Colleen Ballinger Allegations - (Therapist Reacts)
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Dr. Kirk Honda reacts to Colleen Ballinger allegations.
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If I can just point out....even if Ballenger had no "end game" what she has done has made this type of hypersexualized conversation normalised with these tweens.
What happens if they encounter the perv down the street who has actual intent to physically harm? They think, "Well, so and so talks with me this way, it must be normal".
I cant get past that aspect of harm.
This is what ive been saying! Thats why her bringing kids on stage and saying that dates should be somewhere no one can see them or hear them and then telling them to reach into her pants for snacks is so incredibly harmful. These are the exact tactics p*dos use.
Her brother is literally a pdf file. He was in contact with her kid fans too. So far a guy called oliver has come out and shown the grooming from the brother too. I think they were 13 at the time
@nunpho yes and apparently Colleens sister in law has come out against this brother that had the inappropriate contact w Oliver. Its weird af and clearly boundaries were not taught well in the Ballinger family ☹️
Omg it makes me sick to think about that. Colleen probably had this happened to her and this is why she’s like this with children. Otherwise I don’t see how as a mother, she’s okay with how she was behaving all the up til this very year.
This is what I keep trying to say but it seems to fall on deaf ears. People always respond to the grooming allegations with “well she never actually touched a kid or had those intentions!” But she has groomed those kids for OTHER predators, even if unintentional it’s still extremely harmful.
Please keep talking about Colleen because she is trying to slither back out of her hole to profit off her content again. If UA-cam won't deplatform her, then other creators with large followings can help by making sure that her abusive behavior doesn't fade from the public's memory. This isn't even the first time she's made a comeback after controversy.
@ville__ mmkay. Did Adam lie about the tampons in mouth thing because I'm fairly certain I saw a video of Colleen herself doing that. Y'all can try to smear Adam and call him a liar, but he isn't the only accuser. Also...didn't appreciate Colleen's racism either. She's trash, but you continue doing you.
@ville__the way your video got removed and was 2 min long full of nothing. i’ve seen you for months. you’re def in her or kory’s group chats still doing their dirty work.
Years ago, my best friend and I found ourselves in a genuine friendship with two teens at our church. We were both in our late 20s and as the friendship reached its natural end (lifestyle changes for all of us), we were 30. These teens latched onto us and, since becoming adults, have shared that they did so because they felt safe confiding in us and felt they had no one else to be real with. Both teens are in the LGBTQ community and they were hoping we’d be a safe space for them to come out to (and that’s exactly how it went!) So speaking from personal experience, I know exactly what it’s like to be an adult and have teens who want to talk about serious and, sometimes, very sensitive topics. It was something my friend and I talked about constantly - how to navigate and provide a safe space while modeling what we should/shouldn’t say or do, so they could know what an appropriate (perceived) power balance should look like. And with that being said, never, in a million years, did either one of us ever have a difficult time not asking “what’s your favorite sex position?” I can’t FATHOM thinking that’s funny to ask a minor as an adult. We also felt protective of them in that way when they’d share with us things they experienced with other people in their lives, we’d point out when something probably needed some boundaries and what that could look like. I guess what I’m trying to say is, wtf? Colleen is a predator and I can’t believe it took all these years for the general public to see how creepy she’s literally always been.
Good on you and yes I agree and can relate. I was volunteering in Mexico this summer and ended up living in a house with a group of people, some of them were a group of teens from France. They would often ask me advice on my religion, careers, or on their personal struggles, they would talk about their interests with me, and even let me talk about my personal struggles a bit, but I would feel disgusting if I talked about my sex life or trauma dumped on them the way she did. For her to go out of her way to collect Children in a group chat and call them “weenies” made my stomach turn. This woman is vile and needs to be deplatformed.
I'm glad to see you talking about this again because this woman is trying to style her way out of what she wants to represent as a trivial scandal. The more that qualified people such as yourself talk about it, the more difficult it will be for her to do that.
For children to be abused like this for so long makes myself and others believe that those in power do not want those type of laws to pass because they are the abusers as well. And it has bogged down my mental health thinking why is it so many get away with these things? To the point that I'm afraid to even have a kid..
I appreciate you opening up and speaking about that dark feeling of becoming keenly aware that kids are being harmed. Though I'm not a professional, I've had a special interest in developmental psychology. When I see how parents interact with their children, in ways that are considered very "normal, or common, but I know they are actually harmful, all I see are the problems that could grow from that, and it's so disheartening. Especially having my own child now, I see how free and pure and innocent he is, and I see other children his own age who've already begun shoving their feelings, people pleasing, being parentified, and worse things too. I relate so much to the feeling you described, and I feel a little bit better knowing I'm not the only one.
Take care everyone ❤
I used to take a lot of public transit and omg the things I saw.. it is so hard not to speak up and a few times I did. It’s tough though because in the end you’re helpless and I never want to make the parent angry, then the kids are in an even worse spot. Such a hard thing to see
@@tianna1116 Same! Totally know what you mean :( I used to take the bus a lot too, and I also worked customer service in retail... Oh Lord, the things I've seen... I'm glad I'm not alone in that. Sometimes I'd look around to see if others were seeing and thinking what I was, so it's nice to hear other people do actually notice too.
@@Bananaterricottapie yea! That too, the fact that most of the time no one else is really looking like I’m feeling and I’m like, am I the only one seeing this or??? But I think they just get used to being bystanders. I also saw a lot of underdressed babies in the winter. People I swear…
Exactly my thoughts this year as I turned 26 and one of my favorite UA-camrs from high school turned out to be this. Why isn’t this the only thing people are talking about?! Expanding protection for kids could create so many jobs.
Because there’s a lot going on in the world? Wars, cost of living crisis, climate change, the list is endless. People really overestimate the power and impact of online discourse in the real world and social media moves on quickly since it’s more about having something to talk about and not the actual issue. Governments everywhere have neglected child safety on and offline for forever, this isn’t going to make them move any faster, they most likely don’t even know who tf she is. Just look at Shane Dawson, he’s just as bad, still doing his thing and about to be a father who’ll inevitably exploit his kids too
She's done stuff like this way too much!
I am so very glad I found your channel. I love to find a place that I can feel safe. I can't wait to see more of your content. I am a survivor of abuse from my parent and other people in my life. I am just now turning my life around after working hard in therapy for a while. I am finding more places now that understand and validate my experiences. Truly from a survivor I thank you so much for the apology you gave it actually means a lot.
I don't usually say this but "My worlds are colliding". This FilmCooper video was one of my first introductions to this whole controversy after Toxic Gossip Train appeared.
Please Doc, react to her books!
yeah why doesn’t youtube ban her
because not only her but the people making videos about her are making them money and since she’s not convicted of anything they’re technically just accusations so they can say it’s innocent until proven guilty
5:03 Yeah. Wow. (the whole Colleen situation summed up)
Colleen is also a family vlogger! So is her brother. He wrote the Miranda stuff with Colleen 😬
Yea, the inside jokes are part of the language. Not an excuse but I get what you're saying. Also, tooo many adults used language like this 10+ years ago... R*pe jokes or language were completely accepted back then. I don't know when these tweets were but Ive definitely seen a lot of people get called out for their tweets from that long ago that said these kinds of things.
Thank you for- your insights are respected and appreciated!
Colleen Ballinger is no joke. She has manipulated and abused so many children privately and publicly.
She also has mistreated pets since childhood and laughs about it.
This is the most powerful advocacy you’ve made by far Dr Honda thank you
I would really like to hear Dr. Kirk’s take on the actual laboring part of the grooming Colleen did to Adam. I feel like he hasn’t really touched on that much. Adam did a lot of unpaid work or uncredited for Colleen.
Yea. ItsJudysLife is in Seattle. Would love to see these laws implemented in your state.
I can appreciate that you approach things with caution. But when the situation includes exposing children to sexual adult content, that is a hard stop in my book. Colleen Ballinger and her associates should be disavowed. Context is irrelevant in everything surrounding this situation. She needs to be arrested. It doesn't matter if her intentions weren't sexual. It's illegal. Period.
Thank you for bringing out Colleen and in addition just the widespread abuse for children. These people don't care about our youth.
Did she try to blame it on the character or herself... or both? Both are inappropriate either way.
UA-cam supports problematic creators because they make big money!
CB should not be allowed to grift and groom without accountability!
11:29 except clowns 🤡
Idk about calling Charles Manson “Charlie”… feels a little like you’re belittling how dangerous he was idk
Wow what a crossover !
I think UA-cam also as a responsibility to not profit off child abuse
Moral responsibility yes, but unfortunately they have no legal obligation to move against creators who victimize children. The best UA-cam seems to do is act after the problem has become so severe that it cannot be ignored or dismissed without them getting in trouble for helping a criminal profit from their crimes (see them only banning Ruby Franke after she was charged with child abuse, but allowing the literal years of it to be posted with zero qualms).
There definitely need to be more stringent laws to force corporations into protecting the vulnerable because you can be damn sure they will not do it willingly.
I wish UA-camrs would get together and go after her legally or at least pressure UA-cam to kick her off
I’m new to this convo and not sure of everything but it’s interesting to me to see when UA-cam takes action and when they don’t
This isn't even close to everything Colleen has done! His video (while excellent) didn't even get into the Trisha Paytas stuff - which might actually be a crime!
That did come up in the previous video and Dr Honda did talk about it briefly. Actually disgusting...
Honda, what you said about working in a profession where you're close to abuse happening to kids and that feeling of dread and hopelessness is so relatable to me. I had been working with kids since I was a teen and after getting my education degree and starting as a teacher, I couldn't handle it anymore and I changed my career path because of depression I had from seeing these kids go through so many terrible things, you try to help but nothing changes. It's such an awful experience to know a child who you care for is being harmed at home and there's really nothing you can do about it, even when you follow protocol and tell CPS or your boss. Nothing changes. I was really struggling to keep myself together dealing with that day in a day out along with all the other stresses of being a childcare provider / educator. Thanks for your insight.
You are a good person, most teachers don't give a damn abt what kids go through at home. They just complain that you aren't enough this or that, as if school was the main problem for child in dysfunctional family.
But as single person you couldn't do much if you were the one concerned abt a child. At least those kids later remembered that you cared for them and shown some type of support which means a lot.
I do workshops in schools for 4th graders about the dangers of internet use and most teachers are shocked when they find out what the kids already have been exposed to. Laws and education need to catch up on the fast development of the internet.
Thats great what you do. I've been saying for years that internet literacy is *so* important and should be taught in school.
@@nunpho YES!
THANK YOU FOR SPEAKING OUT ON THIS… as a STRUGGLING social service worker/healthcare worker who is experiencing those same hardships and systemic barriers to change. It’s so profoundly corrupt.
The inequity is so disempowering and heartbreaking. The lack of advocacy is disheartening. The lack of LISTENING in leadership is appalling. The burnout is so real.
thank you for talking about the demoralizing feeling of realizing abuse and harm is happening around us constantly. it can take such a toll. I came to this realization working as a vet tech and have deeply struggled with it ever since. Hoping that those of us who show up to help can stay strong and keep helping.
21:41 you made me cry…thank you for reaching my inner child and helping her heal even just a little bit…thank you and please excuse me as I cry
🤗
Hugs!!
He’s fake.
I appreciate your impassioned words at the end about children in our society being abused. I work in children’s mental health and it’s everywhere- all the time in both big and small ways. Obviously doing this work I do have hope that people can help and that I help, in small ways, impacting people when I can. However, what I don’t have much hope for- sadly- is that our society (as a whole) cares about children. We mock children’s feelings, we punish them harshly, we joke about how “annoying” they are, we shame them, we tell them to behave or else. In general, adults want children to sit still and be quiet. I’m speaking about our culture generally and of course this isn’t true of every family or every parent or every system. But it is our cultural view of children. And until that shifts- I just don’t see how their rights and safety will be prioritized. They definitely deserve better from all of us.
Ughhh...this is all so tough...my children are in grade school and my husband and I have largely kept them off of electronics. Now that they are at school and see that other children's parents let them have free reign on tablets and phones...it has made things so difficult. Our children think we are awful for keeping them from what all the other kids are able to watch. They wonder why they aren't able to have phones and tablets ( we are talking about Kindergartners and a 1st grader) I know I am doing the right thing for my kids...but I really wish more parents would get onboard with the negative impact that electronics and the Internet are having on our children.
I had the privilege to work with a family therapist after I had some mental health issues and was struggling. My son is autistic and eloped from the house and CPS got involved. I was really lucky to get a social worker who just really cared about us. They saved us. The system is so broken though, and it was a hard truth to witness. I was able to work with a specialized family therapist, and a parent aid would come to my home weekly. They were so excited to be working with someone who truly wanted their help, but at the same time, because I was so willing and improved quickly with their support, I was no longer a “danger” so I no longer qualified for their support. I cried when they told me they had to close my case, and it did feel almost like I was being punished for doing too well. It’s got to be tough to deal with from the other side as well, I have a lot of respect for social workers and anyone working with the public trying to make the world better.
That sounds heartbreaking for both sides.
It's becoming increasingly clear that the situation is unacceptable. With the accumulating evidence, it's imperative that their channel be permanently suspended.
You mentioned you didn't see it in the news, but I find the news to be very stingy with information on UA-camrs.
Because most people don’t give a fuck about youtubers and there’s other things going on in the world? Wars, cost of living crisis, that fun stuff? There not going to report on people that only have name recognition with a demographic that probably doesn’t even watch/ read the news and is incredibly fickle at the best of times
I’m not convinced she wasn’t actually trying to groom these kids and she isn’t actually a predator. I understand maybe it’s about profit but the way she acted like a groomer is just so creepy
I feel the same way. It isn't just what was revealed here (and on the original FilmCooper video). Back when this all came out I went on a deep dive researching Colleen Ballinger to understand who this woman was, and the things I found were just appalling.
It's more than the inappropriate messages, the underwear, the fan interactions...she has a long history of being extremely inappropriate around children, in-character and as herself.
I know it's a horrific accusation to make, but I really do wonder if she isn't at least borderline attracted to kids. It wouldn't surprise me, but what does shock me is how long she has been allowed to get away with her antics for so long.
why not for me?
Thank you for being YOU, Dr. Kirk 🙋♀️❤️💐
I saw on another podcast regarding predators that there are only about 8,000 people worldwide in a position to combat child trafficking yet millions worldwide who make sure you pay your taxes. That is a disturbing factoid. Why aren’t children being protected more in this world? It’s so sad, thanks for talking about this issue Dr. Honda.
I feel like at best- her hyper sexuality is her only avenue to humour. Without this, she lacks any identity or comedic value (in her eyes)
Thank you for your caring and thoughtful content . Imagine if Adam didn’t have the platform that he does . She would have escaped all scrutiny a second time around .
Filmcooper and psychology in Seattle is a crossover I wasn’t expecting today! Nice surprise
Why ain’t she in jail!?
because they didn’t sue her
Thank you for covering this. It's important.
I would appreciate if you can talk about the two books that Colleen made and give your opinion on them? I am disgusted by them. I don’t understand how these books exist.
I was thinking about how my parents monitered my internet 20 years ago. Really, from 95 to 2004. I dont think they had a good enough understanding of what was dangerous on the internet to stop me from doing anything. Other than sharing the family computer, I had free reign over what I did on the internet. In other aspects of my life they were very strict: dating, curfews, parties, etc. But not the internet.
Im definitely hearing more people talk about laws regarding family vlogging and the harm and exploitation that comes from that. Ya gotta realize that it has only been recently that people even started asking the questions of whether or not it is harmful. It makes sense too that as the first wave vlogger kids get older, we will see this exposed for what it is. Ruby frankes oldest kids are now adults and have said some things.. Cole and Sav labrants oldest daughter is almost a teen.. I feel they will all air it out and that's when laws will be made. Right now, we only go off the principle that it can be exploitative. We don't see what happens behind closed doors, but those kids do. Those kids are most likely not going to get a dime of that money, which I hope leads them to really telling the world what they went through.
More people are paying attention to the actual videos too. People like Lo Beeston, who has a 2 year old who has broken bones like 3 times (and one was already healed, meaning they never took her to the Dr), comes to mind. People notice now. That same kid just broke her collarbone and they chose to still fly to some island for an ad, not even having her wear the required sling for healing. It's sick.. They use their kids for money and then completely neglect them (Franke being an extreme case we see seeing). I really hope we will see laws made in the next 10 years that protect these kids and require parents put money in a trust just like child actors have the coogan law.
Oh yay film cooper! Im sure you've been recommended these already but swoops series on this is very comprehensive, h3 have covered this a lot too.
Its awful because for most people they just know the very surface level stuff.
i really like your philosophical point of view on this it's clear that you are very introspective and care A LOT. i had a similar reaction when my parent told me that we all die and i thought okay thats awful why isn't all of humanity working on making us live longer.. the world is so strange with priorities.
I think this "Doctor" needs a review by the board. This doesn't seem right. This is more than just gossip. This is a licensed doctor speaking gossip as if it were facts. This cannot be right.
Try to open a case. See where that gets you, Karen.
Great point about her being self- employed. I appreciate your clear, rational take on this. I hope UA-cam will listen to this.
I am a survivor of childhood sexual assault and I’m worried that he and his family and
my family are still hurting children and I’ve tried to talk to DCFS and the police but nether will acknowledge what is happening. Everyone tells me I need to stop caring and just forget about it because I can’t protect everyone, but if I am quite certain, he and his family are still doing it to other children how can I just forget and not worry and try to stop him?
I don’t know what to do.
This woman should be on a registry or something. Or rather just get whatever help sex offenders get.
yo our baby girl cooper!!!!
Mr Rogers would say you are a "helper." It is refreshing to see others bothered by society's lack of humanity and protecting children. You're not alone ❤ Education and legislation need to happen.
I understand a kid going around saying shocking things because well, shock value can be funny. I remember doing that as a kid as well. The shock value, the taboo-ness. Like, you understand it's not a good thing to say, but you don't understand how bad it is.
But for an adult to join in, that's just helluva creepy. Especially an adult in a power position.
She made her content to put her right in the middle of that hun, it was deliberate 🤷♂️
My kid is not allowed to watch UA-cam because of the fact that it’s so unregulated. I know I'm in the minority in our social circle though.
Wait I’ve been groomed and I DO want to watch these videos. Does that mean there’s something wrong with me?
sesame Street is still going strong
Eye opening
How does this keep getting worse?
Wait till you hear about her books
I appreciate you taking more of a deep dive in this case. I was concerned with your first video on these instances that you were not getting the full story and were glossing over a lot of alleged facts on Ballinger's behavior. It's amazing this went on for years, much of it out in the open with her Miranda character.
my favourite youtuber making a video reacting to a youtuber i really like!!!?? Feels like heaven
Oh wow didn't expect cooper here lol
@13:25 it’s true. I remember seeing a thumbnail for a kids channel which looked very normal but once you clicked the video, the whole video was just a half naked woman smoking cigarettes. wtf
Also there are “character channels” of adults who dress as Elsa, Mario, etc. and if you watch the videos, a lot of them just simulate what seems to be fetish corn(p***). Like one of the characters sits on the floor and the two others will urinate on him and laugh. What the hell is that
On different topic, could you do something on child murderers, as the mother of a 15 year old girl the savage and premeditated murder of a young trans girl @briannaghey by two fifteen year olds, has shocked me to the core. Many thanks for your wonderful work ❤
The tweets about R*pe are so yucky especially since her profile picture is of her and a child (I assume is her kid) her judgment is so bad she's dangerous.
I can't believe we are getting a Film Cooper/Dr. Honda crossover. I'd love it if the subject wasn't so horrible.
This is UA-camr inception for me - two brilliant content creators in my eyes 👏🏼
We don’t let our kid watch UA-cam, their is so much trash and horrible things floating around on the internet.
LOVE FILM COPPER. - love this, thank you
She has not been charged or convicted for anything she's done/said. So i say, leave her alone.
Thank you for calling it out. This is awful.
9:35 you were sooo close to getting it 😏
16:49 he totally get this from his mom
Thank you Dr Honda 💙
Thank you
Cooper!!
But I don’t think her goal was grooming. She’s just really immature, the kind of stuff she’s saying is what we talked like in secondary school when we first learned about sex.
I think what we need to address is giveing parents ways to control what children see.
She is not in secondary school. Some people have a phd by the time theyre colleens age.
My love, grooming isn't a goal - it's a set of behaviours. Colleen's actions are definitively grooming. Her personal aims we cannot truly know, that would be purely speculative, but we can assess what she gained. She got 4 years worth of edits, photos, videos, jokes, concepts and tweets from Adam as well as his involvement in defending her in online forums and bullying her ex and any detractors alongside the rest of the weenies. Two of the girls have said they babysat multiple times for her family. She made a lot of money, and tbh it seems to me that she enjoyed herself immensely. Look past the bony little female back, she's not as harmless as she may appear. Who vlogs a dead cat? Colleen. Who makes a masturbation joke and then gets a small boy to reach into her pants? Colleen does. Who leaves a 15yo alone on the streets of a capital city they are unfamiliar with? Yep you guessed it - Colleen. Who puts her hand down her husband's trousers on a vlog, and continues after he repeatedly tells her not to? Colleen. Who audibly comments that she "can't see" a man because his skin tone is too dark at a Netflix screen test? Colleen does that too. Who shares dms with another creator on the understanding that they will edit them to defame a 17yo? I wonder... Oh yeah, it was Colleen. I would invite you to suspend your disbelief, and reassess her behaviour because it is objectively deliberate, predatory and cruel 🤷♂️ It may help if you imagine that the allegations are against a man if your having too much trouble. Just picture Epstein and look at the evidence maybe 🙄 Internalised misogyny and the infantalisation of female predators is WILD 🤦♂️
She's in her 30s...
cooper is amazing 🫶
WHY do you keep covering this over and over … come on now.
first of all he clearly states at the beginning that people are requesting it.
second of all it's that people keep talking about it cause clearly she's still out there doing her regular content again and pushing the narrative that all of this are just allegations, lies or she just made a fart joke or whatever her excuse is
because people want it and it’s content and that’s what youtube is about
Because the Colleen Ballinger hate brigade has taken over the channel, thanks to H3H3 dragging him into it. That’s why I bounced.
@@GirlieCarolinas totally get it. Enough is enough. Let it go ! Damn.
@@diyannastar90 sooooo whattt. Get over it
This needs a tw/cw in the title
Its in the description and he says it in the video before discussing anything too
None of you know anything except heresy. All of you nosey peoplejust have a deep need to spread negativity. The colleen ballinger drama should have been kept between actual people involved. Thess days it's all about drama and " canceling ". Move on people! Mind your own business. Also, glad you're all so perfect and make no mistakes. Congrats to you
Why are you watching a video about a topic that does not interest you?
Looks like all proof to me not “heresy”
Predators should not be ignored and allowed to just go on hurting children because "it's nosey" to talk about it. See something, say something. Spreading this info will help those in the future avoid predator behavior. Helping people is worth being called "nosey"
Also being a predator is not a mistake, it's a calculated action. Actions that colleen purposely did for years. No mistakes there. All intentional. Most people's "mistakes" aren't preying on children
Hi Colleen. We know it’s you commenting.
You mean you also had PIZZA parties?
I love that he is watching the Marsha P. Johnson guy lol