Rebecca Lynn Pope Talks Understanding Women, Men's Frustrations, Dealing With Damage + More
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- Опубліковано 16 сер 2020
- This week on the podcast awe are joined by Rebecca Lynn Pope to discuss understanding women, men's frustrations, dealing with damage and more.
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She got real within the first minute damn, keep up the good work fellas.
OMG LOVE THE QUEEN GODDESS RLP!!![999]
Great work gentle sires. 👊🏾😎
@@southhour5241 Preciate it!
You guys are doing it!
I love that Rebecca calls out both genders on their unrealistic standards and appetites! She has such a nuanced understanding without ever blaming either party, while still holding everyone accountable for their own success and happiness. So rare to find someone who says the truth without any unnecessary bitterness or pandering.
Men don’t have unrealistic standards not even close.
gyver471 if you watch the whole podcast Rebecca says that a lot of time men are getting hurt and jaded from the baddies that they find themselves most drawn to, but they could save themselves from a lot of heart break and toxic relationships if they were to date a bank teller who’s sweet and cute instead of a baddie. I liked what she said: you can’t expect a woman with a stripper body to also be a Mother Theresa!
But I also agree with her that women have unrealistic standards as well. Women can’t think they deserve a top notch, top 10% guy when they don’t have the qualities that those men want most.
@Ernest Ward will any girl who has that type of body and gets approached by certain type of guys she's going to expect that type of caliber guy forever
Danny 90 exactly. it’s unrealistic to expect a woman who has options from her beauty (stripper body with a pretty face), reputation(mother Theresa), & skills (wife & mother) to pick a man on the lower financial end of her options. those are the women that can pull the top 10% of men. but the average guy feels he deserves a chance with her because he’s a “good guy”. those men are also overlooking women in their league. no different than the average women.
@@beac8238 yea but we been lied to too lol....they say when you good guy you can find who you want...and women were told if you beautiful you get what you want.....its madness
So refreshing to hear from someone who is actually in a successful relationship.
IKR??? Most of these relationship gurus aren't even in relationships. Lol
How hard was it for her to get a relationship? Lol
Exactly not single people
Isn't he in one as well
Right, she is one of the few who actually is married.
Everyone has the right to thier preferences, but you don't have the right make what you prefer, prefer you.
And this right here is why so many women are upset
Facts
I disagree. If you want someone who doesn't want you, what's wrong with changing yourself to suit what they want, as long as it doesn't make you fake or compromise on your values?
It's still their choice whether or not accept it. So, no, you can't make what you prefer, prefer you.
@@terryvans1420 Depending on what it is, that individual might not be able to do anything about it, especially if we're talking in terms of genetics. Now if it's something else, then they might have a fighting chance.
Notes:
8:34 Different needs men & women have
9:24 Why people generalize
13:40 Men generalize women because of few experiences
16:07 Generalizations of human experiences
17:50 Single people need to hear this!
19:15 Mindset: Change your perception for the world
21:16 When you have a point of Reference it will make you aware of who's into you, but confidence will make you selective about who you're going to continue the effort.
23:11 Not everyone's you're their Type
26:30 Example of "Value doesn't change if sb isn't into you."
27:55 The more mature you become, the more your desires are gonna change (through experience)
33:05 Dating advice
35:19 Kindhearted people need Loving friends
35:44 Types of peoples we need for LIFE
40:09 What men desire from women
47:26 Women mature emotionally quicker than men
49:17 Modern women become more bitter
*men need women
52:16 Why young marriages are going to struggle
52:30 You need to work on the issues and grow to save a marriage
55:29 Maturity makes you appreciate and value "Quality People"
57:10 It takes courage in our Society, to approach someone "face to face"
1:07:05 Very few people are healed because of their inner work
1:09:33 Lead by Example
1:10:17 Becoming intentional, is gonna heal you faster
1:10:57 Find Healers (Because healers heal people)
1:11:55 People who are meant to be in ur Life
1:12:52 How to know if a person had a good Childhood?
1:14:13 Know yourself, before judging other people
1:14:49 You attract trouble people, because you're PEACE
1:15:02 Men desire Peace
1:16:27 Hurted people hurt people
Healed people, heal people
1:17:50 The more a beautiful a woman is, the more abused she is
1:20:50 Beautiful women, get attention. Attention feeds ego. Ego causes people to always be higher and higher.
1:21:17 There's a difference between being pretty and being gorgeous
1:21:46 Men put women to levels of attractiveness
1:25:53 What young men need to know when they're looking for a female?
1:29:11 Women think much different than men do
1:30:50 Pretty women, get men's attention much easier.
1:32:47 Men chase baddies
1:33:54 Men fantasize the Perfect women with a stripper's body and mother Teresa's personality.
1:35:26 Very successful women, struggle with dating - Advice
1:38:02 Men don't look at this like, let's be a powerful couple...
1:40:43 You have the freedom to decide what to do with ur life. But you don't decide about the consequences of your choices.
1:44:35 Understanding the Power of ur Thoughts
1:46:58 Believe and have faith, and your blessings are gonna come
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*Is it super rare to find somebody you generally connect with.
*Connection and feeling there's debth or if it's "something more" is so rare, when you're dating.
*Through maturity you begin to value more: intrinsic value, character, personality and virtues than superficial preferences that don't matter over the long run.
*ADVICE FOR BIG-HEARTED PEOPLE: Big giving loving people, when you meet people like that you have to hold on to that, because they're rare. [ 35:19 ]
*The more beautiful a woman is, the likely she's to be crazy
"Your brain adapts to each experience"
MVP..! 🔥💎🔥📝🔥👑🔥
It’s people like you that make the world go round
@@aliyahharmon9045 seriously tho
Goat 🐐
@@aliyahharmon9045 Thank you so much! You make my day!
Y'all really not playing. Fire after Fire with these interviews.
Hafeez is really good with connecting with people all across the board... age.... race.... gender... he does a nice job listening, learning, giving his own opinion and respecting.
Tyrone Jackson this was a beast 🔥🔥🔥🔥
Facts Tyrone. All facts.
Preciate that Tyrone.
Hafeez not sure why you’re deleting comments addressing Rebecca’s Christianity. It’s absolutely fair to say her brand isn’t lining up with her faith. Censoring and removing the comments won’t change that.
I love that she mentioned that her and her husband have therapists and how they aren’t successful on their own. Because I feel like a lot of us younger people don’t realize the amount of real work that has to go into having a successful relationship.
Facts
It's because our society has lost a sense of community eg where older people advise younger people especially culturally.
@@Nokss87 💯the community ain’t the same as it was in the old days and the elder knowledge that used to be taken for granted has been lost in some ways. But the younger people will make their own way like they have in the past. Hopefully we can all come together
Yes, I agree too! One of things she said that I felt was very important was the idea of getting into a serious relationship/marriage too soon was a bad idea. I then felt a little contradictory with that bc the amount of men that scream out about how women need to be ready and over their traumas quickly so they can procreate with them in their 20s is astounding. Healing for most people isn’t an overnight or 2 yr thing. Your whole 20-30s is about self discovery, let alone trying to heal trauma that happened in your childhood/teen life.
Young people cant AFFORD therapy, dude.
I couldn’t say anything bad about this woman if I wanted to.She holds both sides accountable and still gets the respect.
This woman is the GOAT. I wish more women listened to her.
and men!
Everyone needs to listen to her lool
She should write more books. And aim to be a bigger influencer.
What's a GOAT? Non-English speaker here, please help
@@nessie968 GOAT - Greatest Of All Time 😋
I like Rebecca, she's like the aunty we all need in our lives.
during her young years she's like the girlfriend we all wanted- forget about an aunt???????
And, Kevin is like the uncle you all need in your lives
Nah, lol!
Faccttsssd
THIS
As a man I can say Rebecca Lynn has earned the goku black badge of approval, no lies and deception unlike most other match makers, salute!
Yha like i said in my comment this is the first time in years where i will let her only talk about how man are and talk about how to be better cause when other girls do it they have this ego and sassy talk that even till this day they them self struggle to find a mate and still be confused as why man cheat and stuff even though like rebecca said its not always the same kind of people you date sometimes you got to reflect on yourself to.
Teach, Queen Becca, thank u
*Que ultra instinct music*
I needed to hear this. If I’m not somebody’s type, I just have to accept that fact. This is one of the most insightful discussions that I have ever witnessed on male-female relations.
Facts Bro.
💯
FACTS
I only wished females also understood that, these days it seems that they are all after the same type of man.
@BubonicTonic facts
@BubonicTonic Glad you said both genders/sexes attempt to date above their level, and then get mad when their rejected or used by that person. I've been guilty myself of dating above, below and right at my level.
Peaceful men attract troubled women because of your peace!!! WOW, this was eye opening for me.
Current situation...
Mot for me
Facts
Me and my last ex, I was ice and she was fire
True, but you can reject them. Tell them shooo.
The introductory breakdown is absolutely spot on. Women constantly confuse the fact that a man willing to sleep with u means that he is interested in commitment! The whole thing she mentioned about females being a 5 having an ego like they are a 9 because a man who is a 9 is willing to sleep with her. That doesn’t mean he is interested in committing to her, especially if he views her as a 5 when he knows he is around a 9.
They learn that not Everyman can be controlled by vagina. Men want the vagina sooner or later.
If you're not genuinely interested in a woman, having good intentions... jst don't sleep with her. That would solve a lot of problems. 🤷🏻♀️
@@thefreebabe Or you know, keep your legs closed and take some accountability yourselves?
@@SWIFTzTrigger I do. I was jst noting that real man don't use women and waste their time for their own personal gain.
@@thefreebabe Real women don't just open their legs. Women should also take responsibility and be real.
This is so refreshing coming from someone with a successful relationship. Sorry but I’m tired of hearing messages that stem from ego driven people. Rebecca is amazing
I agree!
I really enjoyed this interview. Unfortunately, the folks that need to hear this, would never listen to a program like this. Too bad. We’d all be better off.
Facts, society would greatly benefit from alot of people being educated on this, and I also think it would improve the situation on the depression pandemic of many people today.
Idk if it's purely because of media, movies, novels that paint the perfect picture and setting unrealistic expectations, bad parenting.
Or the combination.
I also loved her other video where she got crazy about some of the ridiculous demands from her dating coaching clients.
NaCl Ωmega I agree!
@@JayC216 “leftovers” as in the rest of their lives held against what? A decade?😂
And that’s not true, some young women choose well...
“Yeah You’re Pretty & You’re pretty with your Clothes On. But there’s Women who are Drop Dead Gorgeous with No Clothes On” sheeeeshhhh 😫 🔥 🔥
I personally don’t agree with her saying that women emotionally mature faster, but if you agree with her, feel free to explain why lol I’d like a woman’s perspective
Kevin Right I feel the same way. Men are raised to be more calculating imo, so they mature quicker.
Kevin Right I think in certain cultures you can see that more. Those who live a more traditional lifestyle you can see women more mature than men because those women were taught at a very young age how to start taking care of a household. In those same homes, the men are often times babied way past into adulthood. In western cultures, or from what I’ve seen in the US, now a days I feel like women are more childish. I think it’s because here there’s more of an emphasize to remove yourself from the traditional values that these are some of the consequences.
@@jenniferrodriguez1550 God bless you
Yeah that shit was a bar
One thing that a lot of women don’t understand is a lot of today’s men aren’t trying to chase women anymore without some sort of reciprocity. If a man is the only one initiating interactions and if he stops and there’s no contact from the woman within x amount of time then more often than not a man will just leave her be and keep it moving.
I tell women this on dates... I’m only into women who are into me
They aren’t trying, but they’re still willing to. Her husband chased after she was finished chasing Chad and Tyrone
True. Just a sign she wasn't into you or serious from the start.
It's an entire generation of women who think that sex is all they need to bring to the table in a relationship. Even if it's starfish sex.
If you’re the only one intitiating contact, she’s not interested in you. There’s no debate. Keep it moving.
I have been following Rebecca Lynn Pope for a year now and I absolutely love her! Not only is she helping women heal from past trauma and pain, she is coaching us on how to date properly. I think if people sit down and really listen to her, they would learn a lot. I personally thank Jesus for Rebecca. I pray God continue to bless her more.
💯💎💯
@Art Tsi ?
@Art Tsi are you referring to Rebecca Lynn pope ?
She is the definition of a true women I got nothing, but respect for her.
Listening to Rebecca speak just makes me feel good about my future.
Make feel good about my self
I think it’s fair to say that people should take their time before getting married but for women this should be clarified. Women shouldn’t wait until they are 30 because you have to consider the implied time it’s going take to get to know a person, connect, marry, enjoy each other and procreate if they want. That process takes time and years. So playing until you are 28 and then to start dating with a purpose could put you in a desperate situation. Instant real connections are rare. Dating with a purpose is not a smooth quick process.
Preach the truth 👏🏽
Women have children later in life all the time. Her advice still stands because we should also wait to become mothers until we know ourselves and have faced our traumas in order to not pass our sh*t down to the next generation.
Alegra Gilbert check the stats www.cia.gov/library/publications/the-world-factbook/fields/352.html
Alegra Gilbert the numbers don’t lie. You’re talking about an exception to the rule. It sounds good but the reality is the reality. So women have to get a head start in dating with a purpose. That’s if they plan to have children.
@@natashashere Sounds good, and is right . Are you familiar with the Sandbergian plan ?
Why, the older she gets the better looking she is becoming. Peace in life shows.
Makeup
I support trans rights
@arts over humanity what about the one right below
I married a pretty nerd, never looked back, never knew art shows and turtle watching were so interesting....lol..
Awwww
Dude that is my dream woman. Don't you dare let her go.
True love is rare guys. You’re gonna kiss some frogs and slay some dragons before you find your princess. Remember that.
Or you might never found it. Not being cynical here, but if it happens, one should embrace it it and find another way to be happy.
Never say never.. God has someone for you. Or the universe out there will have you run into that person. We're all connected in one way or another.
Facts 💙
Statistically speaking? Most arent going find it and mindlessly lying to them to make them feel secure is messed up, good natured or not.
Vice versa. Delayed gratification.
Rebecca is a real one.
Indeed
@Simeon she's definitely NOT real...if she was half her age she would still be hoeing..but the type of dudes that she really want are checking for the younger chic
I think her legs are smooth
@@millionaireeli631 We both know that's not true man, even she's implied that with all of her past relationships.
💯💯💯💯💯
Much respect to Ms. Pope. She always comes off authentic. And she is full of wisdom. One thing I disagree with is her statement on age. At 30 years old we need to be doing more than "figuring ourselves out".
We need to have some things actually figured out. By that age we have a full decade of adulthood under our belts. Plus, women have a biological clock to contend with (assuming they want children). Finally, at some point dating and moving from person to person does more harm than good.
You can't keep getting emotionally connected to people and breaking it up just to start all over again. I believe that, like the body, the heart recovers easier when we are younger. As you get older your emotions become more complex. Going from partner to partner just creates more collateral damage emotionally. At 30 you need to know what the hell you're trying to do with relationships and life in general.
This is a great comment.
The biological clock is actually a myth. Women’s fertility doesn’t take a dive until their 40s
Agreed
@@LH-mn3cc Yes tell me about it! My sister's having babies in her 40s like it nothing 😆. The good old fashioned way at that but it's not new for us my grandmother (born in 1916) did her mother (born in the late 1800s) did. Some of our cousins have also ❤
@@LH-mn3cc there are many doctors and fertility experts who would disagree with you.
She really described what men want very well!! Men want a safe space... someone that loves them for who they are, and not have to worry about putting on a false face for approval!
She took it from the top regarding the question “Why do people say all men or all women are this and that?” She went deep and thorough. Love it!
That boy Haafez is working
yep we see him puttin in that work
Yea his future is bright!
What women look for in a man is not the same as what a man looks for in a woman. I just never thought of things that way 💯🤔🤔🤔🤔 💯
First of all, kudos for being honest about that. Most women will not. I think that feminism has convinced a lot of women that what men look for is bad or wrong and that giving men what they want/need from a woman somehow means that she's weak or oppressed. So a lot of men are frustrated that they're expected to understand and cater to what women want but women taught to not reciprocate.
👀
No it is not.
@Taqeem Hilton2.0 What you are saying is so so unfair and not right..idk what Godly, woman would want to submit to a mindset like yours or not call you to correction respectively. You are still operating under the "blame game" Adam and Eve where doing in the garden. Please do not allow this world to corrupt your mind towards women. Men were not doing this in the Word and Jesus oftentimes came to the defense of women because of how toxic the culture was towards them solely.
Omo A. He has a point tho..... from past personal experiences with church women I can agree to an extent of what he is saying. I’m not religious but I am spiritually connected. So from an outsider looking in I have noticed that. But I do agree that one has to maintain a healthy spirit not to be corrupted from the world
She really understands men. Like she said, it's not about right or wrong, it's about reality
“You’re ALWAYS gonna be the younger women if you date older men”. That really set off a light bulb in my head.. 💯👌🏾 great video
When you're not compatible with someone just learn to let things go. Amazing content
When she said women are gonna hate me for this, I kept saying “They can’t handle the truth!” Lol this was rich and informative and I can’t wait to apply everything I learned to my life. Thank You !
This is great stuff. I grew up from a very early age learning to have distrust, contempt, and hatred for girls and women. This came from observing the way my mom acted toward my dad, and the way my older sister bullied me and my younger brother. When my dad talked about mom or women in general, it was always in a negative light - the message being women cannot be trusted , they just want to take from men, etc. These "teachings" were further reinforced by things I saw in school, TV, movies, etc. I had no one to mentor me properly. So, I stayed away from them - didn't look at them, speak to them, or interact with them unless I had to. In my teens, I didn't understand why all the other guys were so keen to chase girls when all they wanted was a guy's money and whatever he could give her. Take, take, take. By age 15 I had psychologically shut down in this department. When I went in the Army at age 18 I had to work with and for females. I had no problem interacting with them professionally - and over time I came to slowly realize women are just people, too. Girls would approach me on occasion since junior high, but because of my lack of social interaction skills I normally was not able to read such verbal and non-verbal cues and I would just be confused as to why some girls was trying to talk to me and I would just shy away and avoid them. Very often girls trying to approach would just make me angry. I had the internal attitude of "you're not getting my fucking money!!" and would be cold and/or rude to make them go away. I never hurt a girl, but I would fantasize about kicking them hard in the chest and slamming them against the wall for having the temerity to try to talk to me. I had been so beaten down as a child by my family and at school that the very concept that a girl could like me was a completely foreign concept. I finally had my first kiss, sex, and girlfriend as a 23yo sergeant - and that was only because she pursued me for months and made all the first moves. I never would have. I had a sparse dating life in my 20s, with dates/sex generally only coming months or years apart and my negative beliefs toward them slowly faded. I finally met my wife at age 28 and married at age 30. My attitude toward women finally made a significant change about 3.5 years ago (at age 45 and 15 years into my marriage) when, out of curiosity, I started watching UA-cam and audiobooks on PUA, dating, and social coaches. These caused huge epiphanies on the nature of women and how many opportunities I had missed in my youth, and it much improved my marriage because I finally had an understanding of women. At the same time, I came to the conclusion that I am probably undiagnosed high functioning autism/Asperger's - which accounted for my lifelong serious issues with social interaction, reading verbal and non-verbal cues, making friends and girlfriends, performing in leadership positions, etc. I've been watching and listening to that stuff religiously since and it has made a huge difference both socially and professionally.
It sounds like you were a misogynist until a few years ago. I’m glad that you healed, and I’m sorry you didn’t have positive female role models in your childhood to prevent the hatred of women you harbored for so long.
@@SundriedStars19 Correct. It was ingrained from an early age, but not deliberately. Those who had influence over this were unaware of the effects of their actions. Now, I also attribute a lot of it to undiagnosed autism spectrum disorder. Aspies/high functioning autistics very often mis-interpret the social actions they see and hear - often in a negative way. Things are taken very literally and often out of context. Childhood teasing is a perfect example - it is interpreted as literal insults and the aspie child reacts very emotionally and negatively to it rather than learning to counter and brush it off. They believe what they are being told about themselves - I certainly did. During my tween and early teen years, my older sister used to tell me things like, "You'll NEVER get a girlfriend!" and "No girl will ever like you!" I took these statements literally. I did not understand this was just sibling teasing. I had the mindset of, "Why would my sister lie about something like that? I must obviously be ugly, stupid, and worthless - so why bother ever even trying to talk to a girl?" I tried once to talk to a girl I liked during a class trip in 9th grade. I didn't realize it at the time, but my interaction was actually very successful, but I felt stupid for even trying and resolved I would never do it again. She tried to come up and talk to me 2-3 times the next couple of months, but I had already psychologically shut down. I didn't understand WHY she was trying to talk to me. It didn't occur to me that she might like me, because I considered myself unlikable. I did not approach a girl for another 10 years - when I was 25 years old - and we were having sex within a couple days of meeting. A similar incident occurred at the end of 10th grade. A cute girl named Robin who sat in front of me in History class told me one day I had beautiful eyes. I didn't understand why she told me this; I didn't understand she was trying to approach me. I didn't know how to react to this so I didn't really say anything. When we got our yearbooks and passed them around for our classmates to sign, I found she had written "Call me!" with her phone number in my yearbook! My social intelligence was so poor and my self-esteem so low, I literally had no idea why she wrote that in there. I pondered it over the summer trying to figure out why she would want ME to call HER. Why would some girl like ME and want me to call? I believed I had nothing to offer any girl, and - just like with the girl in 9th grade - I was DEATHLY afraid of receiving teasing from my family for having a girlfriend. I literally believed that if my mother found out I had a girlfriend I would be shamed and punished - perhaps screamed at, slapped, or whipped with the belt. This is how far off the rails my mental state had become due to the culture in my family. Of course, I never called. I find it laughable when people - particularly feminists and blue-pilled type men - accuse PUAs, dating coaches, etc. as being misogynists. I've never seen men who love women more than PUAs. Seriously. The people who make these accusations are simply admitting their misandry.
I feel like she hit it on the head with how men want someone they don't have to be so "hard" around. That safe place is comforting and I think it goes back to a lot of men's relationships with their moms. The first place most men (not every man because everyone doesn't have that privilege) were able to be vulnerable.
Rebecca is such a breathe of fresh air.... beauty spiced up with some wisdom!! That’s the kinda woman I wanna settle down with. She’s so feminine yet so assertive
I WOULD HAVE GOTTEN HER PREGNANT
@@kingtaylor201 lol
Love this women. True epitome of a beautiful wise woman.
I love how she talks so honestly. It was almost more digestible coming from a beautiful, knowledge woman like her. If I wasn't already sold on her, the fact that she really believes in therapy was a big seller for me. Also, I didn't realize Atlanta was that bad lol I live in Metro Atlanta.
The fact that I started crying halfway through the podcast is just crazy, but expected, but at the same time hurtful and I just kept agreeing and agreeing with every single thing they said, and tears kept running, and I would say that this hour and 50 minutes were the best 1h50min I've ever spent in my whole entire life :)
Yep, the top guys dont see 90% of women just the same way the top 10% beautiful, young women dont see the other 90% of men
This was such an eye opening interview. I really learned alot about trauma and how its connected to attractive women. Rebecca extremely intelligent, so are you Hafiz.
Both genders
When she said man go through a lot of Changing I felt that ,I feel like Society doesn’t let man become our Authentic self’s. I’m 20 I find myself changing small things about myself subconsciously just for women, it’s honestly not healthy.
be a man,don't change for no woman.A woman is made for a man.Just be a good,responsible and respectful man with man principles.A man is an assert ,a man carries the seed and life .Don't let any feminist take over you and starts rolling over you .Don't let your relationship with a woman be define by what is under her legs,only spinless men do that.Be the man,stand tall keep a distance and keep the woman where they should be.The mind set of a woman is between her legs,don't fall for this.At the end of the day,real women love real men.
Be you bro! You can’t lose yourself because of a woman.
What you are going through is the various iterations of yourself as you move along the maturation continuum.
In your 20s, you are largely at the mercy of your biochemistry and the fact that you haven't lived long enough to really know who you are. Life is just beginning to test you. When you accrue the life experiences that come with years, you will then perform the requisite introspection that will introduce you to your unique self and your "raison d'etre" - your reason for being.
Hang in there young fellow, be kind to yourself. Acknowledge your human fallibility without being gratuitous in your judgment of self. And remember that, "there will be no wine before it is time." ✌🏾
@@woollyzizi2356 help mate is rare
The Grandoti damn I really appreciate that bro
'CHEMISTRY...and CONNECTION..is soo RARE.'
🎯🎯💯
I ain’t even half way through the video yet and she is preaching rn. crazy how experience and open mindedness brings so much wisdom
I love her. I can watch her all day!
Yeahhhhh imma need to listen to this about 3 more times - big boy gems in here 🤝
shes 45 and looks amazing. I can only imagine she was a KILLER in her 20s. Very wise words. It is something that I as a man who is always focused on increasing value had to come to terms with. No matter how much I make, how fit I get, how smooth I am, there will be certain chicks I like that wont be into me. Thats reality. Love this episode!
Woaaaaahhh, this conversation was ssoooo powerful and truthful. Wow. So many people need to hear every bit of this, thanks for having this talk.
She’s a real one. I hope I can find a woman around my age with her mentality
Lol take your time bro
Probably have a better chance winning the lottery lol
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Aaron Jacobson You sound bitter af and assuming a lot about this woman.😂 Not every woman sleeps with hundreds of men before they settle down. Sure a there are a good bit that do but you’re making a lot of assumptions about this woman without knowing her. You’re only taking what others have told you and the experiences with women you have had to draw from to come to this conclusion.
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I guess it's no coincidence that my favorite episodes are the ones where she's a guest. i love hearing her perspective. good show Hafeez. Thanks Rebecca!
This was a life-changing podcast. I realize now how much healing sets up you for success and without it how it negatively impacts all aspects of your life.
Rebecca really got me thinking a lot about my life. Hope everyone is able to have a bless day and keep in pushing in life and never giving up ! 💯👏
I have a great smile and had an awful childhood. But Jesus raised me where my parents failed, so maybe its the peace of the Lord in me.
Word, I get what she was tryna say BUT some ppl good at faking that happiness while hiding that hurt
Yes. It's more about where you are than where you have been. Healing is a gift available to all , but in my experience it's damn hard work that most people don't want to put in . It's sad that some people have to work off the pains inflicted on them
Luxury Blue yea right i bet it’s terrible to grow up rich with access to the best of everything lol
Hey The Roommates, I went over to Rebecca Lynn Pope's UA-cam and subscribed because of you homey. Since I been watching your videos, you have been dropping nothing but knowledge so i trust your recommendations. Keep up the GREAT work bro!!!
I actually discovered Rebecca the first time y'all had her on the show, I've been subscribed to her and on her email list ever since. As a woman she is so on point, genuine, intelligent and beautiful. And guys I think there's more of us out here like her than you think!
So much wisdom & perspective Mrs Pope! Loved the balanced perspective you gave to this conversation. I started on my healing journey at 23 and I couldn't afford therapy at the time. But after about 2yrs reading, praying, meditating and REALLY doing the work, I manifested a therapist who offered to work with me at a time when I could comfortably afford it. Be intentional with your journey ladies and gents, you're no one's hero but your own.
I'm never tired of hearing Rebecca's perspectives
The knowledge she spilled in the video is mind blowing. Great content and amazing topics.
This is a great conversation. I can't stop listening to Rebecca, her voice and manner of speaking just has a silky flow that's hard to resist.
I love her! She's so honest but warm in her truthfulness. She's awesome!
I love her! One thing I will say is that people’s “types” will and can change. I think people need to pray to ask God who their partner is.
It's what makes us human. But at some point you just gotta decide if switching from man to man is worth it or settle for the "nice guy"
God is not a genie please stop with that tired message god gives you what you need not want
Raji Satton I never said it as a genie. I said pray to God to ask who your partner is!!!! You can pray about that! That’s not B.S. it’s the same way you pray about God revealing things to you. So please stop trying to change what I said and have a blessed day!
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And how would god answer? Verbal message? 😁
You're doing an AMAZING job with these guests
This is so great! She’s right. Ppl are having wayyyyy too many experiences. Even in high school we dated one person for yearssssss. Now it’s one big competition and circle. It’s too much going on Now
Nowadays the majority of girls in high school go through many boys. 2019 statistic said that girls/women from the age of 18-23 have had 9 different sexual partners on average, while boys/men from the 18-23 have had 2.4 partners on average, both are way too much, but especially for women/girls.
Agreed.
@@badass6300 wow..
@@rasakiki my reaction exactly reading the statistics too.
@@badass6300 i have had my wife since college. We gave being married for 11 years, I do not understand why people cannot choose properly.
So much honest real talk in this episode. "There's very few really truly healed people walking around." Rebecca hit the nail on the head as usual. Whatever has happened in your past, it has to start with you getting yourself right before any relationship has a chance of being healthy and sustainable.
I wish more modern women where more down to earth and realistic like her.
Lmaoo when they get older and used up..a lot of them gonna put on that face...I see it all the time
I think she's grounded because she's seen what men have to deal with through her work.
Jeff Rix she still settled in her 30s. If she had done it in the 20s I’d give her credit
She’s older that’s why
Yes she’s back!
Rebecca is wonderful. I was happy to hear her make him confront the reality of female trauma. “Ooh, it’s getting kind of heavy” yeah life is heavy. It’s incredibly common. It’s amazing women get to 30 feeling soft at all. A lot of “hard” women are just hurt girls that desperately wish they could be vulnerable with someone. This conversation was so therapeutic!
This was such a great conversation, literally listened in it's entirety - it was that thought provoking. And you guys had really good energy. Loved the story and additional thoughts in the end - so appreciative of Rebecca for sharing that Jewel. Thank you Roommates for this incredible interview!
The whole rape an abuse thing that she brought up is interesting because if so many women are sexually abused at a young age then clearly we should solve that problem first before even considering a partnership with someone.
Lol that is a long term healing process. It can take YEARS
Therapy is a must & parents need to be careful too.. 💯
The thing is a lot men have been abuse too, men don't talk about that. I know a lot guy that have been touch by their older cousin or aunt but it came in conversation like it was nothing .
@@espiondj true and ill never discredit a survivors pain. but men aren’t told that their value is in their “purity” or their reproductive organs. Men who are touched by women generally aren’t hurt as bad as say a male who was anally abused. It’s all terrible but it affects differently.
@@thetruehustler1365 completely agree with you
I am already waiting for the next episode of Rebecca Lynn Pope.
Holysmokes it is always the highest of quality when she is on!
This was the best interview I’ve seen in a long time. Rebecca broke it down so eloquently.
Wow this was so insightful, and raw. Every women need to listen, and process what this sister is sharing. This is reality!! I enjoyed this. This sister is amazing 🙌🏽🙌🏽
I agree with like 95% of what was said on this video. Here is a tip for the women out here.
Waiting until you are in your 30s to get married is bad for women if you plan on having children. What Ive noticed is that women who around 30-40 range are trying to get married tomorrow and have kids by next week because of their biological clock. Women if you are positive that you want to have kids, you should be searching for that guy soon after you graduate from college not after 30. If you use the strategy that Rebecca suggested for women in their 30s to date men in their 40s, more than likely a guy in his 40s is probably divorced, has kids of his own already and most of time isnt looking to have children. The strategy that Rebecca suggested would primarily work for women who dont plan on having any children if they wait until they are in their 30s.
I Love Candidness. A Real conversation on Men, Women & Relationships
This was a great episode!! You guys introduced me to Rebecca with her last episode and I loveeeee her and her perspective!! Good work guys, I needed to hear this!!
This was such a great conversation. The abuse that our society has gone and is gone through is astonishing and should be talked about more
This dating thing is like trying to sell hard copy newspaper subscriptions.
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Women and Men roles are switched we need to go back to the basics.
It's too late.. Feminine basic nature has been unleashed for last 30 years
Too late for that. Feminine changed the game...
Hell no. My family members were married for decades but the shit was toxic
I mean not really even before all of this women and man did the same thing once it just that somewhere down the line females learn how to control man and have them do everything and have the female do all the relaxing time.
MysticStrike Force thats a lie lol
The best thing I've heard on UA-cam today. Thank you very much for asking her to speak. It's so refreshing to get perspective from someone with her experience in matchmaking, life and relationships. 43:15 was spot on sir. The landscape has changed so much, so to actually have someone who understands the male pov too 👌was a great call. Peace
Your podcasts are opening me up to so much I never knew about myself and others. Thank you!
Love u guys! So true what u said about sexual assault and rape. I dont know a woman who hasn't been sexually assaulted and many men have confided that too have been abused by older women or men when they were younger. Very sad. And I love the positive mindset and manifestation. Love ya, believe and believe
Sad reality
You should listen to Erin Pizzey
@Eddie N they're not lying, people that have been abued usually carry a lot of shame and secrecy. There are peadofiles, molesters, rapists, groomers or people who take advantage everywhere. At work I have seen it, at school, in life, in church, at the club its everywhere.
@Eddie N or maybe people dont open up to you
@Eddie N this niavity must be so amazing to live with 😩 you're so lucky
I can not believe she is 45...
Yeah she looks good for her age
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And her son is 26. Alpha fux beta bux. 🤣
I thought she was like 50 to be honest.
She could literally be my mom,but I find her fine asl
That was great! ❤ I could have listened to you two for four hours. Thank you both so much for the encouragement and inspiration!
This was amazing! Thank you!
Another bomb interview! Have you guys ever considered a round table discussion with men and women? That would be so bomb!
Inquisitive I agree 🔥🔥
That would be dope but they have to pick the right men and women who are going to be 100% honest with their answers during the conversation and also they must be willing to listen to understand instead of listening to reply!!!! To many times when they usually have these round tables discussions, it turns into a us vs them and the real intent of the topic will get lost.
Hands down the best video I have seen all year and possibly EVER on UA-cam!
It’s beautiful to walk fully in your own strength through owning your perceived losses. Excited to walk this out.
Also, very comforted by her marriage story. 🥰❤️
It’s always so refreshing to see Rebecca on the panel. I’m definitely taking notes!
I relate to this woman so much. Listening to her gave me so much hope 🙏
Rebecca is so beautiful and smart ,cool and down to earth my type
I’m so glad I decided to listen to this tonight. This was episode was such a huge help. Rebecca Pope is awesome. Extremely smart and wise. I have been needing to find my passion in life and you both gave me a bit of inspiration.
This was great timing for me to listen to. Rebecca you made me feel at ease and definitely give hope with the experiences you have shared. Bless you both Rebecca & Hafeez. Thank you
RLP IS THE WOMEN THAT ALL WOMEN ARE LOOKING FOR NO DOUBT LOVE HER BLESS HER PROTECT HER LISTEN TO HER!!![999]
I grew up with both of my parents and they stay together and they do love each other however I did not like their relationship. My mom is a nag and my dad is just chill and lets her do basically almost anything. My dad did not teach me how men think at all. But he did leave a good example about how a man is to treat women and present himself and take care of himself. My mother does not take care of herself but she did teach me and showed me how to clean very well and take care of a home and cook. My mother is not nurturing however my father is be or will force himself to have patience in understanding. The missing blanks I had to figure out myself through educating myself. My mom is not very feminine and she even had told me a couple different times that I was too vain when I would be dressing myself up. unfortunately I let that internalize And I only dressed up mostly on nice occasions. The biggest part is dating yourself and loving yourself. it'swhat I had to do. there were times where I accidentally attracted the person that I absolutely wanted in my life but lost them because I was missing the blanks. And they were missing blanks as well. But because I was into them I would encourage them in a way about what was missing However I did not receive the same in return due to the fact they didn't know exactly what it was and how to articulate it to me or they just were playing the game and didn't care enough to tell me and let me fail in that particular area. I am 32 years old and the internal battle that I go through about feeling like I'm a wonderful woman and then turning around and feeling like I'm not desirable is one of the biggest challenges I have to master. attracting an established and stable man is challenging when I don't know where to look and I'm still in practice of learning the things that men value in a woman
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Like woman would want a provider/protecter men would like a supporter/healer I'm just answering the last thing you said, also the nagging thing really can make anyone miserable so you've already got a heards up on that
Damn I feel sad for your dad
It seems like your heart is in the right place. I will believe you will find a healthy partner
Related to all that you said, hang in there, you got this and you're not alone ❤
This woman is heavenly to listen to, she is open minded and willing to listen and in response gives the most logical response. As a woman, it's very refreshing knowing women like her are here to create bridges between us and the outside world.
I've listened to many videos on relationships and dating, this is by far the best conversation - super encouraging and motivating. Thanks for doing this men!
Omg everything she says is what I believe in as well. 👍🏼 she is amazingly unbiased and keeps it real.
The biggest point raised in this vid is female trauma,its a BIG BIG issue that’s under estimated within the Caribbean community(black community worldwide)i realised this from my teenage yrs from my mother’s work in a Woman Aid refuge & the unofficial phone conversations & dinner table chats...honestly speaking what woman have to put up with(in ALL areas of society)is very very shocking.
This is powerful thanks guys for the value!