You CAN Quit Porn. Here’s How.
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- Опубліковано 10 чер 2024
- This is not the first video on Ascension Presents about how to overcome an addiction to pornography, but it might be one of the simplest and most actionable.
Since 2000, Covenant Eyes has been a leader in the online accountability space. They are the #1 app for helping people find freedom from pornography. Their accountability software monitors images on device screens and sends a report to a trusted friend (ally) who holds you accountable for both your online and offline choices.
Today, Fr. Mike invites you to consider whether it might be helpful for you to make this the next step towards freedom for you or someone you love: covenanteyes.sjv.io/rQBEmv
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There is no sin you can't bring to confession... ua-cam.com/video/YiVjwlUO9Sc/v-deo.html
DO NOT DO THIS!!! I know you mean well. Read the fine the fine print. I'll spare you the cliche.
I have a problem. I don't know how to confess, I missed my first communion when I was a child, it was conducted in our elementary school and I was not present at that time. Now I'm 38 years old, badly and in need of confession because of my sins, but I don't know what to do the reason I still haven't received my first communion and I am ashamed and fear the priest may scold or get angry with me because of that. Please help me. Thank you.
Priests have heard it all. The only 2 things they haven't heard are Piracy on the high seas, and Robbing a stagecoach.
I heard that from a religious, lol.
@@janvincentvillalon1538 I highly recommend you find an RCIA group at your local church. It isn't just for people who are converting, but it's also for people who missed sacraments when they were younger. Confession is one of the Sacraments they will walk you through, along with anything else you might have missed. I have never had a bad experience in Confession. Priests have heard it all! :) God bless you and I will be praying for you.
I was addicted for 15 years, and I tried quitting at least a million times. I thought I was going to be trapped in that world forever - I felt like a disgusting woman every day. It’s a freaking miracle I’m free from p*rn now for 1.5 years. To break free, it required me to become freaking disciplined + heal from past experiences. Even with that, it wasn’t good enough, but through persistence and God’s grace I was able to finally break free. It was the most challenging thing I’ve ever done, and it’s been the greatest blessing.
*[Hugs]*
God bless.
Thank you for your inspiring comment. It helps a lot!
That is amazing 🙏
You’re not alone! May God continue to bless you with perseverance.
Thank You for your message of hope 🙏
25+ yrs addicted, 15 months clean. Craziest part is i did it cold.
You can defeat this, too.
What steps or routine did you follow to control your sexual behavior?
The Consecration to St. Joseph prayer also helps A LOT.
Do it everyday, go for confession, ask the priest for advice during confrssion, and, finally, don't be too hard on yourself if you fail. Just keep trying.
I'll be praying for everyone. It is a wicked devil indeed
I don't watch porn but I do struggle with a masterbation addiction. Last night I decided that I really need a change. This video came with really good timing, appreciate it Father.
I did and still do struggle with this. In some ways it’s even harder because you can’t take away the “access”. Through the grace of God, I’ve been mostly clean for a while now. Healing is possible, and you can do it with His help! Every time I fell and every time I have a near occasion of sin/relapsing, I get to confession. That and developing a prayer life will begin to heal you and this addiction will begin to fade.
I didn't watch it, but as time went on, the temptations started to roll in, thoughts I haven't thought of in years would suddenly come into my mind. I also live in an area where attire is very immodest, it's a pornographic society we're living in, it's a nightmare. I've been struggling, only with God's grace/help I have been able to recover for these past months. God help us all.
I had an on and off addiction since I was 7 but am almost a year free of pornography. I am so glad you are talking about this because so many people hide it, especially women. It’s not just a men’s issue by any means and so many people need healed from it ❤️ thanks Fr. Mike :)
1 John 5 kJV ♥️
13 These things have I written unto you that believe on the name of the Son of God; that ye may know that ye have eternal life, and that ye may believe on the name of the Son of God.
1 Corinthians 15 ✝️🩸
1 Moreover, brethren, I declare unto you the gospel which I preached unto you, which also ye have received, and wherein ye stand;
2 By which also ye are saved, if ye keep in memory what I preached unto you, unless ye have believed in vain.
3 For I delivered unto you first of all that which I also received, how that Christ died for our sins according to the scriptures;
4 And that he was buried, and that he rose again the third day according to the scriptures:
1 Peter 1 kJV 🩸
19 But with the precious blood of Christ, as of a lamb without blemish and without spot:
Romans 3 kJV 🩸
23 For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God;
24 Being justified freely by his grace through the redemption that is in Christ Jesus:
25 Whom God hath set forth to be a propitiation through faith in his blood, to declare his righteousness for the remission of sins that are past, through the forbearance of God;
1 Corinthians 15 kJV ✝️🩸
1 Moreover, brethren, I declare unto you the gospel which I preached unto you, which also ye have received, and wherein ye stand;
2 By which also ye are saved, if ye keep in memory what I preached unto you, unless ye have believed in vain.
3 For I delivered unto you first of all that which I also received, how that Christ died for our sins according to the scriptures;
4 And that he was buried, and that he rose again the third day according to the scriptures:
1 John 1 kJV 🩸
7 But if we walk in the light, as he is in the light, we have fellowship one with another, and the blood of Jesus Christ his Son cleanseth us from all sin.
7 Is awful to hear. Just goes to show it's unprecedented. Christ loves you.
Honestly, the goal isnt to white knuckle sobriety and "keep the streak going." Its to be free. And in this inatance we need to find something worth healing for. Christopher West did this phenominal video about pornography, about what it really is. Its simply us quenching that burning desire in our hearts because we dont trust that God will, or we are too impatient. We are too weak to live in "the ache of desire". Quitting porn and masturbation shouldnt just be the focus. Growing into a strong dignified person CAPABLE OF GIVING their sexuality to someone else needs to be our driving force. if we are addicted to self soothing that ache of desire, what kind of gift are we to someone else?
Interesting point. Do you have the link to that video?
How is your progress with ending this soon? And please share the link to the video
Thank you for talking about this. I’m a 45 year old woman. I was first exposed to pornography when I was 10. It was readily available to me and I quickly developed an addiction. It colored all my views and understanding of sex and led me to some very unsafe sexual places. After converting to Catholicism and finding a very good therapist to start healing my childhood sexual trauma around 8 years ago I began overcoming my addiction but it is still an every day battle and I occasionally fall. It is amazing and terrifying both how far I can fall and how fast. I have had some spectacularly humiliating confessions. My husband is my accountability partner. He has adult content filters on all my devices and helps keep me safe. We do what we must. So many people need so much healing. I pray every day for the women who create pornography.
I found my first porn magazine at 7 to 8. 48 years ago it was much harder for a kid to gain access. I had an addiction to it till i was 50. At that point i went through a brutal divorce and found myself alone, helpless and addicted to pot and alcohol also. I renounced my many sins in the name of Jesus and asked God for help with many things that i was powerless over. I havent missed church except during covid in 4 plus years. I never miss an opportunity for daily mass (which i ussually cant make as i am a medical provider), eucharistic adoration, confession, holy water, watching religious programimg and asking God for daily help. I also pray the rosary 2 or 3 times a week. You can break this terrible, destroying addiction, just tell God you can only do it with his grace and ask him to remove it, you have to.truely mean it and renounce itnwith all your heart. Also pray for others when tempted! God bless and your eternal soul is worth fighting for!
im glad you got over it god bless
2 years clean TODAY!!! 🎉🎉🎉
Praying the rosary everyday has stopped our porn addiction...
Going strong free from porn after trying countless times to quit. Pray for me ❤ ! I will pray for you ! This channel is a blessing ! Bravo !
Je vous aime Père Mike ! Que Dieu vous bénisse ! La France vous écoute aussi ! Qu'il vous protège et vous garde pour toujours ! Amen 🔥
The Mass. The Eucharist. And Confession...then hold on to the Rosary.
When the urge comes continue to repeat "Mother of Perpetual help, do not let me lose my God "
Thank you, Father.
Also, shout-out to Matt Fradd of Pints With Aquinas and his book, "The P*rn Myth: Exposing the Reality Behind the Fantasy of P*rnography".
I think I'm a couple months in. It's rough but I'm fighting. I'm so tired of offending our Lord
If it does happen just turn into perfume.. That's what mary Mary Magdalene did.
I'll be praying for you. You can make it.
Look up PornReboot with JK Emezi. Have a morning routine that involves you writing down goals/affirmations that you want to accomplish for your sexual behavior…EX: 1 year from now I will be in full control of my sexual behavior.
EX: I will immediately without delay attack all boundary breaking behaviors with the tools I have at hand.
Read “Breaking the Cycle” by George Collin’s.
Also find out what triggers/urges you to view pornography, it could be social media, loneliness, stress, etc.
God bless you
Thank you Father Mike for bringing multiple tools to become better people, better followers of Christ!
I needed this video today, I hate that I needed it, but I needed it! Thank you father Mike and Ascension!! 🙏🏻 it really is everywhere we look, it’s an infestation and people don’t even realize it. Lord have mercy, Christ have mercy.
I highly recommend people to pray the rosary every day during lent or anytime and fast. This is what I did, and I haven't gone back since. Praise be to God ❤
Having a support group and an accountability partner, and God's grace has helped me immensely. I'm 37+ days sexually sober. Thank you to Fr. Mike and the team at Ascension Presents for putting out this video. This is a topic that needs to be talked about more.
I was addicted for many years, and it did great harm to my marriage. But I have been completely free of this awfull vice for some 4 years already. It happened after I confessed my sin and started praying to God to set me free. Praying the Rosary may have helped too.
Did you make any lifestyle changes beside prayer?
Made great progress during the season of advent, fasting helps, I was able to be free and have victory for 2 weeks, I fell today, thank you Father mike.
Fr Mike, this is a timely video. I'm 28 and I'm struggling with this. Today I considered going to Confession for this very issue, but stopped. I thought that, if I am weak enough to do this habit again and again, why ask for Christ's forgiveness if I am going to just persist in my weakness? I try to resolve my addiction before going to Confession, but I find this preliminary step difficult. I love Jesus and want him to make me pure. I'd want nothing more at this point than to get married, to remedy against sin, and for her to keep me on a straighter path to Christ. I am currently talking to a girl with whom I'd like to make this dream possible. I pray for that often. God Bless you Father and thank you for your inspirational and topical videos and guidance. Blessings from Ireland
I had the same inclination: to try to resolve it myself before going to confession. You can make a little progress, but you will fall again and again and grow frustrated with yourself. I urge you to go to confession anyway. You will fall again, and you will need to confess it again, and that will be frustrating too, but confession will heal your soul in a way you can’t on your own, and you will start seeing real progress. Go to confession as soon as you can and begin the healing.
@@EpicWolverine God bless you. You are right
I have had covenant eyes for a while, its good, but its SUPER overhyped, it wont fux all your problems, I would suggest 2 simple things.
1) press deep into community, and good friendships, and expose all of those things hiding in the darkness into the light.
2) Stay rooted in a relationship with JESUS, have a consistent prayerlife, and beg God for grace.
Pray the rosary every day every morning before the sun comes up. Pray for mercy and grace every day. Then the hard part...say No, scream No...tell Satan to Go Away Now! Dont use the confessional as an excuse to fail. You can DO IT!
I put my trust in God. I am weary and I do not know when all of my troubles will leave my life. But even as I struggle to provide for my two children and myself I know that Jesus will never leave my side. As a single mother things are challenging my sons are autistic and now that I’m homeschooling them my hours to work are limited. Lord as I struggle to provide groceries and as I struggle to pay my rent each month I ask for you to continue to give me the courage to keep going. The Lord is my strength and shield. Jesus has turned my pain into purpose. Jesus you remain the only strength in my heart. I can do all things with Christ! ❤
Hey as someone who has kicked this out of their life for about 3 years. Pray the 3 hail mary devotion in the morning/ evening and ask her to remove your attachment to sin. It works.
Thank you for the advice on this. I do the Rosary in the morning daily, but I may add to this well especially in the afternoon as well. Its a battle every day for me right now. So far I have resisted, but I hope one day I'm truly free from this. God bless you...
@@dl4569 that's awesome you do that! Mortification helps too, and identifying what the underlying cause of the temptation might be. Like father rippenger says God will sometimes allow a repeated temptation to happen so we learn we are incapable of winning a battle without Him, or Mary. It's to kill our pride in that example. And remind us of our complete dependence on his grace
God had to have sent this video to my feed. He wants to help me break free. I have struggling since I was 13 or 14 and now 29 and returned to the church last year
Thank you Fr.Mike!!!! For bringing this important topic!
Happy birthday Father's Mike! Ty for addressing this fragile topic.
Please pray for me, I feel so helpless right now and I just need you my family to help me
You are a beacon of hope for so many.
Father mike I truly mean this from the bottom of my heart, God bless you ❤
Happy Birthday Father Mike!!!!🎉❤🎂God bless you with a long and fruitful life.
Thanks father Mike, may almighty God bless you abundtly and bring you peace and joy. Merry Christmas!
i quit for A YEAR AND WATCHED AGAIN. SADLY IM STARTING again need GODS help 😢
I found my freedom after 23 years of addiction, in my daily recitation of the Rosary ❤ 📿❤ I have no desire to view it, nor return.. I will continue praying the Rosary daily, and living free. Praise be to Mother Mary! ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Great topic Father.
Happy birthday dear Fr Mike
Hey Fr and AP team! Thanks for sharing this-so necessary to hear this in our current era-great perspective about previous saints not having wrestled with this in such degree. I think Covenant Eyes and the 3rd angle of attack is a great initiative, I want to put this forth to you and the team, Covenant Eyes is geared towards first world affordability, what can be done for those who are part of the rest of the world? I never heard back from Covenant Eyes, posing this question to them.
Belated birthday wishes Fr. Mike🎉🎉
appreciate the preaching.
Happy birthday Father Mike. 🎉
Praise Jesus for Fr. Mike. He meets us where we are at and gives us hope for betterment ❤
Good video thanks! We need more of this
Father you are so helpful for so many.
Happy belated Birthday, father Mike
Praying helps too
Thank you Father Mike
as someone who you used to watch it daily, you are not alone with the strength that God gives you & discipline you can overcome anything through our Lord for nothing is impossible with him. the biggest challenge after quitting is desensitizing yourself & not falling into temptation but with repentance & seeking forgivness from Jesus Christ our Lord with confession it can be done. God Bless You on your journeys striving to be saints Amen 🙏🏼
Struggling with this. I try but probably not as hard as I should. Pray for me ❤
🙏🙏🙏 I know it's very difficult. I'll pray for you
I prayed for you the our father prayer
Happy birthday father Mike god bless you 🙏🏻❤️
I really need this one Father Thank you
Thank you Father
Yes, thank you for the video
Thank you fr. Mike
Thank you father Mike
GOD IS SO GOOD THIS IS EXACTLY WHAT I NEEDED TODAY
THIS VIDEO WAS TRULY. INSPIRING!!!!! 🙏IT WAS I M M A C U L A T E. 😉*sobbing on the floor*
My brothers and sisters . Please pray for me. I am struggling with this sin and have for years
A strict prayer schedule, abstaining from screen time, and more meditation and contemplation has helped me. Also regular confession
I'm a mom & I am my son's accountability partner. It is really difficult 💔🙏❤️
That's great you are this close to your son
I recommand the fifteen prayers of st bridget...
This prayer requires you to pray it every day for a year.
That’s great you are there for your son like that
I don't think that will work.
This is heaven sent
The issue in using blockers rather than external accountability often fails upon the lines of the nature of addiction. Addiction is not only rooted in the substance/material, but also, the behavior to consume. When people put blockers in place, they will often seek new and sometimes more destructive means of access. Even if you block content using sophisticated and well integrated tools and give a separate administrator the only credentials by which to remove the measures, you have not addressed the seeking behavior. People may start borrowing devices for renewed access or create a new means of access. One of those could be fantasizing where one's access becomes rooted in their own mind and they can perpetuate the self-abuse on demand and without the need for technology. They may even be more likely to fantasize about people they know and claim to love, which is still using them as the object and removing a certain detatchment. This could be even more damaging to relationships and doesn't address the near occasion of sin in the way they intended. Going the direct external accountability route is facing the problem head on and removes some (though not all) of this risk of seeking alternate means. If you physically cannot do a thing that you feel a need to do, you may start looking for alternatives to get the same result. If you retain the access but create external accountability, you may stumble in the same ways you had been, but the fear of embarassment isn't going to be as strong a motivating factor as an immoveable barrier. But when the relapse eventually takes place, there is a direct mechanism to address it and you will feel that social feedback in a more constructive way. This is someone you have confidence in and don't want to let down. There isn't the same unconditional trust we put in God, but we can trust that He put them in our lives as a resource insofar as they are willing to be one. When the firewall is your accountability partner, why would you care if you subvert some code running on a lifeless machine? As Fr. Mike said, we are made for love, so we ought to put love at the forefront of our means to address the problem.
Well said
Exercise, cook, read a book, play an instrument. Find a hobby not on a screen. Biologically its all about replacing the source of dopamine and finding a healthy one at that
Easy Peasy Method and confession helped me
3 1/2 years 💪🏻
Can you share any advice?
To fight this addiction we also need to set our mind on the superior joy that we have in Christ. If we have any hope of quitting an addiction we must replace the old thing with a new better thing, namely Christ and the wonderful message of salvation. Otherwise we will eventually simply return to old habits again and again. We must always live in the light of eternity, this life is temporary, and so are the pleasures it has to offer.
Romans 8:5-6 "For those who live according to the flesh set their minds on the things of the flesh, but those who live according to the Spirit set their minds on the things of the Spirit. For to set the mind on the flesh is death, but to set the mind on the Spirit is life and peace."
As a psychologist and person with personal experience, I would like to stress the importance of coming clean with yourself. A lot of times, our pornography use is a coping mechanism or a way to distracat ourselves from past experiences, trauma and identity issues. You can try to cut down on the coping, but as lons as the underlying issue is not resolved, it is going to return one way or the other. Mark my words, ofcourse it's not the case for everyone. But a lot of times, it is. God can heal the underlying issues, but you have to be willing to see them.
thanks for shareing this. I think some of my struggles are tottaly due to really deep hurts. please pray for my soul :)
God bless you all! Asking for the intercession of martyr St. Charles Lwanga; St. Valentine patron saint of love, young people, and marriage; St. Agatha martyr of purity; St. Mary of Egypt a sex addict turned saint; and St. Augustine of Hippo Doctor of Grace to our Lord Jesus for help for purity and chastity.
You are so loved! Praying for help to unite all our crosses, so they can be stepping stones to sanctity to be with our Lord Jesus forever in Heaven. Hope you have a light-filled peaceful good week!
Saint Mary of Egypt has a disturbing life story
@@IONov990 Hopefully people learn there's always hope no matter their story. Sainthood is for everyone if we choose with our free will freedom in Love over enslavement to sin. Hope you have a good week!
@@JohnHenrysaysHi I think St. Mary of Egypt's story is an example of that. How is sexual immorality evil though?
In my mind sexual immorality is less offensive than cruelty and hatred.
I think a truly cruel person converting to Christ is more shocking than a sex addict.
@@IONov990 Hi again! I believe sexuality is ordered toward 2 things: Unity (the good of husband and wife), and procreation.
Similar to how bearing false witness against our neighbor is going against speech which I believe is ordered toward truth, sexual immorality is going against its intended good imo, and I believe God is Goodness, the source of all goodness, so I hope to do His will out of love for Him, and not offend Him.
From the 10 commandments
6. Thou shalt not commit adultery.
Commands: chastity in word and deed
Forbids: obscene speech; impure actions alone or with others.
9. Thou shalt not covet thy neighbor's wife.
Commands: purity in thought
Forbids: wilful impure thought and desires.
I believe we all have our gifts and all struggle with lust, wrath, envy, pride, greed, envy, and gluttony and being that all knowing, all loving, all powerful God is the Creator of the heaven and earth , I don't think anything would surprise Him. He loves us all and wants us all be joyful!
Our culture might read this and think not much of it in comparison to someone who tortured and murdered someone:
Matthew 5:27-28: "You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’ But I say to you, everyone who looks at a woman with lust has already committed adultery with her in his heart."
But, our value doesn't come from what the culture thinks. imo. God loves us!
And if I placed my value in what others thought of me, then, I could feel horrible in comparison to those who were tortured to death serving their country.
If someone helped volunteer at children's burn centers, they might feel worthless in comparison, and the culture might not think much of a bed-ridden crippled person who uses her little energy to pray for those in need.
Our value comes from God imo. And He loves us so much!
Jesus suffered and died on the cross to set every single person free. What He did suffering and dying is sufficient for everyone to heal us in all areas of sin of our brokenness.
By knowing what Jesus has done for us, knowing the power of the Holy Spirit in us, by believing we can obey God.
When we obey God, we live well, and by living well, our heart becomes more aligned with the truth, meaning we can see God more clearly and, with pure hearts we can understand what we believe.
I prayed for those struggling with cruelty in their hearts. Please pray for me. Hope you and yours have a light-filled good day!
I love that. “If you fall, fall into the confessional.”
I think the first thing is to address this spiritually through confession fasting and prayer, and put those mechanisms in place as well
Very very true.
Thank you Fr Mike for the head on, compassionate and practical way you dissected the way and need to overcome the sin of pornography
Please pray for me. I’m really struggling right now and I’ve struggled for over ten years. I’ve had a few stretches of sobriety, up to three months, but overall it just gets worse.
Unfortunately, it's one of the few ways I can feel anything. I'm denied love and happiness, but this gives me pleasure and helps ease my mental disorder.
Amen.
Thank you
I thought I was not able to get out of the darkness of pornography 😮😮😮….! Thank God , his light shines in my heart ♥️
Please pray for me. I am a teen and i am dealing with lust
its was in my sadness that i turned to pornography, and yes it is something that I've spent a lot of money on (seeking a new extreme as the previous content became stale). The anonymity of porn is something you bring up correctly, that fact that it is quite easy to hide the content i've been looking at and that it doesn't show as visibly on myself as something like alcohol or drug addiction may have done. The immediacy of porn is also correct as when I feel low or anxious, I know i can find this content instantly. It's sad because feelings of shame have long persisted as after each session I do think to myself 'that was a new low'. What saddens me the most is that all the time ive spent watching and participating in this graphic material, I could've spent with family, friends, learning, assisting the vulnerable, experiencing actual good in this world. It really is the shame that is so heavy, pornography is unbelievable shallow - nothing is gained, nothing is learned, nothing is taught - once I turn off the screen, I realise just how alone I really am.
Greetings. It's so sad that so many people are addicted to P. Im addicted as well. I'm on day 7. I think the root of the addiction must be dealt with. It could be trauma or maybe boredom.I dont know there would be a whole lot of reasons. First I think we need to deal with the root cause. Like if you're bored and you started watching it(at the beginning of this addiction), it just means that you're using it as an escape from the reality. Most of the times I believe it might happen to not face certain things. Like boredom or trauma or something else. For me it was trauma. Because of that trauma I was hyperactive as a kid and I do believe that I started watching it because I didnt want to face this trauma.
I guess, we can beat it if we look at the root cause. Please pray for me. I want to overcome this addiction completely. Praying for you as well.
You’re on the right track.
Look up PornReboot with JK Emezi. Have a morning routine that involves you writing down goals/affirmations that you want to accomplish for your sexual behavior…EX: 1 year from now I will be in full control of my sexual behavior.
EX: I will immediately without delay attack all boundary breaking behaviors with the tools I have at hand.
Read “Breaking the Cycle” by George Collin’s.
Also find out what triggers/urges you to view pornography, it could be social media, loneliness, stress, etc.
God bless you
God Bless
I want help to quit it goes along with compulsively masturbating, but im afraid to confess to my priest and nobody to ask to be an ally on covenant eyes 😢 im embarassed to talk about it with my priest cuz .....he is male and i am not. Anyone got any advice,?
I'm a girl and I confessed my porn addiction and I started praying the rosary daily and I have no cravings to watch It anymore, don't be afraid to talk to the priest... there's nothing he hasn't heard before and porn isn't as bad as some things
ask priest to connect you to a sister?
You are confessing your sins to God, not the priest. A good priest will never make comments on what you did and, if he does, must be for a reason, which is to guide you in the right direction to help you not fall into temptation again. You'll see that, once you do this, you'll feel lighter. Been there, done that.
You are not alone. God wants us to help each other out. It takes courage, but you'll see it gets easier as time passes.
Don't be afraid to confess. I assure you they've heard all sorts of things and pornography/masturbation is not a shock to them. I understand there is an enhanced level of embarrassment being a woman and confessing to sexual sin. I'm a woman who also struggled with lust and have had to confess. It's difficult but confession is a necessity
Priests have heard it all before. Literally, they've likely heard way worse. Theres also the privilege of the seal of confession so everything you confess remains confidential, I believe it's canon law. These issues aren't unique to males, I guarantee that priests have heard it from women too.
I advise that you go to confession and write a list of what you want to confess and out these things at the top. That way, you get them over with and out of the way. Perhaps you might think about writing it down and handing it to the priest to read? The hardest part is showing up to confession, everything that happens after you get there is easy peasy.
This is all coming from someone who is actively struggling with these issues so I know what it's like. Were on this together
I actually permanently moved back to my Laptop, because I feel like being on my faster and better Desktop PC makes me do and post things that are just not who I really am. I know it's sounds super weird when i explain it. But when I'm on my old (recently refurbished) laptop, I feel like there's no pressure in doing/posting things that are not who I really am. Like I said: i know it sounds weird. But that's how I got a lot better with consuming pornographic content.
I'm a woman and i struggle with this. I feel like a piece of trash. Im so ashamed
Hi father mike so true what you say
Amen 🙏
It may not cost us financially but costs us spiritually
AMEN!
4 rosaries every single day. Joyful Mysteries at 6am, Luminous at noon, Sorrowful at 6pm, Glorious at 9pm. You don't have to be scrupulously precise about timing, but do all 20 mysteries every single day. 100% guaranteed success.
Accountability is one important virtue of our Christian faith community that has been lost over the years and we need to speak more about the strong need for it. Satan wants us to cover up our sin and feel trapped by it. The power to break this is to be willing to come into the light that shines through when someone else (loving and trustworthy) knows about the sin that troubles us and can help us be accountable. Just the thought rhat this other person will get to know about the wrong we have done can be strong enough to strengthen our will to resist that sin.
If I share my activity via covenant eyes, I will quit out of embarrassment.
That's the idea
I just recently got covenant eyes, my wife is my only accountability partner though. If I were to add any more, who would you recommend?
Just sometime holding the rosary, Mary is always there with her son to offer.
Father Mike please say a prayer for me. Struggling for 40 + years. Please help me. 😢
Do you still need prayers?
Please pray for me
The last time I made a comment critical of what someone says in these videos the post was deleted within the hour, so I'll keep my thoughts on making an even bigger digital footprint in a fallen world to myself. I have struggled with addiction. I have tried 12-step programs, all kinds of conventional methods with people ultimately behind the wheel. What has kept me clean for more than 30 years? A simple promise to God and a simple request to Him to help me. And I was about as far away from a spiritual person as you could get in those days. Wanna get well? Step 1: Ask for God's help. Step 2: Trust in God's help. Step 3: Remember steps 1 and 2 and take it one day at a time, the 12-step folks have that one right. Sound too simple? The best answers often are. Occam's Razor with Christ at the wheel. But that's me.
The last time I went to confession, my priest said “Pornography will not kill you, but it takes away your freedom, and your freedom is what allows you to love God”
How would Covenant Eyes help with a situation where another person is pushing you or harassing you…
God's grace will come. Always. Dont quit on it.
Pray for me please