Dear Narges, I have been watching your videos for the past week and I love your boldness. You make me laugh. Watching you and hearing you share your experience with anxiety compels me to share some insights I hope to be useful to you. One, conventional allopathic medicine is completely clueless about the mind-body connection and doctors typically see anxiety either as a problem to be solved through medication or as the result of the patient’s lack of willpower to have a more positive outlook on life. This is downright stupid. In fact, I have come to perceive anxiety as nothing more than the body’s intelligence trying to send a message that there is a lack of internal balance, or misalignment. The doctors I have seen here, in Canada, are often as imbalanced - if not more - than the patients they are supposed to help. Two, I found the psycho-somatic approach to be the most helpful. Basically, it explains such imbalances by a dysregulated nervous system. Due to childhood trauma or chronic stress, the body loses its organic ability to regulate itself. This is manifested by sudden episodes of inadequate activation. To learn more about this approach I recommend looking into ‘somatic experiencing’ and more specifically Irene Lyon on UA-cam. Three, all the symptoms you mention: anxiety, depression and even the back pain, are indications of trapped emotional tension. By learning to gradually meet them and allow for the energy to be released, your body regains its ability to regulate. I have been suffering from similar problems for years and I have seen some gradual and encouraging improvements since I began this work. It is not easy work because it entails confronting the uncomfortable emotions we were not able to experience in the past. But, the way to liberation from suffering is to go through the pain. Four, psycho-somatic work involves awarness practice. This involves being present with the very uncomfortable emotions and physical symptoms in a gentle and curious manner. It also involves finding ways to calm the nervous system, which is why Omega-3, camomille and resting are helpful. I sincerely hope this can be useful to you. I see in you something beautiful which is blossoming. I believe this channel is also helping you release something which has been trapped inside for way too long. I wish you inner peace, patience and good health!
Thank you for your kind words and the time you took to write me all these. I have to read more about them when I'm ok. Yes I'm going through another bout of this disorder, whatever it is.
@@NarsFromMars You're most welcome. There is more I wanted to share, but I didn't want to write a whole book. If ever all of this resonates with you, let me know if you'd like to briefy chat about this.
Thank you 🌺🌺 But "you'll overcome this" is a true exaggeration. It's always within me, although sometimes passive. You learn to live with it, but just a little. Each and every time, even in its mildest form, it's horrible. If I were sure I'd die, or if I was brave enough, I would've committed suicide long ago. Or if only euthanasia were legal over here..... Don't want to sound dark and pessimistic here, just saying I'm not that strong, I just have no choice but to continue living.
@@NarsFromMars Flower, what this world needs is wonderful people like you. How I wish those thoughts would leave your mind for good. Whenever you feel so down trodden, just remember that there is someone else in some other part of this world that is going through worse. I can't say I fully understand what this condition is making you go through but all I can hope is that you continue to remain optimistic no matter how hard that may seem to be; you never know what the future holds
Hey!! I saw this video now,I hope you are good now and you will be perfectly cured and alright.There is a solution for every question and it's so sad that you talked about suicide thoughts...Thank god you took the right decision..please,avoid these thoughts when you are in trouble..There is a lot of sadness behind your kind words and which is unimaginable,you will be fine and I hope you have peaceful health ahead!!!!
Hello Nars. I stumbled across your channel and I noticed that your last video was posted over a year ago. I know that could be for a multitude of different reasons but I thought I'd take a chance and post a message anyway. I took the time to watch several of your videos today and and found many of them interesting and informative. You have real charisma and I admire your honesty, particularly considering your country where honesty and openess in some regards could land you in trouble. I genuinely hope you're doing well and I'm sorry to hear of your struggles with poor mental health and the lack of support from both family and the professionals. I won't go into too much detail with my own personal life but I've had a rocky road for many years with poor mental health. So I have a lot of understanding and emphathy for the experiences you describe. At times, you just wanted answers and know that you're not gojng crazy; I understand that completely. I also know the "professionals" are also far too keen to prescribe medication for anxiety and depression, many of which can make the situation worse or create new problems. The issue here is that nobody can exactly pinpoint what triggers anxiety, depression and other issues in the brain or which part of brain is malfunctioning and what chemicals are imbalanced. There have been many theories but no absolute, definitive answers. The pharmaceutical companies then syntesise a drug to combat a problem that they don't truly understand. Placebos have often been observed to work the same or better in drug trials for antidepressants but that doesn't really matter as once a drug is licensed, there is loads of revenue to be made. I hope you stay strong, continue to find answers and move forward in your life in a positive direction that suits you and not just other people. Lastly, hopefully you'll start posting videos once again.
Amazing video. I've been diagnosed with asperger autism a few years ago and one of my main symptoms besides OCD is also anxiety and suicidal tendencies. Thanks for sharing your experience, I could relate to many things. In the past 2 years I've been on and off different SSRIs and other medication and still can't decide if I'm better off while taking it but with some annoying side effects or without the medication.
You have my deepest sympathies. One of the worst things about conditions duch as mine and yours is that you don't see so many like yourself around you....., you know. It gives one a sheer sense of loneliness+abnormality.
@@NarsFromMars Sometimes it is quite painful. In the last months or so my OCD got really annoying, probably because I left my home again and had to use public transport. Going outside or going to bed is quite exhausting. I am anxious about the most irrelevant stuff. Also my sleep rhythm is also quite terrible, maybe it’s the lack of light? I certainly can understand your pain. I am very lucky that I live in a liberal society.
Dear Nars, I am new to your channel. I was born in Latin America but I have lived most part of my life in Canada. I have been watching your videos a lot for the past few days and Iove the way you speak and transmit your messages to us. I love your honesty, courage and fearlessness to speak your mind. I admire you and I can easily see lots of goodness, righteousness and kindness in yourself. You have a treasure that a lot of people lack off. You are very fortunate. Your videos are a soothing medicine for our souls. These videos are helping and teaching many of us and actually it makes me feel sad not to be able to reciprocate what you do for us. It is burdensome and challenging sometimes to know how we could help someone in need. It’s very easy when someone needs food and you know that you can help by providing some food for that person but when the need is not really externally but internally that’s when it gets really complex for a lot of people. I know how you feel because I have been suffering the same decease you have been fighting against. I believe we both have the same origin of this descease “religion”. However, I wont go into details because this comments will become a book. I agree with some of your followers that the doctors have no idea how to deal with this decease and it’s easier for them to try to put the blame on us. In other words when we leave the doctor’s appointment we feel worse than when we got in. This is basically everywhere in the world. I have too many thing sto say but to make it short, I want to let you know that I feel much better these days., however, I cannot pin point what I have done to feel better because I have done lots of things but I do have an idea what is actually working and if you want I could share with you. I know your situation might be a Little bit different tan mine but at the end I firmly believe we have the same decease and hopefully what I have done could make you feel a lot better. Briefly I can tell you that some of the things I have done involves finding ways to calm the nervous system, that I believe is the one who needs more help because it controls everything in our body, which is why camomille, Omega-3, excercise, good company, good food, and positive people around us are helpful. I wholeheartedly hope my words can give you a little bit of positiviness in your mind, body and soul. I see something amazing and wonderful in you. I hope you realize that every day is a fresh start for you. That every sunrise is a new chapter in your life waiting to be written. Every single day is an opportunity for you to start anew; I call this my '24-hour Reset Button.' Each new day stands alone and brings you another chance to move closer towards your goals, so make each day a Great Day I hope you live a life you're proud of, and if you find you're not, I hope you have the strength to start over again, be sure you put your feet in the right place, then stand firm because when the new day comes new strength, new thoughts and new hope will power you.
Hiiii my dear teacher, happy to see you again. I could say I understand what anxiety disorder is! Because I am also under treatment! And add embarrassment and no self confident too! Body shaking, no focus on thing, not interested in repetitive things. Let me add moving the feet before spleeping. A memory: One day after saying goodbye to someone in Darvazeh Shiraz Square, whom I talked about a part of my life with, when he left me, my body shaking was begun! I couldn't came back home and just stand a corner of the street. Someone knocked my shoulder and said: Hey guy, would you like to eat some coffee? (Café said). I accepted and bought a cup of coffee and kept calm to get back home! As you pointed, I was a religious person too but now?! (Humanitarian principles are considered).
Hello there. Hope all's well. Oh man, yeah I remember you were a sensitive soul, too. I hope your problem is nothing close to what I experience; because as I said every 'attack' knocks me out for at least 2 weeks. (One of the reasons this upload was a bit delayed: I had another 'mild hell' for 2 weeks). And noooo, whenever it hits I immediately stop using coffee until I'm normal again; because the cafeine makes the annoying heartbeat WORSE. The general advice for me, you, and others is: avoid jobs or situations that are loaded with responsibilities, eat healthy, exercise, meditate, and if you need it DO TAKE the medication you need. Take care 🌺
@@NarsFromMars Thank you very much, Sure! I will begin exercise again. Very sad to hear that from you and hope you are well and never ever experience that any more! As you talked about your childhood, I think my stress was begun from my childhood too. When my sister and I were always fighting. I was about 6 or 7 years old and each time we had a fight, my mother pretended that she wanted to commit suicide by eating some pills, so that we would stop fighting, and I cried so much and beg each time to my mother that I would not let her do that. Take care, stay safe my life teacher,, Omid. 💐💐
@@omid1723 My goodness, what the heck our mums were thinking???🤦 The thing is childhood is much more important than parents think. Sometimes they do or say something superficially and they don't know how much of a deep impact it has on the poor kid! I feel bad for them too, because they, TOO, are the victims of this sick system and society. BTW, last year I watched this talk and learnt so much about myself; that I'm an HSP (highly sensitive person). I think you are, too. Watch it and tell me if it resonates with you: www.google.com/search?q=ted+talk+on+highly+sensitive+people&oq=ted+talk+on+highly+sensitive+people&aqs=chrome..69i57j0i457.8731j0j7&client=ms-android-samsung-ga-rev1&sourceid=chrome-mobile&ie=UTF-8#
Yoga and breath exercises helps a lot a long side of controling stress Techniques and Of course work out or exercise at the gym but from what you have explained that might be more than stress But I still yoga and breathing exercises helps to some extent , And by the way searching on Internet about symptoms for someone who is suffering from disease obsession will worsen think further and having faith will help also but not very religious this is my Recipe girl
Thank you my friend 🌺 yes, it's not even comparable with ordinary stress/anxiety. Yeah, I do meditate as a preventive measure, because when the disease hits me hard even taking a deep breath would be a bit difficult, and at that stage usually I HAVE TO take some medications. The worst thing though is that even with meds IT'LL TAKE TIME before you feel better.... Hole no one experiences this.....
well well i never had that level of anxiety although i had periods of anxiety and sleepless times mostly because of career and job related i can still slip in those period easily but then i learn to control usually the such anxity periods last for 2-4 days and it happen 3 or 4 times in a year you can say so how i overcome 1. Think positively to life 2. Think about everything God has granted you that others are struggling 3. Eat only healty food and may be do some fasting or atleast limit yourself yes it has impacts i believe if you are in stress, you tend to consume heavy specially junks that only increase the load on your system 4. and fortunately we have internet and youtube spend some time there 5. sleep well
If you were living in the West, I would advice you to see a psychoanalyst. You seem to be a sensitive person and to live a life that is not the one you really want, with a deep struggle with your family. That can be enough to suffer from a lot of different disorders. Isn't there any possibility that you could find a flat for yourself or with a flatmate? I have a friend (a single girl) who lives alone in a flat in Teheran, and she has no special problems with that. It could help to fight less with your family and to not live under their rules. I hope all the best for you. Salamat bashid!
@@NarsFromMars As we say here, "with time and effort, you can succeed in everything"... Things change, it can take time, but it will change. Keep going and be patient, you will find solutions and/or solutions will come. Movazebe khodetun bash
Thanks for higlighting the topic and for your openness. In my case acceptance has been the cornerstone to "overcome" it while making life bearable (along our oldest friend music ua-cam.com/play/PLa6zw5RRBjQf-O2K2Oj9IaI86K1_3PdAK.html ). Wish you peace.
@narsfrommars Is there any chance to find a good psychoanalyst in your area? As you reported your anxiety could be very strong, preventing you to do simple things and definitely worsen your quality of life... I said "good" because if the origins of your disease comes from your past, It will take some time to bring them to the surface...
I visited several psychologists and psychiatrists in the past. No one was of much help. I've learnt to manage my anxiety with a 2 kinds of meds, which of course take time to affect my mood (with the psychiatrists, I've had the experience of 11 meds a day, plus some injections which horrified nurses every time: "this could have serious side effects, are you sure?")
Interesting, I don't know why, but many people with Anxiety, trauma or mental issues seem to find me. I'm not a Psychologist, but meet with them, they ask my opinion on people they are treating, children and adults. Often the Psychologists has NOT done basic test. The key to understanding you and your anxiety is understanding YOU. Watching your videos, I think you are above average intelligence, and in your situation, work, home life, Iran, that may make your issues worse. If you have a good friend or partner that understands and supports you that would help a lot. when you feel anxious, talk or chat to someone, that will help. it would also help if you have a friend or partner to guide you through and anxious situation calmly. if you need to chat let me know
Hello there Peter🙋🌷 1. Thank you for your kind words 😊🌺 2. You're absolutely right. One of my problems with the average psychologist/psychiatrist here was that none had EXPERIENCED anxiety, and also they were from much richer families so they didn't quite get many of my basic concerns, and I had a lot of explaining to do, apart from my symptoms etc. All of it barely proved to be useful so I gave up. It's been years since I last talked to any if them, and I don't regret it. And yeah, I'm VERY lonely, no partner (quite unlucky with love and I don't think I'm willing/able to risk again any time soon) and have only few friends left (most of my friends got married years ago, and over here they usually say goodbye to you when they get married).
@@NarsFromMars Thanks for the reply, if you agree, I would like to help you, make you less anxious, and hopefully more happy. People with anxiety are often not happy. they ask me why I'm always happy (I don't drink, smoke or take drugs), and have worked hard, but I decided to stop working in 2016. I'm originally from the UK, but lived and worked around the world since 1990 (sadly I have not yet been to Iran, but hope to go this year). I love travelling. I left the UK in 2003 and moved to a small island in the Caribbean called Bonaire (near Aruba and Venezuela) in 2007. losing friend over time will make your anxiety worse, so can I suggest you / we try and find a few new friends for you. I also think a trip out of Iran would help you a lot. what you need to make you happy? simple a PURPOSE, people with a purpose are happy or happier. I'm sure your anxiety would become less, can I help you create a PURPOSE? I have have a few purpose ideas for you, but would like to hear your thoughts. maybe you need to know more about me, in that case, I would suggest email or whatsapp (we just need to find a way of sharing info privately). maybe new year brought something to you.
@@peteryates5135 Travelling is great. You've made an amazing decision. I don't recommend a visit to Iran considering the current circumstances, you know ... Purpose. Yeah, I feel lost and empty and useless. Unemployment+ living with parents are the main banes to my existence now. Travelling abroad. Can't afford it (apart from the ordinary expenses, ANY country I'd want to visit would have this "minimum amount" requirement in my bank account, well, to make sure i wouldn't stay there, which is HUGE in our currency). Also I need TIME to heal. Last Persian year (just ended) have been crap: soon-to-be-fiance ghosted me+ this toxic boss caused me to quit the job I'd just found. I feel CRUSHED and frustrated.
@@NarsFromMars Narges, I stumbled upon your videos looking for things to do with Iran. I know the situation in Iran. I will visit one day. I have had my share of ups and down, maybe that why I help people. New year, new opportunities, new chances for you. If you had money and the chance, which countries would you like to visit? What would be your ideal job? Hearing you are crushed and frustrated bothers me. I think the best way to heal would be to chat and talk about things.
@@peteryates5135 I'd love to visit anywhere, even within Iran I haven't travelled much. Ideal job. I don't even know now. I'd love to have a job related to my major (I'm a pro translator -- pretty useless here). I'm trying to work out regularly (I used to hit the gym 3-4 times a week and had pretty heavy workouts for 2 years. Then I started to develop several physical problems (almost the same time as I lost my last real job-- it's been 2 years now). My doctor banned me from heavy exercise; "no dumbbells ever again", for which I literally cried my eyes out....
@@zakkhan7095 have stopped praying and hoping to get help from the paranormal for a looooong time now, and I feel much better. Religion was one of my major anxiety triggers
Trust me, there is NOTHING wrong with you, far from it, in fact, completely the opposite. You just haven't realised who and what you really are yet. I know what you are. I've been in this place myself.
Hi there 🙋🌷. It's very kind of you to ask, thank you 🌺 Well, I've had a few 'mild' attacks.... And in terms of 'help'..... not much indeed. And I've been meditating less regularly 🥺 I'm planning to make a video on a certain topic where I will talk about what has been happening for the last couple of months. Thank you again ❤️
@@NarsFromMars Thanks for taken the time to reply. I will cross my fingers, that you will keep improving. You such a kind person sharing your knowledge to the world. I like your counting clips, they are funny😁 I was wondering, what options do you have to keep saying no to marrige. What if you found someone and suggested that person to the parents? What would the requirement be for the person, if even possible? I'm justwondering. All the best to you😊
@@leifbogeisler Thanks for your compliments, dear friend🌷 well, I've been through a lot in my life, including some of what you said ..... I try to be as goofy as possible in the videos so that it sounds less like moaning!! I'll talk about everything more in my next video. Today I've been trying to upload but failed due to shi**y internet, plus UA-cam is banned here and I access it through VPNs. There was a disconnection and the upload was gone half way through 🤦🤦🤦 see? The simplest things can be complicated over here ...
@@NarsFromMars Maybe you have a topic for one video, what is banned for Iranians on the internet, like UA-cam, Facebook?, ...... Anyhow, I'm looking forward to your next videos. About upload and bad connections/lost connections. Are you allowed to use dropbox? If you can think of anything, that will make it more easy for you to upload or anything else related to the internet and you need some help, I will try to help, just ask :-)
@@leifbogeisler Finally uploaded. It took bloody HOURS literally. 2 days of struggle. Oh thank you, yeah if I find enough to say I'll make a video on that. And no, I don't know, will check it out. Thanks for trying to help, dear Leif Bo Geisler🙋🌺
I don’t think anxiety is a disease. It’s a response to bad circumstances. Islam is a ridiculously repressive religion and I can see how a lot of Muslims would be depressed, I’d be depressed too if I had to deal with that shit. Get a boyfriend or something without your parents knowing, surely not every guy in your town is a religious zealot.
You're right.... Boyfriend or something 😂 , especially without my parents knowing.... As if it's not a source of anxiety!! Done that before. Doesn't work. Even relationships can't be normal over here...
@@NarsFromMars That’s a shame. Nobody should have to feel anxious they’ll be caught and punished for having a normal human life. Hopefully one day you will find the means to emigrate and start over somewhere else.
I feel like you've misrepresented oppressive governments for the actual religion which islam itself says there is no compulsion in religion. I don't agree with the regime but blaming islam for the actions of greedy governments feel unfair. Also I don't like ho a lot of Iranians have developed this mentality that the west is superior, yes they definitely have a lot of advancements but that doesn't correlate with Islam being bad...In fact I've seen so many westerners convert to islam recently
@@danielmirsharifi1544 I've started this only recently; I'd love to sell them of course (I've sold a few pieces), but I find it sort of soothing to work with gemstones
Dear Narges, I have been watching your videos for the past week and I love your boldness. You make me laugh. Watching you and hearing you share your experience with anxiety compels me to share some insights I hope to be useful to you.
One, conventional allopathic medicine is completely clueless about the mind-body connection and doctors typically see anxiety either as a problem to be solved through medication or as the result of the patient’s lack of willpower to have a more positive outlook on life. This is downright stupid. In fact, I have come to perceive anxiety as nothing more than the body’s intelligence trying to send a message that there is a lack of internal balance, or misalignment. The doctors I have seen here, in Canada, are often as imbalanced - if not more - than the patients they are supposed to help.
Two, I found the psycho-somatic approach to be the most helpful. Basically, it explains such imbalances by a dysregulated nervous system. Due to childhood trauma or chronic stress, the body loses its organic ability to regulate itself. This is manifested by sudden episodes of inadequate activation. To learn more about this approach I recommend looking into ‘somatic experiencing’ and more specifically Irene Lyon on UA-cam.
Three, all the symptoms you mention: anxiety, depression and even the back pain, are indications of trapped emotional tension. By learning to gradually meet them and allow for the energy to be released, your body regains its ability to regulate. I have been suffering from similar problems for years and I have seen some gradual and encouraging improvements since I began this work. It is not easy work because it entails confronting the uncomfortable emotions we were not able to experience in the past. But, the way to liberation from suffering is to go through the pain.
Four, psycho-somatic work involves awarness practice. This involves being present with the very uncomfortable emotions and physical symptoms in a gentle and curious manner. It also involves finding ways to calm the nervous system, which is why Omega-3, camomille and resting are helpful.
I sincerely hope this can be useful to you. I see in you something beautiful which is blossoming. I believe this channel is also helping you release something which has been trapped inside for way too long. I wish you inner peace, patience and good health!
Thank you for your kind words and the time you took to write me all these.
I have to read more about them when I'm ok. Yes I'm going through another bout of this disorder, whatever it is.
@@NarsFromMars You're most welcome. There is more I wanted to share, but I didn't want to write a whole book. If ever all of this resonates with you, let me know if you'd like to briefy chat about this.
This is a powerful story you've shared with us Narges. You're a strong woman and with time, I know you'll overcome this.
Thank you 🌺🌺
But "you'll overcome this" is a true exaggeration. It's always within me, although sometimes passive. You learn to live with it, but just a little. Each and every time, even in its mildest form, it's horrible.
If I were sure I'd die, or if I was brave enough, I would've committed suicide long ago. Or if only euthanasia were legal over here.....
Don't want to sound dark and pessimistic here, just saying I'm not that strong, I just have no choice but to continue living.
@@NarsFromMars Flower, what this world needs is wonderful people like you. How I wish those thoughts would leave your mind for good. Whenever you feel so down trodden, just remember that there is someone else in some other part of this world that is going through worse. I can't say I fully understand what this condition is making you go through but all I can hope is that you continue to remain optimistic no matter how hard that may seem to be; you never know what the future holds
It sounds like severe Generalized Anxiety Disorder (GAD) with panic attacks. Your videos are extremely helpful :)
Thank you very much Edgar🙋🌷🌷🌷
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Hey!! I saw this video now,I hope you are good now and you will be perfectly cured and alright.There is a solution for every question and it's so sad that you talked about suicide thoughts...Thank god you took the right decision..please,avoid these thoughts when you are in trouble..There is a lot of sadness behind your kind words and which is unimaginable,you will be fine and I hope you have peaceful health ahead!!!!
Hello Nars. I stumbled across your channel and I noticed that your last video was posted over a year ago. I know that could be for a multitude of different reasons but I thought I'd take a chance and post a message anyway. I took the time to watch several of your videos today and and found many of them interesting and informative. You have real charisma and I admire your honesty, particularly considering your country where honesty and openess in some regards could land you in trouble.
I genuinely hope you're doing well and I'm sorry to hear of your struggles with poor mental health and the lack of support from both family and the professionals. I won't go into too much detail with my own personal life but I've had a rocky road for many years with poor mental health. So I have a lot of understanding and emphathy for the experiences you describe. At times, you just wanted answers and know that you're not gojng crazy; I understand that completely. I also know the "professionals" are also far too keen to prescribe medication for anxiety and depression, many of which can make the situation worse or create new problems. The issue here is that nobody can exactly pinpoint what triggers anxiety, depression and other issues in the brain or which part of brain is malfunctioning and what chemicals are imbalanced. There have been many theories but no absolute, definitive answers. The pharmaceutical companies then syntesise a drug to combat a problem that they don't truly understand. Placebos have often been observed to work the same or better in drug trials for antidepressants but that doesn't really matter as once a drug is licensed, there is loads of revenue to be made.
I hope you stay strong, continue to find answers and move forward in your life in a positive direction that suits you and not just other people. Lastly, hopefully you'll start posting videos once again.
Thank you for taking the time and for your kind words🌺
Hopefully I'll be back some day.
Take care🌿🌺
Amazing video. I've been diagnosed with asperger autism a few years ago and one of my main symptoms besides OCD is also anxiety and suicidal tendencies. Thanks for sharing your experience, I could relate to many things. In the past 2 years I've been on and off different SSRIs and other medication and still can't decide if I'm better off while taking it but with some annoying side effects or without the medication.
You have my deepest sympathies. One of the worst things about conditions duch as mine and yours is that you don't see so many like yourself around you....., you know. It gives one a sheer sense of loneliness+abnormality.
I have Asperger‘s, but it is not that serious, I am just socially awkward, superstitious and compulsive.
@@yogatonga7529 So you aren't in pain --literally and figuratively-- because of it?
@@NarsFromMars Sometimes it is quite painful. In the last months or so my OCD got really annoying, probably because I left my home again and had to use public transport. Going outside or going to bed is quite exhausting. I am anxious about the most irrelevant stuff.
Also my sleep rhythm is also quite terrible, maybe it’s the lack of light? I certainly can understand your pain. I am very lucky that I live in a liberal society.
But I still want to live.
Dear Nars, I am new to your channel. I was born in Latin America but I have lived most part of my life in Canada. I have been watching your videos a lot for the past few days and Iove the way you speak and transmit your messages to us. I love your honesty, courage and fearlessness to speak your mind.
I admire you and I can easily see lots of goodness, righteousness and kindness in yourself. You have a treasure that a lot of people lack off. You are very fortunate.
Your videos are a soothing medicine for our souls. These videos are helping and teaching many of us and actually it makes me feel sad not to be able to reciprocate what you do for us.
It is burdensome and challenging sometimes to know how we could help someone in need. It’s very easy when someone needs food and you know that you can help by providing some food for that person but when the need is not really externally but internally that’s when it gets really complex for a lot of people.
I know how you feel because I have been suffering the same decease you have been fighting against.
I believe we both have the same origin of this descease “religion”. However, I wont go into details because this comments will become a book.
I agree with some of your followers that the doctors have no idea how to deal with this decease and it’s easier for them to try to put the blame on us. In other words when we leave the doctor’s appointment we feel worse than when we got in. This is basically everywhere in the world.
I have too many thing sto say but to make it short, I want to let you know that I feel much better these days., however, I cannot pin point what I have done to feel better because I have done lots of things but I do have an idea what is actually working and if you want I could share with you. I know your situation might be a Little bit different tan mine but at the end I firmly believe we have the same decease and hopefully what I have done could make you feel a lot better. Briefly I can tell you that some of the things I have done involves finding ways to calm the nervous system, that I believe is the one who needs more help because it controls everything in our body, which is why camomille, Omega-3, excercise, good company, good food, and positive people around us are helpful.
I wholeheartedly hope my words can give you a little bit of positiviness in your mind, body and soul.
I see something amazing and wonderful in you.
I hope you realize that every day is a fresh start for you. That every sunrise is a new chapter in your life waiting to be written. Every single day is an opportunity for you to start anew; I call this my '24-hour Reset Button.' Each new day stands alone and brings you another chance to move closer towards your goals, so make each day a Great Day
I hope you live a life you're proud of, and if you find you're not, I hope you have the strength to start over again, be sure you put your feet in the right place, then stand firm because when the new day comes new strength, new thoughts and new hope will power you.
Thank you so much for your kind words and the time and effort you put into writing to me🌺
Excellent
Thank you 🌺
There will be change.
Hiiii my dear teacher, happy to see you again.
I could say I understand what anxiety disorder is! Because I am also under treatment! And add embarrassment and no self confident too!
Body shaking, no focus on thing, not interested in repetitive things. Let me add moving the feet before spleeping. A memory: One day after saying goodbye to someone in Darvazeh Shiraz Square, whom I talked about a part of my life with, when he left me, my body shaking was begun! I couldn't came back home and just stand a corner of the street. Someone knocked my shoulder and said: Hey guy, would you like to eat some coffee? (Café said). I accepted and bought a cup of coffee and kept calm to get back home! As you pointed, I was a religious person too but now?! (Humanitarian principles are considered).
Hello there. Hope all's well.
Oh man, yeah I remember you were a sensitive soul, too.
I hope your problem is nothing close to what I experience; because as I said every 'attack' knocks me out for at least 2 weeks. (One of the reasons this upload was a bit delayed: I had another 'mild hell' for 2 weeks).
And noooo, whenever it hits I immediately stop using coffee until I'm normal again; because the cafeine makes the annoying heartbeat WORSE.
The general advice for me, you, and others is: avoid jobs or situations that are loaded with responsibilities, eat healthy, exercise, meditate, and if you need it DO TAKE the medication you need.
Take care 🌺
@@NarsFromMars Thank you very much, Sure! I will begin exercise again. Very sad to hear that from you and hope you are well and never ever experience that any more! As you talked about your childhood, I think my stress was begun from my childhood too. When my sister and I were always fighting. I was about 6 or 7 years old and each time we had a fight, my mother pretended that she wanted to commit suicide by eating some pills, so that we would stop fighting, and I cried so much and beg each time to my mother that I would not let her do that.
Take care, stay safe my life teacher,, Omid. 💐💐
@@omid1723 My goodness, what the heck our mums were thinking???🤦 The thing is childhood is much more important than parents think. Sometimes they do or say something superficially and they don't know how much of a deep impact it has on the poor kid!
I feel bad for them too, because they, TOO, are the victims of this sick system and society.
BTW, last year I watched this talk and learnt so much about myself; that I'm an HSP (highly sensitive person).
I think you are, too. Watch it and tell me if it resonates with you:
www.google.com/search?q=ted+talk+on+highly+sensitive+people&oq=ted+talk+on+highly+sensitive+people&aqs=chrome..69i57j0i457.8731j0j7&client=ms-android-samsung-ga-rev1&sourceid=chrome-mobile&ie=UTF-8#
I have chronic depression, so I understand it
Sorry to hear about it. Exactly, the worst thing about these monsters is that few people know what exactly you're going through
I don't know how i ended up here but ur adorable
Thanks for your compliment 🌺
Ironically I'm going through another bout of this hell.
Poor thing☹️
Sad story
Hope it can help someone
Yoga and breath exercises helps a lot a long side of controling stress Techniques and Of course work out or exercise at the gym but from what you have explained that might be more than stress But I still yoga and breathing exercises helps to some extent , And by the way searching on Internet about symptoms for someone who is suffering from disease obsession will worsen think further and having faith will help also but not very religious this is my Recipe girl
Thank you my friend 🌺 yes, it's not even comparable with ordinary stress/anxiety. Yeah, I do meditate as a preventive measure, because when the disease hits me hard even taking a deep breath would be a bit difficult, and at that stage usually I HAVE TO take some medications. The worst thing though is that even with meds IT'LL TAKE TIME before you feel better....
Hole no one experiences this.....
well well i never had that level of anxiety although i had periods of anxiety and sleepless times mostly because of career and job related i can still slip in those period easily but then i learn to control usually the such anxity periods last for 2-4 days and it happen 3 or 4 times in a year you can say so how i overcome 1. Think positively to life 2. Think about everything God has granted you that others are struggling 3. Eat only healty food and may be do some fasting or atleast limit yourself yes it has impacts i believe if you are in stress, you tend to consume heavy specially junks that only increase the load on your system 4. and fortunately we have internet and youtube spend some time there 5. sleep well
I have anxiety and unployed too.
Sorry to hear that
@@NarsFromMars I take two anxiety pills everyday to help me. I want to die with no pain I want that program MAID.
If you were living in the West, I would advice you to see a psychoanalyst. You seem to be a sensitive person and to live a life that is not the one you really want, with a deep struggle with your family. That can be enough to suffer from a lot of different disorders. Isn't there any possibility that you could find a flat for yourself or with a flatmate? I have a friend (a single girl) who lives alone in a flat in Teheran, and she has no special problems with that. It could help to fight less with your family and to not live under their rules. I hope all the best for you. Salamat bashid!
Your comment brought tears to my eyes.....what can I say.....
@@NarsFromMars As we say here, "with time and effort, you can succeed in everything"... Things change, it can take time, but it will change. Keep going and be patient, you will find solutions and/or solutions will come. Movazebe khodetun bash
@@moa1346 Sometimes things are literally unbearable.....but no choice: you have to continue fighting.... And shoma ham hamintor!🌺
Thanks for higlighting the topic and for your openness. In my case acceptance has been the cornerstone to "overcome" it while making life bearable (along our oldest friend music ua-cam.com/play/PLa6zw5RRBjQf-O2K2Oj9IaI86K1_3PdAK.html ). Wish you peace.
Thank you for your comment, hope you feel great now 🌺
@narsfrommars Is there any chance to find a good psychoanalyst in your area? As you reported your anxiety could be very strong, preventing you to do simple things and definitely worsen your quality of life...
I said "good" because if the origins of your disease comes from your past, It will take some time to bring them to the surface...
I visited several psychologists and psychiatrists in the past. No one was of much help. I've learnt to manage my anxiety with a 2 kinds of meds, which of course take time to affect my mood (with the psychiatrists, I've had the experience of 11 meds a day, plus some injections which horrified nurses every time: "this could have serious side effects, are you sure?")
Interesting, I don't know why, but many people with Anxiety, trauma or mental issues seem to find me. I'm not a Psychologist, but meet with them, they ask my opinion on people they are treating, children and adults. Often the Psychologists has NOT done basic test. The key to understanding you and your anxiety is understanding YOU. Watching your videos, I think you are above average intelligence, and in your situation, work, home life, Iran, that may make your issues worse. If you have a good friend or partner that understands and supports you that would help a lot. when you feel anxious, talk or chat to someone, that will help. it would also help if you have a friend or partner to guide you through and anxious situation calmly. if you need to chat let me know
Hello there Peter🙋🌷 1. Thank you for your kind words 😊🌺 2. You're absolutely right. One of my problems with the average psychologist/psychiatrist here was that none had EXPERIENCED anxiety, and also they were from much richer families so they didn't quite get many of my basic concerns, and I had a lot of explaining to do, apart from my symptoms etc.
All of it barely proved to be useful so I gave up.
It's been years since I last talked to any if them, and I don't regret it.
And yeah, I'm VERY lonely, no partner (quite unlucky with love and I don't think I'm willing/able to risk again any time soon) and have only few friends left (most of my friends got married years ago, and over here they usually say goodbye to you when they get married).
@@NarsFromMars Thanks for the reply, if you agree, I would like to help you, make you less anxious, and hopefully more happy. People with anxiety are often not happy. they ask me why I'm always happy (I don't drink, smoke or take drugs), and have worked hard, but I decided to stop working in 2016. I'm originally from the UK, but lived and worked around the world since 1990 (sadly I have not yet been to Iran, but hope to go this year). I love travelling. I left the UK in 2003 and moved to a small island in the Caribbean called Bonaire (near Aruba and Venezuela) in 2007. losing friend over time will make your anxiety worse, so can I suggest you / we try and find a few new friends for you. I also think a trip out of Iran would help you a lot. what you need to make you happy? simple a PURPOSE, people with a purpose are happy or happier. I'm sure your anxiety would become less, can I help you create a PURPOSE? I have have a few purpose ideas for you, but would like to hear your thoughts. maybe you need to know more about me, in that case, I would suggest email or whatsapp (we just need to find a way of sharing info privately). maybe new year brought something to you.
@@peteryates5135 Travelling is great. You've made an amazing decision. I don't recommend a visit to Iran considering the current circumstances, you know ...
Purpose.
Yeah, I feel lost and empty and useless.
Unemployment+ living with parents are the main banes to my existence now.
Travelling abroad. Can't afford it (apart from the ordinary expenses, ANY country I'd want to visit would have this "minimum amount" requirement in my bank account, well, to make sure i wouldn't stay there, which is HUGE in our currency).
Also I need TIME to heal. Last Persian year (just ended) have been crap: soon-to-be-fiance ghosted me+ this toxic boss caused me to quit the job I'd just found.
I feel CRUSHED and frustrated.
@@NarsFromMars Narges, I stumbled upon your videos looking for things to do with Iran.
I know the situation in Iran. I will visit one day.
I have had my share of ups and down, maybe that why I help people.
New year, new opportunities, new chances for you.
If you had money and the chance, which countries would you like to visit?
What would be your ideal job?
Hearing you are crushed and frustrated bothers me.
I think the best way to heal would be to chat and talk about things.
@@peteryates5135 I'd love to visit anywhere, even within Iran I haven't travelled much.
Ideal job. I don't even know now. I'd love to have a job related to my major (I'm a pro translator -- pretty useless here).
I'm trying to work out regularly (I used to hit the gym 3-4 times a week and had pretty heavy workouts for 2 years. Then I started to develop several physical problems (almost the same time as I lost my last real job-- it's been 2 years now). My doctor banned me from heavy exercise; "no dumbbells ever again", for which I literally cried my eyes out....
May Allah ease your affair😔
He hasn't done much so far😅🥺
@@NarsFromMars Have faith sis in the Lord of the heavens and the earth☝️🤗
@@zakkhan7095 have stopped praying and hoping to get help from the paranormal for a looooong time now, and I feel much better. Religion was one of my major anxiety triggers
Trust me, there is NOTHING wrong with you, far from it, in fact, completely the opposite. You just haven't realised who and what you really are yet. I know what you are. I've been in this place myself.
The video is about 7 months old. How are you doing today, did you get some help?
Hi there 🙋🌷. It's very kind of you to ask, thank you 🌺 Well, I've had a few 'mild' attacks.... And in terms of 'help'..... not much indeed. And I've been meditating less regularly 🥺 I'm planning to make a video on a certain topic where I will talk about what has been happening for the last couple of months. Thank you again ❤️
@@NarsFromMars Thanks for taken the time to reply. I will cross my fingers, that you will keep improving. You such a kind person sharing your knowledge to the world. I like your counting clips, they are funny😁 I was wondering, what options do you have to keep saying no to marrige. What if you found someone and suggested that person to the parents? What would the requirement be for the person, if even possible? I'm justwondering. All the best to you😊
@@leifbogeisler Thanks for your compliments, dear friend🌷 well, I've been through a lot in my life, including some of what you said ..... I try to be as goofy as possible in the videos so that it sounds less like moaning!! I'll talk about everything more in my next video.
Today I've been trying to upload but failed due to shi**y internet, plus UA-cam is banned here and I access it through VPNs. There was a disconnection and the upload was gone half way through 🤦🤦🤦 see? The simplest things can be complicated over here ...
@@NarsFromMars Maybe you have a topic for one video, what is banned for Iranians on the internet, like UA-cam, Facebook?, ...... Anyhow, I'm looking forward to your next videos. About upload and bad connections/lost connections. Are you allowed to use dropbox? If you can think of anything, that will make it more easy for you to upload or anything else related to the internet and you need some help, I will try to help, just ask :-)
@@leifbogeisler Finally uploaded. It took bloody HOURS literally. 2 days of struggle.
Oh thank you, yeah if I find enough to say I'll make a video on that.
And no, I don't know, will check it out. Thanks for trying to help, dear Leif Bo Geisler🙋🌺
I don’t think anxiety is a disease. It’s a response to bad circumstances. Islam is a ridiculously repressive religion and I can see how a lot of Muslims would be depressed, I’d be depressed too if I had to deal with that shit. Get a boyfriend or something without your parents knowing, surely not every guy in your town is a religious zealot.
You're right.... Boyfriend or something 😂 , especially without my parents knowing.... As if it's not a source of anxiety!! Done that before. Doesn't work. Even relationships can't be normal over here...
@@NarsFromMars That’s a shame. Nobody should have to feel anxious they’ll be caught and punished for having a normal human life. Hopefully one day you will find the means to emigrate and start over somewhere else.
@@Dan474834 Thanks, you're very kind. Yes, everyone that could afford immigration did so and took their talents elsewhere.....
I feel like you've misrepresented oppressive governments for the actual religion which islam itself says there is no compulsion in religion. I don't agree with the regime but blaming islam for the actions of greedy governments feel unfair. Also I don't like ho a lot of Iranians have developed this mentality that the west is superior, yes they definitely have a lot of advancements but that doesn't correlate with Islam being bad...In fact I've seen so many westerners convert to islam recently
How are you doing these days, Nars?
@@barokeszter Still alive.....
@@NarsFromMars Glad to hear that. Thinking a lot of all Iranians these days, especially women. (A female follower of yours from Hungary.)
Is this ADHD (racing thoughts ) + GAD?
Don't know. As I said no doctor told me what they diagnosed....
@@NarsFromMars Thanks for your Videos..Very relatable Content
How are you holdig up today?
Hi Daniel 🙋🌷
I'm ok; did a little shopping today. I do beads sometimes....
@@NarsFromMars Are you selling them beads 😁😁🙏🙏
@@NarsFromMars or is it just a hobby? 😁
@@danielmirsharifi1544 I've started this only recently; I'd love to sell them of course (I've sold a few pieces), but I find it sort of soothing to work with gemstones
@@NarsFromMars How can I make a order? 😁
Howzit?
😔😔😔😔
@@NarsFromMars impossible