It sucks if she’s not that into you… but then again there’re lots of other women in the world to meet. What’s an obvious sign of ‘thanks but not thanks’ you’ve had from a woman you’ve liked? 🤔
A couple more I've experienced: When I'm always the one initiating at some point I stop and wait to see if she'll pick it up and initiate. Some don't and I never see them again. 1. One I recently met randomly at a coffee shop showed a lot of interest and even excitement in me. Then I asked for her number and she said 'Oh, I don't do that.' At the end she said with a look of real enticement 'You know where I work!'. I waited a few days then went to her work place. She didn't have time for me and gave me her business card. I sent her an email (didn't bother to phone) which she never answered. I didn't expect she would. I saw her again at the coffee shop. She was acting exactly the same way with another guy as she was with me, same excitement. He appeared disinterested but tolerant. She didn't even notice me as she walked by in front of me a few feet away from her! Serial initiator, build up guys' hopes, then no follow through! 2. I was on a dinner date with a woman. The conversation was rather halting and disjointed, difficult. Then I noticed she had no problem conversing fluently with our male waiter, smiling and showing real interest in him. Message received!
Wow Hayley, you covered a lot and I've experienced so many of them. I've spent most of my life in the friend zone. Now I say 'Meet me half way and I'm in. I don't chase anybody!' I've even said outright to a few women I don't chase anyone!
I need some advice: I was recently contacted by a former work colleague, who asked generally how I was doing. I took this to mean that she was somewhat interested in catching up, because we last texted over 10 months ago, and she had NEVER initiated. She was asking how I really was and kept asking if I was REALLY ok and we could talk about it.‘I took this to mean that she wanted me to ask her to catch up. I did, but I phrased it in a question, like: …so you feel like catching up? She said she’d love to, so I asked her schedule. She said she was at a university placement (for teacher training, but could do it in the holidays or evening.) I came back with meeting up afterwards because she was busy (I think this came across as non-needy and chilled, but I’d like your opinion). I also told her she could contact ME if/when she finished - was I wrong to say this? Should I have said that I’d get in touch nearer the time? I do like her, but we’ve never been anything more than distant colleagues who wish each other merry Christmas.
At least I know what the scope of things are with these 10 signs. One situation was really strange, she was happy to split the bill at the movies and later on when things slowed to a crawl I got frank and told her where I stood and wanted things to pickup, but I got no play, so I withdrew but remained mild and distant then she got really interested. Then I got upset from this but had some attraction, then as the upset died down, I got less attracted.
A lady (V) at my work has a boyfriend. Just before going with him, she would flirt with me. She told me she is not happy with her boyfriend, but is still with him, 1 year later. They seem to have a on/off relationship. Another lady at work asked me to buy flowers for her and she would pay me back. V asked me who the flowers were for. I told her. V's reaction was amazing. Her body flexed and she looked physically shaken. V has told a group of female staff, while I was there, I would be a good husband. Does that good husband mean she is interested or I am friendzoned? I am currently looking for another lady, not waiting for V to split from her man.
@@dongmingling4052 Thanks for your reply. I am surprised it means that, but can understand it. Her and I were getting close, then she chose the other guy, then we drifted apart, so it makes sense. We work at the same place, so it is hard, but I am moving on from her.
@@marklion wish you all the best man,and also to date with a girl in your working condition isn't a good choice. But you are getting better and better,good luck
It sucks if she’s not that into you… but then again there’re lots of other women in the world to meet. What’s an obvious sign of ‘thanks but not thanks’ you’ve had from a woman you’ve liked? 🤔
A couple more I've experienced:
When I'm always the one initiating at some point I stop and wait to see if she'll pick it up and initiate. Some don't and I never see them again.
1. One I recently met randomly at a coffee shop showed a lot of interest and even excitement in me. Then I asked for her number and she said 'Oh, I don't do that.' At the end she said with a look of real enticement 'You know where I work!'.
I waited a few days then went to her work place. She didn't have time for me and gave me her business card. I sent her an email (didn't bother to phone) which she never answered. I didn't expect she would.
I saw her again at the coffee shop. She was acting exactly the same way with another guy as she was with me, same excitement. He appeared disinterested but tolerant. She didn't even notice me as she walked by in front of me a few feet away from her!
Serial initiator, build up guys' hopes, then no follow through!
2. I was on a dinner date with a woman. The conversation was rather halting and disjointed, difficult. Then I noticed she had no problem conversing fluently with our male waiter, smiling and showing real interest in him. Message received!
Some of these signs are hard to notice, glad that you've discussed it, Hayley. Big help!
Wow Hayley, you covered a lot and I've experienced so many of them. I've spent most of my life in the friend zone. Now I say 'Meet me half way and I'm in. I don't chase anybody!' I've even said outright to a few women I don't chase anyone!
Is there any wonder that SO many men are saying, "no mas." Hopefully, the men that she is interested in have already wised up and don't play along.
This is not a team sport. Everyone is on their own in the chemistry lab.
I need some advice: I was recently contacted by a former work colleague, who asked generally how I was doing. I took this to mean that she was somewhat interested in catching up, because we last texted over 10 months ago, and she had NEVER initiated.
She was asking how I really was and kept asking if I was REALLY ok and we could talk about it.‘I took this to mean that she wanted me to ask her to catch up. I did, but I phrased it in a question, like: …so you feel like catching up? She said she’d love to, so I asked her schedule. She said she was at a university placement (for teacher training, but could do it in the holidays or evening.) I came back with meeting up afterwards because she was busy (I think this came across as non-needy and chilled, but I’d like your opinion). I also told her she could contact ME if/when she finished - was I wrong to say this? Should I have said that I’d get in touch nearer the time?
I do like her, but we’ve never been anything more than distant colleagues who wish each other merry Christmas.
You give her two or three option for a date. Then drop out.
At least I know what the scope of things are with these 10 signs. One situation was really strange, she was happy to split the bill at the movies and later on when things slowed to a crawl I got frank and told her where I stood and wanted things to pickup, but I got no play, so I withdrew but remained mild and distant then she got really interested. Then I got upset from this but had some attraction, then as the upset died down, I got less attracted.
Wow… I’m depressed now. Good to know though 😔
A lady (V) at my work has a boyfriend. Just before going with him, she would flirt with me. She told me she is not happy with her boyfriend, but is still with him, 1 year later. They seem to have a on/off relationship.
Another lady at work asked me to buy flowers for her and she would pay me back. V asked me who the flowers were for. I told her. V's reaction was amazing. Her body flexed and she looked physically shaken.
V has told a group of female staff, while I was there, I would be a good husband. Does that good husband mean she is interested or I am friendzoned?
I am currently looking for another lady, not waiting for V to split from her man.
Good husband means friendzone,just like nice guy
@@dongmingling4052 Thanks for your reply.
I am surprised it means that, but can understand it. Her and I were getting close, then she chose the other guy, then we drifted apart, so it makes sense.
We work at the same place, so it is hard, but I am moving on from her.
@@marklion wish you all the best man,and also to date with a girl in your working condition isn't a good choice. But you are getting better and better,good luck
I know a friend suffers from all these syndromes 😂.
I thought you were Harley Quinn 😒 still nice video.