I would never ask my child to give me a kidney so many people regret donating kidneys it destroyed their quality of life. I had my children to give them life not Leech off of theirs.
@@ahjahlilulaamadeus3632 I don't agree with him trying to persuade her not to help her mother with something important like that , id like to know why he has a issue with it in the first place, but the statement you made was ridiculous, all that crazy talk about owning this or that
I agree! No one.. not even my man, the father of my kids, can or will tell me if I can give my mom the one thing that may save her life! Idgaf if it increases her life by a couple days or 20 yrs...That is my mom and I have a very beautiful and special one and I get not everyone will understand as some ppl have crappy parents..through no fault of their own mind you...but if the person I'm with or have as my life partner does not understand that... And as much as it will pain me but I would be forced to admit maybe that's not the man for me! But I have been with my bf for 20 yrs now and I'm 35 now and all I can say is I'm glad we had all these kind of talks early on once it started to be serious of course. but I hope you are all okay and doing as good as can be expected the rest of the pandemic and wishing everyone the best! ☺👍💕💕
@@kiss_my_peachy_arse6476 but why would he marry someone who isnt compatible in terms of future plans? I've seen this alot and tbh I dont get the idea that he cant have an opinion until marriage. It's the sort of thing that needs to be discussed before marriage not after, to avoid going through a divorce. I should point out, I agree 100% with her giving her kidney and making her own decision, it didnt sound remotely like her bf was telling her what to do, simply that he couldnt marry her if their future plans didnt match, which is alot better than waiting until marriage before deciding they cant be together. He could've waited a couple days to allow her time to process things but in general the consensus seems to be that he was tryna force her hand, when it doesnt seem like that to me
@@Alrighttheniguess no I meant kid issue. He wants kids and she doesn't. That is a deal breaker in any relationship. The resent will just build if he keeps pressing her to have babies.
@@Alrighttheniguess watch and listen up to the end of the video. then you will realize the relationship is dead because she doesn't want kids. The man is just concern about their lives and what will be the effects of having just 1 kidney with her. Totally I don't see any problem with the guy, these people in the comment section jumps quickly and judging the boyfriend being a dick
@marco You really don't see him as a rude guy when after leaky 3 and a half years the guy can get squeamish when his brother calls her mom his future MIL? He wants the kids without the actual commitment to her and that is bull
@@rebeccahodgson3543 this isn't an issue of if she can. She clearly said she doesn't want any. She doesn't want to raise and care for children that are biologically hers or not.
What’s the difference? She doesn’t want kids and she want s him to accept it. He doesn’t want her to give her kidney to her mother and he is wrong not to expect to want to do it. Where is the compromise! The attitude that she is displaying is extremely self-centred and selfish. She doesn’t want to take Miguel’s feelings on board at all.. That bodes very bad for the relationship to work. There must be give and take in a relationship for it to work.
This was my thoughts too. How you gonna say "you can't just give up a kidney to your mum..." But also "hmm... I'm not sure that I see a long term thing there..." dude, f off.
I feel like before getting married they should have been talked about the future they shouldn’t have discussed stuff like that when they getting married soon it should have been somthing they should have talked about it before
My ex discovered 5 years later that the first conversation about the babytopic wasn't that honest. Back then it was done in 5min, so I'll never thought about it again :D Guess this situation maby was like that.
He’s a bf not a husband. Can’t sit and talk about a future and kids when ur telling someone else “slow ur roll” when speaking of marriage. I’d drop this “boy” and live it up with mom! Someone much better is out there.
She legit said that he should have waited until marriage before "dropping this bomb" on her... he should wait until they're married before having the baby talk???! That's backwards
I love her response about kids. I think it's done they need to find a different mate. Plus it's her Mama! You're beautiful you can find a nice compassionate person out there
Its not about compassion he loves her not her mom, her mom is selfish let your daughter live her life she is very intrusive and demanding I hope he dumps her
@@totaltrumpet I dont blame the mum to be honest. The daughter did expect her bf to marry her before having that talk, and so do many in the comment section... which is BACKWARDS He should never marry someone before having that discussion and all the people writing about how much of a scumbag he is are missing the key point He didnt say she couldn't donate her kidney to her mum He said that he wanted children with her and was concerned that the procedure would prevent that He communicated his true feelings and is now being attacked for being pretty reasonable. You wouldn't attack her if it was the other way around let's be honest
Thats the perfect reponse when you been taking care of ppl and truly do not want children. She not bringing kids in this world that she does not want nor does not want to take care of or dump on some one else! I say she is being responsible! Not bringing another unwanted baby into this world! Sorry to say! THIS US JUST MY OPINION AND I MIGHT NOT HAVE WORDED IT RIGHT BUT YOU GET THE DRIFT.
@@snoox27 They’ve been together for three years? Damn. For my own sanity I have to assume they staged the conversation for the camera, because who doesn’t discuss kids when they start getting serious?
This guy is disgusting for even saying that. Trust me there is no one that would stop me if any family memeber of mine needed a kidney. This is her mom that needs it. Definitely not the right guy for her.
My family wouldnt give me a pot to piss in. Let alone an organ. My mom is dead and so is my dad. The only ppl getting my organs would be my husband or my children lol. Not everyones family is great. But in this situation its her mom so hell yeah.
Why wouldn't he be thinking of all the possible consequences of this for her & their potential future? Y'all want men to communicate but I guess only when you say it's okay to? He knows she isn't thinking of or considering her own health & future because she's so concerned about her mom. I respect him for bringing all that up. Now they both know exactly where each stands and can make informed decisions here on out about their relationship. Imagine him never telling her or mentioning any of that. 10 years down the road he may be very bitter & resentful. She may be too. Maybe she'd wonder why no one brought up her possible health problems in the future if something went wrong for her too. Who knows but I think it's a good thing he expressed that & she respectfully stood her ground & made her position clear. They're not on the same page & that's ok. The important thing is that they know it.
He's simply communicating his concerns about their future. He is worried about his potential wife and (as they both hadnt discussed it yet apparently) mother of his child's health
@@kandie3127 theyd be shouting "you go girl" "empowerment" "she knows what she needs" if he was about to give up a life saving organ that could prevent them from having children, and she voiced her concerns. People out here acting like he told her she cant do it... he didnt, he just said that he couldnt marry her if she did
@@uzairakram899however he shows no regards to his gf freaking mother? main concern my babies not even scared for her or honoring her choices, she says dont want no kids his response i want you to think about it, like he entirely dismissed what she just said!!!
Right I can't stand females like her who give husband privileges and treatments to their boyfriend like. He's not gonna respect you just like he doesn't even respect this decision. He's just the boyfriend telling you not to help your mother. And then you're obviously not right for each other because of the kid issue? Just break up and leave save us all the headache
The mom raised her right cuz she taught her how to be selfless and love in action not just words or feelings. You don’t get to see family relationships this strong anymore.
This is not an issue of fertility. She clearly said she doesn't want to raise any kids because she doesn't want to take care of anyone else. It would be unfair to her to expect her to raise kids and unfair to the kids as well. If he wants kids HE can go adopt or find a surrogate and egg donor as a single father, or be in a relationship with someone who actually wants kids.
Just like the daughter said, the mother spent her whole life loving her and taking care of her, and saving her to keep her in her life longer is an amazing opportunity that she feels like she needs to do. That's how I would feel like with my dad or my mom, I would die from the inside out if either one of my parents died, I'd be so broken. So if I had the opportunity I would do it in a heart beat. FUCK my partner for not seeing that. I would love kids but you could always adopt, it's not like when you adopt those kids are in anyway different from a child you would give birth to.
Yeah, but her mother is already ill, maybe after the donation she dies, and her daughter will lose her kidney forever and it wouldnt mean a thing. So its best that the lady finds another donor, probably a drunk person that had an accident.
@@tarabela88 It's an attempt to keep alive someone you love, it will never feel like a lose in the way you're saying if she dies after. With that mindset, don't give anyone CPR or blood transfusions or chemotherapy. Besides drunk people can't donate.
@@sugar_- That attempt is stupid. Giving PCR OR BLOOD TRANFUSIONS is different, sooooo different, you dont take anything vital from anyone, are you out of your mind?
I’m sorry, aside from the kidney issue, he’s going to try ‘convincing’ her to have kids. Kids aren’t something you come around to! This is something couples should discuss wayyyy before this point.
This girl is amazing. She loves her mom so much and would not hesitate to save her life. She is beautiful inside and out. Her boyfriend can voice his concerns but should not discourage her. This is not for a stranger; it’s for her mom. She is so thoughtful. Plans a birthday and gives her mom a necklace saying that she would promise that she would be taken care of. That would make her mom relieved. Hopefully she can get a donor soon. Anyway, that’s the kind of girl you want to marry. Sweet, kind, giving and sincere.
if my mom needed a kidney and my man was seriously against it im kicking him to the curb especially if our relationship was as awkward as these peoples
This is a convo that they should have had earlier in the relationship. Its not fair to either of them to expect to change thier mind on something like having kids.
My husband and I talked about kids when we were in the beginning stage of our relationship. At first he wasn't into it too much but when I expressed that it's something I want, he seemed to change his mind and now with our almost 3 year old and one on the way, he's absolutely smitten with our daughter and loves her to bits. I encourage all couples to have that talk so you don't either raise someone's expectations or waste your time in a relationship that isn't going anywhere.
i feel like the bigger issue here is that they really don’t want the same things in life. why are they only discussing what they want in life now? like it’s been 3 years, i’m surprised the topic of wanting kids or not hasn’t come up before this. they both seem set in what they want and it’s not in sync. they should probably part ways so neither of them get hurt in the end
Wow. I 100% agree with Sarah. How could she possibly watch her mother die, knowing she has the ability to save her? Its a big sacrifice, yes, but how could anyone possibly live with themselves if their mother died in that way?? Ugh. And how have they never talked about kids before? Its obviously a deal breaker for both of them. End it, now.
A normal life without alcohol, and really high pregnancy risk, and not allowed to take all medications, and saltreduced diet :D But your right 1 is enough! especially when you want to give your kidney to the one person they are the reason you are on earth xD
That’s false. I do agree she should donate if that’s what she to do. But saying only having 1 kidney is nothing is very much underplaying the situation. It can cause urology problems, make infections more likely etc
@@hichjoop1833 i mean that's a healthier life aside from high risk pregnancy which she said she doesn't want kids. and by pregnancy can be high risk. ALL pregnancies are high risk because you could DIE anything could go wrong. he's just controlling. he doesn't even know if he wants to get married but wants to control her autonomy
He's not controlling her. He's expressing how he sees their future together. I dump her for not wanting children in the future. They should of spoke about this before getting engaged.
Good for her for voicing her opinion and standing her guard! I would do the same thing! As someone else who pointed this out in the comments, it really stuck, but they said "you can choose another boyfriend, but not another mom". That is so true!
Yikes...please couples everywhere- communicate about the kids thing before things get serious, serious! I get that people change their minds but what if you wait for a change and it never happens?
She doesnt want kids so donating a kidney shouldn't be a problem. Even if it effects her she wouldn't have to worry about kids The mom may also survive
C7z like he said he won't stop until he CONVINCES or forces getting what HE wants smh. So to him if he gets a nice ring and proposing will make her give him kids but it doesn't work that way.
If I ever have the opportunity to save my mom or even dads life, I’m gonna do it, who’s him to tell her what to do especially when it comes to her mom. Theirs ppl who are perfectly ok living with one kidney. I used to feel like her with never wanting kids but when I got my daughter and became a mom myself I can’t put it into words. As a mom, if anything ever happens to my daughter I’m a do whatever I can do to help and if I ever do become sick and my daughter wants to help me that would be the most beautiful thing but I might be hesitant but I can’t deny the love from my child. So u do what u feel is right and don’t let anyone tell u different ❤️
She is doing something so beautiful for her mother and he trying to make it something horrible when it's not!! He should be a Ashamed of himself, what would he do if that was his mom!?! He should be supporting her not making her feel bad when she is doing something wounderful for someone else !!
Your mad your girlfriend wants to give her mom, the woman who gave your girlfriend life, a kidney? There's no way we'd still be together if you were my man.
I think we just looked at the end of their relationship, before they even knew it. Good on both of them for standing up for themselves. They just aren't compatible
Being a recipient of a kidney transplant I would like say I am forever in depth to my friend that gave me her kidney and I know that if you are special enough to give the gift of life nobody will be able to talk you out of it.
How dare he tell her not to donate her kidney to her mother. That's an amazing gift and no light decision on Sarah's part, she knows that. I would give either of my parents a kidney in a heartbeat if they desperately needed one and were going to die without one. That's a decision only the donor and recipient can make, he has no right to tell her what to do.
He's got a hell of a nerve! I could never turn my back if my Mom she needed a kidney. I could not forgive myself if she died because I didn't give her a kidney. I couldn't live with myself.
Lose him sweetheart! You were up front and honest with him from the beginning! You continue on taking care of your mom prayers for a full and successful recovery for you both and many many years of happiness! You have a beautiful heart soul your mom raised you right! 🙏
They’ve been dating for 3 and a half years and have never talked about this?!?! Everyday more and more im reminded about the closeness I have with my fiancé lmao
Thats an amazing daughter/young woman! The mother raised a beautiful intelligent young lady! Best wishes to both! The boyfriend needs to rethink thing bc she is a loyal woman and they are rear!
He's a boyfriend not a husband his opinion does not matter. Baby girl needs to find someone who is supportive of her decision. No one would stop me from saving a loved one.
For me not giving my parents an organ if they need it is out of the question! How can you deny something like that to the person that brought you to the world and raised you!?
I can understand if she has kids and he is worried about the outcome, but she doesn't. There is no way in hell a man will tell me what I can do to help my mom
Omg my mother passed away from copd. I would have given anything to save my mom. I have an empty hole in my heart and my life. How dare he try to tell her not to donate to her mom. Please kick him to the curb your mom will always be there for you. Can you say the same about the boyfriend. I don’t think so. We only have one mom in our life cherish her now while you still can. I would have given anything to have my best friend my mom in the whole world.
As someone who’s lost a parent you would do anything to stop their suffering and pain. My husband stood by me as I left our home to care for my parent. The kid factor is easy. She can always get a surrogate if the strain of the pregnancy is too much but you can’t get your parent back. No matter how old you are you always need the love of your parent. I commend her for sticking to her guns on this matter. I wish it would have been that easy to give my parent a kidney because my parent will never see me be a grandparent or attend my kids wedding. I will never be able to call to say I love you and some people don’t get that until it happens to them. So find a spouse that supports your heart, decisions and find a spouse that understands this importance. It’s ok to be concerned about the side effects and getting those questions answered to better understand but know that you can’t put a price on ones life and love.
I'd give anything to give my mom more time on this earth. Shes in poor health rn. If I could give up an organ to make it go away even at 69 I would. Shes been my hero my whole life.
"Do everything possible to make you want to have one in the future." Just no. Don't try to force people who do not want children to have them. There is no middle ground, he needs to learn that and move on.
Do it for your mother not boyfriend. Your mom is important. She's your family.
Exactly
@Brian Schienbein So true.
I agree with you Family comes first
I would never ask my child to give me a kidney so many people regret donating kidneys it destroyed their quality of life. I had my children to give them life not Leech off of theirs.
Her boyfriend is a clown and she should dump him.
Nobody would stop me from donating an organ to my mother!!! If he wants you to not do it ... it says a lot about him 😡
She can do whatever she wants! She’s no object to him, married or not! She can do whatever the hell she wants!
Exactly!! Dump HIM!!!
@@ahjahlilulaamadeus3632 I don't agree with him trying to persuade her not to help her mother with something important like that , id like to know why he has a issue with it in the first place, but the statement you made was ridiculous, all that crazy talk about owning this or that
Bruce Gwynn ever heard of something called “Opinions”? Because that is exactly what the statement I made *IS* 😂😂
I agree
Ain't nobody telling me what to do with my kidney ! Period !
Exactly PERIOD
Periodt!!!
True
All you heffers will grow old n lonely, period!
I agree! No one.. not even my man, the father of my kids, can or will tell me if I can give my mom the one thing that may save her life! Idgaf if it increases her life by a couple days or 20 yrs...That is my mom and I have a very beautiful and special one and I get not everyone will understand as some ppl have crappy parents..through no fault of their own mind you...but if the person I'm with or have as my life partner does not understand that... And as much as it will pain me but I would be forced to admit maybe that's not the man for me! But I have been with my bf for 20 yrs now and I'm 35 now and all I can say is I'm glad we had all these kind of talks early on once it started to be serious of course. but I hope you are all okay and doing as good as can be expected the rest of the pandemic and wishing everyone the best! ☺👍💕💕
Who cares about her boyfriends’ opinion? 🤷🏻♀️😏 İt’s her mother, get outta here boy👊🏻
Ikr! Like why the hell does he even bother
He doesn't get an even smallest bit of an opinion until he's put a ring on it. And even then its short.
Yeah! She’s no object to him so she can do whatever the hell she wants with her body!!
@@kiss_my_peachy_arse6476 but why would he marry someone who isnt compatible in terms of future plans? I've seen this alot and tbh I dont get the idea that he cant have an opinion until marriage. It's the sort of thing that needs to be discussed before marriage not after, to avoid going through a divorce.
I should point out, I agree 100% with her giving her kidney and making her own decision, it didnt sound remotely like her bf was telling her what to do, simply that he couldnt marry her if their future plans didnt match, which is alot better than waiting until marriage before deciding they cant be together.
He could've waited a couple days to allow her time to process things but in general the consensus seems to be that he was tryna force her hand, when it doesnt seem like that to me
Absolutely
Never mind the kidney, the relationship is dead in the water because of the kid issue. End it now.
Kid issue? Or you mean kidney?
@@Alrighttheniguess no I meant kid issue. He wants kids and she doesn't. That is a deal breaker in any relationship. The resent will just build if he keeps pressing her to have babies.
@@Alrighttheniguess watch and listen up to the end of the video. then you will realize the relationship is dead because she doesn't want kids. The man is just concern about their lives and what will be the effects of having just 1 kidney with her. Totally I don't see any problem with the guy, these people in the comment section jumps quickly and judging the boyfriend being a dick
They didn’t watch the video.
@marco You really don't see him as a rude guy when after leaky 3 and a half years the guy can get squeamish when his brother calls her mom his future MIL? He wants the kids without the actual commitment to her and that is bull
They shouldn’t get married. If he wants kids, he will leave eventually or grow bitter.
Not true. She still can have children. Many people live a full, long life with only one kidney.
Have kids on the side then leave her of it made it that far
@@rebeccahodgson3543 she doesn’t want kids tho it doesn’t matter if she can carry a pregnancy with one kidney
@@rebeccahodgson3543 this isn't an issue of if she can. She clearly said she doesn't want any. She doesn't want to raise and care for children that are biologically hers or not.
When nudged about marriage, Miguel says, "Slow your roll", but he wants to tell his girlfriend whether to donate her kidney or not? Okay, Miguel.
I thought this too. Same with his stance to change her mind on kids 😂 like no issue telling her what to do but won’t make a proper commitment to her.
He has a lot of nerve
What’s the difference? She doesn’t want kids and she want s him to accept it. He doesn’t want her to give her kidney to her mother and he is wrong not to expect to want to do it. Where is the compromise! The attitude that she is displaying is extremely self-centred and selfish. She doesn’t want to take Miguel’s feelings on board at all.. That bodes very bad for the relationship to work. There must be give and take in a relationship for it to work.
This was my thoughts too. How you gonna say "you can't just give up a kidney to your mum..." But also "hmm... I'm not sure that I see a long term thing there..." dude, f off.
I feel like before getting married they should have been talked about the future they shouldn’t have discussed stuff like that when they getting married soon it should have been somthing they should have talked about it before
Three and a half years and you haven't had the "I want children" conversation?!?!
That’s something you have within the first year and throughout the relationship
My ex discovered 5 years later that the first conversation about the babytopic wasn't that honest. Back then it was done in 5min, so I'll never thought about it again :D
Guess this situation maby was like that.
That’s something I talk about on the first date 🤣🤣🤣. I’m not fixing to waste time on anyone.
My brother and his gf only got engaged last year and haven’t really had a conversation about kids... they have been dating for like 7 years 😭
@@gabi_c12 oh my! I'm no one to say but they should've discussed it before getting engaged at least 😬
He’s a bf not a husband. Can’t sit and talk about a future and kids when ur telling someone else “slow ur roll” when speaking of marriage. I’d drop this “boy” and live it up with mom! Someone much better is out there.
Good thing he didn't propose hope he dumps her you gotta be on the same page before marriage
She legit said that he should have waited until marriage before "dropping this bomb" on her... he should wait until they're married before having the baby talk???! That's backwards
I love her response about kids. I think it's done they need to find a different mate. Plus it's her Mama! You're beautiful you can find a nice compassionate person out there
Its not about compassion he loves her not her mom, her mom is selfish let your daughter live her life she is very intrusive and demanding I hope he dumps her
@@totaltrumpet I dont blame the mum to be honest. The daughter did expect her bf to marry her before having that talk, and so do many in the comment section... which is BACKWARDS
He should never marry someone before having that discussion and all the people writing about how much of a scumbag he is are missing the key point
He didnt say she couldn't donate her kidney to her mum
He said that he wanted children with her and was concerned that the procedure would prevent that
He communicated his true feelings and is now being attacked for being pretty reasonable. You wouldn't attack her if it was the other way around let's be honest
Thats the perfect reponse when you been taking care of ppl and truly do not want children. She not bringing kids in this world that she does not want nor does not want to take care of or dump on some one else! I say she is being responsible! Not bringing another unwanted baby into this world! Sorry to say! THIS US JUST MY OPINION AND I MIGHT NOT HAVE WORDED IT RIGHT BUT YOU GET THE DRIFT.
3 years and that's the first time it's being discussed that's fd up
@@snoox27 They’ve been together for three years? Damn. For my own sanity I have to assume they staged the conversation for the camera, because who doesn’t discuss kids when they start getting serious?
This guy is disgusting for even saying that. Trust me there is no one that would stop me if any family memeber of mine needed a kidney. This is her mom that needs it. Definitely not the right guy for her.
My family wouldnt give me a pot to piss in. Let alone an organ. My mom is dead and so is my dad. The only ppl getting my organs would be my husband or my children lol. Not everyones family is great. But in this situation its her mom so hell yeah.
Why wouldn't he be thinking of all the possible consequences of this for her & their potential future?
Y'all want men to communicate but I guess only when you say it's okay to?
He knows she isn't thinking of or considering her own health & future because she's so concerned about her mom. I respect him for bringing all that up.
Now they both know exactly where each stands and can make informed decisions here on out about their relationship. Imagine him never telling her or mentioning any of that. 10 years down the road he may be very bitter & resentful. She may be too. Maybe she'd wonder why no one brought up her possible health problems in the future if something went wrong for her too. Who knows but I think it's a good thing he expressed that & she respectfully stood her ground & made her position clear.
They're not on the same page & that's ok. The important thing is that they know it.
He's simply communicating his concerns about their future. He is worried about his potential wife and (as they both hadnt discussed it yet apparently) mother of his child's health
@@kandie3127 theyd be shouting "you go girl" "empowerment" "she knows what she needs" if he was about to give up a life saving organ that could prevent them from having children, and she voiced her concerns. People out here acting like he told her she cant do it... he didnt, he just said that he couldnt marry her if she did
@@chivebutter8794 toooooooo accurate it kinda hurts lol😭😂😭😂
The boyfriend lacks empathy ,is selfish ,a sour sap. Throw the entire man away. Its your body ,he not even the husband and trying to control her.
I think he's just thinking of her best interests and using the other side of his brain.
You sound like a mom that feels entitled to harvesting your daughter’s organs
@@uzairakram899however he shows no regards to his gf freaking mother? main concern my babies not even scared for her or honoring her choices, she says dont want no kids his response i want you to think about it, like he entirely dismissed what she just said!!!
You can get another boyfriend, but you can’t get another mom
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Facts
Facts
Triple facts!
Right I can't stand females like her who give husband privileges and treatments to their boyfriend like. He's not gonna respect you just like he doesn't even respect this decision. He's just the boyfriend telling you not to help your mother. And then you're obviously not right for each other because of the kid issue? Just break up and leave save us all the headache
so, donate the boyfriend then..
To the street😂
No one’s gonna take him
XD
Bahahahahahaha...this was great 👍 🤣🤣😅😅
I’m gonna donate his ass back on tinder 😒
She is a beautiful girl inside AND out and he DOESNT deserve her whatsoever!!
The mom raised her right cuz she taught her how to be selfless and love in action not just words or feelings. You don’t get to see family relationships this strong anymore.
If he wants kids they can adopt or find a surrogate. That's her mom. You only get one mother.
Serrogation is fine but there's always a difference having own and adopted ,I. MeN my preference would be my own.
She said she doesn't want children PERIOD. Why is that so hard for some people to wrap their small minds around?
This is not an issue of fertility. She clearly said she doesn't want to raise any kids because she doesn't want to take care of anyone else. It would be unfair to her to expect her to raise kids and unfair to the kids as well. If he wants kids HE can go adopt or find a surrogate and egg donor as a single father, or be in a relationship with someone who actually wants kids.
Just like the daughter said, the mother spent her whole life loving her and taking care of her, and saving her to keep her in her life longer is an amazing opportunity that she feels like she needs to do. That's how I would feel like with my dad or my mom, I would die from the inside out if either one of my parents died, I'd be so broken. So if I had the opportunity I would do it in a heart beat. FUCK my partner for not seeing that. I would love kids but you could always adopt, it's not like when you adopt those kids are in anyway different from a child you would give birth to.
Yeah, but her mother is already ill, maybe after the donation she dies, and her daughter will lose her kidney forever and it wouldnt mean a thing. So its best that the lady finds another donor, probably a drunk person that had an accident.
@@tarabela88 It's an attempt to keep alive someone you love, it will never feel like a lose in the way you're saying if she dies after. With that mindset, don't give anyone CPR or blood transfusions or chemotherapy. Besides drunk people can't donate.
@@sugar_- That attempt is stupid. Giving PCR OR BLOOD TRANFUSIONS is different, sooooo different, you dont take anything vital from anyone, are you out of your mind?
@@tarabela88 it's not taken from anyone, it's given willingly by that person. By 2020 you'll think people would understand how organ donation works.
@@tarabela88 trying to dictate what others choose to do with their body? That’s stupid
I’m sorry, aside from the kidney issue, he’s going to try ‘convincing’ her to have kids. Kids aren’t something you come around to! This is something couples should discuss wayyyy before this point.
Ugh her bf annoys me. She is so sweet and he definitely doesn’t deserve her
This girl is amazing. She loves her mom so much and would not hesitate to save her life. She is beautiful inside and out. Her boyfriend can voice his concerns but should not discourage her. This is not for a stranger; it’s for her mom. She is so thoughtful. Plans a birthday and gives her mom a necklace saying that she would promise that she would be taken care of. That would make her mom relieved. Hopefully she can get a donor soon. Anyway, that’s the kind of girl you want to marry. Sweet, kind, giving and sincere.
if my mom needed a kidney and my man was seriously against it im kicking him to the curb especially if our relationship was as awkward as these peoples
I like her. She had her head on straight. She needs to let the relationship go and find someone who understands and will be there for her
This is a convo that they should have had earlier in the relationship. Its not fair to either of them to expect to change thier mind on something like having kids.
She is so sweet and does so much for her mom. She is also very pretty and I hope she finds someone that understands and is genuinely happy for her ❤️
My husband and I talked about kids when we were in the beginning stage of our relationship. At first he wasn't into it too much but when I expressed that it's something I want, he seemed to change his mind and now with our almost 3 year old and one on the way, he's absolutely smitten with our daughter and loves her to bits. I encourage all couples to have that talk so you don't either raise someone's expectations or waste your time in a relationship that isn't going anywhere.
Children are spare parts. Good call.
@@johnmadsen37 creep
I would leave him right there. He has no right to tell her that and he’s inconsiderate
i feel like the bigger issue here is that they really don’t want the same things in life. why are they only discussing what they want in life now? like it’s been 3 years, i’m surprised the topic of wanting kids or not hasn’t come up before this. they both seem set in what they want and it’s not in sync. they should probably part ways so neither of them get hurt in the end
Wow. I 100% agree with Sarah. How could she possibly watch her mother die, knowing she has the ability to save her? Its a big sacrifice, yes, but how could anyone possibly live with themselves if their mother died in that way?? Ugh. And how have they never talked about kids before? Its obviously a deal breaker for both of them. End it, now.
A person only needs 1 kidney to live a normal life. He's trippin' over nothing. 😁
A normal life without alcohol, and really high pregnancy risk, and not allowed to take all medications, and saltreduced diet :D
But your right 1 is enough! especially when you want to give your kidney to the one person they are the reason you are on earth xD
Yep my Aunt star had 3 kids with only one kidney she had hers took out at 5
That’s false. I do agree she should donate if that’s what she to do. But saying only having 1 kidney is nothing is very much underplaying the situation. It can cause urology problems, make infections more likely etc
@@hichjoop1833 i mean that's a healthier life aside from high risk pregnancy which she said she doesn't want kids. and by pregnancy can be high risk. ALL pregnancies are high risk because you could DIE anything could go wrong. he's just controlling. he doesn't even know if he wants to get married but wants to control her autonomy
no its not that easy my g/daughter has only one kidney and now she is pregnant so a high risk birth
I don't think wanting/not wanting kids is something you can compromise on. Thats big
Her boyfriend shouldn’t control her
He isn’t. They are having a normal healthy conversation about there relationship
He's not controlling her. He's expressing how he sees their future together. I dump her for not wanting children in the future. They should of spoke about this before getting engaged.
If he doesn’t want you to save and love your own mother then how does he truly feel about you?! This is a big red flag to run.
Good for her for voicing her opinion and standing her guard! I would do the same thing! As someone else who pointed this out in the comments, it really stuck, but they said "you can choose another boyfriend, but not another mom". That is so true!
Yikes...please couples everywhere- communicate about the kids thing before things get serious, serious! I get that people change their minds but what if you wait for a change and it never happens?
It is HER DECISION.....!!
Are they even together why are they sitting so far apart, there body language is so hostile.
They might not actually be together 🤷🏻♀️ BUT my fiancé and I sit like this all the time.. it’s comfy
The mom and daughter are so wholesome
He wants kids and she doesn’t deal beaker or not she shouldnt feel like she should have to have kids to keep him around
To give the kidney and help mom is the right thing to do. ❤️
She doesnt want kids so donating a kidney shouldn't be a problem. Even if it effects her she wouldn't have to worry about kids
The mom may also survive
Yeah and I’m pretty sure she can still have kids if she would every want a kid.
Yes! Give your mom a kidney. She has loved you unconditionally. Tell the guy to hit the road!
Wait why is the topic of kids come after the engagement?
C7z like he said he won't stop until he CONVINCES or forces getting what HE wants smh. So to him if he gets a nice ring and proposing will make her give him kids but it doesn't work that way.
If I ever have the opportunity to save my mom or even dads life, I’m gonna do it, who’s him to tell her what to do especially when it comes to her mom. Theirs ppl who are perfectly ok living with one kidney. I used to feel like her with never wanting kids but when I got my daughter and became a mom myself I can’t put it into words. As a mom, if anything ever happens to my daughter I’m a do whatever I can do to help and if I ever do become sick and my daughter wants to help me that would be the most beautiful thing but I might be hesitant but I can’t deny the love from my child. So u do what u feel is right and don’t let anyone tell u different ❤️
Sounds wonderful! Wishing you and your daughter all the very best!
hgd thank you 😊 stay safe
He’s so condescending. His long blinks and sarcastic passive responses and mannerisms. He needs serious healing within himself. God bless you 🙏🏻
She is doing something so beautiful for her mother and he trying to make it something horrible when it's not!! He should be a Ashamed of himself, what would he do if that was his mom!?! He should be supporting her not making her feel bad when she is doing something wounderful for someone else !!
RUN GIRL RUN!!!! Run away from that guy NOW!!
This seems so scripted
saaaame
My god the couch scene
Innitt even when he was talking to he’s brother too
It's a "reality" t.v show lol.... find me one that isn't scripted.
I bet if it was the other way around, he would do it for his mom as well or his brother. Smh selfish people in this world
“Slow your roll” but then throwing in what about when we want to have kids what about our future ? Seems a little controlling
The daughter is very sweet..
I would do it for my mom. Who cares what boyfriend thinks. Your mom will always be there for you when no man will.
Your mad your girlfriend wants to give her mom, the woman who gave your girlfriend life, a kidney? There's no way we'd still be together if you were my man.
the donation is her decision.. the kid conversation is a dealbreaker tho
Aww I love this girl! She seems so sweet! This boyfriend makes me so mad tho- like dude it’s not your kidney it’s hers 🙄
I hope she see's sense and leaves his ass! What a lovely compassionate woman ❤️
Time to break up....
I think we just looked at the end of their relationship, before they even knew it. Good on both of them for standing up for themselves. They just aren't compatible
Being a recipient of a kidney transplant I would like say I am forever in depth to my friend that gave me her kidney and I know that if you are special enough to give the gift of life nobody will be able to talk you out of it.
How dare he tell her not to donate her kidney to her mother. That's an amazing gift and no light decision on Sarah's part, she knows that. I would give either of my parents a kidney in a heartbeat if they desperately needed one and were going to die without one. That's a decision only the donor and recipient can make, he has no right to tell her what to do.
if my boyfriend/husband wanted to stop me from donating a kidney to my mom, it'd be so over so quick.
Yes this is a dealbreaker!! Throw the whole boyfriend away smh
He's got a hell of a nerve! I could never turn my back if my Mom she needed a kidney. I could not forgive myself if she died because I didn't give her a kidney. I couldn't live with myself.
Lose him sweetheart! You were up front and honest with him from the beginning! You continue on taking care of your mom prayers for a full and successful recovery for you both and many many years of happiness! You have a beautiful heart soul your mom raised you right! 🙏
They’ve been dating for 3 and a half years and have never talked about this?!?! Everyday more and more im reminded about the closeness I have with my fiancé lmao
Looks mad scripted
this girl is such a beautiful human being, inside and out. i hope she leaves him
Mother would never be option...she is always be choice ❤️..
Why would you have these conversations so late?
That fact she is so devoted to family makes me love her
Sarah you are true loving heart to your mom to help your mom to not suffer too long. God will bless you Sarah 🙇
Thats an amazing daughter/young woman! The mother raised a beautiful intelligent young lady! Best wishes to both! The boyfriend needs to rethink thing bc she is a loyal woman and they are rear!
I appreciate how this girl respects and loves her mom !! ❤
Wow beautiful and smart!! You go girl!!
She has a precious heart, get rid of the boyfriend!!
That is her damn mom!!!!!!!!!! BREAK UP , BREAK UP WITH HIM😡😡😡
He's a boyfriend not a husband his opinion does not matter. Baby girl needs to find someone who is supportive of her decision. No one would stop me from saving a loved one.
K, listen girl that's a red flag, find a guy that treats you how you deserve
For me not giving my parents an organ if they need it is out of the question! How can you deny something like that to the person that brought you to the world and raised you!?
I couldn’t live one day without my mum she’s my life
If someone ever tried to stop me from giving MY kidney to MY mother...theyd be gone in a heartbeat!
I can understand if she has kids and he is worried about the outcome, but she doesn't. There is no way in hell a man will tell me what I can do to help my mom
I would give my kidney to someone in my family if they needed it.
Every organ donor is a hero in my books. If it was his mother he would do it. So this guy needs to see the big picture here.
I would do anything for my mother!
The devotion she has is awe-inspiring. Beautiful to witness ❤️
I don’t even know you but I’m so proud of you for doing that for your mother ..... Your a diamond in the rough !!!
Girl Don’t Let That Man Stop U From Helping Ur Mom He Not That Right One For U Girl Periodt He’s Has To Go Sarah Has A Wonderful Heart
Omg my mother passed away from copd. I would have given anything to save my mom. I have an empty hole in my heart and my life. How dare he try to tell her not to donate to her mom. Please kick him to the curb your mom will always be there for you. Can you say the same about the boyfriend. I don’t think so. We only have one mom in our life cherish her now while you still can. I would have given anything to have my best friend my mom in the whole world.
Duuuude I thought she gave her a legit kidney but it was just a necklace lmao
His attitude whould change if he needed the kidney.
Definitely!
Her body her choice. You're scared to commit and therefore have ZERO say over what she should do with HER body.
Even though my mother and I aren't on the best terms, no one could tell me not to donate a kidney to my mother lmao.
As someone who’s lost a parent you would do anything to stop their suffering and pain. My husband stood by me as I left our home to care for my parent. The kid factor is easy. She can always get a surrogate if the strain of the pregnancy is too much but you can’t get your parent back. No matter how old you are you always need the love of your parent. I commend her for sticking to her guns on this matter. I wish it would have been that easy to give my parent a kidney because my parent will never see me be a grandparent or attend my kids wedding. I will never be able to call to say I love you and some people don’t get that until it happens to them. So find a spouse that supports your heart, decisions and find a spouse that understands this importance. It’s ok to be concerned about the side effects and getting those questions answered to better understand but know that you can’t put a price on ones life and love.
I'd give anything to give my mom more time on this earth. Shes in poor health rn. If I could give up an organ to make it go away even at 69 I would. Shes been my hero my whole life.
Nobody would stop me from donating anything to my mom, dad, children, nieces or nephews, or anyone I chose. My body, my choice.
"Do everything possible to make you want to have one in the future."
Just no. Don't try to force people who do not want children to have them. There is no middle ground, he needs to learn that and move on.
He needs to run
That title is a bruh moment
I would never be, never staaaay with someone who tells me that!!!!
Bruh. I would give my whole life in a second for my parents. Seriously