two videos out in 2023 already, let's goooo! glad everyone is enjoying this circus of a video. give it a like and leave a comment about what you'd like me to talk about next! ♥♥♥
@connorFranta I think it'd be great to hear some of your writing tips! I'm currently working on my MSEd and hopefully can start working on my novel again. One chapter down... so much more to go!
i’d love if you did another q&a video! kinda generic and you’re probably tired of doing them but i always genuinely enjoy them. it’s like i’m catching up with an old friend
Connor, I don't know where you've been or why you're suddenly back in my recommended, but I love it. I would love to see more running videos, a movie review, just a story time about something... arts and crafts, a long documentation about raising a plant. Lol Whatever ya got.
@@brunett93 dude did you read what i said. men are statistically less picky than woman. its just a fact. i am not saying that men shouldnt be picky at all. its just a fact that woman overall are more picky. which makes sense biologically. they are the ones that want the best mate for their offspring.
@@brunett93 that's literally not what he said,women are statistically more picky in an unhealthy way,women always gotta blame men for their own shortcomings
Why is it always the gay dudes and women having the most problem about Leo daying preference it's almost like your jealous of those 20 year olds that are more attractive then you that's why need to shame leo
@@cortniegore8199 oh as if leo is dying for your good opinion about him😂,always the older or fatter people that get triggered by dating leo preference,I wonder why
@@sunnyinmilkyway2114 There are some homophobes (especially the religious kind) who say or accept that gayness isn't a choice or it's ok, but then they say you shouldn't act on it or be in a relationship with anybody. 😑
As an old gay I'm so glad this wasn't around in my prime, I'm glad that there's an avenue for people doing what they want but the toxicity level is Chernobyl level bad
@@believer773 so 50s is grandpa time already? I should be in the mummy section of a museum if that's the case. Naughty me with 8 regs and a happy-homo-sex-schedule....
As a 19 year old who is struggling in the depressing, toxic, and lonely dating world, videos like this bring me joy😁 I would say I’m a confident person, and with the right guy, it comes so naturally for me to let that confidence shine. It’s just finding the guys that is the issue for me. I feel like there aren’t any guys that are worth showing that side of myself to yet, so for the moment, I’m trying to feel comfortable being single. I’ve never had a boyfriend, and there isn’t anything I want more in the world. But if that “mr right” hasn’t came into my life yet, (and he inevitably will some day,) I think that’s ok. :)
I'm 19 too and I already feeling like it's not my time to date because everyone's always checking if the grass is greener on the other side no matter how good you are to them lol But our person will come around, we just gotta be patient
If you are looking for a relationship delete grindr. Also people just need to be honest with other people and themselves on what they are looking for. Don't tell me you want to date and be in a relationship when you just want to hookup. All these men online saying they want a relationship and when it gets to that point they ghost you because all they really wanted was to hookup...just say you want that and we can do that. Literally it doesn't have to be this hard.
I had a 20 year hookup - we met before the invention of the internet. Not an ideal relationship - no love there sadly, but just regular hookups at my place over about 20 years.
I met my 2-year boyfriend on grindr. No, it's not the best place to find a relationship... but sometimes it works. Tinder is worse. Dating apps overall are not great for that.
I need a trigger warning for hearing the Grindr notification, all my nightmares came flooding back! One time at work I heard it, and my fight for flight response was alerted because all the guys in my office were married or in a relationship with a woman 🤡
Delete them. Such a waste of time and damaging to you ultimately. As tough as it is, the toxic nature of anonymity from being online makes even nice guys kinda garbage. My best advice is join an adult league, like darts or kickball and be brave and just ask that cute guy out. Don't be so fragile that you can't try again, YOU ARE STRONG!!! The kind of guys constantly on grindr are not the caliber of men who you want to date.
It’s not like that when you swipe the right people. Their profiles will tell you if their fuckbois or not or you need to work on your reading people skills
Yup. 27 straight and in my first healthy relationship. Happy I’m not on dating apps. Clears up memory on my phone for a language app I am never going to use.
I'll be 49 in a few months. To give you an idea of what it was like for some of us older gays. I realized I was gay in 1997. Went out to the village for the first time in 2000. By 2011, I walked away from the horribly toxic queer community and completely swore off dating ever again. As a result, I have not dated in 12 years and have zero interest, even now. Also, I was in my mid-30's at the time and thought I would just do the hookup thing but guys just got weirder and abusive as I got older. So, I also swore off hooking up in 2014. Haven't hooked up with anybody in 8 years. It's been bad for a lot longer than many of you younger guys realize. To give you an idea on how bad it was for me more than 12 years ago... Ghosting? Been there, thousands of times. Someone shamed you, told you were ugly, fat, too old, too young, not gay enough, etc? Been there, thousands of times. Had hundreds of guys tell me to fix my crooked tooth ...dozens of those were on dates. Even had more refuse to date me or hook up because of my crooked front tooth. Had dozens of guys tell me I looked "sickly" because I had freckles and I should "do something about that like laser removal". I was shamed for being a gamer thousands of times. And so on, and so on, and so on. For hookups, had guys punch me in the face, spit on me, etc, etc, imagine the worst and I bet you I could one up it. One guy even got so drunk that he kept twisting my nipple until he nearly tore it off. Bleeding and everything for days. I could even lift part of my nipple and see under it where it tore open. So, I think it's not that it's worse in modern times. It's that it has not gotten any better.
I feel and fear like this might end up being my path, I’ve already sworn off dating. Hooking up is already on my consideration for the chopping block. 😢
Oh my GOD! I am *DYING* here, Connor! You are leaving me cackling nonstop here, my friend! You are legit so funny, it always makes me smile! Love you Connor! Big hugs!!
The funniest thing that ever happened to me on grindr was when a guy stole my pictures of social media and then use them as his own and send them to me 😂🤦🏾♂️
So there I was, minding my own business, when Connor told me that he would pop up when I googled twink. He was indeed third from the right. Thank you for making my day. ❤️ 🇨🇦
there have been some articles talking about the impact of grindr on men's mental health and it is not looking good. it seems like some people are finding it in their rights to just be awful to one another on dating apps - body shaming, age shaming, homophobia, trans and racial fetishization, general disregard for other people's feelings and insecurities.
I moved into my college dorm early cuz I was doing a leadership program, I had tinder and I would do this thing where I just say yes to everyone for a bit and see what happens (I was really bored) and I matched with a guy that turned out to be the program leader 😂 he asked me if I wanted to hookup and I pointed out I was in the program thing and he immediately unmatched me and wouldn’t make eye contact with me the for the whole program 😂😂
At 50 I gave dating years ago due to the fact the only way to find someone is pretty much online which is a total nightmare!! I used to meet guys in bars but now that I'm VERY happy to be sober those days are thankfully gone!! I'm just thankful I have a cat to keep me company for the time being😻
Pre dating app worst date. I answered a personals add and we talked on the phone off and on for over a week. Things seemed to be going well so we decided to meet in person. We met at a gas station. I got there first, he drove up, rolled down his window and said not interested and then drove off. I call it the Drive by date.
this makes me feel better about my tragic dating life. but idk if i’d prefer these kind of responses or if I’d rather just continue to be ignored completely LOL. i’m glad we can laugh about it tho
Wow, thanks for the video, I had a good laugh, even through I don't have any experience with dating apps (probably for the better). Just the right thing to watch before my job interview tomorrow, I had just finished watching "Pride" to get my thoughts off this thing tomorrow and your video did help, too, now I can go to bed a bit more relaxed.
Hello from a German follower :D I really love your videos. Honestly, I can't say when I discovered your channel but it's been a few years now 😅 You can't imagine how much your videos have helped me in the time after my coming out. They always give me some positive vibes in hard times and I got a better understanding of myself. I just wanted to say that and thank you for your great content 🤗
this is hilarious! please do a part two! I lucked out and got married before dating apps we were a thing. if I ever get divorced I'm willing to just die alone. these things terrify me.
Forever thankful that my single days are behind me. Best of luck to all of you out there still wading through the muck in the field. Also, Connor, find that man and get yourself some free Hulu 😅
3 favourite parts of the video (in chronological order): 1. "if I pass out, just know I went semi happy" 2. talking about how you need autocorrect, then spelling sensitive with an "a", ok Connor, youve proved your point 3. "just call me a slur, and move on!" great video as always, thanks for the great peaceful content!!
As a lesbian, I never used Grindr so this is a genuine question…is there not an age filter? I’m so confused how some are calling others old?? 😂 like…if you have an age preference, how are you even talking in the first place???
There are filters for who you can view, like age, but not for who can see you. So you, for example as a 23 yr old, could set age filters for say, 21-25, and that's all who show up on your feed, but people outside of that range could still see you if you're within range or if they have their age filter to include 23. There's also other factors involved
Last time i had a hookup i ended up in the OR to remove HPV internal warts and screamed everytime I went to the bathroom for a month. Reminder: men are also affected by hpv so get your vaccines
It’s 3:45 am and my boyfriend woke me up cause he suddenly realized he didn’t have his gold ring on and now I’m laying on the bathroom floor while he tears the apartment apart while being unhinged and I have work later this morning at 6 am…. Relationships aren’t for everyone and he’s pushing me to my end point. Everyone wants a younger guy, GOOD LUCK dealing with the immaturity. If this ends like it looks like it’s going to, I’m never dating another man unless he’s Jesus H Christ
Omg Connor, it’s KP kelly from la crosse! How are you my kin?! I’ve heard your name so much from my time in La Crescent during mid and high school, I’m just realizing maybe it was Dustin? And Cross country!? Whatever crazy I’m here struggling to sleep won’t down a UA-cam rabbit hole saw your name in a wiki page I thought it sounded familiar and I’ve been here since! You’re adorable I did the Google three to the right and woke up my dog laughing when I saw the result! Which brings me to my point, just saying hello and congrats on the successes, keep inspiring us all, I love your mental health and therapy perspectives. Seeing how our reasons for seeking therapy and the mental health barriers we face come from such different places it was crazy to gain so much insight and find the commonalities we share. I love how you are still Midwest to the core and have to thank you for being a great rep of who we are. Xo
Grindr is a TERRIBLE app for dating. Yes…I met my bf of 6 years on there but that’s another story. I would just go out and look for men in the outside world. Trust me, there is always going to be a cute guy to meet out there.
very similar to the diary aisle, but the person started by asking me if i went to the school i went as a child, and proceded to call me fag. It was just someone from my school dealing with internalize homophobia but dam! LEAVE ME ALONE!!!
stop i was just looking at screenshots from grindr and one of the exchanges went like this: - cut?? - I'm Jewish - let me see - * sends picture of menorah * i literally couldn't stop laughing for like 5 minutes
Everything about this video was fantastic. A perfect mix of hilarious, wholesome and horrifying stories with the added bonus of an adorable narrator. 😊 It did not help my fear of Grindr though. lol.
As a lesbian this is the wildest and most interesting part of gay culture to me. I’m kinda jealous, because we have nothing like this, but also not. It seems like the wild west 😂 Also as a sidenote I’ve been a subscriber for about 10 years and used to watch your every upload religiously, I thought I had a crush on you. It’s funny that we both turned out to be gay and now it’s fun to watch your videos on queer culture.
i once had a guy message me on tinder and he said, “if you’re into harry potter, let me show you my wand.’ for context: i had that i’m a slytherin in my profile…this doesn’t even touch all the slytherin lines
I'm 44, gay, widowed three years ago from a 20 year relationship. I went on to dating sites. All these men just wanted sex. They would text me randomly and I replied promptly. But when I initiate the conversation, no reply for weeks. I gave up on communication. I felt like a sex toy, a side piece to them as they are lying about their relationship status. When they texted me saying hello handsome and how much they think about me, I felt nauseated for such lies. Because I know as a short Chinese man, how much I am worth in this dating market, aka bottom of the barrel.
It's great to see some humor applied to this topic. I feel like I should send the National Suicide Hotline phone # to some of the other guys talking about the same subject. My own funny story happened right before the pandemic. He showed up with a back pack, immediately asked if he could charge his phone, then asked if he could "use" the rest room. Took a shower, did his drugs, and 30 minutes later emerged from my bathroom. I thought, "What next? He'll ask me to make him an omelet?" I faked a health issue to get him out. it helps to have your SAG card when having random hook-ups.
Whenever I try joking around with guys on Grindr they never respond. Like if I will crack a joke, they will just straight-up block me. Which is really weird. It's like, they want you to have no personality. I don't really get it
I'm blk, he WHT and married. I gave him an open indentation to come by my barracks room and beat when he wanted he would text me a code word "chicken" and I would respond. One day I was having my afternoon nap. He txt, I responded, "I'm sleep, plus in not in that room anymore they put me in a different barracks building." He totaled for 30 minutes begging. I went back to sleep.
Anyone would be lucky to date you Connor! On a serious note though, I have had to leave all of these apps because of the level of toxicity. I have come to realise two important things, the apps are inherently designed to keep people hooked on them, and that goes for hook up ones like Grindr and more 'relationship' focused ones. Another thing I have noticed as a fact is that the gay dating/hook up apps cause lots of mental health issues for users, and they encourage narcissicism, a lack of emotional connectivity and continuous vicious cycle loops that don't go anywhere. We are best to leave them well alone!
Dude, okay so I literally have been been on youtube since I was a pre teen, and never seen this man's videos, and now that I am in my twenties I finally get one of your videos suggested to me. Like tell me I have grown up to be a gay that likes older twinks without being so direct youtube. GOD *Cries in Anxiety*
Just had a realisation. As a smol gay I had the biggest crush on you dude. I am now 22 and another thing hit me. I almost always interested in people on grindr that are near 30 and have your vibe 💀💀💀 Connor you have infected me with the gay dude.
Active and passive come from some European Romance languages like Spanish, Portuguese, and Italian. “Activo” refers to tops, and “pasivo” refers to bottoms.
two videos out in 2023 already, let's goooo! glad everyone is enjoying this circus of a video. give it a like and leave a comment about what you'd like me to talk about next! ♥♥♥
please upload every single week 🙂
love you Charlie's 😇 angel
@connorFranta I think it'd be great to hear some of your writing tips! I'm currently working on my MSEd and hopefully can start working on my novel again. One chapter down... so much more to go!
i’d love if you did another q&a video! kinda generic and you’re probably tired of doing them but i always genuinely enjoy them. it’s like i’m catching up with an old friend
Connor, I don't know where you've been or why you're suddenly back in my recommended, but I love it. I would love to see more running videos, a movie review, just a story time about something... arts and crafts, a long documentation about raising a plant. Lol Whatever ya got.
"the worst part of dating men is - you have to date men"
SO TRUE 💅🏻
starting out the video strong
You could say the same about woman. At least statistically men are less picky.
@@Arthera0 that's worse. men should be picky too(in a healthy way). i don't want a guy that is desperate for just any woman.
@@brunett93 dude did you read what i said. men are statistically less picky than woman. its just a fact. i am not saying that men shouldnt be picky at all. its just a fact that woman overall are more picky. which makes sense biologically. they are the ones that want the best mate for their offspring.
@@brunett93 that's literally not what he said,women are statistically more picky in an unhealthy way,women always gotta blame men for their own shortcomings
The guy who told the 25 year old no bcs he’s too old…. It’s giving Leonardo DiCaprio… and not in the “he should have an Oscar” way 😬
@Dory: try find a date on there if your over 52 years old!!!!!
Stay safe, stay sane, stay strong 🏳️🌈
you’re so right. and nothing has given leonardo dicaprio in a good way since the 90s 😭
maybe he looked older, some people lose all their hair by that age
Why is it always the gay dudes and women having the most problem about Leo daying preference it's almost like your jealous of those 20 year olds that are more attractive then you that's why need to shame leo
@@cortniegore8199 oh as if leo is dying for your good opinion about him😂,always the older or fatter people that get triggered by dating leo preference,I wonder why
The fact that I'm attracted to men is proof that sexuality is NOT a choice
Tell that to homophobes and they'll explode with ignorance.
Yep. Very very true.
But you're a frog were you not turned gay by the friggin water?
Of course it isn't. Who'll choose this?! And yeah, the gay dating world is horrible. I, for one, am done with men.
@@sunnyinmilkyway2114 There are some homophobes (especially the religious kind) who say or accept that gayness isn't a choice or it's ok, but then they say you shouldn't act on it or be in a relationship with anybody. 😑
Connor: what more could you ask for?
Also Connor: keeps it real with a list 💅🏽
im a ✨virgo✨
As an old gay I'm so glad this wasn't around in my prime, I'm glad that there's an avenue for people doing what they want but the toxicity level is Chernobyl level bad
how old is an old gay? please don't say you're like 40..
@@nicolovespanda lol, I'm not "gay old" at 40, I'm in my 50s and a grandpa
@@believer773 As I'm 71, you're still a Twink to me lol 😂!
@@believer773 so 50s is grandpa time already? I should be in the mummy section of a museum if that's the case. Naughty me with 8 regs and a happy-homo-sex-schedule....
I think we need this to be a series!
As a 19 year old who is struggling in the depressing, toxic, and lonely dating world, videos like this bring me joy😁 I would say I’m a confident person, and with the right guy, it comes so naturally for me to let that confidence shine. It’s just finding the guys that is the issue for me. I feel like there aren’t any guys that are worth showing that side of myself to yet, so for the moment, I’m trying to feel comfortable being single. I’ve never had a boyfriend, and there isn’t anything I want more in the world. But if that “mr right” hasn’t came into my life yet, (and he inevitably will some day,) I think that’s ok. :)
You don't have to rush things like love, just find people who like you. You're handsome 💙
I'm 19 too and I already feeling like it's not my time to date because everyone's always checking if the grass is greener on the other side no matter how good you are to them lol But our person will come around, we just gotta be patient
@@phoenixprinceaj8201 I'm sure you will have one who will love you unconditionally
@@phoenixprinceaj8201 true, this is such healthy discourse. We need of this when it comes to gay dating
@@ardelkeenp.malaga1733 thank you for reminding me of that, I get so caught up I forget the bigger picture sometimes👍🏼 and thank you!
If you are looking for a relationship delete grindr. Also people just need to be honest with other people and themselves on what they are looking for. Don't tell me you want to date and be in a relationship when you just want to hookup. All these men online saying they want a relationship and when it gets to that point they ghost you because all they really wanted was to hookup...just say you want that and we can do that. Literally it doesn't have to be this hard.
I had a 20 year hookup - we met before the invention of the internet. Not an ideal relationship - no love there sadly, but just regular hookups at my place over about 20 years.
'Literally it doesn't have to be this hard.' Let's hope that it is hard - on the night!! 😜
I met my 2-year boyfriend on grindr. No, it's not the best place to find a relationship... but sometimes it works. Tinder is worse. Dating apps overall are not great for that.
So where are we supposed to find dates?
Thank you @MichaelRuger ! You’re absolutely correct! Grindr is NOT for relationships!
I need a trigger warning for hearing the Grindr notification, all my nightmares came flooding back!
One time at work I heard it, and my fight for flight response was alerted because all the guys in my office were married or in a relationship with a woman 🤡
Was it YOUR phone or someone else's?
@@oceanwonders someone else's!
@@RaheemD OH SHIT
If they are straight how do they know the grindr notification sound tho 😏
Delete them. Such a waste of time and damaging to you ultimately. As tough as it is, the toxic nature of anonymity from being online makes even nice guys kinda garbage. My best advice is join an adult league, like darts or kickball and be brave and just ask that cute guy out. Don't be so fragile that you can't try again, YOU ARE STRONG!!! The kind of guys constantly on grindr are not the caliber of men who you want to date.
“Google twink, click images, third to the right” 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 screaming!!!!! It’s true!!!!!!
dating apps are so scary to me this is exactly why i don’t go there😭😭 i’m pretty sure the whole flirting but online thing makes your head insane
It’s not like that when you swipe the right people. Their profiles will tell you if their fuckbois or not or you need to work on your reading people skills
and grindr is the worst of them. you're better off on tinder (you can put an option to match same sex)
Yup. 27 straight and in my first healthy relationship. Happy I’m not on dating apps. Clears up memory on my phone for a language app I am never going to use.
I'll be 49 in a few months. To give you an idea of what it was like for some of us older gays. I realized I was gay in 1997. Went out to the village for the first time in 2000. By 2011, I walked away from the horribly toxic queer community and completely swore off dating ever again. As a result, I have not dated in 12 years and have zero interest, even now.
Also, I was in my mid-30's at the time and thought I would just do the hookup thing but guys just got weirder and abusive as I got older. So, I also swore off hooking up in 2014. Haven't hooked up with anybody in 8 years.
It's been bad for a lot longer than many of you younger guys realize. To give you an idea on how bad it was for me more than 12 years ago...
Ghosting? Been there, thousands of times. Someone shamed you, told you were ugly, fat, too old, too young, not gay enough, etc? Been there, thousands of times. Had hundreds of guys tell me to fix my crooked tooth ...dozens of those were on dates. Even had more refuse to date me or hook up because of my crooked front tooth. Had dozens of guys tell me I looked "sickly" because I had freckles and I should "do something about that like laser removal". I was shamed for being a gamer thousands of times. And so on, and so on, and so on.
For hookups, had guys punch me in the face, spit on me, etc, etc, imagine the worst and I bet you I could one up it. One guy even got so drunk that he kept twisting my nipple until he nearly tore it off. Bleeding and everything for days. I could even lift part of my nipple and see under it where it tore open.
So, I think it's not that it's worse in modern times. It's that it has not gotten any better.
I feel and fear like this might end up being my path, I’ve already sworn off dating. Hooking up is already on my consideration for the chopping block. 😢
@@oscardaone To be honest? I've never been happier in my life than I am now. It took years to get back to myself.
@@BradPower thing is, not to get personal but my hormones kick in once in awhile.
I resonate with this.. I’m sorry uve had so much bad experiences 😔… wanna chat? I don’t have friends where I live
Oh my GOD! I am *DYING* here, Connor! You are leaving me cackling nonstop here, my friend! You are legit so funny, it always makes me smile! Love you Connor! Big hugs!!
too kind, im glad you enjoyed it!!
@@ConnorFranta You're the kind one here! You deserve love
The funniest thing that ever happened to me on grindr was when a guy stole my pictures of social media and then use them as his own and send them to me 😂🤦🏾♂️
That’s a new level of catfishing. Lol
So there I was, minding my own business, when Connor told me that he would pop up when I googled twink. He was indeed third from the right. Thank you for making my day. ❤️ 🇨🇦
there have been some articles talking about the impact of grindr on men's mental health and it is not looking good.
it seems like some people are finding it in their rights to just be awful to one another on dating apps - body shaming, age shaming, homophobia, trans and racial fetishization, general disregard for other people's feelings and insecurities.
I moved into my college dorm early cuz I was doing a leadership program, I had tinder and I would do this thing where I just say yes to everyone for a bit and see what happens (I was really bored) and I matched with a guy that turned out to be the program leader 😂 he asked me if I wanted to hookup and I pointed out I was in the program thing and he immediately unmatched me and wouldn’t make eye contact with me the for the whole program 😂😂
I mean at least he did the bare minimum of responsibility and unmatched lolol
@@debbienehikhuere When classes started he asked me out twice lol
At 50 I gave dating years ago due to the fact the only way to find someone is pretty much online which is a total nightmare!! I used to meet guys in bars but now that I'm VERY happy to be sober those days are thankfully gone!! I'm just thankful I have a cat to keep me company for the time being😻
06:06 I actually did google and had a good laugh 😂 Thank you Connor for brightening my mood 🥰
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I came to comment this 😂
Grindr is so toxic. I am so glad I was finally able to delete the app after it destroyed a lot of my self worth! Love you connor!! Have a good week
Same here. Fuck that app
So what do you use?
@@nunyabiznes33 Nothing anymore. Im just learning to be content with myself before pursuing a genuine connection with someone.
@@josephdylan2424 Wishing you the best whichever dating app you decide to use after you've finally healed.
Pre dating app worst date. I answered a personals add and we talked on the phone off and on for over a week. Things seemed to be going well so we decided to meet in person. We met at a gas station. I got there first, he drove up, rolled down his window and said not interested and then drove off. I call it the Drive by date.
You and Arden posting videos that have the same vibes in the same week is just great lol. LOVE IT!
we just texted about this hahaha
this makes me feel better about my tragic dating life. but idk if i’d prefer these kind of responses or if I’d rather just continue to be ignored completely LOL. i’m glad we can laugh about it tho
“This dating app is a nightmare” this could be any and all dating apps.
Wow, thanks for the video, I had a good laugh, even through I don't have any experience with dating apps (probably for the better). Just the right thing to watch before my job interview tomorrow, I had just finished watching "Pride" to get my thoughts off this thing tomorrow and your video did help, too, now I can go to bed a bit more relaxed.
As a straight man, I find this wholesome. :) Bless your heart.
Q. how come guys like you never say "As a straight man with an unusual interest in watching gay videos..."?
adding crusty dusty dinosaur into the library of phrases to use daily
Yeah, I was thinking that's a new one for the urban dictionary!😊
We don’t need more men in dating, we need more Connors 💯
Hello from a German follower :D
I really love your videos. Honestly, I can't say when I discovered your channel but it's been a few years now 😅
You can't imagine how much your videos have helped me in the time after my coming out. They always give me some positive vibes in hard times and I got a better understanding of myself.
I just wanted to say that and thank you for your great content 🤗
Hey wie geht's? Ich frag mich immer ob Connor auch deutsche viewer hat :)
this is hilarious! please do a part two! I lucked out and got married before dating apps we were a thing. if I ever get divorced I'm willing to just die alone. these things terrify me.
Connor just makes my day❤️
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@@ConnorFranta 😊😊
Forever thankful that my single days are behind me. Best of luck to all of you out there still wading through the muck in the field.
Also, Connor, find that man and get yourself some free Hulu 😅
I googled twink and he was third to the right.
3 favourite parts of the video (in chronological order):
1. "if I pass out, just know I went semi happy"
2. talking about how you need autocorrect, then spelling sensitive with an "a", ok Connor, youve proved your point
3. "just call me a slur, and move on!"
great video as always, thanks for the great peaceful content!!
As a lesbian, I never used Grindr so this is a genuine question…is there not an age filter? I’m so confused how some are calling others old?? 😂 like…if you have an age preference, how are you even talking in the first place???
There are filters for who you can view, like age, but not for who can see you. So you, for example as a 23 yr old, could set age filters for say, 21-25, and that's all who show up on your feed, but people outside of that range could still see you if you're within range or if they have their age filter to include 23. There's also other factors involved
Do lesbians use any apps in particular, or how do you meet in this digital age?
This is great
I miss this kind of internet chaos
"can make good soup" that is all you need in love
i see someone was paying attention 👀
@@ConnorFranta are you really watching a connor video if you’re not pausing to read the quick tidbits
connor‘s videos are so comfy
Last time i had a hookup i ended up in the OR to remove HPV internal warts and screamed everytime I went to the bathroom for a month.
Reminder: men are also affected by hpv so get your vaccines
If I had a dollar for every time a guy asked for a face pic and then blocked me, I'd own Twitter, Facebook, and Instagram.
No, *YOU* send first.
It’s 3:45 am and my boyfriend woke me up cause he suddenly realized he didn’t have his gold ring on and now I’m laying on the bathroom floor while he tears the apartment apart while being unhinged and I have work later this morning at 6 am…. Relationships aren’t for everyone and he’s pushing me to my end point. Everyone wants a younger guy, GOOD LUCK dealing with the immaturity. If this ends like it looks like it’s going to, I’m never dating another man unless he’s Jesus H Christ
Autocorrect nearly ruined my friends coming out to her mum by changing gay to fat...
me, definitely ace and probably aro, seeing dating app horrors: so this is how the other half live
Activist or Passive? ... I died! 😆 That was a high-brow joke for that platform- I'm impressed! 👏🏿
That was a really poor translation. In Latin languages top is active and bottom is passive.
@@rubenhumbertoroquesalas2273 so what do Latins call a power bottom?
@@nunyabiznes33 We don't have a translation for that because we don't use that concept very often. So we just use the English term.
Omg Connor, it’s KP kelly from la crosse! How are you my kin?! I’ve heard your name so much from my time in La Crescent during mid and high school, I’m just realizing maybe it was Dustin? And Cross country!? Whatever crazy I’m here struggling to sleep won’t down a UA-cam rabbit hole saw your name in a wiki page I thought it sounded familiar and I’ve been here since! You’re adorable I did the Google three to the right and woke up my dog laughing when I saw the result! Which brings me to my point, just saying hello and congrats on the successes, keep inspiring us all, I love your mental health and therapy perspectives. Seeing how our reasons for seeking therapy and the mental health barriers we face come from such different places it was crazy to gain so much insight and find the commonalities we share. I love how you are still Midwest to the core and have to thank you for being a great rep of who we are. Xo
Grindr is a TERRIBLE app for dating. Yes…I met my bf of 6 years on there but that’s another story. I would just go out and look for men in the outside world. Trust me, there is always going to be a cute guy to meet out there.
“just call me a slur and move on” sent me
YOU WERENT LYING ABOUT THE TWINK THING ???
it's my legacy
The cousin thing though, oh my gosh, I almost died on that one. 😂 Tea for days.
I hate being bi because of the gay hookup culture
very similar to the diary aisle, but the person started by asking me if i went to the school i went as a child, and proceded to call me fag. It was just someone from my school dealing with internalize homophobia but dam! LEAVE ME ALONE!!!
It wasn't Harry from 'Heartstopper' was it?
@@showmoke it might have been 😱, but where is my nick?
stop i was just looking at screenshots from grindr and one of the exchanges went like this:
- cut??
- I'm Jewish
- let me see
- * sends picture of menorah *
i literally couldn't stop laughing for like 5 minutes
😂
😂
BABE WAKE UP NEW CONNOR FRANTA JUST DROPPED
It was exactly the same in the 80's.
Everything about this video was fantastic. A perfect mix of hilarious, wholesome and horrifying stories with the added bonus of an adorable narrator. 😊
It did not help my fear of Grindr though. lol.
I found my father on grindr once
yo hey connor good luck with your attraction with men we lesbians everywhere salute you hope you have a good week
thank you for your thoughts and prayers during these difficult period that is my entire life
@@ConnorFranta you’re making it thru it 👏🏽 thanks for sharing your journey babe
i literally texted to a boy if he is activist so..... this is the intelegent humor we all deserve
‘I’m trying to get better at Grinding’
I actually love his multiple choice list
"People will not live up to your high expectations?" Honey, people don't even live up to my lowest expectations...
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As a lesbian this is the wildest and most interesting part of gay culture to me. I’m kinda jealous, because we have nothing like this, but also not. It seems like the wild west 😂 Also as a sidenote I’ve been a subscriber for about 10 years and used to watch your every upload religiously, I thought I had a crush on you. It’s funny that we both turned out to be gay and now it’s fun to watch your videos on queer culture.
This was so fun. Glad you’re back connor!
Also good choice on taking the photo down - a fellow insane virgo.
the way i always go back to that video because you look like a literal angel 💫
everyone say: thank you charli xcx
I hook up with a guy once in a cemetery. Good times
I'm using 'crusty dusty dinosaur' as my email signature from now on 😅
Connor what is this 😭😭😭😭
You have low key stand up comedian vibes.
I've thought that about Connor for years. I'd love to see him do standup - I think he would be really good at it. His scripts would be great I'm sure.
I have had the worst luck using them too
honestly, i think everyone does
@ConnorFranta unfortunately but it's really upsetting
I'm a gay guy with a disability in a wheelchair and I would say I'm fat
i once had a guy message me on tinder and he said, “if you’re into harry potter, let me show you my wand.’ for context: i had that i’m a slytherin in my profile…this doesn’t even touch all the slytherin lines
this video made my day! these interactions and your commentary are hilarious
The weirdest thing that happened was someone starting the conversation by sending "Homicide" Like wtf do you say to that? 😭😂
Maybe he wanted to kill his desire with you. Lol
I love that you're posting more frequently now!!
Best Video ever!! Couldn't stop laughing!! New sub right now!
crusty dusty dinosaur!!Omg I already died here😂😂😂😂
3:28 HAHAHAH
Just so you know, in other languages like Spanish, French or Portuguese, "bottoms" are defined as: passive.
And tops as: active
I'm 44, gay, widowed three years ago from a 20 year relationship. I went on to dating sites. All these men just wanted sex. They would text me randomly and I replied promptly. But when I initiate the conversation, no reply for weeks. I gave up on communication. I felt like a sex toy, a side piece to them as they are lying about their relationship status. When they texted me saying hello handsome and how much they think about me, I felt nauseated for such lies. Because I know as a short Chinese man, how much I am worth in this dating market, aka bottom of the barrel.
HAHA “google twink! click images, third to the right” omg the best flex I’ve heard ever
gotta say you look dashing in that mustard sweater connor
aw thanks pearl
“twink”, images, three to the right…
It's great to see some humor applied to this topic. I feel like I should send the National Suicide Hotline phone # to some of the other guys talking about the same subject. My own funny story happened right before the pandemic. He showed up with a back pack, immediately asked if he could charge his phone, then asked if he could "use" the rest room. Took a shower, did his drugs, and 30 minutes later emerged from my bathroom. I thought, "What next? He'll ask me to make him an omelet?" I faked a health issue to get him out. it helps to have your SAG card when having random hook-ups.
that was so fun! Thank u crusty dusty dinosaur
Whenever I try joking around with guys on Grindr they never respond. Like if I will crack a joke, they will just straight-up block me. Which is really weird. It's like, they want you to have no personality. I don't really get it
I'm blk, he WHT and married. I gave him an open indentation to come by my barracks room and beat when he wanted he would text me a code word "chicken" and I would respond. One day I was having my afternoon nap. He txt, I responded, "I'm sleep, plus in not in that room anymore they put me in a different barracks building." He totaled for 30 minutes begging. I went back to sleep.
BRB adding ‘Crusty dusty dinosaur’ to my bio.
Anyone would be lucky to date you Connor! On a serious note though, I have had to leave all of these apps because of the level of toxicity. I have come to realise two important things, the apps are inherently designed to keep people hooked on them, and that goes for hook up ones like Grindr and more 'relationship' focused ones. Another thing I have noticed as a fact is that the gay dating/hook up apps cause lots of mental health issues for users, and they encourage narcissicism, a lack of emotional connectivity and continuous vicious cycle loops that don't go anywhere. We are best to leave them well alone!
Dude, okay so I literally have been been on youtube since I was a pre teen, and never seen this man's videos, and now that I am in my twenties I finally get one of your videos suggested to me. Like tell me I have grown up to be a gay that likes older twinks without being so direct youtube. GOD *Cries in Anxiety*
The Hypnosis part cracked me up!
Hilarious we need a part 2,3,4,5 ♥️♥️♥️
Hahaha really needed a laugh, thanks Connor ❤️
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This is the content I neeeeed
As soon as I saw the video title, I knew I’d related heavily. 😭 I’m gonna be single for so freakin long .
0:09, thank you
Connor this video was really funny, good work 😅
Wow, if you would have told me I’d be watching a Connor Franta video in 2023, I’d look at you puzzled- yet here I am!! Loving it.
welcome back to the chaos
Just had a realisation. As a smol gay I had the biggest crush on you dude. I am now 22 and another thing hit me. I almost always interested in people on grindr that are near 30 and have your vibe 💀💀💀 Connor you have infected me with the gay dude.
Active and passive come from some European Romance languages like Spanish, Portuguese, and Italian. “Activo” refers to tops, and “pasivo” refers to bottoms.