BTT# 68 - How Men Jeopardize Relationships & Get Dumped
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- Most men start off in a strong frame, early in relationships, then through a process of betatization by 1,000 concessions, he becomes unattractive to his girlfriend or wife.
Maintaining frame is paramount to a strong LTR, and most men get it wrong
Some areas I'll cover include, but aren't limited to:
Inviting a problem woman into your life
Becoming 'exclusive' fast
Not spinning plates, or bringing up 'where do we stand' before she does
Saying 'yes' too often, and not saying 'no' enough
Failing her shit tests
Being too needy
Lacking in conventional male competency skills
Not enforcing boundaries with male friends & social media
Getting involved with a woman higher than your own SMV
Letting the alpha widow enter your relationship
Making her your everything
Losing contact with his friends, and hobbies
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My father told me when I was young ‘always be ready to drop any woman in life if she becomes a burden and not an asset to you. Never depend on a woman cause they can hurt you at your most weakest’
best advise I ever got from my father.
Such a wise father. If only there were more of them around.
I wish my father would’ve give me any of this advice.
R N -My parents had a love marriage, an overall stable and respectful relationship I would say but I guess he learned way early in life before my mother about a woman’s primal nature.
There have been countless examples of men even I have seen....where the guy gets destroyed by his woman as soon she finds a better option... or any rough times fall on him.
R N - I do agree. It seems if situation is reverse can you really blame the woman for dumping a man off his purpose and not able to provide ? So many men put their goals/purpose secondary to the women hoping to please her ? That’s a bad idea.
I wish my dad were just aware of it. :) never happened
Her: “He’s just a friend. You: “Fine, let’s do this. Send him a text. Do you want to fk?” Then we will see what happens. LOL 😂 That’s amazing.
Diana Lee The Point the boyfriend or husband is trying to make by sending the text is to see the guys intentions not the girlfriend/wife. If the woman is attractive even more chances the guy will try at some point to make a move. Unless the guy is gay we can argue that he will not. Bottom line: Friendship among opposite genders is very difficult if any or both parts have significant others. Either physical or emotional attraction can develop through time. I am sure that if there were some statistics, we could make a bet. Cheers 🥂
@The Working Dead You would be surprised how many women really think this way. I have a challenge for you... Start asking women that you know, if men and women can be friends. Do not ask this in a group just individually. Do not mention orbiting either.
The Working Dead You’re right. Even more so, if the lady has NPD they love also to triangulate. It’s supply for them when they do that. It’s more than just attention. Since they are energy vampires, they feed out of emotions.
@@mosan-wa8990Interesting insight right there. Thanks for sharing it.
I can listen to you all day, you talk truth in a comforting way, I am about to be 30 and the next decade will be very different for me
all the best, dude!
I just turned 27 and finally am learning all this so excited for this next journey. Wish someone taught me this as a kid
@@JB23669 You are a kid.
Dude, I just turned 40. If I had listened to this man at your age I'd be light years ahead in life! 2 points of advice: Search out your Creator and listen to every video this man has made.
@@TheDogggrecords I’m learning it at 48!
The moment they feel power and know they can hurt you. They will my brother.
You're spot on with this comment Brother.
👏👏👏👏👏👏
More truth from Rich. Gradual beta’ization is the story of my failed marriage. I went from alpha to skimping beta over the course of several years until she had zero respect for me. I gave more and more of myself in an ever inflating covert contract. Prior to my marriage my most successful relationships were the ones where I gave the least fox’s. Maintaining frame is all important. I hope guys will find this info before a LTR or marriage.
Likewise.I wish I’d kept up with this info while in the relationship
So basically have your frame no matter what !
Holy shit this is exactly how mine is right now.... 4 years married, im moving out at the end of the month ( got 3 kids, otherwise I would’ve dumped her the day she mentioned marriage).
I wish I found this info before my LTR or even during the middle of my past LTR. Learnt it the hard way.
Preach!!! I’ve been led for 17 years by a steadfast, committed and awesome man. Do The Work is looking at actions. I now appreciate so much more.
Here is my thinking:
If he tells me something, it is because he doesn’t want to fix it later. 😂 otherwise, he doesn’t bother. Strong-silent type, his actions are loud.
Keep up the great work, my 3 young adult sons need you!
Also, I cook, clean, exercise so much more from your talks.
🙏🏻🤙🏼🐋🌟🔥💥
When I got involved with my current wife, SHE was the one who asked for us to be exclusive. When I proposed, she was actually on the verge of dumping me because I wasn't willing to commit... the irony of the night I proposed was we were on a romantic getaway, I was trying to convince her to go to a fine dining experience and she was saying she wasn't feeling it because I was being very non-commital... and even though I intended to propose at this restaurant, I was doubling down even though it wasn't where I was at anymore so I wouldn't spoil the surprise.😂
One point I did wrong in my first marriage, my ex had trust issues and after 4 years, she started accusing me of cheating. I had actually been around less and been very secretive because I was working overtime to buy the engagement ring.
The night I proposed, I did it a month sooner than intended because she started accusing Mr of cheating and I wanted to show her she was wrong. On one hand, it worked because it squashed the accusations and made her feel like an ass... on the other hand, to not have that trust after 4 years, I should have just shown her the ring, then tossed her ass on the street and went looking for someone who actually deserved it. 😂😂😂
One thing I have always loved about my current wife, is I never had to tell her I didn't want her talking to other men. In fact, I told her I didn't care. I told her I trusted her until I had reason not to. For context, the discussion started because she got jealous I spoke to another woman and tried to say I would feel the same whenI told her I didn't find the jealousy to be an attractive trait. She actually shows me when men try to contact her on social media and how she's blocking them.
“She doesn’t want to invite you into her life, no one wants to do that.”
Cold hard truth brother.
Respect.
A happy woman is a miserable man, A happy man is a happy relationship - Patrice O'Neal
The prophet!!! All hail!!!
A happy woman is a miserable relationship*
@@raresabraleaks8216 somewhat true. Women will put up with wife beaters, cheaters, and guys who don't "celebrate" anniversaries and such.
Doesn't mean they're happy.
Women will tolerate a man they're attracted to. Men will tolerate a women they're attracted to.
This is why why nice guys can't transition into women tolerating them.
This is also why men accept monogamy, get married, buy unnecessary things, and all kinds of other humiliating crap. They simply can't say no.
They would rather self sacrifice then inconvenience themselves or women in any way.
Some people would call this a zero sum game. Somebody needs to get the worst of it.
Every once and a while there's a give and take that benefits both parties, but this is the exception not the rule.
Burt Arrieta if a dude is beating on his spouse or forgetting everything important or cheating (in the scenario where it was specifically agreed upon that they’re in a monogamous relationship)....then he is unhappy. Who knows what is driving his unhappiness, but happy and secure men don’t beat up women. The fact that she may stay should not be taken as an indication that either party is happy. I stand by the original quote. If the man is happy....actually happy.....both parties are happy
The reason why men accept monogamy is because we are built to serve. Our identities are based on what we can do and what we can provide.
This is the reason why men will stand on the front lines of a ground war, knowing that they’ll probably die seconds after the two armies collide. We couldn’t and wouldn’t do that if we weren’t built for it. We wrap our identities around our service
Being a husband used to be a noble path. The act of being a husband becomes an identity for men, and that’s why male suicide skyrockets after divorce where female suicide doesn’t. We often lose our whole identity as a result of divorce if we gave up most of ourselves in favor of being what we think is a good husband.
LEGEND. Miss him so much. If he was alive I’d BEG for him to come on this show
Once a girl knows she has you she will get bored and lose interest because the chase is over
It's unfortunate that they're so infantile & emotionally stunted.
Except if she is living with you and you are chief financial support. She is not going anywhere as long as the bills are being paid by you.
That's what women are told about men
Once he has you.....the chase is over"
@@Flytr567 this is why men and women's interests are diametrically opposed.
Casual dating is not in women's best interest.
Marriage is not in men's best interests.
I always laugh when women bring up "why buy the cow, if you're getting the milk for free"
This only applies to small percentage of men.
Most men buy the cow even after getting the milk. Bunch of suckers.
My uncle always told me when you don’t let Pusey control you you’ve got the game won...amazing how true he was
Very smart uncle.
Do you work at the post office? lol
Every female I know wants a man to actually lead in a masculine way. Not play games, manipulate and try to break her spirit like these dudes attempt to do. Jeeezus 😮. These men are NOT (yep I said NOT) loved by their women. They appeal only to her superficial EGO and competitive nature. They do not have the heart of sweet feminine woman. And they KNOW IT. That is why they keep playing games in order to keep her. So it all comes down to what you want. To have her heart, loyalty, respect and love. Or a woman you subconsciously know is NOT that into you so you have to play games like this in order to keep her around. Terrible.
A genuinely masculine confident man takes the lead by asking her to be his, proving he’s invested in her and proving over time that he is serious about her.. If he doesn’t he loses her every single time because she will think you don’t care about her. Some of the tactics these guys teach are meh not too bad. But a lot of them would brutally crush a sweet feminine woman and she would slowly back away or leave pretty quick devastated.
@@CynthiaPace-n7vdid they tell you that??? Oh my darling.. Never listen to what q woman says she wants.. Pay attention to what she responds to
Second comment as a married man, it is compromise! A good healthy woman will not be insecure or dominating. Try and get a fair reasonable woman. Be kind to her, treat her well, help around house but also do stuff for you like gym, MMa training. From my experience it’s work, compromise and fair ness.
“Don’t allow yourself to get attached to anything you’re not willing to walk out on in 30 seconds flat if you feel the heat around the corner”
I just finished watching that movie. One of the best movies ever made.
Thanks Neil
Great movie, great quote.
Ferrous Cromagnon what movie?
Heat right? Michael Mann??
One of the most valuable pieces of advice I got years ago is to use the response “No, I don’t do that”, when asked to do something you’re not interested in doing. In short, set your boundaries early in a relationship (whether romantic, friendship or in your career).
The little things often. Stuff like not going to see a film I don't have an interest in.
Feels good doesn't it.
Great line to use! I'll borrow it!
Reminds me of the movie the break up.
Anniston:I want you to want to do the dishes.
Vaughn: why would I want to do the damn dishes?
Vaughn: "Why would I want to go to the ballet?"
Vaughn: "Why do you need twelve lemons?"
Vaughn: "You said you didn't like flowers, am I supposed to take that as you do?"
Anniston: it's not about flowers, the dishes, the lemons or the ballet, you just don't get it!!
Moral of the story: don't ever get it. As far as you're concerned you're dumb as a box of rocks.
Man, I was in a 3.5 year relationship, that just ended a couple of weeks ago, I was 24 when we started we just broke up last week, it was long distance, I wish I knew about your content way before. This shit is setting me up for the rest of my life to be honest. I appreciate all the knowledge.
You’re very young man and at the exact age for this info to be so great for you. Good luck !
100% right on the money as always brother!
Have been watching your videos lately and as a female I can agree with you on a lot of what your saying, I will say I am listening and it is eye opening specifically on the topic of betatization that is hard to try and not do as well as humbling myself and not just expect things because I am a female but I also have morals I wouldn’t do anything to screw a man over like take half his things or intentionally hurt him for my own personal gain
We are kindred spirits. 👍 I love to listen to these videos and listening to podcasts to learn more about men's perspective. I hear these call in stories and I would never fuck a man over like a lot of these past wives and girlfriends. I am astonished just like you !
I feel for the men in the dating pool.
I have more of an understanding of what men go through. Yeah, I prefer to be a green flag women and allow a man to lead the relationship.
@@patriciafix6626your a pretty special kind of woman then if that's true...my ex wife said these same things,then decided to do just the opposite...33 yrs of bullshit...
Rich this is your best video yet. Very relevant and relatable. Defo agree about ur social media remarks. Also guys, remember this never tolerate your gf being in contact with an ex. It will end badly, if she says your controlling snd insecure walk away
I really appreciate Rich for the "burlap sack" analogy regarding baggage. We all carry our own. Sometimes we walk into a room and put it down by the corner for a short time, only to pick it back up on our way out.
That gave me flashbacks to all the baggage I've carried over the years and having been unable to leave it for good. Hearing Rich say that opened my eyes.
I used to question why we mull over baggage over and over again, long after it happened to us. I thought there was something to learn if we couldn't let it go.
Thank you, Rich. We have to let go of that which no longer serves us. And much of this baggage hasn't served us in many many years.
Listening this gold and working out in gym. Perfect combo. Thanks Rich for educating men.
Thank you for this one. I need to watch it over and over. I believe this is the most important video you’ve done.
They’ll call u insecure if they can’t solicit attention from other men while in a relationship. Keep the attention and I’ll move on.
When people bring up the Happy Wife, Happy Life, I give them the Happy Hubby, Life is Bubbly. If they have a problem with it, then they're sexist feminists.
@@prettypriscillapink Thank you very much for your reply. It's women like you who try to have a happy marriage that should be respected.
I'm disgusted with my former self...
The following years of my life will be amazing.
I appreciate the information it's ridiculously useful...
Really enjoy your posts! I now realize I am naturally alpha. I married my wife in 2005, and have been slowly betatized. I watched my job performance suffer, I watched her interest in me fade. I was constantly put on the back burner for different things. When I came to her and said that I felt neglected, and I need her to hold me, I got no affection… I wasn’t looking for sex, just non sexual physical touch!! A few days later, I told her that I cry every day from the lack of affection. Her answer was that maybe we needed to get a divorce. That crushed me! I walked into the bedroom, she came in there and told me, as a person that cares about me, maybe divorce was right. I went through all sorts of hell in my mind, and found peace in a life long friend of mine… that is also a female. Now my wife has always loved me, I’m the only man that she will ever want.. etc…
I see my true value, I know that it’s ok for me to be happy doing things I want, building cars, fishing, and all the cool guy stuff that I stopped doing when I got married.
Thank you for posting these videos so other guys know they have value!
It does not matter what you really do or don't
If she doesn't genuinly care about you, the relationship will end one day either way.
This entire podcast is pure GOLD. Take notes gentlemen.
This is my fav: A Woman That has genuine burning desire does not ghost you....
This was so helpful Rich. If for no other reason that it reinforces the idea that abundance is possible for me and to never be the one to initiate "the talk." I worry that me not initiating that talk may have caused me to lose a girl that I really liked and was considering for an LTR, but of course the flipside of that is clearly if she wasn't into me enough to bring it up herself, the relationship would never have lasted or if it did would not be one worth having as a guy. Stand firm gentlemen!
Every female I know wants a man to actually lead in a masculine way. No play games, manipulate and try to break her spirit. Jeeezus 😮a masculine confident man takes the lead by asking her to be his, proving he’s invested in her and proving over gone that he is serious about her.. If he doesn’t he loses her every single time. You lost her because she thought you didn’t give a care about her. Some of the tactics these guys teach are meh not too bad. But a lot of them would brutally crush a sweet feminine woman and she would slowly back away or leave pretty quick devastated. These men are NOT (yep I said NOT) loved by their women. They appeal only to her superficial EGO and competitive nature. They do not have the heart of sweet feminine woman. And they KNOW IT. That is why they keep playing games in order to keep her. So it all comes down to what you want. To have her heart, loyalty, respect and love. Or a woman you subconsciously know is NOT that into you so you have to play games like this in order to keep her around. Terrible.
@@CynthiaPace-n7v Maybe. Oh well.
Here's a way us guys need to see it: remember how much fun you had with that project bike or rat rod, or building that AR? It was an awesome journey, wasn't it? When you're done, you enjoy it for a while, but now the challenge is gone... and it ain't long before you're looking at your garage or gun safe thinking, "I should Craigslist this thing and make space for the next project"... Well, that's how women see us. The moment you become that "completed" project, the clock starts ticking down. Do not let her finish making you into what she wants. You will *both* regret it.
You are doing good work Rich. We need men to get this straight with women before they become fathers. I swear I am the only dad in the neighborhood who properly handles (leads wife and family) .....especially during these extra crazy COVID days. Either all the dads are betas or nonexistent workaholics. Nobody teaches today’s boys anything. You owe it to our country to be alpha or America will fall. Public schools / TV / movies / music / etc are all against us. Do the work please !!!
Well said.
Too late. America fell in 2020
From Rich's content on a relationship. This is what I get to him. Have your life divided into quadrants. Your Friends/Family/2 Hobbies at least. One that is like a learning skill like Boxing or learning Guitar. The Other like sport/going to the gym. Budget your money. A woman is a complement to your life. They have to basically try to turn you into the BF, while you are interacting with other women. That means that the woman is saying "where is this going", towards you. She has to be very affectionate and be able to hold and create a conversation with you. The man should be well-groomed and dressed sharp and looking like they are going to a gym or at least fit.
Trump also yy suck
Rich I just want to say: thank you from the bottom of my heart. I’ve been binge watching your videos and it has allowed me to see the world from another view, which feels completely normal. We as men struggle because of how society depicts us and in today’s world the ratio for beta to alpha is 2:1 unfortunately. This knowledge should be taught in college classes to keep young men aware of these pitfalls. Once again I thank you and I will purchase your book
Bought your book from Amazon and all I can say is DAMN!! So much of it relates to my life.
Kevin from Sales and Steve from Accounting. :D
These talks are so important, and should be maintained (as I do after years of his coaching).....the biggest take away here in my opinion is getting so hooked into ONE woman that you BECOME UNPRODUCTIVE AND DEPRESSED......very very not good! This is a road to ruin; seen it; lived it; fear it! Nothing and nobody (except your kids) should interfere with your ability to thrive.....NOBODY!.....Thanks again Rich!
I wish I had come across this video 2 years ago. Its pure gold. Thank you so much, it's so simple when you hear it but goes completely against everything I was ever thought and for years invested in.
Just discussing this in the presence of liberal or conservative females is futile. Red Pill awareness isn’t easy
Thanks for reminding us about the like button. We get so into what you're telling us, we forget.
One of the biggest RP moments for me was understanding, what you invest in a woman has ZERO long term ROI.
What you did for her yesterday might get you intimacy today, but means nothing to her next week. And if you give too much, you push her and her desire away.
In the UK we say: Treat them mean and keep them keen! 😎
The majority of women’s resumés today consist of the amount of likes and followers on their Instagram.
Pretty said, isn't it? It takes no real effort, skill, or talent to do that.
And the mile of cock they've been ran through with.
The scene in the move, " an officer and a gentleman." The guy leave military school for his lady, she dumps him.
Mike
Amazing content richard you answered everything in one video keep up the good work!
Just bought your book, thank you so much. Very useful content, every man should read it. Clear and concise info
Great content.....subscribed and have binge watched a ton of your videos. Divorced, but single now and happier than ever. It just seems to me, at 42 now, that you just can't win with any woman in an LTR or marriage. They can leave at anytime... gonna stay single for a long time and enjoy life!
This video is absolute gold.
one of the best talks. Thank you our Bomber Commander for reminding us about how this world operates. Gracias
There's only one woman gonna love you unconditionally. It's Mommy.
True.and vice versa no man will love unconditionally.
Sometimes... not always. I've seen mothers become jealous of a new woman in their sons life. It really doesn't matter most times. All woman are insecure, even mothers, sad to say.
@@joshuamac6302very true
The dating world only gets better if you get better
The worthless feeling... I feel that. I never wish that on anyone and its so crushing. Rich - thank-you for this video.
Rich you make me sick this is Melinda talking to you you b****
Your content has been very helpful to me. What I like more is that you are more direct in your delivery of information. I have instinctively in the past done some of what you say to act with women. I have also done what you say not to do with women. I feel like you are sharpening my tool belt of knowledge and has helped me navigate when my wife starts testing me. I see my wife change afterwards and actually starts feeling like she needs me more(she actually says this).
Not sure what was different on this one, but it was heavy on value. Less fluff and no less impressive guests to distract from the bombs. 💣 Loved it!
Video quality suddenly unwatchable starting at 29:00 and continues in degraded condition for the rest of the program. That’s a shame because this is one of Rich’s best solo shows, and there are several crucial insights within that segment.
I've never even THOUGHT to initiate the "Where Do We Stand" talk. Every girl I've ever dated brought it up first. I've had different responses to them based on my mood. I guess my upbringing by my traditional alpha Russian dad makes all of this stuff unconscious for me. I'll need to thank him.
Why wouldnt you ask that question in the first place?
"Polar bear's toenails" lol.😂 Nice OutKast ATLiens Reference
This is excellent, no BS information. Every man needs to know this, especially in this ambiguous dating environment.
QQ: are you planning to make a video, or maybe you already did, about how women can support their partners to remain strong and masculine? I know there are a ton of vids about this but I’d love to hear your take on it. Cheers!
Hi if i may comment.. i agree on this. I believe what women can do is to let the man take responsibility.. many men didnt get role models of highly responsible and leader type man figures. I can only imagine the waves of role reversals if these are not correctly aligned.
I used to think role reversed partners/marriages 100% of the time does not work but in case of my aunt and uncle, even if my aunt has stronger personality and high academic background, it worked for them and they raise excellent kids. I believe what my aunt did is leave the final say to my uncle and allow him make and learn from his own mistakes.
Now this would be very difficult for most women because it would present them to either imagined or real risks.
But bottom line, if man doesnt learn this by making his own mistakes while being supported with his partner, this will become a cycle and leave the man emasculated and woman deeply unsatisfied in the long term in home leadership.
I have observed women can do alot and multitask most often better than men. But when too much pressure is piled up, women come to their men to seek emotional support.
If woman does not see this consistently in her man. She might not even approach his man during tough times.
That first super chat was sarcastic and he was giving you props.
There is so much gold here Rich. One of your best
Great Stuff as usual...especially the part about her ghosting at the end....if they don't have genuine burning desire for you no matter the circumstance....forget her and move on....so many more out there waiting to get pounded...
You read my mind on the morgan freeman meme. I kept thinking, when's he going to post it? And u eventually did. 😆 🤣 😂 😹
You speak an absolute truth. It's like the saying that you can't unring a bell.
"By that time, I'm on my motorcycle doing a wheelie down the street"
*in the foreground* screeching tires
*In the faint background* -- "blah blah blabbidy blah-"
Had a great girl, she had burning desire for me UNTIL I made the mistake of having the relationship talk. She did get into a relationship with me, but as soon as we did it was like a plane taking a nose dive. 6 weeks and she monkey branched, and it was brutal. Do not ever, lose frame, once you lost it, it’s a bullet to your head.
I'm...just...tired of these games, you know?
I don't wanna wait x time to try getting closer to a person.
I don't wanna overcalculate whether I should say yes or no this time to going out
I don't wanna play power dynamics to look interesting.
I don't wanna have to check whether or not I need to rethink my relationship choices every 2 hours.
Just, what the fuck happened to empathy and being an understanding person, man?
I just want to be myself, have a partner to trust and that can trust me, that I can help move forward and so help me move forward in return.
Every relationship up to this point has just been a search...leading up to that point...
I hope I get there one day...
Well that’s because you’re a real genuine human being with values.. a lot of people aren’t like you so we have to play these games. Stay you man!
You have no idea how much what you said speaks to me. I get it. You feel exhausted, without hope while at the same time you are constantly bombarded from all sides with what you are supposed to do. It is infuriating.
Welcome to the real world.
18.35.
Yes. Invest alot to quickly and then when the relationship settles down she will be complaining that you don't do the things together that you used to.
Actually changed the tyre for the first time in my life on the way to winery 11 years ago with my then gf, figured it out as I did it. Can honestly say happily married with two kids. . . I know I know but it works and just gets better and better for us
I think what that guy was trying to say is, throwing away all your options when you think you've found the best one but it then turns out you haven't... at that point you've got no fall back cos you've pissed them all off...
The romanticized version of women is false. The women I’ve been with admit they are more logical than we think. Your self value is huge in confidence as attractive. Never get too soft as a man Keep your edge while being a respectful man. They love it!
Great BTT brother Cooper.
Rich man love your stuff, great advice for Men. Definitely finding alot of advice and help.
This is really good advice for women as well! Don’t stop talking or seeing other men until a commitment is made. But, I will tell you I just walked out last night on my main dude, because he plays this to much. Our time together should be about wooing each other. Enjoying each other. If you act like your the prize and I should be chasing you, instantly unattractive! My advice to men....don’t over play this hand. My time and effort is valuable, too! I rather spend it in the company of mutual respect and admiration. If I feel my effort is not valued, then I will take it some place else.
How do you manage to be so consistently bad at grammar?
Slappy Did you check everyone’s comments for grammar mistakes, or just mine?
Slappy Well, I suppose holding someone to higher standards than others, should be seen as a compliment. So I’ll take it!
Slappy One last thing! Please, don’t ever read Tom Robbins novel. I heard that he doesn’t re-write or proofread his novels. Straight from page to printer. This author is not recommended for you. You would probably just die! A whole book of bad grammar! I personally love Tom Robbins.
Benjamin button Your funny....no, he’s my main dude, because he WAS the one smashing the cat. BUT, now the other dudes have a chance. I’ll keep you posted
Pretty newly red pilled honestly and still in the process of deprogramming (most of the way through rational male part 1 and have the 48 laws of power queued up next). I am/was the poster child for blue pilled beta and while it was a bitter pill to swallow I didn't experience this reluctance to consider the message. I was in a 10 year relationship that I thought I was doing everything right in because of feminized programming (raised by a single mother who fed me all that good guy, jby bullshit without a man in my life to coach and guide me) that ended seemingly out of left field (I can see everything I did wrong and all the signs I ignored in retrospect) and the red pill message just immediately felt intuitively correct and it was more of a revalation; like someone showed me this whole time I was supposed to wear my underwear inside my pants and nobody ever bothered to tell me about it.
It's been painful for me to accept but it was not difficult and once I actually LOOKED at the message and compared behaviors I've done and seen my entire life seeing all of these things snap right into place and I recognized that despite all the gnashing of teeth red pill is actually the bitter truth.
Last week I was wrapped up in a scarcity mindset with serious oneitis and this week I am on the page of disregarding women to work on myself till I'm in a position where women want to chase ME and I'm never chasing anyone nor will I commit to exclusivity with anyone unless they are a unicorn (lol yeah right).
Those of you out there that haven't yet taken the red pill and feel some kinda way about it... Read a few books, look at the message, carefully consider your experiences and how women have responded to "nice guys" and "bad boys".
Focus on yourself, spin plates, never chase, don't fuck with anyone that doesn't consider you a top choice and never be exclusive and you'll be so much happier in today's feminized society.
That betatization process phenomenon is indeed probably a real thing, I fell into that twice in my life.
I see 2 reasons. One is insecure women. The second it's me man itself. I develop here those two reasons. Women often crave for security and have fear of abandonment. Craving of security make them look for strong men but it's a lot more complex than that I believe. They first look for a strong man then fear that their high value will make them look for other women. So their way to prevent this is to start that "betatization process". Very typical will be for a women to isolate their man, to make it difficult for them to socialize. Women often are champions at emotional manipulation to obtain what they want or simply to have power. And isolated man is an easy manipulated man.
Second reason being the man itself in the way that, to a man, the presence of a woman can be softening. Like a surrogate mother with all the confort and softness that a woman provides. It's no wonder that the spartans in antiquity were taking the young boys away from their mother at the young age of 7 to make warriors out of them. They feared rightfully that women would soften them up too much.
I took a little break from this series, and I have to say, something about you and your performance has changed for the better. I watched from beginning to end, didnt get bored or offended at all, even laughed a few times. Good stuff, keep it up.
Rich is 100% correct. Whatever your situation is make sure that you have your own place, a good job and money invested/in the bank. Always work to try to be in a position that you have nothing to lose if she leaves. With kids its more complex admittedly but it can be done.
treat them mean...keep them keen..👌💪
Love this line
I worked for a city police department. One of my co workers met a woman from Columbia. He was 5 foot tall balding with acne scars. Not poor, but not wealthy. He would fly from the US to Colimbia to be with this woman on his days off. She was much younger than him. They get married. She moves here. This wo an was beautiful. 5'6, long silky back hair, deep beautiful brown eyes. After five years of marriage and 2 kids, She files for divorce. He was played. She got half the value of his house that he owned years before he met her. Alimony and child support.
Mike
You really cracked me up with 'em voices on this one haha
6:01 what I tell my wife: "happy hubby happy home" it doesn't rhyme but it is the antithesis to HWHL
Absolute legend, Rich is a good dude
Thank you, Rich. Magnificent advice, as usual.
Met this girl, it was great she claimed to still be meeting with her exes, with one she even spends her birthdays, they go for a walk, dinner, he gives her flowers, she sometimes even sleeps at his place (she's from out of the city). Claims that it works for some people... not for me.
This was a pure gold, thx Richard !
A relationship or the love you have for a female should just be an extension of the love u have for yourself. If it goes u still have love and respect for yourself and the Next Girl up. U have to love and respect yourself First. the universe will just Mirror That !!!
Wish someone told me all this stuff that your channel covers when i was in in my twenties. Even tho i kind of realize all this stuff at some point i just thought i was angry and resentful. But if i did not went thru all that experience would i appreciate knowledge and attitude i have now?....keep up the good stuff.
Greatest video from rich in a while
Thank you stating that women are not after money, but someone who can take of the needs when they happen. What made me decide that my boyfriend is someone I want to keep around long term is when my car battery died and I had to go to work, he came over jumped the battery for me. I had a need he took care of it. I know I can rely him. If I have to change the flat on your car, it doesn't matter how much money you have in the bank.
Something that most people not realize, and i completely agree with Richard on this one is that the strategy for women is passive while for men is active, men have to seek and hunt to achieve things in general, and of course to get women, whereas women don't have to make any effort to get male attention more than to post a sexy picture in IG and being average pretty. Richard thank you, disagree in some aspects, but in general i think you are one of guys from red pill community i enjoy to hear the most, eye opening.
Good stuff bro. Invaluable. Thanks.
Another great video full of advice!
wish i knew all this in my early 20s rather than my early 30s
Would surely saved me some monney, headache and respect. Yes. I was with a psychopath once. Called the cops on me for her own crazy behavior. And the policewomen was a feminist. Omg. It didnt end to bad, cause i did no wrong. But god i wanted to kill that bitch for a moment yes.
Hey man! Very very needed and important info! Greets from Russia!
Female cyborg:"Prepare him for BETATIZATIONNN..."
More so than anything else I feel embarrassed for how blue pill I was in the past. Which I believe is a step in the right direction humility can make someone change.
I'm keeping these videos for my son .
The advice geared towards men from 18:51 to 19:33 is what a lot of women are already doing nowadays, i.e. they're dating multiple guys simultaneously.
Love this content
Not initiating "that talk" will lead to a default sex 2.0 relationship which will almost certainly fail.
Sex 2.0 is what all of her relationship assumptions are based on and saying nothing leads to 2.0. By not engaging you are falling into her frame and her assumptions.
Making the frame 3.0 as soon as possible is key.
Poor Steve from accounting 😂