Straight Talk: Are Destination Weddings Selfish?
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- Опубліковано 27 січ 2019
- Is it too much for a couple to ask their guests to travel to their wedding? Or are they just taking the one chance they’ve got?
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She said “My wedding will be at Denny’s. We’ll all order eggs.” 😂😂😂I hear you girl.
No kidding. The city over here has some really nice 4-5 star restaurants you can book for a fancy gathering. I’d just do that.
LMBO,🤣🤣😂😂
Do what ever the hell you want...just don't expect everyone to turn up.
The lady in the middle is spot on. I'm thinking about going to a park and having a BBQ reception afterward.
THE GIRL IN THE MIDDLE HELLA FUNNY DID SHE SAY DENNYS!!!😭😭😭😂🤣😂 SHUT UP THAT WAS HELLA FUNNY
123CREATIONS She’s a professional comedian. You can find her on a show called “Teachers”.
@@rwashington16 Ok ima check her out😊
What is Dennys? I'm from London so I don't know lol
Tianna Miller Its a diner style restaurant that serves low cost meals. Burgers, fries, etc.
@@rwashington16 ah I thought so. Thanks
I think it’s a clever way of saying your not invited
Clearly the lady in the middle is not married and been to toooo many weddings LOL
Lmaooooo chill
I have to agree with woman in middle. Being in someone's wedding can be very expensive. Buying gowns, shoes, accessories, things that you will never wear again! Imagine being in 3,4 weddings. And sucking up the cost for things that you don't even like. But you purchase out of friendship. The bride wants what she wants! She not caring that it's not coming out of her pockets.
Still got my doris o day wedding shoes 👡
I feel like that's mostly a Western thing. In my culture, being in a wedding is the a lot of fun and an honor, because all the financial burden is on the bride, groom, and their immediate families. There is little to no financial obligations to the bride and groom parties. All they have to do is figure out how to get time of work, lol.
The girl in the middle is a whole mood 😂😂😂
They aren't selfish, but as Steve said, the bride shouldn't feel slighted if not a lot of family and friends attend. If she can't afford to fly everyone out, she has nothing to complain about.
Absolutely!!
I AM the lady in the middle. I agree completely. I’m not into weddings. 🎩 🤵🏽 👰🏽 💒 💐
Me too
Yup and I don't want to invite certain family members so it's perfect 🤣
Ms. Perfectly Imperfect seriously only invite the people you want there because you'll get a few unwanted surprises
Lmfao, middle lady is a mood and a half
She hella funny...Did she really say DENNYS girrrll stop!! lol!!
THE BLONDE!! I live for this woman! Who is she and why have I not heard of her before?!?!?!
I’m having a destination wedding to keep certain people from coming to my wedding
I agree with it NOT being selfish. I believe that the individuals getting married should be able to have what they want. It's selfish for people not to understand this because it makes it about "them" instead of the people getting married. It's time to stop "People Pleasing."
Crystal Grose 💯
Weddings bring out ugly jealousy so it's best to ignore anyone who complains because anyone who actually cared about you wouldn't be trying to stress you out about making them happy for an occasion that is about celebrating a union
Crystal Grose not spending thousands to go out the country. Yes it’s the brides day and decision. But on the flip side the invited guests can also decline. Don’t get upset when they don’t attend the wedding.
Christian _person Of course it's fine if they don't attend. All you have to do is respond to the invitation declining it. But complaining about it, calling the couple selfish, not okay. And a lot of people do that.
ThAt middle girl is a KEEPER ! & real women
@Janet Adebanwo no, she for real. There's a lot of women who feels exactly way that this woman is feeling. Especially if you been in several different weddings. The bride doesn't care! It's her day! We get that! As a bride you can't be selfish. When you are not paying for everything for your bridesmaids. We are only trying to accommodate for our friendship. We can be happy for you. But we can be mad at the same time. For Your expensive request! No you do not have to go. But we do it out of friendship! Brides please be mindful of other people expense. Unless you have some rich friends. That can afford all the bride requests. The average person may not have though type of funds to throw away!
Janet Adebanwo be quiet please 😂😂😂 your basically calling her a liar .. she LITERALLY SAID she didn’t want 1 .. she went on & on . On WHY she didn’t want 1 on top of that ! I need me a lady like that .. not everybody is the same sweetheart
Janet Adebanwo not ALL women want weddings tho & nah there’s not that many women out there who don’t want them 😂
@@WACG615 Right! not every man or woman think alike. I'm a woman, you can be selfish about your dress. But you can't be selfish on others people expense! And not everyone wants a very expensive, lavish wedding. That can be funds that can go towards a honeymoon, or maybe down payment on an house etc, etc. I agree with the woman in the middle.
Max Right ! !
I had so much fun at the destination wedding I went to. It was a vacation for me. They didn't even ask much from us except come to the wedding the day of, the rest of the trip we did what we wanted. We had a couple of excursions as a group but they were super fun. They also told us well in advance so we were able to make payments instead of pay all at once. They also didn't except everyone to make it so they had another reception when they got home for people that couldn't come to the first one. Hey free food and drinks is fine with me!
I had my destination wedding in Florida and it was beautiful. The purpose of my destination wedding was to save money and I did. If some family or friends weren’t able to attend I was totally ok with that, in fact I was banking on it lol. My wedding was about me and my husband, if you wanted to come share in that then we were happy for you to be there, if not then 🤷🏾♀️. If you are expecting people to shell out a lot of money that’s different, but otherwise it’s not selfish.
I don’t think it’s selfish....I like destination weddings like a mini vacation don’t expect everyone to come and not get mad. Agree w/ Steve
Destination wedding is just a great way of saying to family and friends we don't care to entertain you on our day. Its about us so you can stay home.
Katie was hilarious!! 🤣🤣🤣 She had points! Weddings are lovely. But I am simple, mine would be very simple with a dress I already have (not an actual wedding dress, but white 😉). But not planning on marrying...
The lady in the middle is my mood
I dunno. I think if you wanna go away to get married then go it alone. Don’t invite people to your honeymoon.
I had a friend who got married in Mexico. After I spent 2k I found out that they already got married here in Canada because it wouldn’t be legalized in Mexico. Turns out I could have just been a witness here. ... 😩
I like how she acts like Arizona is in the middle of New York and LA 🤣
No, not selfish! If you can go, then great!! If you can't, then, okay!! And not everyone is invited most of the time anyway.
No mention of the husband to be in this AT ALL!!!
YES & i dont regret nothing!! See ya at the reception to party 🎊
YES MIDDLE GIRL!!!!!!!!!!!!! We had our wedding in our backyard! But we had just moved to another state so no one made it. My mom and brother were able to and that was perfect for me. They were consist in my life. My father passed away many years ago so my brother walked me down the aisle. It was just close family and friends. My husband and I wouldn't have it any other way.
whats more important...spending that special day/weekend with a few people (lets say the people you really wanted at your wedding couldnt attend for financial reasons) since not everyone could make it at some destination wedding? Or spending it WITH ALL (the people you reallllly want at your wedding) the people you want to share this memory with while still finding something nice on a agreeable budget. (this isnt me claiming a position on this topic, this is just hopefully phrasing this topic in a different light)
More important for me to be happy. I was so dam happy & at peace in Jamaica 😲. Came back to USA to party 🎊
Lol I thought this lady Katie was Dakota Fanning I was like I haven’t seen you since secret life of bees Hey girl
I have a huge issue with people feeling like they have the right to tell someone what their wedding day should be. They have the right to chose a destination the same way others have a right to chose a church wedding in their hometown. With that being said, you shouldn’t expect that everyone will be there either. It’s selfish for people to get mad at you for celebrating your union the way you choose. Destinations weddings are very appealing bc in my experience family and friends can easily turn your special day into a nightmare with their selfish needs and wants.
I’d just take a small party and elope in the mountains, then have a nice dinner after. Super easy. No pressure and it’s something anyone can enjoy. And super affordable.
This shows are too short please make them longer pleaseeeeeeeeeee !!!!!!
Love Katie's attitude. Some women do act like Bridezillas and are totally inconsiderate of others, when they get married. IT ISN'T ALL ABOUT THE WOMAN - THE GUY IS THERE TOO and other people who share what should be a happy, joyous occasion where the true value of it shouldn't be determined by how much was spent or how many gifts were given. If we had a wedding at Burger King and everybody had a wonderful time, then that should be considered a priceless celebration!
Wherever y'all wanna get married is up to you. Destination weddings are not selfish.
Yes and no. If you can come, come, if you can’t, don’t. But you can’t have a tantrum if some people choose not to come.
You said it Steve!!
I agree with katie
No it's not selfish . Marriage is about the two people. Also the people who should be invited are people who will help pray for the union and be there to help husband and wife through hard times. Many people forget this part. Now the bride nor groom should be upset if someone can't make it . My husband and I got married at the court house with our parents after we (him&I went to Olive garden) we'll be married 9 years in March . The wedding is about the 2 people getting married. The party/reception is to share and celebrate with family. People expect too much from others!
Love ya Steve, so funny.
Katie!!!! My spirit animal! I agree 110%!!!
People complicate weddings its actually never that serious...I think people just want to attract maximum attention to themselves
It's all about the couple, if you really want to support then you can try your best to be there. Usually if that's the case, they give plenty of time. The ones that can't make it shouldn't be mad, they can still celebrate with them when they get back. Or watch the video.
One of my best friends is doing this to us this year... she told us in January she was getting married in Cancun in April i was like is she out of her everlasting mind! Then a lot of people opted out of going and she did a pole and people picked August but it’s still in 5 months..and the last month she told me at the beginning of the month I had to have 250 dollars for my brides maid dress... thank God a crisis happened with my family that I have to bow out of the entire wedding because that’s at least a 3-5 grand trip ... oh and almost everyone except for me has to get passports and visas... mind you we are all just beginning life
Weddings are about the two people getting married.....well, realistically more about the bride. So the marrying couple decides where they want their wedding to be. Whoever can make it, makes and that's the way it is. I personally never go to weddings cause I don't care for them. One of my best friends got married in Dominican Republic and I didn't go - I didn't want to spend the money. And I hate dressing up. I'm casual clothes kind of guy.
Destination weddings are fine, just do not expect people to devote their time and money for your day.
That is NOT the only day that type of woman will be selfish!!!
People are always heated about something when it comes to weddings. Doesn't really matter whether it is a destination wedding or not.
I agree with destination weddings on not being selfish. For example, if a guy and girl get engaged, get married in a year or two, and want a destination wedding, their guests have plenty of time to save up for it. If they can’t make it, then that’s ok. It’s all about the bride and groom, not the people who are or are not attending their wedding.
Why should people save their hard earned money just to attend your wedding? If you want to get married at a particular destination that’s fine but be prepared to go by yourself and let your friends and family volunteer to join you. Invitations bring obligations. Some people will feel like they should come even if that’s not really what they want to do. Even if the person turns you down they now feel like they have to get you a really awesome gift so you won’t be upset with them. I might have a destination wedding because my boyfriend is from another country and I’ve already decided that the guest list will be comprised of whoever volunteers to come. I don’t want anyone to feel obligated.
Hell no. I ain't paying no 5k for your wedding. Only if I'm rich but am not. I can only buy a gift for the couple getting married and buy what I'm going to wear to the wedding and that's it. If your wedding isn't in the city or at least state I live in I ain't going unless you pay for me. I get invited to a lot of weddings so I spend a lot to money on gifts on clothes. I can't afford to spend $5000 on just ONE wedding.
I am from Asia and Asia is very beautiful. My only dream is to meet Mr Harvey. He has been such a mentor to me even through this show alone. I can't believe this show is not going to be continued for long. If it's God's will, I will meet him some day and even a couple of minutes of chat will do for me. Shake hand, get some advice face to face. Get his signatures on the book. That's all. That would be precious for me.
Or you could just film it or go/stream your wedding live for people that missed it. The people that matter to you who couldn't show up, you can still host a party at home when you get back as newlyweds after your destination wedding.
Instead of them giving you money ask them to bring a meal. Put on your wedding outfit, buy a cake and cut it together at home. Have a party.
If I am spending that much money it would be for my own damn vaction I'm with the girl in the middle I'm spending money on YOUR damn day not mine
Yes, Destination weddings are selfish but here is the thing it's whatever the couple wants and decides. I think a destination wedding is less hassle. It's just you and your intended and a witness. I think it takes the stress off of who is invited, who is not invited. Nobody is invited. It's you two and Jesus which is absolutely great to me! I wouldn't be oppose to that. I am not oppose to a wedding wedding as well. All little girls dream of their big day! So, its truly about what works best for the couple. It's for them to decide what they ultimately want!
I still would like maybe a small wedding for family and close friends. Or maybe a huge party reception when we got back for family and friends.
It's honestly whatever the couple chooses. I think they should have a heart to heart about what they want!
Destination weddings are not selfish. People can have whatever wedding they want just don't expect EVERYBODY on your guest list to show up and if you do have a destination wedding and you already know where you getting married give the friends and family that you really want there a couple YEARS heads up while if people can't make it they can't make it you just gotta be understanding and don't make a giant deal out of it to the point they feel bad and it gets turned on to you cuz thats your dream wedding scenario.
I wish big weddings didnt exist, every damn thing has been turned into a competition or show. see who get the best outfits for them and their freinds etc. I just want my fam to be there, travel by your damn self
or they can go to the destination but not the wedding 🤣🤣🤣I am going to see the city and have fun I am not wasting money on a wedding.
My sister in law is getting married in Mexico in a month and it’s way to expensive for me
100%
Go to one of them chapels in Vegas.
yes!
you can go to any place you like, for your honeymoon. but a wedding is NOT only for the bride. its also for their families and friends.
General Saufenberg exactly
And i left them right at home watchung re runs
Yes!!!! To Whoever the woman in the middle is. I am over spending money on weddings and to be in weddings. I walk away from it and I realize well damn I spent $1000 on this entire wedding and it ain’t even my wedding. Being in weddings has turned me off so much that when it is my time I don’t even want one. I feel like it is a waste of money. I am going to the courthouse and then going on vacation with my husband. Weddings have become such a show that the love is missing.
This is supposed to be a once in lifetime thing. People are not required to come to your wedding, so it is not selfish. If they decide to come, people will have to travel to your wedding no matter where it is. People can support your life decision even if they don't show up the the actual event. They will see the photos and complain about how many you are posting even if they are in some if the photos. You will remember your wedding day more than anyone else will, so do what is best for the both of you. Weddings are for the people getting married, not for the judgement/approval of others.
Middle girl is Me. Ungrateful ass cousin's wedding . bachelorette, etc. Cost me a whole lot. I only need 50 ppl at my wedding. Tops
I'm said about 20 to 30 if that many..
ABSOLUTELY NOT!!!!!!
Weddings are something that should be reevaluated 100%
Shouldn't be upset
Also it remove those who don’t love you truly
I hear this alot. Weddings are about the bride. I didn't marry myself. You don't go into a marriage by yourself and the wedding should be about God, the husband and the wife.
I've told my girls if they think they are leaving the country to get married, we will not pay for it, don't invite relatives because it's rude and inconsiderate.
Yes it is inconsiderate and selfish . If your guests are people you love, if the majority cannot come due to finances why not settle for at home. Your honeymoon can be destination. Hell I'm not going an destination wedding you're not that important to me
Skype the wedding for family that can't come
wow man America is awesome....they make guests to pay for the hotels? In India, the bride pays for every f@@king thing!
First off that lady in the middle sound like she's a little salty... just saying.
Now I don't think destination weddings are selfish AT ALL it's YOUR day and if y'all decide you want to get married somewhere that's not where you are then thats your prerogative, but like Steve and Diann said you have to be prepared for some of your friends and family to say that they can't make it.
As for the couple who said that you have to come up with $5,000 in one month to attend their destination wedding they have lost their minds. I believe if you choose to do a destination wedding like this set it for at least a couple years so your friends and family can save up for it. Get hitched at the courthouse and then have your destination wedding... win win situation
After being in relationships before with women I just don't see any benefits to being in a relationship at all
The lady with the chicken hair is definitely selfish everyday of the week.
"Lady with the chicken hair" 😂😂😂
Wedding are stupid, paying 20 to 30 thousand dollars on a event that's going to last 3 hours is just plain dumb, go to the court house, sign the papers, take the money you were going to spend on a wedding, use it for your honeymoon.
Check out dienne who lives in an alternate universe how about when ur husband is cheating on u and when u have financial problems and u have a conflict at ur job and u need to the kids dropped off don't think ur not gonna need family at some point so go ahead and be selfish
women care more about the wedding then they do about being wives..
Come for me and geaming foart naiet.
Someone's got to get that entitled cockatoo out of the panel.
Anoop George I agree she is high end, high maintenance. Who would ask a man on first date to bring a $250 bottle of wine to a date?