Kristen's method is useful, but Chell might be a little too young for it still. Cory's method is what you want right now. However, you guys get an A+ for not giving into her at all. NEVER give into a tantrum. The moment you do, she will learn that she can get her way with tantrums. It's hard, but it really is the best thing for her.
MatsuyoRific 100%. I work at a store like Marshalls and it's so sad to see how many parents give into their children's temper tantrums at the register. Soooooooo many parents give in and buy the toys and candy, further enforcing their kids to act this way the the store....
I work at Meijer, and I always try to reassure parents that they are doing a good job. I know how nerve wracking it can be when your kid is throwing a public tantrum, and you're worried about onlookers judging you for it.
Years ago there was a little girl at church who decided it was time to play...LOUD during a silent prayer. Grandpa quietly picked up the girl and headed out of the sanctuary to the “cry room”. At the door the girl wailed “PRAY FOR ME!” It was so funny, and also ended our silent prayer! A tired child cannot be reasoned with. But it was a good try. 😀
When my son was two ,I told him he couldn't have sweets right before lunch ,he had the biggest tantrum,and was telling help out of the car window all the way home ,I thought I was going to be pulled over for kidnapping a child lol 😀😀😀😀😀😀😀😀😀
I'm not a mom but my parents were babysitting my cousin for a little while and this boy HATED baths. He was like DEATHLY terrified of getting water in his face. Every time we gave him baths he would cry so loud I'm sure the neighbors could hear him. Could not reason with him, this kid was crying bloody murder. It sounded like we were abusing a child so I was actually worried someone would call the cops on us lmao... but they didn't. 😂 (Eventually I told my friend about this and she suggested putting a towel on his forehead to prevent water from streaming down his face and lo and behold IT WORKED. He was one happy boy in the bath.... jeez lol)
I love how you let her calm down and accompanied her through that emotional outbreak in the middle of the isle. You're giving her the chance to figure things out her way, but yet you are there in case she needs you. You're doing everything right❤️
Chiara von Grabe right?! So many parents are rude with their children in those situations. So sad. :( You two are fantastic parents. And did everything right in my opinion.
I feel like you can do the same thing outside of the store (in the car, maybe) to show that you have a zero-tolerance policy for public tantrum throwing. That's part of teaching. You can scoop up and walk out and still be gentle and guiding.
I didn't have this problem when my daughter was 2, but the 3's were a nightmare for about a two week period while we went through a manipulative power struggle. Be strong, stay firm, and remember you are the parent, the authority figure, and they are just the bossy little things 😉. As long as you don't give in during these 'power' struggles you'll come through them fine, with a sweet and respective child when it's over. It can get hard, and it can get deafening at times, but don't give into the tantrum, because no one is happy when a toddler is running rough shod over the household.
Hear hear, solid advice. Three was also worse for us than two & it's important to remember to never give in to a tantrum. Stand firm and it'll pass. Absolutely!
Please don't get offended, but it is so wonderful to see Chell without her pacifier. I love to see her smile, here her talk, and watch her happy facial expressions.
When my little cousins would have store tantrums, I would take them outside and have them sit somewhere until they calmed down. So much goes through their head at that age, it can be so overwhelming. Once they get it out of their system, they can usually listen to reason and I would bring them back in. The only wrong thing you can do is yell at a kid mid tantrum. That just feeds their fire lol
I blame the store for putting impulse buy stuff at a two year olds eye level. It's is the stores fault. They do that on purpose to set your child off. And make you spend money so your child doesn't make a scene. They are counting on the parents who won't try to actually parent in the check out line and will just resort to blackmail tactics. Refreshing to see you use actual parenting and distraction techniques. Saying no is an imporantant lesson for both child and parent when both parties realize that they still dearly love each other afterwords.
First, yesterday you did mention that she didn't have her nap and stayed up til night time, so maybe she's a little bit more fussy because her sleep schedule was unusual the day before. Second, I think the best is to anticipate those situations. Once the tantrum has started it's much harder to reason with, indeed (I think you did right trying to talk it out first though... but if you see she's definitely not able to listen or reason at the moment and it only gets worse, then Cory was also right to step in and put an end to the situation). Explain to Chell IN ADVANCE before even entering the store, when she's still calm and listening, what you're going to the store for, that the other items in the store are only for trying then leaving it there (like kindergarten stuff I guess), involve her in your shopping, assign her small tasks or occupations instead of letting her wander around and pick-up random items (maybe bring one of her toys/books she loves or that is still new to her, to distract her)... basically give her a positive behavior to stick to. Kids do much better when you tell them how to behave and what they CAN do, because if there's only things that they CAN'T do, there's frustration. You can't suppress their spontaneous behavior without putting in place a positive one. Also, I think you have started introducing time outs, and in case she really behaves badly, give her a clear warning of the consequences and if she continues, apply them (IMO a 2 minute time out can be applied almost anywhere, even on a parking lot, near your car). But in this specific case, I think she was only tired and needed a rest from this place full of stimuli and temptations. Another good clue is that she was kicking her shoes off, she must have been tired of standing and walking.
Yup my kids have had time outs in stores. I would tell tell them, when they began acting up, " there is a corner no matter where we are at". Our 36 year old son still remembers standing in the store corner, just once though.
3s are worse than the 2s. Best thing is just to remove her from the area and if its a fit over not getting her way, DO NOT GIVE IN. Thats basically a trap lol
The terrible twos are not really terrible at all. This is learning how to be human, not learning how to be 'terrible'. My daughter had meltdowns in Walmart when she was in that stage. It is hard not to react negatively but staying calm is best for everyone.
Good idea taking Chell out of the store. You were right, you can’t reason with a crazy person. I used to take my kids out of the store right away when they acted that way. No sense bothering ever shopper in the place because my kid is tired or not getting their way. I’d take them out and deal with them in private. It also taught them that the tantrums won’t work, so they eventually stopped. Win-win!
Tracy Worby The absolute best comment on here! Thank you! This is the best way to deal with it and most considerate of other people. "Ignoring" it is not the way to handle it. That is most people's philosophy and one of the resons why there are so many spoiled children running around. It is also why the younger generation is so inconsiderate of others. This comment probably won't set to well with some people, but unfortunately it's the truth.
Crying in the aisle is fine. Just ignore the people around you. Getting down to her level is a good idea and picking her up and leaving the store is also great. The worst thing you can do is to give in to them and be sure to have your parents follow the same rules that you have put into place,
was she tired, ready for a nap? hungry? i tried to avoid going anyplace with the kids unless they had naps and a meal beforehand. my son became a hell on wheels once he hit two, never grew out of it. my second one stayed sweet until he hit 30.
The fact that she fell asleep as soon as you got her in the car is your biggest clue. She was TIRED, thus the tantrum. You guys are the parents, you've got to pay attention to things like that. I know she's big and your stroller is probably just for Atlas, but Cory could pick her up and let her rest in his arms when she gets to that 'overly tired' point. Toddlers have short little legs and short strides, they have to take three or four steps to keep up with your one, they wear out and they maybe cannot express that they're tired in words, but they can in their actions. So many 'tantrums' are just tired toddlers Please be aware of that.
Kittyintheraiyn I think they did a great job. Chell, like all children, has to learn to self regulate. When she hit her wall they did what needed to get done. They know their kid better than we do. The unsolicited advice probably not necessary.
Your calm reaction to Chell's meltdown was perfect and then just taking her out of the store was the answer. It's upsetting to see parents yelling at and humiliating their children in these situations. A suggestion, why not have Chell ride in the "princess seat" in the cart. She can hold a toy or book and look around but can't physically touch and play with things she can't have. She won't see as much either. You can talk with her and maybe notice faster if she's getting tired. Also, for now, make shopping with the kids in and out. Stick to the list and go. Will save over tired and over stimulated kids. Just some thoughts.
you did good. let her cry it out somewhere safe and quiet, and talk to her softly, talk to her about what she is feeling. terrible 2s can last even up to four years old!
bubgum00 -- hahaha, right!? I thought the three's were bad but mine just graduated high school and WHEW. People always say "wait until they're teenagers" but you just never know until you know.
Kristen,I have 2 daughters and they had their moments but not tantrums...when they began to fuss as little ones do, that was my cue to leave the store. I do understand that every situation is different, so I got out fast to avoid so many eyes at my kiddos! It'll get better with experience!😊💟🐞
Everyone who have kids have gone thru a melt down its life what bugs me is the people who say my kid would never do that cause they will and as far as cloths I bet everyone has a pile somewhere I love how you show real life 💗💗💗💗💗
Tantrums can be tricky, sometimes it's not always just a "I want this and I can't have it so I am upset" Sometimes they are just worn out and tired and don't have the ability to fully communicate that. It did seem like it was a mix of both for Chell this time. It's nice to see you guys didn't get angry or yell at her, you guys stayed calm and explained to her the best you could WHY she couldn't have the stuff. Plus you just removed her from the situation and kept your heads on straight. I don't think I'd have the temperament or patience for that. So props to you.
From what I could see, you handled the situation perfectly well. You didn't lose your temper with her and just let her get it out, that's what I do with me nephew. I just give him kisses and let him get rid of the frustration, within reason haha
Kristen, I'm tellin' ya, Wave a little Lavender tincture under her nose and try as she might, she will not be able to continue having a tantrum. It is Amazing how fast and well it works. Oh and yep, the first big hormonal change comes at Two, then Four, Eight, Twelve and Sixteen. Guess ya better get use to it and have plenty of Lavender around, as well as Red Rasberry Leaf Tea is great for the gals. : ) If you want a giggle, go back and take a peek at the look that store worker gave Cory. It was funny because she whipped her head around and gave him a look that said something like "No you Didn't! You did Not just make a joke and laugh at that hard working Mom trying to discipline her child (not knowing you were together), and that is not a camera !!" Made me laugh.
It's hard to balance between letting them work it out and not annoying other customers. Teaching them that at home behavior isn't always allowed in public (like stores and restaurants). I have seen parents just walk away and let the kid throw that tantrum to scooping them up and walking out of the store until they settle down. I guess it all depends on your own child how to handle things. What does or does not work for Chell may or may not work for Atlas. Parenting is very hard but I do know ALL kids have to have guidelines and ground rules that they must follow 100% of the time. A spoiled child turns into a spoiled teen/adult that thinks the world owes them and they are not pleasant to be around. A well adjusted child turns into a loving person who has friends and is pleasant to be around.
I don't think its ever acceptable to walk away in a store though, you don't want them to think you are abandoning them. Removing them from the situation however makes total sense, especially as it seems clear she was just tired in this case.
Alex, I would never walk away and it always shocked me when others did. Besides the abandoning issues, it's just to dangerous now days. Only 1 of my kids ever threw a tantrum in public; I got down to her level like Kristen did and told her that if she embarrassed me in public, I would embarrass her. She stopped and never did it again. My son never tried it. LOL
Umm i think that counts more so as i need a nap, i wouldn't count that as a tantrum it didn't result in screaming and flailing and someone saying "stop it or you go out to the car".
I think you two handled it just right. Consistency is key. Taking her out of the store quickly lets her know that crying on the floor won't get her what she wants. Good teamwork!
Chel reminds me of my daughter. Chel is 1 week older. I always try to remember how frustrating it must be to not be able to fully express your wants and needs yet. It helps me not become as overwhelmed. We got this!!!
You did well handling that tantrum! Staying firm but compassionate is important. Teaching kids the parents are in charge, early is important. Kids will test the limits, stay strong guys!
Terrible two's is definitely a thing. And she's definitely in it! They are trying to find their independence. They nap less and don't want to miss anything. Want everything and don't want to hear no. But you guys are awesome and will get through it!
As a mom I have no problem with other children's melt downs n the store, we all have been there. It's just when it escalates into a power struggle where the parent is yelling n the kiddo is yelling. You handled it well❤️
Aww the terrible two's and three's and four's. LOL! Just remember kids don't raise themselves, that's why you were blessed with her... to parent her. Discipline is good and gives structure and that looks different for every kid and situation. I never wanted to disturb others around me. They are there to enjoy their shopping trip and shouldn't have to endure my kids tantrum. My momma said there'd be days like this and there were plenty. LOL!
yup it was a mixture of terrible twos and quite possibly tiredness, but letting her cry it out and talking softly is the best course of action. Well done, you handled that beautifully
I officially welcome you to the start of the terrible 2's. My daughter started hers at around 18 months! She is now 26 years old. BTW from what you filmed in the store Kristen you handled that beautifully!KUDOS!
I was just remembering my son's tantrum he once threw at the mall ten years ago. Hes twelve now. He threw himself onto the ground and screamed relentlessly refusing to walk. He was very tired and worn out anyway at that point. Everyone was staring at me. I was so embarrassed and didn't know what to do. Luckily we weren't in a restaurant or anything like that, so I just scooped him up while he flailed in my arms. I let him cry it out in the car. I legit looked like a kidnapped. We didn't drive until he was calm. I sat in the car with him while he was kicking my seat and screaming for twenty minutes until he said sorry mommy. He took a much needed nap when we got home. There's no reasoning with the terrible twos.
When my 2 little sisters went through the terrible twos (my third little sister is just starting them.... woo) we just had to pick them up, walk out of the shop and either stand outside or sit in the car until they calmed down and then go back in. Admittedly it's not ideal when there's only one adult present but it worked, the talking them through their tantrum is a great method when they're a bit older but right now I think she's a little too young to understand which is easy to forget considering how bright she is. Either way, I think you handled it really well, you didn't lose your temper, shout at her or get snappy with her even though I'm sure it was frustrating :) Just keep trying different methods until you find one that works and don't let anyone judge you for it, you know how to handle your kid better than anyone else
Yes this is the beginning of the tantrum phase. My method for dealing with public tantrums, was a simple, but effective one for my son. As soon as the tantrum started, it was time to go sit in the car. Once in the car, he either calmed down and we went back in or it was back home for nap time. Be firm and don't give in! She will quickly learn what behavior is acceptable as long as you are consistent. She's a very intelligent little one and you are doing a great job!
What I find best to do during a tantrum is to first put myself in that position “ I know that you really want that food...” then correct the behavior “but to cry on the floor in the middle of the store is not nice, we don’t do that” and finally offer a choice “so do you want to go to the car and have some food there or have it at home?” And that usually works for me although when they are tired you might have to repeat the proces a few times ( just my honest opinion) i think what you did was great!
It's hard for everyone when your child turns 2, they're in the in between stage, not a baby anymore and yet not quit able to communicate they way they want to. After working with 2 year old for 8 years, I can tell you people do not give enough credit to their 2 year old's. They are very smart, they learn at an incredible rate. At this age they already know bad words and use them correctly in a sentence. You did great. The only thing that I would maybe suggest is that whom ever starts the talking or discipline, finishes the it. That way she will see that both of you are on the equal and not give Kristin a harder time, waiting for dad to come in and mean business. Have a great day. GB to you and yours.
You did great! Having adult anxiety and getting over stimulated...… I totally get it! Even though your not heard in the moment, I would say keep doing it because you never know and it didn't get outta hand.
As a mom of a two year old you did fabulous job and there is no real reasoning at this age and it’s ok! I promise it does get better I watched both sons go through this girls are worse than boys with tantrums I think
I honestly think you both did really well. I was soooo lucky - mine hardly had any tantrums while out - but certainly one of them did at home! I agree that Cory did what needed doing right now. Kristen your method will probably be great when Chell is a bit older. Anyway I love you two - excellent parents. Also, at least Chell clearly had a good reason - she turned out to be very tired. Sometimes there is no reason for a tantrum - just a difficult phase.
My cousin's daughter had a tantrum at the family reunion once. He carried her out upside-down while she was bawling her eyes out. My family thought it was hilarious. With all the little ones in my family, we are very much used to tantrums like that.
The first time our son had a tantrum in a store, we told him if he didn't stop he was going out to the car with Daddy while Mommy finished shopping and he would have to sit there and be bored for as long as it took. He continued and Daddy did what we said. It NEVER happened again. I think that no matter what consequences you choose (time out, etc.) that as long as you follow through it will work. The worst thing you can do is say "if you continue will happen" and then NOT follow through.
I know everyone calls them the terrible 2’s but I wish I had heard this when my kids were that age, a friend called them the terrific 2’s and the tremendous 3’s. So think on those terms and not so much the negative terms. I hope this makes sense. Chill will have bad days and times but don’t let them become your focus which is really easy to do. Kids crave attention as you already know so don’t give them the attention in negative actions but rather the opposite. You are doing a great job so far. Also remember to not going shopping close to bedtime or nap time or meltdowns happen more often. Btw here are a couple of tips for getting rid of the binky. 1 she can only have the binky at naptime or bedtime she leaves hers upstairs in her room and when Atlas doesn’t need his put it out of sight for Chell. The second is take and cut a slit tiny at first into the tip. It makes her get air and not as much sucking sensation. Keep making the slit or hole bigger until she will throw it away herself because it doesn’t work. Hope this helps.
You handled Chell's tantrum so well! Even though you did have to remove her from the scene, you made the attempt to reach her. She was probably a little overstimulated by all the colorful objects around her. Plus she was tired. :)
Yes it is the terrible 2’s it’s mainly when they are tired as well my 2 year old son is the same he hates being in a cart and wants touch everything, and open it .. gets mad when he can’t .. I have a 2 month old as well and I’m not anxious to go through this again lol But I think you guys are the best parents!
My mom would always leave our cart of stuff if we were being ... unreasonable... and take us out to the car till we calmed down. Indigo Nili here on youtube has such a fluid way of telling her kids no when they ask for stuff in stores, it's amazing and now tears!
My son's "twos" started at about 18 months. For many years I had Nick convinced that we "visited" all the toys at Toys R Us, where we kept them. It's not funny now (he's 24).
My friend's daughter went through a period for about 3 or so years where shed throw a tantrum in a store to get what she wanted because my friend would give into her to get her to stop. She finally got over it because I forced my friend to stop giving into it. My friend's daughter would do it with me but I stopped it real quick with me.
You probably won't see this(honestly it's been like 12 days I don't expect it at all.), but what I do with my daughter who is 2 1/2ish months older than Chell is just hold her. I give her a firm hug and I don't say much of anything other than maybe a little "I know, baby I know." and carry on with the task as much as I can while repeating this until we are done. She'll go in and out of it but she knows at least that I'm there and listening. There is no reasoning with the cranky crazy toddlers but there is lots of love to be had.
Just be consistent. You guys did great. You can't reason with a two year old. Several times I remember just putting down what I was buying and took kids home. It's hard when they're tired and you're tired, just don't cave. Mixed messages are a whole other set of worms. W
Sweet video. My parents didn't take the time to reason with us when we were small, our 'reasoning' forebrains were a long way from being developed. One of them would immediately take whoever was fussing away from the rest of the family, explaining why we were leaving (actually they probably said something like 'little savages can't hang with sane people') and the other parent would stay with the kids who were behaving, continuing the activity. It was quite a punishment not to be able to participate in whatever the rest of the family was doing. We learned emotionally at that age, all the fear, tears, rage, love, contentment and happiness that we went through was all part of being a kid. When we got bigger and more rebellious the parental reaction (ahem) adjusted to the circumstances. We all turned out O.K., not too damaged, ha!
6:05 I think it's good that Atlas "stands himself up", you should try and make him do it more (safely of course), it's great for his back and legs muscles!
Cory was right: two-year-olds are too young for reasoning. I'm sure you've been reading about child development, so just remember that this is a really important stage, when Chell is learning to test limits and assert herself. She needs to know that she can do that, and you will still love and accept her even while you don't let her have her way all the time. It's important to set limits, but also important to give her a couple of choices, knowing that she might melt down sometimes anyway. My cousin is a child psychologist, and one day I saw her handle a similar moment (see, even professionals' kids have their rough times). When her son lay down on the floor (face down) and made a fuss over something, she knelt next to him, spoke to him very quietly, and rubbed his back gently until he calmed down. It didn't even take that long. (Today he's a wonderful college student: kind, generous, and hard-working, just so you know these things turn out okay.) You also may want to limit the amount of time you spend in tempting places like stores, because tantrums get worse when the child is tired or hungry. Hang in there -- and know that Chell is going through a normal and important developmental stage.
I think too, Chell was very tired. When kids start acting up like that they are either don’t feel well or are tired. I think you both handled it perfectly though. 😊❤️
Welcome to the world of the "Terrible Twos". She was just very tired. You handled it well. I used to tell my kids if I buy it now I won't have anything to buy you for your birthday or Christmas. They usually settled down after that. Maybe that would help next time.
Do you know something guys I’m a nursery teacher I tell parents everyday the correct way to speak to your child and when it came to my children it wasnt that easy. It’s as if with my one I forget logic boundaries and fear of being watched threw them all up in the air ! So no one can tell you correct way. We can tell you from experience and adapt how you wish what works for you.....good luck my child’s nearly 18 they say it easier. I must admit I haven’t experienced that yet. You worry a hell of a lot more 😂😂😂😂😂
I used to let mine cry it out, but we would leave the cart and go outside the store so she could scream and then when she was ready to go back into the store we found our cart and continued shopping, or checked out (or not) depending on how "over it" she was. It seems like maybe Chell was just really tired, but it could be terrible 2s. I know we were standing outside stores from the time my daughter was 19 mos.(weather allowing of course)
Children reach an age when they experiment with forms of manipulation. They want to know what they can do to get what they want, and how far they have to go. It's an important stage of self-awareness, because we all grow to grasp how to control our lives.
To paraphrase Rene Descartes: "Logic is an organized method of going wrong with confidence." 8-D I'll also paraphrase my sister: "The Terrible Twos are just practice for the Threes. And Fours."
I'm a cashier, I see customers' kids throw tantrums all the time. I'm proud of y'all for not giving in and buying her the extra stuff. Kids need to know that no means no, and it drives me crazy when a parent says no then turns around and buys them it to keep them quiet. It teaches them that if they scream loud enough they'll get what they want. I know it can be hard and embarrassing at times, but parents (or whoever is with the child) need to be firm. I try not to judge, but when I do, I judge someone a lot harsher for giving in to a crying kid than for someone letting the kid cry it out. Kids want stuff, and sometimes they cry when they're told no; it's okay, it's normal. There's nothing to be embarrassed about. And if someone has something to say about it, they either have never taken care of a child or they're just an idiot.
I’ll take that tantrum any day! Lol as long as they are safe, I’ll ignore my kids tantrums so they know it doesn’t work to get what they want. You did a good job.
My theory about the "terrible twos" was that it was the 2-year span of time between the ages of 1 1/2 and 3 1/2. I noticed that about the time most of the fits stopped was right around when their language skills came in. Have you taught her toddler sign language? That seems to help. In any case, y'all are doing a great job and anyone that has ever had kids KNOWS what the fit in the store thing is about and we are smiling right along with you. It is hard.
I’m on my 4th and currently on my 3rd terrible two. I’ve learned you just ignore!! Eventually they learn that behavior will get them nowhere and they stop.
Huggles to you and Cory Kristen much love. I always have seen cory as an older brother and & can connect to him because I have adhd which is like his add but abit more hyperactive its thanks to you guys and people like you and the I get from it I am able to continoue my battle with depression I have from chronic pains and life in general so thank you both from the bottom of my heart. And Gbye! 😊☺
You'll figure out what works best for now and it sounds like you made it work fine. Chelll is so smart, she may reach the reasoning stage earlier than some. Parenting styles differ and you are so sweet and gentle with Chell. I rarely had hubby with me while shopping so I usually would get right up in my kid's faces and put on scary mommy quiet/threatening voice and face and have a serious word with them. I think I only ever had to leave a store once. I grew up with the phrase, "Do we need to go to the bathroom?" I'm sure you can figure out what that means. I used that only a few times but also told them I was willing to give them a swat right in front of everybody if they kept it up. I think I only ever had to do that once too. I don't think you guys are swatting parents though, you're too sweet, even when you get frustrated. ♥ Just don't worry about side eyes from Judgy McJudgersons, they couldn't do nearly as good as you. You are awesome parents, always carry that thought with you!
My little sister skipped the terrible twos but we got a threenager. She was is so sassy and demands that you do everything for her. She also insists that she is still baby so it’s interesting.
Aaaw, you did good. You were calm and firm with your expectations. She is immature and learning. You are setting a great example. Miss Chell was tired too.
A combination of both your strategies is best, in my opinion. Gently picking up the child while assuring her feelings while removing her from the stimulus that caused the tantrum usually helps. Worked wonders for my niece when she was Chell's age.
I don't know if anyone mentioned having her in a cart instead of running all over the store. Less temptations that way. If they get used to riding in one from the get-go, half the tantrum battles could be eliminated. Children don't understand when they're her age that they can't have everything they see but running loose lets them grab whatever trips their fantasy at the moment. And telling them 'don't touch' does no good. In a cart takes away a lot of temptations when they're this young.
Buy some cute ones for you and Cory. You are young. Enjoy your youth. I just bought a Ventura purse from The Sak. Real leather for 100 or less. Atlas looks like his papa.
I'm not a mother but what worked for my parents with me, was if I started throwing a fit my dad would take me out to the car. We would sit there with no music or anything and my dad would just explain to me that big girls don't act up in stores and if we acted out like that we'd just go to the car where it's boring. I learned really quick! I was never spanked or anything like that. But maybe cory taking chell out to the car and just calmly explaining to her why going into the store is a privilege? I dunno if she's too small to understand that though. Whatever you choose to do I'm sure it will work well! Chell seems like a sweet little girl. maybe she was just overly tired!
as a retired teacher assistant and was the babysitter Auntie for my nephews and now a part time nanny/babysitter I would say..yes I do believe that is what is known as the terrible twos but this too will pass....and then the teenage years lol
hope this doenst bring up any bad blood, but the expensive bag game I remember and started doing it because of Cory's old vlogs with katers. Thats how I know that old game. Anyone else with me from back then? Had quite the flashback when Cory mentioned the game.
Chell has the most adorable tantrums ever. ☺️ when my daughter has a tantrum I wanna spray holy water on her and call a priest to perform an exorcism 😂🙈 you've handled it so great. I wish I could stay that calm 🙈
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Kristen's method is useful, but Chell might be a little too young for it still. Cory's method is what you want right now. However, you guys get an A+ for not giving into her at all. NEVER give into a tantrum. The moment you do, she will learn that she can get her way with tantrums. It's hard, but it really is the best thing for her.
MatsuyoRific 100%. I work at a store like Marshalls and it's so sad to see how many parents give into their children's temper tantrums at the register. Soooooooo many parents give in and buy the toys and candy, further enforcing their kids to act this way the the store....
That is the truth. Ive learned the hard way with my first. Im paying for it now trying to break this little game of hers
I work at Meijer, and I always try to reassure parents that they are doing a good job. I know how nerve wracking it can be when your kid is throwing a public tantrum, and you're worried about onlookers judging you for it.
You're right. You can't reason with a 2 yr old. Kristen, that will work when she is around 4. Good job!
Don't negotiate with terrorists! ;)
Years ago there was a little girl at church who decided it was time to play...LOUD during a silent prayer. Grandpa quietly picked up the girl and headed out of the sanctuary to the “cry room”. At the door the girl wailed “PRAY FOR ME!” It was so funny, and also ended our silent prayer! A tired child cannot be reasoned with. But it was a good try. 😀
Atlas' "standing himself up" shows how good his reflexes are! Can't wait to see him old enough to really stand!
When my son was two ,I told him he couldn't have sweets right before lunch ,he had the biggest tantrum,and was telling help out of the car window all the way home ,I thought I was going to be pulled over for kidnapping a child lol 😀😀😀😀😀😀😀😀😀
bonnita- marie decarvalho hahah! What a shit head.
bonnita- marie decarvalho.... That is so cute, but I bet it wasn't then,,, lol 😂 ♥️
I'm not a mom but my parents were babysitting my cousin for a little while and this boy HATED baths. He was like DEATHLY terrified of getting water in his face. Every time we gave him baths he would cry so loud I'm sure the neighbors could hear him. Could not reason with him, this kid was crying bloody murder. It sounded like we were abusing a child so I was actually worried someone would call the cops on us lmao... but they didn't. 😂
(Eventually I told my friend about this and she suggested putting a towel on his forehead to prevent water from streaming down his face and lo and behold IT WORKED. He was one happy boy in the bath.... jeez lol)
I love how you let her calm down and accompanied her through that emotional outbreak in the middle of the isle. You're giving her the chance to figure things out her way, but yet you are there in case she needs you. You're doing everything right❤️
Chiara von Grabe right?! So many parents are rude with their children in those situations. So sad. :(
You two are fantastic parents. And did everything right in my opinion.
I feel like you can do the same thing outside of the store (in the car, maybe) to show that you have a zero-tolerance policy for public tantrum throwing. That's part of teaching. You can scoop up and walk out and still be gentle and guiding.
I didn't have this problem when my daughter was 2, but the 3's were a nightmare for about a two week period while we went through a manipulative power struggle. Be strong, stay firm, and remember you are the parent, the authority figure, and they are just the bossy little things 😉. As long as you don't give in during these 'power' struggles you'll come through them fine, with a sweet and respective child when it's over. It can get hard, and it can get deafening at times, but don't give into the tantrum, because no one is happy when a toddler is running rough shod over the household.
Hear hear, solid advice. Three was also worse for us than two & it's important to remember to never give in to a tantrum. Stand firm and it'll pass. Absolutely!
Please don't get offended, but it is so wonderful to see Chell without her pacifier. I love to see her smile, here her talk, and watch her happy facial expressions.
When my little cousins would have store tantrums, I would take them outside and have them sit somewhere until they calmed down. So much goes through their head at that age, it can be so overwhelming. Once they get it out of their system, they can usually listen to reason and I would bring them back in. The only wrong thing you can do is yell at a kid mid tantrum. That just feeds their fire lol
I blame the store for putting impulse buy stuff at a two year olds eye level. It's is the stores fault. They do that on purpose to set your child off. And make you spend money so your child doesn't make a scene. They are counting on the parents who won't try to actually parent in the check out line and will just resort to blackmail tactics. Refreshing to see you use actual parenting and distraction techniques. Saying no is an imporantant lesson for both child and parent when both parties realize that they still dearly love each other afterwords.
Jennifer Gross
In Germany it's called "Quengelware" (pester power item) and shops are forced by law to have at least one check out line without it.
Jennifer that is a great idea! More places need to do that.
First, yesterday you did mention that she didn't have her nap and stayed up til night time, so maybe she's a little bit more fussy because her sleep schedule was unusual the day before.
Second, I think the best is to anticipate those situations. Once the tantrum has started it's much harder to reason with, indeed (I think you did right trying to talk it out first though... but if you see she's definitely not able to listen or reason at the moment and it only gets worse, then Cory was also right to step in and put an end to the situation). Explain to Chell IN ADVANCE before even entering the store, when she's still calm and listening, what you're going to the store for, that the other items in the store are only for trying then leaving it there (like kindergarten stuff I guess), involve her in your shopping, assign her small tasks or occupations instead of letting her wander around and pick-up random items (maybe bring one of her toys/books she loves or that is still new to her, to distract her)... basically give her a positive behavior to stick to. Kids do much better when you tell them how to behave and what they CAN do, because if there's only things that they CAN'T do, there's frustration. You can't suppress their spontaneous behavior without putting in place a positive one.
Also, I think you have started introducing time outs, and in case she really behaves badly, give her a clear warning of the consequences and if she continues, apply them (IMO a 2 minute time out can be applied almost anywhere, even on a parking lot, near your car). But in this specific case, I think she was only tired and needed a rest from this place full of stimuli and temptations. Another good clue is that she was kicking her shoes off, she must have been tired of standing and walking.
Yup my kids have had time outs in stores. I would tell tell them, when they began acting up, " there is a corner no matter where we are at". Our 36 year old son still remembers standing in the store corner, just once though.
3s are worse than the 2s. Best thing is just to remove her from the area and if its a fit over not getting her way, DO NOT GIVE IN. Thats basically a trap lol
The terrible twos are not really terrible at all. This is learning how to be human, not learning how to be 'terrible'. My daughter had meltdowns in Walmart when she was in that stage. It is hard not to react negatively but staying calm is best for everyone.
Good idea taking Chell out of the store. You were right, you can’t reason with a crazy person. I used to take my kids out of the store right away when they acted that way. No sense bothering ever shopper in the place because my kid is tired or not getting their way. I’d take them out and deal with them in private. It also taught them that the tantrums won’t work, so they eventually stopped. Win-win!
Tracy Worby The absolute best comment on here! Thank you! This is the best way to deal with it and most considerate of other people. "Ignoring" it is not the way to handle it. That is most people's philosophy and one of the resons why there are so many spoiled children running around. It is also why the younger generation is so inconsiderate of others. This comment probably won't set to well with some people, but unfortunately it's the truth.
I agree. 🙂👍
Crying in the aisle is fine. Just ignore the people around you. Getting down to her level is a good idea and picking her up and leaving the store is also great. The worst thing you can do is to give in to them and be sure to have your parents follow the same rules that you have put into place,
Having the grandparents follow the rules you lay down is sooo incredibly important! I agree!
Yes! Ours didn't follow and know we have materialistic issues and emotional episodes.
was she tired, ready for a nap? hungry? i tried to avoid going anyplace with the kids unless they had naps and a meal beforehand. my son became a hell on wheels once he hit two, never grew out of it. my second one stayed sweet until he hit 30.
The fact that she fell asleep as soon as you got her in the car is your biggest clue. She was TIRED, thus the tantrum. You guys are the parents, you've got to pay attention to things like that. I know she's big and your stroller is probably just for Atlas, but Cory could pick her up and let her rest in his arms when she gets to that 'overly tired' point. Toddlers have short little legs and short strides, they have to take three or four steps to keep up with your one, they wear out and they maybe cannot express that they're tired in words, but they can in their actions. So many 'tantrums' are just tired toddlers Please be aware of that.
Kittyintheraiyn I think they did a great job. Chell, like all children, has to learn to self regulate. When she hit her wall they did what needed to get done. They know their kid better than we do. The unsolicited advice probably not necessary.
Your calm reaction to Chell's meltdown was perfect and then just taking her out of the store was the answer. It's upsetting to see parents yelling at and humiliating their children in these situations. A suggestion, why not have Chell ride in the "princess seat" in the cart. She can hold a toy or book and look around but can't physically touch and play with things she can't have. She won't see as much either. You can talk with her and maybe notice faster if she's getting tired. Also, for now, make shopping with the kids in and out. Stick to the list and go. Will save over tired and over stimulated kids. Just some thoughts.
you did good. let her cry it out somewhere safe and quiet, and talk to her softly, talk to her about what she is feeling. terrible 2s can last even up to four years old!
VioletNinetales Terrible teens.
bubgum00 -- hahaha, right!? I thought the three's were bad but mine just graduated high school and WHEW. People always say "wait until they're teenagers" but you just never know until you know.
Kristen,I have 2 daughters and they had their moments but not tantrums...when they began to fuss as little ones do, that was my cue to leave the store. I do understand that every situation is different, so I got out fast to avoid so many eyes at my kiddos! It'll get better with experience!😊💟🐞
Everyone who have kids have gone thru a melt down its life what bugs me is the people who say my kid would never do that cause they will and as far as cloths I bet everyone has a pile somewhere I love how you show real life 💗💗💗💗💗
Tina Contonio Yep, my bed looks like that 70% of the time!
Tantrums can be tricky, sometimes it's not always just a "I want this and I can't have it so I am upset" Sometimes they are just worn out and tired and don't have the ability to fully communicate that. It did seem like it was a mix of both for Chell this time. It's nice to see you guys didn't get angry or yell at her, you guys stayed calm and explained to her the best you could WHY she couldn't have the stuff. Plus you just removed her from the situation and kept your heads on straight. I don't think I'd have the temperament or patience for that. So props to you.
From what I could see, you handled the situation perfectly well. You didn't lose your temper with her and just let her get it out, that's what I do with me nephew. I just give him kisses and let him get rid of the frustration, within reason haha
Kristen, I'm tellin' ya, Wave a little Lavender tincture under her nose and try as she might, she will not be able to continue having a tantrum. It is Amazing how fast and well it works. Oh and yep, the first big hormonal change comes at Two, then Four, Eight, Twelve and Sixteen. Guess ya better get use to it and have plenty of Lavender around, as well as Red Rasberry Leaf Tea is great for the gals. : ) If you want a giggle, go back and take a peek at the look that store worker gave Cory. It was funny because she whipped her head around and gave him a look that said something like "No you Didn't! You did Not just make a joke and laugh at that hard working Mom trying to discipline her child (not knowing you were together), and that is not a camera !!" Made me laugh.
It's hard to balance between letting them work it out and not annoying other customers. Teaching them that at home behavior isn't always allowed in public (like stores and restaurants). I have seen parents just walk away and let the kid throw that tantrum to scooping them up and walking out of the store until they settle down. I guess it all depends on your own child how to handle things. What does or does not work for Chell may or may not work for Atlas. Parenting is very hard but I do know ALL kids have to have guidelines and ground rules that they must follow 100% of the time. A spoiled child turns into a spoiled teen/adult that thinks the world owes them and they are not pleasant to be around. A well adjusted child turns into a loving person who has friends and is pleasant to be around.
I don't think its ever acceptable to walk away in a store though, you don't want them to think you are abandoning them. Removing them from the situation however makes total sense, especially as it seems clear she was just tired in this case.
Alex, I would never walk away and it always shocked me when others did. Besides the abandoning issues, it's just to dangerous now days. Only 1 of my kids ever threw a tantrum in public; I got down to her level like Kristen did and told her that if she embarrassed me in public, I would embarrass her. She stopped and never did it again. My son never tried it. LOL
Umm i think that counts more so as i need a nap, i wouldn't count that as a tantrum it didn't result in screaming and flailing and someone saying "stop it or you go out to the car".
Yep...getting them down for a nap before this phase is tough to get right. I think Chell is so adorable and was just exhausted. ❤
You all handled Chell amazingly! You two are pretty dang perfect as parents.
I think you two handled it just right. Consistency is key. Taking her out of the store quickly lets her know that crying on the floor won't get her what she wants. Good teamwork!
Thanks for being real....
Chel reminds me of my daughter. Chel is 1 week older. I always try to remember how frustrating it must be to not be able to fully express your wants and needs yet. It helps me not become as overwhelmed. We got this!!!
You did well handling that tantrum! Staying firm but compassionate is important. Teaching kids the parents are in charge, early is important. Kids will test the limits, stay strong guys!
Terrible two's is definitely a thing. And she's definitely in it! They are trying to find their independence. They nap less and don't want to miss anything. Want everything and don't want to hear no. But you guys are awesome and will get through it!
As a mom I have no problem with other children's melt downs n the store, we all have been there. It's just when it escalates into a power struggle where the parent is yelling n the kiddo is yelling. You handled it well❤️
Aww the terrible two's and three's and four's. LOL! Just remember kids don't raise themselves, that's why you were blessed with her... to parent her. Discipline is good and gives structure and that looks different for every kid and situation. I never wanted to disturb others around me. They are there to enjoy their shopping trip and shouldn't have to endure my kids tantrum. My momma said there'd be days like this and there were plenty. LOL!
yup it was a mixture of terrible twos and quite possibly tiredness, but letting her cry it out and talking softly is the best course of action. Well done, you handled that beautifully
I officially welcome you to the start of the terrible 2's. My daughter started hers at around 18 months! She is now 26 years old. BTW from what you filmed in the store Kristen you handled that beautifully!KUDOS!
I was just remembering my son's tantrum he once threw at the mall ten years ago. Hes twelve now. He threw himself onto the ground and screamed relentlessly refusing to walk. He was very tired and worn out anyway at that point. Everyone was staring at me. I was so embarrassed and didn't know what to do. Luckily we weren't in a restaurant or anything like that, so I just scooped him up while he flailed in my arms. I let him cry it out in the car. I legit looked like a kidnapped. We didn't drive until he was calm. I sat in the car with him while he was kicking my seat and screaming for twenty minutes until he said sorry mommy. He took a much needed nap when we got home. There's no reasoning with the terrible twos.
I think you dealt with her tantrum so well Kristen! Compassionate, not angry. Go Mama Williams!
When my 2 little sisters went through the terrible twos (my third little sister is just starting them.... woo) we just had to pick them up, walk out of the shop and either stand outside or sit in the car until they calmed down and then go back in. Admittedly it's not ideal when there's only one adult present but it worked, the talking them through their tantrum is a great method when they're a bit older but right now I think she's a little too young to understand which is easy to forget considering how bright she is. Either way, I think you handled it really well, you didn't lose your temper, shout at her or get snappy with her even though I'm sure it was frustrating :) Just keep trying different methods until you find one that works and don't let anyone judge you for it, you know how to handle your kid better than anyone else
Yes this is the beginning of the tantrum phase. My method for dealing with public tantrums, was a simple, but effective one for my son. As soon as the tantrum started, it was time to go sit in the car. Once in the car, he either calmed down and we went back in or it was back home for nap time. Be firm and don't give in! She will quickly learn what behavior is acceptable as long as you are consistent. She's a very intelligent little one and you are doing a great job!
What I find best to do during a tantrum is to first put myself in that position “ I know that you really want that food...” then correct the behavior “but to cry on the floor in the middle of the store is not nice, we don’t do that” and finally offer a choice “so do you want to go to the car and have some food there or have it at home?” And that usually works for me although when they are tired you might have to repeat the proces a few times ( just my honest opinion) i think what you did was great!
It's hard for everyone when your child turns 2, they're in the in between stage, not a baby anymore and yet not quit able to communicate they way they want to. After working with 2 year old for 8 years, I can tell you people do not give enough credit to their 2 year old's. They are very smart, they learn at an incredible rate. At this age they already know bad words and use them correctly in a sentence. You did great. The only thing that I would maybe suggest is that whom ever starts the talking or discipline, finishes the it. That way she will see that both of you are on the equal and not give Kristin a harder time, waiting for dad to come in and mean business. Have a great day. GB to you and yours.
You did great! Having adult anxiety and getting over stimulated...… I totally get it! Even though your not heard in the moment, I would say keep doing it because you never know and it didn't get outta hand.
I have to say you did great! Don’t give in because if you do they learn to throw fits until you get your way. Great job guys! ♥️😊
As a mom of a two year old you did fabulous job and there is no real reasoning at this age and it’s ok! I promise it does get better I watched both sons go through this girls are worse than boys with tantrums I think
Melt downs in public are soooo hard! I felt ya on that one. Every parent has been there, trust me!
I honestly think you both did really well. I was soooo lucky - mine hardly had any tantrums while out - but certainly one of them did at home! I agree that Cory did what needed doing right now. Kristen your method will probably be great when Chell is a bit older. Anyway I love you two - excellent parents. Also, at least Chell clearly had a good reason - she turned out to be very tired. Sometimes there is no reason for a tantrum - just a difficult phase.
My cousin's daughter had a tantrum at the family reunion once. He carried her out upside-down while she was bawling her eyes out. My family thought it was hilarious. With all the little ones in my family, we are very much used to tantrums like that.
The first time our son had a tantrum in a store, we told him if he didn't stop he was going out to the car with Daddy while Mommy finished shopping and he would have to sit there and be bored for as long as it took. He continued and Daddy did what we said. It NEVER happened again. I think that no matter what consequences you choose (time out, etc.) that as long as you follow through it will work. The worst thing you can do is say "if you continue will happen" and then NOT follow through.
It is good you two talked about it. Terrible twos are hard. There are no right or wrong answers. Each kid is different.
I know everyone calls them the terrible 2’s but I wish I had heard this when my kids were that age, a friend called them the terrific 2’s and the tremendous 3’s. So think on those terms and not so much the negative terms. I hope this makes sense. Chill will have bad days and times but don’t let them become your focus which is really easy to do. Kids crave attention as you already know so don’t give them the attention in negative actions but rather the opposite. You are doing a great job so far. Also remember to not going shopping close to bedtime or nap time or meltdowns happen more often. Btw here are a couple of tips for getting rid of the binky. 1 she can only have the binky at naptime or bedtime she leaves hers upstairs in her room and when Atlas doesn’t need his put it out of sight for Chell. The second is take and cut a slit tiny at first into the tip. It makes her get air and not as much sucking sensation. Keep making the slit or hole bigger until she will throw it away herself because it doesn’t work. Hope this helps.
You handled Chell's tantrum so well! Even though you did have to remove her from the scene, you made the attempt to reach her.
She was probably a little overstimulated by all the colorful objects around her. Plus she was tired. :)
You just pick her up walk her out and put her in time out if you don't believe in a swat She has to understand that kind of behavior is unacceptable.
Yes it is the terrible 2’s it’s mainly when they are tired as well my 2 year old son is the same he hates being in a cart and wants touch everything, and open it .. gets mad when he can’t .. I have a 2 month old as well and I’m not anxious to go through this again lol
But I think you guys are the best parents!
My mom would always leave our cart of stuff if we were being ... unreasonable... and take us out to the car till we calmed down. Indigo Nili here on youtube has such a fluid way of telling her kids no when they ask for stuff in stores, it's amazing and now tears!
My son's "twos" started at about 18 months. For many years I had Nick convinced that we "visited" all the toys at Toys R Us, where we kept them. It's not funny now (he's 24).
My friend's daughter went through a period for about 3 or so years where shed throw a tantrum in a store to get what she wanted because my friend would give into her to get her to stop. She finally got over it because I forced my friend to stop giving into it. My friend's daughter would do it with me but I stopped it real quick with me.
You probably won't see this(honestly it's been like 12 days I don't expect it at all.), but what I do with my daughter who is 2 1/2ish months older than Chell is just hold her. I give her a firm hug and I don't say much of anything other than maybe a little "I know, baby I know." and carry on with the task as much as I can while repeating this until we are done. She'll go in and out of it but she knows at least that I'm there and listening. There is no reasoning with the cranky crazy toddlers but there is lots of love to be had.
Just be consistent. You guys did great. You can't reason with a two year old. Several times I remember just putting down what I was buying and took kids home. It's hard when they're tired and you're tired, just don't cave. Mixed messages are a whole other set of worms.
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Sweet video. My parents didn't take the time to reason with us when we were small, our 'reasoning' forebrains were a long way from being developed. One of them would immediately take whoever was fussing away from the rest of the family, explaining why we were leaving (actually they probably said something like 'little savages can't hang with sane people') and the other parent would stay with the kids who were behaving, continuing the activity. It was quite a punishment not to be able to participate in whatever the rest of the family was doing. We learned emotionally at that age, all the fear, tears, rage, love, contentment and happiness that we went through was all part of being a kid. When we got bigger and more rebellious the parental reaction (ahem) adjusted to the circumstances. We all turned out O.K., not too damaged, ha!
usually kids will throw a fit when they are tired. Nap first before going shopping or go earlier soon after breakfast. That will help some.
Atlas sitting on Cory's knees reminds me of Cory standing on the mountain top. Like father, like son...
6:05 I think it's good that Atlas "stands himself up", you should try and make him do it more (safely of course), it's great for his back and legs muscles!
Cory was right: two-year-olds are too young for reasoning. I'm sure you've been reading about child development, so just remember that this is a really important stage, when Chell is learning to test limits and assert herself. She needs to know that she can do that, and you will still love and accept her even while you don't let her have her way all the time. It's important to set limits, but also important to give her a couple of choices, knowing that she might melt down sometimes anyway. My cousin is a child psychologist, and one day I saw her handle a similar moment (see, even professionals' kids have their rough times). When her son lay down on the floor (face down) and made a fuss over something, she knelt next to him, spoke to him very quietly, and rubbed his back gently until he calmed down. It didn't even take that long. (Today he's a wonderful college student: kind, generous, and hard-working, just so you know these things turn out okay.) You also may want to limit the amount of time you spend in tempting places like stores, because tantrums get worse when the child is tired or hungry. Hang in there -- and know that Chell is going through a normal and important developmental stage.
Such a mom, not even buying underwear for yourself!
Great logic though, at some point you would HAVE to buy undies!
Kristen you are such a good mom ☺️
I think too, Chell was very tired. When kids start acting up like that they are either don’t feel well or are tired. I think you both handled it perfectly though. 😊❤️
Welcome to the world of the "Terrible Twos". She was just very tired. You handled it well. I used to tell my kids if I buy it now I won't have anything to buy you for your birthday or Christmas. They usually settled down after that. Maybe that would help next time.
You just have to figure tantrums out as they happen. You did it. You got it covered.
Do you know something guys I’m a nursery teacher I tell parents everyday the correct way to speak to your child and when it came to my children it wasnt that easy. It’s as if with my one I forget logic boundaries and fear of being watched threw them all up in the air ! So no one can tell you correct way. We can tell you from experience and adapt how you wish what works for you.....good luck my child’s nearly 18 they say it easier. I must admit I haven’t experienced that yet. You worry a hell of a lot more 😂😂😂😂😂
I used to let mine cry it out, but we would leave the cart and go outside the store so she could scream and then when she was ready to go back into the store we found our cart and continued shopping, or checked out (or not) depending on how "over it" she was. It seems like maybe Chell was just really tired, but it could be terrible 2s. I know we were standing outside stores from the time my daughter was 19 mos.(weather allowing of course)
Children reach an age when they experiment with forms of manipulation. They want to know what they can do to get what they want, and how far they have to go. It's an important stage of self-awareness, because we all grow to grasp how to control our lives.
To paraphrase Rene Descartes: "Logic is an organized method of going wrong with confidence." 8-D I'll also paraphrase my sister: "The Terrible Twos are just practice for the Threes. And Fours."
Kristen’s inner monologue....quick, think of something..... “It kinda looks like 💩...?” 🤣🤣🤣
Good job dealing with the tantrum. The first time is the hardest but now you know you can handle it.
I'm a cashier, I see customers' kids throw tantrums all the time.
I'm proud of y'all for not giving in and buying her the extra stuff.
Kids need to know that no means no, and it drives me crazy when a parent says no then turns around and buys them it to keep them quiet. It teaches them that if they scream loud enough they'll get what they want.
I know it can be hard and embarrassing at times, but parents (or whoever is with the child) need to be firm.
I try not to judge, but when I do, I judge someone a lot harsher for giving in to a crying kid than for someone letting the kid cry it out.
Kids want stuff, and sometimes they cry when they're told no; it's okay, it's normal. There's nothing to be embarrassed about. And if someone has something to say about it, they either have never taken care of a child or they're just an idiot.
I’ll take that tantrum any day! Lol as long as they are safe, I’ll ignore my kids tantrums so they know it doesn’t work to get what they want. You did a good job.
My theory about the "terrible twos" was that it was the 2-year span of time between the ages of 1 1/2 and 3 1/2. I noticed that about the time most of the fits stopped was right around when their language skills came in. Have you taught her toddler sign language? That seems to help. In any case, y'all are doing a great job and anyone that has ever had kids KNOWS what the fit in the store thing is about and we are smiling right along with you. It is hard.
This vlog is pretty good i like it
Feel sorry for you guys, but it will go past, but then they turn 3 and it won't get any better😂🙈
I’m on my 4th and currently on my 3rd terrible two. I’ve learned you just ignore!! Eventually they learn that behavior will get them nowhere and they stop.
I remember watching Corey's old vlogs and seeing him play that purse game. It was weirdly nostalgic to see
Huggles to you and Cory Kristen much love. I always have seen cory as an older brother and & can connect to him because I have adhd which is like his add but abit more hyperactive its thanks to you guys and people like you and the I get from it I am able to continoue my battle with depression I have from chronic pains and life in general so thank you both from the bottom of my heart. And Gbye! 😊☺
You'll figure out what works best for now and it sounds like you made it work fine. Chelll is so smart, she may reach the reasoning stage earlier than some. Parenting styles differ and you are so sweet and gentle with Chell. I rarely had hubby with me while shopping so I usually would get right up in my kid's faces and put on scary mommy quiet/threatening voice and face and have a serious word with them. I think I only ever had to leave a store once. I grew up with the phrase, "Do we need to go to the bathroom?" I'm sure you can figure out what that means. I used that only a few times but also told them I was willing to give them a swat right in front of everybody if they kept it up. I think I only ever had to do that once too. I don't think you guys are swatting parents though, you're too sweet, even when you get frustrated. ♥ Just don't worry about side eyes from Judgy McJudgersons, they couldn't do nearly as good as you. You are awesome parents, always carry that thought with you!
My little sister skipped the terrible twos but we got a threenager. She was is so sassy and demands that you do everything for her. She also insists that she is still baby so it’s interesting.
Aaaw, you did good. You were calm and firm with your expectations. She is immature and learning. You are setting a great example. Miss Chell was tired too.
Yes it is Kristen 😁
Both my son and daughter went thru those "terrible twos" lol
Don't let the tantrums get to you. She is not the first or last child to do so in public.
You were amazingly patient with her.
A combination of both your strategies is best, in my opinion. Gently picking up the child while assuring her feelings while removing her from the stimulus that caused the tantrum usually helps. Worked wonders for my niece when she was Chell's age.
Yes!!! Please don’t give in... you guys are doing great... I would’ve taking her outside and had big talk outside... just a thought..
I don't know if anyone mentioned having her in a cart instead of running all over the store. Less temptations that way. If they get used to riding in one from the get-go, half the tantrum battles could be eliminated. Children don't understand when they're her age that they can't have everything they see but running loose lets them grab whatever trips their fantasy at the moment. And telling them 'don't touch' does no good. In a cart takes away a lot of temptations when they're this young.
It's possible she might have had a stimuli overload so taking her somewhere calmer to cool off might help.
Buy some cute ones for you and Cory. You are young. Enjoy your youth. I just bought a Ventura purse from The Sak. Real leather for 100 or less. Atlas looks like his papa.
Every day is laundry day!
Kezy CP forever. It never ends.
I think she was just terribly exhausted.
This is where you pick her up and leave. You dont ALLOW them to throw a tantrum. And no you dont allow her to cry it out in the store.
I'm not a mother but what worked for my parents with me, was if I started throwing a fit my dad would take me out to the car. We would sit there with no music or anything and my dad would just explain to me that big girls don't act up in stores and if we acted out like that we'd just go to the car where it's boring. I learned really quick! I was never spanked or anything like that. But maybe cory taking chell out to the car and just calmly explaining to her why going into the store is a privilege? I dunno if she's too small to understand that though. Whatever you choose to do I'm sure it will work well! Chell seems like a sweet little girl. maybe she was just overly tired!
as a retired teacher assistant and was the babysitter Auntie for my nephews and now a part time nanny/babysitter I would say..yes I do believe that is what is known as the terrible twos but this too will pass....and then the teenage years lol
hope this doenst bring up any bad blood, but the expensive bag game I remember and started doing it because of Cory's old vlogs with katers. Thats how I know that old game. Anyone else with me from back then? Had quite the flashback when Cory mentioned the game.
Chell has the most adorable tantrums ever. ☺️ when my daughter has a tantrum I wanna spray holy water on her and call a priest to perform an exorcism 😂🙈 you've handled it so great. I wish I could stay that calm 🙈
I learned to pick my little ones and head on out. No conversation on it. They learn quickly.