Will Their Differing Views on Parenting Matter? | Tell My Story, Blind Date

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  • Will April & Saheed want to date? Watch to find out! It’s certainly easier to make assumptions about people than it is to spend time getting to know someone. We wanted to put assumptions to the test to see what we're missing out on because we're so busy assuming we already "know" a person. Join us as we discover why you should never judge a book by it’s cover in our series 'Tell My Story, Blind Date.'
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  • @Myrimartygee
    @Myrimartygee 5 років тому +2618

    My lady was flirting for her life. Lol.
    Beautiful woman but West African men don't play when it comes to mariage and family!

    • @monsterrr1999
      @monsterrr1999 5 років тому +201

      He was serious, not try to b fake and egged her on. He was honest and knew it wouldn’t a long term relationship so better to end it before they start. It’s better to start a relationship when you are sure of your feelings and hers too. Flirting is nice but are you in love? No. It’s not fair to her.

    • @ComedyGlor
      @ComedyGlor 5 років тому +183

      @Live Not Die it's not even a matter of who can do better. Personally I think they're fairly on par. Having different values doesnt mean one is better than the other, they're just not right for the other and that's okay. It's obvious that she wasnt really thinking long-term, cos she didnt even seem too bummed when she found out that he wouldnt date her.

    • @brentwilliams694
      @brentwilliams694 5 років тому +42

      she was trying though. Hit him with a song and everything lol.

    • @ComedyGlor
      @ComedyGlor 5 років тому +43

      Brent Williams cos he asked her to

    • @brentwilliams694
      @brentwilliams694 5 років тому +16

      @@ComedyGlor so..if she didnt want to do it she would of just refused. But she knows she has a good voice and she let him hear it.

  • @elivianichols2808
    @elivianichols2808 5 років тому +1957

    I love the way he constantly called her name

    • @cydgood4959
      @cydgood4959 5 років тому +14

      Elivia Nichols bruhhh same I thought I was the only one

    • @TheKondinho
      @TheKondinho 5 років тому +2

      why is this? I find this common in women

    • @elivianichols2808
      @elivianichols2808 5 років тому +4

      @@TheKondinho I dont know🤔🤔

    • @ponyponyxo7138
      @ponyponyxo7138 5 років тому

      Elivia Nichols i was about to comment that

    • @evremkan2758
      @evremkan2758 5 років тому +5

      it was like captain holt visiting Rosa on prison

  • @DAnie___
    @DAnie___ 5 років тому +667

    she took rejection so maturely. Would love to find a woman like her who is actually funny, grounded and just plain nice to converse with

    • @twinklestar620
      @twinklestar620 4 роки тому +4

      Daniel Rob email the station and get her number 😂😂

    • @DAnie___
      @DAnie___ 4 роки тому +2

      @书中自有黄金屋 OH yeah I am

    • @siriusgoddess3760
      @siriusgoddess3760 3 роки тому +1

      Uh were we watching the same video? Where did she take that so maturely? Her facial expression after he said he would not date her was flushed and totally shocked. Her body language was dumped. Her complaints was useless. That's because she was being totally fake and overconfident with all that hair-swinging. The bro was like YIKES.

  • @dvisymndz8450
    @dvisymndz8450 5 років тому +1772

    omg. I was like “he looks like my friend Saheed.” and it IS my friend saheed hahahahahahahahah.

    • @styl3k1fry
      @styl3k1fry 5 років тому +48

      Do they still talk to each other?

    •  5 років тому +16

      There was this guy named Saheed that used to bully my cousin and I back in middle school

    • @MrSkyprin
      @MrSkyprin 5 років тому +60

      @ both you and your cousin at the same time?? thats tuff

    • @TheIceMurder2
      @TheIceMurder2 5 років тому +28

      @ Pussies. You both should have beat him up together. 😂

    • @christophergonzalez8598
      @christophergonzalez8598 5 років тому

      Skonka

  • @Opinions.of.Rih.
    @Opinions.of.Rih. 5 років тому +268

    He seems very in tune with himself which is amazing at 25.

    • @susuilu
      @susuilu 4 роки тому +3

      no it should be very normal at 25, when properly raised. at least as an african.

    • @rymc3437
      @rymc3437 4 роки тому +1

      @@susuilu people tend to believe men are not very mature when they are young (even old 😅) so it can be surprising but i personally know many dudes that age who are steady and very wise

    • @phugh3878
      @phugh3878 3 роки тому +1

      He’s 25, he’s a grown man, not a baby lmao

  • @theduke6174
    @theduke6174 5 років тому +2222

    He has such a Poker face,I can't read him

    • @tiaraterry1344
      @tiaraterry1344 5 років тому +28

      Duke Temz I couldn’t figure out what it was but you said it perfectly!

    • @theduke6174
      @theduke6174 5 років тому +34

      @Krystal Ha i feel like he acts like this with most girls he has dated.

    • @chukwujames1146
      @chukwujames1146 5 років тому +17

      Nigerians

    • @theduke6174
      @theduke6174 5 років тому +2

      @@chukwujames1146 I'm Nigerian and i will lower my guard down on a date

    • @Okwiiishadowrogue
      @Okwiiishadowrogue 5 років тому +5

      Masculine Frame 💪🏾

  • @elizabethoguntade5465
    @elizabethoguntade5465 5 років тому +1894

    I really liked his honesty for not wanting to date her!

    • @aibatphidanyllal1209
      @aibatphidanyllal1209 5 років тому +6

      Gee thanks

    • @LittleGaladriel
      @LittleGaladriel 5 років тому +65

      I do respect his choice, feeling sorry because I see she liked him, but honesty is a good thing

    • @chellss8939
      @chellss8939 5 років тому +31

      Thanks for the spoiler

    • @mleekahh
      @mleekahh 5 років тому +14

      STOP SPOILING

    • @bnwo
      @bnwo 5 років тому +8

      you're just saying that because you're black. You could tell this guy was a clown when he said he was Nigerian, then admitted that he was born and raised in Houston and that his guilty pleasure music was Britney Spears.

  • @Mila-yv3rm
    @Mila-yv3rm 5 років тому +2627

    I didn’t expect his answer at the end 🙃🙃🙃

    • @alexis415
      @alexis415 5 років тому +220

      I did. His deal breaker was different views on parenting and she had different views on parenting.

    • @kale7842
      @kale7842 5 років тому +41

      She's pretty but I don't think he was feeling her. He seemed a bit disappointed after opening his eyes.

    • @girlstrangerlove
      @girlstrangerlove 5 років тому +85

      @@kale7842 No. He thought she was beautiful, he said it himself, even that he was attracted to her by what he sees (her body, face) and was feeling her. The problem was, how they want to raise their kids. He believes in spanking, she does not. Etc. And one observation of mine: i think he's looking for a black woman or a woman with the same background as he's. Just because she was asian and not black, the first thought he kinda had was that she wanted her kids in private school...

    • @qutielove2208
      @qutielove2208 5 років тому +24

      I did. he wants to beat his kids n she doesn't.

    • @kale7842
      @kale7842 5 років тому +36

      @@girlstrangerlove Yea..you're right. I think a lot of ppl in the media assume balck men want something "different" still a lot are very traditional and want homegrown and discipline.

  • @jonahchikezie8347
    @jonahchikezie8347 5 років тому +338

    When he turned her down, I was surprised but then again, I get where he’s coming from. The raising kids aspect was a big one for him.

    • @TheKondinho
      @TheKondinho 5 років тому +14

      its a big one for most of us african men

    • @mav3ric100
      @mav3ric100 5 років тому +8

      I feel that, plus the porn thing. Her belief on porn would be like a guy believing women fantasising or using their minds to masturbate is infidelity.

    • @Mimi24177
      @Mimi24177 5 років тому +2

      @The Cma Um God only will righteous people with righteous people not skin color.

    • @samirahsamir6930
      @samirahsamir6930 5 років тому +2

      ME True but some pple prefer to be around someone who they have same culture or pple from their country 🤷🏽‍♀️

    • @Mimi24177
      @Mimi24177 5 років тому +1

      @@samirahsamir6930 But that doesn't always work, because if the Lord Jesus Christ is not the head than nothing goes right. That's why people are having problems today and he tells us not to give into the vain traditions of men of this world.

  • @angieruthw
    @angieruthw 3 роки тому +80

    He wants a large family , lots of kids, she wants two. He believes in physical discipline she doesn't. He doesn't think porn is a big deal but it's a huge deal to her. If you are thinking "long term" he was right not to proceed because these would indeed be huge areas of contention

    • @ibidapoaina2459
      @ibidapoaina2459 3 роки тому +8

      Exactly. He is also 25 so it makes sense that he isn't really thinking about compromises right now.

  • @livi2974
    @livi2974 5 років тому +2114

    I couldn’t stop staring at her hair lol

  • @alanagilmore1195
    @alanagilmore1195 5 років тому +1601

    I personally felt like they had a lot of chemistry, but I can see him thinking long term that their views may not always match up. I feel like they could’ve been a great match and maybe just compromised in the future about things, but it’s nice that he didn’t lead her on when he thinks he wouldn’t want that relationship long term! Hope they both find who they’re looking for ❤️

    • @stopplayingthegame
      @stopplayingthegame 5 років тому +30

      SMH. I know not to read the comments before watching the whole video now.

    • @alanagilmore1195
      @alanagilmore1195 5 років тому +9

      Sammy Breen omg I’m sorry 😭

    • @stopplayingthegame
      @stopplayingthegame 5 років тому +7

      Alana Gilmore lol it’s my fault. Just a video though. All good.

    • @iswitcher8726
      @iswitcher8726 5 років тому +3

      i read the comment too lmao.

    • @Dbulkss
      @Dbulkss 5 років тому +9

      Nah they didn't have chemistry at all. Just friendly on his side.

  • @MadisonGee206
    @MadisonGee206 5 років тому +1247

    I knew as soon as I heard that lenient with kids comment... ouch

    • @dazzypeters6793
      @dazzypeters6793 5 років тому +36

      I caught that too

    • @shb7669
      @shb7669 5 років тому +33

      She did too lmaooooooooo

    • @HopeUnquenchable
      @HopeUnquenchable 5 років тому +16

      I think that might have been what made him change his mind 🤔

    • @digthewarmth
      @digthewarmth 5 років тому +27

      He REALLY wants to spank his kids. I guess he knew some really terrible people growing up who weren't spanked.

    • @ReadySetCapture
      @ReadySetCapture 4 роки тому

      clarisdks correct he already answered in the first place 🤷🏻‍♀️

  • @jeanys6951
    @jeanys6951 5 років тому +424

    I think the guy was giving her a hint when he said his deal breaker was "being lenient to children" which goes back to her no spanking view. He seems like he's looking for his queen not just someone to date. And that's okay on both their sides.

    • @hp8q
      @hp8q 5 років тому +22

      I think it was just an excuse. I’ve watched other videos where the couple had far more different views and still wanted to date.
      It’s a shame though, cz she is attractive. But at least he was honest.

    • @MsDudette21
      @MsDudette21 5 років тому +39

      That's basically what it was. This guy is too obsessed with hitting kids. THAT was the dealbreaker for him.

    • @jeanys6951
      @jeanys6951 5 років тому +15

      @@hp8q there's no doubt that she's attractive. You can tell he thought that when they first saw each other. He's ready in thinking about kids and they're both set in their beliefs and for sure with him he won't compromise. It's not gonna work.

    • @jeanys6951
      @jeanys6951 5 років тому +56

      @@MsDudette21 I grew up the same way. I dont think its about obsessing about hitting kids. In general its about 2 people agreeing to parent the same way. I personally believe that parents should look like a unit to their kids. If one says a certain way, the kids can't run to the other and get a different answer.

    • @queenb9905
      @queenb9905 5 років тому +7

      I feel like he didn't want to continue because he didn't vibe with her that much maybe? Not all married people have the exact same opinions but they make it work because they love the other person. If he really wanted to, he would've gone on a date and seen where it went but props to him for being honest.

  • @nohahaggag
    @nohahaggag 4 роки тому +29

    He was honest about his feelings. Achingly honest, but honest.
    We can't be angry with an honest man who knows exactly what he is looking for.
    Best of luck for both of them.

  • @Bookie1227
    @Bookie1227 5 років тому +276

    She was a delight and so grounded.

    • @tomthumb2226
      @tomthumb2226 3 роки тому

      And he was thinking with his Big Head an not his baby arm 🤣🤣

  • @justanothergorl3164
    @justanothergorl3164 5 років тому +656

    Ummmmm he’s FINEE. I like his energy and his smile , it’s beautiful.

    • @justanothergorl3164
      @justanothergorl3164 5 років тому +1

      Krystal Ha 😭🤣🤣

    • @kailamoore5331
      @kailamoore5331 5 років тому +13

      Krystal Ha why does the race matter?

    • @kailamoore5331
      @kailamoore5331 5 років тому +4

      Krystal Ha 😂😂wow

    • @justanothergorl3164
      @justanothergorl3164 5 років тому

      Kaila Moore honestly sometimes (key word sometimes.) you vibe with people of your same race, it really depends on the person and their upbringing.

    • @kailamoore5331
      @kailamoore5331 5 років тому +2

      Justanother Gorl well that’s a better way to put it

  • @rmbholly
    @rmbholly 5 років тому +1013

    I love this girl she seems so sweet and smart

  • @conquestbishop3504
    @conquestbishop3504 5 років тому +1086

    Her: pornography IS a form of infidelity
    Him: Hmmm.....
    [*thinks*] yep, this ain't gonna work out

    • @yallknowwhoiam7036
      @yallknowwhoiam7036 5 років тому +22

      Good choice on his part

    • @conquestbishop3504
      @conquestbishop3504 5 років тому

      @@yallknowwhoiam7036 true cheese 😅

    • @MrAtaguas
      @MrAtaguas 5 років тому +12

      I was like "YUP KNEW IT! She's one of those crazy super possessive types" ... She might even have a valley girl alter-ego that pops "in and out " (pun intended) here and there (lots of layers to that trainwreck of an onion)

    • @MrAtaguas
      @MrAtaguas 5 років тому +14

      @@KarJaneDavis Yeah those people either have a condition called Asexuality or a condition called religious repression lol ... If someone shames people for having basic human urges it only shines light on their your own insecurities and pent up sexual urges

    • @KarJaneDavis
      @KarJaneDavis 5 років тому +52

      MrAtaguas Not necessarily! There are men that are all about their partner & have no desire to get off to other women. You can absolutely be satisfied with one person 🥰

  • @MissOJAY
    @MissOJAY 5 років тому +38

    I can't stop smiling at these two. She's infectious with her energy and laughter. He's beautiful and warm. Their babies would be gorgeous

  • @marinaaguiar5450
    @marinaaguiar5450 5 років тому +522

    This one hurt, I fell in love with both of them😭

  • @elaine2720
    @elaine2720 5 років тому +542

    His face when she started singing 😂

  • @thelilith5171
    @thelilith5171 5 років тому +118

    SHE'S ABSOLUTELY STUNNING Y'ALL❤️!

    • @MissOJAY
      @MissOJAY 5 років тому +4

      Her whole personality is. I wouldn't mind seeing her presenting/hosting a show.

    • @d.6823
      @d.6823 4 роки тому +1

      she is gorgeous...

  • @barbriiii
    @barbriiii 5 років тому +257

    my heart dropped when he said "I wouldn't date you", I thought they were vibing together

    • @LittleGaladriel
      @LittleGaladriel 5 років тому

      Why wouldn't he date her?

    • @bethapoet3224
      @bethapoet3224 5 років тому +8

      For him it was alot of red flags about her being a good mother, that was the real no, no. Like he mentioned, he's thinking long term "wife searching", not just ;et's see where this goes normal dating.

    • @eyeofthetiger6002
      @eyeofthetiger6002 5 років тому +5

      Such a shame as they both make a great looking couple, both physically and personality wise!

    • @demilevine2458
      @demilevine2458 5 років тому +1

      It was the child discipline disagreement

    • @ReplyMNO
      @ReplyMNO 4 роки тому

      LittleGaladriel
      I don’t think she would become a Muslim. Think about it.
      Women pass the culture to the offsprings. His culture will terminate with his generation.
      Saheed is not having that.
      Just a thought.

  • @malikking4291
    @malikking4291 4 роки тому +35

    Proud of him, he's honest and not driven by thirst

  • @jfaustin1742
    @jfaustin1742 5 років тому +221

    That was very mature of him to decide that way.

  • @LaHyuuga
    @LaHyuuga 5 років тому +448

    Porn is a form of infidelity..that was the deal breaker for him.

    • @cahidijoyoraharjo7833
      @cahidijoyoraharjo7833 5 років тому +34

      I think so, too. About the deal breaker, I mean. Not the porn. Porn is just entertainment to me.

    • @Lukas-kh5gu
      @Lukas-kh5gu 5 років тому +20

      I feel like this is one of the very few things actually the average men and women do think completely differently. Like intrinsically. To almost any man it might be shocking and interpretate a lot into it when a women is not ok with watching porn...like putting her in the extreme prudeness category or something.
      Watching porn is something incredibly "basic" and so so normal these days 90% of men do not even think about it.
      But also, you do not watch porn for the people / "actors" but just to get yourself going easily. Some women might not understand that.

    • @rita_fcortez
      @rita_fcortez 5 років тому +11

      For sure ! it would be for me too! it doesn't make any sense... and I think someone with that view would be super jealous also without any reason soo... it´s more than just porn at the end of the day. But well everyone has their own opinions right!

    • @kichw
      @kichw 5 років тому +5

      her deal breaker was politeness lol. Am guessing that swayed his decision

    • @Ou8y2k2
      @Ou8y2k2 5 років тому +16

      Nope, it was all of the above: rearing children, porn, music, etc. There would be just too many fights with two stubborn folks.

  • @strangeturtle5947
    @strangeturtle5947 5 років тому +876

    She's sooo pretty. Also, I feel like their's a valley girl possessing her sometimes. .

    • @notrealanymoretbh
      @notrealanymoretbh 5 років тому +20

      I think it’s the way she speaks that makes her sound like a valley girl😂

    • @Euphoryaaa
      @Euphoryaaa 5 років тому +18

      Well she’s from Cali so 🤷‍♂️

    • @isaiah3872
      @isaiah3872 5 років тому +39

      At least she's able to effortlessly hold a conversation without like...like...like..like...like...

    • @everettfanor1989
      @everettfanor1989 5 років тому +17

      She said she doesnt date men in her culture. Shes a white washed asian girl who anti asian men. Self hatred is populor white asian women

    • @ye23.
      @ye23. 5 років тому +6

      A lot of asian women are like that in America

  • @deem132
    @deem132 5 років тому +560

    A Nigerian man is a Nigerian man at the end of the day, whew. It was the discipline thing that turned him off, I promise you 🥴

    • @theduke6174
      @theduke6174 5 років тому +122

      I'm Nigerian and I feel we need to shift the focus from physical discipline to a mix of principles, it's not everyday grab the belt.

    • @deem132
      @deem132 5 років тому +7

      Duke Temz 😂😂 exactly

    • @addbab1622
      @addbab1622 5 років тому +4

      @@theduke6174 I agree

    • @schreingeiss
      @schreingeiss 5 років тому +58

      I'm pretty sure pornography is not part of Nigerian culture. Seems he's whatever's most convenient to him at the end of the day.

    • @schreingeiss
      @schreingeiss 5 років тому +3

      @Fìfì Fẹ́mi LOL :)

  • @hala0coco
    @hala0coco 5 років тому +46

    He has a strong personality, and diplomatic as well

  • @hannahmpn1655
    @hannahmpn1655 5 років тому +302

    The way his face loses all smile and just is amaze when she sang #Goal
    They weren't at all the one for each other. They couldn't create a long theme relationship.

    • @cahidijoyoraharjo7833
      @cahidijoyoraharjo7833 5 років тому +1

      Long theme? 😂

    • @surendaniel
      @surendaniel 5 років тому +7

      Long theme? That sounds interesting 🤔
      Imagine a relationship where every month is a different theme

    • @cahidijoyoraharjo7833
      @cahidijoyoraharjo7833 5 років тому +2

      @@surendaniel That sounds fun! 😂

  • @schreingeiss
    @schreingeiss 5 років тому +298

    They were so obviously not a match. I wish she had said no too instead of pretending to be ok with their major differences re porn etc.

    • @LenaWu3
      @LenaWu3 5 років тому +22

      ringolo that’s how all women are...ignoring the red flags for some 🍆

    • @cahidijoyoraharjo7833
      @cahidijoyoraharjo7833 5 років тому +54

      @@LenaWu3 Who hurt you?

    • @Okwiiishadowrogue
      @Okwiiishadowrogue 5 років тому +12

      You just mad cause you aren’t use to men rejecting women nowadays - boo hoo.

    • @schreingeiss
      @schreingeiss 5 років тому +2

      @@Okwiiishadowrogue LOL. Believe that if you want!

    • @levihalperin7649
      @levihalperin7649 5 років тому +2

      ringolo I think that’s a topic that can be discussed and not necessarily a dealbreaker

  • @shadajalloyd5786
    @shadajalloyd5786 5 років тому +412

    Idk what it is specifically about him, I think his personality is “mysterious” in a way like he’s hard to read, but it’s alluring.
    With that being said, if he happens to look in the comment section😂 listen...👀I’m single

    • @Sosl12345
      @Sosl12345 5 років тому +93

      Shadaja Lloyd im looking in the comments section 👀☺️

    • @Sosl12345
      @Sosl12345 5 років тому +12

      @sxheed

    • @harmonyz
      @harmonyz 5 років тому +6

      @@Sosl12345 haha I love it!

    • @joey-xk3rn
      @joey-xk3rn 5 років тому +9

      @@Sosl12345 ya got that big 🍆 energy ngl😏

    • @shadajalloyd5786
      @shadajalloyd5786 5 років тому +13

      @Saheed Okunnu just followed ☺️

  • @SuperDG333
    @SuperDG333 5 років тому +45

    He tripping,
    She is a straight vibe and I would love to get to know a woman like that!!!!!

  • @Ricardo242-y2l
    @Ricardo242-y2l 5 років тому +18

    Man she seemed heartbroken by that rejection but still had a good attitude about it

  • @marik8699
    @marik8699 5 років тому +34

    The questions are getting better and deeper and i love it!

  • @storycox2412
    @storycox2412 5 років тому +297

    I want them to do this with old people, like in they're 70s or older

  • @eijkmanthe8725
    @eijkmanthe8725 5 років тому +157

    Not gonna lie #soulpancake is killing it with these new episodes. These two had great conversation but i think my boy should have been more open. We can't get what we always want but we could always compromise when we find out that they are worth it .😍

    • @pasc8699
      @pasc8699 5 років тому +10

      eijkman the I loved that he said he wouldn’t date her. He knew they didn’t have the same mindset and wouldn’t work long term. It’s refreshing to see someone say no! He will keep searching and find that perfect someone because he’s not going to settle

    • @breea07
      @breea07 5 років тому +13

      There are core values you can’t compromise on and I think everyone needs to find what those are for them. His is the way in which his kids will be disciplined and I think that is important. He’s right, going into a relationship with a plan for a long term thing only to compromise on something so important to you will lead to disaster. Some people go into relationships with the intent of having a family in the future and not just a for the moment thing. He seems like a guy looking for a forever thing and having such major differences in this aspect is a set up for failure.

    • @eijkmanthe8725
      @eijkmanthe8725 5 років тому

      @pasc Ain't gonna lie , been in this position and I literally said no and imagine my reaction after going around searching for the perfect one after a couple of dates. and found out that she wasn't only the perfect one but she had all the worst nightmares you can imagine in a girl.

    • @TheRootedBlueprint
      @TheRootedBlueprint 5 років тому

      Ejikman the nice words

    • @eijkmanthe8725
      @eijkmanthe8725 5 років тому +1

      @@TheRootedBlueprint 😍🤩

  • @tz7344
    @tz7344 5 років тому +54

    First off.. She's so beautiful. Secondly I have to say I appreciate his honesty and that he thought long term.

  • @Laitalafraise
    @Laitalafraise 5 років тому +41

    I love this woman: her personality, her open-mindedness, her beauty..!

  • @anthonyt425
    @anthonyt425 5 років тому +833

    Anyone else in bed watching this? 🙋🏼‍♂️

  • @carameldarling2980
    @carameldarling2980 5 років тому +117

    Yeah I could tell from his energy that he wasn't really feeling her. When you have different core values it won't work

  • @yanggang7
    @yanggang7 5 років тому +12

    Damn, they're both so attractive and they seemed to vibe so well. But I guess a dealbreaker's a dealbreaker. Good on him for being upfront, and good on her for having a healthy attitude.

  • @SS-hb3ct
    @SS-hb3ct 5 років тому +153

    She guessed his age to be 32...learns that he is 24 and says "black dont crack right". Make it make sense. NEXT!

    • @jayyykayyy
      @jayyykayyy 5 років тому +40

      M S she Assumed he was older but that he looked younger than what she thought he was

    • @tarabrown740
      @tarabrown740 5 років тому

      Ha!

    • @tails300
      @tails300 5 років тому +20

      He definitely looks older than 25.

    • @wiseguy240Winston
      @wiseguy240Winston 5 років тому +7

      He looks older than his age lol.

    • @nightsky3981
      @nightsky3981 5 років тому +1

      He is 25.

  • @Shabzana
    @Shabzana 5 років тому +24

    When a man tells you what he's feeling or thinking believe him....
    Don't pursue him...

  • @mckellswain
    @mckellswain 5 років тому +18

    Ugh I LOVED this episode of Tell My Story! I really liked both of them and their interaction with one another. But the questions this time were so good, unique, and really important. Awesome episode!

  • @ragnelorentsen
    @ragnelorentsen 5 років тому +232

    i think she lost him at "spanking your kids".. not a match

    • @MsDudette21
      @MsDudette21 5 років тому +31

      Can't believe not wanting to hit your kids is a dealbreaker. But I can't be that surprised from someone who agrees with those types of 'morals'. Im Nigerian myself and raising kids that way does nothing but fuck you up.

    • @abdoulayeadam6498
      @abdoulayeadam6498 5 років тому

      Ragne Lorentsen Thoresen
      & pornography side as well.

    • @seekeroftruth45
      @seekeroftruth45 5 років тому +5

      @@MsDudette21 Depends on their surrounding environment

    • @whosaprettykitty5076
      @whosaprettykitty5076 5 років тому +4

      @@MsDudette21 look, I got spanked when I was younger and I am fine. It did not permanently scar me at all because I am fine. It wasn't full blown abuse, but if I did something bad, I'd get a slap on the wrist or a pluck on the lips. There is a fine line between abuse and discipline. I have four siblings and we all got spanked and we are doing perfectly fine. Sometimes words do not resonate with children and spanking works. It's different for each child. When I got older, I listened. If I didn't do what I was supposed to and got yelled at, I would get my act together. When my brother got older, he did not listen and spanking was a way that got him to listen. If spanking is scarring your children, you are not spanking, but abusing them

  • @ahri5495
    @ahri5495 5 років тому +114

    i love watching the blind date series, but somehow, i would never go on a blind date.

  • @SusanMarie-le2by
    @SusanMarie-le2by Рік тому +5

    These 2 definitely share a solid vibe with each other. They would make a beautiful couple

  • @johnniejames9799
    @johnniejames9799 5 років тому +12

    She is so dope! I love how open in communication she is. I can see myself talking to her for hours without having to argue. She comes off as a PEACE GIVER, which to me is huge!!

  • @Michelle-up4yr
    @Michelle-up4yr 5 років тому +243

    I do get the “friend vibe” from majority of these videos but this wasn’t one of them. I appreciate his honesty but think he’s going to have a reality check in the future when he realizes compromise is necessary in relationships because nobody is 100% compatible.

    • @bartlemington2003
      @bartlemington2003 5 років тому +33

      Michelle Solano my god people can’t take a rejection ? Like Jesus. I get the guy sometimes you can just really feel like it won’t work.

    • @clumsycarl6943
      @clumsycarl6943 5 років тому +13

      Yea. Compromising makes sense in a relationship but never on the fundamentals. I’m not saying his values are better than hers or vice versa but clearly their fundamentals are not the same.
      My ex was very strong willed but it also came with a price. It’s her way or the highway. For the life of me, I could never picture having kids with her despite loving her a lot as I would like to raise my kids with kindness and empathy.

    • @Dbulkss
      @Dbulkss 5 років тому +5

      false. Its a flat out none compatibility thing. His standard are extremely realistic. NOTHING THAT IS SUPERFICIAL.

    • @LukaDonesnitch
      @LukaDonesnitch 5 років тому +13

      @Que_Rico Think of the other 1000 guys you've told off for being "NOT YOUR TYPE"
      *PREACH* 🙌🏻 I'm not even religious but i'll join the congregation for this one.

    • @tarabrown740
      @tarabrown740 5 років тому +7

      True you can compromise on a lot of things but not core values

  • @itsjustmyopinionbut1671
    @itsjustmyopinionbut1671 5 років тому +59

    “That’s awesome”
    Bruh, she’s done lol

  • @zidiamcmillan2398
    @zidiamcmillan2398 5 років тому +13

    This woman wouldn't ve minded testing the waters which is dangerous thing to do. we women, we always think that we can change a man. I always tell my girlfriends, a guy knows if he wanna merry u the first day he sees u , he also knows it when he wants to keep u around for 7 years while he's looking for a wife. She's lucky the guy was a gentleman to spare her some heartache

  • @jaylaav1166
    @jaylaav1166 5 років тому +32

    Honestly I did not feel the chemistry yall are saying that they had. At least from him I didn't feel any vibe towards her. She's so lovely by the way

    • @Chloeeezyyy
      @Chloeeezyyy 5 років тому +2

      N av right. I saw it from the thumbnail.

  • @HH-gl2mx
    @HH-gl2mx 4 роки тому +20

    April’s voice is so smooth and pretty

  • @macidismuke4326
    @macidismuke4326 5 років тому +63

    I’m from Houston. He’s from Houston. Sounds like a perfect match to me 😂😂

  • @girlpower-gx1jz
    @girlpower-gx1jz 5 років тому +9

    OMG her heart dropped a little when he said he would not date her, I felt you gurl😥

  • @Dvinecreations7
    @Dvinecreations7 5 років тому +3

    Honesty is soooo good! He could’ve just smashed and kept it pushing but he’s looking forward to the long haul! Love it

  • @allfightseveryday4912
    @allfightseveryday4912 5 років тому +49

    Props for being honest with yourself my guy💯, most of us wouldn’t if we were sitting across from her😭

  • @kookieproly201
    @kookieproly201 5 років тому +58

    wow i really was suprised, because they got along soooo greatly all along, the chemistry was real, I mean they really matched and at least be friends, but I knew that after the spanking thing, either one is going to say no, thought it would be her tho, but yes she explained it very well, she likes to give people chances

  • @zineddineblacko4811
    @zineddineblacko4811 4 роки тому +16

    I completely respect this man,, he is so honest about his life
    Ma man 🙏

  • @chasetonga
    @chasetonga 5 років тому +81

    The real question is, did their parents throw a shoe at them when they got into trouble?

    • @Musterdseed87755
      @Musterdseed87755 5 років тому +2

      Mine did 😂

    • @sphaleriteme
      @sphaleriteme 3 роки тому

      Nigerian parents stay ready with the shoe and any other reachable item 😩😩😩

  • @gigi1488
    @gigi1488 5 років тому +15

    FINALLY someone that’s Nigeria 🇳🇬 yesssssssssssss

  • @KarJaneDavis
    @KarJaneDavis 5 років тому +23

    Yeah, I’m glad they didn’t date. He thinks porn is okay, and she does not. That would be setting the relationship up to fail. Trust me.

  • @melimelmele
    @melimelmele 5 років тому +53

    Damn I wanted them to go on a date

  • @issy1865
    @issy1865 5 років тому +19

    I am in love with this dude’s calmness...I want a man like this please Lord.😂

    • @issy1865
      @issy1865 3 роки тому

      @J King Hahahahaha

    • @issy1865
      @issy1865 3 роки тому

      @J King Im from Trinidad. You?

    • @issy1865
      @issy1865 3 роки тому

      @J King Have you lived in both those countries? Where do you live now?

    • @issy1865
      @issy1865 3 роки тому

      @J King Ouuu cool. Lived in Trinidad all my life

  • @KS-nz1dl
    @KS-nz1dl 5 років тому +38

    “Have you ever tried talking to a 3/4 year old?” DUDE! It is not that hard! We don’t spank our child and she is a perfectly respectful little girl. Just talking and spanking are not your only options. Just because a child isn’t spanked, doesn’t mean they aren’t disciplined. I would never want my child to fear me hurting her like I feared my own parents.

    • @Noellean
      @Noellean 5 років тому +8

      Take Me To The Sea it depends on the child talking doesn’t work for everybody

    • @daan8220
      @daan8220 5 років тому +1

      I think it really does depends on the mentally and the environment where the kid grows up in

    • @adavis924
      @adavis924 5 років тому +1

      I have 4 daughters and rarely ever spanked them

    • @chsinskyy
      @chsinskyy 4 роки тому

      Talking doesn't work for tons of children
      -
      Sincerely, a girl with over 30 cousins

    • @razatiger22
      @razatiger22 3 роки тому +1

      Its really not that simple, Im sure its simple in suburbia where your biggest worry as a parent is that your kid might smoking pot, but in a country like Nigeria that is still developing, its very easy for a kid to fall in with the wrong crowd. A kid who thinks hes the boss of the house because hes been hanging out with the older kids needs to be reminded with more then just verbal scolding.

  • @Syphorce
    @Syphorce 5 років тому +9

    I felt that 100%. The porn being infidelity + the not spanking children thing definitely were deal breakers.

  • @bethany3914
    @bethany3914 5 років тому +3

    LOVING the sex & intimacy questions - thank you for including proper important discussions.

  • @blumountaindew
    @blumountaindew 5 років тому +47

    I’m honestly upset with the results 😫😫😫

  • @estelawellingsmartinez5413
    @estelawellingsmartinez5413 5 років тому +16

    She is so pretty

  • @DrAdnan
    @DrAdnan 5 років тому +54

    They should go to a Britney Spears concert together

  • @Rumbu_P
    @Rumbu_P 5 років тому +16

    My Nigerian brother 🙌 but I felt you could have said let's start as friends and see how it plays out, she was so much into him and it's also clear that they both have something going on

  • @hisgrace956
    @hisgrace956 4 роки тому +4

    This brother used wisdom. Never go off looks and chemistry alone. You shouldn't have to compromise on how you want to raise children, or any other thing that you hold dear to your heart!

  • @voilaleah
    @voilaleah 5 років тому +17

    Beautiful individuals. I feel like the weight of the word "date" plays too much of an emphasis on some of these decisions. Dating can be extremely casual and taken at any pace! I can understand the desire for potential long-term compatibility from the get-go, but it just seems trivial in the early stages of getting to know someone.

  • @SoufyAsth
    @SoufyAsth 5 років тому +31

    It was really nice, the chemistry was through the roof, but I knew one of them would say no. I'm sensing traditional values from him x10, so I feel like he must have a very specific type of woman he would consider as serious dating material.

    • @09kenedy
      @09kenedy 4 роки тому

      Anne-Sophie M what are you watching?

  • @KP-ce6fx
    @KP-ce6fx 5 років тому +44

    11:40 it's true. My parents and brother used to abuse me a lot when I was a kid, and now I have androphobia(fear of males) because I'm afraid they would abuse/hurt me. And I feel like I have a slight bit of ptsd too...it stops me from getting close to my parents

    • @TangoTangerine12
      @TangoTangerine12 5 років тому +1

      Shallow Stream totally agree. it creates a power dynamic

    • @ravenbriana5319
      @ravenbriana5319 5 років тому +1

      @Quinn Warwick Landon they're right

    • @avagonzalez3237
      @avagonzalez3237 5 років тому +5

      abuse is very different from spanking a kid when they do something bad.

    • @monsterrr1999
      @monsterrr1999 5 років тому +3

      Quinn Warwick Landon I think you are confused with spanking to abusing. When I was a kid, I was a bad kid, throw things and screamed at my mom and got in trouble for fighting in school so many times, it was only times when she spanked me to put some senses in me and then explained why. She told me to stop this behaviour. But she never abuse me.

    • @avagonzalez3237
      @avagonzalez3237 5 років тому

      @Quinn Warwick Landon that's your opinion dumb fuck. stop acting like its a fact

  • @suleimanomipidan8012
    @suleimanomipidan8012 5 років тому +12

    I felt sad towards the end when Sa'eed say he would date his 'African' Queen. Both had chemistry and I felt what he thinks may stand in the way on long terms could have fizzled out for the better for both. But I appreciate his honesty and I equally appreciate her for her good vibes and openness. I wish both well. She is amazing for her sense of openness. You shall find the same exact that will complement you in all ramifications

  • @iagbedejobi
    @iagbedejobi 5 років тому +100

    This guy is nigerian, we don't have PTSD in our vocabulary looool

    • @ritakapia7140
      @ritakapia7140 5 років тому +1

      Joshua Agbede LOL

    • @Calamity8
      @Calamity8 4 роки тому

      Iulia Ionela Petcu howww 😂😂

    • @shroff3417
      @shroff3417 3 роки тому +3

      No wonder all the kids just want to run away from home, faking a good life

    • @rachidamat268
      @rachidamat268 3 роки тому

      I'm confused about the accent

    • @kamilleking4708
      @kamilleking4708 3 роки тому +4

      Caribbean people too, I have PTSD but it is not for a asswooping. There is a difference between corporal punishment and abuse and people these days confuse the two.

  • @passengerprincesspodcast
    @passengerprincesspodcast 5 років тому +126

    Him: i really love what Kendrick Lamar is doing right now.
    Me: well he ain’t doin much😬

    • @julesandre95
      @julesandre95 5 років тому +4

      You feel me?

    • @alexa6260
      @alexa6260 5 років тому

      👏🏾👏🏾

    • @theduke6174
      @theduke6174 5 років тому +2

      Com'n son !! LMAO

    • @LukaDonesnitch
      @LukaDonesnitch 5 років тому +2

      That's because this was Nips year and it could have went further if Eric's dumb ass didn't off him.

  • @ahexcuseme6936
    @ahexcuseme6936 5 років тому +49

    I would love to go on a blind date.

    • @Thatmeisee
      @Thatmeisee 5 років тому +1

      xotaeisbae xotaeisbae same, where do I sign up 👀

    • @KR-vk2wx
      @KR-vk2wx 4 роки тому

      @I hate SNAKEU .... *YES WITH HER!*

  • @echoalpha9157
    @echoalpha9157 5 років тому +7

    She is very beautiful and I love her smile and energy / personality. My guy really missed out on this one - its not that serious when it comes to the initial stages of dating. I will say that she was really into him, but I saw that the spark she had for him started to fade a little based on his answers, however she was willing to give him a try either way.

    • @eyeofthetiger6002
      @eyeofthetiger6002 5 років тому +1

      Boy, she shouldn't be so dejected as there'll be no shortage of Nigerians willing to date her in a heartbeat!

  • @DivestedCanadianBacon
    @DivestedCanadianBacon 5 років тому +74

    The moment he said he was Nigerian I knew he was going to say no lol

    • @crystal11507
      @crystal11507 5 років тому +10

      Right I know Nigerians think Asians are cocky and so are Nigerians, both very smart ethnicity’s.

    • @fatemahmatuk8943
      @fatemahmatuk8943 3 роки тому +1

      They like black African women

  • @barbwired10
    @barbwired10 5 років тому +1

    The girl is so sweet and candid. And the way she explained her decision because she was being open to anything is an indication that there's more to a person. I hope she finds her right match.

  • @annate4347
    @annate4347 5 років тому +9

    Getting spanked growing up and did nothing for me. It just makes you feel helpless and unloved. Don't let your emotions get the best of you when it comes to your children.

    • @Whimswirl
      @Whimswirl 5 років тому +3

      It's lazy parenting and teaches your children that violence is okay.
      Sams applies to parents who throw temper tantrums and have anger issues. Parents should learn better parenting techniques and grow up and learn how to process there emotions and stay calm and collected when angry or frustrated.
      Some parents throw tantrums and spank their kids and then wonder why they're kid has anger issues, throws tantrums and hits other kids at school.

  • @EssJayAmour
    @EssJayAmour 5 років тому +10

    I honestly thought their “after getting to know you” answers would’ve been the other way around.

  • @jean-danielboudreau3190
    @jean-danielboudreau3190 5 років тому +29

    Anyone else feels the same way about porn=infidelity?? Seems outlandish to me but I'm curious to see what y'all think. No judgement with both views

    • @favourgift2448
      @favourgift2448 5 років тому +19

      Jean-Daniel Boudreau for me I wouldn’t want my man to watch porn because I see it as cheating.

    • @SoFLaZ06
      @SoFLaZ06 5 років тому

      Infidelity requires exchanging of fluids. Women can do it mentally though, the physical action is secondary for them.

    • @Future-zx9ts
      @Future-zx9ts 5 років тому +7

      SoFLaZ06 no, it doesn’t require exchange of fluids. And by your definition, it’s only that way for men. Can’t have it one way for one and not the other. IMO, porn is absolutely infidelity. You’re looking to someone else in order to achieve sexual gratification. Infidelity doesn’t “require” physical contact.

    • @SoFLaZ06
      @SoFLaZ06 5 років тому +2

      @@Future-zx9ts yes, my definition is catered to men, men are physical, women are mental. So they can't use the same definition for infidelity, when a woman decides to step out, and sleep with another man, it's usually build up process over weeks/months to give herself up like that (assuming she's not the "free spirited" type). Clearly this isn't written in stone, there's room for exceptions, this is my general observation.

    • @Lilbit0912
      @Lilbit0912 5 років тому +4

      I don’t think it’s infidelity. I’m going to be watching lesbian porn when I’m married. I’m not gay but lesbian porn turns me on lmao

  • @goldengilmaky6788
    @goldengilmaky6788 5 років тому +6

    he said in the beginning " It would be nice to have somebody who grew up similar to how I grew up".

    • @rrajeshkumar670
      @rrajeshkumar670 5 років тому +1

      Yup that alone would be red flag for everyone!!!

    • @razatiger22
      @razatiger22 3 роки тому

      @@rrajeshkumar670 Hows that a redflag? It means he probably is only into African girls, and this was a blind date. She clearly wasn't his type right from the start.

  • @SaraFJones
    @SaraFJones 5 років тому +23

    From the very beginning I saw it, he’s only marrying a woman of Nigerian dissent! Momma has to approve!

    • @Priska_Kelly
      @Priska_Kelly 4 роки тому +3

      @onyeka onyyebuchukwu true when she answered he loves curves I thought girl you are in a bad place then 😓

  • @AJITHPJ18
    @AJITHPJ18 5 років тому +48

    I wish I could find someone so that we could share my solitude and depression....

    • @LenaWu3
      @LenaWu3 5 років тому +8

      Call me

    • @AJITHPJ18
      @AJITHPJ18 5 років тому +7

      @@LenaWu3 stop giving hopes to wreched souls

    • @queenb9905
      @queenb9905 5 років тому +1

      Hmu

    • @yzmundanord1908
      @yzmundanord1908 3 роки тому

      Pray for someone that will help encourage you OUT of isolation and depression. But ultimately Jesus is the way the truth and the life. And He will take away your depression if you surrender. God bless.

  • @ivancastellano9076
    @ivancastellano9076 5 років тому +30

    Does anyone of them actually end up together? I'd love to see these two end up together ♥

    • @allycookie2009
      @allycookie2009 5 років тому +5

      I think last episode they ended up together.

  • @kaym2426
    @kaym2426 5 років тому +18

    She is so beautiful, and I love her personality.

  • @Pacman_131
    @Pacman_131 5 років тому +7

    Damn the how to raise kids part really had my boy not wanting to go on a date. He's right though it's being discipline

  • @peachgirl_adachi
    @peachgirl_adachi 5 років тому +6

    "My type is tall, dark and handsome." Thats on period!!🙌

    • @clararichardson1834
      @clararichardson1834 5 років тому

      dark and hot as I like my coffee
      Period!!!!

    • @Stoneface_
      @Stoneface_ 4 роки тому

      Bryelle T. Facts. Black guys stay winning 😂💪🏿💪🏿

  • @LovedHappy
    @LovedHappy 5 років тому +24

    Kind of love him

    • @Stoneface_
      @Stoneface_ 4 роки тому

      LovedHappy that’s cool but you cannot handle the BBC😂💪🏿💪🏿

  • @Kira-sh9eh
    @Kira-sh9eh 5 років тому +20

    They def butted heads on the parenting and sex stuff

  • @teddys3558
    @teddys3558 5 років тому +4

    I wouldn’t have said no. She’s open minded and seems like she has a good heart and is intelligent and pretty. I like all kinds of women but prefer black women but I could see myself with someone like her too for sure.

  • @edpavey
    @edpavey 3 роки тому +1

    If you want to instill honesty in your child, don't beat them. Beating leads to keeping secrets and lies.

  • @TheIceMurder2
    @TheIceMurder2 5 років тому +4

    My heart sank when he said he would not but it is what it is. 🤷🏽‍♀️

  • @RextheRebel
    @RextheRebel 5 років тому +17

    I don't listen to music based around my emotions. Never have. Its a weird idea for me.
    They would not be able to date long term because they don't agree on parenting. He comes from a traditional black family where a strict upbringing is important.