I have a whole list of these books on my Goodreads!! For some reason I am incredibly drawn to devastating stories of women and mother-daughter relationships. Would recommend Please Look After Mom, Pieces of My Mother, and a Woman's Story....I haven't read this book yet but this video just pushed it up my tbr list :)
you just made me realize that I'm suffering through the same ordeal of trying to academize (idk if that's a word) reading books when I started reading to understand a larger pov in the first place. I have forgotten what that feels like because I constantly put pressure on myself to find themes and symbolism and analyze every line yada yada from the books I read or "I am not smart enough" which probably explain why I an in a reading slump rn. great video! so glad I subscribed
YES! I went through the exact same thing. It’s so much more enjoyable when you recenter yourself while reading. I also think it’s been really improving my intuition, confidence, and strengthening how I communicate my own opinions to others. Thanks for watching and supporting the channel! 🥹
@@4b6t right? I was also forcing myself to read genres I was not as interested in (eg. non-fiction) because they seem more "intellectual" 🙄 but recently i started the acotar series and went through the first three books in four days and realized why I was in the slump ahaha
Library books for the win! ! Libraries in my country sucks ass even in the best cities of the country , it has books but are below standard, especially when considered how important institutes are. I sometimes look up libraries of different countries on google map and admire how good they are while browsing through gallery.
Im such a mood reader i take my time with my books but seeing all those goodread 100 book in year challenges made me feel like im lazy and not a reader so thank yout for this beautiful reminder💕
I’m all for reading slow and truly absorbing the material. Try to annotate, write down your thoughts and opinions. And contemplate after you finish. But sometime I want don’t want to stop to think haha.
Reading has saved me so many times. And it’s the one thing I can count on when I’m feeling alone. Sometimes it’s easier to read someone’s life and problems and relate to it than actually facing the problems that I have in hand. It’s kind of like my pre workout before working out life head first. So thank you for posting this video and reminding me that it’s okay that I’m taking my time and feeling feelings when reading!!
Absolutely! I feel that reading gives me the language that I need to describe and understand my own experiences :) I love your comparison to pre-work out! Such a good analogy.
I was literally going to make a video on something like this. On how book culture is so fast and wide. Hyping books up. Pumping them out. And how I, am a slow methodical reader. I don’t have a TBR. I don’t have a list of books to check off. I have a book in front of me that I am reading. Engaging with. Savoring it. That is why I read! Love your work! And your insight!
I know the main focus of this video is on how to engage with your books in a meaningful way. But on the topic of the book you discussed: 1.) Harpman was a Belgian born writer, not Dutch, Belgium has 3 main languages (dutch, french and german) while the Netherlands have only 1: Dutch. 2.) I think it's also interesting to look at the author and the context where the author lived in, Harpman was grew up during nazi-regime and had to flee the country. Knowing this will also enrich your interpretation and I just think nothing exists in just a vessel, there's always a broader context whether intentional or not. It's also one of my fave books that's why im so passionate.
Thank you so much for the added context! That was helpful in clarifying the text and Harpman's lived experience. This added context about Harpman definitely changes the way I look at the book overall.
I'm definitely shifting from reading widely to reading deeply. I was doing the reading challenge on Goodreads, but I decided to quit it because I don't want to read just to get to a goal; I want to read because I want to deeply engage in what I'm reading. Thanks for this video!
I also grew up sheltered in a small town. I'm autistic and grew up bullied and undersocialized, so reading was how I learned as well as entertained myself, and I've been going to libraries for books since I was little. I'm glad to see someone else with a similar story to mine 💓
I had to skip the bulk because I didn’t want spoilers for this book. It’s on my TBR. But super happy I came across your channel. Following to see more! Love your style and storytelling here.
So sorry for the spoilers! Maybe for the next in depth review I’ll have a section without spoilers, then a section with. I hope you enjoy the book ☺️ thanks for watching and for supporting the channel! I really appreciate it.
@@calebokley6208 sorry about that! There are time stamps in the description box, and unfortunately my final thoughts is the only section that’s spoiler free 🥺
Hi Hunter! I love the solitude that comes with picking up a book and sitting down to read it. It feels like an intimate moment or sometimes a casual conversation with the author (or sometimes a bigger community). I feel connected to other people who also pick up books and spend the time reading. Whether I engage in sharing my thoughts with others or consuming fandom merchandise, events, or posts online - it’s all so simple but can be complex when I sit down to think about it. Thank you for sharing how you broke down how you have a discussion with the books you consume. I value writing and reading and this made me feel validated! Your takeaways from this book was awesome to hear. I appreciate the hard work you’ve put into understanding your own thoughts from the book and then being willing to share these golden nuggets with us. You’re the best Hunter!!
Hi my dear friend :) Thank you for the thoughtful comment! Agree! I love how reading can connect communities and make us feel like we're privy to a secret world that only a few others know about. I really connected to the quote I mentioned by RF Kuang about books being explorations of "all the infinite ways one can be human." I'd love to hear about what you're reading currently!
@@hunteriskindacool I’m reading through Haikyuu!! right now! It’s my first sports related manga I’ve read and so far I’m enjoying it. I find it difficult to read lots of words on my phone (aka my e-reader) so I read a lot of graphic novels and juvenile fiction. I get bored quite easily and find it easier to enjoy short books.I jump around in non-fiction occasionally - more recently it’s been neurodivergent titles. It’s been so long since I’ve visited the library! I want to try their new self-checkout system. I do enjoy interacting with the librarians though. Sorry for the ramble ~~ hahaha
This is the first time I landed on this channel. I love books, but I also love mitski. And almost do the same things as you do after reading a book. And that's why I related so much with your rating system. I never hated any book I read. I picked up books that interested me and ended up falling deeply in love with them. I did not read too many books in my lifetime. Just the harry Potter series and handful during the lockdown. But every book changed something in me, brought something new to my life. I found new perspectives to look at things. There has not been a single video on UA-cam which I related so much with.
Reading Deeply is soooo important and has been my reading goal for the past couple of years. I think going in with that intention changes the experience so entirely. You put it all sooo wonderfully here. This is a great video!!! your words are sooo appreciated :)
you have such a way of talking, of getting your thoughts across through speech. as you were going through your reflection of the book - what is the author trying to say, how did they communicate, and how did the book make me feel - i couldnt help but reflect on one of my recently read books along with you. those are such helpful questions to ask yourself after a read! i think it makes you carry the story with you for a lot longer. thank you for sharing them xx
Thank you so much!! ❣That is so kind. I'm glad the questions helped you reflect! It's a great way to sharpen intuition and absolutely helps me remember stories longer. Thanks for watching :)
i’m so grateful this video found me , , i’ve been in a reading slump for a while now as i like to analyse the text , highlight parallels and things of that nature , i’ve always took my time with reading yet i’ve noticed it’s took me longer due to kinda making it a chore ? academically in a way too , i’ve told myself that i don’t always have to do this and that sometimes , you can just sit and read for enjoyment , this video reminded me of that and i appreciate it very much :) p.s , i’m totally needing to read this book you’ve been discussing !
Absolutely! I enjoy reading the most when I draw connections from the books I’m reading to my own life. Reading as a form of self discovery ✨ thank you for the thoughtful comment! It means a lot! ps - yes! I hope you enjoy it !
as a new 'woman' who is having trouble navigating life and learning all the things needed to survive, i heavily relate to what you said about feeling anger towards the lack of help and preparation from older people around me. i think this video helped me take my first step towards growth by learning to use reading as a way to gain my own skills instead of looking to other people to pass them to me. you might not have meant it as deeply as this, but i just wanted to share how much this helped me :) thanks so much hunter!
Thank you so much for sharing! That’s exactly what I meant, and truly how I felt so I’m glad we both are not alone in feeling this way. I definitely had to remind myself that it is everyone’s first time being alive and we are all doing our best to survive in a very harsh world. Wishing you continued peace and growth 😌
I loved this book but I literally could not put into words how it made me feel. I've been trying to write down at least 3 takeaways from each book I read because I realized I was flying though too many books and not smelling the roses. I still like to read widely because there are so many books I want to read, but these are great ideas to consider for how I want to make a more detailed reading journal in the future :)
This video conceptualised and put into words a lot of thoughts that have been swirling in my head around overconsumption and what it means to be a 'reader' in a digital age. I'm looking forward to the direction of your channel and hearing your other perspectives :)
I stumbled upon this video after having finished I Who Have Never Known Men last night, not being able to put it down, and i am so glad. I adore reading, always have, but am tired of booktok and the quick-style content. I love analysing books and annotating and am looking forward to watching your other videos and hearing your thoughts and what i might think of them
this video is the perfect example of what actually reading is, till now it was hard for me to make people understand that reading a lot and reading deeply are too different things. and i think this is soo perfectly explained. ❤️
this video made me cry and i didn't know how much i needed to hear your words about the passing of time. as a former mitski lover, that quote alone makes me want to read this book, especially since it's been on my wishlist before clicking on this video. you have a way with words and i'm so glad to have found your corner of the internet
this video opens up a new perspective on reading for me... because when I take notes on my reading... I only do reviews on the book itself but never had i thought to do a review on myself... what I personally have gained and what can I use or relate from what I have read to my life. I love this videoo so much!! Now I am going to put a new section for introspection on my book reviews that i do on notion!! I doo loove the academic exercise of reading but it does lack something equally or actually more important... The humanity of reading.. the nourishment of my soul that I have yet to document.
I remember in secondary school I would go to the library every week for new books, it was soo easy to read, now, I’ve been obsessed with the same series since 2020 and haven’t finished another book since, idk
Sounds like an amazing book that has really touched you. I loved hearing your thoughts about it. Very insightful and I also agree that everything we consume becomes part of us. ❤
I love this idea of "read deeply instead of widely". You talking about "I who have never known men" made me want to read that book. Instantly subscribed
Thank you so much for watching 🥹 I am so appreciative. And yes! I used to feel ashamed that I read so slow (lol) but I’m just trying to get the most out of the books that I read.
Since it's summer break and I got this little time for myself, I make sure to feed my mind with the books I am genuinely interested in! Thanks algorithm for this content! Definitely subscribed!
I think reading deeply has more overall benefit for not only the reader but the author as well because they are truly being understood through their writing. Thank you for posting and encouraging a deeper understanding.
I came across this video, I only watched the beginning, and I knew I had to read this book... well I just finished it, and its one of the best books Ive ever read in my life. I wanted to thank you because Ive never heard of this book before, and your video was a very nice way of discovering this masterpiece. I watched the full video, and I really enjoyed it, thank you.
Thank you so much for the kind words 🥹 I am so glad that you found the book impactful (and honored that you came back to the video afterward). Thank you for watching!
As a college student that wants to do academic research on literature, I'm going to save this video because its really summarize what I think about reading. I love the way you talked about how reading it's personal, not every read needs to be academic but neither needs to be a competition of who reads more books. And I will add this book you mentioned on my list, I dont really care about the spoilers, because the way you talked about it just talked to me, looks like my perspective of womanhood. Thanks for sharing! I think I didn't expressed myself the way I exacly wanted because english it's not my maternal language, sorry 😅🫶🏻
You expressed yourself perfectly ☺ thank you for sharing your thoughts! I appreciate the support and I'm honored that this video resonated with you. Good luck with your studies!
As in incoming grad student this is perfect. I agree that social media makes us already determine a book before we read it but I’ve always been slow reader and it’s not because i am a slow reader. It’s because i annotate and think deeply in the books I read. I’m also a writer, so i also study how an author (and fiction as well) write their books to convey a story. I will definitely be adding these questions to my grad school journey🌸also… you’re editing is amazing and I thought you had thousands of subscribers by how nicely you edit with b-roll and all. You deserve more recognition! ☺️
Thank you for the thoughtful comment!! I am *trying* to apply to grad school by the end of this year and I am so nervous. Completely agree with your process! It takes time to digest what we read. Thank you so much for the kind words and support for the channel 🥹 it means a lot. Best of luck to you in your academic career!
I randomly came across your channel. And I subscribed right away. You are wonderful! The way you word things effortlessly sums up things that most of us have a hard time saying out loud. 🙏 keep doing you! Xoxo
I think I am going to read this book. Even though your video was enough to make me realise how distant and ignorant I have become of the women in my life ( my mother and grandmother) I have had similar issues because my father wasn't there with me and I was raised by my grandmother, I somewhat didn't understand her way of thinking. I still don't. Which is why I want to read this book.
Thank you, thank you so so much for the advice. I'm currently reading Jane Eyre and now, thanks to you, I can understand the author's idea, I can look for the clues in the text. This is absolutely stunning!!!! P.S. I have a feeling that my real book journey is just about to start....thanks a lot❤
this was such a great video omg!! imma need more book videos (personally I particularly enjoy these in depth talks about books you read/ you’ve read) 💗💗
Naturally overtime I have begun to read books that are only written by women. I have started reading introspectively to understand myself and the women in my life better. Even if I can't see myself in the words, I can see my aunt or my grandmother or mother. I can understand better the roles we played in each other's lives, and why certain decisions were made. Why they act in this frustrating way. Why I act this way. It's only been very healing on my end, and I want them to read these books and to know that I understand them better. And even if it's not understanding why, it's understanding them as a woman better. Most of media is created by men or for men, and I'm sick of seeing through the male lens. Men might write something I find interesting or entertaining, but they'll never write something that makes me feel. Honestly I think all women should read only female writings for like a year at least, you know?
Thank you so much for sharing and for the thoughtful comment! I too have accidentally only been reading books written by women (for the most part)-this was completely unintentional but I agree! I find myself drawn to female authors or LGBTQIA / BIPOC authors because their writing and their experiences seem to impact me more. I love your outlook on reading and how it helps give you clarity in your own life and relationships! Couldn’t agree more.
I'm glad I'm not the only one! I prefer reading literature by women (especially when the themes are about female friendships, childhood to adulthood, insecurities, or reflections of the mc) and most of my fav authors are women too. “but they'll never write something that makes me feel.” on point!
Hello! I am so glad UA-cam decided to put this video of yours on my feed lol. I love the way you express your thoughts, it makes me feel special because I relate to them. I feel like not completely for sure, but in a way, I share the same spot as you. This is how I see reading as well. I can read with joy because I relate to author in some way, even when they tell something I didn't go through at all. We all share some same spot in life as human beings. That is the beauty of human nature and books. Oh I think I talked too much sorry haha. But I really appriciate this video. Thank you! So much love from me. -Selin
Hi Selin! Thank you for the lovely comment :) I'm glad you related to some of my thoughts. I think RF Kuang said it best, that reading/writing allow us to explore "all the infinite ways to be human". Thanks for watching and for supporting the channel! Hope to see you back here soon!
I enjoy reading books too! Although I am not satisfied with the translated editions, I am not proficient enough to read English-edition books on my own. With the help of the web extension Immersive Translate, I can grasp the basic meaning of the passages. I hope I can get closer to these intriguing books.
I’ve only recently realized how important it is to find a good translator when searching through titles! It changes your entire reading experience. I hope the translations are still impactful in your reading experience!
Hi, i just discovered your channel, i love the way you talks about books ! i love RF Kuang, Mitski and i definitely want to read this book (especially bc i'm french). i hope i will see you soon for others videos 🩷
Thank you for this video! It really helped me get out of this academic cicle and I’m sure my reading experience will be way more pleasant. Also, loved the book you talked about! I’ll make sure to also check it out🫶
very well made video! I definitely feel like the recent "book community" are focusing much more on quantity over quality while reading. pressuring us to feel the need to consume and buy books for the vanity of it instead of doing it as a way to explore and widen our mind.
Well said! It definitely feels like overconsumption has seeped into the publishing industry-so I completely agree. It’s so important to critically consume rather than mindlessly consume!
Nice video, thank you. Random thing to point out, but for you video editing, look at adjusting your white balance. Your skin tone here off, it's a bit greeny-yellow. You'll want to add a little magenta to balance out the greens (and maybe blue to counter the yellow; but a nice yellow tone is good tbh, it makes it look sunny).
Thank you for this video, it has really been eye opening, showing that I have definelty not been reading deeply. I plan to implement these questions into my free reading. Also, do you have any book recomendations? I know you did a video on what you would read as an english lit major, but what about just regular free reading?
I’m so glad! I’ve been learning a lot about myself by reading this way~ I’m finishing the last book of the Poppy War Trilogy and it has been so amazing and gut wrenching all at the same time! RF Kuang is easily one of my favorite authors so highly recommend that series if you’re in the mood for dark fantasy but be sure to read the trigger warnings prior! If you’re in more of a science fiction mood, I also have a video up about How High We Go in the Dark by Sequoia Nagamatsu! But if you’re in a lit-fic mood, maybe Breasts and Eggs by Mieko Kawakami! Happy reading ✨
Comme beaucoup j'ai grandi dans la lecture, je lisais énormément et vite, et ait fini par abandonner l'activité vers le début de l'adolescence. J'ai, comme toi, appris très récemment à apprécier à nouveau la lecture. J'essayais déjà depuis quelques temps mais ayant beaucoup changé entre mon enfance et maintenant (né dans la fin des années 90 aussi) j'ai observé que ma lecture d'enfant était certes très rapide mais très superficielle, je ne retenais pas grand chose, alors j'ai souhaité en tant qu'adulte reprendre la lecture en prenant mon temps, mais le processus était trop ennuyeux, je me dispersais et perdais intérêt. Puis l'été dernier j'ai voulu lire un de mes passages préférés de mon livre préféré à une personne que j'apprécie, ça lui a plu (à la fois le passage et le fait que je lui lise), et j'ai continué à lui envoyer des messages vocaux de moi lui lisant des passages, voir même des petits livres en entier. Malheureusement on s'est un peu éloignés mais j'ai appris pendant cette période que j'appréciais énormément faire la lecture, pas seulement lire, mais lire pour quelqu'un, lire pour les autres, à voix haute. J'ai donc créé un compte twitch, un compte youtube (celui-ci) et je me suis mit à lire à voix haute, en direct, et à poster les lectures sur youtube, pour me donner l'impression de faire la lecture à quelqu'un et qu'accessoirement ça puisse servir à quelqu'un d'intéressé par une lecture audio de ce que je lis. J'ai commencé ça en octobre et je compte 66 lectures d'une heure en moyenne, je suis à mon 6ème livre, et je me retrouve beaucoup dans ta vidéo, dans l'aspect introspectif d'un côté mais aussi dans l'aspect relâchement, de prendre son temps. Lire à voix haute oblige à lire à rythme de parole, même plus lentement en général, ça oblige aussi à prendre des intonations différentes, selon le ton du discours ou le caractère du personnage, et ce jeu en dit sur moi, sur comment je m'exprime, ma diction, mon rythme, ma manière d'interpréter les phrases, etc. Tout ce processus m'a permis d'un côté d'améliorer mon expression à l'oral, mais aussi de m'ouvrir à un aspect théâtral de la lecture, et me force à peser chaque phrase, chaque mot, même si toute cette démarche peut parfois faire perdre le sens de ce qu'on lit et nous tirer dans une lecture automatique, la plupart du temps ça me permet au contraire de mieux mémoriser, car chaque passage est davantage vécu que s'il n'était lu que dans ma tête, et je trouve que ça correspond bien à ta démarche et ce que tu promeus. Je partage ça ici parce que je n'ai pas vraiment de lecteurs ou de gens intéressés par la lecture dans mon entourage, et je me dis que ça peut servir à quelqu'un qui, comme moi, serait tombé sur cette vidéo par hasard et n'aurait pas encore considéré la possibilité de lire à voix haute, ça peut être une solution, pour soi mais aussi pour connecter avec d'autres personnes :) Merci pour ta vidéo, j'espère que la traduction ne dénaturera pas trop le sens de mon discours si tu ne parles pas français, et je pense que j'irai lire le livre dont tu parles dans cette vidéo, je ne suis pas une femme mais les thématiques du livre et la manière dont tu en parle m'intéressent beaucoup !
Thank you so much for sharing! It has been a while since I read out loud but your comment makes me realize that there's a different kind of enjoyment and interaction with the text when you take the time to read it both to yourself or to someone else. This could definitely be an avenue for those looking to reignite their love for reading! I'll definitely be checking out your channel :)
Reading out loud opens a whole new way of interacting with the media for sure, especially enhancing the bonds you make with the story and the people you read to. It's a shame it has a reputation of being an adult-toddler/child activity when it's such a sweet and caring activity as a whole, and i really make a bridge between the dynamic you encourage in reading, which is taking the time to feel things, as slow as they can or need to be, and a similar dynamic i strive to keep in my relationships ; which is taking the time to take some time with your loved ones, if that makes sense. Not to jump between activities and boredom, but rather link those poles with intermediate occupations, varying in intensity, depending on the time and the energy you have at the moment, reading out loud being one of my favorites
Reading this book made me want to call my mom tbh.
I have a whole list of these books on my Goodreads!! For some reason I am incredibly drawn to devastating stories of women and mother-daughter relationships. Would recommend Please Look After Mom, Pieces of My Mother, and a Woman's Story....I haven't read this book yet but this video just pushed it up my tbr list :)
@@caterosa3893 THANK YOU! I am new to the mother-daughter genre so I appreciate the recommendations ☺️ Will add to my TBR!
@@caterosa3893 Hi, I also enjoy sad mother daughter stories and I would recommend you How to Make Friends with the Dark by Kathleen Glasgow !!!
This is so real i started reading it and i felt the need to call my mom (i usually diskike phone calls)
"to read deeply instead of widely" ❤
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reading is like a detox for the mind. a great way to engage your imagination!
YES! So true friend! Sometimes I forget our brain is literally a muscle that needs to be engaged in different ways! Thanks for being here :)
you just made me realize that I'm suffering through the same ordeal of trying to academize (idk if that's a word) reading books when I started reading to understand a larger pov in the first place. I have forgotten what that feels like because I constantly put pressure on myself to find themes and symbolism and analyze every line yada yada from the books I read or "I am not smart enough" which probably explain why I an in a reading slump rn. great video! so glad I subscribed
YES! I went through the exact same thing. It’s so much more enjoyable when you recenter yourself while reading. I also think it’s been really improving my intuition, confidence, and strengthening how I communicate my own opinions to others.
Thanks for watching and supporting the channel! 🥹
@@hunteriskindacool thank you for sharing your experience with us. Makes me feel less lonely in the struggle. Love your content
Omg well said! I feel this as well: “what if I'm not smart enough?” instead of just enjoying the process of reading
@@4b6t right? I was also forcing myself to read genres I was not as interested in (eg. non-fiction) because they seem more "intellectual" 🙄 but recently i started the acotar series and went through the first three books in four days and realized why I was in the slump ahaha
thank you for using library books. in other book vlogs, they usually buy all the books brand new and let it sit on their shelves for years.
I love my public library! Though, I should be going more often. I also need to lower my consumption in general.
Library books for the win! !
Libraries in my country sucks ass even in the best cities of the country , it has books but are below standard, especially when considered how important institutes are.
I sometimes look up libraries of different countries on google map and admire how good they are while browsing through gallery.
youtube is so true for putting your channel on my feed
UA-cam algo working overtime 🤝 thank you for watching! :)
Same! New subscriber
Im such a mood reader i take my time with my books but seeing all those goodread 100 book in year challenges made me feel like im lazy and not a reader so thank yout for this beautiful reminder💕
I’m all for reading slow and truly absorbing the material. Try to annotate, write down your thoughts and opinions. And contemplate after you finish. But sometime I want don’t want to stop to think haha.
Totally fair!
Yeah same, I often finish the chapter first then go back to annotate
Reading has saved me so many times. And it’s the one thing I can count on when I’m feeling alone. Sometimes it’s easier to read someone’s life and problems and relate to it than actually facing the problems that I have in hand. It’s kind of like my pre workout before working out life head first. So thank you for posting this video and reminding me that it’s okay that I’m taking my time and feeling feelings when reading!!
Absolutely! I feel that reading gives me the language that I need to describe and understand my own experiences :) I love your comparison to pre-work out! Such a good analogy.
this video actually made me want to start reading again. Thank you
Amazing 🥹 thank you so much for watching!
I was literally going to make a video on something like this. On how book culture is so fast and wide. Hyping books up. Pumping them out.
And how I, am a slow methodical reader. I don’t have a TBR. I don’t have a list of books to check off. I have a book in front of me that I am reading. Engaging with. Savoring it. That is why I read!
Love your work! And your insight!
@@Thomas.R.Howell thanks so much for watching!
I know the main focus of this video is on how to engage with your books in a meaningful way. But on the topic of the book you discussed: 1.) Harpman was a Belgian born writer, not Dutch, Belgium has 3 main languages (dutch, french and german) while the Netherlands have only 1: Dutch. 2.) I think it's also interesting to look at the author and the context where the author lived in, Harpman was grew up during nazi-regime and had to flee the country. Knowing this will also enrich your interpretation and I just think nothing exists in just a vessel, there's always a broader context whether intentional or not. It's also one of my fave books that's why im so passionate.
Thank you so much for the added context! That was helpful in clarifying the text and Harpman's lived experience. This added context about Harpman definitely changes the way I look at the book overall.
I'm definitely shifting from reading widely to reading deeply. I was doing the reading challenge on Goodreads, but I decided to quit it because I don't want to read just to get to a goal; I want to read because I want to deeply engage in what I'm reading. Thanks for this video!
I also grew up sheltered in a small town. I'm autistic and grew up bullied and undersocialized, so reading was how I learned as well as entertained myself, and I've been going to libraries for books since I was little. I'm glad to see someone else with a similar story to mine 💓
The library was definitely my safe place growing up :)
I had to skip the bulk because I didn’t want spoilers for this book. It’s on my TBR. But super happy I came across your channel. Following to see more! Love your style and storytelling here.
So sorry for the spoilers! Maybe for the next in depth review I’ll have a section without spoilers, then a section with.
I hope you enjoy the book ☺️ thanks for watching and for supporting the channel! I really appreciate it.
Which point can I skip to? Had to stop the video because I do not know😢
@@calebokley6208 sorry about that! There are time stamps in the description box, and unfortunately my final thoughts is the only section that’s spoiler free 🥺
Hi Hunter! I love the solitude that comes with picking up a book and sitting down to read it. It feels like an intimate moment or sometimes a casual conversation with the author (or sometimes a bigger community). I feel connected to other people who also pick up books and spend the time reading. Whether I engage in sharing my thoughts with others or consuming fandom merchandise, events, or posts online - it’s all so simple but can be complex when I sit down to think about it. Thank you for sharing how you broke down how you have a discussion with the books you consume. I value writing and reading and this made me feel validated! Your takeaways from this book was awesome to hear. I appreciate the hard work you’ve put into understanding your own thoughts from the book and then being willing to share these golden nuggets with us. You’re the best Hunter!!
Hi my dear friend :) Thank you for the thoughtful comment!
Agree! I love how reading can connect communities and make us feel like we're privy to a secret world that only a few others know about. I really connected to the quote I mentioned by RF Kuang about books being explorations of "all the infinite ways one can be human."
I'd love to hear about what you're reading currently!
@@hunteriskindacool I’m reading through Haikyuu!! right now! It’s my first sports related manga I’ve read and so far I’m enjoying it. I find it difficult to read lots of words on my phone (aka my e-reader) so I read a lot of graphic novels and juvenile fiction. I get bored quite easily and find it easier to enjoy short books.I jump around in non-fiction occasionally - more recently it’s been neurodivergent titles. It’s been so long since I’ve visited the library! I want to try their new self-checkout system. I do enjoy interacting with the librarians though. Sorry for the ramble ~~ hahaha
@@lil.ikuraa Amazing!! I love it-I too haven’t been to the library in a while. I want to start reading more graphic novels too!!
great comment! ❤
This is the first time I landed on this channel. I love books, but I also love mitski. And almost do the same things as you do after reading a book. And that's why I related so much with your rating system. I never hated any book I read. I picked up books that interested me and ended up falling deeply in love with them. I did not read too many books in my lifetime. Just the harry Potter series and handful during the lockdown. But every book changed something in me, brought something new to my life. I found new perspectives to look at things. There has not been a single video on UA-cam which I related so much with.
Thank you so much for watching and for leaving such a thoughtful comment! :) I'm happy you were able to connect to my video! That means so much to me.
Reading Deeply is soooo important and has been my reading goal for the past couple of years. I think going in with that intention changes the experience so entirely. You put it all sooo wonderfully here. This is a great video!!! your words are sooo appreciated :)
Thank you for the lovely comment 🖤 I'm glad this video has landed with the right community!
you have such a way of talking, of getting your thoughts across through speech. as you were going through your reflection of the book - what is the author trying to say, how did they communicate, and how did the book make me feel - i couldnt help but reflect on one of my recently read books along with you. those are such helpful questions to ask yourself after a read! i think it makes you carry the story with you for a lot longer. thank you for sharing them xx
Thank you so much!! ❣That is so kind. I'm glad the questions helped you reflect! It's a great way to sharpen intuition and absolutely helps me remember stories longer. Thanks for watching :)
i’m so grateful this video found me , , i’ve been in a reading slump for a while now as i like to analyse the text , highlight parallels and things of that nature , i’ve always took my time with reading yet i’ve noticed it’s took me longer due to kinda making it a chore ? academically in a way too , i’ve told myself that i don’t always have to do this and that sometimes , you can just sit and read for enjoyment , this video reminded me of that and i appreciate it very much :)
p.s , i’m totally needing to read this book you’ve been discussing !
Absolutely! I enjoy reading the most when I draw connections from the books I’m reading to my own life. Reading as a form of self discovery ✨ thank you for the thoughtful comment! It means a lot!
ps - yes! I hope you enjoy it !
as a new 'woman' who is having trouble navigating life and learning all the things needed to survive, i heavily relate to what you said about feeling anger towards the lack of help and preparation from older people around me. i think this video helped me take my first step towards growth by learning to use reading as a way to gain my own skills instead of looking to other people to pass them to me. you might not have meant it as deeply as this, but i just wanted to share how much this helped me :) thanks so much hunter!
Thank you so much for sharing! That’s exactly what I meant, and truly how I felt so I’m glad we both are not alone in feeling this way. I definitely had to remind myself that it is everyone’s first time being alive and we are all doing our best to survive in a very harsh world. Wishing you continued peace and growth 😌
I loved this book but I literally could not put into words how it made me feel.
I've been trying to write down at least 3 takeaways from each book I read because I realized I was flying though too many books and not smelling the roses. I still like to read widely because there are so many books I want to read, but these are great ideas to consider for how I want to make a more detailed reading journal in the future :)
Just few scenes watching you read made me want to read
This video conceptualised and put into words a lot of thoughts that have been swirling in my head around overconsumption and what it means to be a 'reader' in a digital age. I'm looking forward to the direction of your channel and hearing your other perspectives :)
Thank you so much for watching! 🖤
I stumbled upon this video after having finished I Who Have Never Known Men last night, not being able to put it down, and i am so glad. I adore reading, always have, but am tired of booktok and the quick-style content. I love analysing books and annotating and am looking forward to watching your other videos and hearing your thoughts and what i might think of them
@@AmberlyyK. Thank you so much for the lovely comment :) Excited to have you here!
this video is the perfect example of what actually reading is, till now it was hard for me to make people understand that reading a lot and reading deeply are too different things. and i think this is soo perfectly explained. ❤️
this video made me cry and i didn't know how much i needed to hear your words about the passing of time. as a former mitski lover, that quote alone makes me want to read this book, especially since it's been on my wishlist before clicking on this video. you have a way with words and i'm so glad to have found your corner of the internet
I am so honored that you felt impacted by this video! Thank you for sharing your thoughts and for watching. I really appreciate it :)
this video opens up a new perspective on reading for me... because when I take notes on my reading... I only do reviews on the book itself but never had i thought to do a review on myself... what I personally have gained and what can I use or relate from what I have read to my life. I love this videoo so much!! Now I am going to put a new section for introspection on my book reviews that i do on notion!!
I doo loove the academic exercise of reading but it does lack something equally or actually more important... The humanity of reading.. the nourishment of my soul that I have yet to document.
I’m about to start using these questions to help me with my reading journal! Thank you so much for sharing
Yay!! So glad you found this helpful 🥹
I remember in secondary school I would go to the library every week for new books, it was soo easy to read, now, I’ve been obsessed with the same series since 2020 and haven’t finished another book since, idk
I feel that! Being in a reading slump is so tough :/ I’d love to hear what series you’ve been obsessed with!
Sounds like an amazing book that has really touched you. I loved hearing your thoughts about it. Very insightful and I also agree that everything we consume becomes part of us. ❤
I really appreciate this video pushing us to think deeply by relating into our story.
I love this idea of "read deeply instead of widely". You talking about "I who have never known men" made me want to read that book. Instantly subscribed
so glad i found your channel! You are so eloquent!
@@margalazz I’m honored to have you here 🥹 thanks for watching!!
love the way you explained the book! I got emotional🤣🤣💗💗 Totally gonna read this!
Excited for you to experience this book! :)
Awesome video, somehow I‘ve been watching videos about reading for years and this is only the first time I hear someone encouraging slow reading. ty
Thank you so much for watching 🥹 I am so appreciative. And yes! I used to feel ashamed that I read so slow (lol) but I’m just trying to get the most out of the books that I read.
Since it's summer break and I got this little time for myself, I make sure to feed my mind with the books I am genuinely interested in! Thanks algorithm for this content! Definitely subscribed!
Thank you so much 🥹 I hope you have the loveliest summer break!
i love this video so much it changed my perspective on reading
I am honored! Thank you so much for watching!
I’m so grateful I found your channel today! Im trying to read deeply books and this has made me reflect on so many ways!! Thanks❤
Thank you so much for the kind comment! ✨ I really appreciate it!
thank you. you got me at mitski, this was a breath of fresh air. i keep struggling to find booktube that resonates with me. this was kinda cool.
Thank you so much 🥹
I didn't love this book, but I adored your review!! sending lots of love to you x
Amazing video. Definitely gonna start making these questions while reading the next book 💜
I think reading deeply has more overall benefit for not only the reader but the author as well because they are truly being understood through their writing. Thank you for posting and encouraging a deeper understanding.
Completely agree! How special is it that people deeply connect with your work!
Thanks for watching :)
I came across this video, I only watched the beginning, and I knew I had to read this book... well I just finished it, and its one of the best books Ive ever read in my life. I wanted to thank you because Ive never heard of this book before, and your video was a very nice way of discovering this masterpiece.
I watched the full video, and I really enjoyed it, thank you.
Thank you so much for the kind words 🥹 I am so glad that you found the book impactful (and honored that you came back to the video afterward). Thank you for watching!
i read "i who have never known a man" this month! and it was my best read on june
As a college student that wants to do academic research on literature, I'm going to save this video because its really summarize what I think about reading. I love the way you talked about how reading it's personal, not every read needs to be academic but neither needs to be a competition of who reads more books. And I will add this book you mentioned on my list, I dont really care about the spoilers, because the way you talked about it just talked to me, looks like my perspective of womanhood. Thanks for sharing! I think I didn't expressed myself the way I exacly wanted because english it's not my maternal language, sorry 😅🫶🏻
You expressed yourself perfectly ☺ thank you for sharing your thoughts! I appreciate the support and I'm honored that this video resonated with you. Good luck with your studies!
As in incoming grad student this is perfect. I agree that social media makes us already determine a book before we read it but I’ve always been slow reader and it’s not because i am a slow reader. It’s because i annotate and think deeply in the books I read. I’m also a writer, so i also study how an author (and fiction as well) write their books to convey a story. I will definitely be adding these questions to my grad school journey🌸also… you’re editing is amazing and I thought you had thousands of subscribers by how nicely you edit with b-roll and all. You deserve more recognition! ☺️
Thank you for the thoughtful comment!! I am *trying* to apply to grad school by the end of this year and I am so nervous.
Completely agree with your process! It takes time to digest what we read.
Thank you so much for the kind words and support for the channel 🥹 it means a lot. Best of luck to you in your academic career!
starting this video off with mitski was a good choice because i was hooked throughout the entire thing
Thank you for watching :)
Love the long book description 🙏🏽
Thanks for watching! 🖤
the mitski quote at the start made me subscribe instantly without even questioning
🥲 thank you so much!!
I randomly came across your channel. And I subscribed right away. You are wonderful! The way you word things effortlessly sums up things that most of us have a hard time saying out loud. 🙏 keep doing you! Xoxo
Thank you so much 🥹🖤 I appreciate it!
I think I am going to read this book. Even though your video was enough to make me realise how distant and ignorant I have become of the women in my life ( my mother and grandmother) I have had similar issues because my father wasn't there with me and I was raised by my grandmother, I somewhat didn't understand her way of thinking. I still don't. Which is why I want to read this book.
Thank you for leaving such an honest comment -I hope the book gives you some clarity!
this is such a beautiful video ❤️ your discussion and voice are so understanding, thank you for the upload hunter 😊
Thank you for watching and for the lovely comment :)
Omg this book was amazing!! I read it a couple months ago I’m glad I stumbled upon this vid to think abt it again
Yeeesss I LOVED this book! Thanks for watching ☺️
Thank you, thank you so so much for the advice. I'm currently reading Jane Eyre and now, thanks to you, I can understand the author's idea, I can look for the clues in the text. This is absolutely stunning!!!!
P.S. I have a feeling that my real book journey is just about to start....thanks a lot❤
this was such a great video omg!! imma need more book videos (personally I particularly enjoy these in depth talks about books you read/ you’ve read) 💗💗
Thank you!! 🥹 I really appreciate it. I’ll try to do more of these in depth videos!
Such a cool thoughtful video that found me just at the right moment!
Thank you so much!
Loved this video! 💖
@@emmasofiabultsma3389 thank you for watching! ☺️
This video made me feel peace and want ro read this book
Thank you so much! I hope you enjoy the book ✨
OH MY GOD I LOVE I WHO HAVE NEVER KNOWN MEN
IT WAS SO GOOD I ALSO LOVED IT
I’m so happy I found your UA-cam channel
I’m happy you’re here 🥹 thanks for watching!
You didn’t give me enough time to skip the spoiler after! 10:49
omg i needed this!
Naturally overtime I have begun to read books that are only written by women. I have started reading introspectively to understand myself and the women in my life better. Even if I can't see myself in the words, I can see my aunt or my grandmother or mother. I can understand better the roles we played in each other's lives, and why certain decisions were made. Why they act in this frustrating way. Why I act this way. It's only been very healing on my end, and I want them to read these books and to know that I understand them better. And even if it's not understanding why, it's understanding them as a woman better. Most of media is created by men or for men, and I'm sick of seeing through the male lens. Men might write something I find interesting or entertaining, but they'll never write something that makes me feel. Honestly I think all women should read only female writings for like a year at least, you know?
Thank you so much for sharing and for the thoughtful comment! I too have accidentally only been reading books written by women (for the most part)-this was completely unintentional but I agree! I find myself drawn to female authors or LGBTQIA / BIPOC authors because their writing and their experiences seem to impact me more. I love your outlook on reading and how it helps give you clarity in your own life and relationships! Couldn’t agree more.
I'm glad I'm not the only one! I prefer reading literature by women (especially when the themes are about female friendships, childhood to adulthood, insecurities, or reflections of the mc) and most of my fav authors are women too. “but they'll never write something that makes me feel.” on point!
What are some of your fav books by women?
There's listening and then there's understanding
you’ve earned a subscriber! this is all the stuff i’ve thought about
Thank you so much! 🖤
I did have to stop watching tho bc of spoilers 😭 I Who Have Never Known Men has been on my TBR for a year. Waiting until Libby has it 😔
@@krazykris4957 I hope you get to read it soon!!
Hello! I am so glad UA-cam decided to put this video of yours on my feed lol. I love the way you express your thoughts, it makes me feel special because I relate to them. I feel like not completely for sure, but in a way, I share the same spot as you. This is how I see reading as well. I can read with joy because I relate to author in some way, even when they tell something I didn't go through at all. We all share some same spot in life as human beings. That is the beauty of human nature and books. Oh I think I talked too much sorry haha. But I really appriciate this video. Thank you! So much love from me.
-Selin
Hi Selin! Thank you for the lovely comment :) I'm glad you related to some of my thoughts. I think RF Kuang said it best, that reading/writing allow us to explore "all the infinite ways to be human". Thanks for watching and for supporting the channel! Hope to see you back here soon!
I enjoy reading books too! Although I am not satisfied with the translated editions, I am not proficient enough to read English-edition books on my own. With the help of the web extension Immersive Translate, I can grasp the basic meaning of the passages. I hope I can get closer to these intriguing books.
I’ve only recently realized how important it is to find a good translator when searching through titles! It changes your entire reading experience. I hope the translations are still impactful in your reading experience!
My new favorite channel!!
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Hi, i just discovered your channel, i love the way you talks about books ! i love RF Kuang, Mitski and i definitely want to read this book (especially bc i'm french). i hope i will see you soon for others videos 🩷
Yay! I’m so glad this video found its way to my people!! Excited for you to experience this book ☺️
Thank you for this video! It really helped me get out of this academic cicle and I’m sure my reading experience will be way more pleasant. Also, loved the book you talked about! I’ll make sure to also check it out🫶
Thank you so much for watching! ☺️
I just discovered your channel! Thanks to the youtube algorithm. This makes me want to read intentionally and deeply. ✨
I adore your views on this book and reading.
Thank you so much 🥹
This was exactly the video I needed to see today. Thank you!
I love this video. If you have any more book recommendations Id love to see them.
Thank you so much! I have a few other bookish videos on my channel if you’re open to watching those ☺️ thank you for the support!
iniciar con un verso de mitski fue tu mejor decisión KJASHAJ
This was so inspirational! Thank you for sharing your thoughts❤
Thank You for the originality ❤
Ugh love this!!!! ❤ Hawaii girlies stand up
Yayyy! My people! 🫶🫶🫶
very well made video! I definitely feel like the recent "book community" are focusing much more on quantity over quality while reading. pressuring us to feel the need to consume and buy books for the vanity of it instead of doing it as a way to explore and widen our mind.
Well said! It definitely feels like overconsumption has seeped into the publishing industry-so I completely agree. It’s so important to critically consume rather than mindlessly consume!
@@hunteriskindacool exactly!
adorei o vídeo ❤
Thank you! 🖤
Thank you for sharing.
Thanks for watching! ☺️
this video made me emotional🥹
You deserve a lot of more followers❤
Thank you 🥹🙏🏽
I'd add that the author is not Dutch but Belgian. That's why the book is written in French
Nice video, thank you.
Random thing to point out, but for you video editing, look at adjusting your white balance. Your skin tone here off, it's a bit greeny-yellow. You'll want to add a little magenta to balance out the greens (and maybe blue to counter the yellow; but a nice yellow tone is good tbh, it makes it look sunny).
Thank you so much! Color correcting footage is definitely not my strong suit and I’m still practicing. That is so helpful! I’ll try it out ☺️
You are super cool! Thanks for this!!!
Thank you so much! Thank you for watching 🥹
I just found this channel and I love it so much already 💋💌💕
Thank you so much! I'm honored!
Needed this reminder so bad
I THOUGHT I WAS ALONE
Thank you for this❤
Thank you for watching! 🖤
I’m glad you video showed up on my feed. ❤️🩹
i love this video so much. thank you for sharing
Thank you so much! I appreciate you being here :)
More vids about reading and writing ❤
Noted ☺️ thanks for watching!
What a terrific video!
Thank you for watching!
Love your video 🇧🇷
It's funny, when I read this book I thought of the Mitski song I Bet on Losing Dogs 👀
Great minds think alike ✨
Thank you for this video, it has really been eye opening, showing that I have definelty not been reading deeply. I plan to implement these questions into my free reading. Also, do you have any book recomendations? I know you did a video on what you would read as an english lit major, but what about just regular free reading?
I’m so glad! I’ve been learning a lot about myself by reading this way~
I’m finishing the last book of the Poppy War Trilogy and it has been so amazing and gut wrenching all at the same time! RF Kuang is easily one of my favorite authors so highly recommend that series if you’re in the mood for dark fantasy but be sure to read the trigger warnings prior!
If you’re in more of a science fiction mood, I also have a video up about How High We Go in the Dark by Sequoia Nagamatsu!
But if you’re in a lit-fic mood, maybe Breasts and Eggs by Mieko Kawakami!
Happy reading ✨
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Comme beaucoup j'ai grandi dans la lecture, je lisais énormément et vite, et ait fini par abandonner l'activité vers le début de l'adolescence. J'ai, comme toi, appris très récemment à apprécier à nouveau la lecture.
J'essayais déjà depuis quelques temps mais ayant beaucoup changé entre mon enfance et maintenant (né dans la fin des années 90 aussi) j'ai observé que ma lecture d'enfant était certes très rapide mais très superficielle, je ne retenais pas grand chose, alors j'ai souhaité en tant qu'adulte reprendre la lecture en prenant mon temps, mais le processus était trop ennuyeux, je me dispersais et perdais intérêt.
Puis l'été dernier j'ai voulu lire un de mes passages préférés de mon livre préféré à une personne que j'apprécie, ça lui a plu (à la fois le passage et le fait que je lui lise), et j'ai continué à lui envoyer des messages vocaux de moi lui lisant des passages, voir même des petits livres en entier.
Malheureusement on s'est un peu éloignés mais j'ai appris pendant cette période que j'appréciais énormément faire la lecture, pas seulement lire, mais lire pour quelqu'un, lire pour les autres, à voix haute.
J'ai donc créé un compte twitch, un compte youtube (celui-ci) et je me suis mit à lire à voix haute, en direct, et à poster les lectures sur youtube, pour me donner l'impression de faire la lecture à quelqu'un et qu'accessoirement ça puisse servir à quelqu'un d'intéressé par une lecture audio de ce que je lis.
J'ai commencé ça en octobre et je compte 66 lectures d'une heure en moyenne, je suis à mon 6ème livre, et je me retrouve beaucoup dans ta vidéo, dans l'aspect introspectif d'un côté mais aussi dans l'aspect relâchement, de prendre son temps. Lire à voix haute oblige à lire à rythme de parole, même plus lentement en général, ça oblige aussi à prendre des intonations différentes, selon le ton du discours ou le caractère du personnage, et ce jeu en dit sur moi, sur comment je m'exprime, ma diction, mon rythme, ma manière d'interpréter les phrases, etc.
Tout ce processus m'a permis d'un côté d'améliorer mon expression à l'oral, mais aussi de m'ouvrir à un aspect théâtral de la lecture, et me force à peser chaque phrase, chaque mot, même si toute cette démarche peut parfois faire perdre le sens de ce qu'on lit et nous tirer dans une lecture automatique, la plupart du temps ça me permet au contraire de mieux mémoriser, car chaque passage est davantage vécu que s'il n'était lu que dans ma tête, et je trouve que ça correspond bien à ta démarche et ce que tu promeus.
Je partage ça ici parce que je n'ai pas vraiment de lecteurs ou de gens intéressés par la lecture dans mon entourage, et je me dis que ça peut servir à quelqu'un qui, comme moi, serait tombé sur cette vidéo par hasard et n'aurait pas encore considéré la possibilité de lire à voix haute, ça peut être une solution, pour soi mais aussi pour connecter avec d'autres personnes :)
Merci pour ta vidéo, j'espère que la traduction ne dénaturera pas trop le sens de mon discours si tu ne parles pas français, et je pense que j'irai lire le livre dont tu parles dans cette vidéo, je ne suis pas une femme mais les thématiques du livre et la manière dont tu en parle m'intéressent beaucoup !
Thank you so much for sharing! It has been a while since I read out loud but your comment makes me realize that there's a different kind of enjoyment and interaction with the text when you take the time to read it both to yourself or to someone else. This could definitely be an avenue for those looking to reignite their love for reading! I'll definitely be checking out your channel :)
Reading out loud opens a whole new way of interacting with the media for sure, especially enhancing the bonds you make with the story and the people you read to. It's a shame it has a reputation of being an adult-toddler/child activity when it's such a sweet and caring activity as a whole, and i really make a bridge between the dynamic you encourage in reading, which is taking the time to feel things, as slow as they can or need to be, and a similar dynamic i strive to keep in my relationships ; which is taking the time to take some time with your loved ones, if that makes sense. Not to jump between activities and boredom, but rather link those poles with intermediate occupations, varying in intensity, depending on the time and the energy you have at the moment, reading out loud being one of my favorites