When people have excuses for lack of funds, hate when you finally say second job or change your lifestyle. Hard conversations are necessary. Their lifestyle isn’t your financial responsibility.
Good afternoon Tonya, Thank you for that, it was right on time. I just had to say no to a family member. I have a son that we plan to help through college in the next 4 years. I don't have any extra funds to give away. We don't believe in loans, therefore if we can't give it, we don't have. Currently saving for a new roof, car, HVAC system, and windows that are needed for our on home. We are planning a project each year for the next four years. People just don't care, they see you doing okay, and it makes it easy for them to ask for what they want. A lot of them, don't know a need vs a want. Keep speaking the truth.❤❤❤
I have lost thousands after my husband passed away from my insurance policy left to me helping people including my adult children bailing them out. . I have to stop and think about my retirement and saving and putting me first .
We have to realize that we have and can use the power of "NO"! People will use you and drain you until you can't help them or yourself. It's ok to say no and keep soaring!!
You can help them when it's feasible to and for you. We want to help them and see them soar. When your helping them began to drain you, it's time to operate in the NO spirit! Help when you can, and when you can't use your freedom to say no without feeling guilty.
Ms. Tonya, new subscriber here. I absolutely must say THANK YOU a million times over & over for addressing this sooo very important topic. My mom is being ripped apart by both family and friends. It is the Sunday after Thanksgiving and with your help and that of your Blessed channel Mom and I are in the process of also having this all so ever important discussion. Sending you all of God's Blessings and much love ❤❤❤.
Wow!!!! Encouragement! MUCH NEEDED for the season ahead. Thanks, Tonya. May our Lord and Savior continue to bless you as you walk in obedience, blessing others. Continued prayers for you and your family, may the Lord continue to Shepherd you, in Jesus' name, amen 🙏🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
Hey Tonya! Hang tight. Stay focused. Keep God first. Yes I missed your videos. Thanks for letting us know that you are have a busy schedule at work. Take care. God bless. ❤😊
Sometimes we habitually enable our children and grandchildren. And then feel guilty time after time when we have over extended ourselves go broke . Emotionally financially and physically doing what we feel is right. This generation is so entitled. They don’t want to put forth any effort to try . God never intended for a human to carry another around on their back. After the exiting the womb you have to grow take one foot in front of the other and experience life. Painful as it maybe .
Thank you Tonya for that TRUTH. I'm in that situation...I have talked & know that to be TRUE... It's my own child... PLEASE FATHER GOD HELP ME... SHOW ME HOW TO DO THIS... WITHOUT TURNING MY BACK. THANK YOU LORD...❤
Understand when someone regardless of the relationship never consider your needs. Not putting you first. Helping yourself first is always okay when it’s done in honest.
Good Afternoon Lady T Girrrrrl I appreciate this message l need to have a hard conversation with an adult person, my daughter. Please pray for me. This message is my confirmation that it must take place Thank you for your faithfulness
Good morning Lady T, on hard conversations, I know very well what and who you are talking about about,I myself had to show tough LOVE and be good with that, sometimes God would have you to CUT the imblibcal card yourself, and free yourself from harming yourself. Be good with loving from a distance and keep your peace and sanity ❤️🙏🏼
Amen Miss Tonya. I’m in a situation you are speaking of. God surely blessed me to hear what you’re saying. Thanks my sister in Christ. God led me to hear you speak on these things. I’m going to have to have that conversation. You covered a lot of subjects. I thank God I saw this blessed video. Thank You. Powerful message. on hard conversation. God bless you. ❤
Hello Tonya, it's been a while since I've been able to get caught up and my mouth just flew open with this video. I am literally going through this right now. I love them dearly however, I had to fall back for my safety and peace. May the Lord continue to bless you and thank you for this word.❤
Heyyyy Tonya 👋🏾 I have had several HARD conversations this week..I had to cut ties with someone who was mentally draining me with her issues..I also had to tell someone it's time to put THEIR happiness first..I had to tell MYSELF girl H3LL NO‼️ Because I refuse to go into another week with any off it👌🏾
You better come through with that message !!!! Miss Tonya❤🌹🐓🙌sooooo well said...& thank you. ( happy Thanksgiving too you & yours.#It's Soooooo Ok💪🙌 ( & stand !! On what you said! & mean it.) #SpeakingTheTruth. #EnoughISEnough.
Amen Tonya you speak the truth and that is where I’m at now I have been to easy buy I’m stopping now I have to because Instead of going forward I’m playing catch back up and keep it moving God bless🙏🏼😇👍👌💯🌹
Tonya it’s so good to hear from a know what’s going on but I figured you been busy and I pray that what ever else going on with you that God see you though it and completely heal you including your surgery may it be a complete success and healing happy holidays we your content watcher’s love you ❤
Just seeing this but I had to have one of those hard conversations with my co worker friend this morning. We'll see how it goes later because if the relationship goes sour, at least I don't lose my integrity.
Most people do not want to sacrifice their own pleasure to help others...And many other people love having a crutch and will never become self-sufficient if you don't make them. Both of these type of people suck...
I totally get it Tonya! People will use the heck out of you if you let them.
Sounds like Tonya finally built the nerves up, To tell her Son no and stand on it.
Lady T, you said a mouth full. Sometime you speak and it is what it is. I choose peace over drama! Lesson learned! 🙏🙏🙏
When people have excuses for lack of funds, hate when you finally say second job or change your lifestyle. Hard conversations are necessary. Their lifestyle isn’t your financial responsibility.
Good afternoon Tonya, Thank you for that, it was right on time. I just had to say no to a family member. I have a son that we plan to help through college in the next 4 years. I don't have any extra funds to give away. We don't believe in loans, therefore if we can't give it, we don't have. Currently saving for a new roof, car, HVAC system, and windows that are needed for our on home. We are planning a project each year for the next four years. People just don't care, they see you doing okay, and it makes it easy for them to ask for what they want. A lot of them, don't know a need vs a want. Keep speaking the truth.❤❤❤
I have lost thousands after my husband passed away from my insurance policy left to me helping people including my adult children bailing them out. . I have to stop and think about my retirement and saving and putting me first .
We have to realize that we have and can use the power of "NO"! People will use you and drain you until you can't help them or yourself. It's ok to say no and keep soaring!!
You can help them when it's feasible to and for you. We want to help them and see them soar. When your helping them began to drain you, it's time to operate in the NO spirit! Help when you can, and when you can't use your freedom to say no without feeling guilty.
Ms.Tonya, This message is right on time! I'm always saying yes, yes, yes! But this has given me confirmation! 🙌🏽🙌🏽
I had a friend years ago that moved to another whole State to get away from her children. Back then I thought that was harsh but baby I get it now.
Ms. Tonya, new subscriber here. I absolutely must say THANK YOU a million times over & over for addressing this sooo very important topic. My mom is being ripped apart by both family and friends. It is the Sunday after Thanksgiving and with your help and that of your Blessed channel Mom and I are in the process of also having this all so ever important discussion.
Sending you all of God's Blessings and much love ❤❤❤.
Oh my God, Tonya , you are so right. I know just what you talking about. Amen. ❤
Tonya, you are on point. They will try to drain you and return for more later. Thank you 👍🏽
Wow!!!! Encouragement! MUCH NEEDED for the season ahead. Thanks, Tonya. May our Lord and Savior continue to bless you as you walk in obedience, blessing others.
Continued prayers for you and your family, may the Lord continue to Shepherd you, in Jesus' name, amen 🙏🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
This was awesome a great conversation. I think a lot of families need to have a hard. Conversation. With family
I sure have had to do it
Love and Blessings Ms "T" you are such a beautiful Soul. Ty for sharing! 🙏🏼💕👵🏽
Hey Tonya! Hang tight. Stay focused. Keep God first. Yes I missed your videos. Thanks for letting us know that you are have a busy schedule at work. Take care. God bless. ❤😊
I believe the Lord brought me to you to hear this.
Amen goes here! I declared 2 years ago the bank of Mom is closed! After a while we become enablers! Jesus had a time of shaking the dust off his feet!
Sometimes we habitually enable our children and grandchildren. And then feel guilty time after time when we have over extended ourselves go broke . Emotionally financially and physically doing what we feel is right. This generation is so entitled. They don’t want to put forth any effort to try . God never intended for a human to carry another around on their back. After the exiting the womb you have to grow take one foot in front of the other and experience life. Painful as it maybe .
WOW!! This is good and on time!! Thank you so much!!!
You have to protect your peace.
This is a good message for older parents. Children will milk the parents
💯 Hard conversations and getting people out of your pocket. You have to do it
You said just that!!! ❤
Thank you Tonya for that TRUTH.
I'm in that situation...I have talked
& know that to be TRUE...
It's my own child...
PLEASE FATHER GOD HELP ME...
SHOW ME HOW TO DO THIS...
WITHOUT TURNING MY BACK.
THANK YOU LORD...❤
Understand when someone regardless of the relationship never consider your needs. Not putting you first. Helping yourself first is always okay when it’s done in honest.
Good Afternoon Lady T
Girrrrrl I appreciate this message l need to have a hard conversation with an adult person, my daughter.
Please pray for me. This message is my confirmation that it must take place
Thank you for your faithfulness
Good morning Lady T, on hard conversations, I know very well what and who you are talking about about,I myself had to show tough LOVE and be good with that, sometimes God would have you to CUT the imblibcal card yourself, and free yourself from harming yourself. Be good with loving from a distance and keep your peace and sanity ❤️🙏🏼
Real Talk...well said!
Wow I've been saying this alot recently I just feel beat up and tired and I'm in that same cycle thank god❤
Thxs Tonya this is what I’m going through right Now..Thxs for encouragement 🥰
When I tell you this video popped up exactly 30 mins after a very relatable situation. I’m exhausted!!!!
It’s a serious conversation, Tonya and you presented it with some humor making it easy to swallow, Great topic!
Amen Miss Tonya. I’m in a situation you are speaking of. God surely blessed me to hear what you’re saying. Thanks my sister in Christ. God led me to hear you speak on these things. I’m going to have to have that conversation. You covered a lot of subjects. I thank God I saw this blessed video. Thank You. Powerful message. on hard conversation. God bless you. ❤
❤ Message received!! Thank u!!
I think the separation should always depend on response to you setting boundaries. If they act funny and get mad, they go on about their business
Hello Tonya, it's been a while since I've been able to get caught up and my mouth just flew open with this video. I am literally going through this right now. I love them dearly however, I had to fall back for my safety and peace. May the Lord continue to bless you and thank you for this word.❤
Thank you Ms. Tonya.
Yes, yes, yes!!! Keep it real sis...this is 💯on point and well said. Now you done preached Today! YES Ma'am!!!!
Hi Tonya. Awe Lauren is sweet, grandparents are special people, yes we are! I'm glad to see you; Have a Blessed day! 🌞
Heyyyy Tonya 👋🏾
I have had several HARD conversations this week..I had to cut ties with someone who was mentally draining me with her issues..I also had to tell someone it's time to put THEIR happiness first..I had to tell MYSELF girl H3LL NO‼️ Because I refuse to go into another week with any off it👌🏾
Great message and right on time! Loved this video ❤
You better come through with that message !!!! Miss Tonya❤🌹🐓🙌sooooo well said...& thank you. ( happy Thanksgiving too you & yours.#It's Soooooo Ok💪🙌 ( & stand !! On what you said! & mean it.) #SpeakingTheTruth. #EnoughISEnough.
Amen and Amen 🙏🏽 🙌🏽 👏🏼 ❤
Hey Tonya💕Life definitely be Lifing TFS. Amen & Amen!
This is so true!!!
Hallelujah 👏
Happy Thursday ❤this is so true and necessary, definitely on my list top priority 👌thank you#itstime#overdue
Very true.
Tanya! You need a podcast! Wise women with lots to share!
So True....I honestly agree!
Amen Tonya you speak the truth and that is where I’m at now I have been to easy buy I’m stopping now I have to because Instead of going forward I’m playing catch back up and keep it moving God bless🙏🏼😇👍👌💯🌹
Yea that’s so sweet
Good afternoon 🌞 blessings 🫶🏾🙏🏾🌻, happy thanksgiving 🦃🍽️ gratefulness ❤
Tonya it’s so good to hear from a know what’s going on but I figured you been busy and I pray that what ever else going on with you that God see you though it and completely heal you including your surgery may it be a complete success and healing happy holidays we your content watcher’s love you ❤
Hey Tonya glad to see you stay focused and keep your spirits up. Work work work I understand 😊
Hey Lady T sending positive thought about you this morning!! Like where is LadyT!! Nothing like a loving Grandma!!
Good morning Lady. T, I hope you have a wonderful day GOD bless you and your family ,tell Everyone I said hello 👋 ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
You right Tonya good content
I agree with my sis because I just lost a friend because she didn't want to hear the truth about their health , meaning we are not friends anymore.
I've had to have hard conversations and I said well Lord today is the day! Let the chips fall where they may.
Heyyyy 👋 Lady T! It's been challenging for us all at work getting accustomed to the new "normal." 🙏 Without ceasing.
Hi Tonya...Girl You Talking Right this Morning ❤
Well....ENOUGH SAID!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Yes sis, leave it to God
God knew I needed that today
Just seeing this but I had to have one of those hard conversations with my co worker friend this morning. We'll see how it goes later because if the relationship goes sour, at least I don't lose my integrity.
Ms. Tanya, Lady T. I know that's right..
Blessings
Happy Wednesday Lady T I hope you have a very blessed day!!!!
PERIODT!!!!...I love you, but ENOUGH ❤
Good to see ya! I said the other day, Lord where are Tonya Tony and Mama? 😊 Glad u a good tired from working! 🎉 Happy holidays sis,
Preach!
Helping myself ❤
You are amazing
Looking 👍
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Going through that NOW
GOTDAM THAT WAS WELL SAID BIG MOMA
Girl , are you on walls in my house. I needed to hear this darling. I gave it all to GOD on yesterday morning at 5:30am🙏🏽💯♥️.
I love you tonya is been following you are years
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Come on Sister talk about it!
Your camera looks extremely high definition. Nice.
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❤replay
Most people do not want to sacrifice their own pleasure to help others...And many other people love having a crutch and will never become self-sufficient if you don't make them. Both of these type of people suck...
YahWeh is ALWAYS on time with a WORD for me & Lady"T" He BleSSed U Tew Give me/us 1, Str8 No Chasers TewDay Point Blank & Period 👐🏽!!! ✅💯💌
Girl come on with it. That's right
I understand fully hard conversations pull the band aide off and settle into a new ave to travel
Take care beautiful!
my hard conversation was to become a #selforphan. thanks goodness for therapy
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Chileee
❤Hay T just wanted to say hello and send you some hugs and love your way🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿💕💕💕💕💕💞💞💞💞💕🌹🌹🌹🌹💝💝💝
Good morning Tonya happy Wednesday
Hey Tonya
Hey my name sake
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Lady t
BIG MOMA YOU SHOULD BE PROUD YOUR GRANDDAUGHTER
GOTDAM I HOPE YOU DOING OKAY BIG MOMA