2-17-20 Is the day I took my life back. 3 days in the Hospital, 2 broken ribs, lacerations on my nose and a concussion. This song has helped me alot! Never going back! Thank you!
Am so glad you got out ALIVE. Cuz if you had to suffer like you did, he would have eventually KILLED YOU. Good for you leaving and getting away from the brute!
Girl, you nailed this song for all of us that are or were co-dependents held captive by the mind- ing of the narcissist. So empowering and so true and so about no more tolerance for abuse of any kind because you only get one life, this one, and it is so short. You can never complain about being in a toxic relationship with a narcissist if you choose to stay- you stay a victim. Listen to this song and get the help to get out and get on with your life and learn to heal your co-dependence and recognize a narcissist so it never happens again. Thank you Kelsea!
Never realised I was in a narcissistic relationship as just thought it was normal to be scared all the time to do or say anything. Im now out of this relationship and slowly working on rebuilding my life. Thanks for this song Kelsa, its so empowering, made me realise I really did miss me more!🙂❤
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I'm so glad to see I'm not alone in this...I'm a very fresh 5 days out, in a safe spot. I sent this video to my daughter, she said " mom, when you sent this to me, I cried, I knew you were finally done"! This has been my strength though this. Thank you
Ditto! While I was in the hospital my bestie was there for me and I asked her for her phone and said, "I'm done, this is me now" Then played the song. She cried with happiness!
Please be strong don't disregard the reason all of it had to happen in the first place. But don't forget to learn from this and create positive don't let anyone get the sense of weakness. You are great for even finding your worth
This song reminds me to never take my wife for granted.she is her own person and deserves her own choices Women are just as equal as men they deserve just as much respect. love this song!!!!!
Me too as I would rather quote this sheet of music made the testament of finding the old self that I lost after leaving the last bad place that I remained in for about 3 years prior to standing up to them and taking the bold rival standoff against my oppressors of which made such made incompetence and ignorance in its stand...
This song is amazing 🙌🏻 Even if you’re not in a toxic relationship, it’s still so easy to lose yourself! Your hobbies become their hobbies and you may even stop have self days! Get out, do the stuff you love even if you’re partner doesn’t join! Don’t lose yourself in a relationship!!
This song came out the year after I left my 8 year abusive marriage to a narcissist. The first time I heard it I cried. Every time I feel weak from the trama and PTSD it left me with I feel myself being built back up. It gives me strength. I'm remarried to the best person in the world for me, but that PTSD comes out of nowhere sometimes, this song is the song that make me feel strong. I'm so glad it exists. I hope it can be the strength for people who are living through similar experiences.
“I forgot I had dreams...” damn I felt that. I was so involved with this guy who would barely take the time to text me, he made me feel so insecure, and it took me years to ever feel confident in myself and for him to bring back my insecurity of my self-image, I realized that I was putting myself back. I forgot who I was, I forgot about my dreams and goals in my life, all for some jerk who can’t even pull himself together. God sent me all the right signs for me to realize he’s not the one, and I’m so grateful I’ve let that one go. I missed my own vibe, and how I was able to rely on myself for whatever life throws at me. God bless everyone who’s survived through any toxic relationship. You are strong and you are so worth it. Keep doing YOU!!
I have a question. So, my now ex-best friend just started ignoring me a few years ago. Then she ghosted me. The relationship before that was fine. Would that be a toxic relationship?
@@hannabobo4187 Depends. If she's reaching out to you now, ask her for a reason. Ask her why she ghosted you because you deserve an explanation when crap like that happens. Sometimes people do that, and sometimes they do have a good reason. Or I guess at least if they show they're improving and care about not doing it again it's ok to forgive even if the reason was bad. But in the end it's really up to your judgement, and if you think your life is better with them in it.
When you have been in a toxic relationship the idea of who you are is distorted. You do everything to please the other person that you forget who you are. I was in a manipulative relationship for three years and when I finally got out of it, it wasn't even the end of it. Still got harassed, stalked, and was still confused because even though that relationship didn't completely strip me of who I was I still was lost. This song is empowering, After all of it I struggled to find myself but with therapy and tons of reassurance from the people who actually love me I am in a much better place. To everyone who has been or is in an abusive, manipulative, toxic, or bad relationship: Please don't loose faith in yourself. It can get better. You are stronger than you think.
Never let a man contradict or dictate your life. If he does that to you, he’s not the right one. You should never lose your independence over a narcissist, let alone anyone. Thank you for an absolute bop that sends an amazing message. I love you so much, Kelsea!❤️
This song has been one of the only things getting me through the aftermath of an extremely toxic mental/emotionally abusive relationship. Physical wounds would have hurt less. After a year and a half I’m starting to feel like myself again and realize my self worth. Never thought in a million years I’d be without the man I loved more then anything including myself. Never again will I ever let anyone make me lose who I am.
The physical scars heal much faster & cleaner the the invisible ones…I’m 46 now & have been working on them for over 10 years. It started in my childhood & progressed into adulthood…after one divorce, & a couple of abusive relationships, I married into another one. Can’t seem to let it go either…I just got too tired & gave up.
Went through counseling at a DV center…after 2 yrs, my counselor asked me to leave her care. I’ve got a new therapist whom I feel comfortable with & we’re beginning to delve into some of the past…the current marriage is no longer physical, but we’re emotionally & verbal. I’ve fought & I’ve seen the uglier side of ppl…& my health is bad. I’ve learned to emotionally & verbally box back & they’re periods of calm, & even happier ones. Mostly if I take my antidepressants meds, then I have no feelings other than complacency which makes everyone else happy. But I’ve learned trust no one & if you have no secrets then no one can use them against you. This is safer than the world out there ever has been. But I AM learning. My counselor has reassured me that I’m in recovery & will be fine.💕
Thats where I'm at right now. I didn't even realize I was in an abusive relationship with a narcissist. But everyone I know keeps telling me "I'm glad you got rid of that narcissistic abusive jerk" which is saying a lot since all the people i know can never agree with each other. It was never physical, as you said with your relationship, that would have been less painful. I got out 2 days ago. And it feels so odd to be able to go and do the things I want without permission, to be able to actually do what I want, I cried. I haven't even bought clothes that I like for myself in 3 years, just stuff I knew he liked. I bought an outfit I actually loved for the first time in so long. I lost myself to him, but I'm never going to let anyone do that to me again.
This song makes me feel so proud of how far I have come. I started with an abusive and sheltered childhood where I wasn't allowed to have opinions, express my feelings, and every day was a battle with abuse. I went straight into the arms of a user who played with my emotions and tried to tell me what I can and can not do, going as far as locking me in an apartment. This song makes me proud and I can feel every word. Thank you for this song!!
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I just heard this song today and it came at the exact time I needed to hear this. I was healing from a narcissistic relationship and had been doing well. Until he came back and pursued me relentlessly for months. Begging for me to give him the 1 millionth chance to change. I was good. I was happy. Then I said Ok we can work it out (biggest mistake). Now I am back at square one. This song reminded me of how it felt when I was healing. And I am going to be that way again.
@@caitlyn2122 I know I’m just a kid but go out there and find better person don’t ever let a. Man hit you or hurt you just walk out and leave. So I want you know you are better and beautiful person and worth it
This song should be on the Required Listening list for anyone, male or female, young, well-seasoned, or anywhere in-between! You don't always know who you are and what you need to be happy when you're just starting out; but once you figure it out, don't give it up for someone else!
Yessss!!!! This is so awesome. Thank you for not making a senseless music video just showing off and selling yourself short. THIS is strength, beauty, and meaning! Love it.
Every time I feel like someone is trying to hold me back or hold me down I think of this song and it gives me the strength to fight!!! Thank you for the power Kelsea ily !
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Thank you, Kelsea! I just had a brutal breakup with a major control freak that basically thought he was always right & any of my thoughts or opinions meant nothing. This song & video is so empowering & will help me get over this.
Hello 👋 pretty, how are you doing? Hope you are fine. I'm Zack Hudson and am from Denver Colorado, where are you from? You seem like a real country girl
I love this song!! I left a very toxic job. A manager at a hotel I used to work at was NOT a nice person. Im so glad i got out of there, however it still scarred me to where im thinking of going back to therapy,but on the bright side, i now have 3 jobs that i really enjoy 😊.
This song has helped me so much this summer. I was in a 14 yr relationship & he ended it in June. Seeing you perform this song and listening to it all the time has given me so much strength. It reminds me that I need to put myself 1st for a change and even though it's always an inner struggle, it's what needs to happen before I can start something new
Thanks for the great love and support you show me as a special fan of mine,I hope you won't stop listening to my music and this is my private text number (470) 482-8797 that’s my private text number you can text me...
In my short time of being alive, I've had many people hurt me in various ways and try to change me. This song sealed my promise to myself to finally stop caring and bending to them. I am who I am. Thank you for writing such an amazing and empowering song Kelsea.
Kelsea Ballerini THANKS Kelsea...your music helps remind us of our worth, & probably prevents some really awkward moments, for the guys that broke our hearts!!
A great theme for someone that was never strong enough to stand their ground and allowed someone else to change them into someone else and realized this only after the damage was done. I'm sure a lot of individuals are hooping and hollering to this but maybe look deeper into why and just maybe they will prevent it next time. Food for thought !!!!
Its so refreshing to see all these young talented female artists writing and singing music that express Independence and strengthens young women!! Good work!
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21 years. I did what I was supposed to do. Sacrificed my career for his. Lost all but 1 of my friends. Played pit crew to his lame attempts at a career. 3 years later, at age 56, I’ve eclipsed his accomplishments. Met my expectations. Found real love. Deliriously happy and can’t wait for new challenges. Damn straight Kelsey. Thank you.
My advice to any straight girl is to not get married unless he makes the same or more than you right now! And has been at his job awhile and has an education. Sorry but those are THE hard facts of a girls life. Male straight life is totally privileged.
I left one extremely toxic marriage, just to marry a guy who turned out to be a little less toxic. I was constantly comparing the two, "Well my first husband would have done worse. It's not that bad." Don't ever mistake "better" for "acceptable". You deserve the best, not just better.
I'm starting to regret my 2nd marriage I honestly don't know what's worse my first or my 2nd thinking and keep saying it's time to move on just got to be able to support myself
This song is literally the only song that has helped me with my recent breakup. It was a TOXIC one. This song basically raised me from the dead. I love it so much. Thank you Kelsea!!
I always loved this song because of the sounds. I just listened and read the lyrics as she sang and realized how much I'm glad that I'm now out of a 9 year toxic marriage as of this past April. I wish I had this song years ago to show me about what I was putting myself through. I am able to be me and be happy for the first time in about 8 years.
This just makes me feel like if I ever feel like an emotional state and I’ll listen to this song in million and 1 million times it just makes you feel strong and independent.
This song reminds me of something 🤔 I’ve never heard this before.. and just confirmed I’m headed in the right direction towards my healing journey. Abuse comes in many forms.. and moving back home has made me have to deal with some pain. You just can’t paint over the walls of pain and expect it to disappear, it will always bleed through. They say we heal over time, but Im just surprised this particular layer took over a decade. But I’m starting to see the light of this particular tunnel.
I was in a toxic relationship and when I broke it off with him, this song explains it all. I felt more relief than sadness. I never get tired of listening to this song!
I'm sorry you went through that. I've been married to mine for 11 years. This morning I said I was done. Found this song by accident today. I believe this will help me too.
Kinky Kitty wow. I’m so sorry you are going through this right now. I’m proud of you for stepping up and leaving. I thought I was moved on myself. Hadn’t talked to mine in 3 weeks and started talking to a really amazing guy. Today he calls and says all the right fucking things and has me fucked up in the mind again. I take 5 steps forward and 10 backwards. It’s so exhausting.
The Wordy Woodstock I truly believe we stumble across certain songs because something greater than us knew we needed to hear them. I needed to hear this song again as my ex called me 6 times begging for me back today... and I’m considering it because he’s so good with his words. But this song is bringing me back to reality because you commented and I got the notification. So thank you!
@@nicolesheetz6414 I still currently live with him. He knows that I intend to be gone by June. I just have things I need to get taken care of first. I have a lot of possessions to thin down and a lot of therapy to do so that when I walk away, I will stay walked away. If you need a battle buddy, email me anytime. KinkyKitty 77 at gmail.com and if you find yourself being mad at yourself for going back, don't be mad, forgive yourself and try again. Life is never easy, is it? I mean it though, if you need a battle buddy, I am old and I will listen to you and try to help you through everything. I have done so much research on being married to a narcissist and being the victim of a narcissist that I might as well pass on my knowledge.
I was in a long-term, emotionally abusive and toxic relationship with a man who made me question my sanity. He molded me into this weak person who believed his lies. And then one day, I snapped out of it. I barely cried when it was over. I just remember feeling numb because I’d lost who I was as a person. I haven’t been in a serious relationship since, and it’s been about a decade. But I’m finally happy.
Danielle, I was also in a toxic marriage. Actually I have been boxing for half a year now and its been great. It is really good for people with anxiety (me). I hope your doing ok though. I am sorry about that. But I feel ya.
I just left my naraccist alcoholic fiance of 4 years. I didnt cry. I too feel numb because I lost who I was. Forgot what made me happy. Lord be with the survivors of emotional abuse as we stuggle to find ourselves
MotoAtheist Well let's face it, the vag is and always will be amazing. Lol ;) It's just that sometimes it takes awhile for a woman to realize that she first has to find the beat of her own drum and find her own self. That's when she realizes that she is fine alone. When that true embracing of oneself has occurred it's then that the woman realizes that only a man who is aware of her true beauty and the depth of her nature is worthy of her. Everything shifts and she finally can have a healthy relationship but only if that's what she chooses. Once she has a shift and crosses this threshold of self love and independence it's only then that she can recognize a great man. And if she doesn't find him it's ok because she realizes who she is and falls in love with self first. It's an amazing freedom for both men and women to realize that we are all fine by ourselves and we don't need anyone else to define us. We have to get there before we can have a healthy relationship. Signed, Super Vag.
@@pattinelson1551 I have a friend who, after her divorce, started dating again and she would get too involved straight away and then get dissapointed. I tried to convey, without being direct, that maybe she just needs to find herself for awhile and learn to be content without a partner. I don't know if my advice took or it just sort of happened, but she finally chilled out a bit and is trying to get on her own life together first now. I totally agree that people need to be satisfied on their own first before seeking a partner. Too many people become super entwined in their relationships and can't do anything without their partners, they just get completely dependent upon each other. Some see that and think how great their love is, but I see it and think it's rather pathetic that neither person has any identity of their own anymore.
I never realized others would also feel the same way I have about this song. It has really helped me the past couple of months since leaving my narcissist boyfriend. Thank you for sharing your stories and giving me the courage to do so as well. Much love. Thank you Kelsea, I really needed this song.
I've never heard this song before. I'm kind of out of the loop these days. I am a singrr/songwriter and I find this song amazing. It's so cool to find a song that you know is a hit the very first time you hear it. Great lyrics, great melody, great job, Kelsea!
I absolutely LOVE this song! How empowering these words are to anyone who is in an abusive relationship! I JUST heard of Kelsea when she was on Kelly Clarkson show today. (I obviously don't listen to country music) I am a HUGE fan of Kelsea starting today!
I never hear the song before the Country Music Awards. I turned it on just as she was singing it. I had a very abusive 18 year marriage and I still have not found me again. I hope to some day. I am 61 years old. I can relate to that song. I believe God let me turn the channel just for that song.
@@KelseaBallerini I shall. Thank you so much for taking the time out of your busy schedule to respond to my comment. Your song was my life. My friends are gone and I am trying to find the person I was before the verbal abuse.
If i see any man hits a woman ill stomp there ass sorry for the languge im 18 years old an i dont put up with that crap thats bs cheating an everything is bs there no need for it period!!
You seem like a nice guy so here's some advice from an "older" gal. We don't want you to beat up anyone for us. We just want you to be one of the good guys. And years from now, when you have sons of your own, raise them to be good guys as well. The world needs more good guys, not more violence. Peace.
I love this song!! Even before my divorce I would rock out to this. But now, after its over I REALLY LOVE this song. It's exactly how I feel. How I couldn't do things cause he didn't like it. I forgot who I was and what I liked!! Thank you Kelsea!! I love all your music.
This song is amazing! Even if you're not in a toxic relationship, it's still so easy to lose yourself! Your hobbies become their hobbies and you may even stop have self days! Get out, do the stuff you love even if you're partner doesn't join! Don't lose yourself in a relationship!!
I was married to a VERY controlling woman, I never gave her a reason to not trust me,yet she stalked me like a hawk..... I don't play games , I work alot,,, anyways I'm so glad I left her and hearing this song makes me remember my old freedom and goal's I can now achieve ....
What powerful lyrics to help us realize how much we silence our Truth so as do make others happy. That called the disease to please. Great video...I did think the ending ring fight would have been mind blowing if the two fighters would have melted into one and walked away👍🌞
I dreamed of leaving my narc, abusive,drug addict, atheist, husband,..back when this song first came out. Well now,..I am finally doing it!!! So I just remembered how this song gave me hope, and dreams, to do it, and I came back to listen to it. I was crying back then, watching the video. Now I am smiling, with all my heart. TY...💔🥰❤
Although this song reflects upon its creator finding the courage to get out of a bad relationship and coming out of it successfully, it doesn't mean that it's meaning has to pertain solely to that. In my life that "bad relationship" is people in my "support group" who aren't doing what they are supposed to be doing which is carrying out with their job and the obligations that entail it, particularly with my prior case manager and social worker as I had to make rivals with the owner of my prior placement in order to force an ultimatum of which even the lazy cannot ignore. I finally got my wish and now I'm more content with allowing time to pass as someone who can't seem to do more than just getting by in life. As least now I have more control over where my life and career leads me as well as what I can do on my down time. The other place wouldn't allow me to even have my own stuff which is what I will need in order to move forward with my life realizing that I have to do this alone because I can't trust anyone else to do it right.
‘Forgot who I was before I ever kissed you. Yeah, I thought I’d missed you, but I miss me more.’ Anybody else feel that ish to the depth of their soul? Edited for language. o.o Goodness, my bad.
I remember that I used to be in a toxic relationship with the first man i ever dated. He made me feel worthless. But when i heard this song, i completely fell apart even though i had left him years before hearing this song. This song is a wonderful message. You are awesome, Kelsea!!!!!
There's cazillion of us out there that this song was meant for. My sister lipped sang this at a corporate contest meeting recently. Each person was assigned like 45 seconds; they were gobsmacked ! And yes. It was a perfect song for her.
love this song! I hope this is in every persons heart, before they get to the point of loosing themselves. Its such a different mentality. Getting over, vs never letting happen. Same emotions, just different timings of determination. So powerful.
Based on the song name I thought this was going to be about “to my ex, I’m so amazing, you’re SO going to miss me more than I’ll miss you.” And then, bam! this song is so awesome and empowering, I love how it’s not so much about the ex, but rediscovering yourself after a hard break up. Love it, love it, love it!
Here's to toxic relationship survivors. 💪🏼 *edit: Thank you for sharing your stories and the likes. I'm sorry for what you went through, it must have been hell. Just know that all your battle scars inspire others, and show that you survived with pride :)
Absolutely love and sing this song often! It relates to my past life! Thanks for sharing! I definitely miss my own beats and miss me more! Thanks for sharing!
actually using this song to move on from a best friend who treated me badly. were best friends for 15 years then she met a new guy and cut me out of her life. any bad relationships, boy or girl you have to walk away from for your own respect. You'll feel better for it.
Dont give up on your friend.. he might just be controlling and doesnt like her hanging out with her friends . She probably needs you more than you know
I know how that feels. I was best friends with a girl for eight years and then she randomly ditched me and started dating the guy I'd recently broken up with and who had actually made an enemy out of himself.
When I was listening to this song today, it hit different when I started thinking about my toxic relationship with depression and negativity thoughts about myself. In the past 2 years, I started losing sight of who I was more and more till eventually I didn’t recognize the person in the mirror anymore. I lost my zest and the light that once shined. I forgot my purpose. I forgot me. The sad thing was that I got so comfortable in that depressive state that any day that ended up being a good one meant something was off. And every time I was happy and thinking positive about myself, the voice in my head would say, “Don’t worry, you’re going to be sad again any minute now.” Well I just turned 21 yesterday, and I finally decided I was going to change some things. I’m going to find who I am once again and reinforce it. *“yeah I thought I miss you... but I miss me more.”*
This song is for people who have been in controling relationship or even abusive. I broke up wit someone about 7 months ago cause we wanted me to change my style of clothing than my male friends than he all of sudden didnt like some of the things i did. When we first started dating he wasnt like he was alright wit everything but month or 2 later he wanted me to change alot. Some men really know how to fool people
You're telling me! I married a man like that. Very controlling and I've lost all my friends and have been cut off from most of my family. We have two kids and I'm trying to get us out of it.
I feel you just took a page out of the book that is my life. In the beginning they say it's all fine and dandy... know why? Cause pussy got them hooked. And they know it's good so they're gonna get jealous because somewhere in some shady ass way they're being a piece of shit behind your back and know they could lose you in a second. Gotta love narcissists... keep being you, girl!
Thank YOU to Kelsea Bellerini!! It's like you knew i needed this. 😃 HAHA poem that I haven't figured a name yet.. 🤔 The reasons I said at the time didn't realize they were simply excuses to your damaging behavior, maybe weathered from the manipulation but I've finally remembered my hobbies which were once important all along the extrordinary writing comes after the ashes that once had me believe what true love was built on only simply remains lies, deceit, facade that later reveiled unimaginable heartbreak not knowin how to go on this persons love replaced with hate I could no longer fight for the one sided relationship Although theres countless moments a mask was put on to go with the actors charm So badly didn't want to be a statistic just as I'm sure the other divorcees thought I'm sorry, I now know the agonizing pain, hard to find the words people across the world go on with their stories Well heres another wife from a past life in disbelief The little people who were made from love , sent from above 3-4 yrs. ago said had a girlfriend then,joked corrected and said "nah,.. your mommy is the most important woman in my life " now the goal is to have our own see , hes above me goin about my day what I'd give & do to have these flashback distant memories, polluting my mind as if it was all a dream as if you ever knew how to love at all I didn't think i could foresee family unit torn apart If you are in the begining of seperation, trust me little by little you WILL have what made -up you, back A upgraded new stronger version is in store You WILL look back and say I'm barely surviving to I learned," we did it" conquered, stronger than yesterday comin out titanium strength, weathered heart , scars left yet remain bulletproof
That you for this song. I was having yet another fight( ended up being our last fight) with my now ex husband then this song blasted. And I missed the shit out of me. When right then and filed for a divorce. Best thing I ever done. I found my wings , got back my independence , and I'm back to me. !!! Thank you Kelsea Ballerini
Hello, Thank you Ms. Bellerini for the message (or perhaps 'anthem') that I have been waiting for to define my life! I have spent the better portion of my adult life battling my "good self' versus my 'real self'. Many thanks for the perspective and musical outlet for my feelings! Keep going girl!
Wow!! I can't believe I'm reading that what you say you go through is what I go through. My way of explaining it is take and put your two fists out in front of you, take one and cover the other fist . That's how I explain how the battle is inside me. That there is two me's. The one fist being covered is the real me, the one that is doing the covering is the bad me, the other me that won't let me be me and keeps me locked inside myself.
This song is awesome and applies to any kind of end to a relationship. I just ended a 16 year relationship with a divorce because I finally realized that I couldn't stay with this woman anymore. I really didn't like what I had become or how unhappy and constantly stressed out I was. I filed for divorce and she moved out and shortly afterwards this song found me when I needed it the most and wow! mind blown. It made me realize how much that I was stressed and unhappy because I had lost myself somewhere along the lines.
Thanks for the great love and support you show me as a special fan of mine,I hope you won't stop listening to my music and this is my private text number (470) 482-8797 that’s my private text number you can text me
Wasn't sure what to expect with this song.. as I find a lot of current music is boring.. This song has a good message and I enjoyed it.. too many people lose themselves to be what others expect of them, and in the end, are lost when that person or people are no loner in their lives to tell them who they should be. Be yourself and don't change for anyone, unless of course the change is to leave behind flaws or bad/harmful behavior. be confident in yourself and be YOU. as for this video.. there are other videos that use the same scenario of two personalities of the same person fighting eachother. sometimes it seems out of place, but this fit the message of the song.. and I especially appreciated proper boxing form and proper rotating of the fists.. too many people don't know how to throw a punch. Looks like Kelsea either has some background / experience in boxing.. or at least respected the sport (or even viewers/fans) enough to get some pointers.. Nice.
THANK YOU!! After all the decades of slit-your-wrist breakup songs, this one is an absolute delight. By FAR the healthiest breakup song ever, major kudos!
Thanks for the great love and support you show me as a special fan of mine,I hope you won't stop listening to my music and this is my private text number (470) 482-8797 that’s my private text number you can text me
I was in a relationship for two and a half years with a man who lied and broke my heart repeatedly. He got more chances than he deserved and I finally worked up the strength to walk away. I missed me more than I knew. My favorite part is that this ex was a good three inches shorter than me when I wore heels, so the first verse had me dying. To those of you who also worked up your courage to walk away, I’m so proud of you. Keep putting yourself first. ❤️
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This song is the best I remember coming home from daycare and this would be on the radio 🥇
2-17-20 Is the day I took my life back. 3 days in the Hospital, 2 broken ribs, lacerations on my nose and a concussion. This song has helped me alot! Never going back! Thank you!
Bless you beautiful lady..
this made me tear up, god bless you! i truly hope you are in a better place now!
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Am so glad you got out ALIVE. Cuz if you had to suffer like you did, he would have eventually KILLED YOU. Good for you leaving and getting away from the brute!
Same exact day month and year I got my life back as well
Girl, you nailed this song for all of us that are or were co-dependents held captive by the mind- ing of the narcissist. So empowering and so true and so about no more tolerance for abuse of any kind because you only get one life, this one, and it is so short. You can never complain about being in a toxic relationship with a narcissist if you choose to stay- you stay a victim. Listen to this song and get the help to get out and get on with your life and learn to heal your co-dependence and recognize a narcissist so it never happens again. Thank you Kelsea!
Is co dependent s even a thing... I thought that was a fad created by oprah
Never realised I was in a narcissistic relationship as just thought it was normal to be scared all the time to do or say anything. Im now out of this relationship and slowly working on rebuilding my life. Thanks for this song Kelsa, its so empowering, made me realise I really did miss me more!🙂❤
Damn right world of difference between victim and survivor
@@dianeeasey376 yes never let a man control you
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I'm so glad to see I'm not alone in this...I'm a very fresh 5 days out, in a safe spot. I sent this video to my daughter, she said " mom, when you sent this to me, I cried, I knew you were finally done"! This has been my strength though this. Thank you
Ditto! While I was in the hospital my bestie was there for me and I asked her for her phone and said, "I'm done, this is me now" Then played the song. She cried with happiness!
Please be strong don't disregard the reason all of it had to happen in the first place. But don't forget to learn from this and create positive don't let anyone get the sense of weakness. You are great for even finding your worth
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I'm 27 hours out after police and a shelter. Thank you KB!!!!!
So proud of you 💗👏👏
Probably one of the most well written break-up songs I’ve ever heard. She sings it literally like she’s talking straight to us. Excellent!
This song reminds me to never take my wife for granted.she is her own person and deserves her own choices Women are just as equal as men they deserve just as much respect. love this song!!!!!
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This song made you realize your wife deserves basic human rights??
very cool just like life should be. I hope you and your wife have many happy years together. Hugs to you both!
@@lindseyormsbee"Reminds me" is what he said. We all need little eye openers and reminders from time to time.
Narcissism goes both ways, yes?.
"I found my independence, can't believe I ever lost it" that line hits the hardest. I miss me more!
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Me too as I would rather quote this sheet of music made the testament of finding the old self that I lost after leaving the last bad place that I remained in for about 3 years prior to standing up to them and taking the bold rival standoff against my oppressors of which made such made incompetence and ignorance in its stand...
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This song is amazing 🙌🏻
Even if you’re not in a toxic relationship, it’s still so easy to lose yourself! Your hobbies become their hobbies and you may even stop have self days! Get out, do the stuff you love even if you’re partner doesn’t join! Don’t lose yourself in a relationship!!
This song came out the year after I left my 8 year abusive marriage to a narcissist. The first time I heard it I cried. Every time I feel weak from the trama and PTSD it left me with I feel myself being built back up. It gives me strength. I'm remarried to the best person in the world for me, but that PTSD comes out of nowhere sometimes, this song is the song that make me feel strong. I'm so glad it exists. I hope it can be the strength for people who are living through similar experiences.
Yep I didn't the exact same thing cried than woken up the relay wasn't just toxic toxic begin with nothing more then lies after lies
Haha, I couldn't be with u anyway. But tell ur father I appreciates the kind replies.
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I Can Totally Relate To You And All Of The Others
“I forgot I had dreams...” damn I felt that. I was so involved with this guy who would barely take the time to text me, he made me feel so insecure, and it took me years to ever feel confident in myself and for him to bring back my insecurity of my self-image, I realized that I was putting myself back. I forgot who I was, I forgot about my dreams and goals in my life, all for some jerk who can’t even pull himself together. God sent me all the right signs for me to realize he’s not the one, and I’m so grateful I’ve let that one go. I missed my own vibe, and how I was able to rely on myself for whatever life throws at me. God bless everyone who’s survived through any toxic relationship. You are strong and you are so worth it. Keep doing YOU!!
You're beautiful and deserve nothing but the best never give up
BeYOUtiful, babe. ✌💞🌿
I have a question. So, my now ex-best friend just started ignoring me a few years ago. Then she ghosted me. The relationship before that was fine. Would that be a toxic relationship?
@@hannabobo4187 Depends. If she's reaching out to you now, ask her for a reason. Ask her why she ghosted you because you deserve an explanation when crap like that happens. Sometimes people do that, and sometimes they do have a good reason. Or I guess at least if they show they're improving and care about not doing it again it's ok to forgive even if the reason was bad. But in the end it's really up to your judgement, and if you think your life is better with them in it.
I can relate to the texts, insecurity, and confidence issues.
When you have been in a toxic relationship the idea of who you are is distorted. You do everything to please the other person that you forget who you are. I was in a manipulative relationship for three years and when I finally got out of it, it wasn't even the end of it. Still got harassed, stalked, and was still confused because even though that relationship didn't completely strip me of who I was I still was lost. This song is empowering,
After all of it I struggled to find myself but with therapy and tons of reassurance from the people who actually love me I am in a much better place.
To everyone who has been or is in an abusive, manipulative, toxic, or bad relationship: Please don't loose faith in yourself. It can get better. You are stronger than you think.
Are we the same person?
Never let a man contradict or dictate your life. If he does that to you, he’s not the right one. You should never lose your independence over a narcissist, let alone anyone. Thank you for an absolute bop that sends an amazing message. I love you so much, Kelsea!❤️
Never let anyone dictate your life. There are plenty of toxic women out there treating men poorly too.
@@lindseyormsbeeAnd plenty of women mistreating women too!! 😊❤
@@ar_moma667 OP already stated that.
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This song has been one of the only things getting me through the aftermath of an extremely toxic mental/emotionally abusive relationship. Physical wounds would have hurt less. After a year and a half I’m starting to feel like myself again and realize my self worth. Never thought in a million years I’d be without the man I loved more then anything including myself. Never again will I ever let anyone make me lose who I am.
The physical scars heal much faster & cleaner the the invisible ones…I’m 46 now & have been working on them for over 10 years. It started in my childhood & progressed into adulthood…after one divorce, & a couple of abusive relationships, I married into another one. Can’t seem to let it go either…I just got too tired & gave up.
@@katheystewart1473 Please, don't give up. I've been there, and you're worth fighting for! DM me, or DM anyone you trust.
Went through counseling at a DV center…after 2 yrs, my counselor asked me to leave her care. I’ve got a new therapist whom I feel comfortable with & we’re beginning to delve into some of the past…the current marriage is no longer physical, but we’re emotionally & verbal. I’ve fought & I’ve seen the uglier side of ppl…& my health is bad. I’ve learned to emotionally & verbally box back & they’re periods of calm, & even happier ones. Mostly if I take my antidepressants meds, then I have no feelings other than complacency which makes everyone else happy. But I’ve learned trust no one & if you have no secrets then no one can use them against you. This is safer than the world out there ever has been. But I AM learning. My counselor has reassured me that I’m in recovery & will be fine.💕
Thats where I'm at right now. I didn't even realize I was in an abusive relationship with a narcissist. But everyone I know keeps telling me "I'm glad you got rid of that narcissistic abusive jerk" which is saying a lot since all the people i know can never agree with each other. It was never physical, as you said with your relationship, that would have been less painful. I got out 2 days ago. And it feels so odd to be able to go and do the things I want without permission, to be able to actually do what I want, I cried. I haven't even bought clothes that I like for myself in 3 years, just stuff I knew he liked. I bought an outfit I actually loved for the first time in so long. I lost myself to him, but I'm never going to let anyone do that to me again.
Amen sister
This song makes me feel so proud of how far I have come. I started with an abusive and sheltered childhood where I wasn't allowed to have opinions, express my feelings, and every day was a battle with abuse. I went straight into the arms of a user who played with my emotions and tried to tell me what I can and can not do, going as far as locking me in an apartment. This song makes me proud and I can feel every word. Thank you for this song!!
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Agreed.. this typically starts in childhood. We learn to accept abuse and it becomes normal.
@wakeupthetruth2091 Girls who are abused grow up to marry their fathers.
I just heard this song today and it came at the exact time I needed to hear this. I was healing from a narcissistic relationship and had been doing well. Until he came back and pursued me relentlessly for months. Begging for me to give him the 1 millionth chance to change. I was good. I was happy. Then I said Ok we can work it out (biggest mistake). Now I am back at square one. This song reminded me of how it felt when I was healing. And I am going to be that way again.
They said the pursuit of a narcissist is not because of the other person but because the narcissist doesn't want to lose or fail.
Every girl should love themselves that much. Don’t lose yourself
Thank you, I just got out of a toxic relationship so thank you 💕💕
@@caitlyn2122 good for you!! I know you deserve better!!!!
@@caitlyn2122 I know I’m just a kid but go out there and find better person don’t ever let a. Man hit you or hurt you just walk out and leave. So I want you know you are better and beautiful person and worth it
@@piperwilliford183 Thank you I really needed that I got away and i’m slowly getting over him 💕💕
@@caitlyn2122 np
This song should be on the Required Listening list for anyone, male or female, young, well-seasoned, or anywhere in-between! You don't always know who you are and what you need to be happy when you're just starting out; but once you figure it out, don't give it up for someone else!
AMEN!!!!!!!
Yessss!!!! This is so awesome. Thank you for not making a senseless music video just showing off and selling yourself short. THIS is strength, beauty, and meaning! Love it.
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Christina Rivera I love this song and agree lots! when u meet someone u like get ready to fight and stand up for yourself!
Every time I feel like someone is trying to hold me back or hold me down I think of this song and it gives me the strength to fight!!! Thank you for the power Kelsea ily !
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Thank you, Kelsea! I just had a brutal breakup with a major control freak that basically thought he was always right & any of my thoughts or opinions meant nothing. This song & video is so empowering & will help me get over this.
Hello 👋 pretty, how are you doing? Hope you are fine. I'm Zack Hudson and am from Denver Colorado, where are you from? You seem like a real country girl
Miss Ballerini has grown out of the teen songs and has performed a song worthy of a young woman learning about relationships.
Mind blown. Kelsea ballerina did amazing in this music video. Love......love....love this song.
MysticGal91 don’t mean to be rude but it’s my pet peave BALLERINI
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I love her so much....
You are right.
I love this song!! I left a very toxic job. A manager at a hotel I used to work at was NOT a nice person. Im so glad i got out of there, however it still scarred me to where im thinking of going back to therapy,but on the bright side, i now have 3 jobs that i really enjoy 😊.
This song has helped me so much this summer. I was in a 14 yr relationship & he ended it in June. Seeing you perform this song and listening to it all the time has given me so much strength. It reminds me that I need to put myself 1st for a change and even though it's always an inner struggle, it's what needs to happen before I can start something new
Thanks for the great love and support you show me as a special fan of mine,I hope you won't stop listening to my music and this is my private text number (470) 482-8797 that’s my private text number you can text me...
"I didn't want to lose my friends but know it's hard to even find em" hit hard
Thanks for understanding I became friends with someone in daycare who was being judged then she stabbed me kn the back
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In my short time of being alive, I've had many people hurt me in various ways and try to change me. This song sealed my promise to myself to finally stop caring and bending to them. I am who I am. Thank you for writing such an amazing and empowering song Kelsea.
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Love this song. From being in a abusive and toxic relationship for 7 years. Finally realizing who i am again and couldn't be happier
I missed ME More Too!!!! 👊 Cheers to survivors who walked away 👢 head up!!!!! 💕Way to go Kelsea!!!!
And to the ones who havent
YESSS girl. YOU are always worth fighting for.
Kelsea Ballerini THANKS Kelsea...your music helps remind us of our worth, & probably prevents some really awkward moments, for the guys that broke our hearts!!
Yes GIRL! AMEN.... The words are exactly from a toxic relationship.
Kelsea Ballerini thnxs for everything can u please do high school music video next.
A great theme for someone that was never strong enough to stand their ground and allowed someone else to change them into someone else and realized this only after the damage was done.
I'm sure a lot of individuals are hooping and hollering to this but maybe look deeper into why and just maybe they will prevent it next time.
Food for thought !!!!
Its so refreshing to see all these young talented female artists writing and singing music that express Independence and strengthens young women!! Good work!
Not drag race reviving another banger.
I loveee drag race, I’m def a super fan 💯❤😘
What was the other one?
Thank you for showing that there truly is a way out of abusive relationships.
2015: The First Time - XO
2017: Unapologetically - Miss Me More
2020: kelsea - bragger
2022: SUBJECT TO CHANGE - MUSCLE MEMORY
2024: PATTERNS - Baggage
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21 years. I did what I was supposed to do. Sacrificed my career for his. Lost all but 1 of my friends. Played pit crew to his lame attempts at a career.
3 years later, at age 56, I’ve eclipsed his accomplishments. Met my expectations. Found real love. Deliriously happy and can’t wait for new challenges.
Damn straight Kelsey. Thank you.
Same here, but he took 38 years of my life, I'm 55 looking for and think I might have found Mr take my breath away..
Way to go!!
Congratulations 🎉 glad you got out, and found happiness!
My advice to any straight girl is to not get married unless he makes the same or more than you right now! And has been at his job awhile and has an education. Sorry but those are THE hard facts of a girls life. Male straight life is totally privileged.
I left one extremely toxic marriage, just to marry a guy who turned out to be a little less toxic. I was constantly comparing the two, "Well my first husband would have done worse. It's not that bad." Don't ever mistake "better" for "acceptable". You deserve the best, not just better.
Beautifully said!
Never settle
Heather Johnson love love love love love this! Never settle, you clearly deserve a king, not a pretender to the throne.
This!!!!
I'm starting to regret my 2nd marriage I honestly don't know what's worse my first or my 2nd thinking and keep saying it's time to move on just got to be able to support myself
This song is literally the only song that has helped me with my recent breakup. It was a TOXIC one. This song basically raised me from the dead. I love it so much. Thank you Kelsea!!
YES. you are always worth fighting for! 💪🏻
Kelsea Ballerini Thank you. You are the best!! LYL
Go girl!
@@KelseaBallerini amazing song it is so true!!
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Believe in yourself even when the world gives up on you...
Theme song for every survivor of a Narcissistic relationship 💪
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Agreed. That's why I like this song so much and it "found me" when I needed it.
YES! It’s my anthem! I’m 10 months out and so much happier! Doing major self work and on the road to loving myself again!!!!!
I always loved this song because of the sounds. I just listened and read the lyrics as she sang and realized how much I'm glad that I'm now out of a 9 year toxic marriage as of this past April. I wish I had this song years ago to show me about what I was putting myself through. I am able to be me and be happy for the first time in about 8 years.
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This just makes me feel like if I ever feel like an emotional state and I’ll listen to this song in million and 1 million times it just makes you feel strong and independent.
This song reminds me of something 🤔 I’ve never heard this before.. and just confirmed I’m headed in the right direction towards my healing journey. Abuse comes in many forms.. and moving back home has made me have to deal with some pain. You just can’t paint over the walls of pain and expect it to disappear, it will always bleed through. They say we heal over time, but Im just surprised this particular layer took over a decade. But I’m starting to see the light of this particular tunnel.
I was in a toxic relationship and when I broke it off with him, this song explains it all. I felt more relief than sadness. I never get tired of listening to this song!
Its crazy we used to sing in class in high school together. so glad someone in our class got out alive. she is a sweet heart.
This is definitely helping me getting over the narcissistic ex boyfriend right about now! 🙏🏻 thank you!
I'm sorry you went through that. I've been married to mine for 11 years. This morning I said I was done. Found this song by accident today. I believe this will help me too.
Kinky Kitty wow. I’m so sorry you are going through this right now. I’m proud of you for stepping up and leaving. I thought I was moved on myself. Hadn’t talked to mine in 3 weeks and started talking to a really amazing guy. Today he calls and says all the right fucking things and has me fucked up in the mind again. I take 5 steps forward and 10 backwards. It’s so exhausting.
The Wordy Woodstock I truly believe we stumble across certain songs because something greater than us knew we needed to hear them. I needed to hear this song again as my ex called me 6 times begging for me back today... and I’m considering it because he’s so good with his words. But this song is bringing me back to reality because you commented and I got the notification. So thank you!
@@nicolesheetz6414 I still currently live with him. He knows that I intend to be gone by June. I just have things I need to get taken care of first. I have a lot of possessions to thin down and a lot of therapy to do so that when I walk away, I will stay walked away. If you need a battle buddy, email me anytime. KinkyKitty 77 at gmail.com and if you find yourself being mad at yourself for going back, don't be mad, forgive yourself and try again. Life is never easy, is it? I mean it though, if you need a battle buddy, I am old and I will listen to you and try to help you through everything. I have done so much research on being married to a narcissist and being the victim of a narcissist that I might as well pass on my knowledge.
@The Wordy Woodstock thank goodness for those songs that rescue us and give us just a little more strength and courage than we had before we heard it.
I was in a long-term, emotionally abusive and toxic relationship with a man who made me question my sanity. He molded me into this weak person who believed his lies. And then one day, I snapped out of it. I barely cried when it was over. I just remember feeling numb because I’d lost who I was as a person. I haven’t been in a serious relationship since, and it’s been about a decade. But I’m finally happy.
Danielle, I was also in a toxic marriage. Actually I have been boxing for half a year now and its been great. It is really good for people with anxiety (me). I hope your doing ok though. I am sorry about that. But I feel ya.
I just left my naraccist alcoholic fiance of 4 years. I didnt cry. I too feel numb because I lost who I was. Forgot what made me happy. Lord be with the survivors of emotional abuse as we stuggle to find ourselves
Connie Dawson Good for you. I also pray for the men who abused me, that they change their ways and raise their sons to be better men.
MotoAtheist Well let's face it, the vag is and always will be amazing. Lol ;) It's just that sometimes it takes awhile for a woman to realize that she first has to find the beat of her own drum and find her own self. That's when she realizes that she is fine alone. When that true embracing of oneself has occurred it's then that the woman realizes that only a man who is aware of her true beauty and the depth of her nature is worthy of her. Everything shifts and she finally can have a healthy relationship but only if that's what she chooses.
Once she has a shift and crosses this threshold of self love and independence it's only then that she can recognize a great man. And if she doesn't find him it's ok because she realizes who she is and falls in love with self first. It's an amazing freedom for both men and women to realize that we are all fine by ourselves and we don't need anyone else to define us. We have to get there before we can have a healthy relationship. Signed, Super Vag.
@@pattinelson1551 I have a friend who, after her divorce, started dating again and she would get too involved straight away and then get dissapointed. I tried to convey, without being direct, that maybe she just needs to find herself for awhile and learn to be content without a partner. I don't know if my advice took or it just sort of happened, but she finally chilled out a bit and is trying to get on her own life together first now. I totally agree that people need to be satisfied on their own first before seeking a partner. Too many people become super entwined in their relationships and can't do anything without their partners, they just get completely dependent upon each other. Some see that and think how great their love is, but I see it and think it's rather pathetic that neither person has any identity of their own anymore.
I never realized others would also feel the same way I have about this song. It has really helped me the past couple of months since leaving my narcissist boyfriend. Thank you for sharing your stories and giving me the courage to do so as well. Much love. Thank you Kelsea, I really needed this song.
I hear this song often @ work & I was curious who sang it. Before today I had no clue who sang this song. You have a beautiful voice.
Definitely one of her best songs..so far. Very talented, beautiful young lady!💯
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I've never heard this song before. I'm kind of out of the loop these days. I am a singrr/songwriter and I find this song amazing. It's so cool to find a song that you know is a hit the very first time you hear it. Great lyrics, great melody, great job, Kelsea!
I absolutely LOVE this song! How empowering these words are to anyone who is in an abusive relationship!
I JUST heard of Kelsea when she was on Kelly Clarkson show today.
(I obviously don't listen to country music)
I am a HUGE fan of Kelsea starting today!
I never hear the song before the Country Music Awards. I turned it on just as she was singing it. I had a very abusive 18 year marriage and I still have not found me again. I hope to some day. I am 61 years old. I can relate to that song. I believe God let me turn the channel just for that song.
Love this! Keep fighting 💕
@@KelseaBallerini I shall. Thank you so much for taking the time out of your busy schedule to respond to my comment. Your song was my life. My friends are gone and I am trying to find the person I was before the verbal abuse.
If i see any man hits a woman ill stomp there ass sorry for the languge im 18 years old an i dont put up with that crap thats bs cheating an everything is bs there no need for it period!!
You seem like a nice guy so here's some advice from an "older" gal. We don't want you to beat up anyone for us. We just want you to be
one of the good guys. And years from now, when you have sons of your own, raise them to be good guys as well. The world needs more
good guys, not more violence. Peace.
@@lesliebruce6605 what a great story, thanks for sharing. I have a similar one. And what a lovely woman Kelsea is to have personally responded.
I love kelsea and her songs so much...who else loves her😍😘
Me. Seen her 3 times live. Once with Thomas Rhett, once with Lady Antebellum and recently with Keith Urban
@@ryanmccormick5180 you're so lucky😱
She’s very talented
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I missed me for 40 years. Not anymore. ❤️🩹🔥
I love this song!! Even before my divorce I would rock out to this. But now, after its over I REALLY LOVE this song. It's exactly how I feel. How I couldn't do things cause he didn't like it. I forgot who I was and what I liked!! Thank you Kelsea!! I love all your music.
This song is freaking amazing !!❤️😭 makes me feel powerful in someway
Outstanding song. The message is absolutely true. Thank you for this.
OMG-Awesome song! This song will survive the times, just as I Will Survive. So many people get lost in relationships...
This song is amazing!
Even if you're not in a toxic relationship, it's still so easy to lose yourself! Your hobbies become their hobbies and you may even stop have self days! Get out, do the stuff you love even if you're partner doesn't join! Don't lose yourself in a relationship!!
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I was married to a VERY controlling woman, I never gave her a reason to not trust me,yet she stalked me like a hawk..... I don't play games , I work alot,,, anyways I'm so glad I left her and hearing this song makes me remember my old freedom and goal's I can now achieve ....
MARRIED! Omg thank god you are happy now
I’m really happy you were able to get out of that situation and that you now can do everything you couldn’t! 🖤
...GOT to know your limitations AND your worth!!! =) CONGRATZ MATTHEW!!!
Keep on trucking brother...
Yes, it goes both ways. I am very glad you got out of that relationship/marriage.
What powerful lyrics to help us realize how much we silence our Truth so as do make others happy. That called the disease to please.
Great video...I did think the ending ring fight would have been mind blowing if the two fighters would have melted into one and walked away👍🌞
I dreamed of leaving my narc, abusive,drug addict, atheist, husband,..back when this song first came out. Well now,..I am finally doing it!!! So I just remembered how this song gave me hope, and dreams, to do it, and I came back to listen to it. I was crying back then, watching the video. Now I am smiling, with all my heart. TY...💔🥰❤
Although this song reflects upon its creator finding the courage to get out of a bad relationship and coming out of it successfully, it doesn't mean that it's meaning has to pertain solely to that. In my life that "bad relationship" is people in my "support group" who aren't doing what they are supposed to be doing which is carrying out with their job and the obligations that entail it, particularly with my prior case manager and social worker as I had to make rivals with the owner of my prior placement in order to force an ultimatum of which even the lazy cannot ignore.
I finally got my wish and now I'm more content with allowing time to pass as someone who can't seem to do more than just getting by in life. As least now I have more control over where my life and career leads me as well as what I can do on my down time. The other place wouldn't allow me to even have my own stuff which is what I will need in order to move forward with my life realizing that I have to do this alone because I can't trust anyone else to do it right.
ONE OF MY FAVORITES OFF THE ALBUM! I LOVE YOU KELS! 👸🏼💓🎶
Love youuu! Thanks Jillian!
@@KelseaBallerini hello
‘Forgot who I was before I ever kissed you. Yeah, I thought I’d missed you, but I miss me more.’
Anybody else feel that ish to the depth of their soul?
Edited for language. o.o Goodness, my bad.
Brittany Jean
yep... hits you hard!!!
You better believe it! 🥊🥊
Brittany Jean Once I did. I learned the first time.❤️🙏🏻🌟😘thankful!🥰💪🏻🙏🏻
Brittany Jean bad language
Go strong ladies
I remember that I used to be in a toxic relationship with the first man i ever dated. He made me feel worthless. But when i heard this song, i completely fell apart even though i had left him years before hearing this song. This song is a wonderful message. You are awesome, Kelsea!!!!!
There's cazillion of us out there that this song was meant for.
My sister lipped sang this at a corporate contest meeting recently. Each person was assigned like 45 seconds; they were gobsmacked ! And yes. It was a perfect song for her.
love this song! I hope this is in every persons heart, before they get to the point of loosing themselves. Its such a different mentality. Getting over, vs never letting happen. Same emotions, just different timings of determination. So powerful.
Based on the song name I thought this was going to be about “to my ex, I’m so amazing, you’re SO going to miss me more than I’ll miss you.” And then, bam! this song is so awesome and empowering, I love how it’s not so much about the ex, but rediscovering yourself after a hard break up. Love it, love it, love it!
SANG IT KELSEA!
🎙️💽🎹🎸🎷🎼🎵🎶
DAMN RIGHT "I MISS ME MORE"
LOVE YOURSELF!!
✔️👍🏾🤜🏾🤛🏾✔️
Kelsea looks both amazing and badass at the same time!
Here's to toxic relationship survivors. 💪🏼
*edit: Thank you for sharing your stories and the likes. I'm sorry for what you went through, it must have been hell. Just know that all your battle scars inspire others, and show that you survived with pride :)
Amen
AMEN!!
A huge AMEN!!!!
Amen
Amen girl
"I forgot I had dreams; I forgot I had wings...." I FELT THAT SHT.
Cindy Greer go ya
How did you forgot
Daaaaaamn
Kitana Brittney you're too young to understand
no-one cares
I'm so happy it's out now!! 💖✨ such a underrated singer! I adore her ❤. I can't wait to see her live!! 🙏💙
Absolutely love and sing this song often! It relates to my past life! Thanks for sharing! I definitely miss my own beats and miss me more! Thanks for sharing!
actually using this song to move on from a best friend who treated me badly. were best friends for 15 years then she met a new guy and cut me out of her life. any bad relationships, boy or girl you have to walk away from for your own respect. You'll feel better for it.
True
Dont give up on your friend.. he might just be controlling and doesnt like her hanging out with her friends . She probably needs you more than you know
I know how that feels. I was best friends with a girl for eight years and then she randomly ditched me and started dating the guy I'd recently broken up with and who had actually made an enemy out of himself.
Absolutely LOVE LOVE LOVE! Good job Kelsea!!
Love is it
I love how this MV uses boxing. I also like how she's conquering herself because it boxing is definately about finding oneself/inner strength.
When I was listening to this song today, it hit different when I started thinking about my toxic relationship with depression and negativity thoughts about myself.
In the past 2 years, I started losing sight of who I was more and more till eventually I didn’t recognize the person in the mirror anymore. I lost my zest and the light that once shined. I forgot my purpose. I forgot me.
The sad thing was that I got so comfortable in that depressive state that any day that ended up being a good one meant something was off. And every time I was happy and thinking positive about myself, the voice in my head would say, “Don’t worry, you’re going to be sad again any minute now.”
Well I just turned 21 yesterday, and I finally decided I was going to change some things. I’m going to find who I am once again and reinforce it.
*“yeah I thought I miss you... but I miss me more.”*
This song is for people who have been in controling relationship or even abusive. I broke up wit someone about 7 months ago cause we wanted me to change my style of clothing than my male friends than he all of sudden didnt like some of the things i did. When we first started dating he wasnt like he was alright wit everything but month or 2 later he wanted me to change alot. Some men really know how to fool people
You're telling me! I married a man like that. Very controlling and I've lost all my friends and have been cut off from most of my family. We have two kids and I'm trying to get us out of it.
@@kaela052013 leave him when hes not around. Whenever he gone just leave
I feel you just took a page out of the book that is my life. In the beginning they say it's all fine and dandy... know why? Cause pussy got them hooked. And they know it's good so they're gonna get jealous because somewhere in some shady ass way they're being a piece of shit behind your back and know they could lose you in a second. Gotta love narcissists... keep being you, girl!
Be You, BeYOUtiful. 💃😊✌💞🌿💯
Allow me to apologise on behalf of the male species and say that not all of us are like that
Thank YOU to Kelsea Bellerini!! It's like you knew i needed this. 😃 HAHA
poem that I haven't figured a name yet.. 🤔
The reasons I said at the time didn't realize they were simply excuses to your damaging behavior, maybe weathered from the manipulation
but I've finally remembered my hobbies which were once important all along
the extrordinary writing comes
after the ashes that once had me believe what true love was built on
only simply remains lies, deceit,
facade that later reveiled
unimaginable heartbreak
not knowin how to go on
this persons love replaced with hate
I could no longer fight for the one
sided relationship
Although theres countless moments a mask was put on
to go with the actors charm
So badly didn't want to be a statistic
just as I'm sure the other divorcees thought
I'm sorry, I now know the agonizing
pain, hard to find the words
people across the world go on with their stories
Well heres another wife from a past life
in disbelief
The little people who were made from love , sent from above
3-4 yrs. ago said had a girlfriend then,joked
corrected and said "nah,.. your mommy is the most important
woman in my life "
now the goal is to have our own see , hes above me
goin about my day
what I'd give & do to have these flashback distant memories, polluting my mind
as if it was all a dream
as if you ever
knew how to love at all
I didn't think i could foresee
family unit torn apart
If you are in the begining of seperation, trust me
little by little you WILL have
what made -up you, back
A upgraded new stronger version
is in store
You WILL look back and say
I'm barely surviving to
I learned," we did it"
conquered, stronger
than yesterday
comin out titanium strength, weathered heart , scars left yet remain bulletproof
That you for this song. I was having yet another fight( ended up being our last fight) with my now ex husband then this song blasted. And I missed the shit out of me. When right then and filed for a divorce. Best thing I ever done. I found my wings , got back my independence , and I'm back to me. !!! Thank you Kelsea Ballerini
You made see my mom and dad didn't belong together
What a perfect song. Kelsea, you are everything.
Hello, Thank you Ms. Bellerini for the message (or perhaps 'anthem') that I have been waiting for to define my life! I have spent the better portion of my adult life battling my "good self' versus my 'real self'. Many thanks for the perspective and musical outlet for my feelings! Keep going girl!
Wow!! I can't believe I'm reading that what you say you go through is what I go through. My way of explaining it is take and put your two fists out in front of you, take one and cover the other fist . That's how I explain how the battle is inside me. That there is two me's. The one fist being covered is the real me, the one that is doing the covering is the bad me, the other me that won't let me be me and keeps me locked inside myself.
This song is awesome and applies to any kind of end to a relationship. I just ended a 16 year relationship with a divorce because I finally realized that I couldn't stay with this woman anymore. I really didn't like what I had become or how unhappy and constantly stressed out I was. I filed for divorce and she moved out and shortly afterwards this song found me when I needed it the most and wow! mind blown. It made me realize how much that I was stressed and unhappy because I had lost myself somewhere along the lines.
Thanks for the great love and support you show me as a special fan of mine,I hope you won't stop listening to my music and this is my private text number (470) 482-8797 that’s my private text number you can text me
Forever the queen of empowerment 💛✨
LOVE YOU.
@@KelseaBallerini IM ACTUALLY CRYING I LOVE YOU TOO QUEEN 😍🤩
Back to listen to remind myself AGAIN ❤ i dont like their drum beats no more 😢❤
❤❤❤ love this song....so many messages of strength, you are worth everything, don't let anyone take that away!
Such a *STRONG* song!!
It gives me the chills... 😬😬😬
Wasn't sure what to expect with this song.. as I find a lot of current music is boring..
This song has a good message and I enjoyed it.. too many people lose themselves to be what others expect of them, and in the end, are lost when that person or people are no loner in their lives to tell them who they should be.
Be yourself and don't change for anyone, unless of course the change is to leave behind flaws or bad/harmful behavior.
be confident in yourself and be YOU.
as for this video.. there are other videos that use the same scenario of two personalities of the same person fighting eachother. sometimes it seems out of place, but this fit the message of the song..
and I especially appreciated proper boxing form and proper rotating of the fists.. too many people don't know how to throw a punch.
Looks like Kelsea either has some background / experience in boxing.. or at least respected the sport (or even viewers/fans) enough to get some pointers.. Nice.
THANK YOU!! After all the decades of slit-your-wrist breakup songs, this one is an absolute delight. By FAR the healthiest breakup song ever, major kudos!
Love this song and its message!!
A great song and such an important message, awesome!
Kelsea Ballerini 😇 the most beautiful amazing woman 👠 in history your biggest fan love you 💞 4 ever 🕊️
this song helped me at a really bad time. I hope nothing but more hits for her because this was genius songwriting.
Thanks for the great love and support you show me as a special fan of mine,I hope you won't stop listening to my music and this is my private text number (470) 482-8797 that’s my private text number you can text me
You have no idea how many times I heard this song on iHeartRadio and it sounds so damn good every time! 👍❤️
Once I got the strength to leave my narcissistic ex, this was my running anthem.
Yes💯❤️
I love Country songs I have been listening to Country music since I was 2 years old and I still listen to Country Music
Trying to get out of a toxic relationship and I've been working my way towards it and love this song
Wish you the best for yourself! Nobody deserves to be in toxic relationship!!
I was in a relationship for two and a half years with a man who lied and broke my heart repeatedly. He got more chances than he deserved and I finally worked up the strength to walk away. I missed me more than I knew. My favorite part is that this ex was a good three inches shorter than me when I wore heels, so the first verse had me dying.
To those of you who also worked up your courage to walk away, I’m so proud of you. Keep putting yourself first. ❤️