Historically, you seem to have been good in prioritizing. Trust in your ability. A person tends to feel overwhelmed when he/she has taken on too much; it’s a sign something needs to be dropped or priority much lowered.
Consider seeing a therapist. It can be constructive to get an objective perspective from a trained therapist. I have a close friend who has tended to be emotionally avoidant. He was was stuck in rut of feeling bad. Our relationship is complicated, so I suggested he see an objective therapist. He put it off for a while, but eventually he went. After a few weekly sessions he is feeling more comfortable and can see different pathways out of his funk. Things felt worse before they felt better. When he finally started to confront some things he felt his stress manifesting in a physical way. We can suppress a lot of complicated feelings. Facing that in an objective way can be a challenge. My friend has made great progress. Therapy may be constructive for you. Not all therapists are good. Some are bad, so don’t be too quick to dismiss the value of therapy based on a bad experience. I’m sure you are aware that the echoes of our past relationship experiences can affect our present and future relationship interactions. Our relationships with our parents leave a big imprint on us, even when we subconsciously learn effective coping strategies. I’ve been through some shit. I adapt and move on, but I know there are some kludgey workarounds in the code of my consciousness. To whatever extent it may matter, know that I care for you. Babies scare me. It took me quite a while to become comfortable with my nephews. It helped when they could speak and we could start to try to reason with each other. I like that I get to be their fun uncle. I’m not a big fan of children in general, but I have a good relationship with my nephews. They are very loving and I want to do everything I can to give them a better childhood than I had. I always try to give them attention, encouragement and an appreciation for complexity. They like to play chase with me. I can manage being an intensive uncle for a few hours. I also do appreciate it when I get to go home and relax. I like being an uncle, but I am glad I’m not a father. Do you have an attic? It may be a trapdoor in the ceiling (possibly in a closet). That may be a good hiding place for gifts. Just be aware it probably won’t be conditioned so it could reach freezing temperatures. I hope you have had a wonderful and restorative vacation.
I have been thinking about it, it will definitely help me its just a time sink and quite expensive! I've never been very open about anything like that... so I'm not sure how it will affect me, but maybe I should do it one day! Babies are terrifying - I'm pretty broody but this did put me off :P I also like my own space sometimes and I'm not sure how that will interplay with kids! Ironically the loft is always super hot! Very well insulated that bad boi!
I hate to hear that you're having these struggles mentally. But I do hope you get those feelings you mentioned sorted out! Maybe work makes you happy but also causes stress because work life can really take a toll on us even though we care about it so much because it's a passion, I feel like society pushes us to the brink of insanity sometimes to become successful/feel successful. Although, I do not know your internal struggles, I really do wish you well.
I think I took on too much stuff at once, and work being stressful means I don't want to do what I enjoy at home which stresses me out even more! This is all my own doing to be honest :P I've taken a big break and will slowly start ramping up again until it is bareable :P
Historically, you seem to have been good in prioritizing. Trust in your ability. A person tends to feel overwhelmed when he/she has taken on too much; it’s a sign something needs to be dropped or priority much lowered.
I do have too much going on I probably should drop some stuff :(
Consider seeing a therapist. It can be constructive to get an objective perspective from a trained therapist. I have a close friend who has tended to be emotionally avoidant. He was was stuck in rut of feeling bad. Our relationship is complicated, so I suggested he see an objective therapist. He put it off for a while, but eventually he went. After a few weekly sessions he is feeling more comfortable and can see different pathways out of his funk. Things felt worse before they felt better. When he finally started to confront some things he felt his stress manifesting in a physical way. We can suppress a lot of complicated feelings. Facing that in an objective way can be a challenge. My friend has made great progress. Therapy may be constructive for you. Not all therapists are good. Some are bad, so don’t be too quick to dismiss the value of therapy based on a bad experience. I’m sure you are aware that the echoes of our past relationship experiences can affect our present and future relationship interactions. Our relationships with our parents leave a big imprint on us, even when we subconsciously learn effective coping strategies. I’ve been through some shit. I adapt and move on, but I know there are some kludgey workarounds in the code of my consciousness. To whatever extent it may matter, know that I care for you.
Babies scare me. It took me quite a while to become comfortable with my nephews. It helped when they could speak and we could start to try to reason with each other. I like that I get to be their fun uncle. I’m not a big fan of children in general, but I have a good relationship with my nephews. They are very loving and I want to do everything I can to give them a better childhood than I had. I always try to give them attention, encouragement and an appreciation for complexity. They like to play chase with me. I can manage being an intensive uncle for a few hours. I also do appreciate it when I get to go home and relax. I like being an uncle, but I am glad I’m not a father.
Do you have an attic? It may be a trapdoor in the ceiling (possibly in a closet). That may be a good hiding place for gifts. Just be aware it probably won’t be conditioned so it could reach freezing temperatures.
I hope you have had a wonderful and restorative vacation.
I have been thinking about it, it will definitely help me its just a time sink and quite expensive! I've never been very open about anything like that... so I'm not sure how it will affect me, but maybe I should do it one day!
Babies are terrifying - I'm pretty broody but this did put me off :P I also like my own space sometimes and I'm not sure how that will interplay with kids!
Ironically the loft is always super hot! Very well insulated that bad boi!
I hate to hear that you're having these struggles mentally. But I do hope you get those feelings you mentioned sorted out! Maybe work makes you happy but also causes stress because work life can really take a toll on us even though we care about it so much because it's a passion, I feel like society pushes us to the brink of insanity sometimes to become successful/feel successful. Although, I do not know your internal struggles, I really do wish you well.
I think I took on too much stuff at once, and work being stressful means I don't want to do what I enjoy at home which stresses me out even more! This is all my own doing to be honest :P I've taken a big break and will slowly start ramping up again until it is bareable :P
@@JamiePedsVlogs Good to hear that you recognized the issue and took steps to feel better 😄 You're a good hard worker!