How to Choose Great Friends
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- Опубліковано 23 лис 2016
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None of us, including entrepreneurs, can make it without friends. Here are some tips on how to choose great friends.
Friendships go through 3 phases - 1:21
Phase 1: Ages 12-18: Acceptance and Innocence - 1:25
Phase 2: Ages 19-29: Experiment - Mistakes - Finding Yourself - 1:40
Phase 3: Age 30+: Clarity - 1:54
The Evolution of Friendship - 3:21
Three Types of People that Benefit Us - 5:33
Benefits of Hanging Around People Above You - 5:55
Benefits of Hanging Around People the Same Level as You - 8:41
Benefits of Hanging Around People Below you - 9:14
How to Pick and Choose Friends - 10:06
#1: Raise Your Standards - 11:46
Be Selective - 12:06
Find a Friend Who Celebrates Your Victories - 13:52
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I always had a difficult time being friends with the "cool" guys at school.
I always gravitated towards those that worked hard, trained hard, played as their life depends on it, and always prioritized competition over pleasing everybody else.
As a result, most of my friends are either somebody today or work hard towards getting there.
I am proud to have found this video. Such powerful reminders.
I wish we had a class in school that taught us life lessons like this one.
One can only hope.
Thank you Pat and Valuetainment Team.
You are one of my favorite human beings. Word.
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1.) Choose the People above you. (People who you want to become)
(Raise Standards)
2.) Be Selective. Choose large samples of friends at first then filter the sample and stay with the important friend.
3.) Go with the common goal and common interests.
4.) Take friends that celebrates with you.
4.) Never let them go.
Great video. People talk about disliking "fair-weather friends" who only want to know you when you're doing OK but personally I also avoid "foul-weather friends", who enjoy pitying you when things are bad but then go off you when you start to do well.
+Unruly Housewife Smart.
Never thought of 'foul weather' friends as such... But hot damn they DO exist now don't they. I had a 'foul weather' girlfriend, left right as i got my head on the right track again. Crises over and now bored.
The latter is my mom
i love fair weather friends
I like that terminology; " Foul Weather Friends " , I'll have to remember that one !! " That's pretty good " !
Any young entrepreneur here? Let's be friends.
im 16 ,ehat similar intrest do we have
Juanpablo Valdez You can join Valuetainment Entrepreneurs group on facebook. This group was just started yesterday for Entrepreneurs to collaborate.
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How old are you?
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25
I loved that! My youth group is in the “What it means to be a friend” phase, and I’m supposed to be teaching them tomorrow night. I thought that I’d go with the most basic foundation of friendship, which is, how to choose your friends. And I’ve gotta say, hearing your interpretation of this topic has been extremely helpful. I especially loved the part about having the same values. Because at the end of the day, not EVERYONE is going to agree with what you believe in; but having those around you who can disagree.. and maybe even STRONGLY disagree with you - but are, at the same time, able to RESPECT your opinion and move on on good terms in the relationship, is something that is rare and that should be valued and held onto.
So thank you again for your perspective on this topic! It helped me, and I know it’ll help them😊
Not going to lie, this is one of my favorite videos from Pat ever. This is quite literally a story of upward mobility and knowing that its possible.
Choosing your social friends is important for growth. Choosing your friends for success is also important.
Now it makes sense why I no longer connect with my high school friends: change! I also believe we rarely meet loyal friends because there are not too many people with values. Backstabbing and jealousy are learned depending on how you are raised. Informative video!
i'm living in Iran and i'm 22 and now i'm living in dormitory but i don't have any friends .. we separated from each other exactly when we have changed.. but people around me are so different... they are sleeping, they are just killing time.all of them.i prefer to go out alone and walk rather than be with them even i don't like to talk with them. i wish i could find just one person who is like me . but thanks i have learned many thing from you.i wish i had a friend like you:)
Did you find those friends yet? Shoot I've been looking for people I could call a friend for 37 years lol people suck
@@travischooter I left the country, and I live in Europe now... immersed myself in work and studying. It's so much better than searching for friends man people come and go especially as you get older you understand this better.
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Wind in life nice mindset bro
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Patrick great video. You are so right I'm 33 years old and just went full time in my business and I had to cut off a lot of childhood friends. There are just so many things that I still want to achieve and they were happy just with getting a degree and keeping a job and working for some big corporation. Nothing wrong with that, but I didn't want to stop. I want to retire my parents. My parents left Colombia and left there family behind for my siblings and I. How could I ever stop growing, I have to give my life all my efforts so that my parents didn't sacrifice all they did for me to just have a job and live a mediocre life. My parents never saw there families again for many many years just so we could have a good life. Very powerful video about the hard choices in life that need to be made in order to achieve the level of life we want.
I have exactly the same mindset as you. word for word.
what you just talked about is so true about friends, i don't even talk to any of my friends from the pass because they bring you down and don't motivate you. now i only surround myself with people that want to improve in life, i even moved up in a company when i stopped hanging out with sentient friends.
This is great Patrick. I wish I knew these earlier in life, but it's gonna guide me henceforth in my choice of friends. You guys are doing a great job. You are blessed. Keep going man.
Hey Pat, your videos is spot on. I had the exact same thing happen to me when I was around 28-29, seeing friends and family getting married with kids etc. It started to mess with my head and started to question where I want to be in life.
As for befriending people. If I see someone below me I try to help them and lift them to my standards (way of thinking). And people that are above me that I try to befriend are 50-50. Some will accept my faults and try teachers me in becoming better in my field etc. And others will knock you down for being below them. Those are the people I would avoid.
+spiderdan04 you don't need everyone. You just need a small group of 1-5.
I love that Pat, absolutely right about everything. I’m living my twenties, feel exactly what you said and will keep chasing the good friends to push me forward
Hi Pat, I can not say how much learning I am getting as a young entrepreneur in Tanzania. What I have decided is to firstly make sure I mention Valuetainment to all of my friends and ask them to subscribe as well. The 'minerals' in these videos are not to be missed!
Patric the channel is helping me with my goal to become an successful entrepreneur i think the info you have given is essential.
I give you a personal thankyou you have helped me get in track with my progress towards becoming a successful entrepreneur.I am a 19 years old boy that lives in Albania and have watched your videos i have taken notes i truly belive that this is a great content because it makes sense to me.Thankyou.
rediboom boom There you go. When I was living in a refugee camp in Germany back in 1989, there were many Albanians living there as well. Good people.
Now it's about you using this content to go win big for you and your family.
Excellent video, really needed this, I appreciate you Pat
This is one of the best videos posted! Thanks a lot.
This video touched my heart. Thanks!
That was absolutely excellent, I thoroughly enjoyed and could relate to almost every point. Very well said.
Adrian Duckworth Excellent.
Im 34! Never commented on a youtube video until this. Been in business for 10 years, got 4 offices across 3 countries. Your description of age, growth, and who to choose. Especially about turning back to go the party is awesome. Had similar stories myself man, and your description is awesome. You should write a blog/article book on your opinions on different ages. Well done, keep the progress going bud
+Vister Em you should comment more often. Very insightful. 👍🏼👍🏼💯
I listen to each and every one of your videos, you're awesome! Thank you
I have learned More information from THIS CHANNEL compared to any other channel on UA-cam. Thank you so so much 🙏🏾✨
Great info (thanks for that) about an area/decision-choosing friends/peers to work with/spend time with, etc, as we pursue goals. Thanks and have a great day/holiday.
Amazing video, I'm feeling better now when I realize that I left a lot of people behind because they haven't my common goals and my common values, and I think life shows you which friends are worthy and wich ones aren't. Is not about money, success or something like that is about values and a common vision. Thank you very much for made this awesome video.
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Thanks for the information. I am trying to get new friends in my life because I have lost the ones that I had. Thank you very much!
Incredibly insightful AND actionable. Thank you Pat
I really needed to hear this! Thank you!
This is DEEP!! "Theres a season for a reason"
THIS IS AMAZING!! Valuable content!
this is so important for me, thank you for your advise!
I'm fascinated with the "Washing the dishes/anything I can do to help in order to watch and hear what those guys were thinking and talking about" statement.
Patrick, you are those guys to me. Just not in person. But I do follow your advice and practice what I learn. Thank you so much.
I have an addition to the friends' scheme you posted in the beg of the vid
two friends who have departed from each other in interest but know to appreciate the history of their friendship
meeting up means reminiscing on old memories and remembering past times of youth.
I appreciate this video today as I enter into a new phase.
Thank you so much, helped me a lot.
You are totally killing it dude! Man this stuff needs to get out to people at all ages. Especially men!
You are obviously so passionate about what you do, I love it! You teach me crucial things in this video, thank you for that!
In love with Patrick Bet David. What an inspirational, giving and knowledgeable man. New role model. Student of yours, and friend, for life! 🔥🙏
A friend once told me to surround myself with people who where you want to be 10 years from now. That was great advice.
HI Patrick,
Thank you for discussing this topic.
Actually, I used to have a best friend during high school (equivalent to senior high) whom I continued 13 years of friendship that lasted a couple of years ago.
During college, we started to separate ways she took Mass Communication in a local university and I studied Sports Science at a State University while I also I played and competed in International tournaments. During that time, I made sure that I spent my free time with her. Further, she was also introvert and I was intro-extrovert, she did not like hanging around with my friends and showed that she was not interested getting to know them and I have respected that.
Then we started working, she had started in Media productions then eventually became a writer and editor in a publishing company and I got myself to take jobs in several companies in the genre of sports and recreation facility, foreign government agency, IT Solution and eventually energy sector. I can say I've met several people that I consider mentors. I envied what they have and had continue achieving. I aspire to be like them. With all those passions and dreams I have, I still made time to meet my bestfriend.
The topics we had are usually her telling what happens to her career life, I seldom talk about myself nor discuss my life thoroughly for the reasons that I notice that she was not interested in what I have been doing and achieve in my life.
And then one day, we just drifted apart, she just want to stop being friends with me telling that we have two different life and does not have anything in common. I tried to fix the friendship because I did not want to lose however it went south and I really felt bad about it.
But now with your explanations, now I truly understand what had happened. And I would like to say thank you.
alway's speaking volumes, i truely value these keen insights.
thank you, truly helped me understand relationship
Excellent video Patrick. Love your book!👌
One of the best Videos i have ever seen. Why doesnt this have more views
you are my inspiration, great video.
I've had lots of transitions in my life and I've collected acquaintances from every one but only a couple of my friendships have endured and you're right, it's because we changed together. Great video with thought provoking content as usual, Pat!
+Runwright Reads 👍🏼👊🏼
Great talk Pat!! Plz keep them coming....thanks!:)
this is very important message for the young generation. Thank you Mr.Patrick
Nefaur Labib You got it.
your amazing! thank you for this valuable video!
Love this, thank you :)
Patrick, I appreciate how you give your time, wisdom, and knowledge to others. I got old(er) before I planned on it and you definitely encourage me to get back in the game!
+51jss it's never too late.
thank you for sharing
Patrick sincerely, thank you for this channel. Simply amazing
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Your content is gold.
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This is the best channel on UA-cam.
Patrick is a natural teacher. Needed this content, will refer to it in my next video. #VALUETAINMENT
I am dirt poor, but on top, there are very few who I can look up to. I am happy to have a friend on my level =he doesnt have my accomplishments or fame, but he has great character, and I can learn from him, and be confirmed and corrected at times. I Dont need peer pressure to improve, I study and research 12-14 hours a day, and this helps me. I do want to thank you Patrick for being a bit of a mentor.
18:17 on Thanksgiving. I'll take it! HAPPY THANKSGIVING #ValuetainmentTeam 💪
Loved this, and I agree, I am drifting away from some of my high school and college friends too. Explains why. My aspirations are higher than theirs.
Jaslin Purification me2 I want to be with people that are higher than me. so I can grow and learn how they become who they are how they become more successful than me.
never...never...never disappointed. Tq Pat.
Superb Analysis.. Never thought as clinically as you did here. I will now reanalyze my friendships from this perspective.
Great talk!!!
Im a rising musician who grew up without a father thank you for sharing your knowledge. One of my biggest inspirations.
thank you Patrick . For the great content
Thank you so much for teaching such valuable information while entertaining and encouraging. Love and appreciate your style.
+Leslie Thompson You got it.
thanks i needed this!
amazing advice
I am living this. Just turned 30 and business exploding. Feeling clarity.
Appreciate this subject
Thanks for the content in the video Pat.
+Anthony You got it.
You know you have built your reputation when your subscribers click the like button even before they have watched the video.
If you are an entrepreneur, this is a channel worth your time.
Thanks David !!
exceptional points
Your videos are very inspiring & helpful Thanks a lot for everything.
Osthir BoyZ That's great to hear.
@16:01 ...There is still a purpose in achieving these goals even if you have to do it alone. Im alone 24/7 and it makes me depressed. But im not going to let that stop me from building my business. When i have success friends will start coming out the wood work
Great points, learned this in college but forgot how at least one good friend stables life
Pat, GREAT video lots of value now in 2022 even though you made this video 5 years ago! I’m sharing this with my 3 kids.
I enjoyed this thank you
you're are the best man thanks for the good video
You can't buy great friends. Great insight Patrick, thanks for sharing!
great stuff as always.shared this to my entrep group
Ralph Piñon Thanks.
Excellent!!
Great video also after six years!
thanks pat you're an awesome friend
I'm 20, but I'm kinda on phase 3 lol
I mean, for me it's also easy - 95% of people, I don't want to know lol
I don't even know anyone, but I mean, I kinda get to know some people etc... But need to meet more though.
lets connect
feel you
you are a educator, just great
Niiice✔️ I’m great full that I can listen to this and get it….you send this teaching to most and it goes right over their head…. Closed minded
Good insight
Thanks
Peer pressure is a wonderful thing as long as you choose the right peers. People above us inspire us, challenge us and push us to achieve. People who are on the same level have related challenges, validate us and make us not feel alone. With people who are below us we can bring value to them, give them a sense of worth and lift them up.
Thx Patrick, great video!
+Pera Casian 👍🏼👊🏼
Great explanation.
Great podcast ... will ponder it as I shoot for the stars in business and life learning some bring hard lessons as well as blessings - 👍
So this link to the phone number was a brand conscious change.
Still driving through.
Solid points.
I think being open to your friends about your decisions in life, goals you set up for yourself in life and just be open is key, I have geat BFF's they support me in bad and good seriously
Good points... "Education must be considered as most important; for as diseases in the world of bodies are extremely contagious, so, in the same way, qualities of spirit and heart are extremely contagious." - Baha'i Faith
Patrick! Great video, great channel, A1. You mentioned one topic in this video that I would love for you to expand upon and hear your opinion about. You said how important it was to pick the right partner (wife/husband). Would love to see a video speaking about choosing the right partner when you're an entrepreneur.