are diamond engagement rings a scam? 💍💸💔
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- Опубліковано 9 бер 2024
- numerous aspects of marriage have been commodified over the years, from the actual wedding to the engagement ring. what used to be a simple sign of your affection, has turned into a way of proving "your love" to others. in today's video we decided to take a look at engagement rings. how they became a tradition, when diamonds became the standard, and why we feel pressured to spend so much money on something that doesn't really matter.
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I specifically told my fiancé I didn’t want a diamond ring, and he proposed with a lovely amethyst ring, which is my birth stone!
Aww, that's so sweet and thoughtful! I personally think that amethysts are prettier than diamonds, though maybe I'm biased, also being a February baby.
@@trinaq mine’s ruby which honestly if I ever get engaged I would love one! Or a yellow diamond/topas since that’s my favorite color
omg that's so sweet and such a cute idea
When you're born in April 😭😭
Hmm are there pretty garnets out there? (january gal here)
Diamonds themselves are also a scam. They’re not a rarity. In fact, they are a LOT more common than you’d think. The reason they’re so expensive is because one company owns over 90% of all naturally occurring diamonds so it’s equivalent to “you can’t get this nowhere else honey so send me your life savings if you really want it”
I think this is what money game part 2 was about
and then it's not even just the artificial rarity, it's the emotional blackmailing of "if he doesn't spend x amount of money for your ring, he doesn't really love you". like... the fucking nerve.
Supposedly, an ex-Jared jeweler advised on buying created white sapphire instead of diamond. Still durable, cheaper than real diamond, and only a professional jeweler would be able to tell the difference
I have an emerald. The number one comment I get is "Oh! For your birthstone!"
Nope. My favorite color is green. Get what you want, not what is expected. 💚
Go vintage, 100%. My engagement ring is 1800s Georgian. It's like having piece of history on your finger. I'm constantly wondering who it belonged to and what kind of life she had. And it's an heirloom I'll pass down (:
do spare a thought for the slaves that mined it too
@@pssurvivorantique rings don’t contribute to current poor mining practices
I exclusively harvest fingers for this reason.
@@pssurvivorspare thought to your thought: to avoid the continuance of dehumanization when referencing people that were enslaved, it’s best to refer to them as that. In lieu of referring to these humans as “the slaves”. People who were enslaved is more accurate, negating the inherent devaluing of their person in the act of enslavement, especially as modern humans speaking in retrospect.
i wanted this but my bf wants it to be unique to me so he designed one (i still don’t know what it looks like)
my now husband knew i didnt want a diamond and that i wanted it to be fairly inexpensive and fun to look at. so they got me an alexandrite ring that changes color in different lighting. they researched what stones would be tough enough to withstand my clumsiness and what metals would be best against tarnishing and my allergies. The time they took to choose something they knew i'd like and would be best for every day life was so thoughtful and better than any diamond to me 💖
My Nana used a Alexandrite ring as her ring too. She still kept her small original ring in her jewelry box, but loved that huge Alexandrite stone. ❤
this! i want this!!!
This is a great idea! Gonna have to save that for if I ever get married too. 😁
Your husband is a keeper!
I also got an alexandrite stone! I wasnt expecting it but I'm happy with it.
I would love to get a series from you where you talk about every aspect of a wedding like the dresses, the several events like engagement parties, the bachelor/bachelorette parties, shower, the rehersal dinner, the actual wedding, some people even do a brunch the next day, the honeymoon etc. Thanks 🙏
Great idea! Tessa please consider this!
this would be so good
I know some of those other extra parts comes are because dowries have, for the most part, vanished from a majority of the world. So to supplement the dowry aspect of marriage, they add in various mini parties. Or like diamond rings, the rich used to do all those extra pieces as a show of wealth and the poor emulated them
I’m really happy with my moissanite engagement ring. It looks exactly the same but was much more affordable for my husband and didn’t require child labor 😳
Same here. And they are more sparkly than diamonds which is a major plus! They are beautiful.
I bet it sparkles so much more too!
Me too, and I LOVE the sparkle!
I have a dark grey moissanite e-ring! Its sparkle is so colorful and dramatic. Huge fan of moissy.
You know that now diamond can be made from carbon artificially. The composition is the same but no digging. Coming right from the lab. The price is sure going to drop A Lot in the future
Natural diamond are scan. Lab grown ones need more advertising. My man said he HAS to spend 6 salaries on ring. And i still cant persuade him i prefer rubies and sapphires if it has to be something expensive. Poor man🤡
I don’t like that he won’t listen, tbh. That would make me very uncomfortable.
Tell him you'll straight up say no if he proposes with such an expensive ring
From an outside perspective that is a major red flag!
Sounds like a dummy I'd leave him girlfriend.
To be fair, rubies/sapphires aren’t generally obtained much more ethically. They’re just cheaper
I love diamonds, but when it came to my engagement ring, we went antique. My engagement ring has two rose cut diamonds ‐ a cut that's very out of favour because it doesn't show off fire and are very thin. But I love rose cuts - they glitter rather than blindingly sparkle. We paid $400 for my ring, and I love it.
I would only caution anyone looking for alternatives to diamonds: if you mean to wear your ring every day, make sure you choose a stone that's hard enough for daily wear. Diamonds and their lab-grown equivalents, moissanite, ruby, sapphire, etc. These stones can all survive daily wear through the years. Lots of stones can wear away, fog up, or even break (emeralds can be particularly prone to breaking, even though they are quite hard). Or just refresh your ring every few years! Have fun! There are no real rules!
i love pink sapphires. i'd never buy a diamond because of ethical concerns, but i am not opposed to lab grown ones if i can find a nice oval princess cut pink one. also there are so many breathtakingly beautiful gemstones other than diamonds.
I wear my grandmother’s ring and I love it. It was free, vintage, much more sustainable, and a symbol of almost 70 years of my grandparents love. The best part is that I didn’t even have to get it resized, which makes it feel all the more special. Even if she can’t be at my wedding, her ring will be with me for the rest of my life and marriage.
Once again, I always end up agreeing with Tessa's concise, well written arguments. I personally don't care about a flashy, expensive engagement ring. All that should really matter is the love that you and your partner share, not how much it costs.
I told my husband that I didn't want to feel owned, that I'd only accept an engagement ring if we got one for him, too. He liked the idea but then when we decided to marry I suggested we just save the money instead. My mum wasn't pleased but we're happy with the minimalist look of just our wedding rings.
In my country (generally speaking) the couple decides together to get married, as in a serious conversation, and there's no such thing as the need for an engagement ring or calling each other fiance. Then you will have your wedding ring and that's it
Love shouldn’t have to be proven by money.
As an older gen z newlywed, I definitely agree with purchasing what makes you happy. I found I liked smaller rings that were nowhere near thousands!! Also lab grown and moissanite are wonderful options if you do not want to shell out on a diamond
One thing I will say about my partner--he was certain we had a future from early in our relationship, and he asked me what sort of stone I'd want in a ring if/when he gave me one. So I told him, "No diamonds." Quite aside from the concerns cited here, there's something about colorless diamonds that always struck me as somewhat lacking in soul and expressiveness (unless you're expressing how much money you spent).
Yes, I agree! I've been putting off my engagement for many reasons, including my health, but a big reason is also the rings. I'm not sure what I want. I do know I don't want a diamond. I think they are ugly and extremely boring! I could do a colored diamond but those are also expensive. We definitely don't have the money for that. If I spend thousands of dollars it will be on something more important than a ring.
@@beckahcruz7463 Colorless diamonds are ugly, aren't they? I myself don't need to give up a kidney, as lovely as some fancy diamonds are. I've had my eye on a yellow sapphire--prettier than your average diamond and often fetching a shockingly affordable price. Well, that and sapphires are high enough on the Mohs scale to be wearable for every day.
Like other expensive things and beauty trends, look back in history. It was a show of wealth from the times when there was no machinery to mine diamonds and jewelry was created fully by hand and brute strength. Poor people emulated the rich and wanted diamond engagement rings
My husband picked out a sapphire that reminded him of my eyes. It was perfect and way more meaningful. I told him I didn't want a diamond ring on one of our first dates.
See I do want a diamond ring, but I want a natural smoky black diamond. They’re on Etsy for $6k AT THE ABSOLUTE MOST, most of them range at the $500 to $1k mark. One of the things I don’t want in a husband is someone who makes bad financial decisions.
Just one note- black diamonds are gorgeous but they do get their color from inclusions, so they're brittle and prone to cracking compared with other gemstones. If your heart is set on it and you are careful, ofc go for it and enjoy! I wanted one too but ended up choosing a dark grey moissanite instead for durability. It's absolutely stunning. A very different sparkle (clear and colorful rather than smokey and moody diamond), but suggesting just in case ❤️
@@withelisa100% this! Tons of lab made options are resilient and affordable! Moissanite also has more brilliance imo (even in darker toned stones)
My partner just proposed with a Sri Lankan Ceylon Ruby, he also got a vintage second hand silver bracelet melted for the band of my ring from Argentina. I prefer this more as he spent 3 months on it and I’m mixed race, half Sri Lankan half Argentine. I appreciated the sentiment and hard work 😌🥰
Wow, it was so incredibly thoughtful and caring of him! Congratulations on your engagement!
@@mariadeeva8993 thank you lovely xx ♥️
Agreed! I love my blue sapphire engagement ring! I told my husband that I didn’t care if it was real or fake, or anything from a topaz to aquamarine, that I just preferred to not have a diamond and it had to be any shade of blue.
Most sapphires are also mined through unethical means and in a country under a military junta that’s been committing a genocide for like… a decade now, and those which arent are still mined through child labor, but ok go off i guess.
congratulations on your engagement, and I think shedding light on how the diamond industry has utilized marketing, as well as exploited business practices to artificially inflate. The prices of diamonds is incredibly important, especially because the tradition of different rings is one that I think is really fun, but there are definitely more ethical ways to go aboutgetting a ring and or creating a ring with your partner
Please cover more outfit analysis videos, namely "Pretty in Pink", or "10 Things I Hate About You", two of my top teen movies. Also, I'd love if you continued the 15 Best Dresses in Cinematic History series.
I’m not getting engaged any time soon because I’m in high school, but on top of the ethical issues with them, I find diamond rings a bit boring already. most of the ones I’ve seen have the same two appearances: that brilliant cut with the thin band, or that emerald cut with the big band.
I’ve been doing research on lab grown gems recently, and I’ve found so many cool synthetic gems that look way better than diamonds!! if I ever do get an engagement ring, it’s going to be something with angel aura quartz or dragons breath opal. way cooler than diamonds imo
It's great to see other young people thinking about this and showing lab grown gems some love! Only thing I'd say is opals (speaking from experience 😭) cloud and break easily cuz of their softness score.
@@dog5221 yeah, I’ll definitely keep an eye on them! I have a pair of moonstone earrings that I wear to school and I get so paranoid if I break them because they’re like a 5-6 on the mohs scale 😭😭
I think I’ll settle on angel aura quartz tho! I like how it has that shiny multicolor sheen, it looks like something out of a fantasy novel
I told my boyfriend that if he wants to marry me, I want a sapphire. I don’t want him to spend his life saving on a stone that I don’t even think is that pretty. He already got me a gorgeous sapphire promise ring for our first anniversary, and I’m so proud it wasn’t an arm and a leg for him
I ended up choosing a teal sapphire engagement ring. The color feels more unique to me without all the ridiculous prices of diamond rings.
Omg please do a breakdown on fashion in Bollywood movies 🙏
Bollywood does not wear clothes they where full-body jewelry
I'm still waiting for a video about 15 green dresses in Cinematic history.
My husband picked moissanite because he’s a big nerd and, I quote, “its particular crystalline structure and rock to hand ratio for price”
We call it the shiny rock of monogamy.
Grateful to you for making this video!
Needed to watch it!
Was anyone else singing “diamonds are a girl’s best” while watching
2:38 all veins run to the heart
This was very interesting! But I'm just here to say I really appreciate the clips from films and TV shows I love, particularly classic films. The Gilded Age, Gigi, Funny Girl, Sunset, Gentlemen Prefer Blondes, Roman Holiday, Camelot, Kramer vs Kramer, The Age of Innocence, etc.! (And understandably, Breakfast at Tiffany's and Moulin Rouge. Haha).
10:23 "A TOPAAAAAAZZZZZ!???" IDK why I cracked up at that so hard!🤣🤣🤣
Great video, i am very aware of the history as I LOVE mineralogy. I definitely did not want a really expensive engagement ring because I would be too anxious to wear it ever if cost something extravagent.
I also always knew I didn't want a diamond as the main stone and about five years ago, I fell in love with teal sapphires. Sapphires can still withstand daily wear. I love that there are so many options these days (stones & settings).
I don't have an issue with engagement rings, but rather the expectation and EXPENSE that people are pressured into, aka people without the means to afford a thousands on a ring, go into debt for it these days.
Plus, in the wise words of Thrice "a ring don't mean nothing if you can't hold the weight."
I would like a vintage art deco style emerald ring. I like they are so classy while still being unique. I would also love a vintage fur coat😍
My husband and I have star sapphire rings. Still rather expensive, but much more unique. There are diamonds on my wedding band, but mostly because it's my birthstone.
I'm inheriting my great grandma's diamond ring, I was also named after her which makes it all the more special! It doesn't even need to be resized, fits like a glove. 👌
I'm fascinated by gems that match's the eyes since I bought a peridot and silver ring for my birthday years ago.
I have my eyes set on a emerald + gold ring after my graduation but I'm not that in love with diamonds... I just like big stones with color in it
My mom still prefers mined diamonds over lab-grown diamonds cause she thinks the fact that the diamond is found has more status symbol than the ones that are made in lab, same with pearls, she sees found pearls from the sea are better than the ones that are farmed. 😭😭
It's so tough to change people's minds about these things 😓
@@beckahcruz7463 yeah, and it’s weird cause they’re still both diamonds!!💎 just made under different conditions!
Show her the videos of the conflict in Eastern DRC and ask her what those kids think of her rings
I work with my hands, i had a titanium ring with a design, but no stones. That ring took a lot of abuse.
Mine is pink Morganite and I absolutely love it!!
I specially told my now husband I didn't wanted him to spend to much, and I got a delicate and beautiful pearl one. I don't know anyone who has a diamond ring here. Even more, I don't know anyone from previous generations who have an engagement ring, just the gold ones.
You don't need an engagement ring at all for a joyful loving relationship. At the end of the day its just vanity based on wealth. Rejecting a true loving person due to lacking such a requirement only brings more misery in the future.
i told my boyfriend i am not into diamonds as we don't know where they are sourced from. getting jade instead 🥰
Watching this video the week I got engaged (with a gorgeous, non-diamond stone) is just perfect timing
Before even watching the video and only seeing the title, yes. Yes they are. It was all a marketing ploy because diamonds weren't selling like that.
Me: All rings are a rip off they were made to trick us into thinking material items are love
My foreign boyfriend: Giving gifts is a sign of love and rings, necklaces and any jewelry can mean that
I just wanted to throw this out there makes you think.
Talk about food for thought, your boyfriend has hit the nail right on the head.
It's one thing to think that "more money = more love", thinking that the more money someone spends on you the more that they love you. It's another to hand pick a special item and spend lots of money on it because you know that person and that they'd love this thing
I'm a fiddler. The only jewelry I wear is earrings, because anything else, I'll play with it, fiddle with it and inevitably lose it. I'd constantly worry about losing something as expensive as a diamond engagement ring. I'd like a pretty, cheap ring that can easily be replaced.
I thought you meant fiddler as in the instrument and for a second there I was very confused :"D
Congrats on your engagement ❤❤❤
If I ever marry I want a gold ring with engraved flowers and no stones. I want something that I'd be comfortable wearing everyday.
A friend of mine got engaged with a ring made of wood her husband himself crafted (he took the wood from a tree from the selvatic zone where they met) and I thought it was so romantic and very meaningful, I couldn’t have an expensive diamond ring without seeing the blood through it
personally emerald (birth stone) or a healing stone (amethyst, selenite, quartz) for engagement. then a diamond, gold, or silver band for the wedding. I know what I want.
When my now-husband and I started discussing marriage, I specifically told him I did not want a diamond ring for many reasons, including that I just think they’re a bit boring. He got me the most beautiful moonstone ring (at my request) which I treasure and always gets compliments! But when he gave it to me, he made me promise that if anyone ever asked about my ring, I had to tell them it was what I asked for so no one would accuse him of being stingy. I agreed and we’re going to be celebrating 13 years of marriage this year ❤
My birthstone is a diamond and it's so disappointing because it's the most boring basic gem imo. Instead I got a custom pink sapphire because it's my favorite color. He even had me pick out the ring and we designed it together. I'm very happy with it 💗
I have a beautiful morganite and moissanite engagement ring. I'm obsessed.
Also now that you are engaged, I'd be interested in seeing you dissect other parts of the wedding / planning industry too. Aka the "wedding tax" etc.
my sister's engagement ring were three gems that represented the sacred stones in ocarina of time because legend of zelda was one of the first things she and her husband bonded over.
Wow the history of the rings in ancient times and what they looked like back then interest me. Though the rings being once made out of bone freaked me out a little 😅. And yeah, I’d rather not go for a diamond ring either, even if I’m wealthy since 1. Really expensive, and 2. I prefer more colorful stones, so I might go for an Alexandrite, Mojssanite, and/ or Opal if I get engaged. Plus hearing about the awful treatment of workers in the diamond mines made me not want a mine diamond even more. Coincidentally, Opal is also my birth stone.
I loove this video! This is so important and I completely agree with everything you said. Keep being a good caring person. Congrats on your engagement ❤
I'm in my 80s. Been widowed a few times along life's way. I have never had a store bought, brand new diamond ring. Mine came from pawn shops. All pre-owned. All beautiful. And when I wore them I often times marveled at their past history. In today's world, I can see why couples are choosing other options.
Love the video. Personally, I find diamonds a little bit boring and definitely overrated. I always prefer other gemstones and there are so many different ones. It would be a lot more interesting to see who wears which gemstone to see each individual's preference, taste and character.
I'm from Germany and I don't think you really saw diamonds, let alone large ones, being put on engagement rings before the internet made it trendy, most people I know either used one set of rings for both engagement and wedding or used plain silver (or another metal of that color at least) for their engagement rings and then "upgraded" to plain gold (occasionally engraved with names and wedding date on the inside) for the actual wedding rings. Also, both partners tend to wear them, not just the woman.
Would it be possible for you to add the names of the movies/tv shows that you’re showing clips of? Maybe as hardcoded text at the bottom of the screen?
Some of those movies look good, and I’d like to watch them, but I don’t even know how to start on finding them 😢
I've been telling people that ❤❤❤. I love your vidéos.
The Luther ring is wrong. He married Katharina von Bora and the original wedding ring is in a museum in Leipzig, Germany. It is made from gold and ruby and only one piece. There was no engagement ring.
Yes, they are a scam. And they are pretty much worthless to resell. I told my husband not to go into debt on a ring before he proposed. Then my grandmother ended giving me her diamond from my late grandfather. We have struggled financially our whole marriage and have tried to sell it twice (not at a pawn shop). We were offered so little for it that it would have been an insult to take it. So I still have it and it worth far more now as a gift from my grandmother than anything else.
I like how this doubles as a movie quizz 😅
I've always loved that Anne Shirley had Gilbert Blythe give her a ring with a pearl instead of a diamond.
When I got engaged I asked my now husband to get something secondhand because of my sustainability values, and my preference for vintage styles. I love my yellow gold marquise cut ring even though it's not trendy right now. It is perfect for me, and for the quality of ring, it was a bargain. Secondhand is a great way to go with reputable sellers!
Nowadays, I just don't really see the point in engagement rings... You'll have a wedding ring anyway, shouldn't that be enough? Also, diamond rings are really expensive and (in my opinion) aren't even that pretty. Personally, I told my boyfriend (now fiancé) I didn't need an engagement ring and I am still happy with this decision 😊
I think the diversity of today's relationships means that there isn't really a one true way to view relationships, engagement and marriage. Your situation sounds very nice and I'm sure it is the right choice for you. I also know couples who don't want to get married, so they just got engagement rings and live together and started their own families. That works for them. The diversity of situations is beautiful and sticking to a traditional "man proposes with a diamond ring, couple saves money and maybe gets help from both sets of parents and then gets married and both get wedding bands" only needlessly restricts couples. And yeah, diamonds are expensive because the sellers manipulate the market. I agree that is isn't really worth it, but some people like diamonds and they can do as they please.
wait engagement rings aren’t wedding rings?? I thought they were the same thing
It started as a ripoff and still is a ripoff.
Honestly…. This is the 1 thing where i feel like it REALLY makes sense to go ALL IN on… Because of the meaning behind it and the idea of wearing it forever…
I agree! Whatever makes the bride happy, whether it’s a dainty or extravagant ring
I got engaged with a 600$ garnet and gold ring I picked out. The garnet definitely shows some wear after ten years but honestly nothing is forever. The nicks and scratches are just a show of time passing. I'm still very happy with my decision. Garnets are my favorite stone and it brings me joy. You could argue that a more expensive ring would have held out better and maybe? But why? The ring is symbolic sure but it's not like it's tied to the marriage like it's The One Ring and if one is destroyed so will the other go.
My sister made fun of me cuz my husband proposed with a moissanite ring, while her husband gave her a 3k diamond ring and she even said that he probably doesn't love me enough to give me a more expensive ring, I really don't care I know that a ring is not a meter for love, but I thought it was that she think it is.
My partner makes good money. Could have bought me a very expensive one... But he knows me. He got me a handmade silver ring with a who knows what kind of stone from my favorite Japanese jeweler. Absolutely love it...
Gold band moissanite stone 👌🏼
I just gotta say… I’ve been trying to manifest a proposal from my man lol
But already knowing the history of diamonds, I’ve been pinning aquamarine, sapphire and other beautiful jewels into my ”wedding ring” board 🥺💍💕
I got my birthstone. I have an emerald. 😊 My now husband got it in Mazatlan near where it was mined.
Not me getting a diamond ring commercial before the video started 😂😂😂😂😂
Congrats on your engagement!
I was married Oct 2023- my husband proposed with a small business salt and pepper diamond. It’s small and classic. I love it!
YES.
I would get an amethyst engagement ring because Its my birthstone and I always want an a piece of amethyst jewelry. It would be on a gold band of of course.
I love hearing about everyones ideal engagement ring in these comments!
If / when I get engaged, I don't want a diamond. I don't know what I want, but I definitely want something unique and cool. Maybe a jade ring or something.
Are diamond engagement rings a scam? Yes and no. Yes, they are more common than people realize and the price is SERIOUSLY overinflated. No, diamonds are the hardest naturally occurring substance in the world, which is important for something one could potentially wear for decades and be passed down for generations. My advice: if you are choosing to have a stone on your engagement ring, choose a stone that can LAST for generations.
So… get scammed now so that the rock you bought wont break when your relative happens to have her ring finger stuck in an industrial hydraulic press in few generations?
Hence the recurring popularity of stones that are a 9 or thereabouts on the Mohs scale (rubies, sapphires). I am personally eyeing a juicy yellow sapphire.
Yes.
Always have been
Thanks for the education
There's no such thing as a "conflict free" diamond, no matter what the industry tells you. And lab grown diamonds still have a significant impact on the environment so however you spin it, it's just not worth it imo. And that's what I told my boyfriend. I'd rather spend two months worth of his salary on literally anything else.
This is one of the best videos on your channel. This is the stuff I've been talking about for years!
My father works in a company that sells machines to make diamond from carbon. Yes it can be made easily by machine. But diamond is a hard stone, it’s a good material tbh
Never been so early
i dunno, after seeing the movie Blood Diamond, i've been looking at diamonds in a different light. if you know u know
I just discovered morganite engagement rings. They are so pretty and cater to the little girl inside me! Does anyone have experience with them?
Well, I just received a natural diamond engagement ring and now I feel bad.
Short answer: YES!
When my husband was thinking about proposing we went to look at rings to give him an idea of what I liked. The lady at the jewelry store first led me to diamond rings of course and the cheapest one was $6000. My husband eventually proposed with a white gold ring with amethyst and small diamond accents that was only $700 plus a free ruby pendant.
id just wana pick rings together 🥹
I love my lab grown diamond. Small, much more durable than other stones, and ethical.
I'm not a fan of rings in general, I have the knack of fidgeting and taking them off in odd places, and neither is my gf, so when we got engaged we exchanged novelty pins since it felt more like us. We had a couple of years in between getting engaged and making it public and when we did so, uff, my in laws were very pushy about _the_ ring and how expensive it should be (my SIL even volunteering to buy one for us). I'm kinda bummed out how society still expects this from people. I still got myself a fake one to take to wedding related stuff.
When I get married (if I ever do), I don’t think I even want a ring. I don’t even wear jewelry that much.
In Uruguay, where I live, engagement rings aren’t really a thing… You just talk with your BF/GF and decide if you want to get married and start planning the event… Most ppl that get engagement rings it’s because on North American media influence, and diamonds are Not the stone of choice, cubic zirconia for clear and emerald, ruby and sapphire for colored stones.