Oh I got SO much from this podcast. As an abuse survivor who still struggles with anorexia and bulimia, I relate to feeling "safer in my own skin" being thin, than being a bit heavier. It's not about vanity or about confidence ever for me, but definitely safety and a feeling that if I am in "control" - when everything else in my life feels out of control, it will be okay. But control is an illusion. Peace with self, my HP and my relationship with my body and food etc, as well as compassion and acceptance is way to more freedom. Thank you!
This is almost unbearably good. So good. Also, when people suggest I shouldn’t swear, they feel like diet police to me. I don’t think those two things are unrelated. I heard Olivia Colman yesterday saying that she doesn’t have much respect for the prissy refusal to tolerate swearing. For me, it’s like a mostly religious guard has decided I can’t use adjectives anymore. I’m stunned that we tolerate the curtailing of our harmless expression so broadly. Makes me feel unsafe, which, bahahahaha, I’ll look at. Beautiful conversation all around. Thanks.
Stephanie was a great guest! I truly enjoyed ! -- (I have to say, the first few minutes I was SO confused by her microphone 😂 ) I’d thought it was just a mole by her lip, but then it KEPT MOVING juuust slightly enough that I thought I was losing my mind… SO distracted ‘til (Einstein) I realized *ERP it’s just a head-set mic. Anyway great job, folx.
This is brilliant episode! Love it, love it! Can I also make a more superficial comment - I loved what everyone was wearing! Bright colours really brightened my afternoon whilst watching this with it raining (again!) outside
I think there can be something about being accepted by others, being mistaken for confidence. I think the happiest place is when you find the size and shape that works for you, although it may look nothing like what the bodies that are marketed to us as perfection look like 🤷🏻♀️
If there is “where else” then is what Sarah says : change your life to change your behavior maybe some parts in life have not changed. Beautiful beautiful video thank you
💙Sara, I have to say in certain circles people DO want to be around thin bodies !-- In many queer (particularly gay male / trans femme spaces) fit bodies are very valued, even among people who are otherwise empathetic and not shallowly EXCLUSIVE of other bodies, it is still undoubtedly a valued asset within the culture. - and ALSO within the performing-arts world. I know it’s up to me to find the strength and values within myself to fight for my health, but -- Physical appearance is a large part of booking acting jobs. As a trans-feminine person - I feel SO MUCH pressure (self-imposed I’m sure) to have a body that passes for the feminine ideal - (largely because it helps not to be misgendered!), but also because: being thin is an asset when it comes to winning parts, there’s just no denying that. . HALLLP 🐱
Hello, I really enjoyed this video and the guest. I was wondering if you had read The Hunger Habit, by Judson Brewer and if you would consider reviewing the book. I am curious about what you have to say about it.
Oh I got SO much from this podcast. As an abuse survivor who still struggles with anorexia and bulimia, I relate to feeling "safer in my own skin" being thin, than being a bit heavier. It's not about vanity or about confidence ever for me, but definitely safety and a feeling that if I am in "control" - when everything else in my life feels out of control, it will be okay. But control is an illusion. Peace with self, my HP and my relationship with my body and food etc, as well as compassion and acceptance is way to more freedom. Thank you!
This is almost unbearably good. So good. Also, when people suggest I shouldn’t swear, they feel like diet police to me. I don’t think those two things are unrelated. I heard Olivia Colman yesterday saying that she doesn’t have much respect for the prissy refusal to tolerate swearing. For me, it’s like a mostly religious guard has decided I can’t use adjectives anymore. I’m stunned that we tolerate the curtailing of our harmless expression so broadly. Makes me feel unsafe, which, bahahahaha, I’ll look at.
Beautiful conversation all around. Thanks.
Stephanie was a great guest! I truly enjoyed ! -- (I have to say, the first few minutes I was SO confused by her microphone 😂 ) I’d thought it was just a mole by her lip, but then it KEPT MOVING juuust slightly enough that I thought I was losing my mind… SO distracted ‘til (Einstein) I realized *ERP it’s just a head-set mic. Anyway great job, folx.
Hehe, I thought it was a plaster at first 😂
Love this episode
You are a very important voice in all that noise ❤
Also, the money!!! Beautiful.
This is brilliant episode! Love it, love it!
Can I also make a more superficial comment - I loved what everyone was wearing! Bright colours really brightened my afternoon whilst watching this with it raining (again!) outside
I think there can be something about being accepted by others, being mistaken for confidence.
I think the happiest place is when you find the size and shape that works for you, although it may look nothing like what the bodies that are marketed to us as perfection look like 🤷🏻♀️
If there is “where else” then is what Sarah says : change your life to change your behavior maybe some parts in life have not changed. Beautiful beautiful video thank you
💙Sara, I have to say in certain circles people DO want to be around thin bodies !-- In many queer (particularly gay male / trans femme spaces) fit bodies are very valued, even among people who are otherwise empathetic and not shallowly EXCLUSIVE of other bodies, it is still undoubtedly a valued asset within the culture. - and ALSO within the performing-arts world.
I know it’s up to me to find the strength and values within myself to fight for my health, but -- Physical appearance is a large part of booking acting jobs. As a trans-feminine person - I feel SO MUCH pressure (self-imposed I’m sure) to have a body that passes for the feminine ideal - (largely because it helps not to be misgendered!), but also because: being thin is an asset when it comes to winning parts, there’s just no denying that.
. HALLLP 🐱
I (Sarah) really appreciate hearing this perspective ❤️❤️❤️
Thanks for listening 💙😁
((n’ sorry for missing the H in your name, never again Xx))
@@stevielove4778No apology necessary! ❤😘
Good point, sometimes thin wins the job/part
Hello, I really enjoyed this video and the guest. I was wondering if you had read The Hunger Habit, by Judson Brewer and if you would consider reviewing the book. I am curious about what you have to say about it.
We are already on it! Watch this space!
What were the names and books mentioned?
I already nodded when I read the title of your video… 🥺🥺🥺