She Hit the Nail on the HEAD!! Yes, We as women Need to stop playing Victim!! We Are the Problem TOO!!!!!❤ When I saw I was the problem as well, I healed and my marriage Healed! And admitting this is the ONLY way to fix the Black Family!! Love Her!!
I admire this woman! Her advice is spot on! In marriage, it’s all about selflessness and grace towards your spouse, not selfishness. This is the path to not only personal growth but flourishing as one! 🙏🏾🕊️
Kittie is so well-rounded. I love how she consistently balances the scales. I appreciate this platform for their ability to juggle the good, the bad, the ugly, the downright disgraceful, and still manage to lighten the atmosphere with humor and sprinkles of mischief. I'm about sick of the gender war. shenanigans. It's toxic and destructive to an already out of sort community. Please keep up the good works. Then you all messed around and put Stephan on the panel...it just keeps getting better ♥️🔥💯🙏🏾
She said something that is missed in a lot of marriages. Focusing too much on self and not enough each other. The moment your marriage becomes about your own happiness only, that marriage is set to fail. You will only see your partners' shortcomings, and they will never be able to do enough to please you because you're only focused on the things that make you unhappy and not their good qualities. This is the biggest reason why the divorce rate is so high.
The divorce rate is so high because husbands don’t shoulder their portion of the unpaid labor in the household while they cause emotional, financial, mental, physical havoc on the wives. Women value reciprocity. If there is none it’s very easy to put personal happiness first because suffering with no benefit is nonsensical to women.
Relationships period, imo. There is no relationship that will work if the focus is only on "self". Not romantic, platonic, familial, professional, friendship. It just won't work. Marriage is a partnership at the end of day and too many folks want a partner but don't know to be a partner. 🤷🏾♀️
In the course of my 34 year marriage to my w8fe and especially so, for the past 14 to 15 years of it, I've worked exceptionally hard at making feel safe for her to speak her mind regarding my bad attitude and all the while listen to her advice without taking offense to the best of my ability.
I commend you. My husband is on the same journey. He said it made him feel free to be able to hear my concerns and not feel like he'll fall apart because I told him something about himself he didn't like. He is actively working harder to try and right his wrongs and heal our marriage.
@@realashandaatlarge I have and still do go to the extent of carrying my wife's purse 👛 without shame when we are out in public settings where her attention is not 100% and her hands need to be free. Why is that important because MY life is attached what's inside and dammit I'm not letting go of it in spite of what the naysayers say!
I don't tune into this podcast personally because I find it too vulgar and crude, but I stumbled upon her on a UA-cam short a few weeks back and was truly amazed. She’s a lady who gracefully articulates things in such profound and inspiring ways. 🌸
She truly gets it. I am glad she corrected the simp before he put his foot in his mouth. It takes two to make it work. The man is always at fault, but we need our partners to take some responsibility. The key word she used is compromise, we all have to compromise to make it work. Well said my sister. You are a true treasure to the relationship community.
Yesssss, it's just not about her! The man is not even there to speak for himself. Two people are in the relationship. I am sure the guy doesn't feel comfortable or safe, but he probably doesn't have the space to talk about it. If she the wife feels un-safe, then the two need to sit down and talk about how can they both feel safe. They have to do it as a team or one will suffer in the marriage.
Straight facts! And I love that she truly knows something……she’s going to let it be known. And when she does, it hits. A relationship is about “us”. My ex(s) never understood that. And where I failed at is not being able to express that in a way that they could understand that perspective.
Exactly let’s not put everything on the men as women sometimes we need to step back and be accountable for the part we played. Marriage is not a I thing.
Yall want a better relationship here's what both parties need to do: 1. Learn who The Most High is! 2. Learn who you are as race(Hint any Decendant of the Transatlantic Slaves ain't racially an African nor a Indian). 3. Learn your history here in America as a Black Man or Black Woman. 4. Never forget where yall came from. 5. Know who the Devil is & his tactics used to divide & conquer you & your people. 6. Get with like-minded folks of your race who Love yall People & figure out how to combat the Real enemy: The Devil, His Laws, His Economy, His way of living(go agaisnt the devils grain). 7. Get educated in Law, STEMs, & Finance. 8. Plan the take over. 9. Implement the Plan. 10. Do all thee above while at the same time Focusing on exponentially growing your bank account, Health & Wellness & strengthen relationship with your family & your tribe. Everything else really don't matter!!!! Oh lastly: keep your business to yourself & within your family & Laugh a lot more, decided to be happy & quiet!!!
What's the plan 4 when society collapses because if u know the Most High u know that's gonna happen. In a Mad Max style world that type of education won't matter. Hunting,farming and blue collar skills are needed as well.
Can someone please give this internally & extetnally beautiful woman hella props! I have to click the play button every time i see her. She's has & shares so much knowledge & wisdom effortlessly in these topics. I aint got no man yet, nor married. However im taking pointers sister. Thank you bein a solid one 💯👑🌹💆🏽💕 May you and yours continue to receive authentic love, excellent health, financial, spiritual, mental & emotional abundance. Peace
You have to put your spouse before yourself. When u feel like giving up. Give more and see how fast things change. Keep giving. Never give up. You got the rest of yalls lives to find a solution and a compromise
Full committed RELATIONSHIPS are the building blocks to a MARRIAGE .. if you and your partner haven’t created the safe space when y’all were just boyfriend/girlfriend .. it’s just going to be a bigger issue as husband/wife 🤷🏾♂️
Let me get this straight possibly…Ace asked her “but do you feel safe?” So she has to feel safe to talk to her man who feels he can’t feel safe to be emotional about things that’s gonna deam him weak in her eyes? It’s seems to always be a tit for tat and if women knew the power that they uphold in relationships then they would act accordingly. 85% of women leave and call it quits on the guy statistically….85%?….he has a right to be emotional. Most cases we are not your enemy and we are on your team. Just venting from experience
I tried with 2 different women. One cheated and the other didn't like that I saved most of my money for the future. Meaning she wanted the trips and shopping and all that. Both wore masks and lead me to believe they were different people with different values. Both revealed themselves AFTER I moved them in. This proves to me that neither of them wanted me in the first place. So, how do you talk and try to see where shit went wrong with a mf that dont want you? To me, it's not worth it to trust anything a woman says. Too much risk for too little reward. As it stands now, I'm perfectly happy to remain single with my peace of mind intact for the rest of my life. That might change later, but I'm doubting it.
Even if you're not married, you should still consider her advice if you want to move towards marriage. The objective is to achieve marriage with sincerity.
Yes, she nailed it. The man and the woman dropped the ball and they both NEED to work on it TOGETHER as a UNIT. Don't put the blame on the other person. U-N-I-T-Y. We're so much stronger together than apart.
She speaks facts. In a marriage its not one person sits in the center while the other stands guard on the outside. Its soldiers back to back. You got my back and i got yours and we both feel safe. I have experienced this where i told me partner several times they made it hard for me to make them feel comfortable because i was not made to feel safe. Now we are separate and the family is destroyed. They only cared about themselves the entire time.
Within her passion of being in that same situation, she nailed it with every emotion that brought back her memories of turning her leaf to becoming a more self-aware Companion. Honestly I thought she was about to cry within her explanation. She knew that this was her "home-run play". I felt that. Even though, I will say unbiasedly, every solution to relationship issues are not the same, but the "BIG" picture is typically very relative due to humans having shared emotions. And sometimes its hard to explain your deepest thoughts withiin the 1st explanation. But she recovered and drove deep into her response by relating to her personal personality achievement.. If that isn't "every" relationship solution it damn sure is "one" of 'em. To me, Well said Kittie...👏
When "you" find "YOU" enough to care to understand "Someone Else" within relationship and/or marriage, it's the best feeling in the world, but it's one of the hardest things to do in the world . 🖤✌️
It's true...someone has to give 1st, n to be honest we women are extremely selfish these days. We want it all. It doesn't work like that. We must start with being able to look at ourselves critically.
We must *always* consider ourselves. In or out of marriage. That’s how people lose themselves in a marriage or relationship. Or are lonely in marriages. Or get caught up in cycles of control, neglect, and abuse. By not considering themselves. And let’s be honest, some marriages NEED to fail.
My belief is that the "I", "My", "Mines" should stop if "We" make a home together, "We" discussions start " We" tackling " our" " us" places, people or things together. You are a " Wife" and I am a " Husband" already, you are my "W" and I am your "H" when you have my last name. Adam and Eve were made for one another, no rings, no trips, steak dinners, paying rents, car notes. And they had no last name. If a man is providing and protecting and a woman nurturing that and multiplying the love then "I" is " We" now. Act accordingly!
We need more women like kittie rose who is honest and admits? That is not just the man, it's both parties plus Simp metaphor needs to live a woman speak for herself.
U can tell she started hurting, she really does car about her man more than anything. Sometimes when having these conversations you then realize that the problem is not the outside world, it's you.
Just being a good person is focusing on the needs of others. Not justvin marriage, but in life. If you libe with someone, show appreciation and HELP with the chores, or ne generous with your money to HELP support the house. If you see someone needing assistance around you HELP open the door, or give them your seat, or speak up for them. If they need to talk and vent HELP by listening and trying to understand their situation. If someone asks for HELP, help in what you can. But who am I but a 304 meant for the streets. 😂😂😂😂✌️😘
I don't like what she said because to be complete whole within thy self first is the only way coming into a marriage should be. Don't come broken expecting the other to fix you... I'm tispy. Did I even make sense... bye yall😂😂😂😂
I’m sure A LOT of men are gonna hop on the “focus too much on self” part and start wagging their fingers at women. BEFORE YOU DO THAT ask yourself? Do you create/maintain/support an egalitarian household where family duties are shared between you and your woman EQUALLY and without being told, reminded, or “nagged?” IF YOU DO NOT, put your finger down. There is no “safety” for women in a patriarchal household.
Safety for women lies _only_ within a patriarchal household. Patriarchy is the social framework by which boys learn to focus their behavior in socially beneficial ways. There can be regressing patriarchy (such as Afghanistan) or there can be progressing patriarchy (such as the Anglo patriarchy of the US and UK), but there must be that male social framework to teach and enforce _how men should act._ That patriarchy has been destroyed in the US at this point, so no matter what women decide they need from men _there is no longer a social means to make it happen._ Feminists have destroyed the control mechanism.
@@mbonds44… 😂 Y’all aren’t “leaders.” If y’all lead businesses the way y’all lead yall families, Corporate would let y’all go. I’ve managed businesses. Out lasted many “leaders.” I’ve seen it happen time and again.
The little kid dumped the potatoes out, spilled some milk, or made a mess HELP him clean it up, this also HELPS him have a HELPER as a role model. Or you could take a whip to his but and MAKE him donit, so when he grows up he'd rather break out a whip then HELP. Thats why the bible calls women HELP mates
Do I believe you should inquire on if you're providing safety from your partner's standards and adjust if the answer is no? Absolutely. Do I also believe you can also be asking for safety according to your own standards and not receiving it how you need? Absolutely. I love the wisdom and transparency here but I don't resonate on putting your own experiences onto someone else. She has an emotional connection to this topic enough to nearly start crying. While what she's saying might contextually be true, that might not be the situation the inquirer is in. It's only a possibility, which is why I find it odd that Kitty was so adamant about dismissing Ace asking if she felt safe, when that may have been the entire point of speaking in the first place. I need more information bc I'm all for giving applicable advice but framing something in the wrong context while giving a truth that is usable in a different scenario but invalidates the experience you're talking about bc someone is projecting? Nope.
Two things that will kill a marriage faster than anything; selfishness and double-standards.
And lack of communication
& unrealistic expectations
Facts!!!!!
She Hit the Nail on the HEAD!!
Yes, We as women Need to stop playing Victim!!
We Are the Problem TOO!!!!!❤
When I saw I was the problem as well, I healed and my marriage Healed!
And admitting this is the ONLY way to fix the Black Family!!
Love Her!!
Yes! I like Kitty as well. She is always on point.
Once you married, it’s no longer “I”
There IS an “I” in marriage.
🙄@@hereforit2347
Once you are married you become a We
@@hereforit2347omg
I admire this woman! Her advice is spot on! In marriage, it’s all about selflessness and grace towards your spouse, not selfishness. This is the path to not only personal growth but flourishing as one! 🙏🏾🕊️
Need more married couples rather than singles on the stage
Kittie is so well-rounded. I love how she consistently balances the scales. I appreciate this platform for their ability to juggle the good, the bad, the ugly, the downright disgraceful, and still manage to lighten the atmosphere with humor and sprinkles of mischief. I'm about sick of the gender war. shenanigans. It's toxic and destructive to an already out of sort community. Please keep up the good works. Then you all messed around and put Stephan on the panel...it just keeps getting better ♥️🔥💯🙏🏾
She said something that is missed in a lot of marriages. Focusing too much on self and not enough each other. The moment your marriage becomes about your own happiness only, that marriage is set to fail. You will only see your partners' shortcomings, and they will never be able to do enough to please you because you're only focused on the things that make you unhappy and not their good qualities. This is the biggest reason why the divorce rate is so high.
I agree
Right!!
The divorce rate is so high because husbands don’t shoulder their portion of the unpaid labor in the household while they cause emotional, financial, mental, physical havoc on the wives. Women value reciprocity. If there is none it’s very easy to put personal happiness first because suffering with no benefit is nonsensical to women.
Relationships period, imo. There is no relationship that will work if the focus is only on "self". Not romantic, platonic, familial, professional, friendship. It just won't work. Marriage is a partnership at the end of day and too many folks want a partner but don't know to be a partner. 🤷🏾♀️
Your right
I like how she came from experience and not from hurt
Yes great advice. I love the fact that she spoke from experience.
In the course of my 34 year marriage to my w8fe and especially so, for the past 14 to 15 years of it, I've worked exceptionally hard at making feel safe for her to speak her mind regarding my bad attitude and all the while listen to her advice without taking offense to the best of my ability.
❤
I commend you. My husband is on the same journey. He said it made him feel free to be able to hear my concerns and not feel like he'll fall apart because I told him something about himself he didn't like. He is actively working harder to try and right his wrongs and heal our marriage.
@@realashandaatlarge I have and still do go to the extent of carrying my wife's purse 👛 without shame when we are out in public settings where her attention is not 100% and her hands need to be free.
Why is that important because MY life is attached what's inside and dammit I'm not letting go of it in spite of what the naysayers say!
Finally, a woman on this podcast, has made some sense. Shout out to you sista!!
She's the only sister that makes sense!
I don't tune into this podcast personally because I find it too vulgar and crude, but I stumbled upon her on a UA-cam short a few weeks back and was truly amazed. She’s a lady who gracefully articulates things in such profound and inspiring ways. 🌸
She and a very skinny light skin woman make sense often but yeah most time the other ladies don't
She truly gets it. I am glad she corrected the simp before he put his foot in his mouth. It takes two to make it work. The man is always at fault, but we need our partners to take some responsibility. The key word she used is compromise, we all have to compromise to make it work. Well said my sister. You are a true treasure to the relationship community.
Yesssss, it's just not about her! The man is not even there to speak for himself. Two people are in the relationship. I am sure the guy doesn't feel comfortable or safe, but he probably doesn't have the space to talk about it. If she the wife feels un-safe, then the two need to sit down and talk about how can they both feel safe. They have to do it as a team or one will suffer in the marriage.
When experience talks, we ought to listen
Straight facts! And I love that she truly knows something……she’s going to let it be known. And when she does, it hits. A relationship is about “us”. My ex(s) never understood that. And where I failed at is not being able to express that in a way that they could understand that perspective.
Exactly let’s not put everything on the men as women sometimes we need to step back and be accountable for the part we played. Marriage is not a I thing.
Finally!!! A woman who understands!!!🙏🏽
I love her she nailed it
Takes two people to tango
Yall want a better relationship here's what both parties need to do:
1. Learn who The Most High is!
2. Learn who you are as race(Hint any Decendant of the Transatlantic Slaves ain't racially an African nor a Indian).
3. Learn your history here in America as a Black Man or Black Woman.
4. Never forget where yall came from.
5. Know who the Devil is & his tactics used to divide & conquer you & your people.
6. Get with like-minded folks of your race who Love yall People & figure out how to combat the Real enemy: The Devil, His Laws, His Economy, His way of living(go agaisnt the devils grain).
7. Get educated in Law, STEMs, & Finance.
8. Plan the take over.
9. Implement the Plan.
10. Do all thee above while at the same time Focusing on exponentially growing your bank account, Health & Wellness & strengthen relationship with your family & your tribe.
Everything else really don't matter!!!!
Oh lastly: keep your business to yourself & within your family & Laugh a lot more, decided to be happy & quiet!!!
♥️♥️💯
You put this perfect ❤
What's the plan 4 when society collapses because if u know the Most High u know that's gonna happen. In a Mad Max style world that type of education won't matter. Hunting,farming and blue collar skills are needed as well.
@@ThaMidwestBrutha 🫡🫡🫡
Dang Ace, you don’t even pretend to conceal the cape. The men didn’t get 10 seconds before you start applying pink polish to her toes. Cut The Games!
Facts 💯 he’s was about too before she made her point he’s always 🧢🧢🧢🧢
His cape was flapping in the wind before the show even started. Super Simp to the rescue.
😂
Can someone please give this internally & extetnally beautiful woman hella props! I have to click the play button every time i see her. She's has & shares so much knowledge & wisdom effortlessly in these topics. I aint got no man yet, nor married. However im taking pointers sister. Thank you bein a solid one 💯👑🌹💆🏽💕
May you and yours continue to receive authentic love, excellent health, financial, spiritual, mental & emotional abundance.
Peace
Where are all the woos and yeses and claps when she tells women they have to be responsible also
You know they only do that when men are being bashed.
You could hear a pin drop.
@@davidfouse1820 you could hear a mouse peeing on cotton
Ppl don't like the truth
She is absolutly Correct
You have to put your spouse before yourself. When u feel like giving up. Give more and see how fast things change. Keep giving. Never give up. You got the rest of yalls lives to find a solution and a compromise
This woman is speaking pure facts. An I know she has been in that space. Because her words an emotions come threw 200% pure.
Often when protecting our own heart we ignore the other's heart.
Well said Queen. I'm learning how to compromise at 47, due to a toxic relationship 👑👑👑👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
Women need to take accountability, on how we are treating our men. Men need to feel loved, respected valued and feel wanted.
thank you queen 💯💯❤
And that's how marriage fails when we focus too much on self. Boy.. she was speaking from experience
Facts I am so glad she play into detail with that conversation
I think a quote that resonates with a lot of men is, "My wife would rather see my die on my white horse than to fall off it."
I believe you mean white horse.
Full committed RELATIONSHIPS are the building blocks to a MARRIAGE .. if you and your partner haven’t created the safe space when y’all were just boyfriend/girlfriend .. it’s just going to be a bigger issue as husband/wife 🤷🏾♂️
Yes ma'am indeed you are preaching 😊
She said a whole word 😩💪🏿
I totally agree. Relationships only work due to the two people involved❤❤❤❤
Let me get this straight possibly…Ace asked her “but do you feel safe?” So she has to feel safe to talk to her man who feels he can’t feel safe to be emotional about things that’s gonna deam him weak in her eyes? It’s seems to always be a tit for tat and if women knew the power that they uphold in relationships then they would act accordingly. 85% of women leave and call it quits on the guy statistically….85%?….he has a right to be emotional. Most cases we are not your enemy and we are on your team. Just venting from experience
Real talk. It takes two to make it work.
She’s a gem and she’s needed in this space she doesn’t pander
I tried with 2 different women. One cheated and the other didn't like that I saved most of my money for the future. Meaning she wanted the trips and shopping and all that. Both wore masks and lead me to believe they were different people with different values. Both revealed themselves AFTER I moved them in. This proves to me that neither of them wanted me in the first place. So, how do you talk and try to see where shit went wrong with a mf that dont want you? To me, it's not worth it to trust anything a woman says. Too much risk for too little reward. As it stands now, I'm perfectly happy to remain single with my peace of mind intact for the rest of my life. That might change later, but I'm doubting it.
She and Trip drop the mic EVERY TIME!
She spoke the truth because this is something I was going through with my marriage
Even if you're not married, you should still consider her advice if you want to move towards marriage. The objective is to achieve marriage with sincerity.
So true, Mrs. Kittie! Love you!❤️
Yes, she nailed it. The man and the woman dropped the ball and they both NEED to work on it TOGETHER as a UNIT. Don't put the blame on the other person. U-N-I-T-Y. We're so much stronger together than apart.
That Kitty Rose I tell ya! The only female on that panel I pay attention to. She always on point.
I love her. Everything she said is on point
FACTS! Bw should listen. And bm should provide safety, too
If its about self, don't get married. Let that sink in.😉
You might as well say; you are too selfish to get married.🤷🤔👈😕
Now that was full! I've got to reflect on this one.
Now she done told it!!
Drop that (KNOW)-Ledge Queen.....!!!!
Ace was about to pander, im glad she stopped him this guy man😅😅
😂😂😂
Absolutely...! ❤
Accountability is vital in a relationship. This is your partner for life.
She speaks facts. In a marriage its not one person sits in the center while the other stands guard on the outside. Its soldiers back to back. You got my back and i got yours and we both feel safe. I have experienced this where i told me partner several times they made it hard for me to make them feel comfortable because i was not made to feel safe. Now we are separate and the family is destroyed. They only cared about themselves the entire time.
This message tho ..... a whole ass word !!
Love me some her Kitty be on point 24/7
Within her passion of being in that same situation, she nailed it with every emotion that brought back her memories of turning her leaf to becoming a more self-aware Companion. Honestly I thought she was about to cry within her explanation. She knew that this was her "home-run play". I felt that.
Even though, I will say unbiasedly, every solution to relationship issues are not the same, but the "BIG" picture is typically very relative due to humans having shared emotions.
And sometimes its hard to explain your deepest thoughts withiin the 1st explanation. But she recovered and drove deep into her response by relating to her personal personality achievement..
If that isn't "every" relationship solution it damn sure is "one" of 'em.
To me, Well said Kittie...👏
When "you" find "YOU" enough to care to understand "Someone Else" within relationship and/or marriage, it's the best feeling in the world, but it's one of the hardest things to do in the world . 🖤✌️
And that's why she's married.
I don’t have time for all this it’s easier to be alone and make sure I can afford the life I want to live
It's true...someone has to give 1st, n to be honest we women are extremely selfish these days. We want it all. It doesn't work like that. We must start with being able to look at ourselves critically.
Doing this saved my marriage. Well,
saved my relationship. Then got us married.
I agree 👌🏾
Truth and Wisdom❤❤❤❤❤
We must *always* consider ourselves. In or out of marriage. That’s how people lose themselves in a marriage or relationship. Or are lonely in marriages. Or get caught up in cycles of control, neglect, and abuse. By not considering themselves. And let’s be honest, some marriages NEED to fail.
My belief is that the "I", "My", "Mines" should stop if "We" make a home together, "We" discussions start " We" tackling " our" " us" places, people or things together. You are a " Wife" and I am a " Husband" already, you are my "W" and I am your "H" when you have my last name. Adam and Eve were made for one another, no rings, no trips, steak dinners, paying rents, car notes. And they had no last name. If a man is providing and protecting and a woman nurturing that and multiplying the love then "I" is " We" now. Act accordingly!
“MINE”, not “mines”. 😂
The number one reason why relationships of any kind fail is due to the rights of one being violated and/or disregarded by the other.
We need more women like kittie rose who is honest and admits? That is not just the man, it's both parties plus Simp metaphor needs to live a woman speak for herself.
PREACHHHHHH SISTER GIRL FACTS ❤💯🌹🌹🙏
U can tell she started hurting, she really does car about her man more than anything. Sometimes when having these conversations you then realize that the problem is not the outside world, it's you.
Damn...... that was beautiful! 👏
Just being a good person is focusing on the needs of others. Not justvin marriage, but in life. If you libe with someone, show appreciation and HELP with the chores, or ne generous with your money to HELP support the house. If you see someone needing assistance around you HELP open the door, or give them your seat, or speak up for them. If they need to talk and vent HELP by listening and trying to understand their situation. If someone asks for HELP, help in what you can. But who am I but a 304 meant for the streets. 😂😂😂😂✌️😘
As a Minister please don't put me in front of your husband. Then wonder why no men in the church. I have to do.... for my Pastor, My man of GOD.
SPIT THAT TRUTH KITTIE!!
I love that married woman!!
I don't like what she said because to be complete whole within thy self first is the only way coming into a marriage should be. Don't come broken expecting the other to fix you... I'm tispy. Did I even make sense... bye yall😂😂😂😂
Powerful ❤
Cap, in todays age i would NEVER let my wife/girl see me emotional cause its just ammo to use later and at worst becomes a reason for her leaving
yup
Right that why we got to stay independent and strong and eff these men feelings. We don’t need to care about those things. Lets go
If it's only about you and your safety, then stay safe without me.
Ace instead of trying to pander really try to help both sides . Food for thought for once
I’m sure A LOT of men are gonna hop on the “focus too much on self” part and start wagging their fingers at women.
BEFORE YOU DO THAT ask yourself?
Do you create/maintain/support an egalitarian household where family duties are shared between you and your woman EQUALLY and without being told, reminded, or “nagged?”
IF YOU DO NOT, put your finger down. There is no “safety” for women in a patriarchal household.
Safety for women lies _only_ within a patriarchal household. Patriarchy is the social framework by which boys learn to focus their behavior in socially beneficial ways. There can be regressing patriarchy (such as Afghanistan) or there can be progressing patriarchy (such as the Anglo patriarchy of the US and UK), but there must be that male social framework to teach and enforce _how men should act._ That patriarchy has been destroyed in the US at this point, so no matter what women decide they need from men _there is no longer a social means to make it happen._ Feminists have destroyed the control mechanism.
Men are the leaders of the relationship. Period if you have problem with that take it up with GOD when you die
@@mbonds44… 😂 Y’all aren’t “leaders.” If y’all lead businesses the way y’all lead yall families, Corporate would let y’all go. I’ve managed businesses. Out lasted many “leaders.” I’ve seen it happen time and again.
@@rainbeauxunicorn5237you have managed what others have started and built from the ground up, you clown
@@rainbeauxunicorn5237 take it up with GOD🤷🏿♂️ all ima say is
PREACH!!!
Amen my sister ❤
She said absolutely nothing wrong!
Once you're married, there is no i. it's us how ,does we feel about this scenario
She was cooking then and she is still cooking now.
The little kid dumped the potatoes out, spilled some milk, or made a mess HELP him clean it up, this also HELPS him have a HELPER as a role model. Or you could take a whip to his but and MAKE him donit, so when he grows up he'd rather break out a whip then HELP. Thats why the bible calls women HELP mates
Do I believe you should inquire on if you're providing safety from your partner's standards and adjust if the answer is no? Absolutely. Do I also believe you can also be asking for safety according to your own standards and not receiving it how you need? Absolutely.
I love the wisdom and transparency here but I don't resonate on putting your own experiences onto someone else. She has an emotional connection to this topic enough to nearly start crying. While what she's saying might contextually be true, that might not be the situation the inquirer is in. It's only a possibility, which is why I find it odd that Kitty was so adamant about dismissing Ace asking if she felt safe, when that may have been the entire point of speaking in the first place.
I need more information bc I'm all for giving applicable advice but framing something in the wrong context while giving a truth that is usable in a different scenario but invalidates the experience you're talking about bc someone is projecting? Nope.
Facts Sis!
I've never felt safe with any man. Which is why I've chosen to no longer date. I feel safe with me.
She right
These conversations are so goofy.😂
I would never take advice from complete strangers.
Feel safe? Straight goofy.
Wise woman
She’s right
Factz🗣️🗣️🗣️💯💯💯
Where is the danger?
I hate when all we hear is the response without hearing the question. I need context.
Facts 👌🏾
I feel that wow the may me believe a little bit.