Having her own opinions but an open mind is important for me. I think it's healthy to be able to "agree to disagree" on things that's not too important for you personally. Also the money is not that important. From experience I know that if I get $1000 a month that's what I'll use, and if I get $3000 a month I'll find a way to spend it anyways. Finding someone attractive is subjective, and sometimes I don't really notice someone being attractive until I get to know them a little better.
Honestly, a good balance of all three would be nice. A woman who takes care of herself, treats people well, and is self-sufficient would be ideal. The ability to perform all general maintenance on her own car would be awesome!
Societal expectations definitely play into it. Like, we EXPECT men to provide, and so a lot of guys don't even consider whether or not their partner might make money, and wouldn't bat an eyelash at a girl who is poor or doesn't have a job. A lot of men might even feel (even if they wouldn't admit it) emasculated if they made less money than they're partner. Conversely a lot of women look down on guys if they aren't providing enough money. Just so we're clear, when I heard the question, my first instinct was to drop money, personally!
SelphieFairy You do realize that most married couples end up in divorce because of money issues. It’s not like their greedy for money but you can’t exactly live on love and people’s attitude change over time if you add money trouble to that too you’re just asking for it.
This might sound a little vague and generic. .. but I would like the 4th thing to be someone someone that is genuine. As far as giving up something? I would probably pick looks. I find that when i meet someone and get to know them, over time the level of attraction increases or decreases depending on their personality. Genuine personalities are the best. Kindess, playfulness etc are very attractive and can literally change the way I view that person on a physical level as well. It's kind of crazy, but very reassuring and beautiful. Defines true beauty, and I love it!
The guys only care about appearances and the girls only want someone to do things for them. That’s not love at all. Relationships are about compromise and sharing your life with one another. I’m gonna assume these are kids who have little to no long term relationship experiences.
Different love language (there are 5!) works for different people! Just because these girls like people who would help them or do things for them doesn't mean they're immature. They just appreciate it more since they might really dislike something (e.g. housework) a lot. Western/European ladies are mostly more independent compared to the Eastern Asian/Asian counterparts because there's a difference in the presence of gender roles between our cultures. :)
From my perspective as a guy. The 4th thing I would want is someone who likes to be silly and fun, cute girls that are not afraid to be goofy and do dorky things are always more attractive. The thing I would give up of the first 3 is definitely money....who cares about money if you have a beautiful and kind girlfriend or wife (Within reason of course, I don't expect a model that's also a saint and I assume that doesn't imply that we're broke)? Money can't fix ugly and even a very pretty girl with money gets annoying really fast if she is a bad person.
vouneful that's good to hear. Although I wish they would have explained more in the video. A lot of the girls cared about money...but it could be very contextual. I assume some of them simply meant that they expected the guy to have a career and financial stability. Which is totally reasonable.
Bones12x2 this is Japan you know! ^^ I live here and I'm married to a japanese and even though it would be pretty hard for me to explain this phenomenon! To put it short I would say that they seem so (too much?) pragmatic about relationships and marriage! More like a business partnership than really love! (Hopefully my husband is really not like that! ^^ maybe that's why he went for a French girl!!) By the way it's very hard for me to make girl friends here...
This is a very noble thing to say, but money is a really important factor in our world. Now I'm not saying anything like "just marry a guy/girl cause their financially stable!", but I've had my fair share of friends that I love and yet they're horrible with money making me wonder how they'd fair in a relationship where you both have to be responsible
across the board money is usually number 1..its kinda taught..because marrying a rich guy = stability. chasing with your heart is seen stupid..but for me i want a cut/handsome guy thta i can laugh and joke around with whose priority isnt just money and status...and has a passion. and the guy in glue is really cute
Lived in Aomori for seven years; above average looks, $95K Salary, spoke limited Japanese (could shop and survive a little) and pretty romantic. Got the big X many times, foreigner...
I would leave the appearance. If I'm in love, that person will be the most beautiful in the world for me... I would want.. Mmm that we had the some of the same hobbies maybe? Idk
Seriously at the two girls 6:36 and the pair of guys before them are the only people i can relate too. This stupid stereotype of money , shouldn't exist. And by sterotype i mean, wanting someone who has either alot of money or is financially stable. That shouldnt be a thing that one should really even consider when it comes to love. You should love the person for who they are not what they have. I RATHER have a girl that loves me and whom i love, even if they are (poor/very little to no money). LOVE is something both partners work towards in order to make it truly flourish ❤❤ Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. And the kindess lol😂 that is just a fact, be kind to everyone even if they make u angry. ❤❤ Great vid, but it is a little bit dividing of opinions 😂😅
Wow, I am really surprised about how money is such an important factor for most of the people interviewed! In my point of view, as one of the interviewees said, that is something you can work on, just try hard and things should come to you ! As long as you can meet your basic needs, you don't need to swim in money. (In my opinion)
With a lot of house wives and a social stigma of women who goes back to work after having children, it's not surprising that most women look for someone who's a good provider.
exactly! but 8/10 of the male comments treat wanting a partner with financial stability like it was the original sin or something yet casually ignore the #1 reason people get divorced (which is money, in the us anyway). I would think with that statistic in mind they would be applauding those women since it shows they want to avoid that issue by taking on the responsibility themselves by finding someone who can meet their needs early on. gender roles and personal ideals mean men and women will value different qualities in their partners. Theres nothing wrong with that!
You guys are using a new camera it seems. Looks very nice. The colors are vibrant, the exposure seems better and the 60p looks really smooth. Which camera is being used for this video?
It would be interesting to dig deeper into that, wouldn't it? Is economic anxiety that bad among young people in Japan? Your boyfriend could always go get a better job, but if he gives you ugly children, they're ugly for life.
Khánh Quốc Even the guy at 5:40 said he’d give away her kindness for money. That’s not really the average way of thought for guys in the U.S. or other “Western” countries. This is definitely something obviously more unique to Japan.
I don't know what the subtitles conveyed, but they said things like, "someone who doesn't get angry easity", "someone who shares my interests and hobbies", "someone who can speak English well", "someone who can cook" "someone who helps with the household chores" "someone who shares a distain for the same thing" "not someone who stinks"...Three girls said money when pressed
You are really ignoring the fact that none of them droped the kindness, which would mean that they overall are not that intrested about looks, and I truly don't understand how you find that to be a bad thing. It's like y'all really like the idea that all women only want money and that's it and again, I don't understand why.
Personally i d lose his money. This is not a big issue. U re always spending and earning money. As long as we re kind and understanding with each other, everything can be fixed
I want a understanding woman with empathy, she doesnt need to be kind all the time. Everyone has bad times. But i want someone who can change a bad mood for both sides. So if im sad she can change my feelings and if she is sad i can change her. Money is a thing everyone needs, so i will always focus on that anyway if im in a relationship or im not. But i can cook, help sometimes in the house tidying, and i try to make her happy all the time. But a big additional thing is humour, if we dont laugh together that would not fit in my life. Finally i would say a well balanced relationship is the most important thing and both sides must constantly work all the time on that together for a healthy relationship.
I dont know if this is a german imagination of a relationship. But that's my view of it. I think a big thing is equality and distribution of every task.
Si sacrificas el aspecto eres un interesado porque tendría dinero. Si sacrificas el dinero eres un superficial por no querer que sea fe@. Menudo dilema!
Looks, money, and kindness and I'm still looking for more? It's hypothetical and all but I ain't greedy. If I had to drop one, it'd be a tossup between money and looks. Just work hard and live within your means and money won't be a problem; and if by standard convention my partner isn't 'beautiful', assuming that kindness is an indication to having a great personality, then her having a great character would mean I will only ever see her as beautiful.
My 4th attribute would probably something like honesty or intelligence and if I would need to kick one attribute out of the initial 3, it would be money. Money can always be earned and I do not intend to be dependent on my partner. It´s weird to think that some people would choose appearance or money over characteristics like kindness but I guess my stance is very western.
Did you guys notice around 4:32 the girl says something about not being pretty, then Cathy shakes her hand and then the girl nods and doesn’t say a word? What does that mean?
Definitely would give up the money. If someone's ugly or I can't stand to talk to them, what reason do I have to stick around? I'm no gold digger and I hate who I hate. Glad to see at least 3 people totally get it.
The plus alpha that i would want in a partner is compatibility because you can find good a partner but its hard to find a compatible partner plus if he is a great cook that would be perfect haha but as for the the thing he would lose i choose money because you can always earn money again. Most of the time many people lose money in some sort of way sometimes a lot and sometimes not too much but if you work hard u can always get it. 😊 Love this video looking forward to more videos 💕
4:40 that makes perfect sense. Men or just people in general are more loyal when they are not extremely handsome like some kind of model in a magazine because those people see actual value in a relationship since it's much harder to find a partner. That's why I believe that I too couldn't handle a relationship with someone who's overboard attractive :D
idk about that. love is a choice. you have to choose to love someone. you have to choose to treat them right and to put them first. falling in love may be the easy part because it's out of your hands but nurturing and cultivating a healthy and loving relationship is not at all effortless and "fated". I dont think the concept of true love is real. Genuine love, however is. Theres just too many people in the world for only one to be truly compatible and a good match for you.
I think I would want someone who could cook. I can cook as well, so it would be fun to have someone to try new recipes out with or help me improve on my own recipes. As for what I would give up, I would give up on looks. Because from experience, I have found someone more attractive after I've fallen for them, so its ok without. He doesn't have to be the one with more money or providing for me, but I wouldn't be able to tolerate someone who is a financial burden. Of course, kindness is a must.
2:20 did anyone else feel the tension in the air there? sounded like they were taking shots at each other...actually the guy in blue kinda was, right? pretty sure kathy felt uncomfortable there
Hola un saludo desde Costa Rica, lo que me gustaría en mi pareja o en una pareja seria primero: amabilidad, Segundo: que sea muy cariñoso, tercero: que sea serio cuando hay que serlo, cuarto: no importa la apariencia, Quinto: que sea alguien con muchos valores, sexto: no importaria tanto el Dinero ya que los dos podemos trabajar por ello 😊 y setimo: me gustaría que tubiera algun hobby 😉
I mean there's something called preferences, and then there's just straight up spoiledness. Being in a relationship is a cooperative full time effort, you're not always gonna get what you want in a partner. I for example am more attracted and lured by bigger softer women, but if they have a shit personality then it's a complete turn off. You don't see me complaining about how ridiculously skinny Japanese Girls are.
Im glad they are like this not like other foreign women who likes money and looks but japanese women really cares about whats inside and not the outside
This is one of those questions I would like to hear answered by older people. I know it's not your demographic, but I think it would be far more interesting. At least, as a comparison.
Money is just a means to an end. I think the girls are not looking for guys that are rich but rather guys that have the ability to make money. So, what the girls wants are guys that are at least having a job that pays well enough to settle the monthly expenses and still have enough to go for dates.
Money, beauty and kindness ... Personally I do not care about any of the 3. Making the decision to love a person, based on those 3 characteristics is, in my opinion, something very immature / silly. Money can be lost, easily. Rich become poor and poor rich. It is more a matter of determination to get ahead, to have a vision of where we want to go. Beauty is relative, everything depends on the angle, profiles, lights, appearance. The "ugliest" person can be a real beauty if he/she improves his/her appearance and vice versa. Besides that the physical beauty with the time is lost, it is useless to base the love in the beauty because in 20 - 30 years that "prince" or that "princess" will not be the same. And kindness is something more situational ... We are human beings, everyone can love hating, everyone can pretend to be kind by education. I do not care about any of the 3. What I look for in a couple, is in genuineness. That they see through me, what I do, my successes or failures, the things that I do and that they truly believe in me. "For me, love is not a feeling, it is more a decision" a decision that is made consciously.
as the interviewer said just now, it depends to someone who want girlfriend or boyfriend base from their intrest but it might be difficult for those who want dating with foreigner people because diffrent culture and religion. *I am boy and i still not have girlfriend yet (sad face)
The girls who want money are missing out on something very important. Couples that work together and eventually have a comfortable life will be more likely to stay together. Children will have role models in their lives. Their parents.
I couldn't believe the girls dropped looks! I feel like that must be cultural. I imagine everyone I know here in the US would pick looks and kindness and drop money because that's a value that instilled in our fairy tales and pop culture.
Actually, I'd say the Americans would drop kindness, that gets you nowhere in USA. It's perhaps just a demerit. Money definitely holds value and looks perhaps even more than that.
There is not a man on the planet who cares if a woman makes money. I mean it's great if she has a passion, and if she's ambitious. I admire and respect that. But if a woman makes more than you, she will start acting like your mother and treating you like her child. That's why it's so crazy when women start getting competitive with men at school and at work. I mean... of course they have the same potential for intelligence. There's nothing inherently manly about academics. but they seem to enjoy marrying men who are above them and do act like their parent. Not always but pretty often that's the case. So a female doctor for example, can probably only date another doctor. She would probably not be attracted to a plumber or office worker who makes less than she does. she is looking for someone who can elevate her status. That is how women's brains work. The lower they start out the happier they'll probably be because there's a higher chance they'll find a man. conversely, yes its true looks are most important to men. I think that is because there are so many complications in child birth, that we are looking for very healthy partners. something like... wide hips would help the birth, or being young, or facial symmetry. its not arbitrary. it may not be necessary in modern times but it has been hardwired.
Hm.. something that would be important to me would be honesty. I wouldn't mind if the women I love has no money/job etc. ... I didn't have much myself for most of my life.
to me the 3 essential things are actually intelligence, kindness and looking at the very least “acceptable”. I don’t really care about money, as long as he is interesting and funny! I’m surprised nobody said they wanted an intelligent partner. Perhaps everyone in Japan is already smart? 😹😹😹
money is the most important thing in my opinion since it is an absolute weapon that would mostly work in dating. You can also test either your partner is a gold digger or just like you for your money so it is an effective preparation before you want to date somebody.
I would drop the money. My skills are cooking, cleaning and a pretty good income. I’ve always cherished my love one. Oh, she makes a great income without having to do all the domestic stuff. 🙏🏽🌸🌸🙏🏽
I just want my future boyfriend to play Mario (or some other Nintendo games) or some JRPGs with me, but 90% of guys in my country only play games like Call of Duty, Counter Strike and League of Legends ;-;
2:45 *Turns to the girl next to him*
"If you were like that, that would be great."
Holy crap
Shots fired
dmg +10000000000
That was actually savage. lol
no wonder they stoped there jajajajajaja
😅 Cathy's face
2:43 'If you were like that, that would be great.'
lmao
Having her own opinions but an open mind is important for me. I think it's healthy to be able to "agree to disagree" on things that's not too important for you personally.
Also the money is not that important. From experience I know that if I get $1000 a month that's what I'll use, and if I get $3000 a month I'll find a way to spend it anyways. Finding someone attractive is subjective, and sometimes I don't really notice someone being attractive until I get to know them a little better.
the one who said: hating the same things that your partner hates. Is a genius
5:35 i absolutely love the way he said "NaNdE?" Aaahhhhh so adorable
Honestly, a good balance of all three would be nice. A woman who takes care of herself, treats people well, and is self-sufficient would be ideal. The ability to perform all general maintenance on her own car would be awesome!
OH!!! The girl in black again! So adorable!
I was thinking the exact same thing
she’s so cute I’m crying
They all are cute to be honest.
tell me about it..
@@Chameleonxx3 but she's kawaii
There is an old proverb in my country that literally say : "girls love money, guys love beauty". This seems pretty true.
I think the "girls love money" part is a global issue 🤣
Societal expectations definitely play into it. Like, we EXPECT men to provide, and so a lot of guys don't even consider whether or not their partner might make money, and wouldn't bat an eyelash at a girl who is poor or doesn't have a job. A lot of men might even feel (even if they wouldn't admit it) emasculated if they made less money than they're partner. Conversely a lot of women look down on guys if they aren't providing enough money.
Just so we're clear, when I heard the question, my first instinct was to drop money, personally!
How hollow and shallow. Sadly this holds true for most people.
Khánh Quốc Money can provide you with many things beauty gives you jack s***. You can’t live for very long with looks alone.
SelphieFairy You do realize that most married couples end up in divorce because of money issues. It’s not like their greedy for money but you can’t exactly live on love and people’s attitude change over time if you add money trouble to that too you’re just asking for it.
Someone taking picture and Cathy cat be like 5:42 😂
This might sound a little vague and generic. .. but I would like the 4th thing to be someone someone that is genuine.
As far as giving up something? I would probably pick looks. I find that when i meet someone and get to know them, over time the level of attraction increases or decreases depending on their personality. Genuine personalities are the best. Kindess, playfulness etc are very attractive and can literally change the way I view that person on a physical level as well. It's kind of crazy, but very reassuring and beautiful. Defines true beauty, and I love it!
The guys only care about appearances and the girls only want someone to do things for them. That’s not love at all. Relationships are about compromise and sharing your life with one another. I’m gonna assume these are kids who have little to no long term relationship experiences.
Different love language (there are 5!) works for different people! Just because these girls like people who would help them or do things for them doesn't mean they're immature. They just appreciate it more since they might really dislike something (e.g. housework) a lot. Western/European ladies are mostly more independent compared to the Eastern Asian/Asian counterparts because there's a difference in the presence of gender roles between our cultures. :)
i can move my ears a little bit if thats a skill
👏👏👏
It’s not.
The girls must be fallin for you
From my perspective as a guy. The 4th thing I would want is someone who likes to be silly and fun, cute girls that are not afraid to be goofy and do dorky things are always more attractive.
The thing I would give up of the first 3 is definitely money....who cares about money if you have a beautiful and kind girlfriend or wife (Within reason of course, I don't expect a model that's also a saint and I assume that doesn't imply that we're broke)? Money can't fix ugly and even a very pretty girl with money gets annoying really fast if she is a bad person.
Bones12x2 from my perspective as a woman I 100% agree with you!
vouneful that's good to hear. Although I wish they would have explained more in the video. A lot of the girls cared about money...but it could be very contextual. I assume some of them simply meant that they expected the guy to have a career and financial stability. Which is totally reasonable.
Bones12x2 this is Japan you know! ^^ I live here and I'm married to a japanese and even though it would be pretty hard for me to explain this phenomenon! To put it short I would say that they seem so (too much?) pragmatic about relationships and marriage! More like a business partnership than really love! (Hopefully my husband is really not like that! ^^ maybe that's why he went for a French girl!!)
By the way it's very hard for me to make girl friends here...
This is a very noble thing to say, but money is a really important factor in our world. Now I'm not saying anything like "just marry a guy/girl cause their financially stable!", but I've had my fair share of friends that I love and yet they're horrible with money making me wonder how they'd fair in a relationship where you both have to be responsible
across the board money is usually number 1..its kinda taught..because marrying a rich guy = stability. chasing with your heart is seen stupid..but for me i want a cut/handsome guy thta i can laugh and joke around with whose priority isnt just money and status...and has a passion. and the guy in glue is really cute
99% wants a man with money
1% just care about the feelings
Japan is veeery expensive. And if you want to have a family it is really hard.
Horu ..the difference is they want to LOVE a guy with money..not just take his money like gold digers
It's probably less than 1%, they were just trying to be nice.
Yeah....typical shoppers list of things one is not entitled to in any way,but let's still ask the question. I call BS.
Lived in Aomori for seven years; above average looks, $95K Salary, spoke limited Japanese (could shop and survive a little) and pretty romantic. Got the big X many times, foreigner...
The lass in the black blouse at the beginning has really pretty eyes
Do I burst your bubble....?
Contact lenses.
JayJapanB yes. My whole world is crashing down on me now.
@@heesingsia4634 she is really cute. even without contacts, she is a beauty
I would leave the appearance. If I'm in love, that person will be the most beautiful in the world for me... I would want.. Mmm that we had the some of the same hobbies maybe? Idk
Seriously at the two girls 6:36 and the pair of guys before them are the only people i can relate too. This stupid stereotype of money , shouldn't exist. And by sterotype i mean, wanting someone who has either alot of money or is financially stable. That shouldnt be a thing that one should really even consider when it comes to love. You should love the person for who they are not what they have. I RATHER have a girl that loves me and whom i love, even if they are (poor/very little to no money). LOVE is something both partners work towards in order to make it truly flourish ❤❤
Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. And the kindess lol😂 that is just a fact, be kind to everyone even if they make u angry. ❤❤
Great vid, but it is a little bit dividing of opinions 😂😅
Deonardo Mendez couldn't agree anymore
Wow, I am really surprised about how money is such an important factor for most of the people interviewed! In my point of view, as one of the interviewees said, that is something you can work on, just try hard and things should come to you ! As long as you can meet your basic needs, you don't need to swim in money. (In my opinion)
2:45 "Si tú fueras así, serías mejor" 😂😂😂
With a lot of house wives and a social stigma of women who goes back to work after having children, it's not surprising that most women look for someone who's a good provider.
exactly! but 8/10 of the male comments treat wanting a partner with financial stability like it was the original sin or something yet casually ignore the #1 reason people get divorced (which is money, in the us anyway). I would think with that statistic in mind they would be applauding those women since it shows they want to avoid that issue by taking on the responsibility themselves by finding someone who can meet their needs early on. gender roles and personal ideals mean men and women will value different qualities in their partners. Theres nothing wrong with that!
You guys are using a new camera it seems. Looks very nice. The colors are vibrant, the exposure seems better and the 60p looks really smooth.
Which camera is being used for this video?
"I want him to hate the same things that I hate." This girl gets it!
I am as surprised as the guy at 5:35 when the other one said he'll give up the kindness 😅
Al fin los subtitulos en español Genial Like Sigue Asi 😉
Gives the impression Japanese women would be in a relationship with any guy as long as he has money.
It would be interesting to dig deeper into that, wouldn't it? Is economic anxiety that bad among young people in Japan? Your boyfriend could always go get a better job, but if he gives you ugly children, they're ugly for life.
Not only Japanese women, I think most women in the world have the same thought.
Khánh Quốc Even the guy at 5:40 said he’d give away her kindness for money. That’s not really the average way of thought for guys in the U.S. or other “Western” countries. This is definitely something obviously more unique to Japan.
I don't know what the subtitles conveyed, but they said things like, "someone who doesn't get angry easity", "someone who shares my interests and hobbies", "someone who can speak English well", "someone who can cook" "someone who helps with the household chores" "someone who shares a distain for the same thing" "not someone who stinks"...Three girls said money when pressed
You are really ignoring the fact that none of them droped the kindness, which would mean that they overall are not that intrested about looks, and I truly don't understand how you find that to be a bad thing.
It's like y'all really like the idea that all women only want money and that's it and again, I don't understand why.
That boy that droped the money, he was so cute in every answer. Love him already
can you ask if they had the chance to make one wish come true what would it be ? btw i love your vids 😍 catty-chan is also very2 kawai
Personally i d lose his money. This is not a big issue. U re always spending and earning money. As long as we re kind and understanding with each other, everything can be fixed
4:11 - A strong message to MMO players around the world.
I want a understanding woman with empathy, she doesnt need to be kind all the time. Everyone has bad times. But i want someone who can change a bad mood for both sides. So if im sad she can change my feelings and if she is sad i can change her. Money is a thing everyone needs, so i will always focus on that anyway if im in a relationship or im not. But i can cook, help sometimes in the house tidying, and i try to make her happy all the time. But a big additional thing is humour, if we dont laugh together that would not fit in my life. Finally i would say a well balanced relationship is the most important thing and both sides must constantly work all the time on that together for a healthy relationship.
I dont know if this is a german imagination of a relationship. But that's my view of it. I think a big thing is equality and distribution of every task.
Sense of humor and witty and nice smile thats my preferrence
6:10 Think I’m already attracted to this seemingly open-minded girl, now I just need to learn Japanese, lol
The guy from 2:10 onward looks at that girl like he's saying. 'Bitch, you are literally describing me... Why won't you love me!!! :( '
Si sacrificas el aspecto eres un interesado porque tendría dinero.
Si sacrificas el dinero eres un superficial por no querer que sea fe@.
Menudo dilema!
Looks, money, and kindness and I'm still looking for more? It's hypothetical and all but I ain't greedy. If I had to drop one, it'd be a tossup between money and looks. Just work hard and live within your means and money won't be a problem; and if by standard convention my partner isn't 'beautiful', assuming that kindness is an indication to having a great personality, then her having a great character would mean I will only ever see her as beautiful.
6:07 is the best line
6:15 respect!
Idk whether to be happy for not being a hottie or depressed for being poor.
My 4th attribute would probably something like honesty or intelligence and if I would need to kick one attribute out of the initial 3, it would be money. Money can always be earned and I do not intend to be dependent on my partner. It´s weird to think that some people would choose appearance or money over characteristics like kindness but I guess my stance is very western.
the girl with black and brown ombre hair: *giggles*
the world: *faints from cuteness overload*
2:11 that's guy stand next to her was like " THAT'S ME!! RIGHT THERE GOOD HOBBY RIGHT?"
Did you guys notice around 4:32 the girl says something about not being pretty, then Cathy shakes her hand and then the girl nods and doesn’t say a word? What does that mean?
Definitely would give up the money. If someone's ugly or I can't stand to talk to them, what reason do I have to stick around? I'm no gold digger and I hate who I hate. Glad to see at least 3 people totally get it.
Juan Mann mee too bro..
This girl who is with pink hair one, I think that I just fall in love, these eyes and smile 😍😍😍 how I can find her social medias??
1:44 - height??
I like the way they said it in sync lol
Loyalty pretty big for me. Been treated like shit by girls in the past, so yeah loyalty pretty big for me.
0:05 This girl with glasses is SOOOOO super cute..
OMG me a gustado la chica del minuto (1:30) me a molado
The plus alpha that i would want in a partner is compatibility because you can find good a partner but its hard to find a compatible partner plus if he is a great cook that would be perfect haha but as for the the thing he would lose i choose money because you can always earn money again. Most of the time many people lose money in some sort of way sometimes a lot and sometimes not too much but if you work hard u can always get it. 😊 Love this video looking forward to more videos 💕
Loyalty and the will to try to make the love last forever. Until death do us part. Of course looks and a great personality. :)
I love a guy who is fun to be with, he doesn’t have to be handsome as long as he is kind.
私なら優しくて、いい男の子と付き合いたいです。お金がなくても、優しさはいいことです。
4:40 that makes perfect sense. Men or just people in general are more loyal when they are not extremely handsome like some kind of model in a magazine because those people see actual value in a relationship since it's much harder to find a partner. That's why I believe that I too couldn't handle a relationship with someone who's overboard attractive :D
If you want true love, you don't get to choose. That's the reality!
idk about that. love is a choice. you have to choose to love someone. you have to choose to treat them right and to put them first. falling in love may be the easy part because it's out of your hands but nurturing and cultivating a healthy and loving relationship is not at all effortless and "fated". I dont think the concept of true love is real. Genuine love, however is. Theres just too many people in the world for only one to be truly compatible and a good match for you.
@@elleofhearts8471 I don't agree with cuz u can't choose who to love. This feeling can come out of the sudden
Brown hair guy 😳😳😳
I think I would want someone who could cook. I can cook as well, so it would be fun to have someone to try new recipes out with or help me improve on my own recipes. As for what I would give up, I would give up on looks. Because from experience, I have found someone more attractive after I've fallen for them, so its ok without. He doesn't have to be the one with more money or providing for me, but I wouldn't be able to tolerate someone who is a financial burden. Of course, kindness is a must.
2:20 did anyone else feel the tension in the air there? sounded like they were taking shots at each other...actually the guy in blue kinda was, right? pretty sure kathy felt uncomfortable there
You didn't say: "It's Cathy cat". 😞
She dishonor her famiry
Money is just money, I go with personality instead! If you are an attractive person you will become good-looking to to me.
Hola un saludo desde Costa Rica, lo que me gustaría en mi pareja o en una pareja seria primero: amabilidad, Segundo: que sea muy cariñoso, tercero: que sea serio cuando hay que serlo, cuarto: no importa la apariencia, Quinto: que sea alguien con muchos valores, sexto: no importaria tanto el Dinero ya que los dos podemos trabajar por ello 😊 y setimo: me gustaría que tubiera algun hobby 😉
Karla R Lo mismo para mí 😊
I mean there's something called preferences, and then there's just straight up spoiledness.
Being in a relationship is a cooperative full time effort, you're not always gonna get what you want in a partner.
I for example am more attracted and lured by bigger softer women, but if they have a shit personality then it's a complete turn off.
You don't see me complaining about how ridiculously skinny Japanese Girls are.
2:46 lmao lol jajaja
Im glad they are like this not like other foreign women who likes money and looks but japanese women really cares about whats inside and not the outside
Es mas importante la personalidad agradable que el dinero, en un pais con muchas opciones laborales conseguir un empleo es relativamente facil.
This is one of those questions I would like to hear answered by older people. I know it's not your demographic, but I think it would be far more interesting. At least, as a comparison.
6:13 She would not care about the money and would give that up and likes an english speaker to navigate through America with her.
Money is just a means to an end. I think the girls are not looking for guys that are rich but rather guys that have the ability to make money. So, what the girls wants are guys that are at least having a job that pays well enough to settle the monthly expenses and still have enough to go for dates.
Money, beauty and kindness ...
Personally I do not care about any of the 3. Making the decision to love a person, based on those 3 characteristics is, in my opinion, something very immature / silly.
Money can be lost, easily. Rich become poor and poor rich. It is more a matter of determination to get ahead, to have a vision of where we want to go.
Beauty is relative, everything depends on the angle, profiles, lights, appearance. The "ugliest" person can be a real beauty if he/she improves his/her appearance and vice versa.
Besides that the physical beauty with the time is lost, it is useless to base the love in the beauty because in 20 - 30 years that "prince" or that "princess" will not be the same.
And kindness is something more situational ... We are human beings, everyone can love hating, everyone can pretend to be kind by education.
I do not care about any of the 3.
What I look for in a couple, is in genuineness. That they see through me, what I do, my successes or failures, the things that I do and that they truly believe in me.
"For me, love is not a feeling, it is more a decision" a decision that is made consciously.
Poor guy at 4:49. Basically, her girlfriend told him indirectly that he is ugly and she stays with him only for money
this is the most positive answer we are looking boys 6:09
as the interviewer said just now, it depends to someone who want girlfriend or boyfriend base from their intrest but it might be difficult for those who want dating with foreigner people because diffrent culture and religion. *I am boy and i still not have girlfriend yet (sad face)
they do not want kindness, they want the bad boy that ignores them.
I'd either say smarts or loyalty..
The girls who want money are missing out on something very important. Couples that work together and eventually have a comfortable life will be more likely to stay together. Children will have role models in their lives. Their parents.
kindness dropped. A Tsundere is what that person was thinking.
HEALTH AND HAPPINESS FOR BOTH
I couldn't believe the girls dropped looks! I feel like that must be cultural. I imagine everyone I know here in the US would pick looks and kindness and drop money because that's a value that instilled in our fairy tales and pop culture.
Actually, I'd say the Americans would drop kindness, that gets you nowhere in USA. It's perhaps just a demerit. Money definitely holds value and looks perhaps even more than that.
The girl with pink hair is super cute :3
I can not live without kindness ;)
I’d like to say I’d give up money 🤔🤧 because if that person like me then we can work for it 🤷🏻♀️ money aint everything
No offense but they really are picky with whomever they wanna be with like deng! Some responses were okay ig
Really? I thought it was cool that they mostly said, you dont need a nice face to be a good bf.
Analytical to the death....Yeesh. {Meaning the girls,not you. ' ) }
5'6 guy, "I'm quite tall"...
There is not a man on the planet who cares if a woman makes money. I mean it's great if she has a passion, and if she's ambitious. I admire and respect that. But if a woman makes more than you, she will start acting like your mother and treating you like her child. That's why it's so crazy when women start getting competitive with men at school and at work. I mean... of course they have the same potential for intelligence. There's nothing inherently manly about academics. but they seem to enjoy marrying men who are above them and do act like their parent. Not always but pretty often that's the case. So a female doctor for example, can probably only date another doctor. She would probably not be attracted to a plumber or office worker who makes less than she does. she is looking for someone who can elevate her status. That is how women's brains work. The lower they start out the happier they'll probably be because there's a higher chance they'll find a man. conversely, yes its true looks are most important to men. I think that is because there are so many complications in child birth, that we are looking for very healthy partners. something like... wide hips would help the birth, or being young, or facial symmetry. its not arbitrary. it may not be necessary in modern times but it has been hardwired.
Hm.. something that would be important to me would be honesty.
I wouldn't mind if the women I love has no money/job etc. ... I didn't have much myself for most of my life.
the 4th thing would be for her to make the videos of "Ask Japanese" , I'd left out the money
the orangey haired girl thoughhhh
Wish I can understand...translate or subtitles please
1:20
In some of the scariest parts of America, English might not be so helpful anymore...
2:45 SAVAGE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
to me the 3 essential things are actually intelligence, kindness and looking at the very least “acceptable”. I don’t really care about money, as long as he is interesting and funny! I’m surprised nobody said they wanted an intelligent partner. Perhaps everyone in Japan is already smart? 😹😹😹
money is the most important thing in my opinion since it is an absolute weapon that would mostly work in dating. You can also test either your partner is a gold digger or just like you for your money so it is an effective preparation before you want to date somebody.
and how can you test that?
by going on a date with him/her? :/ You want to go out with him/her in the first place wasnt.
Its always the money for men, but for women, its down to the looks. Interesting.
it's somehow comforting to know I'm not wanted anywhere in the world, heh
No hope for a man like me. No girl wants handsome and kindness out of the three good qualities....
Alright boys I wrote everything down wish me luck
I would drop the money. My skills are cooking, cleaning and a pretty good income. I’ve always cherished my love one. Oh, she makes a great income without having to do all the domestic stuff. 🙏🏽🌸🌸🙏🏽
Girl in the thumbnail (black shirt) is cute af
I have a lot of respect for the one girl who said she'd give up money. The rest just sound like gold diggers, and I actively avoid girls like that.
Yeah same only problem is those girls are the minority.
I just want my future boyfriend to play Mario (or some other Nintendo games) or some JRPGs with me, but 90% of guys in my country only play games like Call of Duty, Counter Strike and League of Legends ;-;
Sounds like sweden
Please put up Japanese subtitles as well.
“He can look ugly too”
*Every ugly guy liked that* 😌