Bailey, I'm sorry you feel that way. Know that you are not alone! Laura is on this weeks FamilyLife Blended podcast. You can listen here www.familylife.com/podcast/familylife-blended-podcast/
@@shashamarie4760 I feel so alone too. My stepson's bio mom left him right after I married his dad. Hasn't seen or talked or sent him a birthday or Christmas present in 6 years. Everyone assumes he's my bio child, but he's not and there are major differences. Then when other moms talk about childbirth and breastfeeding, diapers, all the milestones - it is SO fucking hard to navigate. Do I tell them the truth? Do I not say anything? My husband just straight up pretends I'm his mom ND ghat there are no step parenting complications and that does NOT work either because my son can be vicious (at one point there was such violence from him I almost moved out). I feel so alone because literally nobody I know is a childless stepparent and the few people I do confide in are just at a complete loss on what to say about our problems. I have pretty much become a shell in my home. I am the sole income, so I just pour myself into work and don't do after school activities or participate in the house - not an ideal way to live, but it's about survival at this point. And not to mention the crippling depression
@@Snackpacktwothousand I am so sorry you are going through this. It must be so discouraging. If you will send an email to blended@familylife.com, we will direct you to some stepmom resources and may be able to connect you to some groups and/or coaching. You are NOT alone. Blessings, Nicole-Team FLB
Comparing not having a daughter to walk down the aisle vs.a step mom without a child is completely different. With all due respect. I'd be sooooo happy to have just one boy or girl.
There are a lot of stepmoms who don't want (and never wanted) biological children. But they're willing to step up because they love their partner. It's a freaking really tough position to be in and we get to set the boundaries and split that makes sense to us. It's also really tough to be with a partner who doesn't totally get (as much as they may try) to understand how tough it is.
It is tough and sometimes an unappreciated role. Blessings on all you do for your family. Gayla Grace is doing a livestream with Laura at 3pm CT on May 9th. I hope you will join us!- Team FLB
Hello! Watching from Brazil. Trying to find resources about being a stepmom. I'm so thankful for all those videos, I'm learning a lot. God bless you always.
We are so glad you have found them helplful! I just checked the Amazon Brazil website and you can get Ron and Laura's book The Smart Stepmom. Blessings, FLB www.amazon.com.br/Smart-Stepmom-Practical-Thrive-English-ebook/dp/B00B853NL4/ref=sr_1_1?__mk_pt_BR=%C3%85M%C3%85%C5%BD%C3%95%C3%91&crid=3JPJ64WBRH3XA&keywords=The+Smart+Stepmom&qid=1671577624&sprefix=the+smart+stepmom%2Caps%2C94&sr=8-1
So thankful to find this …most blended info does not take into account a ‘stepmom’ who doesn’t have biological children and who has inherited 4 dear precious children of her heart through her amazing husband who has raised these 4 arrows on his own for 9 years ..I was added 5 years ago and they haven’t seen their biological mom in 6 years …I feel a wee bit less alone hearing this today ….my husband and I do not believe in holding onto old bonds with exes… we believe that second marriages can also leave and forsake all others and clean to only one another… So we have very big boundaries with our exes.
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Thank you for this video. I feel so alone sometimes because I don’t know anyone that shares my situation
Bailey, I'm sorry you feel that way. Know that you are not alone! Laura is on this weeks FamilyLife Blended podcast. You can listen here www.familylife.com/podcast/familylife-blended-podcast/
I’m here too
I feel so alone. I don't know anyone in my situation. We can be friends. It's hard.
@@shashamarie4760 I feel so alone too. My stepson's bio mom left him right after I married his dad. Hasn't seen or talked or sent him a birthday or Christmas present in 6 years. Everyone assumes he's my bio child, but he's not and there are major differences. Then when other moms talk about childbirth and breastfeeding, diapers, all the milestones - it is SO fucking hard to navigate. Do I tell them the truth? Do I not say anything? My husband just straight up pretends I'm his mom ND ghat there are no step parenting complications and that does NOT work either because my son can be vicious (at one point there was such violence from him I almost moved out). I feel so alone because literally nobody I know is a childless stepparent and the few people I do confide in are just at a complete loss on what to say about our problems.
I have pretty much become a shell in my home. I am the sole income, so I just pour myself into work and don't do after school activities or participate in the house - not an ideal way to live, but it's about survival at this point.
And not to mention the crippling depression
@@Snackpacktwothousand I am so sorry you are going through this. It must be so discouraging. If you will send an email to blended@familylife.com, we will direct you to some stepmom resources and may be able to connect you to some groups and/or coaching. You are NOT alone. Blessings, Nicole-Team FLB
Comparing not having a daughter to walk down the aisle vs.a step mom without a child is completely different. With all due respect.
I'd be sooooo happy to have just one boy or girl.
There are a lot of stepmoms who don't want (and never wanted) biological children. But they're willing to step up because they love their partner. It's a freaking really tough position to be in and we get to set the boundaries and split that makes sense to us. It's also really tough to be with a partner who doesn't totally get (as much as they may try) to understand how tough it is.
It is tough and sometimes an unappreciated role. Blessings on all you do for your family. Gayla Grace is doing a livestream with Laura at 3pm CT on May 9th. I hope you will join us!- Team FLB
Hello! Watching from Brazil. Trying to find resources about being a stepmom. I'm so thankful for all those videos, I'm learning a lot. God bless you always.
We are so glad you have found them helplful! I just checked the Amazon Brazil website and you can get Ron and Laura's book The Smart Stepmom. Blessings, FLB
www.amazon.com.br/Smart-Stepmom-Practical-Thrive-English-ebook/dp/B00B853NL4/ref=sr_1_1?__mk_pt_BR=%C3%85M%C3%85%C5%BD%C3%95%C3%91&crid=3JPJ64WBRH3XA&keywords=The+Smart+Stepmom&qid=1671577624&sprefix=the+smart+stepmom%2Caps%2C94&sr=8-1
Being a step mom has been very hard for me emotionally and psychologically. I hate the way I feel sometimes.
We are sorry to hear about this. We want you to know that we are here for you. Warm hugs.
So thankful to find this …most blended info does not take into account a ‘stepmom’ who doesn’t have biological children and who has inherited 4 dear precious children of her heart through her amazing husband who has raised these 4 arrows on his own for 9 years ..I was added 5 years ago and they haven’t seen their biological mom in 6 years …I feel a wee bit less alone hearing this today ….my husband and I do not believe in holding onto old bonds with exes… we believe that second marriages can also leave and forsake all others and clean to only one another… So we have very big boundaries with our exes.
We are so glad you found us! Here is a full podcast on that topic with Laura if you are interested. ua-cam.com/video/7TjAF4IdsOE/v-deo.html
When do you go live, Ron!
San Antonio, TX
Hamburg, Germany
Lee’s summit, MO
Floyd, Roy, washington