I'm glad someone is talking about this. People always expect ppl to change but it's actually extremely hard you get so addicted to the cycle of victim hood or chaos you create victim or chaotic scenarios daily in your head that keep you in the same cycle when you can just accept that you're actually happy
I’m literally struggling with this right and I think his video just changed my entire life I’ve been so lost in my trauma always responding the same negative way to everything that feels familiar to what happened in the past I’ve been so confused lost I’ve lost friends lovers and family because of this emotional addition just because I didn’t know what to call it
Exactly. The mind is a beautiful thing and that’s why the most purity is in the old souls because it takes multiple lives to realize what your soul needs to change for prosperity. You can’t do it by dwelling on the past and being non confident in yourself. Keep positivity because every down fall in life is a test form God to see if you trust him. Prosperity and Life fulfillment doesn’t come easy and it doesn’t stay easy to maintain. Rich people have feelings and pain too. Being rich is just the award for hard-work but staying happy and rich is harder than getting rich.
Wow , thank you for that comment I needed to hear that. I suffer a lot and I'm trying to find the answer and I think you may have answered some. God bless your comment.
@@GrimR3ef3r true If schools would bring awareness to mental health instead of teaching so much non sense we would have a lot more harmony within the youth
People forget to live in the present and to underestimate the future. They think that their past will determine their whole life and that the best things already happened. When in reality your past should just be your tool to gain experience and wisdom to live a better life.
That's called being stuck in the past. & a lack mentality. Mental illnesses! Everyone should look at it like that, your 3rd paragraph, that's a normal mentality, you'd look at life as one big test. Pass them & you'll move to the next level. A lot of people choose not to evolve, again mental health.
Thank you. It's nuts because I was literally thinking of some past situations that I absolutely do not need in my life, but for some reason, I was missing them. And then this video pops up!?!? But you described me! I hope to read your advice over and over, and remember it, and use it when I start romantisizing the past.
You hit the nail on the head dude. We get addicted to negative emotions, to dopamine, and nervous system dysregulation. In the meantime it might be fun, but ultimately it's damaging to our mental and physical health.
1. Meditation (guided) and yoga helps with emotional addiction. 2. Observing yourself from the audience (you're watching yourself but from someone else's point of view) 3. Avoid people and stuff that make you feel bad 4. Stop complaining. 5. Chill with your expectations, not so high. 6. Stop consuming things that will increase your dopamine (like junk food or Instagram. 7. Make a deep dive into what is that thing that makes you so unhappy, for example, some sort of trauma. 8. Stop replaying scenarios in your head, it already happened and you can't change it, just deal with it.
#8. “Just deal with it” is the emotional addition problem lol .. maybe no closure. Maybe no new emotion replacing it. Maybe the loss is still painful. .. agh.. shifting thought patterns takes constant effort and consistency. That’s truly the best way to “deal with it”.
I don’t think I’ve EVER stumbled upon a video I’ve needed to more than this before! Like wow… I’m such an OVERTLY emotional person… that sometimes I get consumed by them.
Funny, I haven't felt a thing for eight years. Like nothing. I live in a lovely cabin in the woods. Completely off grid. My garden is amazing, my adult children and families are great, I eat healthy, I work 8 hours a week and take two classes at the community college. I think I might be in the flow. I think I am doing this adulting shite pretty well. ❤😂😊
@@teresakerr1010 That is what I was thinking 🤔 I have this quiet and amazing life but I don't feel anything. I am not unhappy. I feel content. I feel like an alien from another planet. I have friends who travel from all over the country to visit me. I love it when they come and when they leave. Mostly people just want to see the magic I have built here. I have Metastatic Melanoma so there is that. But I just cover up and carry on. I don't mind disappearing. It is ind of nice.
Not for people with complex post traumatic stress disorder. They need talk therapy and, or other assisted intervention. They already spend a significant amount of time trying to manage their emotions as it is.
Absolutely! Lucid dreaming is a wonderful practice too, I chose to meditate in a lucid dream once and it seemed to manifest some sort of personal salvation... I used to be a real jerk though so the bar was pretty low lol
How do we journal how can I start what do I write about? Is it about writing what you experience in a day or what stood out most what are the questions ask?
@@SelfempowermentComeUNITY you can always look up journal question prompts that can get you to do shadow work, as well as simply writing about your day or gratitude. theres many yt videos that give you more inspiration
The part where you said that being angry is a form of escaping from sadness, because sadness feels weak is so true. I remember having the exact same thought as a teenager and now I’m working hard on my anger issue
Anger does have a purpose though - it’s the emotion of control and sadness is the emotion of healing. Needing to feel one may not automatically snap out your need to feel another
Yes! Meditation is amazing, as is lucid dreaming, and for me, combining the two by choosing to meditate while lucid in a dream was a truly enlightening experience.
@@balazsvarga8582 Yes, I’ve noticed this, too! Isn’t this amazing? If someone would have told me 20 years ago that this was possible, I would have thought they were lying or crazy. I can finally escape my intrusive thoughts or sort of ‘hover’ close to them and observe how they morph without giving them a positive or negative connotation. It’s utterly astonishing.
@@Cheese-is-its-own-food-group Yes it's wonderful. I have a very strong generalised anxiety since early childhood. I lived with it and didn't even know it wasn't normal as it was the normal state for me. Meditation is magical for my mind.
I went through a 6 month “preventing abusive relationships” course (court mandated). It amazed me. There was a circle of women describing repeated cycles of drama and toxic behavior, instability, major ups and major downs. It’s just as bad a a drug. Thank you for the deep explanation and resolutions to change. You made this ALL made sense! You have such a gift!!!! ❤❤❤❤
i think that could actually be helpful for some people. maybe if it went along with introspective or guided behavior, it would've been more effective. i say this, because group therapy guided with a professional can be very healing for people. alcohol anonymous meetings, grief meetings, have all been proven to help people. maybe it is not for everyone, but i just dont believe its entirely helpful to hush out too many feelings, because it may be enabling a "bottling up" behavior for some. i do not think this video can apply to everyone.
It's 1am. I'm in a farm and the way this video explains most of my entire journey within the past year, has me speechless. Nobody I know has ever talked about this, I know I've never. It's such a burden to have as an adult because it's mostly who you are by that time, and learning/doing new things that could help you get rid of all that trauma can be really hard and painful. But let me tell you this, IT. GETS. BETTER. but you gotta do it everyday. That's where it gets hard. So to anyone who's reading this, keep at it! It's gonna be better. When it does, you won't screw it up. You'll do what you now know, as you.
I seriously enjoyed this video! He gave great content WITHOUT being redundant. He spoke calmly without being monotone. He's comfortable within himself and he didn't make quirky, corny non-funny jokes that only those teaching therapists would understand. Great job!!!
Haha glad you like it! You can thank my sponsor for it! I'm liking your videos so far. Touches on topics that I deal with. Maybe do a video on the concept of the Johari Window. I think you would like its content and stays in line with your videos. Also a topic I haven't seen anyone else talk about on UA-cam. Just suggestions, not telling you how to run your channel! Keep up the work man!
My problem with the past now is "I'm always waiting for the other shoe to fall" now. Everytime a happy event takes place, I'm thinking..OK when is it going to go to crap. So that aspect is what I need to work on..basically fear and it's so hard to overcome. I'm not addicted to fear, its just what I've come to expect. But I will try the tips suggested. Thank you!
I always tend to dwell on the past especially lately. Everything that happened to me last year and even just 3 months ago with my heartbreak has been affecting me. I’m trying to learn how to live in the present currently though and this video just opened my eyes to realizing that❤
That explains why people who leave a toxic country or state create the chaos and toxicity they left in the new country or state they moved to. I’ve seen this. Where I grew up as a child and young adult I would see how people would move in from a certain country into my state but live the same impoverished and “messy” toxic lifestyle they left. (Escaped from)
😮OMG I've noticed this w some ppl who come from the hood & move to a different or better neighborhood. They'll still gang bang, smoke, drink, have a bad & toxic mindset still & still manage to live a horrible & dangerous lifestyle. Even being parents doesn't change them. They never grow. I'm from the hood myself so I know they can change & grow. They just choose not to. It's sad man. The brain is crazy.
@@idrawattention900 I’m happy you were able to see the bigger picture and find peace. It’s hard to imagine leaving something bad like what you described but just bring it into the next life. (Situation).
This felt amazing. I have really really bad cptsd and it makes it hard to function in evryday life. It's basically a scar forcing me to live in the past. I just have to remind myself, I'm here now, I'm not there, never again
Also another reason for some people where that level of familiarity is comforting, can be due to codependency…. That in itself can be misleading. There are people who suffer from codependency issues and not even know that’s what it is. But as soon as they learn and realize it they undo that addiction to familiarity almost instantly. They then become more self reliant rather than relying on others.
I recently had to google why I get calm when something makes me angry. I'm angry a lot and dealing with a lot of big challenges. It's hard for me to quit Marijuana after using for many years. I'm young with big goals and hope to get over these hurdles sooner than later. This was very insightful. Thank you. You've got a new subscriber
Dude!!!!!!!!! OMG!!!!!!!!! I have been searching the internet for a long while now (because doctors/ counselors/meds/ & my drug addictions/ etc.. haven't helped at all! So I started praying a day or 2 ago. Just asking God for HELP not even knowing what for. Always angry and sad and confused and depressed! Well God does answer our prayers because this video just opened my eyes and I couldn't be more thankful! Everything you said resonated and described me exactly! I am going to do everything you have suggested and I WILL BE LOOKING for more helpful insightful videos from you. Thank you God! And thank you Sir! I will definitely keep praying. And looking for more blessings from YOU! WOW! I have a lot of work to do. With all sincerity.....Thank you thank you thank you ❤
I highly recommend the book "Existential Kink" to pracrise toward this behaviour. There, she explains our inner masochism and how to conciously enjoy the pain. By allowing so, those things become less and less attractive
I highly recommend reading The Body Keeps the Score for this exact reason. Great video👍🏽 Edit: if you're struggling with this, please read this book. Understanding how your body processes trauma is so helpful when it comes to implementing lifestyle changes like movement and meditation because you'll know what you're doing and why. Everyone throws the word "mindfulness" around but its almost useless when not contextualised.
Thank you very much for making this video! I finally know what's "wrong" with me. I thought I was addicted to adrenaline from getting angry all the time and finding stuff to scream at like a lot of red pill and "this person got DESTROYED and OWNED by that other person" type of content but it goes so much deeper than that. Because the only other typical feelings I have are nostalgia and sever depression, and the nostalgia is often accompanied by the feeling of loss and missed opportunity. And even though I've not been successful in the past I think I'll give meditation another try. I really needed to hear this.
@@Iki.-. I don't want to go back to fix things, I want to go back and stay there. The more I write the more I understand that it's just about safety and comfort, that I just want my own little time bubble and live as a kid forever. It also makes me ashamed because I'm not as "mature" or whatever as I think I should be...
Can I just comment that this video is potentially going to save lives? I am coming out of a massive depression spiral and I feel SO MUCH BETTER after having watching this... I think I finally understand my core problem. The way I see it rumination is total mental obliteration and mental damnation. Thank you so much for this ❤
Prayers + meditation, faith in God, positive belief about myself and stoicism saved me from my long time mental slavery and anxiety, I tried so many things in life it all failed & IN THE END JESUS IS THE ONLY ONE WHO PERFECTLY WORKS FOR ME, respect
I started living in the present so much so that I notice everyone else around me living in the past/on auto-pilot. If your brain can mess you up then it messes them up. If you don’t give into it you have a big advantage of everyone stuck in victimhood and “fixed mindset”.
Do not keep dwellings any past traumas( esp. child traumas) because it makes your life bitter and hurtful. Hurt people may hurt other people intensionally.
To all my fellow brothers out here listeing to this message, GO OUT THEIR AND WIN! Build yourself, dont allow her to come back and ruin your hardwork. I am there right now I'm building myself up I'm not going to let her get the last laugh where I know I could be better. I want you big brothers and lil brothers do the same. BUILD YOURSELVES UP AND WIN!!!
Truth I realized after moving everywhere I was the problem and there was nowhere I could go where I wouldn’t experience so much issues and even if I didn’t mean to. But the hurt part of me was being hurt over n over n it felt like I couldn’t escape
this video showed up at the most perfect time !!! i needed this and i will work on my emotions because i tend to blow up and it ruins my relationships ! it’s getting so annoying
What a powerful video, I really needed to hear this right now thank you. I had been recently doing much better personally, no more anxiety for the first time in my life in well over a decade, as I've gotten into meditation and reading philosophy to stay present and control my mind and emotions. I got in touch with my spirituality, and really have been doing the best I ever had in my life.But the past few days.. I had began to ruminate again, about things that aren't even happening but have in the past, and have been feeling that anxiety creeping up. I am going through some family health matters right now, and your video has got me thinking that maybe I would rather feel those "familiar" negative emotions right now than deal with the present, which for the moment is difficult and out of my control. Honestly you have re-grounded me, thank you so much❤ Especially since this is exactly the time where I need to stay grounded and support my family.
Wooow, this makes a lot of sense! I love videos like these! I stopped watching True Crime videos because it was started get so paranoid and depressed. I feel a lot better. I feel like my brain is free from overthinking and thinking the worse. I know listen to more education videos like this, and self help videos because I really want to have better mindset and be better person in general. So Thank you for this video! 💕
We live to struggle. It's built into our DNA. The only control we have over this condition is whether or not we choose to struggle over something that builds character or something that reinforces degenerate behaviors.
I have experienced this. I had to cut a few relationships off within the past month(s) and something (like the little devil on your shoulder) telling me go back and read all those text go relive that emotional drama moment. I literally had to tap into my higher self and say no- I expressed myself and now I can let it go! I don’t have to stay stuck and addicted to those moments of disappointment or pain. I literally can move forward and continue my journey of healing and having self care! That’s growth for me and I’m proud of me and anyone who has out grown toxicity!
When the universe has a message for you, it gets to you. This popped up in my recommendations and I felt an urge to click it, but I went to save it to watch later. Nope! It opened anyway, but I'm glad it did. Thank you for the wisdom✨♥️
Brother you just came on after another video I was watching while washing my car…this was fantastic. You’re incredibly insightful but also really concise and just literally laid out a bulleted guide to live a happy life in 18 min.
This video was really helpful - it reinforced things I intellectually know still find myself struggling with like addiction to anxiety. Your emphasis on how we build and break unproductive habits was great.
I literally died and was in a coma, and that is what it took to stop all the negative cycles. GREAT presentation!!! I did know know who I was or who my family was when I woke up. But let me say, I was shocked at the hate filled dynamic with these "family" members. Needless to say its VERY different now. I have walked away from all, except my children, they are loving ANGELS !!!The rest are not on my radar.
I good form of meditation that has helped me is shadowboxing . Started at 20 min now I’m up to 30 min straight . No music or anything . Just you and the demons you’re fighting. Great for concentration and a helluva work out.
I have had many jobs, 2 fiancés, and many different lives where it was like God said "Here ya go- Here's a perfect life for you." And I have purposely firebombed it. Every single time. Stability and peace have always felt wonderful and also very uncomfortable and vulnerable at the same time and it's been very hard to put my finger on it. Thank you.
for a very long time, i’ve struggled with depression. often times i’ve been disappointed or let down by people I’ve considered close or I’ve loved. i’d normally feel sad, I do momentarily, but I’ve recognized that as I’ve gotten older, those sad feelings turn into anger. I have felt more angry than I ever had. it does feel better than the sadness. I have become more guarded. I love reading the comments of these videos. makes me feel more understood and less alone.
Many people have negative emotions that are in no way pleasurable but have been deeply etched into their neural pathways. It's not purely an addiction I'm just constantly feeling something I call fear or anxiety and then my mind looks for a reason why but it starts from the feeling
First time watching a video of yours. Thank you for conveying a great amount of information and applying them to real examples in a concise way. Very rare to find.
Yes, so great to sumble upon this video. People need to realize that if there's dopamine issues, energy issues etc and if Cortisol or adrenaline are giving them this rush of energy thath makes it addictive, we're ruining relationships because of lack of information.
Thank you for telling this to people. Lots of us will hear it first time in our lifes. I am 22 and currently meditating twice a day, also in psychotherapy. I picked up everything you covered on my path and more golden self knowledge. I would add from me- start with strong decision of change then you wont be convinced at first but keep telling yourself you can do what you were unable to all your life up until that omega point of your will activating fully, follow it with actions and mental excersises everyday, seek more awareness and soon you will need no hope, no faith. You will be at one with self, expressing your existance in a form of happy life. We are powerful beings who create reality for ourselfes and others. Time to take more control and responsibility
something i found helpful that kinda relates is to let yourself experience life an separating urself your experience an frum how u feel emotions are a reaction
I found this to be helpful, I especially like they final "brooding" part. Im practicing self forgiveness, others forgiving me, and non judgement/resentment. Fortunately I'm getting quicker and quicker at noticing, ceasing, reversing, and foregiving❤
The mind wants comfort, the brain wants dopamine. The truest essence wants nothing as it is aware that it is all that truly exists so there's nothing to desire when you are eternal & connected to all.
I am loving these comments. It's making me crave more mindful people in my life. I am the suffer in silence type but I know the world will be a better place if the positive band together to support each other.
damn. i used to tell my friend like idk why but i love being sad it helps me feel something, feel less alone, feel like i have a purpose idk it just makes me feel something. now it all makes sense.
I’m blown away. What a great informative video! I never even considered that I might be addicted to my own emotions. When nothing bad is going on and I “feel nothing” I always feel extremely uncomfortable. Maybe it’s time to just sit in that experience and see how long I can last without seeking dopamine or getting angry over the smallest thing. You did a great job of explaining things. 5 stars ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️
Thank you so much for such a great video, I feel like the universe led me to watch this to help along my journey! Please continue your videos, listening to you actually helped me to relax, your voice is very soothing.
Thank you so much for this 😊😭 I knew I was dwelling in certain kinds of chaos but I didn’t see it through your lens when I needed to. I like your face and stuff too. You’re a babe! 💕💞
amazing video i knew i had this rumination/anxiety/fake scenario problem but i never knew exactly what it was until now. It’s finally time to implement meditation. thank u so much!
I don’t know how but I accidentally watch your video. Actually ,I have some sort of thoughts running in my head: betrayals, loved one death . I keep thinking of those bad stuffs and preparing how I should face it. I don’t understand why i keep having those though when im a lone or even when im with my family. They are bad thoughts but it keeps my head busy and somehow i feel comfortable when i have those thoughts. I don’t understand that i have emotional addiction and i feel like nobody understands me even they love me. Thank you a lot for sharing the video. I finally understand what is going on and I should stop what’s going on in my head .
I've tried for years to get into a meditation practice. Never been able to make it stick. Either my mind wanders, or I fall asleep. The breath work has been incredibly beneficial for combating anxiety though.
Part of meditation is actually allowing the mind to wander. Ironically when you do so without judgement and just watch it wander, it stops. Yes, breathwork is amazing! I’m glad it has helped you.
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I'm glad someone is talking about this. People always expect ppl to change but it's actually extremely hard you get so addicted to the cycle of victim hood or chaos you create victim or chaotic scenarios daily in your head that keep you in the same cycle when you can just accept that you're actually happy
I’m literally struggling with this right and I think his video just changed my entire life I’ve been so lost in my trauma always responding the same negative way to everything that feels familiar to what happened in the past I’ve been so confused lost I’ve lost friends lovers and family because of this emotional addition just because I didn’t know what to call it
Exactly. The mind is a beautiful thing and that’s why the most purity is in the old souls because it takes multiple lives to realize what your soul needs to change for prosperity. You can’t do it by dwelling on the past and being non confident in yourself. Keep positivity because every down fall in life is a test form God to see if you trust him. Prosperity and Life fulfillment doesn’t come easy and it doesn’t stay easy to maintain. Rich people have feelings and pain too. Being rich is just the award for hard-work but staying happy and rich is harder than getting rich.
i definitely struggle with this !!!
@@Candiceboss ❤Wishing the best for you❤
Wow , thank you for that comment I needed to hear that. I suffer a lot and I'm trying to find the answer and I think you may have answered some. God bless your comment.
This is exactly how it feels as an adult that was traumatized as a child. You depend on anger bc it keeps you safe.
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Absolutely
Anger doesn't keep you safe. It destroys you and everything around.
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@@willypal5431yes that’s basically the basis of the conversation i get it but we do have to acknowledge where it starts
Meditation is the key to emotional control
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If only they taught 10 minutes of meditation a day in PE class.
@@GrimR3ef3r true If schools would bring awareness to mental health instead of teaching so much non sense we would have a lot more harmony within the youth
So true! I’m telling you. Meditation calmed me down. I have to commit to it like I use to
But what if you’re horrible at it??? Or your mind is TOO loud
A nice quote to add by Lao Tzu,
"A man may conquer a million men in battle, but he who conquers himself is, indeed, the noblest of conquerors."
Love it 🔥
@@JemVeda is that real ?
“that’s what happens when bodies start slappin” - Tone Loc
People forget to live in the present and to underestimate the future.
They think that their past will determine their whole life and that the best things already happened.
When in reality your past should just be your tool to gain experience and wisdom to live a better life.
Absolutely, this is a subtlety that’s missed.
That's called being stuck in the past. & a lack mentality. Mental illnesses! Everyone should look at it like that, your 3rd paragraph, that's a normal mentality, you'd look at life as one big test. Pass them & you'll move to the next level. A lot of people choose not to evolve, again mental health.
self forfiling prophecy
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Thank you. It's nuts because I was literally thinking of some past situations that I absolutely do not need in my life, but for some reason, I was missing them. And then this video pops up!?!?
But you described me! I hope to read your advice over and over, and remember it, and use it when I start romantisizing the past.
You hit the nail on the head dude. We get addicted to negative emotions, to dopamine, and nervous system dysregulation. In the meantime it might be fun, but ultimately it's damaging to our mental and physical health.
And physiological health, stress negative emotions are nutrients for cancer and other diseases
it's important to differentiate "pleasure" from "desire"
@@H3XED_OwOyou mean pleasure from happiness?
@@kevinbaconwasntinfootloose1742 nope
Topple drugs on top of that.. its rough.
“I don’t want peace. I want problems ALWAYS‼️🗣️”😂
love that clip
That was on my mind through out the video
1. Meditation (guided) and yoga helps with emotional addiction.
2. Observing yourself from the audience (you're watching yourself but from someone else's point of view)
3. Avoid people and stuff that make you feel bad
4. Stop complaining.
5. Chill with your expectations, not so high.
6. Stop consuming things that will increase your dopamine (like junk food or Instagram.
7. Make a deep dive into what is that thing that makes you so unhappy, for example, some sort of trauma.
8. Stop replaying scenarios in your head, it already happened and you can't change it, just deal with it.
Go off 👏🏿
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#8. “Just deal with it” is the emotional addition problem lol .. maybe no closure. Maybe no new emotion replacing it. Maybe the loss is still painful. .. agh.. shifting thought patterns takes constant effort and consistency. That’s truly the best way to “deal with it”.
I don’t think I’ve EVER stumbled upon a video I’ve needed to more than this before! Like wow… I’m such an OVERTLY emotional person… that sometimes I get consumed by them.
Great to hear that it was helpful 🎉
Funny, I haven't felt a thing for eight years.
Like nothing. I live in a lovely cabin in the woods. Completely off grid. My garden is amazing, my adult children and families are great, I eat healthy, I work 8 hours a week and take two classes at the community college.
I think I might be in the flow. I think I am doing this adulting shite pretty well. ❤😂😊
I wholeheartedly agree!!!!! 🤌🏼 He has such a gift to help others. I plan to watch this everyday as a reminder! ❤️❤️❤️👏🏼
@@moniqueengleman873 I think that’s apathy.
@@teresakerr1010 That is what I was thinking 🤔
I have this quiet and amazing life but I don't feel anything. I am not unhappy.
I feel content. I feel like an alien from another planet.
I have friends who travel from all over the country to visit me. I love it when they come and when they leave.
Mostly people just want to see the magic I have built here. I have Metastatic Melanoma so there is that. But I just cover up and carry on. I don't mind disappearing. It is ind of nice.
this is literally a breakthrough in human psychology wtf
Not for people with complex post traumatic stress disorder. They need talk therapy and, or other assisted intervention. They already spend a significant amount of time trying to manage their emotions as it is.
@@velvetbees EXACTLY, ton of people loves to take ONE VIDEO to portray very complex problems as simple things that can be solved with that video
To us, but not to our handlers.
@@velvetbeesI’ve been doing talk therapy since I was in the 3rd grade I don’t find it fufillling or helpful and always tend to self sabotage
Huh?
Something that’s helped me is that not everything needs to be answered. That stops me from overthinking
meditation, journaling, and breath work are amazing in releasing emotions and healing emotional trauma :)
You can say that again 💯💯
Absolutely! Lucid dreaming is a wonderful practice too, I chose to meditate in a lucid dream once and it seemed to manifest some sort of personal salvation... I used to be a real jerk though so the bar was pretty low lol
@@PathologicallyPositive ive never tried lucid dreaming, def gonna look into it sounds cool
How do we journal how can I start what do I write about? Is it about writing what you experience in a day or what stood out most what are the questions ask?
@@SelfempowermentComeUNITY you can always look up journal question prompts that can get you to do shadow work, as well as simply writing about your day or gratitude. theres many yt videos that give you more inspiration
Own your emotions and overcome the negative ones!!!
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How do I apple this?
@@SelfempowermentComeUNITYBy eating an apple.
@@aheenobarbushenocied9880 **cronch**
@@aheenobarbushenocied9880And having strong core beliefs
The part where you said that being angry is a form of escaping from sadness, because sadness feels weak is so true. I remember having the exact same thought as a teenager and now I’m working hard on my anger issue
Same with me but now I cry waaay to much instead smh .
Anger does have a purpose though - it’s the emotion of control and sadness is the emotion of healing. Needing to feel one may not automatically snap out your need to feel another
Meditation has been a huge help for me, too. It’s not easy at first but it doesn’t take long to get to a point where thoughts just stop. It’s amazing!
It’s amazing, yes it’s not easy at first especially.
Yes! Meditation is amazing, as is lucid dreaming, and for me, combining the two by choosing to meditate while lucid in a dream was a truly enlightening experience.
You don't really need to stop thoughts though. Just observe them without judgement and let them pass.
@@balazsvarga8582 Yes, I’ve noticed this, too! Isn’t this amazing? If someone would have told me 20 years ago that this was possible, I would have thought they were lying or crazy. I can finally escape my intrusive thoughts or sort of ‘hover’ close to them and observe how they morph without giving them a positive or negative connotation. It’s utterly astonishing.
@@Cheese-is-its-own-food-group Yes it's wonderful. I have a very strong generalised anxiety since early childhood. I lived with it and didn't even know it wasn't normal as it was the normal state for me. Meditation is magical for my mind.
This is why old people are grumpy. Makes so much sense.
I went through a 6 month “preventing abusive relationships” course (court mandated). It amazed me. There was a circle of women describing repeated cycles of drama and toxic behavior, instability, major ups and major downs. It’s just as bad a a drug.
Thank you for the deep explanation and resolutions to change. You made this ALL made sense!
You have such a gift!!!! ❤❤❤❤
Thank you :)
I hope you're doing better
How can you take or find this class?
That class was hell on earth for any man
i think that could actually be helpful for some people. maybe if it went along with introspective or guided behavior, it would've been more effective. i say this, because group therapy guided with a professional can be very healing for people. alcohol anonymous meetings, grief meetings, have all been proven to help people. maybe it is not for everyone, but i just dont believe its entirely helpful to hush out too many feelings, because it may be enabling a "bottling up" behavior for some. i do not think this video can apply to everyone.
It's 1am. I'm in a farm and the way this video explains most of my entire journey within the past year, has me speechless. Nobody I know has ever talked about this, I know I've never. It's such a burden to have as an adult because it's mostly who you are by that time, and learning/doing new things that could help you get rid of all that trauma can be really hard and painful. But let me tell you this, IT. GETS. BETTER. but you gotta do it everyday. That's where it gets hard. So to anyone who's reading this, keep at it! It's gonna be better. When it does, you won't screw it up. You'll do what you now know, as you.
Bojack reference.
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I seriously enjoyed this video! He gave great content WITHOUT being redundant. He spoke calmly without being monotone. He's comfortable within himself and he didn't make quirky, corny non-funny jokes that only those teaching therapists would understand. Great job!!!
the world would literally be a better place if everyone saw this.. im blown away
"We want to change the world so we are more comfortable in it, rather than change ourselves to be more comfortable in it"
Love it 🔥
Haha glad you like it! You can thank my sponsor for it!
I'm liking your videos so far. Touches on topics that I deal with. Maybe do a video on the concept of the Johari Window. I think you would like its content and stays in line with your videos. Also a topic I haven't seen anyone else talk about on UA-cam. Just suggestions, not telling you how to run your channel! Keep up the work man!
Thank you, I’m open-minded to suggestions so I’ll look into that. It already sounds interesting
Its a spiritual battle between Good & Evil. Nothing less. Nothing more.
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My problem with the past now is "I'm always waiting for the other shoe to fall" now. Everytime a happy event takes place, I'm thinking..OK when is it going to go to crap. So that aspect is what I need to work on..basically fear and it's so hard to overcome. I'm not addicted to fear, its just what I've come to expect. But I will try the tips suggested. Thank you!
I always tend to dwell on the past especially lately. Everything that happened to me last year and even just 3 months ago with my heartbreak has been affecting me. I’m trying to learn how to live in the present currently though and this video just opened my eyes to realizing that❤
That explains why people who leave a toxic country or state create the chaos and toxicity they left in the new country or state they moved to. I’ve seen this. Where I grew up as a child and young adult I would see how people would move in from a certain country into my state but live the same impoverished and “messy” toxic lifestyle they left. (Escaped from)
Yup, especially if that was their imprint from childhood. That programming can get difficult to shake off.
Yes . Bringing that low frequency without upgrading to the higher one . No internal work what so ever 🫠
😮OMG I've noticed this w some ppl who come from the hood & move to a different or better neighborhood. They'll still gang bang, smoke, drink, have a bad & toxic mindset still & still manage to live a horrible & dangerous lifestyle. Even being parents doesn't change them. They never grow. I'm from the hood myself so I know they can change & grow. They just choose not to. It's sad man. The brain is crazy.
@@idrawattention900 I’m happy you were able to see the bigger picture and find peace. It’s hard to imagine leaving something bad like what you described but just bring it into the next life. (Situation).
I couldnt put it in words. this helps in my joruney. thanks
This felt amazing. I have really really bad cptsd and it makes it hard to function in evryday life. It's basically a scar forcing me to live in the past. I just have to remind myself, I'm here now, I'm not there, never again
I 💯 can relate it’s hard
I have it as well. It is horrible.
Also another reason for some people where that level of familiarity is comforting, can be due to codependency…. That in itself can be misleading. There are people who suffer from codependency issues and not even know that’s what it is. But as soon as they learn and realize it they undo that addiction to familiarity almost instantly. They then become more self reliant rather than relying on others.
I recently had to google why I get calm when something makes me angry. I'm angry a lot and dealing with a lot of big challenges. It's hard for me to quit Marijuana after using for many years. I'm young with big goals and hope to get over these hurdles sooner than later. This was very insightful. Thank you. You've got a new subscriber
I’m 6 months clean, you can do it! 😊
Dude!!!!!!!!! OMG!!!!!!!!! I have been searching the internet for a long while now (because doctors/ counselors/meds/ & my drug addictions/ etc.. haven't helped at all!
So I started praying a day or 2 ago. Just asking God for HELP not even knowing what for. Always angry and sad and confused and depressed! Well God does answer our prayers because this video just opened my eyes and I couldn't be more thankful! Everything you said resonated and described me exactly! I am going to do everything you have suggested and I WILL BE LOOKING for more helpful insightful videos from you. Thank you God!
And thank you Sir! I will definitely keep praying. And looking for more blessings from YOU!
WOW! I have a lot of work to do. With all sincerity.....Thank you thank you thank you ❤
You literally hit on the nail with me, I’m addicted to chaos and anxiety cause it’s what I’m addicted to
I still play the memories from 20-30 years ago.. like they happened yesterday ..
This is so true self reflection introspection and shadow work is so needed - praise god
I highly recommend the book "Existential Kink" to pracrise toward this behaviour. There, she explains our inner masochism and how to conciously enjoy the pain. By allowing so, those things become less and less attractive
I highly recommend reading The Body Keeps the Score for this exact reason. Great video👍🏽
Edit: if you're struggling with this, please read this book. Understanding how your body processes trauma is so helpful when it comes to implementing lifestyle changes like movement and meditation because you'll know what you're doing and why. Everyone throws the word "mindfulness" around but its almost useless when not contextualised.
Taking accountability for your portion 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Thank you very much for making this video!
I finally know what's "wrong" with me.
I thought I was addicted to adrenaline from getting angry all the time and finding stuff to scream at like a lot of red pill and "this person got DESTROYED and OWNED by that other person" type of content but it goes so much deeper than that.
Because the only other typical feelings I have are nostalgia and sever depression, and the nostalgia is often accompanied by the feeling of loss and missed opportunity.
And even though I've not been successful in the past I think I'll give meditation another try.
I really needed to hear this.
THIS IS SO TRUE! I get ‘what ifs’ and I feel like if I went back in time things would be different or better, when I know in reality I cannot do that.
@@Iki.-. I don't want to go back to fix things, I want to go back and stay there.
The more I write the more I understand that it's just about safety and comfort, that I just want my own little time bubble and live as a kid forever.
It also makes me ashamed because I'm not as "mature" or whatever as I think I should be...
@@NotThatKindOfKiwi86You aren’t alone.
Can I just comment that this video is potentially going to save lives?
I am coming out of a massive depression spiral and I feel SO MUCH BETTER after having watching this... I think I finally understand my core problem.
The way I see it rumination is total mental obliteration and mental damnation.
Thank you so much for this ❤
Prayers + meditation, faith in God, positive belief about myself and stoicism saved me from my long time mental slavery and anxiety, I tried so many things in life it all failed & IN THE END JESUS IS THE ONLY ONE WHO PERFECTLY WORKS FOR ME, respect
I started living in the present so much so that I notice everyone else around me living in the past/on auto-pilot.
If your brain can mess you up then it messes them up. If you don’t give into it you have a big advantage of everyone stuck in victimhood and “fixed mindset”.
Everytime I feel slightly happy, I'm instantly haunted by bad events in my past. Subbed.
Idk how I got led here man, but the timing that I saw this video tonight, I’m forever grateful sir. 🙏🏾
Synchronicity 🎉
I am addicted to the feeling of abandonment and then connection repeatedly. I create it any chance I get. I know its toxic but I find it so comforting
You are wise beyond your years. You have given me a gift tonight young man, and a lot to consider. Thank you. Be Blessed!
The Power of Now by Eckart Tolle. Thank Me whenever & definitely Yourself Later.❤
I really needed this kind of information!! I had been feeling like my mental state was stuck in a very bad space.
Please don’t stop doing what u doing ! Stay amazing
Do not keep dwellings any past traumas( esp. child traumas) because it makes your life bitter and hurtful. Hurt people may hurt other people intensionally.
This!
Aw my bad
*cancels trauma in 0.2s*
To all my fellow brothers out here listeing to this message, GO OUT THEIR AND WIN! Build yourself, dont allow her to come back and ruin your hardwork. I am there right now I'm building myself up I'm not going to let her get the last laugh where I know I could be better. I want you big brothers and lil brothers do the same. BUILD YOURSELVES UP AND WIN!!!
Truth I realized after moving everywhere I was the problem and there was nowhere I could go where I wouldn’t experience so much issues and even if I didn’t mean to. But the hurt part of me was being hurt over n over n it felt like I couldn’t escape
Hope things are better 🙏
Can’t run away from brain 🧠 ! Your thoughts go with you !
@@JemVeda thank you, it’s a lot better now I’m tryna change my life for the better fr💞❤️🫶🏽 n have been ever since
@@MaxMax-th7uz true (:
The job scenario really hit home with me
this video showed up at the most perfect time !!! i needed this and i will work on my emotions because i tend to blow up and it ruins my relationships ! it’s getting so annoying
You got this :) 🔥
This is absolutely a life changing message for me. It makes so much sense!! THANK YOU FROM THE BOTTOM OF MY EMOTIONALLY ADDICTED HEART!!!
What a powerful video, I really needed to hear this right now thank you. I had been recently doing much better personally, no more anxiety for the first time in my life in well over a decade, as I've gotten into meditation and reading philosophy to stay present and control my mind and emotions. I got in touch with my spirituality, and really have been doing the best I ever had in my life.But the past few days.. I had began to ruminate again, about things that aren't even happening but have in the past, and have been feeling that anxiety creeping up. I am going through some family health matters right now, and your video has got me thinking that maybe I would rather feel those "familiar" negative emotions right now than deal with the present, which for the moment is difficult and out of my control. Honestly you have re-grounded me, thank you so much❤ Especially since this is exactly the time where I need to stay grounded and support my family.
Thank you, this video is 100% on point. All is mind, the chaos we created within in ourselves, we can overturn that.❤
Thanks for watching, glad you enjoyed it
Wooow, this makes a lot of sense! I love videos like these! I stopped watching True Crime videos because it was started get so paranoid and depressed. I feel a lot better. I feel like my brain is free from overthinking and thinking the worse. I know listen to more education videos like this, and self help videos because I really want to have better mindset and be better person in general. So Thank you for this video! 💕
Thanks for watching :)
We live to struggle. It's built into our DNA. The only control we have over this condition is whether or not we choose to struggle over something that builds character or something that reinforces degenerate behaviors.
I have experienced this. I had to cut a few relationships off within the past month(s) and something (like the little devil on your shoulder) telling me go back and read all those text go relive that emotional drama moment. I literally had to tap into my higher self and say no- I expressed myself and now I can let it go! I don’t have to stay stuck and addicted to those moments of disappointment or pain. I literally can move forward and continue my journey of healing and having self care! That’s growth for me and I’m proud of me and anyone who has out grown toxicity!
When i learned acceptance, specially self acceptance, and truly loved and validated myself, i got set free from this
What did you do to accept yourself?
@@669deep6 lots of therapy. I tend to go back to self rejection lol. I am on therapy again. I journal and stuff. It is a lot of work.
When the universe has a message for you, it gets to you. This popped up in my recommendations and I felt an urge to click it, but I went to save it to watch later. Nope! It opened anyway, but I'm glad it did. Thank you for the wisdom✨♥️
Yes yes......thank you for that tbought
Brother you just came on after another video I was watching while washing my car…this was fantastic. You’re incredibly insightful but also really concise and just literally laid out a bulleted guide to live a happy life in 18 min.
Wow that’s awesome, I’m glad it was helpful. Hopefully that car is sparkling too ✨
This video was really helpful - it reinforced things I intellectually know still find myself struggling with like addiction to anxiety. Your emphasis on how we build and break unproductive habits was great.
I’m glad it was helpful!
Right. A lot of these things I know and have applied but I’ve got to set it in stone
I literally died and was in a coma, and that is what it took to stop all the negative cycles. GREAT presentation!!! I did know know who I was or who my family was when I woke up. But let me say, I was shocked at the hate filled dynamic with these "family" members. Needless to say its VERY different now. I have walked away from all, except my children, they are loving ANGELS !!!The rest are not on my radar.
This gentleman speaks pearls. Best. 😘
I good form of meditation that has helped me is shadowboxing . Started at 20 min now I’m up to 30 min straight . No music or anything . Just you and the demons you’re fighting.
Great for concentration and a helluva work out.
I have had many jobs, 2 fiancés, and many different lives where it was like God said "Here ya go- Here's a perfect life for you." And I have purposely firebombed it. Every single time. Stability and peace have always felt wonderful and also very uncomfortable and vulnerable at the same time and it's been very hard to put my finger on it. Thank you.
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for a very long time, i’ve struggled with depression. often times i’ve been disappointed or let down by people I’ve considered close or I’ve loved. i’d normally feel sad, I do momentarily, but I’ve recognized that as I’ve gotten older, those sad feelings turn into anger. I have felt more angry than I ever had. it does feel better than the sadness. I have become more guarded. I love reading the comments of these videos. makes me feel more understood and less alone.
Many people have negative emotions that are in no way pleasurable but have been deeply etched into their neural pathways. It's not purely an addiction
I'm just constantly feeling something I call fear or anxiety and then my mind looks for a reason why but it starts from the feeling
First time watching a video of yours. Thank you for conveying a great amount of information and applying them to real examples in a concise way. Very rare to find.
Thanks for your support Ryan! Welcome to the channel 🙌
Profound profound video brother, thank you again for your amazing content!!
Glad it was valuable for you 😎
That was insanely accurate. No amount of thank you's can do it justice.
Yes, so great to sumble upon this video. People need to realize that if there's dopamine issues, energy issues etc and if Cortisol or adrenaline are giving them this rush of energy thath makes it addictive, we're ruining relationships because of lack of information.
Well said
Now this is real insight. Good to find something deeper when a lot of UA-cam content seems quite shallow. Great video.
the expectations thing is what i struggle w because i think i’m addicted to feeling disappointment and i don’t want to attract that anymore! lol
It’s good to reverse that :)
Self Awareness is the key to happiness to face your demons and with growth gives you peace of mind
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Thank you for telling this to people. Lots of us will hear it first time in our lifes. I am 22 and currently meditating twice a day, also in psychotherapy. I picked up everything you covered on my path and more golden self knowledge. I would add from me- start with strong decision of change then you wont be convinced at first but keep telling yourself you can do what you were unable to all your life up until that omega point of your will activating fully, follow it with actions and mental excersises everyday, seek more awareness and soon you will need no hope, no faith. You will be at one with self, expressing your existance in a form of happy life. We are powerful beings who create reality for ourselfes and others. Time to take more control and responsibility
something i found helpful that kinda relates is to let yourself experience life an separating urself your experience an frum how u feel emotions are a reaction
I found this to be helpful, I especially like they final "brooding" part. Im practicing self forgiveness, others forgiving me, and non judgement/resentment. Fortunately I'm getting quicker and quicker at noticing, ceasing, reversing, and foregiving❤
Identity theft and bank fraud.
Also loan fraud.
MIA POW.
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The mind wants comfort, the brain wants dopamine. The truest essence wants nothing as it is aware that it is all that truly exists so there's nothing to desire when you are eternal & connected to all.
I am loving these comments. It's making me crave more mindful people in my life. I am the suffer in silence type but I know the world will be a better place if the positive band together to support each other.
We have amazing people here truly
I'm so glad somebody put this into words for me. Makes me feel much less alone, too.
I'm thankful for finding this vid and your channel overall. Very timely and desperately needed.
Your videos are fuxking amazing I feel like years of trauma just got lifted up off my back
Thank you, that’s amazing to hear 🎉
damn. i used to tell my friend like idk why but i love being sad it helps me feel something, feel less alone, feel like i have a purpose idk it just makes me feel something. now it all makes sense.
you have no idea how much this video has helped me
I’m blown away. What a great informative video! I never even considered that I might be addicted to my own emotions. When nothing bad is going on and I “feel nothing” I always feel extremely uncomfortable. Maybe it’s time to just sit in that experience and see how long I can last without seeking dopamine or getting angry over the smallest thing. You did a great job of explaining things. 5 stars ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️
Thanks Danielle :)
This is so true
Very true 🔥👊🏿
WHY ARE YOU ALWAYS READING MY MIND AND POSTING HELPFUL VIDEOS FOR MY TROUBLESS AAAAAATHANKKKKYOUU
Thank you so much for such a great video, I feel like the universe led me to watch this to help along my journey! Please continue your videos, listening to you actually helped me to relax, your voice is very soothing.
Thanks for watching and for the compliment :) Welcome to the channel 🎉
It’s okay to be okay! It’s okay to be at peace!
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Enjoy the video!
Soooo many gems and golden one liners in this video
Thank you so much for this 😊😭
I knew I was dwelling in certain kinds of chaos but I didn’t see it through your lens when I needed to.
I like your face and stuff too. You’re a babe! 💕💞
Thank you! :) Welcome to the channel 🎉
This has been so helpful. Ppl don’t realize how emotions motivate so much in life… keep preachin! ❤
Emotions are a huge part of the human experience :)
amazing video
i knew i had this rumination/anxiety/fake scenario problem but i never knew exactly what it was until now. It’s finally time to implement meditation.
thank u so much!
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Brudda, I'm 47 seconds into the video and I already know I'm gonna thank you.
Great video! You touch on some really great points, especially about default emotions we go to to hide the root cause of issues.
Thank you 😎
I don’t know how but I accidentally watch your video. Actually ,I have some sort of thoughts running in my head: betrayals, loved one death . I keep thinking of those bad stuffs and preparing how I should face it. I don’t understand why i keep having those though when im a lone or even when im with my family. They are bad thoughts but it keeps my head busy and somehow i feel comfortable when i have those thoughts. I don’t understand that i have emotional addiction and i feel like nobody understands me even they love me. Thank you a lot for sharing the video. I finally understand what is going on and I should stop what’s going on in my head .
I've tried for years to get into a meditation practice. Never been able to make it stick. Either my mind wanders, or I fall asleep. The breath work has been incredibly beneficial for combating anxiety though.
Part of meditation is actually allowing the mind to wander. Ironically when you do so without judgement and just watch it wander, it stops.
Yes, breathwork is amazing! I’m glad it has helped you.
@@JemVeda I'll have to give it another go one of these days. Might have to look into the guided versions you mentioned.
Yeah guided is great. I strongly recommend the app “Insight Timer.”
This is the best explanation of mental health that I have seen