Sorry no one checked up on you. Life gets lonelier as one ages and it's okay. One learns to appreciate meaningful interactions, authentic and good people, and loved ones even more. Feel free to reach out.
I'm surprised Coopers Vet didn't send him home with Head Cone. I've never known a dog or cat that won't try to pull the bandage or cast off, or lick a wound. That's a natural behavior.
Jay, you sound like every new parent, ever😁 The struggle is real. At least when it’s a puppy, you can put it safely in a carrier and go out to do your grocery shopping alone, you can’t really do that with human babies…🤣 It took me forty years to realise how toxic my relationship with my mother was, and a few years ago, I severed all ties, I’ve never felt healthier, my kids and husband are pretty much the only family I have now, but we’re happy and safe. Letting go of your past hurts, but when you get to the other side of it all, it’s totally worth it. I think you nailed the confidence question when you said that you care less about what other people think of you now, that is a huge step forward. That says, ‘I know who I am, I know my worth, and if you can’t see it, that’s not my problem.’ Thank you for sharing your beautiful life with us.
My soulmate is jay ❤ the way you said I want to be confident etc to forget about myself and focus on family etc is the most accurate and intelligent I’ve heard anyone say. I’ve been feeling this for so long and I resonate with it
I turn YT on in the background when I work and random vids play. This one popped up. I am in a shite work situtation (along with many others). I am the emotional support blanket for my colleagues. Everyone assumes that I have space for them whilst not allowing me the same grace; I atribute this to the way that I present to the world. I wanted to say that you definitely do a great job with Cooper! And, the outfit in this video looks so good!!! Just a little boost (that is justified and deserved). I use a bike as my transport too. I love showing up looking sharp but also being happy because I am on a bike!
Ah, being the emotional support blanket is a HARD habit to break others out of, but it's totally worth starting to set boundaries with them, even slowly at first. Asking consent before emotional dumping (ie, "do you have the space for a rant") is so important and might seem silly but sometimes we just don't have the space to shoulder other people's stuff AND our own. You've got this! Thanks for the comment!
Be confident that your blazer is awesome. Puppies are a constant learning curve, It's such a worrisome period. Cooper is awesome, too. So sweet and chill.
Thank you Jay for sharing your ideas and thoughts. You have so much integrity and it is very helpful to me and I’m sure so many others to know they are not alone in these thoughts! It is harder later in life to keep and make new friends! I really love your videos and have been watching them all as I’m coming to Paris next week! Merci!!
I think what you’re feeling is very normal some people just hide it better than others. None of us really know what’s going on don’t be fooled by those that pretend they do
A suggestion for Cooper & the bandage--you might try coating the exterior of the bandage with bitter apple or Ban underarm deodorant. They taste bad & I have successfully trained several puppies with it to make furniture & other things unappealing to their mouth. Thank you for sharing, as usual. You are articulate & straight forward which makes it easy to follow & relate to. You have again given me somehting to look at.
You're going in the right direction Jay. Being a parent is one of the hardest jobs and you're doing great raising Cooper. Life is full of uncertainties, as you said just be flexible, stay positive and be good to yourself. Friends can surprise you, the ones you think will be there through thick and thin will disappoint you. I'm glad you have good friends around who do care about you.
I just have watched every video I can from your Chanel 😊 It takes so much courage and confidence to be this open. I admire the way you show your work and I love your vlogs and for that I think you are confident, but also notice that even with experience and time the struggle is real with creators. I am starting my UA-cam channel and sometimes hesitate and have self doubt. Also, When we are capable to go through things and deal with stuffs alone people understand that we are just fine, when we really need a hug, to say the least. Keep going 👏🏽😉
Since you’re bald, with beard, and wearing vans, this video could be me 100%. All situations, struggles, dramas… it feels we were the same. Congrats on the video.
Copper is like, ‘Who are you talking to?’ And, when you appear to have your act together people forget you need help sometimes. Believe me, I totally understand! We love you and I hope you have people check in on you when you need it!❤ And, ummm, put Cooper in the cone of shame so he doesn’t naw on his bandages!
You were talking about people you thought would check in on you and didn’t is so true I was thinking like that for two years but I had to let go , your so so true about being confident about being yourself , and jay your confident, great guy I love listening and your a great dad to cooper , I’ve been here from the first year , and I see a new you someone who now loves themselves, well done 🙏👍
You're a great dude Jay, I just bought your book and am looking forward to reading it on my upcoming trip to France. I heard your synopsis on the 'sea of the unknown' and it sounds like it will be tres util pour ce moment dans ma vie. Anyhoo keep up the splendid work my friend 😀
Following you now for about 2 years i guess. And im not known for a subtle opinion,sorry😁. You have grown a lot . And lack of confedence was a part of a great deal of my life . And unfortunately holding me back. But i realised what was happening and changing went slow like you. But always keep in mind that lack of confidence comes from fear of not succeeding or to live up to your expectations. I used this to set a level for myself and like you being hard on yourself to accomplish goals.... but dont see this is as a weakness but as a power. You live in Paris, you have a loyal following and friends. You travel alot and ofcourse your doggy pal😄.... and last but definitely not least PEOPLE PAY TO SEE YOU😁👍👍👍👍. Dont let your past hold you back but aknowledge it and use it as a strength in the future. And i learned unfortunately if you can live with yourself you are never lonely.
To Kate’s point, you can be confident in some areas and lack confidence in others, and that’s perfectly reasonable. I’m not sure you can or should be confident all the time, but you do need a basic confidence that you’re capable of being a good person, capable of learning, and capable of growing. I’m glad that you’re feeling more confident about what I’ll call your core strength.
You can't fulfill, reach the potential of, attain to the truth of who you are going forward while wrestling with the thoughts and memories of the past. Sure.. there might be a good bunch of great memories (but isn't it funny how those never matter nearly enough..?) Instead, the way most of us are wired, we can't help but spend time reflecting on the ones that you find yourself identifying with the most (depending on the unresolved issues) This is affecting many layers of the "person" in terms of your determination, resolve, choice of what to do or be creative about and of course... confidence. The work out of this is fascinating.. and possible. In fact, I believe it is, for some of us.. our life purpose (I am convinced indeed) Furthermore, if there's anything "certain" to me, is that your inquiries, questions, self-reflection will continue to inevitably lead you to what I can't think of describing as anything other than... freedom. (as you will one day yourself acknowledge was the case..) ⚛
Hey there - I saw your last video when you mentioned he pulled a nail out (my dog did that recently, too. SO GROSSSSSSS). I'm so sorry about that. Warning, Un-asked for advice time (lol): Did you think about a cone or a neck donut? My dog had to wear one if he wasn't directly being paid attention to - for much longer than I thought he'd have to while waiting for it to heal.
L'estime de soi est un instrument de mesure intéressant. Avez-vous de l'estime de soi à cause de vos amis, de votre travail ou d'un parent ? Chaque domaine peut nous laisser tomber et nous faire douter de nous-mêmes. J'aime vos découvertes de soi. Les gens ne sont pas dérangés par ceux qui ont confiance mais par ceux qui sont à l'aise avec l'inconnu. Jay, tout votre vie concerne les inconnues . Très peu seraient assez courageux pour marcher dans vos souliers !
If I were to describe the overall energy of the people in Paris, confident would have been a good word choice. Everyone seemed so set on what they wanted to do around me. They walked with confidence wherever they went. They weren't afraid to wait for what they wanted, even if they complained the entire time about the line lol. Being around them rubbed off on me. I stopped second-guessing my decisions while traveling the city. Honestly can't wait to go back, I miss Paris. 😊 P.S. Does Coop need a soft cone of shame to keep him from eating his leg?
I can relate exactly with what you said on how the 8 year old self with unlimited confidence. What did your therapist say when you mentioned that and wanting to recapture it? And how can I do that? haha
You’ve nothing to feel unsure about in how you’ve raised Cooper. He’s a fantastic well behaved dog. Strange isn’t it how people you think of as really good friends are suddenly not there when you need them. I can really identify with that !
Do you have another channel where you talk about Paris, life in France etc? That's what I'm most interested in 😊
This is a vlog …. There are other videos (tons of them) about specific Paris topics. Go to the channel and look at the Videos tab to find them.
Sorry no one checked up on you. Life gets lonelier as one ages and it's okay. One learns to appreciate meaningful interactions, authentic and good people, and loved ones even more. Feel free to reach out.
I'm surprised Coopers Vet didn't send him home with Head Cone. I've never known a dog or cat that won't try to pull the bandage or cast off, or lick a wound. That's a natural behavior.
Jay, you sound like every new parent, ever😁 The struggle is real. At least when it’s a puppy, you can put it safely in a carrier and go out to do your grocery shopping alone, you can’t really do that with human babies…🤣
It took me forty years to realise how toxic my relationship with my mother was, and a few years ago, I severed all ties, I’ve never felt healthier, my kids and husband are pretty much the only family I have now, but we’re happy and safe. Letting go of your past hurts, but when you get to the other side of it all, it’s totally worth it.
I think you nailed the confidence question when you said that you care less about what other people think of you now, that is a huge step forward. That says, ‘I know who I am, I know my worth, and if you can’t see it, that’s not my problem.’ Thank you for sharing your beautiful life with us.
My soulmate is jay ❤ the way you said I want to be confident etc to forget about myself and focus on family etc is the most accurate and intelligent I’ve heard anyone say. I’ve been feeling this for so long and I resonate with it
Have you thought about putting a cone on Cooper so he won't bite on his bandage?
I turn YT on in the background when I work and random vids play. This one popped up.
I am in a shite work situtation (along with many others). I am the emotional support blanket for my colleagues. Everyone assumes that I have space for them whilst not allowing me the same grace; I atribute this to the way that I present to the world.
I wanted to say that you definitely do a great job with Cooper! And, the outfit in this video looks so good!!! Just a little boost (that is justified and deserved). I use a bike as my transport too. I love showing up looking sharp but also being happy because I am on a bike!
Ah, being the emotional support blanket is a HARD habit to break others out of, but it's totally worth starting to set boundaries with them, even slowly at first. Asking consent before emotional dumping (ie, "do you have the space for a rant") is so important and might seem silly but sometimes we just don't have the space to shoulder other people's stuff AND our own. You've got this! Thanks for the comment!
Jay, you look incredibly healthy. I hope you feel as good as you look.
Be confident that your blazer is awesome.
Puppies are a constant learning curve, It's such a worrisome period. Cooper is awesome, too. So sweet and chill.
Thank you Jay for sharing your ideas and thoughts. You have so much integrity and it is very helpful to me and I’m sure so many others to know they are not alone in these thoughts!
It is harder later in life to keep and make new friends!
I really love your videos and have been watching them all as I’m coming to Paris next week!
Merci!!
I think what you’re feeling is very normal some people just hide it better than others. None of us really know what’s going on don’t be fooled by those that pretend they do
A suggestion for Cooper & the bandage--you might try coating the exterior of the bandage with bitter apple or Ban underarm deodorant. They taste bad & I have successfully trained several puppies with it to make furniture & other things unappealing to their mouth. Thank you for sharing, as usual. You are articulate & straight forward which makes it easy to follow & relate to. You have again given me somehting to look at.
You're going in the right direction Jay. Being a parent is one of the hardest jobs and you're doing great raising Cooper. Life is full of uncertainties, as you said just be flexible, stay positive and be good to yourself. Friends can surprise you, the ones you think will be there through thick and thin will disappoint you. I'm glad you have good friends around who do care about you.
As always insiteful and a super help. Thank you
I just have watched every video I can from your Chanel 😊
It takes so much courage and confidence to be this open. I admire the way you show your work and I love your vlogs and for that I think you are confident, but also notice that even with experience and time the struggle is real with creators. I am starting my UA-cam channel and sometimes hesitate and have self doubt. Also, When we are capable to go through things and deal with stuffs alone people understand that we are just fine, when we really need a hug, to say the least. Keep going 👏🏽😉
Thanks, Maryshel!
Love this message, love this video, keep having confidence Jay!🎥🎥🎥
Loved this one 👍and Cooper is growing so tall 🐶❤️
Since you’re bald, with beard, and wearing vans, this video could be me 100%. All situations, struggles, dramas… it feels we were the same. Congrats on the video.
Thanks Daniel 🥂
Copper is like, ‘Who are you talking to?’
And, when you appear to have your act together people forget you need help sometimes. Believe me, I totally understand!
We love you and I hope you have people check in on you when you need it!❤
And, ummm, put Cooper in the cone of shame so he doesn’t naw on his bandages!
You were talking about people you thought would check in on you and didn’t is so true I was thinking like that for two years but I had to let go , your so so true about being confident about being yourself , and jay your confident, great guy I love listening and your a great dad to cooper , I’ve been here from the first year , and I see a new you someone who now loves themselves, well done 🙏👍
I truley enjoy these talks it gives me perspective
I'm so glad to hear that!
You're a great dude Jay, I just bought your book and am looking forward to reading it on my upcoming trip to France. I heard your synopsis on the 'sea of the unknown' and it sounds like it will be tres util pour ce moment dans ma vie. Anyhoo keep up the splendid work my friend 😀
You have also moderated your dressing style. You look very nice. Classy.
Confidence is a two edged sword: Have a lot and people see only the confidence side, not all the doubts each person struggle with.
Following you now for about 2 years i guess. And im not known for a subtle opinion,sorry😁. You have grown a lot . And lack of confedence was a part of a great deal of my life . And unfortunately holding me back. But i realised what was happening and changing went slow like you. But always keep in mind that lack of confidence comes from fear of not succeeding or to live up to your expectations. I used this to set a level for myself and like you being hard on yourself to accomplish goals.... but dont see this is as a weakness but as a power. You live in Paris, you have a loyal following and friends. You travel alot and ofcourse your doggy pal😄.... and last but definitely not least PEOPLE PAY TO SEE YOU😁👍👍👍👍. Dont let your past hold you back but aknowledge it and use it as a strength in the future. And i learned unfortunately if you can live with yourself you are never lonely.
To Kate’s point, you can be confident in some areas and lack confidence in others, and that’s perfectly reasonable. I’m not sure you can or should be confident all the time, but you do need a basic confidence that you’re capable of being a good person, capable of learning, and capable of growing. I’m glad that you’re feeling more confident about what I’ll call your core strength.
You can't fulfill, reach the potential of, attain to the truth of who you are going forward while wrestling with the thoughts and memories of the past. Sure.. there might be a good bunch of great memories (but isn't it funny how those never matter nearly enough..?) Instead, the way most of us are wired, we can't help but spend time reflecting on the ones that you find yourself identifying with the most (depending on the unresolved issues) This is affecting many layers of the "person" in terms of your determination, resolve, choice of what to do or be creative about and of course... confidence. The work out of this is fascinating.. and possible. In fact, I believe it is, for some of us.. our life purpose (I am convinced indeed) Furthermore, if there's anything "certain" to me, is that your inquiries, questions, self-reflection will continue to inevitably lead you to what I can't think of describing as anything other than... freedom. (as you will one day yourself acknowledge was the case..) ⚛
Confidence when we are young is easy to get but the older we get we talk ourselves out of things because we dont have that same no fear good vid again
Hey there - I saw your last video when you mentioned he pulled a nail out (my dog did that recently, too. SO GROSSSSSSS). I'm so sorry about that. Warning, Un-asked for advice time (lol): Did you think about a cone or a neck donut? My dog had to wear one if he wasn't directly being paid attention to - for much longer than I thought he'd have to while waiting for it to heal.
Omg you were that student in school. I remember bunking class once or twice and let’s just say it wasn’t the easiest thing to pull off lol
Peloton? Yeah, that’s what I thought…
L'estime de soi est un instrument de mesure intéressant. Avez-vous de l'estime de soi à cause de vos amis, de votre travail ou d'un parent ? Chaque domaine peut nous laisser tomber et nous faire douter de nous-mêmes. J'aime vos découvertes de soi. Les gens ne sont pas dérangés par ceux qui ont confiance mais par ceux qui sont à l'aise avec l'inconnu. Jay, tout votre vie concerne les inconnues . Très peu seraient assez courageux pour marcher dans vos souliers !
Dude your dog needs a "cone of shame"
When you leave your camera out and ride away it stresses me the feck out hahahahahahahaha
🙋🍀🙋🍀🙋🍀🙋🍀
Have you recently watched your old videos in Paris?❤❤❤
If I were to describe the overall energy of the people in Paris, confident would have been a good word choice. Everyone seemed so set on what they wanted to do around me. They walked with confidence wherever they went. They weren't afraid to wait for what they wanted, even if they complained the entire time about the line lol. Being around them rubbed off on me. I stopped second-guessing my decisions while traveling the city. Honestly can't wait to go back, I miss Paris. 😊 P.S. Does Coop need a soft cone of shame to keep him from eating his leg?
I can relate exactly with what you said on how the 8 year old self with unlimited confidence. What did your therapist say when you mentioned that and wanting to recapture it? And how can I do that? haha
You’ve nothing to feel unsure about in how you’ve raised Cooper. He’s a fantastic well behaved dog. Strange isn’t it how people you think of as really good friends are suddenly not there when you need them. I can really identify with that !
6:16 I approve of the outfit. You look cute ❤
Quote of the Day: “I’m not always the confident dog dad.”
Idk about confident, but I do think you’re chaotic feat. Bone Structure.