This is pure garbage and beta talk. Men are teaching men to be women and telling women to go out snd experience life. Black men ate broken . He give you this advice and sleep with who they want.
Grown Men Realize That Adultery Is Destruction of Stability of The Home. Apologies/Excuses Are for Weak Selfish Arrogant Men Look for Forgiveness for Planned Humiliation of The Family & Everyone.
I appreciate u saying this because at the time my ex husband was always looking for a reason to cheat. He didn’t value the word marriage. He used women to get him out of his marriage, because he was a coward to tell me that he didn’t wanna be married anymore. He told me that he didn’t want no good woman.
I just told my husband this yesterday. I know it's a cliche, but it's true! Grass is greener because it's being nurtured..it's being taken cared of! It's not brown and dry.
Being a woman who was cheated on by her husband, I respect him for putting this out here. It’s never the same. I chose to take him back despite what has happened, and every day it gets easier. I decided to take him back, and I can’t hold that over his head for as long as we’re together. It’s a work in progress, but the toll it takes on a relationship when a man/woman cheats on their partner is just not worth it. Especially when the person being cheated on is a good human being. It’s so hurtful.
And he's going to keep doing it because you keep taking him back hopefully he doesn't give you something you can't get rid of . Get some sense and leave they only cheat better never stop
@@weaveandwelfaretookblackme No he's not shit up! Just cause it consistently happens to you doesn't mean that's her reality stop poisoning the water of good woman with all your man hate & bitterness! Obviously she's a better woman than you which why she's working thru it, rather than taking the easy way out & just leaving. She'll be rewarded for her loyalty in the end unlike you still bouncing around lost & damaged!
I pray for you. I walked away from marriage because of the lies , deceit, cheating, abusive behavior. I am free of it. I didn’t want anything from him. We do have a daughter and I pray that they have a relationship. Because I couldn’t deal with it. I pray that God will give you the strength to endure it all.
I stayed as well. It has been beyond the hardest thing that I have had to do after the devastation and betrayal. I have seen how it wrecked both of us. Day by day we are getting better. But I know that our relationship has changed in so many ways for good and bad after the incident.
I have many shortcomings but I vowed from jump never to cheat on my wife. I never want to be in a position to have to earn her trust all over again because it's never the same. you can't un-ring that bell. 12 years strong and, Lord willing, a lifetime to go.
Especially if you really love them. Once you break my trust I can't trust you no more and will leave you in the dust. I don't give second chances no more I know my worth and not accepting nothing below it. It's only up from here
What's the difference bruh. If you cheat u still LEFT anyway? If u was who u thought u were to her, then she would've forgave u over time & u would still get her back! Some of y'all need to face the fact that u were just not that great of a loss to her! 🤷🏾♂️
@@moneymarr Don't reflect your own inner depravities on this man who has empathy, the ability to reflect and obviously is able to hold himself accountable. You could learn from him, he already faced his facts. Meanwhile you go on to call every woman a poser for not taking you back after cheating. If my husband ever cheats on me that means he is able to disrespect me at the highest level. I would leave him as the trust would be irreversibly broken and I obviously misjudged who he is. It would break me but that's what it would have to be to retain my peace.
@@moneymarr nor should he have been any loss to her. If she did have any insecurities that he may not be loyal and faithful to her, didnt he prove her correct? Men entitle themselves to disrespecting & hurting us and being received back. Deeply believing you don’t have to be fair. Let a woman step out on her husband first then the conversation shifts and changes significantly. Hypocrisy. If your wife is of genuine value to you, then you wouldn’t have willingly taken part in anything that could bring you to lose her. She saw she was of no loss to HIM & honored herself enough not to pretend she didn’t. Every woman should leave the 1st time, or if she stays go and be with the man that’s been tempting her while she was faithful. Then reconcile. A fair exchange is no robbery.
I never looked at him the same after he cheated, it was like he joined my enemies to destroy me. I hope he enjoyed what he achieved, a self demoted King .
@@shoreshot1212 you could know them through and through yet they still cheat. I’ve heard love defined as giving someone the power to hurt you and hoping they won’t.
My son's father broke our family with repeated infidelity. I see a change in him, but I don't trust him and I can't look at him without a level of pain and resentment because of how much he hurt me. He keeps saying he just wants his family back the way it was, but it can never go back. I honestly enjoy the peace of co-parenting and I hope he finds someone he feels deserves his love without being traumatized first.
Never ever go back. I did that; it only got worse. I'm 65 and my family is literally dieing and destroyed because of my trying to save their father and our marriage. It's so too late now. I regret every single day.
@@paulahayes428 Sorry to hear and the older a man gets, the more (let me see if I still got it) theory GETS WORSE. I'd rather be alone and not be with anyone, therefore no lies will be told to me, only to find out later on that the person that I was committed to wasn't committed. Pfft.
If you see change in him … he might be really sorry and realizes it’s not worth it. Coming from a. Cheater we just need the wake up call … give that man a chance.
Watch the breakfast club from the past few years. He won't even engage in certain conversations anymore with the women guests, or look at them if they start tweaking or doing anything of the matter. He turns his head. Looks like he's definitely changed
@@ladylady8745 for one this is bullshit you can be a great man but if she not a great woman none of this shit means anything he just making shit sounds good good men get played all the time even if they committed this is all bullshit
my dad still regrets it 29 years and 2 marriages later. i can feel the pain when i talk to him. Deep regret, every moment it looks like he wants to cry 😢
Your Dad is in my prayers. Has your mom forgiven him? I hope you can help to restore your father rights as a forgiven man and love him with forgiveness. We all fall period.
@mocha6767 to help your Dad he is still a man.. Even though he hurt your mom he is still a man that's his right to be respected as... I hope that makes sense for you
The real problem is there's so many people not being honest with themselves and others. If you're a man/woman that knows that you want casual sex or to just have fun with nothing serious then BE HONEST about it. When you meet people say that shit straight up and if they're cool then cool. But don't tell somebody you love them, then get in a serious relationship or get married AND THEN sleep around because you'll break somebody's heart. Shit is crazy smh
💯 I can tell you that it’s the truth. Yea I’m happy and my family taken care of and we in a good place a couple years later but it eats me alive. I’m 💯 a different person now. Family first man family first. Love your kids love your wife, it’s all you’ll have at the end.
Takes a man to admit his faults. There are comments where even if thus man spoke this truth, still try to blame the person they cheated on. Accountability is key. Props to you for that.
Not one of us is WITHOUT fault!! You're growing though. You've learned because you're admitting it. I pray that your next relationship is full of the most love and blessings
@@pauletteducksworth7062 tell Eve that! ask Adam how they went . Men love unconditionally woman love conditionally. Woman ruining families is something that’s well documented ( even in todays court system its prevalent ).
These are the lessons that need to be taught in black communities because there is a underlying restraint from us building successful families, generation after generation.
I blame that on the poisonous music that infiltrates our communities brainwashing and controlling. Are you responsible and accountable for your actions and should be? Of course,but we also share the world with *INFLUENCE*
SOme of us know how to separate the entertainment of radio personalities and real life. Some of us udnerstand the difference between a character being portrayed on radio and the actual real human being.
The Word says: Men, treat your wives with consideration, so nothing can be an obstacle to your prayers. That's why my husband stay winning. Because he treats me like gold. God will continue to bless him.
This is the conversation we don’t have enough as black men. But when you make the change it truly makes a huge difference in your life as well as your family.
Charlamagne said before that he’s been unfaithful to his wife, and couldn’t stand himself for it. He’s the perfect person with the perfect ethos to talk about this
This is so true, I have always said and noticed that couples who are faithful and devoted to one another, God really bless those families in every area of their lives. You connect on a spiritual level and believe me there is Nothing better than that. God bless
@@OneRJRhodes I feel you, the same can be said for the some of these men. But good PEOPLE with good intentions are hard to find in this world full of anger, vengeance and trauma. All I can say is become proactive in protecting your energy and spaces. Go to places where there are others who share your interests, only keep company that keeps you in good spirit, and never compromise your integrity. Stay true to who you are and what you like as a whole. And maybe another “Whole” individual will feel right at home in your presence. That’s true harmony in a relationship. I hope you experience that connection with someone in this lifetime 😊. Be blessed.
@@OneRJRhodes See, that comment right there is indeed part of the problem. Negative people will continue to attract negative energy. Good, stay single. Hopefully good women will avoid Fearful Fred.
The last Christmas with my Dad, I was telling a story of a time when he was drunk and spent the night with another woman. The way he told it was so funny; so since he was battling cancer, I told the story. He got quite and then said: " I thought being a man meant having a lot of women, but I've learned a real man loves his wife, children and takes care of his family." It was a very sobering moment and provided insight and I'm a woman. My Mom was a super hero for dealing with his foolery. I love them for being great parents and keeping us together. I now know that must have been hard because they grew up together! Literally.
He is absolutely right, take it from a wife that was cheated on, we had everything, we built a successful business, children, family, friends then he let the money we were making go to his head, the money just brought who he was all along. I have been so blessed after that because I know I was a good wife to him.
A lot of my friends are this way. You become what you surround yourself with. I realized that after being an idiot for 20+ years as a young man. Cheating is weak if you say you’re committed, then turn your back on the person your closest to in the world just for superficial pleasure, you’re a coward. Love and family is the thing that brings the most pleasure in life not some girl in pain that needs your attention to distract herself from the pain for 15 minutes, but men are stupid, cute face and a fat butt, they’ll throw their family away. Some women are strong and you mess up once, that’s it. You might not be living with your kids anymore just because you were weak.
We all have weaknesses. Let’s not kid ourselves: there is a reason that many cultures allow men to have many wives, but not the other way around. Women are very often ok with it provided you can make up for it in other ways.
One of the few times I can whole heartedly agree with Charlemagne. Ruined my family and career over some BS almost 30 years ago and still regret it today.
charlemagne was raised in the truth so what he "learned", he already knew...He just had to find out for himself the hard way after almost breaking the person he took vows to love n protect
Facts i cheated before but when I got married and I cheated while married that shit hit different and really make you rethink life in general..til this date it hurt I did that to my wife but I told her the truth and since than I haven't been the same because I realize exactly what Charlemagne is saying 100%truth
I’m with Charla when he’s right. Fellas. Treat your lady right while she’s here. I wish I could fix some of the things I did, now I’m a single father trying to figure things out while raising 2 girls with some regret of things I did during my marriage! RIP Wifey I miss you
His growth has been miraculous. Went from hating the persona to listening to this man's morning show regularly and actually appreciating his contributions.
Watching my father live with the regret of leaving our family for another woman is heartbreaking. No matter how many times I tell him I forgive him and it’s been decades he can’t let go of the damage he did. His relationship with the new woman failed and my sister became a teen mom and my mom had a another baby that I know he wishes with all his heart was his bio child. 😢
My father left my mother for his mistress he had for 20 years, he told my mother to get life insurance because he is not going to bury her! He was right he buried his wife who died from cancers about 5 years after he left my mother. My mother became a single woman again after 25 years of marriage, no education, no real job skills. and scared to death. Its was rough but she still alive a well, just retired at 85 she is still single! Relationship can be traumatizing! I pray you dad finds peace and find love again! I hope your mom is happy!
This is why im so faithful... i love to love... i love being commited and i believe in the growth of a union... i never met a man who felt i was worth anything other than a place holder but i still love despite it all... i may never have romance but i will always welcome love and faithfulness and pour it into everyone i encounter.. i try to give the best of me to the world... although im not perfect my intentions are rooted in love and i try to make everyone feel that
I cheated and left a woman that was for me and only me.. that sht still haunts me. My life hasn't been the same ever since. I'm fortunate to have a second chance with another woman and I promise, I will not let that happen again. 💯
I applaud Charlamagne for speaking this truth. He is saying something that many men need to hear. I commend him to be man enough to put that message out there. Much love❤
This is refreshing to hear brothers like these trying hard to teach men to be good men . Understanding that if they didn’t have someone to set a great example they can make a difference starting now.
My husband messed up at one point while we were dating in college. He broke the bank getting counseling for us and himself. Although he is a changed man he still to this day feels a deep remorse and regret for what he put me through and it shows through his transparency, communication, efforts, maturity etc.
It’s black men getting counseling for me. After the infidelity we each went to personal counseling and marriage counseling. He could have said I did t do anything wrong or he could’ve refused counseling but he knew something was wrong. And honestly we all have some sort of ptsd that weighs on the decisions we make. We just have to hold ourselves accountable.
Thats a whole fact once i left the streets bars,clubs,etc and decided to focus on my lady and kids my lifes elevated fast everything started going good for me before it was nothing but stress and always broke
Y'all dudes is charmin soft out here now....Damn! Smh. You look her in her face & say it wasn't me & move tf on! Make it her choice to either believe u or not. If she's the one accusing u, then the burden of proof is on her! Make her show u, but u NEVER voluntarily admit to a damn thing! 😫🤦🏾♂️
I learned this lesson the hard way, but I learned it young so it’s helped me tremendously. Cheating is so stupid, I hate that I was “that dude”. The day I realized that was the day karma came back and got me with the first one I actually cared about 😂😂😂. I took it as karma and moved on and bettered myself in every way. It’s changed my perspective to the point where I’ve learned so much about myself as a person. Just because you can do something doesn’t mean you should, but that becomes easier when you find someone you truly care about. Temptation is always going to be there, especially being a young man with something going for yourself. Stay strong my brothers💪🏽
My grandfather fought for 10 years to get his family back. They spent 60 years together. He said in the years before he passed, "had I truly listened to your grandmother, we'd own half of Fort Lauderdale now". 🤦🏾♀️
Thank you, thank you, thank you for confirming my experience. When each spouse SHUTS the door to the possibility of even being with someone other than their spouse, you open up another world that few couples ever experience! And it's beautiful. Try it.
This truly touched me down in my soul. Tears filling my eyes as I type. Charlamagne - May the Lord keep you and protect you all the days of your life .
@@MrNewminds that's fine. But we still have to live amongst humans. And anyway, I prefer to take on the responsibility of being that trustworthy person so that someone doesn't have to lose complete hope in humanity and rely solely on God. Also, I was raised a Catholic and God disappointed me endlessly.
When a man hurts his wife and destroys his family, he ruins his blessing.
YEEEESSSSS. 💯💯💯
Let go of guilt
When a woman does it she gets the house the kids and half his money….. seems fair
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The Bible speaks on that
Peace of mind is everything. This is grown man talk right here
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Silly. His wife got cheating recently 😂
This is pure garbage and beta talk. Men are teaching men to be women and telling women to go out snd experience life. Black men ate broken . He give you this advice and sleep with who they want.
Grown Men Realize That Adultery Is Destruction of Stability of The Home. Apologies/Excuses Are for Weak Selfish Arrogant Men Look for Forgiveness for Planned Humiliation of The Family & Everyone.
Cherish a good woman when she gives you her heart because you turn her cold it will never be the same
Truer words ever spoken. When you kill the love, there is no come back.
Yeah my ex want me back but he’s broken my heart to many times. I’m just gonna have to be the one that got away. 🎉
Love ❤ & light 🌟 guys 👍🏽
Facts
Vice-versa
True words
This is the kind of positive masculinity we need. Yeas king slay!
This negativity
@@ZTREX11 how?
Yesss ❤❤❤❤
@@ZTREX11what 😢
Yea, grown man shit ❤
Lying and cheating is exhausting, it's not worth it.
I appreciate u saying this because at the time my ex husband was always looking for a reason to cheat. He didn’t value the word marriage. He used women to get him out of his marriage, because he was a coward to tell me that he didn’t wanna be married anymore. He told me that he didn’t want no good woman.
Facts….the grass is greener where you water it.
Hello somebody
I just told my husband this yesterday. I know it's a cliche, but it's true! Grass is greener because it's being nurtured..it's being taken cared of! It's not brown and dry.
Preach!
Bars
That’s a bar!
Marriage is more than a Piece of paper . . . It’s a blessing ❤
Being a woman who was cheated on by her husband, I respect him for putting this out here. It’s never the same. I chose to take him back despite what has happened, and every day it gets easier. I decided to take him back, and I can’t hold that over his head for as long as we’re together. It’s a work in progress, but the toll it takes on a relationship when a man/woman cheats on their partner is just not worth it. Especially when the person being cheated on is a good human being. It’s so hurtful.
And he's going to keep doing it because you keep taking him back hopefully he doesn't give you something you can't get rid of . Get some sense and leave they only cheat better never stop
@@weaveandwelfaretookblackme No he's not shit up! Just cause it consistently happens to you doesn't mean that's her reality stop poisoning the water of good woman with all your man hate & bitterness! Obviously she's a better woman than you which why she's working thru it, rather than taking the easy way out & just leaving. She'll be rewarded for her loyalty in the end unlike you still bouncing around lost & damaged!
I pray for you. I walked away from marriage because of the lies , deceit, cheating, abusive behavior. I am free of it. I didn’t want anything from him. We do have a daughter and I pray that they have a relationship. Because I couldn’t deal with it.
I pray that God will give you the strength to endure it all.
I stayed as well. It has been beyond the hardest thing that I have had to do after the devastation and betrayal. I have seen how it wrecked both of us. Day by day we are getting better. But I know that our relationship has changed in so many ways for good and bad after the incident.
@@sisterstaketoo1981it wasn’t merely an incident - it was his decision.
I have many shortcomings but I vowed from jump never to cheat on my wife. I never want to be in a position to have to earn her trust all over again because it's never the same. you can't un-ring that bell. 12 years strong and, Lord willing, a lifetime to go.
Waat!!you've been faithful 12 years?you must know Jesus!!
PRICELESS MY BROTHA...UR QUEEN GOTTA GOOD ONE!!! BLESSINGS!!
@@njerilucy2769It can happen...I know a couple together over 20 yrs..he's never stepped out. It's like knowing a unicorn
Amen! 🙏🏽
Cheers to you 🥂May you both continue to have a Blessed life❤
Facts... there is no erasing those actions.. they will stick with you forever... hurting someone like that isnt worth a few moments of lust 😥
Straight facts!
@@Hustlersnthehood why this man got a shocked drag queen face bro?
So true
Especially if you really love them. Once you break my trust I can't trust you no more and will leave you in the dust. I don't give second chances no more I know my worth and not accepting nothing below it. It's only up from here
It's a known fact that women have cheated more than men since the 70's🧐
As a man who’s ruined his family cheating, I promise you the regret stay with you for years and years. Don’t cheat. Either leave or seek help.
What's the difference bruh. If you cheat u still LEFT anyway? If u was who u thought u were to her, then she would've forgave u over time & u would still get her back! Some of y'all need to face the fact that u were just not that great of a loss to her! 🤷🏾♂️
@@moneymarr
Don't reflect your own inner depravities on this man who has empathy, the ability to reflect and obviously is able to hold himself accountable. You could learn from him, he already faced his facts. Meanwhile you go on to call every woman a poser for not taking you back after cheating.
If my husband ever cheats on me that means he is able to disrespect me at the highest level. I would leave him as the trust would be irreversibly broken and I obviously misjudged who he is. It would break me but that's what it would have to be to retain my peace.
If you leave your family, you ruin it, no matter the reason. The whole point is to save your family.
@@moneymarr nor should he have been any loss to her. If she did have any insecurities that he may not be loyal and faithful to her, didnt he prove her correct? Men entitle themselves to disrespecting & hurting us and being received back. Deeply believing you don’t have to be fair. Let a woman step out on her husband first then the conversation shifts and changes significantly. Hypocrisy. If your wife is of genuine value to you, then you wouldn’t have willingly taken part in anything that could bring you to lose her. She saw she was of no loss to HIM & honored herself enough not to pretend she didn’t. Every woman should leave the 1st time, or if she stays go and be with the man that’s been tempting her while she was faithful. Then reconcile. A fair exchange is no robbery.
If the show was in the other foot and she cheated on you in a marriage would you forgive her
I never looked at him the same after he cheated, it was like he joined my enemies to destroy me. I hope he enjoyed what he achieved, a self demoted King .
This
You to invested in people you don't know
@@shoreshot1212hey genius, she is talking about her own life. Learn to read
@@shoreshot1212 you could know them through and through yet they still cheat. I’ve heard love defined as giving someone the power to hurt you and hoping they won’t.
Unless you treated him like a king, either he wouldn't have cheated or he did himself a favor "ruining it" with you.
Real manhood requires accountability
"Real manhood requires accountability". Good. Now what does "Real Femininity" require?
Adulthood.. Not just MANhood
sheeewww you said a mouthful right there.
Amen...accountability!!!
@@bmanrrrrr this was about men and you tried to make it about women, that’s exactly what we’re talking about. No accountability.
This is a powerful conversation. People don't understand the toil takes on your soul. You will not walk away clean.
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My son's father broke our family with repeated infidelity. I see a change in him, but I don't trust him and I can't look at him without a level of pain and resentment because of how much he hurt me. He keeps saying he just wants his family back the way it was, but it can never go back. I honestly enjoy the peace of co-parenting and I hope he finds someone he feels deserves his love without being traumatized first.
I couldn't stay, God says trust no man. Once it's done, it's over.
Never ever go back. I did that; it only got worse. I'm 65 and my family is literally dieing and destroyed because of my trying to save their father and our marriage. It's so too late now. I regret every single day.
That's a low IQ man, high IQ men will recognise a loyal woman is everything.
@@paulahayes428 Sorry to hear and the older a man gets, the more (let me see if I still got it) theory GETS WORSE.
I'd rather be alone and not be with anyone, therefore no lies will be told to me, only to find out later on that the person that I was committed to wasn't committed. Pfft.
If you see change in him … he might be really sorry and realizes it’s not worth it. Coming from a. Cheater we just need the wake up call … give that man a chance.
Accountability Is EVERYTHING. ✨
For the first time, I can feel sincerity from hearing this man speak.
Listen to him more. He usually is sincere about when he speaks
Welcome to BLACK MALE COSMOPOLITAN
@@tomare64799
Watch the breakfast club from the past few years. He won't even engage in certain conversations anymore with the women guests, or look at them if they start tweaking or doing anything of the matter. He turns his head. Looks like he's definitely changed
@@ladylady8745 for one this is bullshit you can be a great man but if she not a great woman none of this shit means anything he just making shit sounds good good men get played all the time even if they committed this is all bullshit
my dad still regrets it 29 years and 2 marriages later. i can feel the pain when i talk to him. Deep regret, every moment it looks like he wants to cry 😢
Damn!!!
Your Dad is in my prayers. Has your mom forgiven him? I hope you can help to restore your father rights as a forgiven man and love him with forgiveness. We all fall period.
@@dawnfussell9240 would you please explain father's rights. I never heard it put that way. Thanks
@mocha6767 to help your Dad he is still a man.. Even though he hurt your mom he is still a man that's his right to be respected as... I hope that makes sense for you
He lost time and precious moments with you. It is a hard thing.
The real problem is there's so many people not being honest with themselves and others. If you're a man/woman that knows that you want casual sex or to just have fun with nothing serious then BE HONEST about it. When you meet people say that shit straight up and if they're cool then cool. But don't tell somebody you love them, then get in a serious relationship or get married AND THEN sleep around because you'll break somebody's heart. Shit is crazy smh
Plenty of men are honest about when they just want to be casual. They stalky it’s a woman’s ego, that thinks they can change the man
Damn right. There is nothing better on this planet than having a strong family that believes in you. Nothing
I’m so glad he is talking about this. Black men need to be encourage to be monogamous. To be faithful. Honest.
“Need?” 👂🏾
Yeah I agree and black women also.
Stop No We Don’t.. 9 Outta 10 Don’t Deserve It And Will Use And Abuse.. Prove Yo Self.. Other Wise Fuck These Hoes..
Ugh all races of men need to learn this not just black men 🙄
Yup bc the Dads and Uncles and older cousins screw up their relationships telling them get as many girls as they can..
I’m glad somebody finally said it. It’s ok to live right.😊
Right.
You're listening to a man that also sleeps with other MEN instead of just other women! So relax on crowning him Shakespeare Jr! 🤦🏾♂️
The mere design was for your best interest if and ONLY IF you commit to making it work. But it gotta be WORKED AT.
💯 I can tell you that it’s the truth. Yea I’m happy and my family taken care of and we in a good place a couple years later but it eats me alive. I’m 💯 a different person now. Family first man family first. Love your kids love your wife, it’s all you’ll have at the end.
People need this type of advice
It's so true. I have lived that life. And I wasn't a good husband. I regret it ALL
Takes a man to admit his faults. There are comments where even if thus man spoke this truth, still try to blame the person they cheated on. Accountability is key. Props to you for that.
Not one of us is WITHOUT fault!! You're growing though. You've learned because you're admitting it. I pray that your next relationship is full of the most love and blessings
It means more when the man takes accountability and takes action with word forever constant reassurance
So good job for admitting it at least instead of ignoring your mistakes doesn’t make you a bad person just do better moving forward
Exactly. A real man doesn't put his family in jeopardy.
Not on purpose.
We re all human
Bc she’ll do it lol
@@joshuamitchell4343 naw, no woman is going put her family in danger....that a male thing. If she got a real man, trust no woman is doing that
@@pauletteducksworth7062 tell Eve that! ask Adam how they went . Men love unconditionally woman love conditionally. Woman ruining families is something that’s well documented ( even in todays court system its prevalent ).
@@joshuamitchell4343 bro this is 2023 no excuses...
This is a wonderful conversation. More men should have it! I wholeheartedly agree
This topic is maturity and progress.keep it up great people heal heal heal🎉🎉🎉🎉
These are the lessons that need to be taught in black communities because there is a underlying restraint from us building successful families, generation after generation.
Well said!! More of this and less of the purposely orchestrated gender war.
I blame that on the poisonous music that infiltrates our communities brainwashing and controlling.
Are you responsible and accountable for your actions and should be? Of course,but we also share the world with *INFLUENCE*
💯🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥 Praying for us as a people 🙏
Naw. Y’all never gon learn. Don’t matter what y’all taught
@@marcelljackson6940 Speak for yourself.
First time I EVER agree with something this fool says. 👏🏼
I was just about to say this 😆 👏🏽
Cuz this is real life. He not on the radio
SOme of us know how to separate the entertainment of radio personalities and real life. Some of us udnerstand the difference between a character being portrayed on radio and the actual real human being.
@@sylviafoster7450 see his reply
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Trust is hard to get and so easy to lose!
Preach 😊
The Word says: Men, treat your wives with consideration, so nothing can be an obstacle to your prayers. That's why my husband stay winning. Because he treats me like gold. God will continue to bless him.
"when you hurt me you only hurt yourself". This is the best thing this man ever said.
This is the conversation we don’t have enough as black men. But when you make the change it truly makes a huge difference in your life as well as your family.
You’re so right sir 👍🏽
very true. and I love when grown men hold other grown men accountable
Amen ❤
Charlamagne said before that he’s been unfaithful to his wife, and couldn’t stand himself for it. He’s the perfect person with the perfect ethos to talk about this
Smh. Real shhh. Still have a hole in my heart. Wish I knew better. Miss the love of my life.
❤❤❤❤❤
Such truth. My dad regrets cheating and losing my mom.
Charlemagne is so right infidelity derails many men that were often raised with a flawed concept of manhood. So wise to build with a wife.
This right here is so powerful and deep!
Some of the deepest words I’ve heard in a while!!!! New respect!
Right ❤
This is so true, I have always said and noticed that couples who are faithful and devoted to one another, God really bless those families in every area of their lives. You connect on a spiritual level and believe me there is Nothing better than that. God bless
Very true
Speak on it cause many brothers are afraid to state the facts
Most of these women out here today ain't worth a monogamous relationship. Ijs stay single brothers.
@@OneRJRhodes I feel you, the same can be said for the some of these men. But good PEOPLE with good intentions are hard to find in this world full of anger, vengeance and trauma. All I can say is become proactive in protecting your energy and spaces. Go to places where there are others who share your interests, only keep company that keeps you in good spirit, and never compromise your integrity. Stay true to who you are and what you like as a whole. And maybe another “Whole” individual will feel right at home in your presence. That’s true harmony in a relationship. I hope you experience that connection with someone in this lifetime 😊. Be blessed.
@@OneRJRhodes See, that comment right there is indeed part of the problem. Negative people will continue to attract negative energy. Good, stay single. Hopefully good women will avoid Fearful Fred.
The last Christmas with my Dad, I was telling a story of a time when he was drunk and spent the night with another woman. The way he told it was so funny; so since he was battling cancer, I told the story. He got quite and then said: " I thought being a man meant having a lot of women, but I've learned a real man loves his wife, children and takes care of his family." It was a very sobering moment and provided insight and I'm a woman. My Mom was a super hero for dealing with his foolery. I love them for being great parents and keeping us together. I now know that must have been hard because they grew up together! Literally.
He is absolutely right, take it from a wife that was cheated on, we had everything, we built a successful business, children, family, friends then he let the money we were making go to his head, the money just brought who he was all along. I have been so blessed after that because I know I was a good wife to him.
A lot of my friends are this way. You become what you surround yourself with.
I realized that after being an idiot for 20+ years as a young man.
Cheating is weak if you say you’re committed, then turn your back on the person your closest to in the world just for superficial pleasure, you’re a coward.
Love and family is the thing that brings the most pleasure in life not some girl in pain that needs your attention to distract herself from the pain for 15 minutes, but men are stupid, cute face and a fat butt, they’ll throw their family away.
Some women are strong and you mess up once, that’s it. You might not be living with your kids anymore just because you were weak.
20+ wym so u stop in ur 20s? Nah prolly 40s
@@Tyrellshannon18 Everything he just said and THAT’S what you take from it?
Question is why don’t woman take accountability on why a man is feeling a certain way from actions of their choosing… what happens then
We all have weaknesses. Let’s not kid ourselves: there is a reason that many cultures allow men to have many wives, but not the other way around. Women are very often ok with it provided you can make up for it in other ways.
@@Tyrellshannon18 yes, stopped being ignorant in my late 20’s
One of the few times I can whole heartedly agree with Charlemagne. Ruined my family and career over some BS almost 30 years ago and still regret it today.
That's powerful you can recognize and admit it 👑 I pray you (and anyone you hurt) are able to find healing. 🙏🏾
Nigga get over that shit
Ik u think about how shit would be if u didn’t fuck up
We all make mistakes
@@marcellburton9349 the key is to learn from it and not do it again.
charlemagne was raised in the truth so what he "learned", he already knew...He just had to find out for himself the hard way after almost breaking the person he took vows to love n protect
Bless you for realizing and telling others.
Facts i cheated before but when I got married and I cheated while married that shit hit different and really make you rethink life in general..til this date it hurt I did that to my wife but I told her the truth and since than I haven't been the same because I realize exactly what Charlemagne is saying 100%truth
Why did you cheat on your wife
@@kitejohnson515 He was only thinking about himself.
@Presencce love Jones he was just a jerk off has nothing to do with his wife.
Facts from a Guilty Person as myself 🙏🏾
Lol u lame
Group talks like this need to be readily available for men of all ages. Not a day i dont regret my past actions......
There is... It's called JAIL! Learn how to cheat better & NOT get caught & you won't have all that goofy regret! 🤷🏾♂️
This is the realist sh*t I've ever heard Charlemagne say!💯
This shit so real I can't even listen ❤️💪💯
I’m with Charla when he’s right. Fellas. Treat your lady right while she’s here. I wish I could fix some of the things I did, now I’m a single father trying to figure things out while raising 2 girls with some regret of things I did during my marriage! RIP Wifey I miss you
Bless you, man, that big of you to admit that
Wrong. It’s not natural to be sexually exclusive with a woman. Society got you boy
It’s not your job to raise them girls. Let whoever starts piping them play daddy. Best of luck bro🫶
@@marcelljackson6940 tf!
@@natashatumie7566 I keep it real Mrs. Puff
He that loves his wife loves himself. No man wants to hurt HIMSELF..
If men aren't doing this, maybe the issue is within you and not the woman.
Grown man.....that's what I'm saying. This is what woman will submit to. Thank you
When a man is respecting himself.....
He can be respectful to his wife.❤❤❤
His growth has been miraculous. Went from hating the persona to listening to this man's morning show regularly and actually appreciating his contributions.
😂😂😂 Same here, me, too. Proud of CTG.
Watching my father live with the regret of leaving our family for another woman is heartbreaking. No matter how many times I tell him I forgive him and it’s been decades he can’t let go of the damage he did. His relationship with the new woman failed and my sister became a teen mom and my mom had a another baby that I know he wishes with all his heart was his bio child. 😢
Do right ,Give your hearts to the Lord Jesus Christ he can keep you ,
My dad talked about my mom until he passed. Regreting cheating.😪
karma
My father left my mother for his mistress he had for 20 years, he told my mother to get life insurance because he is not going to bury her! He was right he buried his wife who died from cancers about 5 years after he left my mother. My mother became a single woman again after 25 years of marriage, no education, no real job skills. and scared to death. Its was rough but she still alive a well, just retired at 85 she is still single! Relationship can be traumatizing! I pray you dad finds peace and find love again! I hope your mom is happy!
Man this hits home. Wish it had someone talk to me before making some of the biggest mistakes of my life.
You hit rock bottom and become the best version of yourself.
Learn your lessons, and now you know what you need to do.
@@sssssssss111Yeah I’d like to think that…..
@@otiliamanuelajurjYeah I hope God can guide me in the right direction.
I love this testimony. God's continued blessings to you and your wife.
When that level of devotion is reciprocated... I can't imagine a better life than that
It's called Maturity and being at Peace!!❤❤
Exactly!!!
Accountability and the ability to self reflect is what is really lacking in todays society.
This is why im so faithful... i love to love... i love being commited and i believe in the growth of a union... i never met a man who felt i was worth anything other than a place holder but i still love despite it all... i may never have romance but i will always welcome love and faithfulness and pour it into everyone i encounter.. i try to give the best of me to the world... although im not perfect my intentions are rooted in love and i try to make everyone feel that
I cheated and left a woman that was for me and only me.. that sht still haunts me. My life hasn't been the same ever since. I'm fortunate to have a second chance with another woman and I promise, I will not let that happen again. 💯
You broke yourself and her. Cheating hurts two people
Karma is a bitch damn...
Yep I've seen this play out, you're so right
Good talk my brother, men sometimes talk as if women are not horny too , women respect their integrity their families commitment to excel in life.
I applaud Charlamagne for speaking this truth. He is saying something that many men need to hear. I commend him to be man enough to put that message out there. Much love❤
First time he ever said anything that seemed genuine and touching.
Most intelligent thing this man has ever said; period.
Where did this world go wrong. I never understood being unfaithful. Be real, or own it. Much ❤️ respect brotha
Unfortunately some people learn far too late that by hurting others we also hurt ourselves, especially when those others mean so much to us.
A man that understands biblical principles ❤
It’s beautiful to see the growth in Charlemagne. I’m so proud of him.
Me too!! I'm appalled.
Real men having a real conversation about something that's important this is what some men need everyday peace and blessings Brother Bruce
This is refreshing to hear brothers like these trying hard to teach men to be good men . Understanding that if they didn’t have someone to set a great example they can make a difference starting now.
All men need to listen to this
Woman do as well
@@RickHTown you right that shoe fits on both feet for sure
My husband messed up at one point while we were dating in college. He broke the bank getting counseling for us and himself. Although he is a changed man he still to this day feels a deep remorse and regret for what he put me through and it shows through his transparency, communication, efforts, maturity etc.
It’s black men getting counseling for me. After the infidelity we each went to personal counseling and marriage counseling. He could have said I did t do anything wrong or he could’ve refused counseling but he knew something was wrong. And honestly we all have some sort of ptsd that weighs on the decisions we make. We just have to hold ourselves accountable.
Straight up...commitment is a must to your companion. 💯
One of the most powerfully shorts I have seen is this right here. Speak truth and teach it to each other!
It hurts, even 12 years later
Infidelity? 🤔
Thats a whole fact once i left the streets bars,clubs,etc and decided to focus on my lady and kids my lifes elevated fast everything started going good for me before it was nothing but stress and always broke
"Left the streets, bars n club," naw couldn't be me....stay in the streets.
Keep having these conversations brothas 🙏🏾 you deserve it.
Man.. this cuts deep.. I’ve fkt up and have never been the same…
Man up already bruh...You made a choice now live with it! Move on & do better.
Different kind of hurt when you look into your lady eyes and see the pain you caused from your lies…
Y'all dudes is charmin soft out here now....Damn! Smh. You look her in her face & say it wasn't me & move tf on! Make it her choice to either believe u or not. If she's the one accusing u, then the burden of proof is on her! Make her show u, but u NEVER voluntarily admit to a damn thing! 😫🤦🏾♂️
@@moneymarr I guess this is coming from a man who isn’t apologetic for anything or wants to be hold accountable.
@@moneymarr😢wow terrible.
@@pamelarichardson6124narcissistic 😢
@@moneymarrDisgusting. Keep on and it will fall off by itself.
This is sad and beautiful all at once
The first time I've ever seen Charlemagne say something worthwhile
Financially! Men don’t realize how unfaithfulness affects ya bag, if you’re not disciplined in one area it will loosen your wallet.
I learned this lesson the hard way, but I learned it young so it’s helped me tremendously. Cheating is so stupid, I hate that I was “that dude”. The day I realized that was the day karma came back and got me with the first one I actually cared about 😂😂😂. I took it as karma and moved on and bettered myself in every way. It’s changed my perspective to the point where I’ve learned so much about myself as a person. Just because you can do something doesn’t mean you should, but that becomes easier when you find someone you truly care about. Temptation is always going to be there, especially being a young man with something going for yourself. Stay strong my brothers💪🏽
The truth is spoken x100
My grandfather fought for 10 years to get his family back. They spent 60 years together. He said in the years before he passed, "had I truly listened to your grandmother, we'd own half of Fort Lauderdale now". 🤦🏾♀️
I’m already on track breaking the cycle one wife and have kids by the same woman we locked in forever
May God bless your union🙏
This is very motivated not just for men but for women, too. Love and respect for yourself will make you treat other the same way you treat yourself.
#word
Thank you, thank you, thank you for confirming my experience. When each spouse SHUTS the door to the possibility of even being with someone other than their spouse, you open up another world that few couples ever experience! And it's beautiful. Try it.
We need more grown man talk like this in the world.
This truly touched me down in my soul. Tears filling my eyes as I type. Charlamagne - May the Lord keep you and protect you all the days of your life .
Fidelity is a choice that builds upon itself.
Infidelity is not just physical. It's financial and emotional as well. None of them are acceptable!
These are the conversations men need to be having 😍
This is powerful and motivational
Facts. Cheating is a deep character flaw and it will not change until you have the courage to do so. Only the weak cheat.
Bullshit your no obligated to anyone other countries you can have many wives and husbands. Western thinking
I'm sorry you have been cheated on
Believe in God humans disapoint.
@@MrNewminds that's fine. But we still have to live amongst humans. And anyway, I prefer to take on the responsibility of being that trustworthy person so that someone doesn't have to lose complete hope in humanity and rely solely on God. Also, I was raised a Catholic and God disappointed me endlessly.
Your woman will always cheat