nothing about. i didn't show up to court because i wasn't served and didn't know. my ex wife one every thing due to no contest. i haven't seen my daughter for over 5 years. she's 9 now. the state recently took my daughter from her mother and contacted me for a hearing. her mother lied and said i mollested her. i'm scared to think of what kind of lies and coaching my little girl goes through. i've almost saved enough for the best lawyer in my state. i just hope i'm not too late. my daughter is 9 now. i'm not where you are yet i hope... but i can relate and i can understand your pain and why you would have hate. i hope it all changes for you.
Patricia Petit wow... your story is heart breaking... i guess i know what i have to look forward to.. i lost my rights to my by default in a divorce i knew nothing about. i didn't show up to court because i wasn't served and didn't know. my ex wife one every thing due to no contest. i haven't seen my daughter for over 5 years. she's 9 now. the state recently took my daughter from her mother and contacted me for a hearing. her mother lied and said i mollested her. i'm scared to think of what kind of lies and coaching my little girl goes through. i've almost saved enough for the best lawyer in my state. i just hope i'm not too late. my daughter is 9 now. i'm not where you are yet i hope... but i can relate and i can understand your pain and why you would have hate. i hope it all changes for you.
+American Nomad Good Luck to you and No you are NOT Too Late. God BLESS you. You can't believe that there are sick people out there doing this thing but it's true. It's too late for me. I will NEVER have any Relationship with my children again but HONESTLY I'm okay with it. I'm all cried out. Good Luck to you. Be the best parent you can be
Patricia, i can relate to your frustration and pain, i am living this very nightmare. I pay my glorified ransom demand every month, and i don't even know what the child looks like. The mother to the child i pay the ransom demand to made it known to me that i would be alienated from the baby once born. She was a real bitch to me from day 1 of telling she was pregnant. I was called fucking dumb to offer marriage on the night she told me she was pregnant, i was called fucking dumb to think she liked me, this woman went on a rampage of harassing me. I have joint custody but she said i don't know what joint custody is, in her view it means she blocks all communication. Law guardian Ella Van Loon said to me "Deanne is willing to let you see Nick for 2 hours on Christmas" who is this manipulative woman to offer any father such a bullshit offer as this? This was said so no holiday time would be written into the piece of garbage court order. This is a losing battle, if i pursue the child, i risk getting set up for something and i have to deal with being harassed to know end. The mother told me 7 years ago that i could never see the child and she changed her phone number, but CSE hold me at gun point to pay this ransom demand. $72,000 and counting. Nick is 16 now and has made it clear to me that he does not want to ever see me; his mother had him leave me several messages when he was 9 to never pick him up. This is a deadly trap ro get snared into. The child support system makes money off of pimping the federal government, that's where the problem is.
Patricia,
Kids or no kids, you should never be abused by anyone like this. I took the abuse thinking it would leave a small window open to be in Nick's life, how wrong I was, it just fuels the abuse to a new level. When law guardian Ella Van Loon offered me 2 hours of visiting time on Christmas, i raised my voice to her and manipulating lawyer Silvia Josh and said "Are you kidding me, 2 hours on Christmas?, i haven't had a Christmas visit since the child's birth 5 years ago" she replied "look at all the anger you are displaying in front of us to women" this law guardian was desperately reaching for something negative about my character, but she didn't have anything, so she just pulled bullshit offers out of thin air, and sold this as law; she stated, "I talked to the little boy and he said he wants his mom around when he visits his dad" so the stage was set to start me on 6 chaperoned visits with Nick at near by restaurants with the mother watching me. I did not realize what game this law guardian was playing. This was all played to jeep me as the noncustodial parent and to sever the bulk of my real parental rights so title IV-D child support could be involved and to give the mother total control. I did request joint custody, Thomas Polito said "ok, the language will be joint custody" i don't think the reference had a choice, no evidence of any wrong doing was brought against me, there simply wasn't any. It is a rigged system Patricia. I hope life is better for you now. I count down the days when i have these demons in family court and child support out of my life.
I have done some of these things but yes there's a big butt you abused my daughter when she was 4 so yes I felt the need to protect her all these years he never goes to any school functions never involves himself in anything that she's done until he met a girl when she was 12 then all the sudden he had a daughter you still never goes any school functions or parent-teacher conferences or anything for that matter she would want to stay home and a weekend he would not allow her to nothing but problems between her the dad and the Stepmom all my my kid would say is I can't wait till I'm 18 cuz what is he going to do force me to go over there well here it is she just turned 17 almost two months ago now all the sudden she wants to go live with her dad why because she doesn't have any chores he just bought her a $700 camera so she can do UA-cam videos when she should be studying for school a few months ago he told her that she should go live with him when she gets out of high school and go to college out there and this all started just a couple months ago where she started getting very distant from me like she would come in the kitchen and make something to eat immediately leave she would barely talk to me and whenever he's around she acts completely different I can't figure out what the heck I've done other than try to protect her and now she wants to go live with her abuser to the one that's never been there for her and she is completely wanting to abandon me and I asked her what is your dad and your step mom saying to you because you're completely doing a 360 in the matter of 4 months and she keeps telling me they don't tell me anything they don't talk to me about anything about you and blah blah blah I think it's a total lie the child doesn't just turn on a parent automatically just like that. I think he is completely manipulating her also and trying to buy her love on top of it no matter what I do he tops It Off
Hello,
Please email me in your response these questions.
Thank you, very much.
My son doesn't want to talk to me no more and I would say 75% of the questions that you said in this video are acid and this video is true he is keeping him for me he is turning him against me he does not let me talk to him he does not even let me take cupcakes to see his school dropping not even just to his go drop them off only because I have to be supervised cuz I only have supervised visits which is understandable but I just want to drop them off not being there with them he doesn't want my son be in my life and it's kind of crazy because I never got a trial when I lost custody of my son they didn't let me go to trial I did have a lawyer he had a lawyer the lawyers talked in the back room for over almost 2 hours came back out the court Chambers chambers of the court I guess and she gave her ruling I had expert witness he was the detective it's the lie detective investigation of the child neglect or child case that he had filed against me saying that my son was in danger but he was a witness on my behalf saying that I did what I was supposed to do to keep my son safe from the person who harmed them in my home and he was never able to be even heard in the court the judge didn't allow that so it's been over 2 years now and my son doesn't want to talk to me he grew apart for me and he goes to the same school as my kids my other three kids that I have he sees them and everything but he does not want nothing to do with me I try to hold him in contempt for writing or because he would sometimes miss the supervised visits lot and he doesn't let me talk to my son he moved and he didn't let me know my son needs braces and he's not doing his part so I try to hold him in contempt for violating the court order for not taking them to our surprise visits that's court hearing is next week I don't know percent only 12 at that going to be 12 February 2nd so when I go to court next week I don't even know what to do I had a birthday that just passed on December 17th I called my son to see how he was and I didn't mind if I was on speaker he didn't put me on speaker he didn't even as he gets back and said he's busy with family and then I told him okay thank you I'm having give me a call he goes no that's not going to happen you could schedule a visit at the visit place if you want to talk to your son but when I do schedule visit the visit place I pay for the visit and my son tells the lady he doesn't want to see me so I think they're putting things in his head because that he will never do I don't think he's a very nice polite kid and I don't understand why he's refusing to see me he doesn't talk to me so I don't talk to him around the school grounds because I of course it has to be supervised which the principal is aware and if I do need an even message I leave it with the principal and she's aware of everything I wasn't allowed to buy his school pictures the father of didn't want him to attend today because of me paying for the pictures ahead of time and it's just a big ol mess do you have any advice for me what should I do when I go to court next week is just a follow-up on the to be held in contempt which he had a warrant out for his arrest for missing that first court date but he still violating the order of several times and he thinks it's funny he never raised my son he only got him every other weekend and I don't know maybe you don't understand this cuz I'm talking to the phone but can you message me and let me know what can I do
These can all be signs of abuse. Parental alienation is used in abuse cases. This saddens me that this is being recommended to use in a case
I answered yes to 98% of these questions. My ex-wife is definitely doing this
why does law on civil family matters on side women even when woman in wrong
It's really disgusting. Even a violent prostitute druggy have more credibility than a stable man in the eyes of some lawyers and judges...
Because the judges are old as dinosaurs and they still believe a child is best with the mother. Judges believe we are still in leave it to beaver days.
My ex completely turned our 14yr old son against me. Its been a nightmare.
The only way to detect parent alienation is this CPS recorded every conversation with every child because children use both parents words I know my words and I know my ex-husband's words this is the only way to detect parent alienation but we have to make CPS actually record the children's words they can't put you in jail without recording your words audio or video video would be better because then you can see the body language at the same time as a works the reason I say this is because my children all of them 1812 + 10 no one in ice boxes this is my mother word sometimes she couldn't see refrigerator and I have the same problem but all of my children no what a ice boxes when I tell them to go to the icebox they go to the refrigerator it's in the wards that they're using is the only way we're going to be able to detect child alienation we're not looking for a bruise we're looking for words whose words are they actually using
Careful with dcf. they're not what you think. I work in this field. Sure, as a woman, they'll make you feel comfy and will go to your exes place and file all kinds of negative stuff about him to make you feel good. See... This is a tactic they use. But you really gotta do some soul searching because if he really loves his kids you both could lose them forever. Because he'll fight, your lawyers will tell you to fight and then they'll say neither of you are fit parents because all you do is fight. Kids are worth 250k a pop through title 4e. After your kids are confiscated, then they'll really be getting abused in foster. I hope your love for your kids trumps your hate for your ex.
every question she does not speak to me email she doesn't replyshe falsified a r/o which is a way she keeps me awaythe judge as allowed me the ro is also mute all the question are showing alienationtheres been a evaluationyes yes yesshe's accused me of molestation was unfoundedRaymond hoskins
Raymond- I am so sorry you are having such a difficult time with her. The best thing you can do in this situation is continue to educate yourself, follow the rules and document EVERYTHING! Best of luck in your case.
Thank you
Is it appropriate for another parent to ask for a child to miss school? This parent is out of state.
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