The Man Who Disappeared For 27 Years | Random Thursday
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- Dissociative fugues are states in which a person suffers an involuntary erasure of identity, literally living under a different personality for months or even years before waking up with no memory of the time that has passed.
One of the most perplexing cases of this is the mystery of Benjamin Kyle, a man who was found beaten and naked behind a dumpster in 2004 and had no memory of his life or identity.
Read the article from Matt Wolfe in The New Republic for more context:
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Been there, done that. I woke up in a ditch relatively uninjured other than my memory (motorcycle accident, no broken bones). I could still talk, spell, compute math problems, but I had no knowledge of geography, no memory of any relationships or any people's names. The cool thing about amnesia is you honestly don't even know there's a problem. Complete strangers were frantically angry at me for not being somewhere at a certain time, others were sobbing while asking me questions I didn't know the answers to ("what's your name", "where do you live", "what year is it"). Meanwhile I was totally chill, telling the strangers to not worry, they'll be ok. When my memory returned the next day, it turned out these people were my immediate family (parents, brothers). I will always remember not remembering, and that gives me a unique perspective on how urgent problems are only urgent if you remember that they are.
Just wanted to say thanks for sharing your story :) I'm glad you're ok :)
That shits a trip huh 😂
I had a cousin who went missing at 15
She'd be 41 now
I love you Charlene
I have an aunt who was bipolar and went missing at 20 shortly after her baby's death in the 90s, we just went through the grieving process and now think of her as dead.
I can't help waking up in the middle of the night just overcome by worry that she hadn't died and we failed her, and sometimes angry she did this to us.
Oof
@@availanila that's mad, I never thought of anybody that might be in that situation. I hope you find peace.
Don't even know how to respond to that but I wanted to. I hope you see her again but if you don't I hope you come to terms with it and are peaceful.
@@ross-carlson thank you it's a very long story I was only 13 and she had been beaten and molested by her dad as were here siblings 2 of them turned out great one is just like that peice of shit Charlene ran away Rick shot and killed a security guard at a CVS pharmacy in Miami and then killed himself just a horrible situation
But on the lighter side of things shortly after I posted that about my cousin my wife hired a p.i. and I found her and actually spoke with her she had enough of the abuse and went to police to get out of the situation when my grandparents found she snitched they told her they wouldn't have her in their home so she left hitched to California and was taken in by a family who later adopted her.......I'm crying as I type this btw.....she and her 19 year old daughter will be here for Christmas I asked why she never reached out and she said she was told no one in the family wanted her 😭😥
I was in a detoxification program with Benjamin back in 2005 in Savannah Georgia. They had him in there because they just didn’t know what to do with him because they couldn’t figure out who he was. They kept shuffling him back and forth between shelters and places like this even though he wasn’t a drug user. I remembered the man and then left the program not knowing what happened to him. Years later, I searched his name to see if I could find out anything about him. Much to my surprise, he was on a bunch of different talk shows but I found out that for years after, this poor man fell through the cracks and ended up homeless. I’m so thankful that he finally found out who his family was and what his name was. He was such a nice guy when I met him years back. I’m glad his story came with a happy ending.
benjaman*
@@farmcactus5280 william*
😊
I am hoping you are clean and that you have your life back.
@@btrueeth who is the “you” in your post?
It’s honestly absurd that he had to have a valid photo ID to stay in a shelter in Florida, I can’t imagine how many people don’t have them, have lost them, or can’t get one due to situations like his that still would need to stay there.
It is absurd that in that country they won't help a lost man with amnesia at all, just remove him from the hospital when healed and leave him at it..
@@Krytern it makes me scared to ever have mental health problems beyond what society is willing to deal with. People have sympathy for those with visible injuries, but mental problems people chalk up to laziness, carelessness, personal failings which is insane to me
@@stephaniehealey569 Is that an American thing? I know here in the UK we get help with mental health problems.
@@Krytern LoL. The UK has enuf problems of its own
@@PInk77W1 I never said it didn't so what's your point? Also what the hell kind of spelling is "enuf" are you five?
Can't imagine how depressing it would be to lose your memory, come round and still think you were in your 20s and then find out you were 60-something.
Reminds me of that story from 999 book.
But its depressing from our perspective. But for the person who lost their memory, probably aint that depressing cause they cant remember anything. They cant miss things or get caught up by sad memories cause the memories simply doesnt exist
@@bluebaconjake405 True, but it would still be daunting. Living all that time and not remembering anything about it and then just realising you've wasted about 70% of your life and have nothing to show for it, no memories, no anecdotes, no meaningful connections, that's depressing.
Sportacus yeah. The worst part is waking up realizing you are years older and not having any memory of living
Depends on how messed up your life was. Some might consider it a blessing
As an NP in the ER I have had a patient that had no identity and was too mentally ill to tell us anything. I did manage to locate a family member, it was a very emotional moment, she thought he had been dead for 5 years.
Wow
Yikes.
May I ask how?
@@ABC-vv4cm Long time ago but I think I called homeless shelters
Just finished reading the article, and the last line pushed me over the edge, tears flooded.
Whe asked why he chose the name Benjaman, his answer was:
“I read somewhere that it comes from Old Hebrew,” he said. “It means beloved son.” 😭😭😭
I know right :'( it's so interesting how we remember these things out of all things.... I'm crying throwing up
I'm a psychiatric worker and I can't even tell you the nightmarish, life- destroying results of head injuries.....the vast majority of which (in that population) are violence related.
Please, PLEASE, understand what exactly can happen when you punch or kick someone in the head. You maybe never learned another way to deal with anger, you may live in a culture that encourages fighting, or you could just plain like it- but understand that *one wrong hit* can land the other person in a hospital for the REST OF THEIR NATURAL LIFE.
Sure, you might be pissed off.....but are you really mad enough to force someone to re-learn how to walk, to speak? To not be able to remember their own parents? To be forced back into diapers in their twenties?
THINK about it, please.
When I was about 12 my father punched me in the back of the head. I had headaches there for years - maybe until I was 20. Dear old dad..............
@@AndrashSpooshkash my mom used a candle once. I remember that because the pain was so sharp.
@@alecfleming373 Dear old Mom and Dad................
My father had a very similar experience as mr B.K and I have always thought it was because of all the boxing he did as a young boy
I'm a bartender, I get it. It's not worth it, just go home and sleep it off.
It's fucked up how you can lose your memories and not be able to get work cause you forgot your SSN. Basically the gov leaving you to die.
For real there should be like a temporary SSN that they can issue for special circumstances
Sounds like a group formerly known as Majestic 12 scare tactic. i'm not scared. People know me. it's hard to hide when one is a foreigner in Japan. Someone would recognize me.
Why is there no temporary SSN for people in America？
@@meganissertell413 I'm sure there is.
Just pretend you’re an illegal and the demtards will give you everything. You don’t need ID or ssn when it comes to demturds
🤔 doesn’t matter 😮 because you are not leaving the VAT system 😎
It's pretty common for handy people with the "fix it" gene to become hoarders. The logic brain takes over and says, "I shouldn't throw this away because it can be fixed". Over the course of a lifetime one then amasses far more than can ever possibly be fixed.
You, sir, have just added a major insight into my life. If I weren’t married, I’m certain that I’d be living in a fire hazard, with narrow pathways through the house and most rooms too full to enter.
My wife has long kept my worst inclinations in check, and now she and Marie Kondo have ganged up on me.
My mom fixed that when I was young.
Constantly moving and making me take a box into my room and fill it with stuff to get rid of/ yard sale.
Like every 3 months.
That, and the spare parts aspect, I suspect.
I’m in the maintenance field myself and ironically I’m the one having to keep my wife in check. Lol
I do that a little bit, but it’s more of a “Oh I could use this to fix any one of a number of broken things”.
My God Father lost his memory because of stress, 21 years ago, and guess what September 2019 he recovered his memory back! He remembers everything from 21 years ago. It is a miracle.
Tell us more. He should write a book
What’s the books name!
@@jackrademaker5696 I don't remember.
Aliens: “The one that got away...”
Billdo Baggins think u need to lay-off the coke buddy....
Lol I was thinking the same thing. 👽
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@Eddie Glover thans i love you to
Always in Colorado 😭
I love stories like these. They really highlight how much we don't understand about ourselves. Just fascinating stuff
The human mind; can it truly know itself?
We still don't know how or where memories are stored which is kinda mind boggling. Especially given that not only animals of all types but even plants and unicellular slimemolds both from different branches of the Eukaryote tree have been found to be able to form long term memories. It is fascinating how something we consider so integral to our existence is still such a mystery
Dragrath1 once i saw a doc for “the brain by dr i forgot” that said the brain is like a city, and said that the memories are the neuron connections (billions of em)
@@mamindhive That was a hypothesis for a while but then we found out there are organisms which are unicellular and can make long term memories and other independently multicellular organisms like plants can remember stuff too. Thus memory can't be due to neural networks alone it seems to be something far older. You can impair memory formation in the same way in each case so it is presumably the same process or at least built off the same base components.
TLDR memory can't be as simple as a network of neurons as slime molds and plants wouldn't be able to form and store long term memories. Of course the alternative is that there is some process which is predisposed towards evolving memory storage I'm curious whether anyone has experimented with other simple Eukaryotes perhaps even bacteria and archaea to see if they have the ability to remember things as I don't think anyone expected plants to be able to remember environmental stimuli, same deal with slime molds. (Note in both cases I know of long term memories found in non animal Eukaryotes the memories involved are based on Pavlovian conditioning based on environmental stimuli. )
@David Tucker Just curious how is his cartoon face by your name?
I had a stroke in 2011. Before that I had (according to others) an amazing memory. I thought it was normal, never gave it a second thought.
Post-stroke, though, I have little short-term memory. And the kicker is I don't know what I can't remember so I don't miss it. It's my new normal. I've heard stories about things I've done related by others of which I have zero recollection.
My behavior is a tad different, as I'm apparently kinder and more patient than before, but I still wonder and sometimes worry about the frequent missing periods.
Anyway, thank you for yet another fascinating and entertaining episode. :)
Will you remember typing this?
Stay strong M 💪
M. Brysch wish you well pal
@@BlightBreedOfficial It's in writing, and I get notifications, so, ummm, kinda? Lots of times I have no idea why I posted what I did (on FaceBook, for example) unless there's some context.
It's a strange thing. Have you ever entered a room and forgotten why you went there? I've driven to a different city then had no idea why I had done so.
Wow! What you're describing is one of my biggest fears in life.
Props for the bravery and the fortitude you're able to display just by keeping on keeping on! I truly admire people like you.
Good old times when one could stay in the hospital for a few months. Nowadays they kick you out after 3 days.
Facts 🤣🤣🤣
A good chunk of hospitals used to be run by churches off of donations, nurses were commonly untrained staff in others, etc etc. I mean, if you want to go back to having amputations done with a basic hacksaw on grossly infected wooden floors and large portions of illnesses being unknown and people just dying. . . cool bruh?
@@austensible
Who said anything about that?
So now they kick you out after 3 days because their floors are cleaner, or is that the only way to keep their floors clean?
Classic strawman argument.
Costs, maintenance, etc etc. It's not strawman. You just don't want to think for yourself.
@@austensible
There was no cost and maintenance 20 years ago?
Hospital profits are at all time high. They used to be a health service. Now they are a business. You're so gullible.
Agatha Christie went into a fugue state and went missing for 10 days. Even after she was found it took a long time before she could remember who she was. Her daughter said it was really traumatic being reunited with her mother, and her mother couldn't remember her.
Nah. Agatha Christie was faking amnesia to get back at Archie in the way it would hurt most- by embarrassing the heck out of him.
Imagine the horror of having “Car Wash” as the only movie you can remember.
Comment of the day. Bravo.
Hey, I loved “Car Wash”! Hahahahaha
great movie, not a bad memory
But that means you can watch all the classics again for the first time
N Marrs 😂😂😂😂😂
Holy heck. This was absolutely fascinating. The way Joe revealed all these small details that got pieced together later on once his identity was figured out... Wow. Better than any mystery novels/shows I've seen of late
He got the state wrong.
Calm down
Mr Ballen...
"To them, these were my memories. To me, these were just stories I heard, stories I had no recollection of."
Thank you for this particular piece -- it was heartbreaking to imagine even being in his shoes, but at least he found his way back. You are a master storyteller! And I had never heard of Dissociative Fugue before this. I get to learn something new everytime I watch your videos.
Yeah I was listening how people were kind of condemning him for not wanting to find out his past, as if somehow not wanting to know who he was was a sign that he wasn't actually having the experience he said he was. And yet these people who would probably consider themselves a "people person" never once thought to put themselves in his shoes and ask "Would I really want to know my history if it literally meant nothing to me?" or you know, if he'd want to know when nobody had reached out to try and find him despite the national coverage? They got angry at him for not wanting to know but now it comes across as more "Oh you aren't going to be MY meal ticket anymore? Let me smudge your name on top of all the shit you deal with on the way out!" and is more than a little sad.
When I was in high school, a friend of mine suffered this exact thing, a dissociative fugue/amnesia. She just woke up one day not knowing who she was. Luckily, she didn't get lost and her family was able to take care of her and help her. Though, as far as I know, she never regained her memory, apart from little bits and pieces. I later learned that she had witnessed a traumatic event and the extreme stress basically made her brain dump everything. Her life started over that day.
My own childhood and family experience lead me to cut them off after years of struggle but I'm successful now and loved! You only have to ask yourself one question about a family member or family group entirely to know if it's a right decision for you to be in contact with them because of what other's say or impose on you as right- " would you be friends with them if not for the family or genetic tie?" For me it was "NO!" So I moved on. Happy ever since!
Agreed. If you wouldn't tolerate them if they were just a friend being related to them is no excuse for ruining your own mental health.
I am 65 years old and it took me 62 years to figure out what you said in this Post it has changed my life for the better I have suffered pain physical pain because of some people in my family I can’t do it anymore takes everything out of me to be that upset I wish I had figured this out long before now
That question of would you like this person to/ be friends if they weren’t related to you is so good.
My dad, yes. If he was my coworker or some other way in my life randomly I would like and respect him. My mom however… I would probably go out of my way to avoid.
He's literally a reverse missing person where normally you know who but not where, in this case we know where but not who
I hope "BK" is doing well today. Regardless, this video highlights the stark reality that life for some is so unimaginably hard, difficult, stressful, complicated and painful that sometimes it becomes absolutely necessary to forget it for one reason or another. The beauty of this story is about how a man's life was so unbearable he ditched it . . . and started another one he could accept on his own terms.
What if DB Cooper hit his head and forgot everything?
Wow... that would be just sad.
@@dikshyasurvi6869 all the money, none of the guilt.
My aunt's husband went missing for 2 days and couldn't remember what happened. But it was later discovered that he had a secret profile on a dating website and was cheating on my aunt. I'm sure he lied about the whole thing.
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
lol
Damn should have stayed disappeared
did he also cook meth?
I agree. This dude made that shit up so he wouldn't have to explain his backstory to people when he first met them..
"Cede Moore ... a former beauty queen who found a second career as a DNA specialist." Love that!
@Howdy Justice Some of them think it is.
Most Beauty Queens are paid in tuition. They are students with planned carriers.
@Howdy Justice it definitely is for kids and young women who live and breathe the pageant circuit. Just one that ends much earlier than others.
DNA specialists.
@Howdy Justice Whether you recognise it on not, beauty has value. Some smart people are attractive and take advantage of that. Don't be a prude, it's 2020.
As a person who does sometimes suffer from occasional bouts of amnesia, I can't imagine what would happen if I didn't have my connections around me to help keep me on track. It's terrifying, and I'm glad he at least got some answers, even if he struggled for a long time.
Thank you Joe ... throughly enjoyed it, love this kind of stuff!
I find this story intriguing but also really heartbreaking. I hope William has found happiness.
I'm always stunned by how old I am too.
😂🤣😂😂😂
Ya ....I hate it when I look in the mirror and see how old I am
Same. I think I’m 7 Years old but actually 12.
It figures somebody beat me to it lol.. I should probably delete my comment now!
Same here. I am stunned by how old you are......(just joking^^)
Cece Moore is my cousin! Although we have never met it was cool to see her in one of your episodes. She has solved many cold cases using dna along with genealogy. Pretty rad she was the one to figure it all out.
Very well done my friend! From stem to storm your style had me captivated. Keep up great work.
Sounds like loosing his identity was the best thing that ever happened to him
True
Ben was drunk af for twenty years
No. Not even close. He effectively was a walking corpse. Lowest possible potential obtainment.
Effectively erasing "who you are" is "killing who you were," it's both a metaphorical and literal death of oneself.
@@DJaquithFL from what I understood he lost his identity again after being beaten behind that dumpster, and before that he was traumatized by his abusive father
@@klittlet .. You're conflating time lines, the beating behind Burger King was many years later. Regardless, who you remember to be is who you are and to lose that is effectively a form of death.
Imagine who you are today to be completely lost. That identity and that person is effectively dead. Your mindless body isn't "you."
Man, it has got to be really scary to be him. If he's actually honest and doesn't know much about his last 21 years he would have no idea what he did to stay alive, what he could have done to other people, and what happened to him.
itsthosehour s right he could have had it all coming, May have not, he may have been a contract killer or perhaps a unlucky soul.
Thanks for shedding light on this lost man and the entire subject of amnesia! So interesting, I was hooked!
Man, your storytelling is legendary! A true pleasure every time besides the awesome educational material. Hat off sir!
So you're telling me I could wake up some day and forget who I am, everything I've done and everybody I know?
*Where do I sign?*
Mr Random
Lol.
Let me know if you Find where to sign up.
Well.. if you wanna vanish there are pretty good books out there
I think a lot of people are thinking the same thing!
Try LSD
mar vin shrooms are better
You, sir, are a gentleman and a storyteller worthy of great esteem. Your enthusiasm for things you find interesting is enlightening and refreshing. Thank you for sharing your mind with us.
Thank you for the video! I cannot even imagine!
Thank you for sharing this story
One of my favorite novels concerns the tangled life of a man with this condition, "Random Harvest." It was also made into a fine movie with the same title, starring Ronald Colman and Greer Garson. I strongly recommend reading the novel before seeing the film.
I recommend you read deez nuts before seeing the film.
How bout you leave deez nuts alone. Hey you know my boy Deez?
Read a book? Last book I read was this novel I wrote with a 200+ blank pages symbolically telling the reader it's never to late for a fresh start in life. This masterpiece future best seller is still waiting for a publisher! I highly recommend it.
Carol Burnett did a terrific spoof of this called "Rancid Harvest"
One of my favorite movies……Ronald Coleman and Greer Garson.
These are the stories you do, that I just love. Thank you!
I'm glad that BK has been getting his life together, with a home and job. All he needed was a bit of help and care along the way. I know what it's like to have Amnesia, had it four times. The first time I was a young child and didn't know who anyone was, not even my Mama. Two of the other bouts were very terrible, many months of recovering. The fourth one I just remembered after more than thirty years later. I've had a NDE, been saved by an Angel (and it was witnessed) and had other health challenges too but none of it has kept me from doing what I can, such as: raised a child with next to no help (while recovering from two bouts of Amnesia), joining a non-credit program at a local university (one of my dreams since I was about four), having a few short stories and poems published (another dream since I was a young child), good paying part time jobs/contracts whenever I can and so much more. I have always had a passion for learning, which helped immensely-doing puzzles, reading, learning in any way I could whenever I could, which I still do. I owe the extent of my recovery, which I think is amazing, to my Heavenly Father's good grace.
I LOVE LOVE LOVE SHOWS/DOCUMENTARIES LIKE THESE! GOOD JOB GUYS! MORE POWER TO THE CHANNEL!
This is fascinating. Thanks for sharing his story and giving me an eye opening Thursday.
Really love these Random Thursday videos. Always about fascinating subjects.
Thank you and kudos -- one of the strangest stories of all time I'm sure. Thank God for the people who've tried to help him. Hope he's finding peace and well-being now.
I am impressed mate.First time ive seen anything of yours and glad i did.Great story.I look forward to watching more of your videos.Thank u
Cece Moore and her team at Parabon are fantastic Genetic Geneolgists. They have solved quite a few cold cases in recent years.
*genetic genealogists
alvallac21 🙂🙂interesting that you felt the need to correct me 🙂
Cece Moore is a big star in this field. She's often mention in some true crimes podcasts
@@2lynnw
There seems to always be THAT person.
Lynn Williams I’m pretty sure the words geneticist not genetic genologist
"He had cataracts"
"He liked to read"
That shot me through the heart. Reading was one of my favorite pastimes, but post-stroke I just can't finish a book. :(
I might have said that too early. I don't know if he was only able to read after the surgery or if he could see enough to read close up. But apparently he reads a lot of science fiction.
I was thinking if he could see around his feet to clean he could maybe see enough to read, not entirely sure how cataracts work though.
@@goodluckcleo1582 , nope. I'm merely compromised by presbyopia; I can see enough to mop but tiny things like letters on a page not so much without special glasses. Cataracts are much worse and not correctable with glasses.
@@joescott 20 years ago, I tried volunteering for "Reading for the Blind", but they insisted on the reading of every punctuation mark. As if the human voice can't intonate a question. Thinking back, I think it may have been at the insistence of publishers, who really didn't want their books being given away for free, and couldn't allow an outright violation of copyright (I've since got a paralegal degree, I have some idea of how it works.) I think there's much less demand for "books for the blind" since the widespread sales and distribution of "Audiobooks". Sorry, this is very tangential to my originally intended point that he might listen to audiobooks.
Loved your presentation and subject matter. Mysteries are always interesting. I hope the man finally found some peace and comfort. Subbed.
Fascinating! So glad I discovered your channel. You have become my favorite polymath.
Most interesting video... this is why I love this channel and Joe. His curiosity is infectious.
What disturbed me most about this is that I remember a time when people with mental disorders had places to live. I’m sure many of those places were BAD places to live, but at least people had their basic needs met.
Consider this: what is the general feeling about the homeless? They are “a nuisance”. Is this progress for humanity? Classifying human beings as a nuisance? That would have been a classic dystopian horror scenario back in the fifties and sixties.
This guy should not have had to rely on random kindness just so he had food and shelter. NO ONE should.
When you live in the land of pirates, as in the US, nothing is free and everyone’s out theirs. You run into the occasional angel 😇 but unfortunately they don’t make the rules.
Watch the doc "suffer the little children"... those places are better off closed
@@dylan4652 Excellently described.
Most of those "group homes" that are run by volunteers and are paid by Disability checks, don't take people that have some semblance of intelligence. Mostly because he wouldn't fit in and he would get tired of the rules....also there's a lot of paperwork involved. My Nephew was in that situation. They'd rather he stay with friends. He's a lot better off.
So I had an uncle who went missing almost 30 years ago. However, my last interactions with him were child sexual abuse, and when my aunt started wondering why I was so scared of Bart, he pulled the stereotypical “go to get cigarettes” and never came back. To be honest I never really ever thought about it much as an adult. I guess it’s not uncommon to dissociate from childhood trauma. And I literally didn’t think about it for years. Until my drug addiction landed me in a coma for 2 weeks and when I woke up I had a hard time deciphering dreams in my coma from reality for a couple weeks. And a memory of my childhood sprung to mind. Involving me and my cousin who is the same age as me. The imagery and scenario was very similar to that shitty movie the Butterfly Effect. And for some reason I thought maybe something had happened. But my memory was confusing that film and real life. Cause I suffered a lot of non permanent brain damage in the first couple months after waking up.
So I told my mom and asked her about it. And she almost brushed it off. And in a very weird way. So in my brain at the time I was thinking “maybe I’ve been saying a ton of crazy shit and she’s just brushing it off” until I contacted my cousin, she had been someone I had very limited interaction with my entire life. But being in a coma….lots of people start coming out of nowhere to be like “I wish I woulda tried more to help him “ and stuff like that since I was not expected to wake up.
So I reached out to my cousin. And in hindsight almost selfishly, asked her if these weird memories I was having were real. Not expecting them to be real. And she hung up the phone. I tried calling a few times. And sent a message apologizing for asking such a personal question and that I was still having a hard time piecing together memories.
And I get a very angry call from my other cousin who was a few years older asking me why the fuck I did that. And I apologized and was super fuckin confused. And at this point I’m wondering what the fuck is going on. I feel bad. But I’m also just wondering what the fuck are people mad at me for?
And my other cousin who is 40 and i was 34, realized I wasn’t being selfish. I was sincerely confused and this reaction was making me so concerned. And she tells me about this memory I was having. And it was way worse than I ever realized. And beyond just repressing memories, it was much more more insane.
To be completely honest. It probably should fuck with me. But it really doesn’t cause it doesn’t feel real.
When I was 8 my family flew cross the country and visited my dads two sisters and my cousins. We apparently stayed for 2 months. During this time, my alcoholic uncle began doing inappropriate things with me under the guise of “yeah I’ll look after him. Play video games or something”
But it turned out. He was drugging me and my 8 year old other cousin, and forcing us into sex acts with each other and forcing us to watch each other as he would rape us.
He had apparently been doing this with my cousin for over a year. And they thought she was developing a learning disability because she seemed to be getting slower and slower. And then we go out there. And this stuff starts happening, and he gave me my chocolaete milk with alcohol and barbiturates in it, (this was the early 90s) and I threw it up on accident without him knowing. So as he begins to force me into all this sexual shit, I’m almost fully coherent, and started to freak out. So he forced me to drink the milk, and I didn’t even really understand the concept of being drugged I think I thought it was medicine or something. And I passed out. And didn’t wake up. So he makes up some shit. And I get taken to the hospital and he musta realized that their gonna know something is up. And told my aunt he was literally going to buy cigarettes, and left the hospital. Attempted to burn down the little guest house shed behind their house where he would do all this shit. And took all the VIDEOS he made of this. But forgot to take one tape out of one of his cameras, and yeah.
So, I didn’t have any memory of these things that happened. But my cousin however did. And apparently spent her childhood in a hospital because it messed with her head so much and for obvious reasons. And this was southern Cali in the 90s so they tried weird alternative things like hypnosis and apparently helped her repress all these memories. And since I didn’t even know it happened at this point, I didn’t need therapy (or much ). And nobody ever saw my uncle again. Altho they think he may have stolen a boat and either killed himself or died in the ocean (cuse that same day a small boat was stolen that had motor issues, and people saw a man take out this boat towards the ocean and never come back)
So anyways. This story made me think of this cause it was so crazy to be told all these horrific details about my 8yr old summer and I felt horrible that I called my cousin, and dislodged all these memories of her father raping her.
No happy ending here. Nothing really to be learned or anything. Just a fucked up story.
Am I the only person that read this in full? 2 Months and no replies to this?? Damn, people are boring. This is simply movie plot worthy my dear commenter. To me this it is absolutely insane that any of the people I see out and about everyday could be living just as we all do, but with a horrible experience like this in their memory. I don't care who you are or what you blah blah blah Brett S, just for living through that and existing to comment that here, I'm wishing you the absolute best of luck in life. Kick ass dude.
Wow, I'm sorry this happened to you!
Some people are so fucked up they have to take it out on others, especially children who are vulnerable!!!
Wishing you the best❤
Omg that's awful. I guess he got what was coming to him and saved you guys the trauma of having to testify against him. I hope you and your cousin are doing better.
So, you gained like pieces of your memory of child abuse or sexual abuse, while you were in coma? I don't think anybody can process that experience. As a kid I had listened to this song in foreign language, probably when I was 4 or 5 and then never had a chance to listen to that particular song or any similar music ever until I was in college and spotify just played it in a random playlist. that reawakening of memory hit me so hard that even after years I still get goosebumps just thinking about that moment. I cannot compare my experience to yours just looking at magnitude of emotions attached and the way you regained your memory.
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I subbed when you gave credit where credit was due. The internet needs more people like you...and the story was great
I love this video. Great job. Thank you so much.
Very interesting, especially how the big mystery keeps changing.
Hey are you a patron on his patreon?
스테파니 Stephanie 조셉 Yes.
@@ThomasKelly. Thanks =)
I suffer from dissociative fugues. I got into a verbal fight with family and "woke up" 3 weeks later about 5/600 miles from home in a psych ward. Its happened a few times. The first major one I "woke up" in hospital with a broken leg, some 7 days after it happened. And some minor ones where I simply loose a day or two. All of them are brought on by my borderline personality discorder during heated exchanges. I now stay as far away from family as I can because Im a total nightmare.
Funny old world :S
Fascinating. I hope hes having happier times these days, hes had a tough life.
The only thing that’s been going through my mind is when you mentioned that he spent months at a hospital and I can’t even imagine what the bill looked like ...
Or the fact that the food didn’t make you have a horrible fear of eating.
but with no SSN, there was no way to pin the bill on him!
These sorts of thing weirdly scare me - this could happen to anyone and seems like the most absolute loss of self control one could imagine.
Would you care if it happened because of memory loss.
@@giovonnielewis4329 I don't care either way because it's not really a common enough thing or a thing with many concrete or direct causes outside of typical human experience that are hard to control.
Great video, Mr. Joe!
Awesome story! Thanks Joe!
Memory can be bizarre. Well done! You do such interesting stories all the time! I'll say it again: Your channel is reason enough to have UA-cam.
Agreed
- Being found passed out on the floor
- Surprised at how he looked in the mirror
- Impossible to trace
- Changed his identity a time or two and wandered off
I think he was actually the Doctor, freshly regenerated
Dr. Who?
Not knowing is bliss.
why do people do this ? they repeat song liricks and statements as if they are telling people something . are they really that stupid?
@@carlprince2866 What?
@@theoneatyourdoor87 *Doctor
Your a good story teller man, i enjoyed this even though its pretty sad.
Kudos to you for giving kudos to the source that inspired you to make this. I don't see that very often.
Odd....on many levels. Fascinating video topic! Thanks Joe. 👍
Terrific presentation on such an interesting incident! Thanks, Joe!
Cheers, Ivan :D
You’ve been my gardening buddy today Joe! Love the way you talk about these cases. New sub & true crime fan here! 🥰💖👍
Dude, you had me so intrigued. Awesome video and channel. Definitely subscribing
Jeez. What a heartbreaking story. I wish William all the best for the years he has left.
Found this channel randomly and happy/thankful for this video in particular. I have a dissociative disorder myself, including the amnesia. Usually people have no idea about it so thanks for this educational video. Also I know I’m late to the vid, but if anyone wants to ask questions, I am okay with that. I want people to know more in case they see signs in a loved one. I mean, once this disorder caused me to run away into the woods at night with no light source or phone. I’m only lucky that I was diagnosed in my teens so I got a ton of therapy to prevent these incidents. I still struggle but rarely have episodes where I flee and/or don’t know who I am/where I am. If I do, usually I have notes around giving me help like I always have the date and year on a board on my wall. Sadly my condition is caused by a combination of genetic predisposition and early childhood repetitive trauma (including a head injury), so there’s no cure but there are great treatments and medications for some symptoms. As is, hope everyone now has a better understanding and can be kinder to those with memory issues in their lives like elderly family members.
Hi there, my partner earlier this year kept having memory loss and once we connected with others with DID, we realised what it was. I hope it's okay, but I'd love to ask questions! There's so much out there that isn't helpful because it's not information from people who have lived experience. Thank you for putting yourself out there and sharing your story!
Wow, this is one of the best stories I’ve ever heard!
This wasn't what i was expecting i need more interviews
"It's kinda cool, gives a nice little target in case you ever want to get shot in the chest" Joe, you're almost as good as Hank Green at this marketing thing...
But it gives the shooter a bias toward the center of the ballistic package. Geoff Who never thought of that before.
Bad merch for high school students.
Because Murcia!
I don't know why, the merch thing is still the one I'm least comfortable with.
Joe Scott, You’ll grow out of it.
@@joescott It's the complication and commitment thing, there is also success anxiety, "If nobody buys I'm out the investment and personally rejected." Geoff Who is not famous.
All of the mystery about how he got lost and how he ended up there and with 2 decades un accounted for game me goosebumps
Hey Mikayla, where you from, Canada or USA?
a great story , and the article is very interesting . thanks .
This was a really good episode, thanks Joe!
Large sections of my childhood are unrecallable. Or at least they were, until sustaining a severe emotional trauma a year ago. Now I can recall it all, and it's actually changed my personality as those memories have fallen into the timeline of memories I have within my ability to recall.
It's actually a bit remarkable that being someone with major depression and a dissociative disorder, I'm still here. I've attempted suicide twice, and both times, I was in a dissociative state. I didn't remember what happened afterward until years later. Thankfully both times someone came along to stop me before I managed to succeed. Now that I stopped blacking out while dissociating. It's getting easier and easier to manage. I've stopped doing things that lead to my own bodily harm, and that there is one hell of a step forward. No more broken knuckles.
This was an amazing story, and how Benjaman's identity was discovered was so interesting. Loved it!
Well, it may not have been your story per se, but if I didn't come across this video, I may not have seen this update about ol bk. I had wondered about this guy. So thanks for this!
Interesting story and an amazingly done video (as always!). Would love to see your take on the Dyatlov Pass incident
THIS is so fascinating and well written, or at least spoken. I've just discovered u. Stoked I got to.
Nicely told.
First time here, great story telling and information! I will be back for more!
Love these mysteries! Also loving the stubble Joe, looks good! 👍😊
Cool story joe. Love these random subjects.
Amazing story, thanks for that.
Well done, friend. I love a good mystery.
How heart-wrenchingly sad. What good is a life lived if you can’t remember it? No memory, no identity.
Wow this was like watching a great mystery. Well done! Compelling true story!
Super entertaining story. Thanks for sharing!
Thanks for sharing, a real mystrey
Never clicked on a notification so fast lol. Love the videos!
We who have 'normal' memories cannot know the anguish this dude feels.
Or maybe it is a good thing to not remember the trauma of his childhood and years spent drinking and dissolute. It's a fresh start, eternal sunshine of the spotless mind.
Such a fascinating story!!
What a crazy story. Thank you
that was kinda heart breaking, like loosing half your life. i hope things got better for him.