What Happens To Your Ex During No Contact?

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  • @scottallan7931
    @scottallan7931 2 роки тому +754

    Hey guys. Followed Coach Lee to a tee. 12 months of no contact. Never initiated once. She breadcrummed once in a while. I did me and worked on myself and when she did reach out kept it light, flirty and non committal.
    We have now been back together for a month. Talked through our issues and are back together. Everything the Coach Lee says your ex thinks of during this period is exactly what she experienced.
    Trust the process...

    • @Anime_kitten
      @Anime_kitten 2 роки тому +59

      12 months? Jeeze. I mean that is nuts

    • @scottallan7931
      @scottallan7931 2 роки тому +61

      @@Anime_kitten yep it is. I'd moved on and forward, new experiences, dated new people so did she but we realised we should be together but she did all the heavy lifting in winning me back as opposed to the other way around. Trust the process

    • @d.v.k.6592
      @d.v.k.6592 2 роки тому +25

      12 months 😫 but for a lifetime love ❤

    • @Saber_Dance
      @Saber_Dance 2 роки тому +18

      I’m happy for you my friend. I blew it in the first few months after the breakup and then I discovered Coach Lee’s videos and been in NC for the past year. I think my ex moved on and is now talking to someone else. Who knows, maybe she’ll come back. And if she doesn’t, then she doesn’t deserve me.
      good luck in your relationship.

    • @ethanp952
      @ethanp952 2 роки тому +7

      12 months nc … that’ll do it for me loll

  • @James-yc7fc
    @James-yc7fc 2 роки тому +1290

    To the non-believers.... no contact works 100% of the time. You either reconcile and evolve with your former parner (win) AND/OR your self improvement during this process creates so much confidence in how you feel about yourself that you are overall a better partner for whoever you end up with. Focus on you. What your ex does IS NOT a reflection of who YOU are, it's a reflection of who THEY are. Stay strong.

    • @kelvinwozniak1004
      @kelvinwozniak1004 2 роки тому +34

      Thanks for this motivation. On day 23 with my exgf of 6 years

    • @Heart3577
      @Heart3577 2 роки тому +8

      @@kelvinwozniak1004 Try elevating your mood with a happy song...

    • @tlonnan84
      @tlonnan84 2 роки тому +8

      Yeah thats the hard part....finding someone else😒☹️

    • @kelvinwozniak1004
      @kelvinwozniak1004 2 роки тому +6

      @@Heart3577 I’ll try that. I broke no contact once and texted her I miss you. Then she said “talk soon” so who knows when she’ll come back

    • @James-yc7fc
      @James-yc7fc 2 роки тому +9

      @@michaelcrovo9112 I'm truly sorry you're experience such rough times. Just about everyone that comes to watch these videos is looking for guidance, support, and most of all comfort knowing we're not the only ones that feel the way we do. I think you have the right idea, but for the wrong reasons. Build whole self attractiveness FOR YOU. Getting her back is a bonus, but being a better you last even if things don't work out. Good luck, friend.

  • @jonathanb6911
    @jonathanb6911 2 роки тому +78

    Take a walk, read a book, connect with family and friends, play some games, enroll in something productive, just stay in No Contact. Coach Lee knows what it's about.

    • @jannlewandowski5540
      @jannlewandowski5540 Рік тому

      Jonathan B. I recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit for you. It's excellent!
      myexbackcoach.com/ebk

  • @epaliotisglx190
    @epaliotisglx190 2 роки тому +199

    I know there are many people who watch these videos saying "this will not work in my case" or "my ex is not like that". I was in the same position too and no contact method worked for me perfectly. It is all about the psychology behind it. Be patient the time will come when they contact you back, so better be prepared for that moment. Keep your head up and focus on your goals during this no contact period❤️

  • @waynesalisbury
    @waynesalisbury 2 роки тому +55

    Eventually you will be 10 times stronger mentally and emotionally than your Ex. Listen to Coach Lee and you will

  • @Nooshimii
    @Nooshimii 2 роки тому +39

    Success for me has been the transition from pining for my ex so badly and wanting nothing else but to get back together to not really caring if they do come back or not. Nevertheless coach Lee has brought me a lot of comfort throughout this journey and I will continue watching lol

    • @martinsdillion5463
      @martinsdillion5463 2 роки тому

      ....., Hola amigo, recomiendo a esta gran espiritualista que arregló mi relación en 24 horas, ahora mi pareja está de regreso y más comprometida después de muchos años de separación y ruptura.

  • @xMikeyHardyx
    @xMikeyHardyx 2 роки тому +34

    2nd breakup in 2 years. Here we go again coach.

    • @loubentodias
      @loubentodias 2 роки тому +3

      Stay strong!!! Rooting for you

    • @ethanp952
      @ethanp952 2 роки тому

      Does it hurt the same way ?

    • @xMikeyHardyx
      @xMikeyHardyx 2 роки тому +1

      @@ethanp952 No the first time I was crushed for 6+ months. This time, it’s been like 5 days and I feel good. First ones always the hardest.

    • @annerivas1155
      @annerivas1155 2 роки тому +1

      @@xMikeyHardyx Just curious, two breakups with the same person?

    • @xMikeyHardyx
      @xMikeyHardyx 2 роки тому

      @@annerivas1155 Yep! First one was a mess but she attempted to fix it. This time I can honestly say it’s been a week tomorrow and I’m not even bothered by it. Weird how the chemicals in your brain work, isn’t it?

  • @tannascreative6130
    @tannascreative6130 2 роки тому +72

    Cried really hard today out of the blue. This seems like a marathon sometimes. Sometimes strong, sometimes not and the finish line seems so far away...if there is a finish line. It's about the journey, right?

    • @solisun8787
      @solisun8787 2 роки тому +11

      Me the same. Soon will be 2months after he dumped me with 1word. I am getting worse with time. Dont see any light at the end. Sometimes feels little better but all bad feelings get back immediately even with more strong power. Horrible. When it will finish

    • @Paul-ir8qq
      @Paul-ir8qq 2 роки тому

      It would quite literally be easier to have an arm chopped off than to endure this excruciating pain.

    • @ethanp952
      @ethanp952 2 роки тому +1

      @@solisun8787 maybe u kept contacting him that’s why? Stop every communication it will be easier after 4 weeks straight.

    • @gadgetsondeck43
      @gadgetsondeck43 2 роки тому +7

      there is light at the end of the tunnel guys.. even when you feel like there isn't, the pain the hurt is definitely a marathon, but u got this 💪🏾 when you overcome this you're gona look back and you will feel amazing I was in my darkest moments right after the break up six months ago, fast forward today, I feel a lot better, still have down moments, but not so bad, the main thing is to focus on yourself, hang out with friends and family and try keep yourself occupied.

  • @drureynolds142
    @drureynolds142 2 роки тому +11

    I was doing no contact for 23 days she reached out I kept it simple and now we haven’t talked in 8 days

    • @mrsmarigigi
      @mrsmarigigi 2 роки тому +2

      Similar here.. Start no contact again!! I was doing fine 6 wks of no contact. He reached out again and now disappeared. I think they are testing the waters. Stay strong 💪
      Stay busy!

  • @EmmaMercury
    @EmmaMercury 2 роки тому +35

    Tomorrow I'm 2 months strict NC since the day we broke up! I'm trying to keep strong with great thanks and appreciation to these videos!

  • @freakynikki08
    @freakynikki08 2 роки тому +254

    Happy we're getting a lot of videos from you lately, Coach Lee! It's been 4 months since our breakup, and I'm just trying to heal and focus on myself (no longer holding out hope we'll get back together). But I still watch your videos because it's so comforting to have someone in our corner giving us encouragement and wisdom during a hard time when we have no one to turn to.

    • @crazyanimeloveable
      @crazyanimeloveable 2 роки тому +8

      Samee! I know I shouldn't get back with him after almost 2 weeks since last NC
      Everyday gets easier!
      I'm happy your doing better!
      From one soul to another, I hope and know you'll have greater days ahead!

    • @freakynikki08
      @freakynikki08 2 роки тому +4

      @@crazyanimeloveable Aww, thank you for the support! Hope you have more better days ahead as well! Wishing for our (and everyone else's) healing. 🤍

    • @foreverred105
      @foreverred105 2 роки тому +3

      4 months for me also. I have my moments but it is slowly getting better and coach Lee is without a doubt one of the reasons for this.

    • @politicallycorrect8288
      @politicallycorrect8288 2 роки тому

      we are in the same situation

    • @Jearl_Black
      @Jearl_Black 2 роки тому +4

      Don't hang on 13 years like I have. All that time gone.....wasted. It hurt 13 years later as bad as it did the very first day. The most precious give we have to give anyone on this Earth is time. I have 13 years of it that can never be gotten back.

  • @signsignsign74
    @signsignsign74 2 роки тому +16

    A year and a half of no contact after a 6 year relationship where she cheated and left me. I’ve worked on myself, got a new job, new car, new space and get attention from women I never thought I’d get. I’ve outgrown my ex. Thanks Lee! ❤️

    • @ronchilled
      @ronchilled 2 роки тому +2

      Never take a cheater back (if they reach out)

  • @godfather4377
    @godfather4377 2 роки тому +21

    The worst is when your ex break's the no contact rule, to tell you they're in a relationship, and hope that you've moved on. Yep, happen to me, and no, it wasn't one week, two weeks, or a few months. It's been one year, and I never reached out to her one time. So her thinking she needs to do this is weird to me. And the way she did it was even worse... "Hey, how you doing. I hope you're good. I need to tell you something urgent, please text me immediately." I swear I thought at first she was trying to hurt me as some bizarre kind of payback, but she was serious. Who freakin' does that?

    • @wasiubarakatadesile4384
      @wasiubarakatadesile4384 2 роки тому

      MY EX RETURNED TO ME WITH THE HELP OF DR OJIE A GIFTED SPIRITUALIST WHO CAN MEND ANY BROKEN O RELATIONSHIP AND CAN ALSO MANIFEST YOUR SOUL MATE ALSO TO YOU, I STRONGLY ADVISE YOU TO SEEK HELP FROM HIM, 💜💜💜

    • @wasiubarakatadesile4384
      @wasiubarakatadesile4384 2 роки тому

      WhatZapp hiM NOw🌹🌹🌹

    • @Umioko
      @Umioko 2 роки тому +3

      That’s terrible! Sorry to hear. :(

    • @lateashaevans4579
      @lateashaevans4579 2 роки тому +5

      She try make your jealous

    • @ameliel8792
      @ameliel8792 2 роки тому +1

      That is messed up. I'm really sorry. I guess she valued you and the relationship to reach out to you, I don't think it was intentionally to hurt you cos not many people would do that.

  • @aaronninjahunter2213
    @aaronninjahunter2213 2 роки тому +11

    Wanna know what's really sad? That people abandon you and they want to understand you But that second part isn't true. They are just misjudging you so badly and that's their fault... and that even though you apologize so many times like your effort doesn't matter............ so many people are just not at fault for their partners issues

  • @raxpanda670
    @raxpanda670 2 роки тому +29

    Thanks coach Lee day 45 NC you help me alot your videos saved my life 😁 some days are good someday are bad but your videos lift me up and I m doing my best to become my best version mentally and physically

  • @stephenbotwe1992
    @stephenbotwe1992 2 роки тому +21

    Coach Lee you're a legend in this field

  • @manutdmadlad
    @manutdmadlad 2 роки тому +6

    3 months in and still no contact. I feel in my guy there is a message coming. In the meantime, I’m working on myself to be in a better position regardless.

  • @ririsharon4652
    @ririsharon4652 Рік тому +2

    On the 5th day after the break-up I ran into him. I asked him to reconsider. He refused. I asked him to meet me again. And so we met. I pleaded him to reconsider and he got irritated. I decided not to ask again. One week into NC, i got blocked on social media. That was unusual of him, so I broke NC and called him. I went back to NC and 3rd into NC he texted me asking if I'm doing okay and back in town (I had leave for work). Politely told him I'm out of town and doing good. Asked if there's something urgent. He said he just texted to check me on. To see if I am doing okay. I said why wouldn't I be doing okay and that I don't live in past. He gave 👏 reaction. Now, I'm pissed.

  • @gabbymontoya2085
    @gabbymontoya2085 2 роки тому +11

    After a while you just don’t count the days anymore .. it’s been a year or so.. definitely healing from toxicity and continue to ask God for guidance and peace

    • @wasiubarakatadesile4384
      @wasiubarakatadesile4384 2 роки тому

      MY EX RETURNED TO ME WITH THE HELP OF DR OJIE A GIFTED SPIRITUALIST WHO CAN MEND ANY BROKEN O RELATIONSHIP AND CAN ALSO MANIFEST YOUR SOUL MATE ALSO TO YOU, I STRONGLY ADVISE YOU TO SEEK HELP FROM HIM, 💜💜💜

    • @wasiubarakatadesile4384
      @wasiubarakatadesile4384 2 роки тому

      WhatZapp hiM NOw🌹🌹🌹

  • @keepgrowing9941
    @keepgrowing9941 2 роки тому +5

    Glad i am not yet sleeping. ☺️
    Attendance check: 🙋🏻‍♀️🇵🇭🥰

  • @jaskier428
    @jaskier428 2 роки тому +13

    After the break up I started apologizing to her about everything I've had done wrong during the relationship and also thanked her for the good memories. We had been dating for 2 years and i pleaded to her for a month after the break up to only get blocked on all social media in return. How does my odds look like :/

    • @livbeyond
      @livbeyond 2 роки тому +6

      It doesn't matter, it is in the past already. Start No Contact and focus on yourself. Keep strong! 💫

    • @TheeBaldEaglee
      @TheeBaldEaglee 2 роки тому +1

      Same happened with me and there are 80% chances according to me so hope for best and you'll be good after 2 weeks and start no contact. 👍🏻

    • @LifestriderX
      @LifestriderX 2 роки тому +6

      same thing happened to me. She came back after 6 months, but then when i got the message yeah it felt good, but it made me realize that you and i could do so much better. i didn’t think i would feel like this but it’s true. of course i still want to talk to her, but she just threw us away and replaced us. We’re better than that.

    • @jaskier428
      @jaskier428 2 роки тому +1

      @@LifestriderX did she block you from all social media as well? since i am in a similar spot, id like to hear more about your experience if possible. Also ur banner is really cool, nice editing

    • @LifestriderX
      @LifestriderX 2 роки тому +6

      @@jaskier428 yes, she blocked me from everywhere. I can tell you’re trying to find a sliver of hope by relating stories, but you gotta move on my guy. You must self-improve (body), grind (money) and focus on your purpose (Music & God for me). She will find her way to you if you were truly meant to be friends. Trust me man, it’s better this way. It feels better knowing im so much stronger than i was 6 months ago, she has to catch up to my level, but it’s not even about that. i got up, and made a change. i used my “oneitis” for her as fuel to move forward. Let this girl be the fuel for you to get up and evolve.

  • @jimmythrowoff
    @jimmythrowoff 8 місяців тому +1

    3 weeks into no contact as she left me right before christmas. this has been the hardest way to start my year. We where best friends, i yelled at her in an argument which made her end things due to me scaring her. i apologised but she said she needed space away from me. this has been so hard for me. i pray she comes back, im so lost right now. i follow all the steps but i hate that i sabotaged such a beautiful connection :( my thoughts go out to everyone struggling in NC and thinking about there special person daily..

  • @jasongabb1671
    @jasongabb1671 2 роки тому +6

    Stay strong all, on day 35 of NC. One text on Jan 9th at 10pm, asking if i had a good new year x. I replied politely as per previous videos, no text from her since. No initiation from me and feeling stronger, still have moments of doubt.. It does hurt, but it does get better.. Lets see if she reaches out again..

    • @avekelder
      @avekelder 2 роки тому +1

      Look.. she did her move. She obv misses you but if you are not contacting her now then you’ll probably never hear from her. Girls don’t reach out twice, no matter how much they miss you. Different rules apply to boys and girls. Looks like this girl wants you to chase her. But she’s ready to give up if you don’t.

    • @jasongabb1671
      @jasongabb1671 2 роки тому

      @@avekelder Not if you watch the videos from coach Lee, i replied back politely. You should go into NC phase 2. And they do reach out, she did it once and she can do it again. Don't forget she finished the relationship four times before...

  • @cocochannel8932
    @cocochannel8932 2 роки тому +1

    Prompted from Coach Lee
    To General Lee
    the master strategist!!

  • @bonfire0hzero
    @bonfire0hzero 2 роки тому +2

    so far hes contacted me twice in one week which is a lot more than once every twoish weeks! He knows i love museums and looking at beautiful things. Its strange he even took the photos and sent them to me since he doesnt like taking photos much or care for such things. But i will stay strong and continue NC until he reaches out formally. Almost at 1 month NC after a restart!

  • @EffinAllTheTime
    @EffinAllTheTime 2 роки тому +5

    My ex blocked me and started new relationship during no contact..

  • @rezenewoldegebrel6960
    @rezenewoldegebrel6960 2 роки тому +2

    Coach Lee You are God Send to millions thanx for helping the broken hearts.

  • @davidcoppotelli3957
    @davidcoppotelli3957 2 роки тому +1

    The Gift of your Total Silence and Absence is always the best way to go for yourself. It can't be used a punishment you will only end up hurting yourself more. Step back and away from that situation and focus on yourself not them because if they wanted you. Well you already know the answer to that. Life is very short how do you want to spend it.

  • @SuperGem1979
    @SuperGem1979 Рік тому +1

    We’ve gone months with no contact. It doesn’t work. If the ex has found a rebound and is occupied, you’re out of sight and out of mind.

    • @jannlewandowski5540
      @jannlewandowski5540 Рік тому

      SuperGem1979, REBOUNDS DON'T WORK! Listen to Coach Lee. No Contact works all the time. The rebound will not last..

  • @limited-mizochannel
    @limited-mizochannel 2 роки тому +1

    😱😱😱😱

  • @semanavidi8694
    @semanavidi8694 2 роки тому +1

    The Most Amazing Relationship Expert EVER!

  • @noscope9920
    @noscope9920 2 роки тому +9

    One and only Coach Lee 🖤

  • @Ch2.0ris
    @Ch2.0ris Рік тому +1

    Make me your student coach 🙏.. you are indeed a guru, a healer

    • @RealCoachLee
      @RealCoachLee  Рік тому

      I do train people. See myexbackcoach.com/relationship-coach-training/

    • @Ch2.0ris
      @Ch2.0ris Рік тому +1

      Unable to find to book a call with you, when I click on the link it takes me to breakup kit

    • @jannlewandowski5540
      @jannlewandowski5540 Рік тому +1

      ​@@Ch2.0ris the breakup kit.
      myexbackcoach.com/ebk

    • @jannlewandowski5540
      @jannlewandowski5540 Рік тому +1

      ​@@Ch2.0ris Coach Lee's booking.
      myexbackcoach.com/coach-lee

  • @albertodeulofeu5277
    @albertodeulofeu5277 6 місяців тому

    Life is so sad. Wish someone would’ve told me this is how it was going to be when I was younger. I had such high hopes.

  • @moonh2136
    @moonh2136 Рік тому +1

    It's very painful for me because we are working in the same office. 😢😢😢😢

  • @Eric-ko3px
    @Eric-ko3px 2 роки тому +1

    Hi Coach Lee, I paid $20+ on your live Q&A as well as paying for your Emergency Breakup Kit. My question would not attach to my donation. Here's my situation, I was dating someone seriously for three months (great connection, sex, great chemistry, etc). We usually only saw each other @ once a week due to her schedule. She broke up with me out of the blue, stating she was not sure of the long-term compatibility. She is super busy with kids, a complicated job, etc. I took it well and thanked her for her honesty, but did push back a little and said we needed more time to figure out the "long-term" thing and we should just have fun and see where it goes. After a week of no contact from me, she started texting me, with messages including she "misses me" "misses our time together" etc. She also shared details of her weekend, etc. Is it time to set up a live meet or call, or do I need to wait longer or have her reach out more before I do that. Thanks

  • @Zan11117
    @Zan11117 2 місяці тому

    37 days.. minutes passing like days, sometimes it's become very difficult to take a breathe even

  • @jgorogue
    @jgorogue 2 роки тому +2

    Went through a break/breakup February till March. We talked a lot during the break and even saw each other twice, then almost 3 weeks went by, saw her once, then a few days later we broke up. She ended a 2.5 year relationship cause it came down to her not trusting me enough to change. I accepted that I was not in a good mental and physical spot in the fall till we broke up and it killed my relationship, I took her for granted and didn’t appreciate her, I didn’t even listen or try it improve cause I felt so stuck. It really broke her breaking up with me cause of the situation, I know for a fact she still loves me and it’s just very sad. Ever since we split I’m doing everything I can to better myself and maybe just maybe we can rekindle things, and I honestly have felt much better about myself. It’s been almost 4 weeks since we last talked and over a month since we broke up. We texted a bit and I even sent her a letter cause she likes that sort of stuff and explains how I feel, after that we talked a bit on the phone and that was it. If I honestly don’t hear from her till the end of the month I’m going to reach out and ask her to talk in person, I want to have a deep conversation with her and go for a nice walk on the beach where we had our first “date.”

    • @jgorogue
      @jgorogue 2 роки тому +1

      @@actie6615 Thank you, I actually don’t know if I’m going to reach out next week. I just saw something last night that was pretty hypocritical and disrespectful towards me so I’m a bit off put. No, she isn’t seeing anyone. Like you said I need to be patient and believe I need to grow more before I start talking to her again. Scary how my thoughts are changing, I don’t want to wake up one day not wanting her anymore.

    • @4dasorthebeast398
      @4dasorthebeast398 Рік тому

      @@jgorogue hey man, 6 months later, how did things turn out?

    • @phil692
      @phil692 Рік тому

      Brother the minute you reach out to her, you will start the process over for her mind to reset and it will take longer..ask coach Lee am I right?

    •  Рік тому

      Any update?

  • @cindyanderson5272
    @cindyanderson5272 2 роки тому

    My ex ghosted or broke up with me by not responding to my texts anymore. Even though our texts were pleasant. Thank you for these videos. It’s been early , only a few weeks, NC with them.
    Thanks again. I have support from a good girlfriend and my faith 👍🏻👍🏻

  • @lutaayam
    @lutaayam 2 роки тому +2

    I think my ex is happy and moved on. It’s day 25 of NC

  • @kill3rclown690
    @kill3rclown690 2 місяці тому

    Coach lee knows exactly what hes talking about this guy is smart. Listen to him guys no contact does work the longer u stay away from them the higher chance they could come back

  • @bystandersarah
    @bystandersarah Рік тому +1

    Im starting to not be worried about what’s going on with him…I’m more concerned what I am going through!!! The emotional roller coaster is not fun😢

    • @jannlewandowski5540
      @jannlewandowski5540 Рік тому

      Sarah K. I recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit. It will help you.
      myexbackcoach.com/ebk

  • @karankumarofficialid
    @karankumarofficialid 2 роки тому +2

    More long distance relationship ex back videos please

  • @theprolificnetwork4670
    @theprolificnetwork4670 2 роки тому

    Where were these videos when I needed them the 1st time I would have been so much further ahead by now😩

  • @agbordaniels
    @agbordaniels 2 роки тому +2

    Broke no contact last week friday at the curiosity stage as I was worried I was losing her to someone else after 110 days. I guess I’ll never get her back again.

  • @phil692
    @phil692 5 місяців тому

    I love coach Lee, this guy is awesome..I believe him whole heartily..

  • @Luv2fly787
    @Luv2fly787 Рік тому +1

    This guy is spot on!!!

  • @faithjoanchua
    @faithjoanchua 2 роки тому

    Hi coach! Just found your channel and it has been a source of comfort.
    We broke up on Valentine’s Day after a big quarrel, he wanted to break UP and I initiated the BREAK. He agreed to the one month break. We had a getaway booked for that weekend, I asked if he would still want to go, he said yes.
    We have lived together for 2 years. He wanted to break up because I was unhappy that he spent too much time on his career. He felt that I did not fit into his new life , new friends, and thought maybe he was not ready to settle down. As we lived together for two years, he thought our rs was losing its spark and we were becoming more like best friends than lovers.
    He still texted me the next day just to say good morning, and we went ahead with the getaway which happened 3 days later. We did not talk about our issues during that period, just enjoyed the time tgt , and he was sweet and behaved almost like normal.
    When the getaway ended I realised I had covid. For whatever reason, I decided to stay with him during isolation. I stayed at his place for a week. He took care of me, was caring and loving and often checked up on me. I have just recovered, and when I told him I was going home, he asked if I wanted to stay. I said no.
    So it’s day one into the actual no contact. Our no contact ends in two weeks. I’m worried I have not been doing this no contact correctly.
    How can I serve the next two weeks of no contact in the best way without messing up?

  • @sanchous4530
    @sanchous4530 2 роки тому +4

    Great video as always! Looking forwad to hear your thoughts about an ex who keeps contacting before the brake up. How often should I initiate contact? Should I still allow him to miss me? There were 2 weeks of nc, but then he reached out and there is just small talks occasionally

    • @ethanp952
      @ethanp952 2 роки тому +8

      Please don’t do that mistake. Don’t initiate contact and just respond politely and not too fast. Until he makes it clear that he want u back. He made a video about ur ex breaking the NC. U should watch it.
      I did that mistake when mine broke the NC and started initiating, ended up being ignored again, and ruining my chances further. Back to stage 1. It’s more hurtful. Believe me please.
      Stop chatting with him, u are making it easier for him. Just be casual when he reaches out.
      Go watch the video.

  • @MH-sy3ur
    @MH-sy3ur 2 роки тому +4

    Thank you Coach Lee… great video…what’s your recommendation on what to do when you’re not sure who did the breaking up? 14 weeks no contact from break up event.

  • @Mmjk_12
    @Mmjk_12 Рік тому +1

    My ex just isn't the one to come back, i've always liked her and for 10 days we dated before she decided she didn't want to go forwards with it. i was young and made all the mistakes of looking needy etc, she ended up blocking me. We had been best friends before that. 10 months later i reached out just to apologise not expecting or particularly looking for a response but she did leave one. A month later of talking and she expressed interest and a month after that we were together. Lasted 18 months before she left, wasn't a bad breakup, she had mentally checked out and i gave her the breakup despite telling her i think we could make it work. 1 month later now and no contact since, i'm not expecting to ever hear from her.

    • @jannlewandowski5540
      @jannlewandowski5540 Рік тому

      I recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit for you. It will help.
      myexbackcoach.com/ebk

  • @davidw5532
    @davidw5532 2 роки тому +4

    Guys, never take your ex back. Ok, it’s that simple. Move on. Have some self-respect. Abundance mindset. Trust me, it’s the best mindset you can have.

  • @Connor4x4
    @Connor4x4 2 роки тому +2

    Has anyone had their ex girlfriend come back after 3 months no contact? I'll be 3 months no contact next week and am feeling doubtful and sad.

    • @Connor4x4
      @Connor4x4 2 роки тому +1

      @@ch76504 I feel your pain. It's been 7 months post breakup for me. I broke no contact two times before finding the wonderful Coach Lee. Maybe we'll both fund luck soon.

    • @ch76504
      @ch76504 2 роки тому

      @@Connor4x4 I hope so too. Stay strong.

    • @clementinosmith3792
      @clementinosmith3792 2 роки тому +1

      The best way to deal with this is to better yourself, keep your mind occupied like with new hobbies or working out because if they haven't contacted you it's usually because they are in a rebound relationship but sooner or later is going to blow up or they might try to make it work at all costs because they don't want to be alone , look stupid on everyone else eyes and then they might want to come back, but don't take them back because you can love them but you have to love yourself more. Remember this, you first, you second and you third .

    • @Connor4x4
      @Connor4x4 2 роки тому

      @@clementinosmith3792 I'm doing that. Thanks. Alot of projects luckily to keep me busy for the time being. I truly love this girl and the wound is still hurting. See what happens and keep watching Coach Lee for encouragement

  • @KTKaute
    @KTKaute 9 місяців тому

    Found out he hasn't even shed a tear, thinks I'm coming back. Guess I'll have to just move on then

  • @Ckyt572
    @Ckyt572 Рік тому

    This is my story: 2 month relationship with a dismissive avoidant. He dumped me because - although he had feelings for me- he didn't see us "succeding long term ". I went into NC immediately. He kept stalking my WhatsApp almost every day for 4 weeks. Now he's using a dating app again and stopped stalking my whatsapp. What stage is this?? Maybe he moved on, 47 days after the break up. I'm confused and sad but moving on, too.

  • @BruceJC75
    @BruceJC75 6 місяців тому

    Damn it I wish I hadn’t made that phone call… I’ll be ready for the next breakup lol.

  • @daveholland3116
    @daveholland3116 Рік тому +2

    @RealCoachlee Can anger be a stage of no contact? Ive been in no contact 3 weeks but accidentally ran into my ex in a store yesterday, we didn’t speak only walked past each other but she looked really angry to see me, she was the one who finished with me. Is anger a bad sign?

  • @barbarablack7767
    @barbarablack7767 2 роки тому

    He says he just needs a little time to think and work on himself

  • @militarygrade12380
    @militarygrade12380 Рік тому +1

    What do you do when they come back and say that they feel so alone and that you are driving them away and that you seem to not care. Then they follow it up with you and her have had to many problems she doesn’t know if she could love you and be happier without you. There’s more but I’ll leave it there.

    • @jannlewandowski5540
      @jannlewandowski5540 Рік тому

      The Village Idiot, I highly recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit for you which is excellent and POWERFUL. IT HAS EVERYTHING you need including strategies for every situation.
      myexbackcoach.com/ebk

  • @ConceptHut
    @ConceptHut 2 роки тому +1

    So I'm curious for what the thinking is when they don't come back.

    • @RealCoachLee
      @RealCoachLee  2 роки тому +1

      Watch this video all the way ua-cam.com/video/8YstGwynudE/v-deo.html

    • @ConceptHut
      @ConceptHut 2 роки тому

      @@RealCoachLee I watched that video. Its not what i had been trying to get at. Maybe I wasn't being very clear. I'll try again.
      I'm curious what is going on with an ex mind who does not come back. One that decides its not worth coming back.

  • @mox5219
    @mox5219 2 роки тому +1

    I love you Coach Lee.

  • @barbarablack7767
    @barbarablack7767 2 роки тому

    thank you so much Coach Lee. I need help being strong

  • @lilliankillian7366
    @lilliankillian7366 Рік тому +1

    Coach Lee. I have asked this before. What if he found someone else and thsts why he ended it all if a sudden. I'm stressing about this. Ty

    • @jannlewandowski5540
      @jannlewandowski5540 Рік тому

      Lilian killian,I recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit for you which is excellent and POWERFUL. It has EVERYTHING in it including strategies for every situation.
      myexbackcoach.com/ebk
      This Kit will explain everything to you.

  • @kadenpackard1345
    @kadenpackard1345 2 роки тому +3

    If I failed in the beginning after being dumped and spilled that I wanted her so bad and to make it work have I already ruined my chances or will the no contact rule still work?

    • @kadenpackard1345
      @kadenpackard1345 2 роки тому +1

      Can someone please help me out I haven’t seen him discuss this on any past videos

  • @brittanyleung8380
    @brittanyleung8380 2 роки тому +1

    coach lee, can you do a video on when your ex reaches out to you/ initiates going out. after hanging out with your ex, what to do next?

  • @karankumarofficialid
    @karankumarofficialid 2 роки тому

    Sir please make more videos on long distance ex back just one video on this channel in this topic , love from India

  • @Dink1963
    @Dink1963 2 роки тому +1

    Can yiu please talk about healing and staying away from your ex? This pathetic civet y is all about how to get your ex back How demeaning !!!!own your power!

  • @luciferbishop8134
    @luciferbishop8134 2 роки тому

    You're a god sent!

  • @lynxityraps3833
    @lynxityraps3833 Рік тому +1

    been almost a year but we have had on and off contact is it too late for us now?

    • @jannlewandowski5540
      @jannlewandowski5540 Рік тому

      Lynxity Raps, if you've been going back & forth for 1 year, I don't see a relationship between you two. If you want a relationship, you DON'T go back and forth for a year! Obviously, it sounds like a FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS situation. I wouldn't accept that. It's not too late to be together. Just stop the off-on situation and TALK about what you are doing.

  • @katchen2626
    @katchen2626 2 роки тому +2

    can you please do a video on how to move on? coping with a broken heart?

    • @hasiyaibrahim8879
      @hasiyaibrahim8879 2 роки тому

      Hello I'm so excited my relationship was fixed back again my ex is back to me we loving and happily together,I got help from a great man who brought us back together......

    • @hasiyaibrahim8879
      @hasiyaibrahim8879 2 роки тому

      Whatzapp him now....

    • @hasiyaibrahim8879
      @hasiyaibrahim8879 2 роки тому

      †13609219711⏭⏯??????

  • @leaveitblank586
    @leaveitblank586 2 роки тому +1

    Should you avoid showing when you're last online to your ex OR even that would want to avoid?
    As in they have no idea when was the last time you were online and so on.

  • @erikas9945
    @erikas9945 2 роки тому +1

    NC WORKS!!!

  • @asadgiku
    @asadgiku 2 роки тому

    Good videos 👍👍👍

  • @daisydaisy3027
    @daisydaisy3027 2 роки тому

    So I started no Contact since we broke up amounts 2 months back.I text him for his birthday 20 days ago. So should I count NC days after the day I texted him for his birthday?

  • @gkaystar
    @gkaystar Рік тому +1

    What if your Ex is sleeping with someone other than you in the mean time. How do you handle that?

    • @nephastgweiz1022
      @nephastgweiz1022 Рік тому +2

      Well how do you feel about that ? If I learned that my ex had sex with someone else in the mean time, I would not want her back. This is disgusting to me. I could not love her anymore, I don't have it in my heart. That's not the kind of woman I want to commit my life to.

    • @gkaystar
      @gkaystar Рік тому +1

      Exactly my thoughts 💭

    • @jannlewandowski5540
      @jannlewandowski5540 Рік тому

      ​@Nephast Gweiz I don't blame you. I would never take a CHEATER back. If someone LOVES you, they won't cheat. Good luck to you..⚘️

    • @jannlewandowski5540
      @jannlewandowski5540 Рік тому

      G Kay, if you know that for sure, I would NOT take him back. He will probably cheat again.
      This is my opinion only.

    • @jannlewandowski5540
      @jannlewandowski5540 Рік тому

      ​@Nephast Gweiz I would not take back a CHEATER!

  • @AKFnick
    @AKFnick 2 роки тому +3

    She reached out this past Sunday and asked about my religion and I got a tattoo so she asked about its meaning.. I responded but took my time in doing so. Waited 12 hours before I replied the first time. I was very brief and dry but still being respectful. It’s been over a month and she’s just now reaching out. Did I mess up or is this what I should be doing?

    • @livbeyond
      @livbeyond 2 роки тому +2

      I think you did right! As per Coach Lee advice, brief answer, polite, not rushed! Well done! Now go back to NC until they come back with more (consistent) communication! You got this! 💫

    • @AKFnick
      @AKFnick 2 роки тому

      @@livbeyond thank you so much! I’m doing that now I really do hope she reaches out again:( she’s out of the state for 2 months for some training for her sport so maybe that’s another reason why it seems harder rn.

  • @irinichris7988
    @irinichris7988 3 місяці тому

    Hello coach Lee!
    We broke up in January, we were living together and had communications until last week. I asked him not to reach out again since he wishes to insist with his decision. Is it over? Or the no contact at this point only serves for me to move on? Thank you ❤

  • @Daniel-jv1kw
    @Daniel-jv1kw 2 роки тому

    Can you make a video about relationships that have had multiple break ups and the chances of it working out?

  • @cajuncrackerranch7990
    @cajuncrackerranch7990 2 роки тому +2

    Lee, your content may work for healthy emotional and mentally secure people who are genuine and authentic in their thoughts, communications, and actions…however, your content does not apply when you have one healthy person and the other is a cluster B Borderline Personality Disorder with Narcissistic Personality Disorder, Multiple Personality Disorder, PTSD, Dissociative Personality Disorder, etc
    Your efforts are much appreciated, but there are so many other factors and the generalizations you commonly communicate is as if everyone is honest, genuine, loyal, faithful, and authentic with their relationship. Good luck!

    • @craigmack7992
      @craigmack7992 2 роки тому

      If you’re involved with a narcissist….RUN!

  • @dishamota3892
    @dishamota3892 2 роки тому

    Which is anger stage

  • @cindybesitos8933
    @cindybesitos8933 2 роки тому +1

    This hs worked w/my all exes..
    within a month & 1/2 they always want
    Me Bk usually I decline,👍🏽

  • @dannycolwell8028
    @dannycolwell8028 Рік тому

    My recent ex started watching my stories the next day. She’s muted. I don’t even visit her ig page. I’m not even posting anything crazy just when I barbecue or hang out with my best buds. If she didn’t want me, wouldn’t she block me or stop watching?

  • @lateashaevans4579
    @lateashaevans4579 2 роки тому

    What does mean when my daughter dad ask my son if I was single n how I been n if my son will give my number we haven't talk now 4 months now I that go to the grandma house on Thursday because we to movie on Friday

  • @jamalluke5799
    @jamalluke5799 2 роки тому

    Does no contact work on and ex that has bpd....she's responds but does initiate...she's completely changed her appearance and become a diff person...she blocked me on everything except face book...and has keep all her story's of us on her Instagram...even tho she says she wants nothing to do with me..

  • @MrC5vette
    @MrC5vette 7 місяців тому

    Thanks!

  • @Aiden.i
    @Aiden.i 2 роки тому

    it’s nearly been 6 months of the break up they called me a few days ago i ignored it because there was no point what do i do now? we go to the same school but yeah we’ve bumped into eachother and that’s about it and i feel like they’re waiting for me to say i miss you and want you back even though it may be a really big mistake and i’ll regret it for ever. let me know

  • @sunilpotter7415
    @sunilpotter7415 2 роки тому

    U r absolutely rrright..

  • @andrewwoodburn928
    @andrewwoodburn928 2 роки тому +1

    What should I do if they always reach out first. Always sending a snap chat and I can’t just totally ignore it bc they get mad. Just be short with my response or take a while to open it?

    • @jacqui8392
      @jacqui8392 2 роки тому

      Dont fall for breadcrumbs x

  • @lorenzoplaatjies1402
    @lorenzoplaatjies1402 2 роки тому +1

    Will no contact still work If someone cheated on their girlfriend, I'm curious because there hasn't been a video discussing infidelity & how it may influence this period.

    • @hasiyaibrahim8879
      @hasiyaibrahim8879 2 роки тому

      Hello I'm so excited my relationship was fixed back again my ex is back to me we loving and happily together,I got help from a great man who brought us back together

    • @hasiyaibrahim8879
      @hasiyaibrahim8879 2 роки тому

      Whatzapp him now......

  • @craigy691
    @craigy691 Рік тому

    What happens if you break up and your wife was sleeping and is sleeping with someone else I’ve went no contact and it’s staying that way and I ain’t going back

  • @Wildanimal864.
    @Wildanimal864. 6 місяців тому

    We want them back even if we say we don’t care anymore a loss is a loss.

  • @mj1060
    @mj1060 2 роки тому

    How does it apply with wife wanting divorce after 10 years and 3 kids ? About to agree to divorce..been fighting for it

  • @gregorypecht7891
    @gregorypecht7891 Рік тому

    Hey coach she came back for two weeks then decided to go back to the to the other guy. Told me she loved me a lot now she said she doesn’t love me.Spoke with coach rex he told me go back to no contact. I’m not sure she’s going to come back

  • @S3113jshb
    @S3113jshb Рік тому

    Is it ok if I post on social media once in a while or do I stop that, too?

    • @RealCoachLee
      @RealCoachLee  Рік тому +1

      Hi Grace, watch this video all the way through: ua-cam.com/video/Sx2x1dO3uwA/v-deo.html

  • @charliegistmusic
    @charliegistmusic 2 роки тому

    Is the curiousity stage too late if you didn’t do no contact and it’s been like 12 days since the break up ? Can I start no contact now ?

  • @rayaanali9781
    @rayaanali9781 2 роки тому

    I think I should go to the place she works and take a nice haircut. Is this a good idea?

  • @Urmum3469
    @Urmum3469 Рік тому +1

    I was looking at my calendar today and realized day 45 (around the time coach lee says separation anxiety hits) is Valentine’s Day. Maybe something good can come out of that but idk we’ll see.

    • @jannlewandowski5540
      @jannlewandowski5540 Рік тому

      Colby Geisler, I could recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit for you. It will help you.
      myexbackcoach.com/ebk

  • @celestenova338
    @celestenova338 2 роки тому +1

    What if we live together!?! 🥲 I currently have nowhere to go just yet. I’ll be out in the next month or so. We’re being polite with one another, saying good morning, who is using the bathroom at what time, who’s walking the dogs and what not, so idk how no contact works in this situation! Help anyone!??!

    • @RealCoachLee
      @RealCoachLee  2 роки тому

      Celeste, watch this video all the way through ua-cam.com/video/EcA47MmHP_I/v-deo.html

  • @maiprincesse
    @maiprincesse Рік тому +1

    So we shouldn’t post anything on social media, so that they don’t who where we are?

    • @jannlewandowski5540
      @jannlewandowski5540 Рік тому

      maiprincess, I got off social media when I left my ex. It worked.
      If you're interested, I can recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit for you.
      It's awesome!
      myexbackcoach.com/ebk

  • @Heart3577
    @Heart3577 2 роки тому +93

    I'm getting better and better without my ex. I always switch Coach Lee's phrases on whenever I am tempted to break the NC, it goes something like "Time is on your side... the longer you are staying on NC, the bigger chances you can get your ex back"... " pressure cooker"- cooking their stubborn buttheads by NC "Oven"-do you want half-baked goods or fully baked?".😁😁 The more weeks pass through, the chances of winning. Thank you, Coach Lee.

    • @jacqui8392
      @jacqui8392 2 роки тому

      How you getting on now?