my struggle with being loving
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- Опубліковано 9 жов 2024
- as i write this, i feel a little fear with posting this video simply because i've never been this vulnerable online. regardless, i wanted to show this part of my life because i believe it is super important for me to share this with you all
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None of us are capable of loving as the Word of God demands. God wants us to admit that our love does not live up to the Word of God and ask him to let his love flow through us. Accept it as a gift from God. It is the only God-ordained way to love.
I love this !!!
We are is when we let our flesh overpower what God is telling us to do if we’re not listening to what God is telling us to do we’re not gonna be loving if we’re not having a constant relationship with God and letting our flesh do everything it’s not gonna work we need to be communing with the Holy Spirit. On a daily basis the Bible says the love of God is shed abroad in our hearts by the Holy Spirit
Hang in there kid. Let God's love for you be the encouragement and inspiration you need to love Him, yourself and others the way He wants you to. The fact that your heart breaks because of this shows that God is working in you and that you're changing for the better. Chin up. Peace.
thank you 🥲
It’ll be alright. I’ve gone thru similar things Liz… it’ll be ok. You’re loved.
I relate to this so hard. I really struggle with being kind to my parents. They are the best of the best parents, but I still hurt them. Love is a choice, and you chose to repent and go away from your sin . I am with you in this journey too.❤
it may be difficult, but it is not impossible 🙌🏼
unfortunately, you, like most christians and non believers have been lied to. the bible doesn't say once that we must turn from our sins to be saved. that's what the catholic church teaches. the catholic church has corrupted the word repentance. the truth is, the original word for repentance was greek. it was "metanoia". metanoia; meta - different, change, alternate. noia- to think, thought, mind, metanoia means to change our way of thinking. to change our thoughts or what we have faith in. the pharisees were teaching people that they must obey every law and turn from all sins to be saved. which, the bible does teach that perfection is required for salvation. yet God knew that sin had corrupted us so much to the point that (how does the bible put it?) "we all fall short of the glory of god" ALL of us. i believe it is 1 john 1:9 that says "if we say we have no sin, then we deceive ourselves and the truth is not in us." this means that not a single one of us is sinless, nor can we be as long as we are in this current flesh. matthew 7:21 says that only those who do the will of the father will be saved. matthew 7:22-23 says that there will be people who come to the gates and be turned away by jesus himself. they will say to him "but haven't we prophesied and cast demons out and done many great works in your name?" and jesus tell them "away from me, you workers of iniquity, i NEVER knew you." why? they claimed to have done great works in jesus name?! well, because obviously, doing great works or any works is not what's required. so what is required? look back at matthew 7:21 jesus says only those who do the will of my father. so what is the will of the father? look to john 6:39-40 where jesus tells us the will of the father. he says "and the will of my father is that WHOEVER BELIEVES ON THE SON will have eternal life, and i (jesus)(will raise him up at the last day." you see....i struggled with my salvation for many many years. always feellling good when i did good or refrained from sin. but then, id turn around and sin and beat myself up, then would come condemnation. after 30 years of this, i realized, something isnt right. the bible says that we can have absolute assurance of our salvation. so why do i feel it sometimes but others, condemnation??? because, our salvation for 1 isnt a feeling. it either is, or isnt. its not based on how we feel one moment to the next. the only way we can have assurance of our salvation is because christ saves us. we dont save ourselves as those in matthew 7:22-23 found out all too late. its nbot about what we do or dont do. its about what christ did. since we fall short of gods glory, we are imperfect and cannot save ourselves or do anything to earn salvation. only christ can save you. thuis our assurance. christ IS perfect and so only he can save us and because he is perfect, he cannot fail. he died so that we may be forgiven. now, where your assurance come sin is right there. Do you believe that jesus is the true sonn of God? who lived a perfect life and died on the cross that we may be forgiven? then if you say yes. and you believe in your heart that jesus did, then you are saved. not becasuse of anything you did, but because of what christ did for you. he took our punishment so we no longer deserve punishment. we are now at peace with our father in heavenm. CHRIST JESUS IS OUR ASSURANCE. BECAUSE HE IS PERFECT, AND WE ARE NOT. this is why we casnnot get assurance from our works. because isaiah 64:4 or 6 says all of our good works are like filthy rags. we do good one day and bad the next. so we are not worthy of saving ourselves, let alone maintaining that salvation. and god is not so fickle that her saves us one day and condemns us the nextr. we are either saved or not saved. not flip flopped back and forth. praise YHWH!
@@LizziIsUnashamed it is impossible. i'm sorry to tell you. but don't take my words as harsh or condemning, because i want you to know the truth. read my comment to this person you just commented this to and it explains everything. basically we cannot be perfect or sinless as long as we have our current flesh. 1 john 1:9 says "if we say we have no sin, then we deceive ourselves and the truth is not in us." this means that we can never turn from all of our sin completely. it is christ who lived the requirement of the law. and so it is by His righteousness that we are saved. not our own. once you realize this, it helps you to understand how truly grateful to Him that we should be. and that we don't need to be perfect for him because He was perfect for us. He was the final and ultimate sacrifice. and thats amazing because i know for one thing, i cannot live a perfectly sinless life. can you? nobody can. and that's ok because christ DID. 😊 once you come to this realization, it takes away all of your anxiety and struggles because you know even more that you have a savior in christ. how can christ be our savior if we have to be good to save ourselves? its a deception placed in our path by the enemy. he wants us inwardly fighting with ourselves so we never learn to trust christ. read matthew 7:21 then read john 6:39-40. then read matthew 7:22-23. works and trying to be sinless do not cut it. having faith in christ for his perfection is the way. i hope you read those verses and the truth hits you with the great love that it did to me. and then your eyes will be opened and the truth will set you free from your anxieties and the deception of sin. its all about christ. not us! 🙂❤
I disagree with you, they both are not saying they have no sin, the fact that they used repentance highlights that they know they have sin and know that they need to repent, like me or you. Turning away from a sin is NOT impossible but what about ALL sin? Then I’d agree.
@@MrTWGoI agree yes
I having been dealing with anger, harsh spirit unkindness and impatience towards my family too. Thank God for this video. I would start instilling them in my prayer. May Jesus comfort us. 🥺💕
in Jesus name 🙏🏼
"Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me; for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.” You are a very kind person. But our world (even the Christian world) is not always kind in return.
You're very brave for sharing and it wasn't in vain because this video really touched me and many others. You put into words the things I could not and it helped me understand what God has been trying to show me all along. Thank you.
praise God!!
Im the oldest in my family and i related to you so much when you said you were afraid of the resonse you will get from your family. I feel like i cant change because of everyone’s perception of me already but i will continue to pray about it 🙏. To go forward we have to remember that Gods perception of us is far more important than other’s perception of us. thank you for sharing this its helped alot. Xx
may i see myself and others through the lens of Christ 🙏🏼
Amen
I’m not too good with words or explaining so all I can really say is I feel you and I don’t know you, but im proud of you for being this vulnerable towards God and us🤍💟
it's all good! i appreciate you and your kinds words.
OUUU girl. I relate so much to you. A couple weeks ago God had been whispering to me that I have a hard time loving my loved ones, and it’s especially harder because our ministry first starts at home. I am so loving towards my friends but when it comes to my family it’s so hard for me to love, one day my mom sits me down and out of hurt and betrayal she tells me things I don’t want to hear about myself, she told me I am a hypocrite and how am I able to love those around me when I can’t love the ones in my household. Girl when I tell you my ego was so hurt to hear this but God had already told me everything my mom told me. I literally stormed away and slammed the door super hard, twice. After that situation, I allowed God to work in me in how I love and it made me realize if I don’t get to know who God is, I will never know how to love myself and others because God is love. I understand your frustration because there has been times I’ve gone out of my way to love the way Christ does, and my family unfortunately doesn’t see it sometimes but I realize it’s okay if they don’t see it. God sees it, and most importantly it’s not even for people it’s for CHRIST!
Thank you for making this video , because I am so absent with my family . I just prayed this morning exactly why I can't love anyone. This spoke to me deeply . 😢
This is soo relatable. Like everything resonated with me, it's crazy hearing things similar to what I'm experiencing. I'm pretty much a only child and turning to religion has helped in so many ways. Tysm. This was soo needed literally what I needed. Hope you're feeling better. Happy spooky season🎃👻🎃 love youu
may the Lord keep leading you 🙏🏼
Hi Lizzi. I don’t normally comment on UA-cam videos, but I just want to say thank you for sharing your real feelings and thoughts about your attitude+character. It’s so hard at times to keep up a certain image, especially being a Christian woman. I am going through something similar rn, and the Lord has been revealing to me things about my own character and identity that needs work. I’m also afraid of people getting to know the real me and accepting me the way I am. I hope and pray that through the help of the Holy Spirit the Lord heals you’re past hurts and reassures you that your identity in him is unshakable.
i receive it. God help us both through this journey 🙏🏼
It’s so humbling when you read about the fruits of the Spirit 🥺
All is good. God is teaching us how to love him more than ourselves and people.
He does the work in us. Be patient!
Love hurts deeply very much too dear, it's not only good feelings!!!
Psalm 27:10 "When my father and my mother forsake me, then the Lord will take me up."
As a survivor of various childhood abuses, I know exactly what you mean by building up a wall inside of yourself to keep people away and the difficulty one can face to extend love to others when we feel we have received very little of it ourselves. God has taught me over many years that the love I can give is very little, but the love He can give has no depth. We can only ever live up to all those verses when we truly accept His love for us and know that we rest safely and securely in His loving arms. (Take a look at Psalm 139 - It is my favorite)☺
You are loved, sister in Christ, and know that there is one of your spiritual family members out there praying for you tonight and will be until we meet our beautiful Lord face to face!
Rest in God's love, dear Lizzi, and HIs love will shine through you, even when we can't give any of ourselves.💕
You are so not alone! I pray those prayers “God why am i like this?” And even finding it harder to love my family and hearing how they perceive me but I want to be better! I want to truly love like He does and i think this desire is actually profound. You are not alone
Bravo Lizzi, you are still so young and your awareness is remarkable. Give yourself grace and forgiveness. You are human we are not perfect and we all make mistakes (especially when we are young and discovering who we are). Make amends with those you feel you hurt, and let them know you are working on becoming the best version of yourself. They should understand, if not give them time to observe your changes and be a witness to your new glowing light. We all have gone through our pain, and reacted to our pain. It's not fun but you are not alone, eventually you will see your pain as the best life lesson. All of this is for your greatest good its the path we take to remember god and find enlightenment. Be proud of yourself you are waking up some people never figure this out.
i've been told by a person i look up to to do the same. there's nothing wrong with forgiving twice
I can relate and you are definitely not alone, God is with us in all this-I remember having to ask God to help me feel again and He did, but the key is to keep asking and everytime that feeling pops up and never stop. I love you and God loves you most and keep seeming and searching him sweetheart and everything will be alright❤️❤️❤️-I'm also praying for you Lizzi, thank you for your vulnerability God appreciates this🙏🏼
We all fall short of Hods Grace, What your feeling is the change from the Holy Spirit! It’s helping you shed all of those hidden emotions, and energy. Gods with you hun! God knows your heart! He knows how much you yearn for him and his forgiveness! I go through this a lot! The moment you quit on searching for him, not turning to him, stop praying, reading scripture not caring will be bad. But you are his child and he loves you!
I relate so heavily with this video Lizzi especially when you talk about your family not believing you that you can change. I’ve felt like this too many times and my family has made me feel like a hypocrite, like I wasn’t worthy to be transformed by God. I would then question myself and my worth. Your family will be the first that is against you. Matthew 10:36. A man’s enemy will be the members of his own household. But there! Right there that’s when you show love the most and the fruits of the spirit the most. Jesus loved even when the world and the people didn’t love Him back. You continue to love Lizzi, even if they do not believe it or understand. The enemy using your past to try to keep you a slave and in bondage but you be of good cheer because Jesus has overcome the world. It’s not an easy journey but you are most definitely not alone. Love them anyways and don’t go back. Don’t look back. I know it’s easier said than done but remember it is not all you know because you know Love Himself now! Ask Jesus to teach you how to love others like Him even when it’s hard, even when others make it hard to. All of the fruits work together so it’s not like you’re going to be practicing kindness but also patience and compassion for those that do not understand. You are breaking generational curses because it seems like your family are also in a particular mindset that keeps that rejected spirit alive because they seem like they aren’t able to receive that love that you give them and it’s not because of your past but because they have been blinded and manipulated by the enemy to see you as one thing only. Pray for them and you be in an example for them. Don’t force them to believe because when the time is right, He the Lord will make it happen. Gods timing is not our timing. Keep seeking God and walking in His light, following in His instructions and focus on Him and not the storm. Love is contagious and it is powerful. Love them anyways even when they do not understand or bring up your past. God has set you free, you don’t need approval from man. God bless you Lizzi 🤍 and if you want you should check out this quote by Mother Teresa about loving them anyways. Also remember Paul. Be bold like Paul! Do you think that if Paul didn’t forgive himself and accept Gods forgiveness and love he would help in spreading the gospel? His contribution to the gospel is so powerful and a stark reminder that God can choose anyone and work on the heart of anyone. You are not too messed up or too far gone for God. If Paul kept condemning himself because of his past, we wouldn’t have Galatians. Now imagine that! He was the last and he did it with boldness and courage. He went out with a bang. So Lizzi be strong and courageous in Love. Stand on what you believe. Even when the world or family continues to reject it, love them anyways and always in Jesus name. Amen. Your heart is willing Lizzi and you are doing great. You are on the right track, keep going!
beautifully said 🥲 thank you for this
I dont normally comment, but I understand this on a deep level. This type of reflection is needed for us all every day. That wall is to keep you safe, but it really boxes you in. God has really been ministering to me about His peace. As the Holy Spirit guides you on this journey, I pray that He gives you the strength to walk in love, kindness, and gentleness. The fact you are in a voluntary state and shared anyway is how the Church of God needs to be. God bless you! And I'll leave you with this.
James 5:16 "Therefore, confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person has great power as it is working."
Don't listen. You can do all things but just observe yourself. God desires stillness and he provides you with HIS love. Then you will know that all love comes from God. You have love from God.
we love you, thank you for posting this you have no idea what this does for the world.May the Lord bless you and keep you may He make His face shine upon you or be gracious to you and fill you with His peace that surapasses all understanding in our Lord and Savior Jesus Name AMEN!
in Jesus name 🙏🏼
I love how real you are addressing this.
I feel the same but somtimes can’t even admit that to myself let alone others like this.
Praise Yah for putting this on your heart and blessing you with bravery to share.
I just started watching this and I just feel the love Jesus has for you. He loves you so much. Like oh my goodness he is asking me to tell you that you are so beautifully loved by him and that what you are struggling with is not too hard for him. He forgives you for everything you feel guilt about and will get you through. He loves you. ✝️ when he made you, he knew that you would go through this storm. But he also knew that it wouldn’t be the end ❤
This is so relatable. And I know this is the Holy Spirit moving because I read 1 Corinthians 13 just this morning. I have been walking with him for years but I haven’t been completely walking by the spirit and letting him produce the fruits he wants in my life because of the lack of me consistently spending time with him. Thank you so much for this video and just know you are not alone💗
God is good! let us all yield to Holy Spirit and let the fruit be evident!
It’s hard being kind because no one else does it I gotta do it every day so I’m literally there rn it sucks but there’s one thing I know “but god” god will make things better hes putting us through this because as his children he wants us to grow he wants us to succeed so keep being kind and I know that may not be the answer ur looking for but it proves how good ur heart is and how good u are as a person be kind to others and they will, most of the time, be kind to u “treat others how you want to be treated” I know I’m not a great person I know I ain’t perfect or kind always I’m flawed more flawed then I want to be but if I see someone in pain I have to help it doesn’t matter to me and I see ur hurt so I’m sry ur feeling this way but know it will get better god will be there for u like he always has and that ur not alone
Your sharing the word with people is Loving you are expressing the Love of Jesus to some who have never known of it before, keep spreading this beautiful Love you are giving others, God Bless You!
i have this issue the opposite way (not to invalidate or anything). i think i lowkey idolize the people i love because i love them a bit to much. its cuz i didn't make one single friend until highschool so now my current highschool friends have to deal w me 1. learning how to be a friend cuz ive never done it and 2. caring about them way to much and being needy for them to care abt me back. i will say that your vulnerability is inspiring me to open up online a bit with some things ive gone through. i guess i have an issue w sharing my story online because i am still pretty sucky of a person, but maybe i can still be of use even if i share while in the midst of everything. anyways you have a new subscriber, im interested in how ya turn out
I get what you're saying. I've lived with a family similar to yours, and I've built a wall like you, just being insensitive, bcs if I cared I'd be hurt, and for a while I was scared of the day I'd find someone I loved, and if something happened would i feel anything? Like 2 weeks ago, my little brother passed, and I barely felt anything, besides being a bit sad for a few days, and especially during the burial. I don't know if I'll ever be able to be open and loving to my family, but I have come across people that have been genuinely kind and loving, and it brought me to God eventually, and He put those people in my path bcs He saw all those years of coldness and no emotions, and now I feel haapier with myself, I've fallen in love, and I've started to develop those emotions. Even now still, I can't even cry, I've cried only once but from watching a show in the past. Don't be too hard on yourself, you can't blame yourself for being in a household that wasn't loving, and if you were raised in such environment, it will take time to heal from that. Personally I don't know if I'll be able to be able to be emotional, but I pray to God that He heals my heart, and I know part of His plan for that is the people He has put in my life recently. Don't be too hard on yourself, you'll be ok, especially with God on your side, and I'll pray for you. God bless you❤
Thank you Lizzi for making this video🙏🏾
The Lord is speaking through you to me because I’ve struggled with the same exact thing. And for some reason I thought I was the only one who struggled with being loving. Thank you for sharing your testimony!🙏🏾🙌🏾
And literally today I saw the same IG reel video from the same pastor as well and felt convicted!🙌🏾❤️🔥
It takes alot to come to UA-cam and make a video like this. I have a problem similar to this, I had an ex girlfriend that really messed me up and made me think that all women are down bad. But it’s not the case. I’m slowly breaking from that thought and processing it to it is what it is. But it wasn’t to punish me, it was to make me better person, not be bitter. I’ve hurt a lot of people because of it. Even tho that happened I’m happy that I’m actually fixing relationships now, and giving peace to them and myself. Keep pushing young girl. You’ll be okay ❤
Being reminded to practice the fruits of the spirit is always an encouragement. Thank you Lizi
praise God
I’m so glad you’re starting to change. I want to thank you too because this video revealed to me that there’s even a difference between to have gifts of the Holy Spirit and to have fruits of the Holy Spirit. I would’ve never been curious on the difference if it weren’t for you. I pray that you keep going and to endure to the end cause if God was able to reveal to you of what needs to change then he definitely got your back throughout this whole journey. Yes you will fall, and stumble even if it’s a lot, you will not be perfect but God will still uplift your character regardless. Keep believing in him, and overtime you’ll start to notice changes on auto. God bless your soul and I hope the best for you! ❤
I rarely ever comment and I accidentally came across your video, but, my God, I wish I could hug you through the screen! I went through something very similar, felt like every kind thing that I do is fake and acted, and that I'm actually a selfish person with no empathy. My thought process was exactly like you described. Just want to say: hang in there, my friend! Trust God's plan, He will take care of you! I promise you, you are absolutely capable of loving and your ability to self-reflect and humbly work through your flaws is a great virtue. Always remember that you are not alone and that we all make mistakes, but Jesus will always be there to help us. I'm sending you lots of love and prayers! God bless you! ❤
thank you so much 🤍
There is nothing you can be that you are not already. If you want to walk, get up and walk.
Honestly so happy I saw this. I understand what you're explaining so deeply.
Philippians 1:9-11 is a prayer for your love to grow. I love the good news bible translations for this one. TEV translation stands for Today's English Version. I do understand the struggle of growing to love others, but mine is more to do with strangers, unfortunately. I'm thankful you showed me the verses you read in the beginning, because I never knew those ones. But time and time again The Holy Spirit shows me exactly what I was missing. I pray you find a bottomless bit of love start to well up on the inside of you, and in turn you fill your spirit with Gods endless love. Love is a hard thing to grasp if you, yourself, don't know your loved by God. because the love of other people is fleeting, and not trustworthy. God is the source of love, and how you find that is seeking His love for yourself. Then you will over-flow with love for others. you described everything I was feeling, and those actions of course are not who we are. thank you
When you get filled with the spirit you can please God fully what we can’t do it in our natural flesh. I’m praying for this that God fills me up you’ll know when it happens 🙏🏾❤
I struggle the most with my family too, you are not alone. It’s like once I come close physically to my family this wall sort of comes up. I still have it but I have faith he will change us ❤ I hope this helped a little bit
He is good. He will work it out!
Did you not know their is nothing wrong with you. I dont know how you feel or what you have been through. But You are so strong and so bright. I can even see how bright you are. Just take each day as they come. And slow down or just stop. Its going to be okay
God knows that people are imperfect and don't change over night. It takes lots of practice to change. The important thing is getting better every day. Slow and steady, until the good habits are built into you. And allow yourself to make mistakes as long as you're doing your best because that's all you can do.
dont worry ....ur fine trust me
love = reward
It's God's power in us that's loving
This was beautiful to see. And I relate to you with this. May God bleed you for being so transparent and humble
How do you comunicate so much beauty? It's Incredible. I just look at it and it brings me to tears. Because I'm looking at it and I'm looking at myself. Yeah you've never really seen porn until you've seen it on 5meo DMT. Until you recognize that it's you and that's basically what Infinity is. Sort of like I love you, no I love you, no I love you, no I love you, no I love you more, I love you more, I love you more. Who can love who more? And whoever can love who more is God. You see that long laundry list of stuff about you that you don't love. God loves all of it. I'm sorry for not loving more, that's the only thing you have to be sorry about. Thank you. Thank You For Love! And at this point you realize that that's it, that's the point. That's the only lesson in life. That's my only job. Is to love. Everything else is idiocy and then what you do is you say I love you. For the first time in your life you say I love you because you really understand what that phrase means and you fall in love with God. But as it throws it out there, it's gentle so he throws it out there but then you say oh I can't love it and then what God will say in return is, it's okay. I love that you are not capable of love. I love that. And when that hits you. That's what fills you with enough love to overcome your resistance to love even that next level thing that you could do. No it can't be love. Of course it's love! what else could it be! It's love! No oh my God this is impossible! Of course it's love how could it be anything else!? How could I be so stupid as to think it's anything else. And God is like of course it's love.
This is beautiful ❤
This reminds me of Jacob wrestling an angel. We all feel the way you do. No one is and could ever be perfect (not even close). We follow different faiths of Christianity so we might have a different perspective. But meditate on wrestling the angel and consider what it means to you. It never fails for me. God bless you always.
"In this is love, not that we have loved God but that he loved us and sent his Son to be the propitiation for our sins."
"I am the vine; you are the branches. Whoever abides in me and I in him, he it is that bears much fruit, for apart from me you can do nothing."
Abide His love for you and you will abide in love for others and including yourself. Here lies the cure for narcissism.
Feel you too hun but I pray that it gets better for all of us❤
God bless you sweetheart. Thanks for sharing 🙏🏼💝
You are precious Lizzi! Even while you are finding it hard to love, always remember that YOU are loved unconditionally by God!! I think I speak for all your brother and sisters in Christ when I say, we love you lizzi! 💓
thank you 💗
This I feel is what the Spirit is trying to get me to understand now, I really appreciate this video because it really resonates with me. Everything you said resonated with me. I too struggle most with the people closest to me, especially my immediate family. And many times at school even. I do not know how to fix it.
may God help you as well 🙏🏼
The closer we get to God the more easier it is to be loving i believe.
I will pray for you that you get better at this.
Remember God always loves you and cares for you even if we struggle with sin ,even if we live in sin .
I do believe we all struggle with this now and then
But we need improve ourselves as much as possible each day for God and for the people around us
You cannot find true love till love yourself law of attraction what seek in heart will be pulled to you to find true you must find your heart and except yourself amen have faith spread the love
TL:DR You are allowed to love and feel loved and be loved because God, the perfect being, said he already loves you even in your imperfection. He didnt wait for you to meet a standard to be worthy of His love. He is saying you are worthy of it by the very fact that he already gives it to you. All you have to “do” is believe what the gift means by accepting the gift.
My heart goes out to your pain. I believe I can see you have a strong and honest desire to be a good person and do right and hold yourself to a high standard for it.
If I may share some thoughts I have in response to your sentiments and struggles here because I hope they may help.
Love cannot be where shame resides. To love something, to be loving to something, is to accept it in its whole. To look at all it is and say “Im not going to abandon you or only be around for when you are good.”
Shame is the voice that says “I cannot be loved because of xyz mistake or flaw. I must fix that first or cut it out of me and then I’ll be allowed to be loved.”
We are all human and imperfect, and what I often forgot in that truth is to apply it to myself. I couldn’t accept my imperfection. It had to be fixed, to be paid for, to be cut out before I could be allowed to feel good and loveable.
I believe this is the core powerful message of the Gospel. Not our flaws but God’s love. The truth that if the perfect God of the universe Loves us in our imperfect that what that really should mean to us is that we are Allowed to be loved, and to love others even imperfectly. Because we are already being loved in the very middle of our imperfection right now.
The message is not about our failure to meet a standard that is deemed loving or good and a shame filled battle to expunge bad from us to be worthy of love. Its that the ultimate standard and authority in the universe already loves us and forgives our imperfections and that should be seen as an endorsement, a “cosign” from the Almighty that says “This person is worthy of love BECAUSE I love them. If the standard was any other way then I would tell them that I won’t love them until they fix xyz. But I didn’t tell them that.”
The message is everyone, including ourselves, now has permission to feel love for ourselves because the one person who actually has the ultimate right to say “No, not good enough for my love because I am perfect. Go get better first.” Said “I already love you. Just go and try to Love others (including yourself) like I first loved you.”
Thank you for this video ❤
glory to God for leading me to post it 🙏🏼
Lately, I've also been thinking a lot about love. Especially love within my family, as I have similar difficulties in consistently showing this love to my family and especially to my brother. God has revealed to me that the devil aims to divide the family and prevent us from loving each other in God's love by all means. Because if each one of us grew up and was brought up in absolute love (as God instructs us), the devil would hardly stand a chance.
What was also revealed to me is that subsequent generations can also be "punished" by the sinful lives of their parents (Exodus 34:7).
So it is not always your own „fault“ if you find it particularly difficult to love those within your family.
And even though I don't know you, I can tell from this video alone that you are very firm in your faith and that the Holy Spirit is working strongly in you. The Father and the Son in heaven are pleased with you, you can be sure of that!
And you are probably also aware that the devil is trying to get you to sin and thus away from the Father - and that the devil is putting negative thoughts in your head. But please never forget that you are a child of God, you are his property and in Christ Jesus you have the authority to trample on snakes and scorpions and overcome all the power of the enemy; nothing will harm you. So put on the armor of God every day and do his will - he has great plans for you and you are reaching the hearts of many.
I keep you in my prayers Lizzi. Stay blessed in Jesus name!
When people are faced with challenges that are beyond their stage of development, it gives them flaws, trauma, coping mechanisms, resentment. That happens to people all the time. God knows it's not easy to become like Christ. The world is tough on us. Your intentions matter, and it's all about taking the small steps and getting as much practice as you can. Your moral character is a muscle
3:09 it's hard for me, to see you in pain little one. All though many celebrate the way your processing your emotions, I uniquely become full of sorrow for you and anger that a little respect from an actual human could serve as the balm of hope. Stay prayed up little sister.
I love you (this was meant to make you feel better only).
God bless you God has a true calling on your life beloved ❤️✝️
i receive it in Jesus name
Every time I struggle with anger and explode with harsh words with my loved ones, I tend to isolate myself for a bit and deliver this sin for the Father and Christ. With a little "me" time with the Father, He shows the problem and the Deliverance from the Father it's my fuel to keep going with true love for my next one, everyone makes a lot of errors and Christ understands us, because he became like us. I hope you read this and make you feel better
i tend to do the same thing actually
Stay Strong and keep going you are strong and smart ✝💕💕
1000% relatable. I am you, you are me😘🫂
For so long I have felt like no one cared about me. Not even God himself, it always manifests itself in me being very mean and full of anger and pride. I can be very kind in normal nature but other times I go out of my way to be as cruel as possible when I get hurt. I know a lot of guys struggle with lust as their man sin but for me anger, hate and pride take over like no other. I always wonder what God genuinely thinks of me but since he would never just audibly come down and speak to me it creates a sense of emptiness and a void. Hopefully one day things will shift…
I myself dont even know if i really love the people i think i love.. i never did anything for the people i "love" and if i do something i dont feel its coming from a pure heart, i hate being like that.. God is my only hope to be better in every aspect. He is the only good in this world and without Him im hopeless.
Practicing empathy will help. It’s all about perspective. For example, one person will see a homeless person soaked through all their clothes, walk by them and heartlessly tell them to get a job. While another person will see and relate to their situation, knowing how sad, cold, lonely, and abandoned by society they must feel and give them anything they can to show them they are noticed and cared for. Just because on the outside people seem like they have everything together, it doesn’t mean they aren’t desperately seeking compassion and love from others. Love is hope, and even the strongest people are nothing without it.
Isaiah: 52:13-15 and 53:1-9
Philippians 4: 4-9
Proverbs 19:18 and 20:5
I hope this helps 🙂
Thank you for sharing this Lizzi, this is very brave of you to be open about, the holy spirit is leading you. God bless you, sister in Christ. Hallowed be the name of the Lord, on Earth as it is in Heaven.
it was difficult but i know it was what the Lord was asking of me
This may not mean much coming from a stranger on the internet but stay strong in our Lord Jesus. I feel your pain.
thank you for the encouragement 🤍
Our faith walk is simple yet complicated...we here so many things about how it should be but miss even how that Christ was perfect many saw Him as the devil. We put such importance on love and yet we forget love implies giving grace to ourselves because we are growing, always. We judge from the appearance of how we think we should be but fail to see where we are. No matter how much you love, we can only love to the limit in which we have. Even as a parent when your baby is trying to kiss you, the baby will instead attempt to devour your face but its the best they can do. As a parent its the sweetest thing ever....For Our father it is not different, us giving everything we have is precious. Our love can look messy, or not love at all but HE does not base it on appearance. So many of us are ruled on the perception of it...we can get so caught up in what shoulds, our short comings, the importance of others seeing love through us that how we perceive Love can become Lord over us. Yet even in scripture Jesus said some hard to accept things "do not even go back to say bye".
I say all this so that you might be free to walk with Him, give yourself grace and mercy, to love yourself as much as you desire to love your family. That what He says determines your view of you. That where He calls you and how He leads you is walking in love. I do pray for your heart and mind to be free from all warfare in your mind.
As an encouragement...you will be surprised by how fast He can change you and just how fast His work can open the eyes of those around you. It is not a guarantee but I have lived it.
But God reminded me as well, I never thought someone could relate, and God had other plans!!
God bless you lizzi I can relate 🤲🏼💝 thank you for being honest on here I saw your video and felt led to watch it. I pray the Lord give you people who will be gentle with your being in Him, here is song I’ve been listening to understanding the depths of trying to be verified by the eyes of others so therefore I felt the need to hide but God does not call us to isolation but to take refuge in Him. Psalms 11:1 “ in the Lord I take refuge; how can you say to my soul, “Flee like a bird to your mountain”. Here is also the song:) “the someone” by Benjamin William Hastings
thank you :)
I'm adopted, and I struggle letting go of my past, so it's hard to move on sometimes.
Truth is love, love is the truth. This video for all those who must learn the truth that you are loved stay blessed 🙏✝️❤️
If you find yourself harbouring resentment towards yourself, or feeling that your parents are impossible to please, it can lead to anger and frustration. These feelings might also be projected onto God, convincing you His acceptance requires you to be without flaws to receive His blessings, conditioning you to think of yourself as a failure, but this is not true.
God has accepted you as you are, and he has truly accepted you.. but what does that mean to someone who cannot accept themselves? To receive and understand his love for you in each stride requires self acceptance in each stride taken - and he will meet you where you are where others cannot.
Love is the practice to process yourself from a point of acceptance. When you say the words, I believe you mean it.
I was this way
I think I also struggle with this too but I feel like it's justifiable cause I've been in abusive relationships and met people who betrayed my trust and I just naturally can't bring myself to love people. I could be kind, respectful but the affection doesn't just seem to come...
may Jesus Christ also help you in this journey 🙏🏼
I think about and relate to this a lot. One thing I fear deep down is being a fake or a fraud, a tare among wheat. I feel like a Pharisee sometimes!
Some days I feel like I’m not making much progress in regards to my character. It’s like I take one step forward and two steps back. Sanctification takes time for sure, but this part is rough!! 🫠
I pray that God helps us
If you want more love, just pray for more love and believe you shall receive it, being filled with it. It's okay, lizzi 💛 want to love? pray it shall be so, and it will be so ^_^. It is a process. Keep praying, and your faith is built, and you'll notice the progress. God is able where you are not, so God is the source of your love
thank you so much :)
So relatable ❤️🥺✝️
GOD Yahweh Yeshua Is Love.! 1 John 4:8
Jesus Christ our Lord and Savior Loves us Unconditionally.! ❤
We are His Children Made in His Image and Likeness.! Genesis 1:26-27..
Because of the gift of freewill we sin but are saved by Christ's grace of redemption on the Cross, thereby inheriting our heavenly Father's Paradise..!
When we sin God let's us ignore His guidance and be tempted by Satan.
God allows us to wallow in the pig mud and the negative consequences of our sinful ways that follow us until we see the error of our ways..
God patiently waits for us to choose to return to Him like in the parable of the Prodigal Son.. Luke 15:11-32..
But if we choose to permanently and completely deny and separate ourselves from God through our greater pride then God doesn't force us to return to Him.
If we choose to permanently follow the Prince of this materialistic world, Satan, rather than Jesus Christ, the Creator of everything, of Souls, the Universe and Heaven, God won't force us to return to Him but will seek us to the very end, as the Shepherd seeks His Lost Sheep ..Luke 15:4-7
When we choose to return to Jesus He joyously celebrates our return in the Kingdom of God and removes all residue of guilt and shame from us, forgetting our sins..Isaiah 43:25, and loving us unconditionally..!
▪︎“Come now, let us settle the matter,” says the LORD. “Though your sins are like scarlet, they shall be as white as snow; though they are red as crimson, they shall be like wool." (Isaiah 1:18).
▪︎ Jesus Said, "My sheep listen to my voice; I know them, and they follow me. I give them eternal life, and they shall never perish; no one will snatch them out of my hand." (John 10:27-28).
▪︎ "As far as the east is from the west, so far has he removed our transgressions from us." (Psalm 103:12).
▪︎ Jesus said, "Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.” (Matthew 11:28-30).
▪︎ Jesus Christ sacrificed Himself on the Cross paying off the debt of God’s wrath for our sins. For us sinners He suffered and rose from the dead on the 3rd day, victorious over sin, death and Satan.
Christ then sent the Holy Spirit down for us to invoke, to give us Comfort, Guidance and Strength..!
▪︎ Praise to our one true Lord and God YHWH, being 3 divine Persons, the Father, Son and Holy Spirit in union as revealed to us throughout the Holy Scriptures. ❤
▪︎ "It is God who justifies. Who then is the one who condemns? No one. Christ Jesus who died - more than that, who was raised to life - is at the right hand of God and is also interceding for us." (Romans 8:33-34).
So, Jesus bore our sin so we could bear His righteousness. Now when the Father looks at us, He no longer sees our sin ravaged flesh. He sees His Son !
".. The blood of Jesus, his Son, purifies us from all sin.
If we claim to be without sin, we deceive ourselves and the truth is not in us. If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness." (1John 1:7-9).
▪︎ But, "The Accuser Satan accuses us before our God, day and night".. (Revelation 12:10).
Jesus Christ Came To Forgive & Save Not To Condemn and Shame.
▪︎ So Satan accuses and condemns us before our God day and night, guilt tripping and shaming God’s children to feel condemned, and who then act out projecting these dark feelings generated by Unclean Spirits on to others by acting uncharitably towards them.
A victim of a person possessed needs to recalibrate and restore their Soul's condition by Imbibing the gifts of the Holy Spirit and appreciate the reality that Jesus Christ came to forgive and save us and not to shame and condemn us.. John 3:17-19.
Nothing Can Separate Us From God’s Love:
▪︎ "For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord." (Romans 8:38-39).
▪︎ "God didn’t save us according to our works but according to His grace, which was given to us in Christ long before the world began, but it has now been revealed through the appearing of our Savior, Christ Jesus, who has destroyed death and has brought life and immortality to light through the gospel" (2 Timothy 1:9-10).
▪︎ "For by grace you have been saved through faith. And this is not your own doing; it is the gift of God, not a result of works, so that no one may boast." (Ephesians 2:8-9).
▪︎ "For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God, and all are justified freely by his grace through the redemption that came by Christ Jesus." (Romans 3:23-24).
• "For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life." (John 3:16).
▪︎ John the Baptist Said, "Look, the Lamb of God who takes away the sin of the world." (John 1:29).
▪︎ "Jesus atones for our sins and not only ours but also for the sins of the whole world." (1John 2:2).
▪︎ We are children of God made in His Image and Likeness, with the gift of freewill, so we have sinned but are saved by Christ's grace of redemption on the Cross, thereby inheriting our heavenly Father's Paradise..!
God is love ❤ and loves us unconditionally.
If we choose to permanently separate ourselves from God as Satan did, (and who was Not made in the image and Likeness of God) through Pride, then God will not force our freewill to choose nor His grace of redemption from His sacrifice on the Cross onto us.
Saved By Grace & Not By The Law:
▪︎ "For sin will have no dominion over you, since you are not under law but under grace. Sin is no longer your master, for you no longer live under the requirements of the law. Instead, you live under the freedom of God's grace." (Romans 6:14).
▪︎ "But if you are led by the Spirit, you are not under the law. But when you are directed by the Spirit, you are not under obligation to the law of Moses. Why don't you choose to be led by the Spirit and so escape the erratic compulsions of a law-dominated existence?" (Galatians 5:18)..
God Is Love:
▪︎ "Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins." (1 Peter 4:8).
▪︎ "Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love." (1John 4:8).
▪︎ "Do not be overcome by evil but overcome evil with good." (Romans 12:21).
▪︎ "By calling this covenant “new,” he has made the first one obsolete; and what is obsolete and outdated will soon disappear" (Hebrews 8:12-13; 10:12-22).
▪︎ "Love does no wrong to a neighbor therefore Love is the fulfilling of the Law" (Rom 13:10; Matt 22:30-40).
▪︎ "Whoever does not Love does not know God because God is Love" (1John 4:8).
▪︎ "Anyone who hates a brother or sister is a murderer, and you know that no murderer has eternal life residing in him" (1John 3:15).
▪︎ "The Lord examines the righteous, but the wicked, those who love violence, he hates with a passion" (Psalms 11:5).
Christ's 2 Greatest Commandments Are To Love:
▪︎ "Hearing that Jesus had silenced the Sadducees, the Pharisees got together.
One of them, an expert in the law, tested him with this question:
"Teacher, which is the greatest commandment in the Law?”
1. Jesus replied: “‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’ This is the first and greatest commandment."
2. "And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself, love your enemy and pray for those who persecute you"’
☆ "All the Law and the Prophets hang on these two commandments” (Matthew 22:30-40, 7:12 ).
▪︎ Jesus condemns OT violence and Rituals etc.
▪︎ Jesus said, You have heard it said, "an eye for eye, etc. But I tell you, Love your enemy" (Matt 5:38-48).
Hallelu Yah Yeshua Hamashiach .....
Thank you and thank you Jesus for instilling in this beautiful Lizzi, for being obedient for her posting this. Continue to show your endless love to her, as your Child, as you daughter- just as you beautifully said sister . " So because of that everything that goes against who He is can no longe be a part of me because my old self has died and I been made a new creation in Christ". HOLY MOLY SISTER WOWCHILLS JESUS IS WORKING IN YOU EVEN IF YOU DO NOT FEEL IT HE LOVES U I LOVE U
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I just want to let you know that you aren't alone in this struggle. I am a 37 year old wife and mother who struggles with loving others as the biblical definition of love. I fail constantly, and unfortunately, I don't have the answers either. The holy spirit is our only helper, may He guide us both into the peace that surpasses all human understanding and love.
AMEN 🙏🏼
Lizzi I don't know you but I love you eternally because.very virtuous wise and extremely pretty 💗 💖 💓 💕 ❤️ ♥️ 💗
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thanks for sharing sister ❤️ God bless you
right back atcha!!
I pray to God for Love, Courage & Wisdom. 🤓🇬🇧💯🏃🙏🙏🙏❤️🥴
Very Relatable
I relate with you a lot, and I am also Christian myself. Funnily enough I'm actually producing a video about love on my channel as well, so I hope I can live up to your quality. Great video my sister in Christ, amen!
just be you! no need to match what i got going on! the Lord will lead you
Your doing great!!!!! Just keep your eyes on JESUS!!!!! Never give up.. 🖤✝️🪨🌈🔥💥🗡️🪔🕯️🙏
amen 🙏🏼
Sister, same... I recommend you to go 'monk' mode, focus on God and change social circle at least for 1 month. You'll come differently and if you stay firm in that change, it is so hard when your family looks at you with desbelief but it's not at you, but at Christ. Stay firm in your change, it is good behavior because your family notices it and even tries to bring you down, ask for strenght. Don't give up, fight with more love, a love that burns inside and gets bigger when they insult you. But... I'm looking if there's a way I can move out because my family doesn't respect me in their house, now I'm living in grandma's house for peace.
Love is a fruit of the Holy Spirit, look for him to fill you up more
Have you ever thought that it is not you that is the problem but your family.Think about it and see❤
maybe, but God is working in me right now
Grace.
We are living in days that were spoken of. The bible speaks of days where love will grow cold and people will lack natural affection.
I've been through the same thing
Do start finding start forgiving yourself when you pray then you can pray for others the leave it at the alter its god job to the rest you just plant seed leave him yo be gardner trust in lord have faith thats true test amen spread the love
Hang in there lil dude