Conquer Decision Fatigue
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- Опубліковано 22 лис 2024
- Feeling overwhelmed by a difficult choice? This film explores the psychological and philosophical underpinnings of decision-making. Discover how to approach difficult choices with a calm and rational mindset. Learn to embrace uncertainty and find peace in the imperfect.
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“A significant and intense chunk of our lives may be spent pondering ‘hard choices.’ Should we continue in our relationship with X or part from them to see who else we might find? But what if we land on no one better? Yet what if we stay and the relationship never improves? Should we buy this property that’s beautiful but worryingly close to the railway tracks? Or should we buy the other one that has less charm but might be quieter? Should we accept this job that has prestige and the possibility of a stellar future? Or should we stay where we are because we love our colleagues and have a high quality of life?...”
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I learned at a young age that getting into the habit of making decisions-whether good or bad-is essential to living a life filled with growth.
That's a profound realization! Developing the courage to make decisions, regardless of the outcome, is a cornerstone of personal growth. It reflects a mindset of learning and evolving through experiences.
How wonderful! I didn't learn it until my late 30s. I was always a victim until I got tired of suffering and began to explore "why"? What a life changing revelation ❤. It's been a beautifully painful journey full of rewards and healing.
@ hope you’re having a wonderful life! I’m just 27 and wish to make the most of my time here on this planet.
I’m happy you did. I didn’t, which has led me to a life filled with doubt, fear and stagnation.
The key to life is not always making the best choice...but making the best of the choices you make.
That sentence has no meaning, because "best" can be whatever. If you make a choice, realize it's a bad choice and correct your path because of it, then you haven't made the "best" out of it in the contextual meaning of the word.
Love the name!😂
Make the choice you can live with, and live with it
Oh damn I had to screenshot this. God like knowledge right here.
Thats a great one thx
Not only is this exactly what I needed right now, but one of the examples is precisely what I’m going through.
It's the house next to the railroad right? Right?
Unbelievably I am pretty much faced with all 3 dilemmas right now... and I even was contemplating a house that was right next to a train tracks recently (thankfully choice was made for me and it went off the market, i didnt want to live near a train track)... It is spookily on point! Always at the right time these videos, thanks!
me too
Me too
There's relief in knowing there is no perfect
This came at exactly the right time; I was just constatering whether to stay or go with regard to my job. I work now almost 25:years in an university environment. This week something happened with regard to integrity which made me realise: i do not think I should go on. The social atmosphere is really not healthy. Finally it seems I am ready to make the step elsewhere. At the same time, it is very scary because this job is familiar. It also has prestige and possivilities to do meaningful, deep, research. So it will be a jump in deep waters. I consider finally to go on seriously with my own business. Thank you for this video. It makes me realise that both professional directions offer opportunities.
Good luck to you! 👍🍀 Maybe the new thing will have its flipsides too, but I feel that taking our values seriously and following them is good and makes us more alive and content. I sometimes ask myself whether I would regret it in the future if I haven’t tried something. If the answer is yes, then I know my decision.
@ thank you for this kind and helpful answer!
This is mind-blowing just finished my therapy session an hour ago and we were actually discussing this topic. The timing of this.Love you, The School of Life. Thanks for feeding us food for thoughts.
On any one day you can massively change the direction of your life.
- Jim Rohn
This is my favourite quote.
In short: choose your joy, choose your pain, for you are never far from either.
Thank you, School of Life! After torturing myself for several months for not being able to make a decision that appears to be the hardest of my life so far - this video actually seems to make the drop hight felt a bit smaller. Your videos really are a gift.
Comforting reminder for those predisposed to analysis paralysis.
“Anyone we end up with is going to have their dispiriting sides” Tell me about it, Mr. de Botton
I am truly sorry for people who are overwhelmed by choices and get stuck trying to make decisions. I had a close friend who I eventually moved away from because she was perennially stuck and unable to make hard choices and change her life (immediately or eventually for the better). She said herself that she's a dreamer.
I'm not like that. I am very confident about decision-making, research and analyze a lot, and decide fairly quickly. I almost never regret choices once I've made them, recognizing they may not be perfect but they're good enough and I can live with the results.
Perfectionist tendencies are the death of effective decision-making and ability to move forward. A lot of people are in the perfectionist camp.
It has nothing to do with her dreaming though. It has been built around the dismissive reaction she got from those closest to her when she did anything. Tone is seriously important.
my mentor once told me there must be a practical choices for risks, life is not what we intended to or perhaps majority does. we will never really knew what future holds until it becomes the present. whether that risk is worth it or not, impractical or not, beautiful or not.
I’m not sure if you’ll read this School of Life - … but thank you for these short films. ADHD doesn’t apply to me when you’re teaching 🤘
We rarely, if ever, have all the information we need to make "the best decision"; fact is to do so we would need a crystal ball. So, assess what information you have, cross your fingers, pray, knock wood, whatever is your inclination and then decide..
The privilege of having choices!
Happiness doesn’t come from perfect choices, as every decision has its pros and cons. Choose decisively and live fully, rather than obsessing over right or wrong.
we hyperfocus on our choices because they are the only realms in which we feel control. it’s really nice to feel in control and really disheartening to not. and it can be really hard to accept how little agency we have
i hope to imbibe the final point here that in the end it’s all gonna end up ambivalent anyway
The bad thing is we have not much control. The good thing is we have not much control. 😅
I am amazed how seldom the subject of decision making is discussed. To me it is deeply interesting on many levels. For me so many choices seem 50/50. When I'm really sure I want something or to do something I'm overjoyed to be free of painful ambiguity.
We should appreciate the days of our youth when we have plenty of free time and make use of this little time for learning as well
I took the job offer. Things might not go well at the new place but I will never know if my job could be any better if I don’t take opportunities when I’m confronted by them. It won’t be life changing in the sense people usually mean, but it literally will be life changing and sometimes that’s all we need: fresh scenery
🪄✨ Blessing here is, No Matter What Choices You Make, You Always have The Option to make That Choice Right.
This video is the most reasonable way to say, "Do anything in your choices, it will have goods' AND bads' both. Cant have just one"
I have just tasted massive failure in my 5 year qualification program and now they kicked me out.
This video is almost feel like it was made for me. Thanks.
Visuals are REALLY well done! Congrats!
For someone who has no gray area, this is really helpful. Thank you!
Great video. Wonderfully written & the "board game" style of presentation works great for the topic. :)
Its about choosing to live happy everyday despite the circumstances
There is no "perfect" choice. But if you look carefully and see one which has more good than bad, perhaps that's the one worth following.
I literally just made one decision out of the three discussed in the video and pondering on the other two!!!
Buy the stock, take the ride. Don’t chase a salary when young, take risks. Don’t be normal
You are my hero! ❤
i have a long time had a break from school of life, but found that I can watch these movies again if a double the speed of the videos and greatful for the content
The key to life is not always making the best choice
Very well timed, as always ! The school of life, you have done it again 👏 ❤
U explain correctly what's going on with my life rn
wait... so how was it to conquer again? 😢
Thank you for stating Israel's crimes so clearly and calmly
Buzzword this week
Or rather
I've learnt and then heard this term one more time in 24 hours.
Getting into MMA has helped me with decision making.
However, I am open to other avenues for improvement
"The choice may have been mistaken, the choosing was not"
try to make do with what you have in whatever situation you find yourself in.
There are no perfect solutions. Everything is a Trade-Off - Thomas Sowell
Thank you.
Thank youuuu I needed this video
Do it or don't do it, you're going to regret both
I was just thinking about a very serious life decision and am very happy to discover that the perspective provided here lives up to its title!
Fascinating video too! Reminds me a bit of the classic *I SPY* picture books!
Decision making has always been hard for me, even if it's just deciding what to order at a restaurant. Recently I was reading a book (Real Self Care by Pooja Lakshmin) and there was a quote along the lines of "Is there any decision you feel you wouldn't be punished for?" and I was just like....oh.... yeah that.
Love the animation❤
0:33 We had that Apple II growing up, as a handy down. Double 5.25" floppy drives and a whole lot of floppy diskettes. Pre-modem.
Time is the only resource. Do SOMETHING. Anything. Even if you're mostly uncertain, it's better to accomplish a task so that something gets done rather than wait until some unknown moment that will probably never arrive.
"Tomorrow" is a dangerous word. Especially when it is preceded by "I'll do it". 😉
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"Time is the only resource for which no creature may bargain..." --DD1
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Kierkegaard and existentialism. Recommended for everyone
Dont make choices when you are upset
The joys of having free will 🤔
I'd like to to have the trouble of not being able to choose between two houses.
I'm burnt out on making choices.
This should've been released before the US election. Because it applies to presidential candidates
Read Annie Duke - How to decide
But does it mean we should take the easy pathways as they are easy and not challenging. Is taking higher roads, working hard not going to help me have a better life ? Well then we will stop pushing or aiming for smthg bigger.
I’d say having goals or directions is good and healthy, but yes, sometimes decisions come with challenges. Especially if we try to live up to our values, the path isn’t always easy, but worthwhile nevertheless. Working too hard and chasing our goals is counterproductive though (and exhausting). Trusting and allowing might be a better choice. Good luck to you.🍀
This didn’t help me decide at all, if anything it made trying to decide between A and B harder 😩
Tough decisions only appear tough when all options seem equally good, so they´re all good. There is a Ted Talk and tough decisions by some asian women named Wong I think.
What's the name of the boardgame used in this video? Thank you! And also very true that everyone's life will have bad days, weather in relationships, at home or at work, we can't avoid them but we can make the best out of them. It all comes down to thoughts -> decissions -> actions -> habbits.
This is basically the premise of the poem "A road less traveled" from Robert Frost
Decision fatigue is real! This film offers valuable insights into making calm and rational decisions. Embracing uncertainty and accepting imperfection can be incredibly liberating!
This is such a refreshing perspective on decision-making. It’s easy to get caught up in the belief that there’s one ‘perfect’ choice, but your explanation reminds me of something that often guides me: the importance of embracing the flow of life and accepting imperfection. Every path has its joys and challenges, and true freedom lies in understanding that perfection isn’t the goal-balance is.
What’s a choice you’ve made recently where this perspective brought you clarity and peace?
Video diving into the deep stuff. Meanwhile, I can't choose a simple color palette for a design. 😔
Get well soon, voice guy
You are best
lovely
Yay a new video
Dont follow the crowds best decision ever
what purpose ego serves, whats good ego look like
Kirkegaard!
every decision is 50% wrong:)
I regret many decisions I made in my life
But you can not know, if these bad decisions were bad or good for your life. One bad thing could have prevented ten other bad things from happening. Or different decision might be even worse, you just can't know. Maybe it isn't about good or bad, maybe we need to find peace?
Despite who or whatever just annoyed you earlier , you’re still on a spinning rock flying thru space smaller than a barnacle unable to see particles
Wow...
This explains a loy
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The timing of this video in my life. Hmm.
Why did you open with buying a property. I can guarantee you most of the people the algorithm showed this to will never be able to afford to. The rest is great....just....why
I love the content but perhaps not speaking directly at the microphone could avoid the spitting sound in the recording.
great animation
...as the Germans say: "Woanders is' auch scheiße."
Just right 🎉❤😅
Everything's meaningless flip a coin? Idk about that one chief
Misleading title af. It didn't answer the title question.
False problem... You have to take a decision even to not take a decision 😂
Every single concient moment of your life you take decisions 🤷
Also the ideea that we don't have agency because we don't know the outcome is deeply flawed... There are a huge number of ways to predict the outcome of decisions sometime with swiss wach accuracy😂, but knowledge is essential 🤷
Don't tel me aircraft pilots just do guess work 😂😂😂😂😂
Ps
There is no such thing as decision fatigue. It's just overwhelming responsabylity. 🤷
Let the roll of a dice decide if chose to marry or not a serial killer? 🤪
Meow
shut up about fatalism and calculate expected utility
Wow! What a load of feel good bullshit. It is very naive and ignorant to think "one option is just as good and awful as the other".
What if you are in a violent relationship, but you are dealing with anxiety, and you don't have anybody else to depend on, so you are affraid to leave? And so you are caught in a negative loop if you stay, but might be homeless if you leave. Sometimes, there really is a better choice, but you might not have the time or the right mental or economic resources to make that decision. What if your mother is dying from an illness, and you know you should spend time with her, but you are stressed from work and heartbroken about her, so it's easier to drink and party with your friends? What if the house you ended up buying turned out to have lots of mold and rot, but you didn't know beforehand, because you didn't have enough money to pay a surveyor?
Yes, this explanation might be comforting you have analysis paralysis and all the options for your "hard decisions" are "pretty decent". But for a lot of people, the options they have in front of them are much less than decent. And this video's point of view comes from a very ignorant and privileged position.
My choice was easy; Trump 🇺🇲🫡